#Research is fatphobic

[tobeabatman]

I’d just like to remind you that yes, it’s okay to question and reject obviously biased and badly conducted research on fat bodies.

You’re not a science denier for not liking research when its purpose is not to help you, but to make you seem inferior.

If we go 100 years back, all research on POC and women was conducted through a lense of bias. Research on fat people was similarly biased back then, but hasn’t changed for the better since.

And as you wouldn’t blame women claiming sexist research as biased and faulty, you shouldn’t blame fat people for pointing out fatphobia in research and claiming such research as biased and faulty.

Toodles!

[1960z]

the subtextual fatphobia in how this case treats norma deplume is pretty uncomfortable. like they never actually SAY anything about her weight, but they make jokes like how her picture in her books looks “different” and have phoenix be disgusted by like. getting an eyeful of her cleavage during her breakdown. (they literally use his head in hands pose for that like ffs)

and I’m not saying outright fatphobia would be better or anything but this not saying the quiet part out loud thing creates a very specific type of discomfort where they’re making all these jokes at her expense vaguely relating to her appearance and they want you to fill in why. it just leaves a bad taste in my mouth.

[heathenkweer]

Had a doctor's appointment this morning, will hopefully officially get diagnosed with POTS ✌🏻

[siristaci]

Nothing quite beats that feeling when the comments section of a 'controversial' facebook post passes the vibe check. Especially when the page that posted it is clearly run by bigots.

[fatphobiabusters]

People say weight loss is for sure possible...but no one agrees on how to do it.

Dieting works...but there's now an "ob*sity epidemic" despite people lining the pockets of weight loss corporations more than ever.

Weight loss products work...but weight loss corporations are making the Exact. Same. Claims. about their products that they did in 1910 with the products that were sold and then discontinued over a century ago.

Humans are all meant to be thin...but there are families of fat people who stay fat no matter how much "willpower" they muster and have fat ancestors going back generations.

It's about health and not looks...but people who are losing weight due to smoking, cancer, illness, mental disorders, and other health conditions are praised for their weight loss and told to keep going.

Fat people aren't oppressed...but fat people have no positive representation, no proper access to clothing, face a wage gap, endure deadly medical neglect and abuse, have their deaths by police brutality excused with their fatness, and countless other aspects of oppression that they deal with every single day.

Fat people are all fat because they overeat...but you can point to any fat person on the sidewalk and there's an extreme likelihood that they're on their 30th diet attempt in the past 10 years while there's thin people who eat whatever they want, however much they want, and don't exercise yet never gain a single pound.

Fat people are privileged because they gorge on unnecessary food...but fat people are overwhelmingly living in poverty, are not paid the same amount of money for the same work as their thin peers, are not chosen for promotions, are turned away from jobs that an employer wants more than a "pretty face" for, are at major risk of workplace harassment, and endure oppression even beyond just that.

Fat people aren't treated badly...but people use the word "fat" as a metaphor and synonym for "ugly," "unlovable," and "unworthy," while at the same time believing "fat," the most basic term for a specific body type, is a dirty, taboo insult you should never allow to leave your lips.

Professionals agree that fatness is inherently bad...but almost any weight-related research study that people, especially weight loss corporations, use to justify demonizing fat people has the worst methodology imaginable with validity errors and logical fallacies galore as well as conflicts of interest due to how many of these studies just happen to be funded by the corporations that make millions and billions of dollars off of the demonization these studies promote.

All health conditions a fat person has are caused by their fatness...but there is not a single health condition that only fat people obtain, many fat people developed the health condition in question when they were thin or thinner, weight gain is often a symptom of said health conditions, fat people are not given the same amount or quality of healthcare as thin people, and repeated starvation attempts (also known as "yo-yo dieting") have been shown to worsen a person's health.

Fat people can't have eating disorders...but fat people are the group encouraged to partake in disordered eating by this fatphobic world the most and then are not given any support to recover.

Thin privilege doesn't exist...but thin people who see the way fat people are treated in society do their absolute damndest and take whatever drastic measures they have to in order to prevent themselves from ever becoming one of "Them."

Fit and fat are mutually exclusive...but there are fat athletes as far up as even the Olympics, and sports are intentionally made inaccessible to fat people to the point of fat children even being turned away when trying to join a sports team.

Fat people are ugly...but all we grow up ever seeing in media are thin, conventionally attractive people painted with layers of makeup next to fat characters who were intentionally designed with an ill-fitting outfit, matted hair, and all other traits that fit the "ugly" stereotype that the character designer could manage to slap onto a single person.

Fat people are big, bad bullies...but studies show that weight is the number one excuse that children use to bully their peers, outcompeting a multitude of other oppressed identities considered.

Fat women are just men and vice versa...but sometimes they're androgynous, and sometimes they're basically nonbinary, and sometimes they're just things, and sometimes they're nothing at all depending on what labels a fatphobe decides will hurt a fat person most that day.

Fat people are subhuman...but fat people deserve the same love, respect, compassion, and support that all people are born inherently deserving.

Fatphobia isn't real, but—

-Mod Worthy

[metawish]

Saw a post about acne being entirely genetic, and I have to say that it's a very reductionist view of the problem, especially since a lot of times hormonal methods can help decrease or eliminate acne. This means it is not entirely genetics that determines your chances of having acne (but certainly a factor), but that there are other contributing factors. If you suffer from acne, especially cystic acne, there can be relief for you!

[dorianbrightmusic]

This is actually a known thing in science. It's called Set Point Weight theory, and it basically posits that there is an ideal weight range for you based on your genetics/epigenetics, and that this weight may not necessarily correspond to what's considered a 'healthy' BMI. If you are overweight/obese by BMI standards but are still in great cardiovascular health, chances are that you're at your set point, and that this is where you need to be.

And for the record – I've seen fatphobes claim that you can/should shift your set point down, to which all I can say is that while yes, it's true it technically can change, you shouldn't have to put yourself through incredible physiological distress to fit into some numbers on a chart, and if you have always been at this weight and your lifestyle is healthy, chances are, you shouldn't need to change your set point. That's presumptuous on fatphobes' point.

Note that when I say healthy, it's important to account for various environmental/economic/disability factors in there. I mean as healthy as your physiological/environmental circumstances will permit, not the standard model of health that most guidelines promote. If you have a chronic illness or disability affecting mobility/fatigue and can't exercise much, you can still be relatively healthy by your body's standards even if you aren't hitting the gym every day or running around in perfect White Upper Middle Fem Stereotype lululemon tights. Likewise, if you have Crohn's or diabetes or IBS or allergies or anything else where flare management is mediated partially by food, your healthy diet is going to look very different to the generic population guidelines, and if it is nourishing your body such that it functions without exacerbating your illness, then it is healthy enough. (Speaking as someone whose chronic illnesses mean I have to be very careful with fruit.) Spoonies may need more energy to keep their body going when it is working extra hard to maintain baseline every day. If you are operating in a way that works with your disabilities/individual circumstances, and you are still getting what nutrition and exercise you can, that is healthy enough that you should not be pressured to look 'healthier' to compensate or look 'sicker' to justify your existence.

You might have several set points in your life, and environment might alter them, but even so, some people are naturally smaller or larger than others, and they are probably going to be at their healthiest when they are at the size their body wants them to be, not the size society wants them to be.

I weigh 230 pounds and I’m the healthiest I’ve ever been. I can be on my feet for hours and hours, I can exercise, I can move around without my cane. Back when I weighed 160lbs, doctors told me I just needed to lose weight and my chronic illnesses would go away. So for 8 years, I starved myself and did everything in my power to be thin. It wasn’t until I gained 70 pounds and actually started eating real food, that I started feeling better. Fatphobia in the medical field literally kills people and makes them sicker. You can be fat AND healthy. Skinny doesn’t always equal health.

[heavycreamy]

Hey Matt Gazy

This post is for Australian Journalist Matt Gazy.

Apparently you've been contacting members of our feedism/erotic weight gain community in order to discuss our very multifaceted, heavily misrepresented lifestyle.

As someone who has been in this community for 3 decades, has seen most if not all of its forms, understands the ethical connections between Feedism and Fat Liberation, and deeply cares about how folks in our community are represented to the general vanilla public, I hope that you are entering into this project/article/episode with the necessary due respect, empathy, intelligence, and kindness that you would bring to ANY oft-misunderstood and ridiculed subculture.

No one needs another sensationalist piece of journalism wilfully and lazily misrepresentating our community, sexuality, and lifestyle, which only EVER serves to further stigmatise and shame us.

We have been taken advantage of on many occasions, cast as freaks and pathetic fools with mental problems, so neither we nor the general public need more of that.

EVERY time a piece about feedism appears in the public eye, our community experiences a massive wave of trolls and judgemental, deeply fatphobic tourists coming into our online spaces and abusing us.

Please don't debase us nor yourself by making a surface level hit-piece on our community, whether intentionally or unintentionally, due to a lack of thorough research and basic respect for perspectives and life experiences outside the norm.

Feedism is INFINITELY more than simply heteronormative power play. That corner of the community represents less than 10% of what actual contemporary Feedism culture is, and ironically harbours 90% of the toxicity present in the entire culture.

Feedism is so much more than heteronormative, coercive power play. It is extremely queer, extremely feminist, extremely sensual and emotional, and is a major facet of many people's lives and psychologies.

While it may seem like simply a niche genre of porn to the casual tourist, Feedism exists outside of porn. It exists outside of kink. It exists outside of fetish. It can and should be considered an orientation, rather than simply a freaky outlier bedroom interest worthy only of reactive disgust.

Please don't be yet another unscrupulous journalist exploiting our incredibly vulnerable community for shock bait bullshit.

If you're going to try to represent us, do it comprehensively, and do it PROPERLY.

Truly speak to us. Do the work. Don't just find an extremely popular female model and falsely imagine that her experience is a stand in for ALL Feedist experiences.

If you truly want to represent Feedism, you NEED to represent it as the complex, multifaceted diaspora that it is, full of people of all kinds, all cultures, and ALL SIZES.

Should you be committed to pursuing this topic, I can offer links and connections to extremely well informed writers, thinkers, professors, and others within this community who are doing INCREDIBLE work on understanding, exploring, and expressing the deeper truths of this desire and lifestyle. There are people doing the work. You need to do it too.

We're humans. Treat us with respect, dignity, and kind curiosity.

Be better than every journalist who has come before you.

Thank you.

ps. Dear feedist pals, if you feel that what I've said here resonates with you, and mirrors your feelings at all, please feel free to reblog the shit out of this in the hopes that more visibility may help it reach its intended audience. Thanks gang ♥️🍰🍕

[iwritebigbellies-blog]

What do you think "caused" your stuffing kink? I'm curious because I can't find any research as to why, biologically, the stuffing kink is a thing. I've had mine since I was old enough to remember, i.e., a toddler - watching cartoon characters eat a lot for a gag and feeling weird about it. I've got no idea what caused it or why my brain is apparently wired this way, especially since (like you, and apparently unlike the majority of the feedism community) it is *just* the stuffing and not wg/etc that turns me on. Just curious about other peoples' (and especially those who, like me, are primarily into the stuffing and not the wg aspect) experiences, I guess.

This got out of hand. Sorry.

TL:DR - I was born this way

Deeper thoughts:

So, when I was very distraught about why I had developed this incredibly inconvenient kink, I did a little bit of looking into paraphilias.

Unlike some other "kinks", this isn't a lifestyle choice (in my case, this is something I need to be sexually satisfied. I do not get aroused without it, I definitely do not cum without it.) It isn't something that is going to "spice up the bedroom" for someone looking for a new kind of fun. It is a flatly non-sexual thing that my brain has decided is hyper sexual. I think a good analogy is a foot fetish. Nobody decides to get into feet for fun. You either sexualize them, or you don't.

I think stuffing falls under fetishistic paraphilia, like the foot thing. There's a prevelent theory that foot fetishism is actually rooted in neurology. The foot section and the genitals sections of the brain are literally just super close together, so a little divergent wiring and boom, the foot is a sexual organ.

This kind of thinking rings the most true to me. Because I can't think of an "inciting incident" or single media that really made an impression on me: I wasn't even allowed to watch tv when I was a kid, so I mostly got my weird feelings from books and comics, and it felt more like recognizing a feeling that was already there than a single jarring experience. Also, because it doesn't feel confusing or traumatic or naughty to me: it's not like I got sex=forbidden, fat =forbidden, ergo fat=sex all jumbled up. There's no feeling of shame in my kink. Just the usual feelings one has about sex things: pleasure, intimacy, indulgence.

I feel like I am just wired different. I truly don't think I could, for example, therapize this away. It feels more like being straight: it is just foundational to my sexuality. It is my sexuality. Nothing made me like this. I just am.

Two tangental things about that:

Look at the people who try to run away from this kink. They always come back. It doesn't change or go away for them. There are a lot of really miserable people in this kink because a) we've pathologized it and b) there has been no real effort to make a welcoming community around paraphilias or fetishes in general. There is no safe space for fetishists. This kind of kills me, because I have talked to a lot of men in this kink and each of them has come at it in a totally different way. They could be helping each other understand this. They should be sharing coping or lifestyle tips. They could be more open about healthy ways to live it or showing success stories with partners and lives. We could all be more welcoming and understanding of the people who wander in here, because this thing isn't going away and we are all we have. We shouldn't be treating it like a disorder or social contagion.

I think being more community-minded would also help with the thing where some of us have "rare" versions of this kink. Cuz, yah, my sexuality is stuffing, not wg. There genuinely don't seem to be many of us. And it isn't cuz I am fatphobic and just want conventionally-hot guys to temporarily fatten up or whatever shit I am being accused of this week...I actually really prefer fat guys in a strictly aesthetic sense. But it isn't foundational to my sexuality. That is a whole different universe.

But because we're treating all of this like a den of iniquity, we're only engaging with each other on a horny level. And if you come at someone horny and they are not equally horny for you (such as when somebody comes at me asking how much weight I'd like them to gain), the conversation ends instantly, often in disgust, and leaves one or the other person feeling shame or guilt.

Those of us with more "rare" fetishes are gonna feel this bounce more than someone with a more conventional fetish. But, dammit, I still need a place, I still need a platform. I need to stand somewhere while I am waiting for the rare person who is actualy on my wavelength. I want to feel accepted and safe as a fetishist, not just horny. I am more than my libido, even as a fetishist.

Gonna throw some numbers out there.

The prevelence of true fetishism in the population is pretty unknown, but some studies have suggested like 11-17% of the male population have fetishistic fantasies, with women reporting in way lower, like 0-10%. But most of those are sort of conventionally sexual people who think it might be hot to have sex in public or with someone wearing cute gloves. The ones who are all-in on being fully fetishy (like me) are more like 0.00125% of the population. Of those, the vast majority are men.

Within the fetishist population, only about 15% are into specific body parts. (0.000002% of everyone, in our back-of-napkin math.) Almost half of those are into feet. There are other groupings: I have never seen "bellies" divided out on its own (though one did single out navels) so we're gonna say we are "other body parts", which is about 13% of body-part fetishists. (Math fails me here... what are we at, like, 0.000000026% or something?) It doesn't even matter at this point, it basically means that, statistically, every person on the planet who is as obsessed with full bellies as I am could fit in a small-town auditorium, and most of them would be men.

(Yah, I know, actual numbers probably much higher because all these studies require people to self-report, and shame/embarassment cuts that way down.)

If this was based on some kind of early conditioning, my feeling is the numbers would be waaaay the fuck higher.

Anyway, I am still mildly obsessed with Jughead Jones. >.>

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[redezign-yr-logo]

Hi hello tumblr.com i come to you today as a fat person to say that literally no one cares if you call us, or characters who are fat huggable, marshmallow, rotund, whatever the fuck yall r mad about.

It's not fatphobic, it's not fetishizing us, it's not infantalising, and we really Really do not care [every fat person i know does not care]- if you wanna call us cute terms actually go ahead it's way nicer than ACTUAL fatphobic insults and speech. It's harmless and getting mad at people on our behalf is really really weird.

Honestly- is it weird to call skinny people huggable or something? Because I've never heard that argument.

I've noticed a really weird trend of people 'whiteknighting' fat people and like. please stop. go focus on actual issues rather than someone calling some fat character a huggable marshmallow. Please.

Oh also marshmallow is used as a positive term in Japan by the Marshmallow Girls, who are fat people fighting the really horrible beauty standards there!! They're trying to embrace their weight in a cute way, and to support each other. Go do research on them :]

So uh yeah, rant over, don't be weird.

[genderqueerdykes]

re: gallbladder stuff i'm sorry you're dealing with all that, I know you already know it's all BS, but i just wanted to share my experience with gallbladder surgery that really emphasizes how BS it is: -my surgeon didn't ask me to lose weight in order to operate even though i was also over 300lbs at the time -they treated it as an urgent surgery even though i had to get it done during COVID lockdowns -the doctor told me that it was almost certainly genetics that caused me to have gallstones, there was nothing i could have done to cause it -the doctor told me i should stick to a plain diet leading up to the surgery to reduce the chances of passing another gallstone, but told me that once you pass one stone it's not a matter of if but when you'll pass another. the only way to stop it completely is to remove the organ your doctors are treating you terribly for actually no reason and i'm sorry they're doing that to you. i wish there was a way to hold healthcare workers accountable for these things.

thank you SO much for this ask, holy shit

i'm so glad they didn't ask you to lose weight and treated it like an emergency, which it was. i'm really glad they actually treated you. nobody should have to put up with having a diseased organ stay in their body because of someone else's prejudice. i've been considering asking fatphobic doctors why they are even in the medical field to begin with if they can't wrap their heads around the fact that fat people need medical help as well, whether it's related to their fatness or not doesn't matter. many fat people WILL need some form of medical attention in their lives. why would anyone who actually cares about helping others go into medicine if they knew they couldn't handle a little bit of cellulose

also thank you for confirming that there's a genetic factor and that if it happens once, it'll happen again. that's what i was showing in my research. i mean it makes sense, it's not going to do that just once, and i have multiple stones in my gallbladder. i don't understand why multiple stones isn't cause for concern. my mother had to have her gallbladder removed as well. and i've also shown in my research that there's very little to nothing a person can do to cause themselves to develop gallstones, unlike kidney stones which can be caused by severe and repeated dehydration

thank you so much, i've felt absolutely horrible in the wake of this. it made me feel as though my pain was somehow my fault, as if it wasn't worth looking into. i don't think anyone should have to feel like that, especially when they have a diseased organ that needs removed. it was like she didn't even see it as a matter of disease and illness, but rather something completely caused by me. i could tell she thought it was my fault due to eating a "high fat diet" and not because there's a genetic factor.

the "high fat diet" affects my liver way more than my gallbladder, and even then: i do not routinely eat a high fat diet. my liver is the one who got upset when i ate a lot of high fat and processed foods while i was homeless. my gallbladder is not the one who's having a hard time with anything that i choose to do of my own volition. the organ itself is literally diseased and no amount of kale smoothies and celery could ever fix that

thank you, i really appreciate you. i'm glad you were able to get treated without pushback. i think what i'm going to do is call that office and ask to consult with one of their other surgeons to see if they all believe that, or if it's just the one surgeon i spoke to. i also want to report her for medical malpracitce because she's choosing to let me continue to get violently ill because of her own personal issues. she's allowing me to remain sick and potentially be subject to even worse things like you mentioned

again, i really appreciate the amount of support i've gotten over this. i didn't realize that i was being treated this poorly. i really appreciate you, i'm going to do whatever i can to advocate for myself so i can get this removed ASAP. i want to be able to eat regular meals again without pain or vomiting. i want to be able to sit and stand upright without severe stabbing pain in my abdomen. i want to live my life again. i appreciate you, take care of yourself, thank you for your kindness and reassurance

[fatphobiabusters]

This post is to remember the singer Cass Elliot who tragically died due to fatphobia. To put it simply, an entire life of cruelty about Cass Elliot's fatness caused her to resort to starvation diets, substance misuse, and what very well could have been an eating disorder. She attempted to survive the fatphobia by playing the fatphobic, stereotypical role of the "funny fat person." Not even in death was she allowed to escape fatphobia, as her tragic death was used as a fat joke by spreading a rumor that she had died by "gluttony." More specifically: choking on a sandwich. Despite that not being true, people continue to believe that debunked myth today. If not for this fatphobic society, Cass Elliot, an incredibly talented singer, would not have died at age 32, involuntarily leaving her only daughter parentless, and likely would have still been alive today.

If you're not sure who Cass Elliot was, this is one of her most iconic songs with her former band:

And here is a solo performance by her. Some people might recognize this song since it was apparently used for a TikTok trend:

For more details about the horrendous fatphobia she endured her entire 32 years, here is a video and two articles that explain. A trigger warning for the second article since it uses the slur "ob*se" and "overweight."

In memory of her, please do not call her "Mama Cass." She hated that nickname because it was used specifically due to fatphobic stereotypes.

If anyone needed an example of how deadly fatphobia has been for centuries, I hope you'll think of Cass Elliot, one of the plethora of people who have been killed by fat people's systemic oppression and still faces oppression to this day while 6 feet under.

-Mod Worthy

[is-the-owl-video-cute]

hi i have diabetes, @ other anon having (unmedicated) type 2 diabetes is more likely to make you keep weight/have a harder time losing it because of insulin resistance and nutrients and stuff making sure you keep that fat to use it for energy when you can't get sustenance from the food you eat because your insulin doesn't work

with type one, you have no insulin in your body at all so you can't get any nutrients out of your food so with unmedicated type 1 you will lose weight very fast because your body is taking the nutrients out of your fat deposits because it can't get them from your food

tldr: being fat does not cause diabetes, but one type of diabetes can cause keeping fat and one type of diabetes can cause losing fat

there are some really good reads on the american diabetes association's website about it!

it really is sad how often diabetes gets thrown around by fatphobes because so few people who bring it up actually do any research on what it even is to begin with let alone what may cause it.

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A/N: My grand return is catering to myself thanks to a request!!! As a plus size babe who loves Tomie, I adored writing these :))

Tomie is known to be obsessed with herself and her appearance, only caring about herself and how to get what she wants in life— until she met you. It became her goal to pursue you and once you two became a couple, she’d do whatever it took to make you happy and feel secure. The only person she loved more than herself was you.

Tomie completely loves and adores how you look, she admires and worships you in a non-sexual way. While you two are together she always is caressing your body; your stomach, your arms, your hand, back, cheek, anywhere she can gently stroke her hand upon has become her affectionate victim.

You tell Tomie about your self conscious thoughts about your weight and she is your biggest support, comforting you and endlessly praising how beautiful your body is to her. She holds you and covers your body in gentle kisses, looking up into your eyes occasionally with a sweet softness and whispering sweet complimentary nothings in between each kiss.

Tomie loves to surprise you with clothes, she’ll go out of her way to make sure it fits you perfectly and even shops at plus size specialty stores for you! She’s even a sucker for matching clothes and will get you a cute set or two that you can wear out together.

Tomie loves doing your makeup! She loves to show your features off instead of hiding them, accentuating your round face with a specific contour. She doesn’t admit it but she has spent an unholy amount of time researching how to and watching many YouTube tutorials.

The two of you love going out— it’s a chance to flaunt each other off to the public and display your undying love for one another! Tomie is very affectionate and isn’t afraid to display some PDA; in fact she adores it. She’s proud of you and your love!

It’s always a risk to hear nasty comments while being out, especially every once in a while a fatphobic prick saying something nasty to you. Tomie never appreciates those comments and defends you with her life, standing up to those who dare to insult you. Anyone who tries to say something negative to you, especially about your weight, is getting a verbal berating from your defensive partner.

The morning news is always a blessing and a curse. At first you never understood the coincidence; mutilated corpses found in the same area you live in, all being those who have insulted you or ever made negative comments about your weight or appearance. It took a good while for it to click in your head but once it did, you didn’t know whether to feel flattered or concerned.