#cw paraphilia mention

[burning-sol]

Btw, if anyone thought they were on my side or defending me specifically because you outed people in a gated server that I didn't even know about because I didn't purposefully go out looking for it (unlike you)? I actually feel more unsafe around you than the people in said server. I don't like you seeking out people's sexual fantasies and then publicly shaming them for their taboo fetishes they shared where they presumed it would be held in confidence.

I don't think you should be allowed to have your cake and eat it too. You don't get to violate people's boundaries and act like you are an advocate for victims. I just know you mfers are superficial and would drop victims and call them monsters because the very moment they show a sign of their abuse (for context one potential cause of paraphilias is CSA) they're suddenly "gross" and "give REAL victims a bad name". You don't get to state, "I really really care for victims and they should go to therapy to get treated 🥺" but also pick apart (potential) victims' messages and advocate for reporting them to the authorities.

Also yes, YES, it literally IS harmful for children to state that they are minors online because then predators KNOW who the minors are! Someone knowing you're a minor at ALL means that they know you are less developed and therefore more easily manipulated. They can message a minor and start phishing for more information, which a minor is more likely give up than an adult! Like, stating you're a "minor" IS more protection than outright stating your age, but y'all just have no clue what you're talking about.

In general, I feel like I'm going crazy. I'm surrounded by people who are all under the impression they're being moral but y'all are just ignorant and have no clue what you're going on about and you at worst you actively harm others. You guys SUCKKK...

[crowpunkcognitivedecline]

okay im gonna "vaguepost" because this bitch blocked me and this is fucking pathetic and a great example of why you check peoples' blogs before assuming they're engaging in good faith

someone replied to this post starting with "not to be an asshole but," which is honestly the first red flag, but basically asking why i didn't want people without SCIs to advocate for us [which isn't what i said but fine]. i replied with an explanation that's still there, if you want to look at it.

now this asshole replied with something that took 3 replies but they didn't realize they'd delete all their responses if they blocked me right after, so good going there genius. luckily i know absolutely nothing you said had any value to it so who cares.

and then it occurred to me to check their profile and.

they literally just lied in their initial "not to be an asshole" question about having an SCI--they list all their health conditions in their pinned post and absolutely nothing SCI related is there. so, congratulations for stooping even lower than the rest of the ableist hEDSers with victim complexes

i'm on their DNI like 5 separate times; their DNI includes detransitioners & supporters [and yes i fucking support people who decide to detransition you absolute cunt], catholics [i'm not practicing but im fucking latino], self diagnosed & pro endo folks [because doctors are always right and disabled/nd folks cant be trusted to know our own minds and bodies], and "MERDs" [fuck off straight to hell you ableist piece of shit]

DNI also includes people with pedophilic disorders and pOCD and says "I don't care if you think you won't offend, I have enough experience to know better," which for someone who so strongly believes doctors are right about everything sure fucking goes against all medical/psychiatric consensus--and is also so violently anti-survivor, anti-recovery, and sanist that i don't really know where to start

anyway if you're reading this, random guy, you're a fucking pussy, go fuck yourself, and you're exactly who the post was about. i don't know what you were trying to do, but all you proved is you believe your disability and trauma excuses violent ableism against people with more severe or more stigmatized disabilities and that i was right to not want to hear your opinion, so, yknow, eat shit and fuck off.

this is a cripple punk post about intracommunity issues; ableds DNI

using my power as a bitch with both hEDS and an SCI to tell people with hEDS to shut the fuck up about SCIs

"some people have dislocated spines from hEDS!" guess what, i'm some people! you're not! stop using me and people with more severe forms of EDS as debate points, we don't fucking like you!

[proship-puppy]

Rarity x Apple Jack

! This post talks about NSFW , SA , Pedo/Zoophilia , R*pe , etc. THIS POST IS DARKSHIP ! Don’t like -> DNI 🎀 🎱

Apple Jack loves Rarity with all his heart…

However he also has a crush on someone else; his cousin pinkie pie. Well it’s not just a crush it’s a affair. Apple Jack and pinkie pie meet every now and then to make out and fuck. Sometimes pinkie even brings along one of her girlfriends (twilight sparkle or sunset shimmer) to r*pe them together with Apple Jack. It’s a dirty secret rarity should never know about…

But rarity has a secret as well..!

Every now and then she needs some extra money for a dress or pair of shoes she saw. So she meets up with older men and let’s them gang r*pe her. They pay per hour and can do anything they want with rarity so she did make some wild experience as they forced her to fuck with dogs or children ! But it’s all worth it and honestly she even enjoyed a lot of it because the r*pe is what got her to start a relationship with her loyal dog spike ! And it also showed her how okay it is for her to groom her sister sweetie bell every now and then. After all her needs are important to and if she needs to fuck , why not fuck her sister if no one else is around ? But of course Apple Jack could never know about all this !

🍖🌈 = proship

🧩🥀 = ex anti

💀🌙 = dislikes but still ships

[thedigitalwave]

Seeing that bitchy crosstagger saying "hey antis 🥺 dont worry those filtht radqueers will never be accepted into society!!" Is just. Well. Telling, raw and gross.

You know, it's really really fucking strange to me that people genuinely say out loud that a group majorly composed by minorities trying to be themselves will never be accepted into normal society. What is normal society? Your everyone-stays-the-same, divide-all-into-distinct-groups, never-let-mental-illness-be-normal society? Cause that's not normal to me. That's fascist.

I know I'm saying a big word there. I don't mean it in the "all antis are secretly alt-right" way. I mean "all antis are explicitly conservative in some way", though.

How can you propose us the idea that everything needs to stay the same, never progress, that minorities need to stay minorities and privileged people need to stay privileged, that certain people should stay in the shadows, and not be conservative?

By saying transid-identifying people should never transition, you're saying that. By saying paraphiles should never be accepted, you're saying that.

I hope you realize what you're doing now. This isn't protecting anyone. This is maintaining the status quo.

[super-secret-account-yippee]

CAB (C-orpse Attracted Being)

A coining post for a more friendlier term for ⚰️s to use! A CAB stands for a C-orpse Attracted Being. Alternatively you can also use CAH (C-orpse Attracted Human) or CAP (C-orpse Attracted Person).

The "-" in the word c-orpse is really just to help censor the post since i honestly don't feel like getting my account banned for something like this </3

[parasol-culture-is]

Being a CSA survivor with paraphilia themed OCDs with no genuine bad attractions irl but having intrusive thoughts and fears and at worst sometimes using fiction to cope is being afraid of being an anti contact (bad 4) paraphile in denial even though you’re almost only attracted to cute cartoon characters and barely find real people attractive, and you’re freaked out and disgusted by those actual paraphiles attracted to irl animals, children or corpses who want to be abusers especially. Yet still part of you wishing actual anti contact paraphiles weren’t getting abused, threatened and lumped in with predators, wishing more antis were pro recovery, and wishing antis weren’t treating survivors that aren’t “the pure and perfect survivor” like shit or parajacketing them, and wishing antis cared a lot more about CO/CSA and ASA prevention than just revenge and hate, and that antis actually didn’t make anti spaces unsafe for CSA survivors that aren’t even bad four paraphiles but aren’t “extreme enough” for other violent and genocidal antis. And eventually becoming an ex anti cause of other antis not caring about survivors or prevention, and finding out other antis have been outed as closet proCs/rapists and groomers themselves sometimes and being hypocrites.

para culture is

[disabled-sysboxes]

[TEXT ID: this system struggles with paraphilia based intrusive thoughts]

[IMG ID: a teal rectangular box with an icon of a person's head with exclamation points coming out of it while they look distressed to the left, and the text 'this system struggles with paraphilia based intrusive thoughts' to the right.]

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[bidmybloodtorun]

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📮Submissions are allowed now! Didn't realize I had them turned off before! So ask me anything! You can ask about my sexual preferences, suggest books I might like, you can tell me something personal! Whether you tell me something personal anonymously or not, please be sure to include at the beginning if you're alright with me posting your "ask me⚔️tell me"! All other "ask me⚔️tell me"s will be posted! If you want it private, then directly message me!

🧠One of my intentions with this blog is for me to interact with others of a "darker nature". Personally, I am extremely interested in psychology. I'm a true crime consumer and have a personal-professional psychological curiosity for learning more about paraphilias (necro, cann!balism, etc.). I have a genuine interest in understanding different paraphilias & the minds of those who have them, their minds' correlation with human behavior & vice versa, and who the person is behind the paraphilia & what their life has been like. If you're interested in sharing your experience with me, you can message me or submit an anonymous ask. Please just make sure to tell me if you do not want me to post your ask. If you don't specify in the ask, I will not post it. Some may not understand why, but I understand that this is very personal info about oneself and a level of trust is needed for someone to tell me about themselves.

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[thedigitalwave]

If you ever think the radqueer community is wrong by despising "survivors of the radqueer community", just think of Oli London.

He labeled himself as queer and was transrace. Now he hates queer people and trace people, says they're all the same mob of horribleness, and thrashes trans people because he's now christian and doesn't identify with those "beliefs".

Do you really think he was right? If yes, you're just a bigot, congratulations, but if not, where do you draw the line? At hating "actual queer people"? At hating "an actual minority"? Because I've never seen a non-queer radqueer. I've never seen a radqueer who's never been oppressed in any way. And with the amount of hate we've gotten, you can bet (and I know it's true) that a lot of antis are bigoted. I've seen antis be so straight up ableist while "fighting against ableism", I've seen them call radqueers the r slur and say horrible shit. And you can't say that's not a majority, I've never seen an anti who isn't conservative-coded and doesn't spew bigoted bullshit.

Because the nature of antis is segregation between binaries that don't exist as a binary. Disabled vs abled is not a binary, yet I've seen antis say that people can never become disabled, which is just stupid. As a white latino, POC vs white is not a binary I fall into, yet they really want to separate those and say people can never ever identify as something other than what they're born and perceived as.

They want to separate them because it's less confusing and less problematic. They want to maintain the status quo of never letting minorities become privileged as an identity (e.g. transwhiteness and nullabledness), and of never letting privileged people identify with minorities. Privilege or minority status will likely never leave us and we're not saying it will, but muddying the waters will never be something less than good. Because that only empowers.

In my humble opinion, saying disability and other minority status is desirable and inherently neutral or good, is not harmful. Because the other option is saying disability and other minority status is inherently undesirable regardless of how the disabled person or minority feels about it.

Anyway. I have said this multiple times, but having a distinct line between privilege status and minority status that no one can cross is not a good thing and will never be.

[wingwisher]

As a CSA victim I actually have my own opinions on this whole thing.

First off, treating it as a mental disorder is largely unhelpful, it is a sexual orientation, just one that happens to target a class of entity that cannot consent (not going to get too far into this point right now but to any minors who are reading and take issue with the "minors cannot consent" stance, I will remind you that under the current legal framework in the majority of the world minors are treated as property, and property cannot meaningfully say no, thus cannot consent.)

I agree they should be encouraged to go to therapy, and find community with others who deal with the same attractions, because that is actually shown to be helpful, so long as the goal of "treatment" is not to remove the attraction (can't do it. It's as much conversion torture when done to MAPs as when done to gay people, and a lot of people don't like hearing that, but it has identical effects on the psyche)

I do very much appreciate that you separate those who just experience an attraction to minors from those who actually perpetrate CSA (I'm not getting into prison abolition on this post) in part because, most MAPs DO NOT COMMIT CSA and most people who commit CSA are not actually sexually attracted to minors. The #1 predictor of rape is not sexual attraction experienced by the attacker, it's a power imbalance between the attacker and victim. It's the ability to exert authority to do awful things without repercussion, not any actual desire for the one being harmed.

Paraphilias of any sort cannot be medicated away of therapised away, but also tend not to be the ones raping anyone in the first place. If you want to stop children from being raped you need to make it so children can leave any situation they want no matter what.

In conclusion, it's not a mental disorder, and harming and stigmatizing those who carry such attractions certainly doesn't make things better, and in fact usually make things worse. Through both abusing those who have done nothing wrong, and creating blindspots for predators to exist in.

People really seem to want to believe that fundamentally bad person disorder is a real thing that exists and is worth being concerned about

[tyrianluda]

im really out here researching about a hypothetical paraphila from a transphobic researcher. this is so fucking annoying

[disabled-sysboxes]

are people with other paraphilias/paraphilic that aren't the big three (pedo, zoo, necro) or objectively harmful interact or are you uncomfortable with that as well? /genuine

we are comfortable with those with non illegal / harmful paraphilias to interact, as we may have a paraphilia ourselves (although we arent too sure).

[vamp-luvr999]

Cw : sex talk (abt disconnect and asexuality?) + Kinks And paraphillia mention (Not in depth at all)

I Never understood The public’s obsession with sex… and I don’t know if it’s cause I’m Aroace or because I’m just disconnected from everything.

But i have My Moments where I’m like “it’d be nice” but not cause I want to. But because it’s more socially acceptable not to? Also I just don’t.. find it all That attractive traditionally

If anything, I’d want to practice my consenting paraphilias and kinks without sex? Is that even possible? Cause I just don’t find it attractive nor do I find it super tempting.

Maybe when I’m manic or perhaps when I’m having a hyper sexuality episode.. besides that? I just don’t Want To and i HATE when people tell me “u’ll be lonely” or “you don’t know what you want right now.”

If i cared abt that a lot more than I already do, honestly? I’d be 6 ft under lmao.. any more stress with that and I’d have a whole ass heart attack fr

Anyways yeah, sex sucks. Hate that shit. Let’s kiss and hug instead. << TL;;DR

[thedigitalwave]

I hope this isn't a hot take because I'm honestly tired of the antis that interact with me.

Accepting that people want to be more mentally ill and giving them a space to talk about it safely isn't predatory or leading them to mental illness.

An anti (a very condescending one at that) tried to argue that my stance on the anti community not wanting mental illness to be normalized (which I meant in a different way than interpreted, will expand on that later) is somehow the radqueer community grooming people into being more ill.

That's a falacy by itself. Normalizing something doesn't cause the thing to be more occurrent or more severe. That's actually a conservative talking point, that by normalizing things like queerness and social "abnormality", it will become a slippery slope where everyone ends up gay or "abnormal". Now, I do understand that this is a weak link. That person doesn't mean that normalizing mental illness will cause people to want to be mentally ill more...- wait.

Their point is that we are normalizing people wanting to be mentally ill and making them transition. Isn't that... Familiar?

Anyway. I didn't even mean it like that, but it is an interesting point. I meant by normalizing mental illness, that we should normalize paraphiles and other more obscure things commonly found close to mental illness (I'm not a medparaphilie by any means) and let those be common in society, so that people can get, you know, help.

I don't mean normalizing sexual abuse, which somehow this person took for granted.

I'm not even all for transmentalillness to be always meant towards a transition goal. I'm not for that for any transid. But allowing people to safely talk about their transition goals is not predatory, I don't know how it could be.

Well. That's all. I appreciate the reblog, dear anti, but I'm not impressed. Try harder next time.

[freeuselandonorris]

omg please director’s commentary on oscar’s thoughts/feelings/vibes/happy valley rewatch for is it cold in the water? please? 🙏

EXCELLENT QUESTION omg. is it cold in the water? is my fetid little kidnap kink fic and probably the most 'personal' kink fic i've ever written but i don't often think about CNC from the other side!

okay, under the cut for length and also cw for discussion of CNC and kidnap kink.

so i think the only way oscar would be able to easily conceptualise being the 'aggressor' in a CNC scene is to essentially create a sort of character for himself, not in the sense that he's acting exactly (i think he'd be far too self-conscious to do any sort of dramatic roleplay) but more that he'd sort of have to externalise it and figure out the motivations and behaviours of this other, fictional Bad Oscar because he wouldn't quite be able to picture himself doing it.

i think i've mentioned before that i imagine lando figures out what kinks he wants to try out by going absolutely kamikaze in the pornhub tags, whereas oscar reads the wikipedia page list of paraphilias in his spare time. he likes to research!

but with CNC, because he kind of feels like he needs that external character self, just reading about it isn't really helping him. and maybe lando mentioned something vague like "yeah it's hot in films and that innit, getting tied to a chair and your mouth taped up and that" and that triggers oscar to think about the kidnap scene in the first episode of happy valley.

(side note: the happy valley thing is maybe the most egregious bit of personal fanservice i've ever put into one of my own fics because the kidnap and torture/threat scenes at the beginning of the first series make me FERAL. so glad other people enjoyed it lmao)

anyway so oscar would basically have watched those episodes back and studied up, both to get ideas of what he could do and how he could translate that into safer stuff to do to lando (hence the pillowcase over the head instead of just duct taping his actual skin/hair) but also to get ideas of how tommy lee royce acts and why it's threatening but also kind of attractive. which is why the persona he adopts is very cold and cruel and almost mocking (that bit in HV where TLR asks "are you a virgin?" in that sly way was VERY influential on oscar's dialogue).

i think when it's actually happening in the moment, he surprises himself with how much he gets into it, in a similar way to how lando is shocked by how difficult it is to remember that the threat isn't real. he's always in control of himself and there's a bit of him that's constantly watching lando to make sure he's safe and isn't getting genuinely hurt, but he likes seeing lando so helpless and scared, and it means that by the end of it he's acting more on instinct (i don't think coming on the pillowcase across his face would have been planned in advance, for instance). that's partly why he gets a bit of top drop himself afterwards, because he'd sort of imagined that he'd have more emotional distance from it all than he has in reality.

final tidbit: the most stressful part of the entire thing for him is stealing the zipties from the garage. it's done on the spur of the moment, but he's petrified someone's going to see him and ask what he's doing because he can't think of any plausible excuse why he might need a handful of big zip ties and also they're really hard to hide about his person and he's sure everyone can see them tucked inside his hoodie.

FANX i love thinking about this 'verse so very much. need to go and rewatch the first two episodes of happy valley now for personal reasons.

[smallghostcorner]

CW: pretty serious, slight mentions of icky stuff like sexualizing kids/agere and general nsfw

i dont usually make these kinds of posts but i feel like these ppl r potentally dangerous.

As usual i was going through my activity to block any nsfw bots and i came across two people.

this person:

as you can see is says they're pro para, meaning pro paraphilia, it also says they're an autoshouta meaning they derive sexual pleasure from imagining themselves as a young boy, i couldn't find anything for autokodo but it must be a similar thing.

this person also posts shouta art not done by them, a lot are suggestive(shirtless, wet swimsuits etc)

he also lumps agere(swf coping mechanism) and petplay(kink/fetish) together which is gross to me, they also have tags to indicate their mental age this paired with the "open to swf and nsfw interations" makes it seem as though they sexualize their regression which is concerning. Chrono adult also means(from what i can tell) they're a Chronophile which is a softer term for pedophile.

not to mention the transkid/transage thing which ill get into with this next person:

so... this is quite the mess, ill start with the transage.

i think most ppl can agree that trans ageism isnt a thing, its totally valid to feel stuck at a certain age due to trauma(i know i and a lot of our system members do) but approprating the struggles of transgender ppl will never be okay for any reason, similar point with the transabled thing. I am physically dissabled and find it very disrespectful when a able bodied person appropriates the struggles i face both in my own body and societily. (not talking about hidden disabilites AT ALL, if i saw this person using a wheelchair of smth irl i wouldnt say anything but theyre announcing it)

this part makes me very uncomfortable because i discovered them due to this post, i made this post for disabled regressors, this person is not the target audience at all and i feel very odd about it because disabled ppl r not reconized enough in this community.

not to mention "transethnic" everyone knows u cannot change ethnicity its imposible.

and again the term chronoadult pops up, due to the definition and the way these people claim to be mentally young/loli/shota im unsure if theyre saying theyre mentally children who are attracted to adults and/or get off on the thought of being molested which is very uncomfortable esspeccally as someone who was molested and an age regressor with syskids.

these two people also interact and it makes me very uncomfortable to think that a regressor could discover this while little, please report and block these people.

i dont care about them being queer or anything because i am so i dont wanna hear anything about it in the comments/rbs anything or about the 2nd person being polyfrag(200+ alters)