#im so fucking sick of death threats they do nothing. they do fucking jackshit except make more people feel terrible.

[phoebespenglers]

can we please stop telling people to kill themselves and to rot in hell and that they deserve to be bullied and that they are inherently horrible people who deserve to die and get doxxed. please. can we please stop doing that.

[harbingrs]

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#like #okay first of all. do you understand the gravity of what youre saying or are you just throwing words into sentences #second of all. that kind of language is so fucking harmful for people with ocd or just obsessions with morality #because i mean not to make this abt Me (though this is kind of a vent ) but when i see people saying that it just. Sends me into spirals #because if people can say that to other people then what if they say it to me because i secretly believe the same things (even if i don't#-most of the time!) #what if im an inherently horrible person deep down? am i going to rot in hell for feeling slightly bad for this person? #i cant imagine that others dont feel like this or something along those lines. #im so fucking sick of death threats they do nothing. they do fucking jackshit except make more people feel terrible. #if you send death threats to people or say shit like this im blocking you. i dont want you in my space

Definitely relatable. I think another reason it's so terrible for moral OCD is that it constantly reinforces the consequences of being a bad person*. It feels like a constant reminder of what will happen to me and what people think I deserve if they find out how Bad I am, or if I don't try hard enough to be Good (even when the actual post or thing someone has done to get death threats etc has nothing to do with me).

For example, I am in no way, shape or form a TERF and it's not remotely a possibility that I'd ever have those ideologies - and yet seeing people express those kind of violent threats still feels like the equivalent of a pitchfork mob on my doorstep just waiting to make me suffer if I somehow overlook something in my life that makes me a Bad Person actually. Because it's a constant demonstration of what happens to Bad People.

Ditto with things like bands or celebrities being Cancelled. No matter what the reason is (or how valid) it just sends my OCD into overdrive reminding me that if I don't get everything right I will be exiled and despised by the entire world forever.

And it's so hard to talk about it being triggering because then it's like "Oh so you want to let bigots off the hook? You're okay with them actually?" and it's like, no, my brain just does not handle being exposed to that. And it really doesn't help for other people to moralise that response.

(*And of course my OCD is like "you should care about being a good person to be a good person and not because of the consequences and if you post this everyone will think you're awful for caring about the consequences" like please can you stop for two seconds)

can we please stop telling people to kill themselves and to rot in hell and that they deserve to be bullied and that they are inherently horrible people who deserve to die and get doxxed. please. can we please stop doing that.