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Freeform fat activist post

Did you know that weight discrimination has increased by 66 % during the last decade and is one of the only forms of discrimination actively condoned by society? (From Adressing weight stigma and fatphobia in public health by Amanda Montgomery, RD, LDN, at publichealth.uic.edu)

And it’s like, it makes me so mad. It makes me so angry to see a bunch of thin people spreading bs without our fat people’s opinions, worsening the social conditions of people like me. It makes me mad that the first time I experienced medical fatphobia was at age 7. It makes me mad that it feels like there’s nothing I can do.

I can’t go to public transport without hearing casual fatphobia, I can’t study without hearing fatphobia, I can’t go online without seeing fatphobia, I can’t even film certain things online because of fatphobia.

I try escapism. I read a bunch of books: No fat characters, casual fatphobic comments.

I watch a bunch of videos on Youtube: Most fat creators are disencouraged from filming by either the algorithm or by viewers. The left-over thin creators casually act like fat people are lesser-than, when something triggers the topic of fat people.

I flinch, I wait, whenever a topic comes up that could possibly elicit fatphobia. The word ”lifestyle choices” makes my heart beat just a bit faster.

At school, I have to sit through an entire 115 minute lesson on how fat people should lose weight. I am the only ”obese” kid in class, there is one overweight person besides me.

I can’t look the teacher in the eye for the whole class. All my future lessons I sit in his class thinking, ”You don’t say it out loud, but I think you think of me differently than my thin classmates”.

I surround myself activism. Disability justice, anti-racism, feminism, -ism -ism. Justice is important to me.

..But I notice there’s no attention to people like me. Even though there’s so many different communities, fat people have a small and incomplete one. Even my leftist friends don’t note our struggles.

I continue my activism, but I’m getting more tired.

Someone lists different communities, says that medical bias is bad against those groups. I notice that mentioning fat people would fit right alongside those other communities. But I remember we’re invisible.

Another person says that confidence is sexy. I think it must be easy to see it that way if you’re not statistically more likely to have lower self-esteem.

Third person is concerned about my mental health for living in a fatphobic society. ”Who am I supposed to get help from?” I ask. Body-positive therapists are easy to find, but most of them don’t understand the pressure of living in a body hated by most.

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The future I want is where no one is oppressed. That includes fat people. Get rid of your ”what about” thinking, and realize that fat people are human too.

And if you’re fat, then you deserve none of the sh*t this world has manipulated you into thinking you deserve (until you change your body, of course). I know you most likely had super low self-esteem growing up, maybe you got bullied, maybe that bullying continued into your work life.

I wish I could say it gets better, that there’s light at the end of the tunnel. But for that, we need the help of everyone. Are you willing to help?

Thank you for reading.

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I hope that people don't forget about gaza once a ceasefire is reached. when the bombs stop falling, they will continue to need food, medicine, doctors, and supplies. the survivors will need aid urgently in the immediate aftermath. there are bodies to be counted, rubble to be cleared, fields to be tilled, buildings to be constructed. even as the people of gaza rebuild their lives, the trauma they've endured from this genocide will stay with them for generations. despite this, they will continue their fight for the liberation of all of palestine, as they always have been, and we must not forget them. the people of gaza will not be free until "israel" no longer exists, until all palestinians can live in their country free from subjugation, with equality and dignity. do not ever let the imperialists that funded and armed this genocide continue to spread lies about the palestinian people. do not ever let anyone forget that they tried to cover up and excuse this genocide at every turn. they will try to do it again. you must stand with the people of palestine forever.

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Aroace representation in The Other F Word: A Celebration Of The Fat And Fierce - book

This is the start page of Laina Spencer’s text in the book The Other F Word: A Celebration Of The Fat And Fierce (I absolutely love this book, it has texts from a lot of different writers and artists. There are more serious texts and then there are a little bit less serious texts).

As an ace person, I agree with Laina Spencer (she/they) as she talks about how fat-positive spaces are often s*x and romance focused and how asexual spaces aren’t automatically friendly to fat people (I’d say that the default is that they’re not friendly to fat people, period). I also get the thing they mention last about how there would be fewer creeps if their fatness was undesirable: I sometimes think that it’s glad I’m considered unattractive as a fat person if it keeps most creepy men away (of course this doesn’t outweight the negative social aspects of being fat).

Though Spencer does say that there’s more books with fat characters than ace characters or something along the lines. I mainly read online books and my idea of published books goes just about as far as the YA novel section in my local Finnish library does, and my view of the matter is a bit different.

I see a lot of ace characters online (Spencer does mention that a-spec characters seem to be especially thriving in indie books, and I agree), and the only good representation for fat characters I’ve seen has been in like 3 online comics. I haven’t read a published YA novel (and probably not really even an online novel even though I’ve consumed hundreds of them) with a well-represented young fat character yet— Maybe that’s because the catalogue at my local library is too small, or maybe that’s because I don’t read much YA anymore (and my memory of YA is based on what I read years ago). Anyway, what I know for sure is that the novels I read online include more ace characters than fat characters, and the physical books that I’ve read don’t really include fat characters either.

I’m saying this because I also want to add what I’ve observed on this matter as another fat ace person, I’m not mad that their view on the matter is different. And besides, publishing and online novels are two different distinct things.

Anyway, I have read some lovely other pieces from this book as well, but I wanted to highlight their work as I’m always happy to see other fat people who are ace too, and who understand the struggles of the asexual community not being inclusive of fat people, meanwhile fat activist (+body positivity) communities often center around the idea that all of us fat people are s*xual and need to empower ourselves s*xually (talking about stuff like how all fat bodies are hot, etc.).

I really recommend this book! :))

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This isn’t a strawman argument. Learn what strawman arguments are before you accuse someone of making them. A strawman argument would be one where someone argues e.g ”I love audio books” and someone else responds with ”So you hate reading books, then”. A strawman argument would require me to respond to someone else’s argument and manipulate it in a way that would be a misrepresentation of that person’s argument. I’m not doing that here.

(If by strawman you mean that you don’t like my comparison of trans people to fat people, then be my guest and refute my comparison if you have a better argument than just ”this is a strawman” when it’s not. Just mind you that I’m not cis. Anyway, I don’t blame you for confusing stuff with strawman arguments since a lot of people misuse the term. Just take this as educative: I like talking about logical fallacies.)

I won’t give a name-drop for the comic I was talking about just because I don’t want people to go and sh*t on the author, nor do I want any fans to sh*t on me. It’s not that I avoid saying names just because I don’t have any names to give. This comic specifically is published on Tapas and made by a pretty popular author. You might stumble upon it if you use Tapas.

To be fair, this type of r*pist stereotype (representing fat people as creeps) is way more common in queer er*tica (including comics and novels). But variations of the fatphobic creep stereotype are very pervasive in the mainstream, so of course it’s prevelant in all queer spaces and fiction as well (I remember another comic have also depicted old fat men as creepy, it just hasn’t been this extreme in any comics (excluding p*rn) that I’ve seen before( . E.g this Reddit post just makes me sad: https://www.reddit.com/r/PlusSize/comments/1f5eqm7/i_feel_like_a_creep/ .

None of this is exclusive to queer fiction. I’m just a fat queer person in queer spaces who’s tired of other minorities acting hypocritically biased towards us fat people, just because we’re not yet recognized as a minority. I also like to believe that other minorities have more empathy for change.

The fattie creep stereotype, aka authors be ashamed.

Tw: Mentions of r*pe + p*dophilia, short description of a fictional child getting k*dnapped by a p*dophile. Pretty extreme fatphobic comments.

At this point if you’re going to depict your p*dophile, s*x offender character as a fat person, you know what you’re doing. It’s not a coincidence that most of the time creepy men are depicted as fat in western novels and comics, when the author in question includes no other fat people in their stories.

And it baffles me because I strictly read queer romance. Like you authors can recognize queerphobia, but decide to turn a blind eye to another form of oppression (fatphobia)? Any of your readers would be disgusted if your creepy character was depicted as a trans woman, but suddenly it’s fine when the minority in question is fat people? (Do note that I’m not implying a creepy trans woman character is any more acceptable. It would be as gross.) Even though both fat men and trans women face a similar stereotypes that condemns both to be creepy p*dophilic r*pists?

I was reading a western comic earlier. In this comic a young child was k*dnapped by a fat creepy man. Here’s some comments from the comment section:

”Me, getting my guns and knives ready so I can k*ll that fat pig.”

”Get your fat*ss away from my baby.”

”Wtf this disgusting pig how dare you -”

”Just d*e p*dophile fatty.”

”F*cking fattie get away from my [character’s name].”

If you’re an author who makes a comic/novel that creates a safe environment for these horrible comments to arise, you should be ashamed of yourself. This was the only fat character in that person’s comic, and they oh just so happened to be fat? F*cking h*ll.

I know this is a rough topic, and I really hope that one day the sh*t we face as fat people gets better. It’s hard to keep hope knowing that fatphobia has gotten worse over the recent years, compared to other types of oppressions that have gotten better over the recent years. What we fat activists should focus on right now is empowering other fat people and finally getting recognized as a minority in the eyes of other marginalized groups. It’s not easy, but we can do it!

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The fattie creep stereotype, aka authors be ashamed.

Tw: Mentions of r*pe + p*dophilia, short description of a fictional child getting k*dnapped by a p*dophile. Pretty extreme fatphobic comments.

At this point if you’re going to depict your p*dophile, s*x offender character as a fat person, you know what you’re doing. It’s not a coincidence that most of the time creepy men are depicted as fat in western novels and comics, when the author in question includes no other fat people in their stories.

And it baffles me because I strictly read queer romance. Like you authors can recognize queerphobia, but decide to turn a blind eye to another form of oppression (fatphobia)? Any of your readers would be disgusted if your creepy character was depicted as a trans woman, but suddenly it’s fine when the minority in question is fat people? (Do note that I’m not implying a creepy trans woman character is any more acceptable. It would be as gross.) Even though both fat men and trans women face a similar stereotypes that condemns both to be creepy p*dophilic r*pists?

I was reading a western comic earlier. In this comic a young child was k*dnapped by a fat creepy man. Here’s some comments from the comment section:

”Me, getting my guns and knives ready so I can k*ll that fat pig.”

”Get your fat*ss away from my baby.”

”Wtf this disgusting pig how dare you -”

”Just d*e p*dophile fatty.”

”F*cking fattie get away from my [character’s name].”

If you’re an author who makes a comic/novel that creates a safe environment for these horrible comments to arise, you should be ashamed of yourself. This was the only fat character in that person’s comic, and they oh just so happened to be fat? F*cking h*ll.

I know this is a rough topic, and I really hope that one day the sh*t we face as fat people gets better. It’s hard to keep hope knowing that fatphobia has gotten worse over the recent years, compared to other types of oppressions that have gotten better over the recent years. What we fat activists should focus on right now is empowering other fat people and finally getting recognized as a minority in the eyes of other marginalized groups. It’s not easy, but we can do it!

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fatphobic propaganda

There’s this one video that was getting around at some point where a confident-looking female TikToker showed pictures of dead fat people, making the audience think that those dead fat people had all died recently due to fatness.

This video is very concerning because it’s a classic example of propaganda. The TikToker didn’t state that those people had died specifically due to fatness, nor did she state that those people had all died recently, back to back. She had made her audience assume that based on the format of the video.

As I checked out two of the fat people in the video (whose names were shown), I found out that the other one’s reason of death was never even publicized (she could have died from anything for all we can know) and the other person’s death happened 1-2 years after hers.

Now, these were just two people from the video, but the fact that the Tiktoker felt confident enough to show these two people’s names despite their deaths being at least a year apart (and despite the other person’s reason of death being unknown), tells me that it’s likely that the deaths of the rest of the people in the video weren’t close to each other either, and were probably also caused by other reasons than just being fat.

I could make a similar video featuring blonde influencers, and manipulate people into thinking that blonde influencers have a higher chance of dying than anyone else. Even if dead blonde influencers made up 1% of all blonde influencers, I could influence people to think that them dying is much more common than it actually is, by taking a small sample and by not showing influencers with any other hair color.

It’s very important to recognize this kind of brain f*ckery, not only because this is about fat people and tools of oppression that have been used throughout history to influence the masses, but also because stuff like this is very common when it comes to science, and especially line graphs.

It’s also very important to fact-check these sorts of videos when you see them. If the person can’t even show the names of the people they’re showing, you shouldn’t trust them regardless of whether they seem confident and charismatic. In fact, you shouldn’t trust anyone who is comfortable with showing images of dead people just to make a point, whether their point might be valid or not.

I’m talking about this because I saw one fat activist who was distressed due to this video, even though the person in the video was just spewing propaganda-like bs. I don’t know how many other people saw this video and felt distress over it, but I hope that this can make you all feel a bit more relieved.

Toodles!

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I’d just like to remind you that yes, it’s okay to question and reject obviously biased and badly conducted research on fat bodies.

You’re not a science denier for not liking research when its purpose is not to help you, but to make you seem inferior.

If we go 100 years back, all research on POC and women was conducted through a lense of bias. Research on fat people was similarly biased back then, but hasn’t changed for the better since.

And as you wouldn’t blame women claiming sexist research as biased and faulty, you shouldn’t blame fat people for pointing out fatphobia in research and claiming such research as biased and faulty.

Toodles!

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If you have any ideas of possible messages for fat-positive pins and stickers, I’d be very grateful if you wanted to share them!

Of course I have a long list of my own ideas as well, but I’d just like to know if you have any message you guys think would be important to get into a sticker/pin form so you can share them with the world.

If I ever start selling pins/stickers, they would have (pretty cheap) international shipping.

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It’s so wild to me that all research on fat people’s eating habits is like ”yeah, fat people eat more often and that’s what made them fat.”

This, alongside of all research on fat bodies, doesn’t take into consideration the fact that fat people face more bullying, are statistically more likely to have low self-esteem, more likely to be stressed, etc. We are predisposed to binge eating, compulsive eating and stress eating!

It’s not as simple as ”eating made someone fat”. Medical professionals, researchers, media, etc., forget that there’s never just one thing that attributes to our body’s features. No one’s getting fat just from eating, there are a ton of genetics and environmental factors (such as stress) involved!

Also ask any fat person you know and they’ll tell you that they’ve either been on a diet, are on a diet, or strongly thought about getting on a diet. This whole society is on a diet right now and no one’s eating as much as needed! Fat people might eat more than thin people, but do any of us eat enough? I’ve yet to see a research address this.

Also even if we fat people ate more than the ”normal amount”, then that warrants us to look into the biological differences between fat and thin bodies, and redefine what a ”normal amount” even is. We can’t starve fat people because society thinks it’s best if all of us are thin.

There’s like no research centered around biological differences between fat and thin bodies, that are actually working to make this world a better place for fat people.

Toodles!

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I heard that Finland’s getting our own fat activist/fat liberation organization called Läskisti, and I’m excited!

They don’t have a website or anything yet and just have an Instagram account with no content yet, so I’m crossing my fingers that the organization will become active (and stay active) at some point.

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Happy Pride Month! Here’s a fat LGBTQ+ reading list I’ve compiled! 🏳️‍🌈💜🏳️‍⚧️

Books

Fat and Queer: An Anthology of Queer and Trans Bodies and Lives edited by Bruce Owens Grimm, Miguel M. Morales, and Tiff Joshua TJ Ferentini

What We Don’t Talk about When We Talk about Fat by Aubrey Gordon

Fat Gay Men: Girth, Mirth, and the Politics of Stigma by Jason Whitesel

The Other F Word: A Celebration of the Fat & Fierce by Angie Manfredi

Nothing Is Okay Poems by Rachel Wiley

Catrachos by Roy G. Guzmán

Wow, No Thank You. Essays by Samantha Irby

Shapes of Native Nonfiction: Collected Essays by Contemporary Writers edited by Elissa Washuta and Theresa Warburton

Speaking Wiri Wiri by Dan Vera

Fiction

I’ll Be The One by Lyla Lee

Putting Makeup On The Fat Boy by Bil Wright

Soft On Soft by Em Ali

Faith: Taking Flight by Julie Murphy

If It Makes You Happy by Claire Kann

Here The Whole Time by Vitor Martins

Undead Girl Gang by Lily Anderson

Untouchable by Talia Hibbert

A Harvest Of Ripe Figs by Shira Glassman

Private Eye (The Spies Who Loved Her) by Katrina Jackson

Three romance/erotica novellas by Xan West:

Nine Of Swords, Reversed, Eight Kinky Nights: An F/f Chanukah Romance, Their Troublesome Crush

Xan’s work centers kinky, trans and non-binary, fat, disabled, queer trauma survivors. It leans more towards centering Jewish characters, ace and aro spec characters, autistic characters, and polyamorous networks.

Featured list from LGBTQ reads: Sapphic Plus-Size Protagonists!

The Summer of Jordi Perez by Amy Spalding

Leah on the Offbeat by Becky Albertalli

Bearly a Lady by Cassandra Khaw

The Seafarer’s Kiss by Julia Ember

Knit One, Girl Two by Shira Glassman

Final Draft by Riley Redgate

Articles

Being Queer When You're Fat, Femme and Gaysian by Mark Mariano

Black, Fat Queer Bodies: Receiving Pleasure And Demanding Respect by Darian

Cool People I Know: Fat Folks in Kink on Fashion, Femme, and Community by Shaan Lashun

CLAIMING MY NON-BINARY IDENTITY by Madeleine

How I Navigate Masculinity as a Fat Queer Woman by Hannah Schneider

Proudly Black, Fat, Queer and Making a Home for Myself in Cosplay by Briana Lawrence

Interview: Out Of The Closet With ‘Plus Size Trans Guy’, Shane Stinson by DapperQ

What it’s like being Fat, Queer, and Asexual by Michael Paramo

How Being Plus Size Affects Presenting As Non-Binary by Gina Tonic

I Am The Plus-size Transfemme You Stared At For Too Long. by Rori Porter

Mixed-Race, Non-Binary, Queer Fat Femme: How I Fail and Succeed in Finding Liberation by Cicely Blain

I’m Fat and Gay. Here’s What I’ve Learned. by Sean Bennett

What It’s Like to Be A Fat Black Queer Femme— With Cancer by Taylor Crumpt

A Brief History Of The Gay Bears And Big Boys Scene by Gay Star News

The Fat, Black, Femme, Queer Chronicles by Tina Colleen

Dissertations

"Fat is a Queer Issue, Too": Complicating Queerness and Body Size in Women's Sexual Orientation and Identity by Hannah R. Long

More Fats, More Femmes, And No Whites: A Critical Examination Of Fatphobia, Femmephobia And Racism On Grindr by Matthew Conte

Fat Activism: A Queer Autoethnography by Charlotte Cooper

Spatial Awarishness: Queer Women And The Politics Of Fat Embodiment by Adrienne C. Hill

Fat Mutha: Hip Hop’s Queer Corpulent Poetics by Mecca Jamilah Sullivan

Other

A Queer and Trans Fat Activist Timeline by Charlotte Cooper

Transcript: Fat & Queer Intersections Webinar by NAAFA

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Fat people and blood draws

(Tw: discussion on drawing blood)

It’s ridiculous to me when medical professionals act as if drawing blood from fat patients is hard.

Yes, we’re more likely to have ”invisible veins” aka medical professionals have a harder time finding our veins.

But a phlebotomist or a nurse shouldn’t have a hard time locating our veins.

My fat aunt was once pricked multiple times in a row with needles because her phlebotomist couldn’t find her veins. My aunt’s arm later became seriously bruised, swollen and sore from that spot, and it was a horrible experience for her. This was the first time something like this has happened to her.

My fat mom has a similar experience.

I have a similar experience too:

I was getting my blood taken for the first time of my life, and I wasn’t nervous at all. However, the phlebotomist that was supposed to draw my blood pricked me on the wrong spot. After that, she told me that: ”we’ll just have to try”… and you definitionally don’t want to hear that from a medical professional with a needle.

I started feeling faint (because I was shocked from the words the phlebotomist had just said, and also didn’t want to experience what my aunt had experienced) and was transferred to another phlebotomist next door (who had a reclining chair). Unlike the first phlebotomist, this one was immediately able to find my veins. She quickly took my blood and sent me home.

After that, I have had no mistakes or problems with my blood being taken (I’ve started offering my right arm to phlebotomists immediately because I know my veins are easier to find there than on my left arm). There have been a couple phlebotomists that have mentioned my veins being hard to find, but they’ve still been able to find my veins quickly. (However, now thanks to my first experience with my blood being drawn, I get nervous everytime I meet a new phlebotomist.)

Anyway, the point of this story: phlebotomists and nurses need to be able to find fat patients’ veins after a little probing, and not just guess first and then prick us. I know my aunt, me, and my mom are not alone in our experiences, and that this is something that has happened to a lot of fat people when they’ve gotten their blood drawn.

There are a lot of competent nurses and phlebotomists who are able to find their fat patients’ veins, but there are also a few bad ones in the mix who bruise their fat patients to the degree my aunt experienced. This shouldn’t happen, and all phlebotomists and nurses should be able to find our veins or even transfer us to a more qualified phlebotomists or nurse in case you seriously can’t find our veins. We trust you guys to not f*ck our arms up, and y’all should deliver.

(Also this is unrelated to my story, but I’d like to note that if you’re going to get your blood drawn soon, remember to actually put some pressure on the wound when your nurse or phlebotomists tells you to, right after they’ve drawn your blood. This reduces the possibility of small bruising and soreness you might feel afterwards. Also brings snacks with you so that you can eat them right after getting your blood drawn if you know that you’ll become nervous and start feeling faint.)

Toodles!

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medical professionals listen to fat people!

It’s f*cked up how it’s the norm for medical workers to tell us fat people that we need to modify our bodies, to the point of coercion. 

This is my body. This isn’t a wrong type of body that you should try to convince me to change. This is the flesh I’ve been throughout my whole life; this fat is me:

I’m not a thin person in a fat suit. All medical workers need to get out of their asses and realize that fat people own fat bodies, not bodies that are ”thin-to-be”. I deserve the same care without mentions of how it would be the correct thing to modify my body, because this body has always been with me and always will. I grew in a fat body and this fat body is mine. 

Where I live, it’s recommended for doctors to gently try to talk to fat patients about weight loss. And as a fat person I don’t give a sh*t how gently you try to convince me, your main goal is still to change the way I am. You’re biased and your care reflects that. 

So stop f*cking trying to coerce us by fear-mongering. Read the many research papers that contradict current ideas of fatness in relation to health, and most importantly: listen to us fat people. 

I’m fat, and you have been convinced to throw away your work ethics as a medical professional just because our world says it’s okay to coerce fat people into weight loss, and that as a medical professional you should encourage people to drastically change their bodies but ONLY if they’re fat. Listen to yourselves. 

Toodles. 

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As someone who has GI issues (diarrhea, constant stomach rumbling, passing a lot of gas) I’m hestitant to go to a nurse or a doctor about my problems.

Why?

I’m a fat person with BED. Doctors and nurses will likely just ignore my problems as a sign of me being fat (and therefore having a bad diet) or binging.

I’m not going to give out my whole medical history, but just know that I know these are not the causes for my symptoms.

I hate it out here.

Anyway, much love to everyone else with GI problems!

i just wanted to say you're not gross if you deal with gastrointestinal issues. even if people treat your symptoms and disorders like they're disgusting, they're not. they're genuine health problems- health includes your entire body. if you are having issues digesting/processing foods, eating, controlling your bowels or having diarrhea or constipation issues or frequent gas and bloating, you're not gross. if you need a colostomy bag, you're not gross. if you need to use diapers you're not gross. if you frequently vomit you're not gross. if you deal with acid reflux and chronic heartburn you're not gross.

people and even doctors will treat people with these kinds of issues like we're disgusting but we're just people with health issues. a GI issue is no less worthy of attention than a broken bone. it doesn't matter where it's located in the body you still need help with it. there are many issues people can have with digestion that aren't necessarily "gross" and they don't deserve to be looked down on. you deserve care and respect from everyone in your life. you don't deserve to be treated like your health problems don't matter

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Child abuse isn't having a fat parent or being a fat child.

Actual child abuse?

Forcing a child to starve their body into thinness that is scientifically proven to be unsustainable in the first place.

Making a child go hungry when there is food available.

Teaching a child that their body is ugly and wrong just for being a different shape.

Locking up the fridge so that a child can't have the autonomy to eat food without being watched.

Telling a child that food itself, what a human needs to survive, is dangerous and no different than poison.

Encouraging a child to develop an eating disorder.

Suggesting that a child mutilate their body with weight loss surgeries that destroy healthy digestive organs and have been proven to have horrid lifelong consquences.

Making a child feel the need to hide food and their body.

Destroying a child's trust in you, their parent they have to hide food from.

Not giving a child enough food to eat in order to force them to lose weight to the point that the child has to buy their own food in order to have enough to eat and binge on food when they finally are given any.

Teaching a child to hate their body, effectively ruining their mental health and often giving them lethal mental disorders

Making a child feel so awful for being fat that they kill themself.

Telling a child that it's their own fault that they're bullied and harassed, that they wouldn't be abused by others if they just "chose" to be thin, if they starved a little more, if they exercised just a little harder.

Lying to a child about fatness and pretending that weight is nothing but a choice and is automatically unhealthy.

Taking a child away from their loving family and putting them in foster care purely for existing in a fat body, not allowing the child to have their family again until the child becomes thin (which will never even happen)

Sending a child to a "fat camp" to abuse their body into unsustainable thinness.

Telling your child about how much you hate your own body so that your child believes their similar body is also "bad."

Taking a child to Weight Watchers and forcing other diet culture products on them.

Preventing fat adults from being able to adopt children until those fat adults lose weight, taking away the perfectly good parents a suffering child could have had and making it so that fat people will never be able to adopt at all

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The thing about being fat is that it’s isolating.

No one I know views fat people as fully equal to thin people.

I mean, they might like me as a person. But my friends and siblings will look at me and think that I’m automatically less healthy than them.

They might not say it to my face, but I’ve had a friend who implied that I’ll die earlier than her when we were talking about fat bodies.

Thin friends and family see us fat people as thin souls in fat bodies. They’ll talk about fat bodies in a negative way and expect us to agree with them. Or they’ll stop listening whenever we bring up our struggles as fat people. They’ll love us, but they don’t accept our bodies as is.

And this is one reason why fat people are oppressed. You can see this exact same thing happening with other minorities too.

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i think about a lot of overlaps between fatphobia and intersexism, look:

normal variations of anatomy and physiology are claimed inherently bad and disordered. (fatness is a normal variation of body type, intersex variations are normal variations of sex characteristics, but both are claimed not normal).

fear mongering and pulling "risks" out of the ass. if a person is fat, they get 100500 "health concerns" from everyone and may be medically labeled as unhealthy just because of weight. fatness is equated to being unhealthy without taking anything else in account. even if a person is perfectly healthy, their fatness is treated like it's health problem (or a step to future health problems). same for intersex variations: every single intersex variation is treated like a health problem, despite how it actually affects the person. and every try to confront these beliefs is faced with hostility and "BUT WHAT ABOUT THIS SPECIFIC CASE WHERE IT'S A PROBLEM???? SEE??? SEE?? I'M RIGHT! IT'S BAD!" fuck, yes, sometimes it is a problem. but even in those cases, it doesn't work like society wants: the problem lies not in normal body diversity but in a specific condition that causes specific discomfort or risk. for example, some intersex variations cause inability to urinate. and the problem here is the inability to urinate and not ambiguous sex traits. (so you need to address this specific problem and not mutilate a person's body to fit in social expectations).

the discrimination is protected by biased science. bigots refer to biased scientific sources to justify their bigotry. authors of these sources refuse to admit their prejudices and change their opinions even when new information is provided because they don't want to be fucking scientists and reevaluate their opinions after new data appear. they'd better protect their image of the world and use every existing logical fallacy and shitty argument to justify their outdated sources. so, medical and scientific fields are extremely biased on these topics.

unnecessary, unsafe, and actually harmful methods of "treatment" are pushed on people, often without their consent. it is closely related to the previous point (about biased science). all potential risks are either ignored and denied or "justified" by fear mongering around not intervening.

there definitely are more, but all other points i can come up with are more universal for different discriminations.

no conclusions except society really likes to police people's bodies.