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[lifeinpoetry]

What are your favorite poems/excerpts about food or hunger?

Just want to clarify, in an eating disorder way or a non-ED way? Don't want to be unloading the ones I vibe with and having you end with a bunch of unwanted ED/disordered eating poems/excerpts.

[scorpiivsmalfy]

[  dacre montgomery, cis male, he/him + bad guy - we three  ]   ━━   Hey, that’s [ scorpius hyperion malfoy ]? I read an article on them once ; they’re [ twenty three ] years old of [ pureblood ] decent, a [ wizard ] and a [ slytherin ] alumnus. I heard they had gone on to be a [ medi-wizard ] . I’ve heard they can be quite [  dedicated  + honest ], but I don’t know… they came off very [ guarded + pessimistic ] in that interview. It really is hard to know what to believe these days though, isn’t it?

FULL NAME: Scorpius Hyperion Malfoy NICKNAME(S): Scorp, Scor AGE: 23 DATE OF BIRTH: December 12.  GENDER: cis man SPOKEN LANGUAGE(S): English, Latin, Spanish OCCUPATION: Medi-Wizard SEXUALITY: Demisexual

FACE CLAIM: Dacre Montgomery HEIGHT: 5′ 10″ WEIGHT: 180 DOMINANT HAND: Left SCARS: Scars on knuckles TATTOOS: None PIERCING: None

Scorpius wasn’t meant to be placed in Slytherin. He asked to be. Too afraid to disappoint his family, he knew that being put into Gryffindor would come as a giant surprise and although his parents were much more accepting and open minded now than they used to be, this didn’t take away his fear of disappointing them in the end.

Growing up, he was not a dedicated student. Sometimes things don’t click at first and he used to beat himself up constantly for it. He’s smart but he has to work for it. Nothing ever comes naturally.

He’s not what comes to mind when you think of a Malfoy.  He’s a very patient person and he tends to not put himself in the spotlight although he can be ruthless if provoked. He’s very guarded because people usually already have an expectation of what he’s supposed to be and it’s far from who he is. He doesn’t trust people enough to give them the benefit of a doubt anymore. 

Most times people think he’s stuck up because he guards himself so closely but the truth is that he just hates being painted as something he isn’t and he just doesn’t have the patience for it anymore. 

He’s never gotten along with his grandparents. Especially his grandfather because he disagrees with the old ideals about blood purity. He thinks they’re stupid and he understands why now muggleborns and those alike are fighting back. There’s been too many years of having to deal with that mentality and eventually people get tired of it but he doesn’t agree the possible resort to violence and going back to when muggles used to try to kill wix. Their feelings are understandable but their actions are not acceptable. 

He doesn’t care for traditionalism and embraces technology as it makes things easier for him and easier to keep his life organized.

In the long run, he doesn’t care what people think of him. Not many people have a positive image of the Malfoy name and he doesn’t really let that affect him anymore. Most people had thought he’d go on to be an auror or a hit wizard. Something in the ministry to carry on that tradition but Scorpius knew if he did that, he’d be miserable. He spent most of his Hogwarts days being miserable and he’s over it. 

However, at the end of the day although he won’t directly admit it, he wants nothing more than to make his parents proud.

When you first meet him, he’s a little quiet and he likes to keep to himself but when you manage to get him to open up then he’s an open book who loves to make people laugh. 

He’s recovering from an eating disorder. During Hogwarts, he had a really hard time with body dysmorphia which led to anorexia. This amplified when he tried to join Quidditch and failed. He figured maybe he wasn’t strong enough or maybe he wasn’t fit enough. It got really bad for a while where his health was at risk but he was able to finally reach out for help. He’s not where he used to be but he still has a long way to go. 

[goldshadows]

@kindofuneven / feral playlist sc.

they're all cozied up on the couch in the living room. her whole life had been turned upside down the past few days. heartbroken she had arrived at the mccall house and she'd cried her eyes out several times already. it was bound to go up in flames at some point. she'd let far too many things slide. ( his inappropriate comments towards scott some years ago, his treatment of her - dismissive and belittling, she wasn't eating and he still said nothing, among many, many other things ) she should've known better but guess it was her stubborn season. jess wasn't totally oblivious, well aware scott and melissa both hated tobias' guts. but it took her catching him cheating to finally get pushed over the edge. pint of ice cream in her lap, she digs her spoon into it yet again. " what a waste of my 20s. " she huffs a sad laugh, shakes her head. " what a bad joke, i'm sorry. it just loving him hurts. it didn't work out and i wanted it to work. "

[velvet-games]

apparently this is a hot take according to some people I know irl, but I'm wondering if people around here also think so?

I think something being temporary doesn't delegitimize it at all. even if it's silly, even if you cringe at it later, if it's important to you now, it's important to you now. that's why I hate the "it's a phase" phrase because for me, the response to that is not "no it's not a phase; I'm going to like it to adulthood;" the response should be "it doesn't matter if I don't like it later; it's important to me now and I only exist as the person I am now." (to be clear, people pretending they can predict the future about whether you will/won't be something in the future is bad and annoying in its own right) sorry this is kind of abstract so I'll try to explain it as best I can ...

I remember a teacher talking to me about how he likes the saying "this too shall pass," whereas I'm trying to get OUT of that mindset. the problem is that "this too shall pass" applies to literally everything. I don't think this was the original intention of the saying, but the subtext is that you shouldn't worry about what's happening now because it won't be forever; essentially, it doesn't matter if it doesn't last.

but isn't that literally everything? I get nervous whenever I'm happy because I remember that yes, this is probably temporary, and if history's anything to go by, it will be gone very quickly. but like, so is your entire life. so is the earth, the solar system. don't these things matter, not because they're permanent, but because they're your whole world in certain moments? when you're a teen and you're into a cringey show that you grow out of later, that's still a show that's your entire world (and might save your life!) in that time period.

I was pretty sensitive as a kid (still am, just better at hiding it/bottling stuff up), and I remember having genuinely scarring feelings and thoughts belittled constantly. and emotionally, you don't start thinking that that should stop applying when you're older. when I was a kid, all of my ideas and feelings were stupid because I was young and people thought I was a girl and I had normal childish interests. but even as I've become an adult, I haven't let go of the mindset of "everything I do and say and like is stupid and I need to defend them constantly or not mention them at all." it's definitely gotten better now that people have given me external cues that I can be taken seriously, but why wasn't I taken seriously before? I remember watching this movie about a monster eating a child and replaying that scene (and thus the fear that came with it) over and over for months. it's kind of silly in retrospect, but I think the stuff that I would have that exact emotional response to now would be taken much more seriously. when I was a kid scaring myself with that scene, was my fear not real? was I not in pain? was that not important to me at the time? why did it not matter just because other people stopped being able to relate to it?

I just wish we had a more gentle attitude about some of these things, especially when it comes to things young people don't have control over. I remember having a really aggressive attitude about diet/weight loss culture right after I started ED recovery, and as dumb as some of that was, it was necessary and legitimate. if I could talk to someone in a similar position, I wouldn't chastise them and tell them they're being naive and that it'll pass; I would say, "I see you; you're in a lot of pain right now, and you need to be feeling these emotions. I remember what that felt like. it might not last forever, but it's important that you process and validate them now anyway." obviously that understanding doesn't go as far as excusing harm, but I really don't think that even applies to most of the stuff we cringe at teens for (no, designing a sparkledog OC is not killing anyone).

your past self wasn't a rough draft on a piece of paper that just became human yesterday. they were a full person with actual emotions in full effect on them. they're gone now, and other young people won't be young forever either, but they're still people right now.

[greenhairedfreakglobal]

if nicocado avocado can do it, so can i

[starspartially]

life update no one cares about! i'm moved into my new flat back in my home country - officially left the UK for good. my (now ex) girlfriend and i broke up and it sucks so so bad but i can't think about it for too long or i'll start crying. i'm trying to quit smoking (again) and i think i'm having an ed relapse (again) but we're working on that i guess. my master's has just started and i'm stupidly excited about it and my uni has a bunch of really cool student societies that i'm very excited to try and join. i went to the museum today and it was so so nice. things are so weird right now but i think i'm kind of excited for the future! we'll see!

[lovely-sk1n]

does anyone else try massaging their stomach down to make food digest quicker and slim ur stomach out? ive been doing it since i saw an episode of supersize vs superskinny where a girl did it

[d1et-c0ke-nd-salt3d-1ce]

yessss ho take your multi vitamins, you cant get pretty if you die

[bl0gger4n4]

Omg this th¡nsp0 is so good I wanna look like this so bad

[surilovesbones]

"Como você quer vencer na vida, sendo que vc perde pra um prato de comida?"

[cvtmyhearttopieces]

So jealous of the girls spending their teenage years having fun and not obsessing over their bodies

[itsalrightsblog]

It’s literally disgusting how many old freak pedos slither their way into the ED community. Those types of people are literally as low as it can get.

Reblog if you do not welcome pedos anywhere near your page‼️

[greenhairedfreakglobal]

finally experiencing pretty privilege, I can't back down now. I HAVE to continue. I need to make ana proud

[blehboyspost]

swear to god if i don’t get a flat stomach im going to kms

[collaredkittyboy]

Well it's come up multiple times today so I'll make a post about it.

I think the popularization of the word "twink" has ultimately been really bad for people in general.

I know it's hard to track the positive and negative effects of language but I don't think it's hard to see how creating a word for a group of people wherein the most consistent qualifying trait is "being skinny" is healthy for people's self image. Obviously people have lots of ideas about what it means to be a twink- gay, lacking body hair, feminine, beautiful, young, white- but the most consistent descriptor I've seen is "skinny." Hell, it's even a body type on Grindr; the size below "average."

So it kind of functions as a code word in the gay community: anyone can say that they're only interested in twinks and they don't have to look shallow by saying they only like skinny guys. It's such an accepted attitude that no one really bats an eye when they hear it.

I'm not even going to get into how it's become part of the larger issue of people turning "top" and "bottom" into gender roles 2.0, but that is closely related, because people with any internalized homophobia can look at a skinny, feminine man and turn off their fag alarms by viewing him as a woman or not a "real" man, and it makes twinks more acceptable to society at large.

No, ignoring all of that, one of the biggest issues is that gay men are taught by society that they are only attractive while they are skinny. Just having the label "twink" reminds a boy that people are looking at his body and judging it. There were countless times when I was growing up that people would tell me, "You're such a twink," or argue about whether or not I qualified as a twink because I had body hair. People around you, unpromted, judge your body and give you a label based on it, and that label has a large influence on whether or not you're seen as objectively attractive. I know many other gay people who say they wish they were a twink so they could be more attractive to guys.

So think, you have all these kids growing up being told whether or not they qualify as a twink, and then we have the gay community as a whole where it's completely acceptable to say you're only attracted to twinks. I think its because of all of this pressure to be a twink (in other words, to have a below average weight) that many of the gay people that I interact with struggle with a negative body image or eating disorders.

I mean, people talk about "twink death" like it's an actual event that makes a gay man much less attractive, and no one thinks that, maybe, it's harmful to tell a guy that the very day he stops being young and thin and pretty, he will stop being attractive and celebrated?

I'm not qualified to speak on fatphobia in physical queer spaces because I don't have the ability to frequent them where I live, but I can't imagine that these aren't issues at social gatherings as well. I also can't speak on my own experiences with weight discrimination because so far in my life I have had a naturally thin body, but I have experienced a lot of outside pressure to be thin that have caused me to pick up unhealthy eating habits to reduce my weight in fear that I could become fat later on. Thankfully that is something that I've mostly been able to work past. I'm not an expert, but idk, I just wanted to rant on my silly tumblr blog.

Obviously it's impossible for a word to be inherently bad. I'm not trying to imply that saying "twink" is a magic word with evil powers. Obviously the real issues at play here are fatphobia and harmful beauty standards and body shaming. But in my opinion, the popular use of the word twink has made it much easier and acceptable to express fatphobia, etc, in the gay community by turning "skinny person" into a "type of guy that you should try to be so you can be attractive."