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t sure is having impacts today, huh? (<- has thought so many horny thoughts today)
#ftm nsft#t4t nsft#trans nsft#queer nsft#ftm sub#I’ve Gotta stop thinking#it’s crazy dude why is this like 60% of my brain rn#I can only rb my top post so many times before it’s just ridiculous#but just know I’ve been thinking abt it more#I’m debating making some sort of account on a dating app just to. see if I could get something out of my system.#but also idk im a virgin so that’s probably not smart cuz ik a lot of ppl dont want to sleep with people for the first time#and I think that’s fair! I just don’t have any options rn so.#unless there’s a volunteer I’m kinda stuck#I should just get a toy and it’ll be solved probably tbh#offline yaps
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Oh god is that a comicfrin drawing where they have whimsy quick someone throw that guy into a decades long timeloop
#keese draws#new game+#grips sink and tries not to cry#isat#ok anyways I just drew this because I wanted to try out an isat profile html someone on toyhouse made#plus I’ve been rotating early on less completely fucked up chou in my mind recently#anyways did you know that comicfrin (at least in one panel) doesn’t wear gloves? fun stuff#oh wait speaking of forgot to tag them#comic siffrin#anyways important note! them looking less disheveled than siffrin is on purpose#chou started off their loops Far more mentally stable than siffrin and actually managed pretty well their first run through#it still was rough and they still were a bit of a sad wet trembling puppy abt it but they were generally doing just fine#they didn’t even go on a self loathing monologue after their first death! who is this guy!#dw the self loathing is still there it just takes a bit longer to hit in full force since again they started off more stable#anyways I probably should have cross referenced some move animations for this but I think I got the point across that they’re a support#unit even if the turn passing gimmic is not rly evident (idk if I could make it evident tbf)#shout out to how in their default kit they have 6 turn passing skills and only one attacking skill#also said attack as a cooldown of. five turns. tbf that’s because it has a pretty strong secondary effect#they also have three other support moves where they boost different damage types for a round#so yeah they’re basically pure support which they sorta had to be at first because bestie started off at level like. 5.#they ofc switch up their kit pretty damn fast after the first run#but first time around when they were leveling at abt the same rate as everyone else they were content to play support
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Hey is there any way to do a sympathetic or even good-aligned Orange Lantern? We’ve had sympathetic/good red lanterns, yellow lanterns, star sapphires…I feel like orange is next, but how can avarice/greed be good? Maybe a character with a god complex is so bad it wraps back around from being a flaw to a virtue—like, maybe they’re so greedy that they think of the entire universe as being part of their possession, so anything that threatens the universe is something they would fight against. Like the same kind of vibe as a dragon that thinks of an entire village as their hoard, so they protect the village. Or maybe their greed manifests itself as greed for knowledge or greed for worship or greed for friends/allies (as, perhaps, types of “power”), so even if they’re not like fully heroic necessarily, they can still be complex and complicated and can play off of the other Lantern Corps in interesting ways.
#idk just a thought!#this might require larfleeze being dead but ykw. i’m not really opposed to that.#he’s a bit one-note imo. and he’s an enslaver!#simu's two cents#green lantern#orange lantern#this actually came about bc i was thinking about oh there’s like about as many human GLs#as there r emotional corps. so. it could be fun to think abt oh if u HAD to assign each of the human GLs to a different corps#which one would they be in#i think hal NEEDS to stay in green like he lives and bleeds green.#guy has already been red. but he also has been combo w star sapphire right. love for his corps and whatever.#kyle has been white duh but he’s also v compassionate. could see him being#indigo. jessica has been yellow and honestly i would just put her as yellow straight away that’s really interesting for her#wait hmmm. kyle can also be blue for hope. OR ACTUALLY i think i want simon to be blue. bc he can heal ppl right.#okay wait i’ve lost track#john can be….. FUCK!!! he was indigo.#jo can be …… erm… hmmm…#yeah see that’s the problem when one of the corps is orange which has never really been seen as sympathetic. atleast not that i know of yet#i was gonna say jo can be red but like SPECIFICALLY as an inversion of the typical red lantern vomiting blood and going crazy archetype#bc one of her main character traits is that she’s very level headed so her being a red lantern is bc she can handle it. u see what i’m sayi#like that character from witch who is very level headed so was chosen to be fire bc she can handle it#idk i never watched witch#jo can be red. SOMEONE is orange. jess is yellow. hal is green.#simon is blue. guy is violet.#who’s left#AH FUCK IS KYLE ORANGE???#wait kyle is indigo.#FUCK IS JOHN ORANGE THATS WORSE.#IK THIS IS BY PROCESS OF ELIMINATION SO I CAN SHUFFLE THESE GUYS AROUND MORE BUT FUCK.#fuuuuuuuuck
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ik y’all are here for Outsiders but Jesus Christ- in case ya haven’t noticed, I rewatched Risky Business recently and it has wrecked me
like i watched it a while ago and thought it was weird but funny and a little uncomfortable. But now holy shit. I’ve put like actual thought into it. I get it now. I could write an essay about it. I swear I could.
Something about the combination of weird offbeat comedy, the tragedy of Lana’s story that only is fully acknowledged in the director’s cut, Joel’s obvious inexperience and teenage-ness that shines through in everything he does without coming off as stupid or overly naive…the way Lana’s just a kid too but is forced to grow up so so fast…
the Reagan-era politics that I’m not educated enough to analyze properly…
“Looks like University of Illinois!”
…The fact that Joel ends up successful while Lana doesn’t even though she did the majority of the work because he has privileges she can’t even dream of…and the way that kinda reflects reality with how Risky Business made Tom Cruise a movie star while Rebecca De Mornay (and the director too) faded to relative obscurity…
And fuckin Curtis Armstrong’s character (he’s always amazing in everything ever I think)
Just. My thoughts ain’t the most coherent rn- But holy shit this movie man. Like everyone knows the dancing ‘round in briefs scene -and I mean, fair enough it is classic, I’ll admit- but lord there’s so much more to it and it’s a shame that all I ever hear folks talk about is that. Like I ain’t even touched on the soundtrack yet or the vague surrealist feel or how relatable and human Joel Goodson is- augh
#risky business#rambling#joel goodson#80s movies#ikik no one cares abt this but I CARE OK#this fuckin movie kills me#and I can’t talk abt it irl b/c no one else I know has seen it#also I don’t think they’d like it lol the mindsets r prob too dated for my irl friends#which is…fine ig but kind of a shame#that’s ok tho ig. Feel like introducing someone to this film irl would be a painfully awkward task lol. what with all the yk. sex n all.#(which was really well done btw)#(it would like…be mid steamy scene but then it’d pan to Joel’s childhood pictures n really hammer home how much of a *kid* he is)#(And that was a really cool detail imo)#(THAT SOUNDS WEIRD HUH! IM A MINOR OK IM A MINOR)#just idk man I’ve been thinking about this damn film for the past week#fuck you paul brickman for making Chicago look *cool* >:(#no wonder I like risky business it’s just Ferris Buller dialed up to 100 and put on drugs lol#(Jkjk they’re massively different despite similarities in the plots lol. Ferris and Joel couldn’t be more different)#(See Ferris is who I *wanna* be n Joel is who I *am*/hj)
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so in other news i think i will in fact be taking a break <3
#was going to be mysterious and drop off the face of the earth but my therapist told me i gotta let people know when im going thru somethinnn#not sure how longggg could be three days could be three months#(it won’t be three months…i hope……)#the urge to be unserious consumes me but if i’m being deadass#i’ve been struggling a little bittt 😝#it could just be a moment of overwhelm/shitty couple of nights#but it could be something more and either way i need to take a sec and gather myself#think abt what im doing here and why#so this is kitty signing off (on my main at least) for a bit!#mututals my beloveds if u want to reach me u can just msg me tbh <3 tag u speed dial for a reason#or hmu for my sideblog (disclaimer tho it’s mostly just rbs and the occasional random waking thought)#kitty.core#also big thank u n fat kiss on the forehead + hugs to anyone whos sent me kind words!! <33 ily all more than you’ll ever knowwww 🫂 💋#is it a cry for help that i have radiohead in my pinned……#leave it to kitty to come up w a theme for dissociation !#goodnight love u all see u soon hopefully <33
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y’know. something that gets overlooked often is kate’s video, and the confirmed implications of it.
whether you believe nathan assaulted kate or not, this doesn’t take away from the fact she was canonically sa’d by multiple boys at the vortex club party. there are no names given, but we know this is undoubtedly true due to the video’s existence as well as everyone talking about the contents within said video. we also know that kate was visibly out of it in the video given max’s remarks when she finds it on victoria’s computer, and that passed out girls are a common sight at vortex club parties given the unresponsive student across hayden at the end-of-the-world bash :

regardless of where you stand on nathan’s involvement, it is undoubtedly obvious that kate is a victim of sexual assault. she was drugged and then mauled by a group of boys who could probably tell something was wrong, but just didn’t care enough to check. after all, as victoria puts it, people get wasted all the time … how are they supposed to protect or care for every which one of them? ( excuses! )
lis:1 in general has always handled sexual assault with nuance so rarely found in media. they do not make harsh lines in the sand about what ‘counts’ or not. they do not make a show of brutalizing the women on our screen via borderline fetish content like most do when discussing themes of rape. instead, there are undertones : max in lis:de, for example, treats the dark room like a sexual assault trauma specifically. she also goes through her own victim blaming by harping on how attractive she found jefferson, how much she wanted to marry him … this occurs in her nightmare as well, where max behaves as though she wanted what happened, what jefferson did to her, when we know she didn’t. obviously, max was not raped. she was not kissed or groped. but there is an underlying sexual gratification jefferson gets from framing her -- there are perverted comments whispered in her ear, she’s being posed with her purity being talked about, and she is being photographed in a vulnerable, helpless state. it just paints a picture. max comes out of it well aware that jefferson was into it, into seeing her that way, and he moved her while she was unconscious and took his sick photos and that’s enough for the trauma to settle in the sexual assault category. most people wouldn’t count it as that, but the game itself does. the dark room has always been a heavy handed look into young girls being abused and preyed on by older men. it is not shocking that it’s one big metaphor for sexual abuse as well, especially sexual abuse that is demeaned and invalidated by others, sexual abuse that isn’t believed. cue jefferson’s whole character. a man who is too perfect and beloved to suspect. a man who told kate to her face that she’s just seeking attention and likely enjoyed what happened to her. a man who got away with such remarks.
the newspapers go out of their way to claim there isn’t any evidence of sexual assault among the victims, and i believe that’s because they weren’t assaulted in the only way the public cares to look, which is penetrative sex. i could also see the article lying, as papers do, but i think it paints a more prominent picture of how weird people are about sexual assault victims and how downright demanding they are about what counts, what doesn’t, and what’s okay for victims to do or say about their own experiences. it is all rather disgusting, honestly! and i’ve always been enamored by the more complicated, unpopular takes lis:1 took with that plot. i feel like to harp on sexual trauma that genuinely isn’t confirmed and to then ignore the girls’ actual sexual assault ( jefferson, the vortex club ) does a rather huge disservice to the game’s more interesting themes. to put it plainly, it’s a major simplifying tale of the story.
#tbt.#tw sa#been thinking abt this forever tbh?? like. why does nobody actually talk about that damn video#i just find it amusing when people act like nathan decides kate’s victimhood or not. because he doesn’t.#whether he touched her or not doesnt matter — she was canonically touched at that party and recorded and MOCKED for it#multiple boys touched her. this is an undeniable fact. the boys are anonymous but they are confirmed#to act like saying that nathan didn’t assault her removes her victimhood is frankly ignorant and weird to me#he’s already a pretty shitty guy? like. we KNOW he’s done fucked up shit.#whether he touched her or not doesn’t negate the fact he drugged her at all and let that happen to begin with lol#why are some people so …. obsessed? with the fact that he supposedly sa’d her?#again. i don’t care whether you hc that he did or not. i could see either or but! some people are weirdos about it#and i think making very bold takes about kate’s victimhood is weird as fuck anyway#a.) way to prove the game’s themes right in the fact that people are so weird about sa to begin with#and how people act like dictators and actively take away victim’s voices by using big scary words to prove that their opinions are right#and everyone else’s is wrong so if you’re wrong you’re actually disgusting and don’t care about sa#and b.) some of you ONLY view kate as a victim of nathan and nothing more. or just a victim in general. and i think that’s interesting!!#anyway this isnt about any mutuals dw dw but like i’ve had this in my drafts for five days so im releasing it!!#how lis handles sa is so important to me and i hate that people dumb it down and turn it into a morality war??? so weird#but yeah <3 will try to respond to msgs later today
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Well I got back from the mall! I got my fav cheesecake at the Cheesecake Factory in there (my favorite comfort food is at this restaurant, don’t clown me for this like everyone has irl 😭)
I accidentally took the bus in the wrong direction so I took a little longer but I got home in the end safe and sound :)
I didn’t end up buying anything bc I got scared of like. Idk. I got scared.
But it was fun to look around and see what’s changed!
#idk why I got scared to be very honest with you#like I found some rlly cute clothes at the Macys that’s going out of business in our mall so everything is on sale#so it was all rlly affordable but they were all rlly conventionally ‘girly’ clothes and I haven’t rlly worn that kinda thing in a long time#and I feel weird abt it rn even tho i rllyyyy want to again :(#I’m afraid everyone will think im ugly if I try to dress feminine bc I pass so well as a dude :(#like obviously I’m not SUPER cis looking but literally everyone i interacted with today that used gendered terms addressed me with#masculine language ‘young man’ ‘sir’ etc#so I know I pass well as a guy#which is great genuinely I love it!!#but I’ve been feeling so much more fem lately and I just don’t get to express it irl atm :(
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finally stress cried abt my big interview tmrw but this was always gonna happen eventually . i won’t let it demoralise me tho i gotta pick myself back up !!!!!!
#smth abt this process teaching me to not infantalise myself so much..#in the sense that i’m always feeling like a child who doesn’t know what to do around everyone else who’s Grown Up and does#n i think i let myself feed into that for too long . tho not surprising bc it feels like my parents purposely try to make me feel that way#but esp w the support i’ve been getting at my work experience n w my aunt/uncle it’s like. this is more than within my capabilities#n i’ve been getting better at believing that about myself but it’s been smth very deliberate n takes lots of effort to keep reminding mysel#anyway sorry 2 ramble i’m just getting my thoughts out here lol
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my favorite game: do you feel that way about your body because you’re transgender because you’re neurodivergent or because you’re a furry and/or therian
#marzi speaks#i have never felt like my body was Me . and i’m thinking abt that tonite it seems#i don’t like. dislike my body. we’re chill. the vasculitis is a bit shit but we’ll manage#but i’ve never felt too attached to it either. it’s just kinda the vessel my consciousness uses to navigate the world or whateva#but i don’t know . where that dissociation stems from. n it’s weird#i’ve had to focus more on tuning in with my body since i got my diagnosis. bc if smth goes wrong i need to be able to identify it#so i’ve been trying to re-associate myself with my Physical Forme#and it’s weird. in my head i’m like. not a human being. yanno#is that gender. is that alienation. is that being a funny little pine marten. i do not know
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Are you sad? Are you miserable? Is your life falling apart? Is your body falling apart? Does your head feel like it’s full of cotton, or perhaps TV static? Does it feel like the world is crumbling around you? Is it getting harder to force yourself through the daily motions? Is happiness getting increasingly harder to find?
Why not consider making a large, hyperfixation-fueled impulse purchase?
They won’t tell you this, but all of the happiness and satisfaction you’re searching for, along with each of those little chemicals that make your brain feel good, are all hidden within your very next large, hyperfixation-fueled impulse purchase!
So why don’t you go on ahead and grab that credit card, throw caution to the wind, and chase that good feeling? You certainly won’t regret it. No one has ever regretted making a large, hyperfixation-fueled impulse purchase! Never!
#vent post#didn’t make this post with the intention to sound vaguely like a WTNV fake-sponsorship segment but here we are i guess lmao#anyways hello i have been taking measurements and making calculations and having a big ol’ time all morning#having a lot of genuine fun making Plans for my latest Big Idea that i’ve been cooking up#but then i ran into a wall and the flow-state crashed and reality and self-awareness set back in and now im here yapping abt it#the large purchase is for once actually not in reference to whaling on gacha games this time#Spring has arrived and with it my Aquarium Addiction has once again been revived and i have. Plans#that may or may not involve placing a $500+ order for a custom acrylic aquarium. :)#bc i just can’t have normal hobbies nooOOOO it’s always gotta be the most difficult stressful and expensive shit on earth#but after the past 3 days of planning and moving things around in the house and throwing my back out#i have just realized that the aquarium stand i planned to use will need Further modifications in order to be compatible. fuck!!!#and so as usual when i hit any minor speed-bump while on my fixation-train. i have crashed the train and set it on fire and am debating#abandoning the project entirely. bc i would need to ask **** for help with modifying the stand. and **** is Not in the mood to help me.#like not just for today but for the foreseeable future or maybe ever. i think i’ve already reached his limit of help for this#if i go in there like ‘heeeyyy so y’know that stand i had you spend all that time reinforcing? yeah it needs more. more modifications.’#and i actually don’t even know if it can even be made to work at this point. and i do Not have the money for a new stand#the tank is one thing but the whole point of this project was to make use of the stand i already have#without that it’s just an unjustifiable waste of money bc im starved for happy chemicals and want a big new aquarium to distract me.#anyways i haven’t. Ordered the tank yet. in spite of my use of the term ‘impulse’ im not. That unhinged with money#i won’t order it until i know For Certain that everything else about the plan will work. but sighhhh man i don’t know if it will!!!#but now i’ve got my heart all set on this plan (as if i really need 50 more gallons of water in my room) and i don’t wanna let it goooooo#maybe i’ll try to ask him when/if he’s in a better mood tomorrow. maybe it can still work. but until then i must distract myself#or im just gonna sit here tweaking the plan until i get a migraine bc i am addicted to. making aquarium plans. for some reason.#in other (related) news thanks to the fucking tariffs my $170 Venti cape order had to be cancelled bc i just cannot pay another $200#in tariffs just to get the fucking thing into the country. so that has been refunded and my Dream Venti Cape will have to remain a dream#maybe one day i will try to find someone within the US that i could perhaps commission to make me a custom cape. but not today#bc the Fish have taken back over my brain and i turned around and spent the cape money on… More Fish for my existing aquariums 😔#like Yes i Am aware that im using this all to distract myself from The Horrors in the rest of my life and that it’s not sustainable#but after looking for so long and finding nothing but pink ones how do i turn down brown dojo loaches being sold for $5 a pop??? i Had to.#ok im out of tags so that means it’s time to shut up and go do a water change on the 55gal before i get too tired to do it today.
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I was gonna write an essay months and months ago on why I personally didn’t feel like I needed chapter 2 of 8:11 because I feel there’s enough in the story to hint at what happened prior to the game and where the game is going and that a completely open ended story was kind of cool and that it would be fine if dubuk felt he no longer needed to continue it for whatever reason. And I didn’t bother finishing it because it felt contrarian and pretentious as hell, and now that dubuk has actually made a statement on not finishing it, it just feels . Weird i guess.
#I have so many thoughts about 8:11 chapter one serving as a standalone game tho lol#I personally think it stands alone fine. you can’t be normal about it to have that conclusion but I’m not normal abt it#is it fair to expect ppl to spend hours replaying it and pouring over and connecting all the minute details? no.#and that’s why I know I’m the weird one lol#if you only play through it once with no desire to go back and connect all the details then yeah I suppose you would want chapter 2#to explain things to you if anything#but I’m the freak with the conspiracy board who wanted to figure it all out myself LOL#anyway. there’s no right way to enjoy the game my point is just that you CAN discern at least a vague idea of what’s going on#and what logically comes next. of course there’s still lots I don’t understand#or things that could seem important but mean nothing#I’ll never know. and frankly I’m fine with that lol#I will also say I’ve seen this coming for a while now#it was still surprising to see it written out plainly that chapter two won’t be released but I’ve been expecting it for a while#and again. that’s fine. I’m a little sad I won’t get to see what was in dubuk’s brain for the ending or get more info about vivi#but I don’t think it’s necessarily bad that he can have his true version of 8:11 in his head and the rest of us get to speculate#then the mystery continues I guess. forever and ever as long as he keeps being subtle and hinting at things lol#they call me the yapper
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in my beautiful version i think hunt offered claire the lead role in the last duchess in 2016. i love nepotism and cronyism <- that’s their entire relationship if you think about it. but she refused it because: 1. she’s very proud and 2. she actually wanted to build her career first. i think her acting career is literally the only thing in her life that she would not take the easy road. it’s something too dear to her. and well it’s basically all she has. i think claire would hate to have her career defined as a director’s lead actress from that point on instead of a lead actress in a movie period. maybe when she’s more established he can put her in whatever film he wants to. and he will. but anyway she only accepts the role after she gets her first oscar nom in 2018. notice how his loser ass waited three years (release date in 2019)
related to this as well, i think claire would hate to be known as hunt’s something in general. that’s one of the issues she had with marrying him. i mean barely anyone knows they’re together anyway before they get engaged. i do think this is something that kinda stems from the genesis of their relationship, but it’s also a claire thing. like i said, she’s very proud. she gets his surname but you will Never see her referring to herself as Claire H*nt or using his surname in any shape or form. i won’t either. it feels super weird who even is this person. not my beautiful princess Claire Swanson
#oc: claire swanson#huntclaire#about hunt and claire being very weird about their relationship once they’re ‘public’ is that they’re not public at all about it#if you remember the divorce post. i explained their weirdness there. divorced couple who never divorced and you actually don’t even know if#they’re together or if they’re just weird like that. world’s biggest mystery#anyway i think as much as claire had grown tired of dating him in secret both of them kinda grew used to. like. being private about it#i think that’s natural for hunt but i think with claire it really plays into her proudness + it bothers her how she#can’t subvert the power dynamic. lol. because that’s her entire thing. right. i’ve listed some of the men she dated. she likes putting them#in situations and making them push their boundaries. so like that’s what this guy does when he’s her professor but once he’s not anymore#what’s she’s gonna do about it. i think the divorcee act does it for her. weird woman#<- anyway this relates more to the second part of the post than the main thing abt it which is her role in the last duchess#which is the only rcd thing you’ll see me using. + also kinda how her dynamic with him works if slash when they work together.#maybe these tags should’ve been a post on their own but oh well
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sketch for my centenarian SuperLantern AU… might color + line later
#explaining the au would take at least 3 long paragraphs but just know i am in the spitballing phase rn 👍👍#technically i’m writing bits here and there tho#superlantern#hal jordan#clark kent#green lantern#superman#centenarian superlantern au#road trip pact au#another name i was considering for this au was Hal and Clark Discover The Secrets Of The Universe but#1) i read that book a long time ago 2) i didn’t even like t that much and 3) it doesn’t even have anything to do with the plot of this au#don’t worry about the cape physics on clark#also u can’t reallt see it but hal has the gray patches like before/during he became parallax#dw there’s an explanation for why hal is still alive and kicking even if he’s 100+ yo#see the thing is with superlantern is that both clark and hal have wayyy more prominent ships and more to the point way more prominent#PPL in their lives that they would more likely get together with right?#like obvi clark could be with lois or even bruce and hal has carol or sinestro or barry#so i was kinda thinking about hey what if there was a world in which one or more of those other ships happened BEFORE superlantern#and it kinda collided with some other ideas i’ve been thinking abt and this au just slid into place#i can explain this au more in depth…at a later time… if there is interest
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i lost the post but i saw someone talking about how some of y’all act like being weird is a choice and like. YEAHHHHHHH.
that’s fine, it might be for you. but i just live like this and don’t know any other way. like yeah i’ve worked customer service, i can do innocuous small talk, but anything beyond that, i don’t understand what i’m missing. and it’s frustrating to see the tonal disconnect especially from people who are like “uwu embrace weirdness!!” where they’re like. dressing quirky and talking about bugs and listening to obscure music and eschewing small talk to ask Deep Questions on the first date and unlearning their tendency to not infodump. and generally have an idea of what Weirdness is supposed to look like. idk man some of us wake up and get out of bed and can’t figure out why the rest of their coworkers chitchat with each other but when they join the conversation it dies.
weirdness is value neutral. let’s stop trying to turn it into a badge because quite frankly, it’s not a choice for everyone. it’s fucking exhausting to never be on the same wavelength as other people and they’re going to react the way they do and label you the way they will without any conscious actions on your end. it’s difficult to talk about this without feeling like you’ll be dismissed as immature, a teenager whining “no one understands me” but the thing is. sometimes you don’t grow out of feeling alone and different, and there’s no good way to talk about it without feeling like people will think you’re just fishing for pity.
#most of it is stuff i can’t help like!!!#coworkers and i don’t share a lot of interests so i’m always like. yes i’ve heard of that show but haven’t seen it. no idk that band sorry#and they’ll like. talk shit abt other people who share my interests without realizing that i also like those things#so i just have to sit there and take it#i feel like i don’t have a lot in common with my friends even. a few shared interests but very different lives#in my experience the conscious choice has been to try to keep up with what’s popular but it’s just. not interesting to me#i got bored and forgot to finish s2 of stranger things and never picked it back up#even alt subcultures have gone kinda mainstream and i never quite slot in#let’s not even touch the gay culture ‘flags’ that are extremely online and unrelatablr#and the most frustrating thing. every time i try to talk about myself and my interests i feel people shutting down#one person i know. open mouth sighs in exasperation when i open my mouth#i don’t know why you’re making it my problem that we’re different#i know there is supposed to be a niche out there for everyone but some of that feels like#those niches are falling prey to marketability. if you’re too far out of the mainstream. too out of touch. it can’t be helped#a lot of messaging online is like. embrace weirdness but only if it’s subversive in a very specific way#too normal to hang out with self-proclaimed proud weirdos. too weird to hang out with normies#like i thought the thing was to disavow performativity. i’m sorry i don’t find the same things interesting#i don’t care about the office and you don’t care about the hundred years’ war. that’s fine. why is that seen as a personal fault of mine#i feel like some of the reaction i get might be bc it comes across as hipster shit. idk#i’m literally just oblivious and looking for any kind of indicator for social interaction#but so often it feels like the onus of finding common ground is on me. i have to listen abt things idk but no one cares what i have to say#i think what makes it more frustrating is this reaction from people who claim to not care. do their own thing#and then get annoyed when i do mine and it’s. different#instead of being like ‘fuck the mainstream! conformity is bullshit! be yourself!’ it’s like#‘fuck the mainstream because it doesn’t appeal to me personally and i’ve made my own club!’#and this is not going to come out right because i’m just at my limit and venting and don’t know how to say things the right way#so people don’t misunderstand me#i just happen to never like the Right Things and know the Right Things and act the Right Way and idk how else to say it other than#can we be more normal about weird people#idk it’s hard to talk abt this without sounding like i’m just complaining but i’m more bewildered and trying to state things as i see them
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i’ve been having a hard time realizing and grieving my naivety/lack of intuition, especially relating to autism and ocd. there’s smth so helpless in feeling like you can’t trust yourself. but i think i’m starting to reach a point of balance. ik i don’t have the best judgment, but maybe my intuition can be the kindness i judged as naivety
i just couldn’t accept the idea that kindness (as far as i understood it at least) could have led me into harm’s way, especially bc protecting myself feels so “cruel,” so maybe that’s not the narrative i have to accept. sometimes i feel like i’m slipping into old habits when i catch myself giving someone a second chance, or the benefit of the doubt, but it’s not the same now as it was before. kindness never led me into harm’s way, it was my lack of trust in myself. i don’t need to dial in my kindness, i just need to strengthen my trust. i need to practice informed kindness
#this sounds so obvious writing it out and i’m sure it’s smth most ppl innately understand#but i have a huge fear of becoming jaded and i thought self-improvement meant i would lose a part of myself#i only recently found out that other ppl have to choose to care. did everyone else know this. did you guys know that caring is a choice#learning this has explained. SO MUCH. abt the way ppl have treated and interacted w me#so i’ve had to force myself to care less abt things this yr and let me tell you it’s been a hellish learning curve lmao#i think for the best tho. i think being more discerning is helping me strengthen my self-trust#i don’t think anyone in my life can tell that anything’s changed either so that’s good. it means i haven’t lost anything#just gaining#danbles#autisms#ocd#edit: i don’t want to conflate caring w kindness btw that’s not what i meant#idk how to explain it actually writing this out made me tired. kindness comes from caring but caring can be cruel too#which is why i want to care less to be able to keep being kind#or smth like that. idk it’s 3am gn
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#vent post#vent blogging#Seven’s Public Diary#motivating myself to study for my driver’s permit by thinking of the Freedom and independence a license would grant me? ❌ 1/10 ineffective#motivating myself to study for my driver’s permit by imagining all the new & different possible ways i could become injured in a car crash?#✅ 7/10 it just might fucking work!!!#the only true cure for OCD is to face one’s fears. but i just might be able to find a loophole via my ever-worsening mental health#because you don’t have to Face your fears if you don’t Have any fears#and in order to rid myself of my fears regarding harm coming to myself. i simply have to stop fearing being harmed#and what better way to stop fearing it than to actively crave it!#or at the very least become so overwhelmed that i lose the capacity to feel any particular way about it#i’ve found a new OCD cure everybody - Just Stop Caring™️ /sarc#well. sarcastic or joking for everyone else. but im serious when it applies to me#bc so much of my anxiety comes from feeling unsafe. so i just have to reach the point where i stop caring if im safe or not. easy peasy#like yes i know this is flawed and unhealthy logic but i’ve resisted more compulsions via this method lately than i have via anything else#and even outside of OCD stuff even just for all my other anxiety disorders it’s also worked. im actually making a modicum of progress now#need to make a scary phone call? just get into a 3-hour family argument and then you’ll be so upset that you don’t feel fear! :)#genuinely worked very well. scared of a home invasion? well at least it’d mean you’d have some different company for once!#you might make a new friend! or if they **** you at least you’d have some Real trauma for once. it’s a win-win honestly …/hj#so. scared to drive? well even if you Do crash at least it might lead to a hospital visit and then you’ll finally get that attention you-#-want so fucking badly! you’ll finally get a break from everything while you recover. or even if you don’t survive- well. i shan’t say.#anyways. the ‘you’ in those tags is me talking to myself for the record. i wouldn’t speak to anyone else like this. i just speak in the-#-wrong tense/person sometimes. don’t know what’s up with that. just another reason i need to stop speaking altogether. as i’ve learned#i’ve been trying So fucking hard to be nice lately. letting them walk all over me. and it’s still not enough. cause i’m always-#-‘using the wrong tone’ and ‘if all im gonna do is say smthn negative i just shouldn’t speak at all’ ..okay! gladly!!!#sorry for being autistic and unsocialized and under immense stress and being unable to keep my ‘tone’ under control. my bad.#i just need to get blackout drunk with Venti at Angel’s Share. that would fix me.#that or heading down to the bottom of the Fortress of Meropide and curl up like a dog under Wriothesley’s desk. head empty no thoughts#not sexually. just. in a pet-regression sense. i can’t stop thinking abt it. i wanna write a oneshot for it but i can’t focus these days#anyways. the delusional maladaptive daydream dissociation will continue until morale improves. and brother it’s only getting worse.
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