#at least in the usa

[simplykaren]

This was the first time in a few years that I actually looked forward to getting my hair cut. I returned to the place I used a few months ago, because that was the first time since my old favorite salon (that specialized in handling curly hair) closed down that I actually enjoyed getting a haircut.

I have a tender scalp, very fine hair, and very curly hair. (We're talking my dad has a completely natural afro curly.)

People that are used to working with straight hair and treat my curly hair the same way usually end up trying to dry brush my hair and pull out a bunch of extra hair, because when dry it knots the second the brush leaves it. It's painful and very not fun.

The stylist I had last time--we'll call her A--followed all the curly hair rules. Only combed out when wet, never touched a brush, used a spray bottle to keep my hair damp while working with it, stuck to my natural curl patterns, and used a diffuser head on the blowdrier. It was great and pain-free, my hair looked beautiful, and it took me a good 30 minutes to shake off the contented haze afterward.

I knew I wouldn't get the same stylist today due to scheduling differences, but I had high hopes that if 1 stylist there knew the curly rules, then so did the others.

Not so much.

It was fine up until I saw the stylist pick up a roller brush and blowdrier (with a plain head). Granted, it wasn't as bad as the last place. I only lost maybe a dozen hairs instead of 50 to pulling, but it was a major letdown. Still tipped, but I think I'll make sure to get Stylist A next time, even if I have to ask for a day off to get it scheduled.

My hair is mostly straight at the moment, and I can't decide whether I want to wash my hair immediately when I get home or to wait til tomorrow morning to reset my curls. I haven't straightened my hair in over a decade. It looks so weird. I don't like it. I'm going to go shopping now as a consolation prize.

[murky-tannin]

Love acknowledging how people are arrested for labor purposes

[tomthefanboy]

M*I*S*S K*-*1*2

knuckle tattoo that says i am nostalgic for a time where i wasn't even happy

[half-orq]

Gonna rant for a second I've been anti-audible for a while --well over a decade, though it wasn't always a position of "Fuck Amazon" --I didn't see the point of paying for access to 1-3 audiobooks per month when I was reading that in a week for free from my library. Did I have to wait sometimes? Sure. but also I was reading 1-3 audiobooks in a week. There were other audiobooks to listen to in the week while I waited --and so I listened to my less popular series while waiting for the more popular series. (for context, the time I'm taking about I was working at a bakery that allowed me to have headphones in, as there were never customers (we worked in a warehouse and shipped to stores and restaurants) so I was listening to 40 hrs a week plus commute times, plus times when I was playing the sims) But what I especially hate is audible exclusives. I had (wrongly) assumed that if a book was audible exclusive, there would be no way to get the book in other formats elsewhere. I run a book club. We democratically select the books for the next year, as long as they are within a few guidelines (we have length requirements within the founding guidelines, we must be able to source them through the public library with the help of the ILL specialist, and I research each book for things like content, pacing, heaviness --so we don't have two slow somber books in a row, mostly, but also so I don't have more than one horror novel in a year type thing. Keeps the books interesting, and keeps the choices balanced.)

One book, requested last year by three members and so very much quickly made the list, ended up being an audible exclusive. I did not check for audible exclusivity when I was making the list --my club wanted to read a book, and I could see that we could get copies of the book, confirmed by the ILL specialist. Great!

Except!!! Except this is an accessibility issue. If someone, for any given reason, needs an audiobook to access this book club (as I often do as someone with adhd for ease but do not need need. I can get by with no audiobook if I must, but if someone has vision issues, well.). If someone needs it and does not want to or have the ability to pay for an audible subscription, they are locked out of that month's book club.

And man that fucking sucks.

[wearenotjustnumbers2]

Yesterday marked the 100th day of genocide. Please, do not get used to this. Our people, killed, bombed, kidnapped, stripped, executed and starved is not normal. Our kids in pieces, their body parts collected in bags is not normal.

Israel has killed 23,700 human. More than 10,300 child. We'd need 177 school bus to carry the Palestinian children killed by Israel in gaza. 10,022 fatherless child. 8,352 motherless child. The wounded have their wounds rot and die waiting in front of the crossing. Maggots seen inside alive people's wounds. 5,500 pregnant woman will give birth in the upcoming weeks. 100 Days of Genocide. 100 Days of the world watching silently.

[coywolfcollections]

Mustelids! (Prints available here)

[pinbones]

I've seen a few posts about women and pants now and many of them are very good, and not to nitpick those posts or downplay religious sexism or anything, but I have to emphasise:

Somebody who DOESN'T live in a controlling religious country/cult/family is also affected by sexism. We all know that, right? Secular parts of the first world also have opinions about how women dress, including when it comes to trousers, especially in childhood and in institutions like schools and the workplace

Me and many people my age (20s) remember being forced into skirts, punished and shamed by parents & teachers & peers & possibly then bosses about what we wear not being feminine enough, and it wasn't by deeply religious sects. Many updates to dress codes are very new and sexist views are still in place in many institutions. Normalised societal misogyny wants women (and people they want to treat as women) to dress femininely, down to what KIND of pants they're allowed to wear (compare a pink top and jeggings to mens jeans and tell me these two women are treated the same. Hating women in pantsuits is still a sexist office joke today, and even those outfits are feminine compared to male suits, which raise eyebrows when worn by women). The women I know who wear trousers regularly are literally otherwise feminine, and all wear dresses to events.

I know trousers have become much more normalised over the past few decades in secular society (yay!! the result of many many years of effort and lawbreaking) but let's not be absolute when we talk about the pants concept lol. Especially within a larger conversation about female/transmasc/intersex/transfem masculinity and social perceptions, especially in an age of rising fascism

[eggplantgifs]

Team Japan: 2022 Beijing Olympic Figure Skating Team Event Silver Medalists

Congratulations to Kaori Sakamoto, Wakaba Higuchi, Yuma Kagiyama, Shoma Uno (absent), Riku Miura, Ryuichi Kihara, Misato Komatsubara, and Tim Koleto! 🥈

[wherehaveallthekiwisgone]

A list of Kamala Harris accomplishments as Vice President:

Source

I never fuck with politics on this blog, but it is absolutely imperative that we ALL show up in November for the Democratic ticket, which will likely be headed by Vice President Kamala Harris. Our literal lives are on the line. The media is going to double down on sexist and racist attacks on her, but we need to show up in greater numbers than even 2020.

[kirby-the-gorb]

[kitkats-forthe-gays]

What do we think of the cute new bracelets?? :D

[shawnaise]

unrequited shawngus where shawn can’t confess to gus because gus has always been so easy to read and it’s obvious by the way he behaves that gus doesn’t like him like that. so he learns how to keep himself in check; and hell it works.. but in some instances gus will be especially himself in certain ways/scenarios and it’ll send a nauseating burn into shawn’s stomach; one that tastes a lot like the reality that he’ll always be a little bit in love with gus.

[k-i-l-l-e-r-b-e-e-6-9]

Ugly Kid Joe - Cats In The Cradle

[ravenkings]

i think the one advantage of elon allying himself so closely with trump is that some of elon's inherent cringiness might rub off on trump and the republican party which, if we know anything about the shallowness of the typical american voter, might be enough to knock them out

[dramatic-dolphin]

can u guys stop mentioning american political stuff on my posts like it's relevant, i don't live there + i don't know what that is + i don't care.

[lysscomplicated]

Outside, night.

A girl stands in a blue hoodie and jeans, ignoring the suburbia around her to stare at the clear, starry night. She looks up, peacefully.

Girl (loudly): MAN IT SURE WOULD SUCK IF THE TEMPORAL ANOMALY KNOWN AS THE MIDNIGHT DINER CAME AROUND. IT SURE WOULD BE BAD IF THE POINT OF NULL ENTROPY DROPPED RIGHT INFRONT OF THE WHITE HOUSE. MAN, I DO HOPE IT DOES NOT HAPPEN!