#bisexual stigma

[angieblogging]

guys bisexuality isn’t always and really never a stepping stone to becoming a lesbian or straight.

sure sexuality can be fluid, but in most cases (from what i’ve seen) people who id as bi, but aren’t, do so, because they mistake their attraction! simple as that.

it’s not that they were sexually/romantically attracted to all genders, but rather that they mistook some sort of feeling/another type of attraction as sexual/romantic.

like imagine this, there’s a girl named Sue, cause i said so 🧍‍♀️

so sue thinks she she’s bi because she fell for her girl bestfriend, in reality she doesn’t and never has liked men, but she did id as bi for a couple years before realising it’s comphet.

she was never bi to begin with.

* note: there is NOTHING wrong with trying out new labels! *

the point is bisexuality is very real, not a phase or a stepping stone where you suddenly loose attraction to a specific gender!

[tiredyke]

lesbophobia does not invalidate, negate, or take precedence over biphobia. biphobia does not invalidate, negate or take precedence over lesbophobia. both forms of discrimination coexist and deserve to be discussed and taken seriously. neither is more important or more valid than the other. our experiences being different does not mean that they are contradictory, or that the existence of one means the other is erased. stop positioning us at odds with each other. if we can’t have meaningful conversations about how lesbophobia and biphobia both manifest in different ways and how they affect us, we aren’t going to get anywhere.

[hellyeahscarleteen]

"For me, a lot of my internalized biphobia came from the way I related my sexuality to the concept of masculinity I had in my head. Never particularly stereotypically masculine⁠, I was often asked if I was gay growing up for daring to deviate even slightly from the norm. And I felt like, by being bi, I was proving people right – that I wasn’t ‘normal’.  It took me a while to work out exactly why I didn’t feel comfortable being bisexual, and it was almost a relief when I realized – and as time went on, I began to care less about what other people thought of me.

If you’re in a similar situation, it can be beneficial to really think about why you might be feeling this way. Is your biphobia influenced by peers from school, an old sports coach, movies you’ve seen, or things you’ve read online? By working out the source of your internalized biphobia, you can go some way to getting a handle on it."

Adam England, Hi, Bi Guy: Dealing with Internalized Biphobia

[allwomenjointhe4bmovement]

Bi women being lesbophobic and racist part 10,0000000

The op she was quoting isn't even a lesbian!!! And never revealed his race, so that's not even a "White lesbian"! That's a fvcking man!

And they wonder why lesbians hate them!

More lesbophobic bisexuals👇

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[lungthief]

this is a really good concrete example of the exact reason i get so annoyed with the idea of “straight-passing relationships” specifically as a bisexual woman because my relationship to queerness and lived experience with queerness IS SO DIFFERENT FROM STRAIGHT PEOPLE REGARDLESS OF MY PARTNERS. my identity is not my current partner my identity is ME you can’t fucking take that away from me sorry. you just can’t i fought too hard to find joy in it and forgive myself for it

[sunflowerdragonsunny]

I think I really hate the trend of bi women calling their boyfriends "fruity" to justify dating them/ bringing them to pride.

First of all, they usually equate their "fruitiness" with certain behaviors that you can clearly insinuate they interpret as feminine. Insisting that certain behaviors make straight men "kinda gay" is not helpful in dispelling the misogynistic idea that any behavior that falls outside of macho masculinity is effeminating and makes men gay.

But most importantly, Bi people don't need to justify their choice of partner. There is nothing wrong with dating a straight man. There is nothing wrong with loving straight men. There is nothing inherently wrong with being a straight man. Bi women aren't less valid for dating men. Stop criticizing bi women for their choices. Full stop.

[bisexualseraphim]

I’m about to say some shit that a lot of you are really not gonna want to hear.

If you call yourself a trans ally but constantly put men down, you are not a trans ally.

If you call yourself body positive but call men ugly or make fun of them for having small dicks, you are not body positive.

If you call yourself a mental health advocate but that advocacy doesn’t include people with personality disorders or psychotics, you are not a mental health advocate.

If you call yourself pro-choice but object to a woman partaking in sex work or surrogacy, you are not pro-choice.

If you call yourself kink positive but shame others for having non-harmful unorthodox fantasies you personally don’t like, you are not kink positive.

If you claim to accept bisexuals but feel disgust at their “opposite gender” attraction, you are partaking in biphobia.

If you claim to be against xenophobia but make fun of other people’s accents or dialects, you are partaking in xenophobia.

If you claim to be for class solidarity but make fun of working class people’s dialects, food, clothes or culture, you are partaking in classism.

If you claim to be against Islamophobia but find yourself associating Islam with terrorism, you are partaking in Islamophobia.

If you claim to be against antisemitism but find yourself regularly calling Jews Zionists, you are partaking in antisemitism.

I’m not saying any of this makes you A Xenophobe™️ or inherently bigoted. But these are just a few things many leftists still need to unlearn when it comes to seeking true acceptance and equality, and I see far too much of this behaviour on this website from people who claim to be ardently against it. Everyone has subconscious prejudices that need to be addressed and what matters is making the effort to improve on that behaviour once it’s been recognised. These are just examples that have stood out to me the most lately and there will be more because none of us are perfect and I have been guilty of these before as well. I just hope to see change and growth rather than indignation.

[tryingforthedelicatehopeofitall]

I am actually crying after watching that scene for like 15 times straight (gay). Everything in that scene just pulls at my heart strings.

Sipping tea (I am assuming it's tea)!!!! Comfy clothes!!! The way they are so comfortably sharing each other's space!!!

The way Wylan opens up to Jesper and tells him that Ketterdam has never really felt like a home. I haven't read the books yet but from the fics I do know that he has had an abusive childhood and his own house surely could have never felt quite like home either.

The way Wylan tries to be so nonchalant while saying “so of course I came back” and then the way he says with conviction that there's no one better than him!!!! I am so proud of him 🥹

And then the way Jesper is listening to him so intently and then makes that key with the coin he was playing around with in his other hand and the twinkling sounds in the background 🥹

It's so obvious that it's a key but Wylan does not assume and asks Jesper what the key opens. The way Wylan is a bit unsure and then hopeful but still processing the information that yes indeed that key is the key to the kingdom inside Jesper's room that could be their home :"",,,)

And I cannot even process that kiss right now. ...

I am just so emotional right now. Wylan and Jesper and their love means so much to me 💙💜💖🫶🏼

[batemanofficial]

i must resist the urge to wade into the waters of discourse so i'll be vague but must all discussions of lesbian identity on this website center around men

[angieblogging]

your preferences as a bisexual do not make you any less bi.

you can prefer women, you can prefer men or have no preference!

rock on, bisexuals.

[twelvedimensional]

reading thru the live reportage of india's same sex marriage hearings and I am actually losing my mind

[allwomenjointhe4bmovement]

A gentle reminder that "biphobia" is not a real form of oppression and bisexuals are in fact privileged🥰

[bidotorg]

What is biphobia? Isn't it just watered-down homophobia? Let's talk about it!

[eradami]

Plants can evolve between monoecious and dioecious fairly quickly. I think the main application of being dioecious is that it prevents the plant from self-fertilizing, so whether mono- or dioecious is better mostly depends on whether selfing is useful in the current environment.

And sometimes it's kind of a wash, and you get strawberries experimenting with their gender.

dichotomous plants are so weird man. like they’re not even weird it’s the becoming the dichotomous that’s weird. i went to a talk once about a population of strawberries that were accidentally slowly becoming dichotomous and they didn’t even have sex chromosomes, like they had like a bunch of genes across a bunch of chromosomes that did a little bit of sex but not a lot and it added up to one whole sex kind of but not enough that they had all collectively decided to be one sex or the other, so there was still like, a sizable chunk of the population that was producing flowers of both sexes. like they were microdosing it. taking the sex genes for a spin in the strawberry patch

[cyarskaren52]

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boohooMAN has dropped the rapper from their campaign and condemned his homophobic actions.⁠

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In a statement posted to Instagram, the fashion retailer said they “will no longer be working” with the rapper following his vicious and uneducated rant about HIV positive people at Rolling Loud Miami.⁠

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“Diversity and inclusion are part of the boohoo Groups DNA and we pride ourselves on representing the diverse customers we serve across the globe,” their statement reads.⁠

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“We stand by and support the LGBTQ+ community, and do not tolerate any hate speech or discrimination in any form.”⁠

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boohooMAN follows in the footsteps of Dua Lipa, who also released a statement criticising his comments. The British singer collaborated with the rapper on the remix of her critically-acclaimed Future Nostalgia single Levitating.⁠

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During his set at Rolling Loud Miami, DaBaby claimed that HIV positive people will “die in two to three weeks” before making derogatory comments about his gay fans “sucking d**k” in the parking lot.⁠

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After his comments were widely criticised online, the 29-year-old released a series of Instagram Stories doubling down on his ignorant views.⁠

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Watching his downfall is like watching a reviled villain get his comeuppance: something that was worth hoping for