#as a person with moral OCD

[edraculation]

WE NEED TO LEAVE REBLOG BAIT IN 2023 PLEASEEEEEE

[wolfertinger666]

"ermm if you eat and use this type of pancake batter you're literally an evil person that should rot in the 9th layer of hell"

chef with moral OCD:

[nicollekidman]

realizing that people who equate cynicism with intellectual rigor are often just being lazy and pathetic has been so helpful tbh

[phoebespenglers]

can we please stop telling people to kill themselves and to rot in hell and that they deserve to be bullied and that they are inherently horrible people who deserve to die and get doxxed. please. can we please stop doing that.

[swords-and-chaos]

I’m about to go to sleep, but respectfully, I understand that y’all have important causes to talk about, especially right now, but could you please try to properly tag or trigger warning posts that are like “you’re an awful person if you don’t do x, y, and z” or “you aren’t really x unless you do y” . like we need to come up with a new trigger warning, because that shit is awful for my scrupulosity OCD and I’d imagine for others with it as well.

I’ve had to block several tags that I’d be embarrassed to say that I blocked just because all of the posts about it freak me the fuck out and make me have a panic attack about what an awful person I am that I’m not actively doing something about these issues at all moments of the day. I understand that these situations are important and difficult, but what good to the cause does giving people panic attacks do? I know y’all have the best of intentions with these posts, but they’re not always the most helpful. Like, people who aren’t triggered by them but dissagree probably will just be annoyed by them.

anyone who wants to add on mentions of similar formats of posts that can also be triggering in that way are welcome to.

[yourlocallostboy]

Saw this https://www.tumblr.com/anshelsgendercrisis/759583013442125824?source=share and I just wanted to say thank you.

Thank you for having an open mind, thank you for being willing to listen and change, thank you for having a moral compass.

Sorely needed and hugely appreciated right now. Thank you.

hi! thank you (every jewish person who reads this) for giving me a chance to be better. you'd have every right not to given how easily i traded my humanity for my own comfort, even temporarily.

i've been looking at this ask for hours and not knowing how to respond. it's difficult to process how little is expected of my fellow non-jews, and how we still (collectively) fail to meet the standards.

yesterday, i reblogged this. in the hours since, i've had about twice the engagement i've had ever, almost exclusively from jewish blogs.

it's both incredibly inspiring and heartbreaking.

i am so deeply inspired by how hopeful and kind so many jewish people are. everyone i have seen or interacted with on here, even when they're receiving vile hatred and are incredibly frustrated, stress that they want peace.

but it is so heartbreaking to see so many people who are doing exactly what i did. maybe for the same reasons, maybe for different ones, but still with the same effect. it's so hard to acknowledge when you were wrong, when you make mistakes, when you hurt people. it's so hard because i believe a lot of people truly don't want to hurt people. but they're not willing to confront their own discomfort to do it. i know, because i didn't. for months.

i want to say thank you to every jewish person on here. you are unbelievably strong, and i hope you all have a good day soon. i'm grateful for your patience.

and to every non-jew who has read this far, especially if you've been advocating for palestine or if you've been engaging with anti-zionist content: please, just for a moment, take a step back. i cannot understate how little nuance is accepted in (specifically western, i have no experience in other cultures) online spaces. even surrounding things not related to the conflict, there is next to no level of nuance.

i saw people who quite blatantly said "i almost always disagree with this person politically but now they're agreeing with me so obviously they've joined the 'good side'." without even for a moment stopping to think that maybe—maybe—they're wrong. maybe they're on the wrong side. maybe they're doing the wrong thing if someone they usually find does bad things is doing the same.

i thank whatever deities or higher powers there are out there in the big wide universe that my dad is an english teacher who grilled linguistic analysis and grammar into me from when i was a baby. i truly believe it was one of the only things that kept me from being radicalized beyond repair. because i was constantly skeptical of people in those spaces and disturbed by their lack of nuance. but i still believed everything they said so long as it wasn't overtly contradictory.

i won't say you haven't done anything bad or wrong. you probably have. i have. what i will say is that you always have the opportunity to be better. to choose peace instead of violence and kindness over hatred. it's a hard choice to make, and it's one you have to make over and over and over again. but i promise you it is worth it.

[six-of-cringe]

tumblr is to moral ocd what tiktok is to adhd and post

[maxellminidisc]

Just went down a rabbit hole so sickeningly and evil-y white whilst blocking and I genuinely feel sick and murderous

[proudfreakmetarusonikku]

saw a post that was like “maybe more people need moral ocd” and like. bro you do Not know what moral ocd is. it doesn’t make you a better person it just means you spend way too much time wanting to kill yourself bc you misspelled something and that’s Evil to actually do anything helpful.

[oidheadh-con-culainn]

had a really interesting convo yesterday about ethics and whether intent or results matters (eg if you tried to make an ethical purchasing choice but the business was actually exploitative as hell, does that "count") and very much came to the conclusion that sure, if you're concerned with your personal immortal soul, as a christian might be, then intention counts. but if what you're focused on is your impact on the world, then intention means nothing if the actions have negative results, right? (that doesn't mean you're to blame for them! you didn't know! but you also don't get "ethics points" for trying, you know?)

and this also got me thinking about the whole christian idea that sinful thoughts are as bad as sinful actions because. they're just not imo. maybe for the sake of your Immortal Soul they are points against you, if that's your jam. but in terms of putting good into the world, in terms of your impact on other people, the ONLY thing that matters is what you choose to do with those thoughts. there is no way that "was kind to someone who was pissing me off, for the sake of community harmony" or "helped an acquaintance with a task even though I felt resentful about the time spent doing that" is a Bad Thing for the world

and it made me wonder how much purity culture and thought policing is rooted in (mostly evangelical) cultural christianity and this idea that ethical choices are an individual thing because what matters is the impact of them on YOUR soul and not, you know, things we do because of what we owe the world around us / because of love for others / because a world where people are trying to put good into it is a hell of a lot nicer to live in than one where people are only worried about themselves

i grew up evangelical but like. fairly mild evangelical and even though there wasn't a big focus on hell and stuff, i definitely fixated on imperfect thoughts and behaviours that were putting absolutely no harm into the world, rather than focusing on what i could do to put good into it, and that individualistic vs outward-focused approach to morality has been something i've grappled with a lot as an adult. but i never really thought about it as simply as this and really that's what it boils down to. are you making the ethical choice because you're trying to put good in the world, or because it would make you a "good person" to do so? because the answer to that 100% defines whether it's the thought or the result that counts

[narcissisticpdcultureis]

npd + moral ocd culture is doing all the right things to be a good person but having breakdowns because you dont actually care about the people you’re helping out (because duh why would you, you dont know them like that) and the little voice in ur head is telling u ur gonna get found out as a fraud

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[blushedfemmes]

Do you think it's possible for someone who isn't stone to have a respectful sexual relationship with someone who is?

oh absolutely. i vent a lot abt my anxieties over being stone and dating on here (sorry) but it’s really not that deep. i’m just a very neurotic person lol.

ofc there needs to be communication and a willingness to be open to one another’s needs and how they can be met! but people with incompatible needs negotiate and find ways to remain in connection all the time.

stone4stone is beautiful and important, but it is NOT the only option for stone folks. we can have sex and be in relationships with people who aren’t stone. all we need to do is communicate, and it’s up to the other person to decide whether they need something we can’t give 💓

[pjharvey]

my current plan re: tumblr is to use this site once a week TOPS at least until the US election in november, then maybe resume every day. i literally dont think the amount of anger i have over the stupid bullshit i have to see from people who think you should have to be guilty about everything you do and that feeling as much guilt as possible is peak activism is like sustainable in terms of purely like. my own health reasons. im being tested for hyperthyroidism and a number of other things rn bc of chronic pain + issues eating exacerbated by stress and i don’t feel like mass unfollowing ppl bc a lot of it is coming from ppl i care about

[m4d-pr1de]

do other people with moral ocd get like. genuinely anxious and nervous when they make OCs / write fan content for characters that are not part of your culture bc your brain alternates between stuff like "making them speak (language connected with culture) is stereotypical because of (x reason) and therefore you're racist and horrible and bigoted" and "if you don't make them do (x thing connected to culture) then you're erasing their heritage and being racist and horrible and bigoted"

i cant win!!!! no matter what i do i feel like im either overstepping and Stereotyping or Not Doing Enough and contributing to erasure!!!!

its gotten so bad that i genuinely get nauseous with fear just looking things up because my brain screams at me that i should know Everything Already and the fact that i don't means that i'm, you guessed it, horrible and bigoted!!!!!!

[catkin-morgs-kookaburralover]

questioning sexuality is so exhausting

[borderline-culture-is]

bpd + moral ocd culture is wondering if u are being abusive, manipulative or too clingy in every display of affection you do

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