#fat life

[madlori]

Do you have any advice for traveling as a fat woman? I'm going to Thailand in a few months and I'm a little nervous.

Hi, sorry it took me a day or so to answer this, I've been thinking about it.

I'm going to answer you first emotionally, and second practically.

I understand being nervous, especially if you're not a frequent traveler (I'm inferring that you're not)! But the first thing I want you to try and internalize is that you have the right to travel. Fat or thin, you deserve to experience other places and different cultures. You have the right to take up space. You are a human being occupying the body you have and that body gets to go places like everybody else.

You say you're nervous...are you nervous that people may react badly to you? Or are you nervous about the practicalities of traveling?

If it's the first...well, they might. That's none of your business. Other people's feelings aren't yours to manage, nor are they your responsibility. I'm also gonna say this, and I don't mean it in a victim-blamey way, but we inform others how to treat us by how we enter the world. That doesn't make us responsible for how others treat us, but sometimes we can give off signals or body language that we are ashamed, we are small...we are targets. (This applies to all people, incidentally, not just fat people) Going into the world with confidence and self-respect is surprisingly effective at getting people to treat you well. It's easier said than done, I know. But having confidence is the very definition of "fake it till you make it" because the only way to acquire it is to just...pretend you have it until it isn't pretend anymore.

ANYWAY.

There are practical aspects to traveling while fat, the largest of which is usually airplane seats. The easiest way to get around this is to travel first class which is not an option for a lot of people but it may be more of an option than you think. Check in for your flight as early as humanly possible. I fly United so I don't know how it is for other airlines, but when I check in on the app, they always notify me if there are upgrades available, usually at a much lower price than if you'd bought in first class outright. I've flown first class for an extra couple hundred bucks (on a long flight that can be well worth it).

The other thing fat people worry about is the seat belts. Not gonna lie - sometimes they fit me fine and sometimes not. It varies from aircraft to aircraft. I always carry a seat-belt extender with me in my personal item. You can get one on Amazon. Seat belts on planes are universal. Caveat: the ones you can buy are not FAA approved and I've been told that flight attendants sometimes take them - I have never had this problem. I use mine on about 50% of the flights I take.

Alternatively, as you board the plane, you can discreetly say to the attendant "I'm in [seat] and I'll need a belt extender." They have them for passenger use and they are super nice about it.

Anyway I hope all that helps? Please write again if you have other thoughts.

[fatteningblog]

I bet that lot of people will...

I bet lot of people will agree for eat-sleep-gain-eat-sleep-gain lifestyle if all expenses would be covered. And I am talking not about getting just fat, like 400 lbs. I am talking about really extreme weight gain, like 1000 lbs and more as "newbie gain course".

Single restriction is that radically overeat and sleep is all you would do. Literally. With eventual switch to mix of tube feeding, to make possible fattening you up even when you sleep.

Much more people would agree for that, than many think. Partly because for many this would be choice like need to work vs requirement for extreme overeating and sleep between food.

Like, getting fat as a work, as a job without holidays or vacations.

In this case you essentially don't need money paid for this job, because if all you do is overeat and sleep between then you actually don't have activities or time to spend some money.

PS: later, revisiting this post, I come to conclusion that more likely among single/alone people who would agree for that kind of "getting fatter as a job" life. Because if you have some relationship, people may disagree for that because they already settled into some context of being, and have some satisfaction from that relationship which can break apart from such choice to move/relocate to that "personal fat factory".

[living400lbs]

Focusing on improving someone’s actual health rather than focusing on weight is actually health promoting. We already covered HAES in chapter three, so as a recap, recall that using a weight-centric approach only contributes to food and body preoccupation, weight cycling, a decrease in self-esteem, and eating disorders. Respecting your body also includes eating for well-being, which incorporates an individualized approach based on hunger, nutritional needs, pleasure, and satiety. Physical activity means finding ways to move that you truly enjoy. These are ways we can respect ourselves, because no matter what, our bodies deserve nourishment.

- from Live Nourished by Shana Minei Spence

[tobeabatman]

if you are in BED recovery and are making being fat a part of your identity then sorry you’re gonna fail unless you change your mindset. same as anorexics and bulimics making superskinny their personality. you are just enabling yourself and giving yourself an out for the failure you are setting yourself up for. fat activism will not care when you die like how proana doesnt care when anorexics die as long as they have ways to continue their selfdestructive behavior while others with the same issues cheer them on.

TW: Eating disorder talk. Mainly BED, but anorexia and bulimia as well.

You don’t know anything about binge eating disorder, bulimia, or being fat then.

With anorexia, disorted body image is literally a part of their diagnostic criteria. This is not the case with BED, aka binge eating disorder.

BED has no weight or appearance based diagnostic criteria. You can be at any weight and have BED. BED’s diagnostic criteria also doesn’t include anything stating that people with BED want to get very fat, like seriously…

BED is not a condition opposite of anorexia where we are obsessed with putting on weight. BED is the most common eating disorder (about 50% of all ED cases), so if that was true, we’d most likely have multiple fear-mongering documentaries and news stories made out of us already, and everyone would know about BED (at the moment they don’t).

The fact that you’re even seperating BED and bulimia as if our ED’s were absolutely different, is stupid. Both us people with BED and people with bulimia experience binging. The difference is that people with bulimia purge.

And the fact that people with BED don’t purge doesn’t mean that people with bulimia want to be super skinny and people with BED want to be super fat… Many people with bulimia are fat and many people with BED are skinny, news flash. Purging doesn’t automatically make you skinny, and neither does binging automatically make you fat. Someone’s BED can turn into bulimia and vice versa.

Now, I wanna clear up why fat activism is actually good for my BED:

People with BED often feel like they lack control. This is what commonly drives binging, according to many mental health professionals. We are out of control with our eating, and our bodies.

The feeling of lack of control is amplified in a fatphobic society. A lot of models actually get BED, not anorexia, because they feel out of control with their bodies (which leads to binging).

Telling myself that it’s okay if I get fatter when binging, actually helps me with my binging. I don’t feel as much shame afterwards (disgust, depression or guilt after binging is a diagnostic criteria for BED), when I feel like my body changing doesn’t matter.

This means that I’m less likely to experience binging as soon as I would otherwise, if I did feel more shame. (And this is actually how BED commonly works: shame triggers more binges. I doubt that you knew that).

And my binges getting further in between and my shame lessening, means that I have a better chance of recovery.

I mean, what do you think my dietitian and psychologist would encourage me to do? Feel deep shame with my body after binging, so that I would recover from a guilt-based eating disorder?

I would encourage fat activism to people with anorexia as well. It’s harder to hate your body for its size, when you realize all the lies there are surrounding fat bodies. And being angry at fatphobia helps with feeling out of control.

Although I understand that recovery and mindset change doesn’t happen overnight. I still have internalized fatphobia, and I’m still in BED recovery. I get it.

Anyway, I feel like this person watched a little bit too much of My 600lb Life, realized that those participants most likely had BED, and then went off to make this whole weird twisted story in their head about how BED works…

Watch my XL-sized body die tonight✌️ /s.

Tl;dr:

BED is not anorexia but opposite. Bulimia is pretty close to BED. Fat people with BED feel shame about their bodies, which triggers more binging. Fat activism helps me reduce feelings of shame and guilt, which helps me prevent more binging. Stuff like My 600-lb Life does not give its viewers an accurate representation of how BED works, because the show is not even focused on BED. It’s reality TV: the whole purpose is to show some people in absurd light so that you can feel better about yourself (whether those people are hoarders or very fat people, etc.).

There is no weight-based criteria for BED: people with BED can be skinny. A lot of models experience BED instead of anorexia, because a lack of control in their bodies can lead to binging (without purging). I’m not going to die from BED because I’m a fat activist: BED isn’t even as deadly as anorexia.

[turtle-toe]

My experience with and opinion on fat acceptance

I am currently 16 years old and 5'6, 169 pounds. I need to tell my story.

I've been fat or chubbier my entire life due to poor eating habits taught to me early on. "Oh, you want thirds on that giant plate of yours? Sure, go right ahead." But I never really noticed until about 5th grade and really got self conscious in 6th grade. But, I was healthy. I'd say I was around 5'3 and 155-160 pounds. I moved around a lot, I was running with no thought about breath control every day at recess. But I still sucked in my guy and wore giant shirts so no one could see the shape of my body. Then, Covid hit.

I gained what i thought was so much weight during lockdown, as everyone else did too, as well as my oh so quirky mental illnesses. I was at 168 and it made me feel horrible. But not in the health way but the outer appearance way. Then I discovered fat acceptance.

I went from sucking in my gut to being sucked into a harmful mindset that I cannot change but that's okay.

Now, I have to give the movement credit where it's due; it both positively and negatively affected me. The negative part was that i gained about 20 pounds. I got to 180. The positive was that I gained confidence that I desperately needed. I started to not care as much about what I thought people would think, I started to wear more form fitting clothes, I started to even wear two piece swimsuits. But that 20 pounds felt absolutely horrible. And after about two years in the fat acceptance movement, I finally got out of it.

I finally stopped blaming everyone else, either for not being "fat positive" or for being the ones who made me fat. I finally stopped thinking the "naturally" skinny girls were my worst enemy. I finally stopped blaming my genetics. I finally realized just how much I was grossly overeating. I finally saw just how bad I was and how the path I was taking would've lead me to major health problems and an unhappy life filled with resentment and bitterness.

So I took that confidence given to me by the movement and I used it to better myself. After many ups and downs, I managed to get down to 162. I've gained 7 pounds back but I'm trying my best to be consistent. And this health journey started because I wanted to be healthier and just feel better, mostly because I wanted to justify it because I thought that it was wrong of me to want to lose weight to look a certain way. But honestly, fuck that. I don't care if it's fat phobic of me to want my own body to be smaller. So, health is a priority for me but I will be damned if I don't start looking the way I want.

And I tagged this with so many of these fat acceptance tags because I know for damn sure that I would've needed this post three years ago. To hear how it affected someone close to my age. So to anyone who is feeling like shit because you feel as though you can't lose weight or you don't feel as pretty as others; you can do this. You're absolutely gorgeous and handsome and pretty and interesting no matter how you look. But please, please, please don't take to the fat acceptance movement as a way go block out and ignore your insecurities. It doesn't work, it will only get worse. I lost those 17 pounds just by eating a few more vegetables and very inconsistent exercise. I realize everyone is different but it's way easier than you think it is.

Please, y'all, take care of yourselves.

[fictional-whore-06]

congrats on doing a thing today! is it something you'd like to talk about?

Hi! Thank you! I'd love to talk about!

I started learning how to skateboard! I had bought an electric long board to help me get outside and get some more exercise. And even though it's electric and moves forward on its own, its still take some skill to learn. And today I started learning! I got all the way to turning without assistance. Tho it's still hard to get up on it without holding on to something.

I am very proud of myself for starting!

[fatteningblog]

fat life hack

Difficulty: easy

Requirements: have a potbelly or larger belly.

If you got into yet another hotel with too low table(s) in the room and got ordered food delivery to room, you can take the current plate you eating from with one hand, and sorta "put" it on or stuck to the top part of your protruding belly.

[momo-piggy]

I LOVE HOW A SIX MONTHS CAN BLOW ME UP COMPLETELY 🐷🐷🐷😍🤤🤤

[bigcutiebonnie]

I took the last 10 boxes of mince pies from the shop today, much to the anger of the person behind me. I heard them say, that's the last thing she needs🤣🤣

[healing-food]

Things I've learned since starting my intuitive eating journey

There's no point in trying to "look" healthy, simply be as healthy as I can be, simply be

I am always worthy of food, and worthy of enjoying food

I will still sometimes binge or have the urges to binge, but I now have ways to work through it

Even if I eat no bread and I only eat salads and work out every day, I will still be fat, it won't magically make me lose weight

No food is inherently bad! Even too many veggies can have a negative impact, so if ya want a pop today, just enjoy it

Carbs! Are! Good for you!!!!!!

You have to follow what makes your body feels good with, not just your brain. A daily energy drink may be tempting, but maybe if you're thirsty you just want water.

There's no point in forcing yourself to eat something you hate. What's the point of eating if you're nigh throwing up the whole time?

And before anyone has any assumptions

I am fat. I had to stop shopping at my once favourite store because they had nothing beyond an xl and even that fit quite small. I have a 112cm (44in) waist, 136cm (53.5in) hip, and a 123cm (48in) chest measurement

[heavycupcakes]

Eating good food literally fills me with so much joy. It's actual ecstasy to eat something delicious and enjoy the taste of every bite 🥵

[the-one-who-died-at-the-end]

So I'm fat, I've been fat for all my life, and do I love my body? MEH, I mean I don't hate it but I'm kinda neutral about it. Anyway, Being on my fifth journey to try and slim out because people are stressing me out, the paranoia about my body came back. (insert distopian smiley dance)

This morning I went shopping for sport bras and I was CONVINCED I was gonna hate it and start a spiral of self loathing that would end up with me a spoon and a jar of Nutella, but that... Didn't... Happen?

Like THIS THINGS ARE SO FLUTTERING OH MY GOD.

I literally feel like a goddes what's happening???

What is this fuckery??!!

[wasabi-gumdrop]

local ladies man’s signature move totally useless against autistic monster enthusiast. more on Kabru’s fumble era at 6

[momo-piggy]

GLUTTONOUS 🐷. HELP ME FATTEN UP MORE 🤤

[justme1806]

16 Oct 2024

Another day where I had to think about what others are thinking about me.

I know I am someone whom people will judge before even knowing me. I know many may not even try to talk to me because of my appearance. Trust me I do want to change but I am also afraid of the change. I can't explain what kind of fear I have about changing myself, I just have it. I am afraid of them looking at me with a different eye. I love being the cause of others smiles and laughs in a positive way, I mean I am funny and people who are close to me, they love me but it's just something that I am just scared off and i don't even know what the hell is the thing is!!!

[mochisquish]

Thank you, Snoop Logg...