#arospec joy

[dvcky-duck]

watched Inside Out 2!!

after rewatching the first movie I now personally headcannon Joy as arospec!!!!!!! X]

[mossy-aro]

ultimately i think my insistence on aro positivity honestly is as much a political stance as a personal one.

when i say aro positivity is crucial and that i dislike doomer-ist posts that express sentiments like 'I hate being aro so much I wish I was dead instead’ it's not because I don’t think there can and should be a space for negativity and acknowledging self-hate, or the many ways being aromantic can really suck sometimes. i find that to be very important!

that being said. there is smth here about how self-hate posts are sometimes just arophobia that we inflict on ourselves. and when we put that out into the ether it (intentionally or not) can become arophobia that we inflict on other members of the community. i think there absolutely needs to be a place for negativity and the expression of anger and frustration and self loathing even - these are all good things to talk about because these are things that we experience. that being said, it can also be genuinely upsetting and triggering to people to have what is essentially arophobia shown to them and then have that be validated by other aspec people. your personal thoughts can affect your wider community on a level you may not anticipate. and i understand it i truly do! it took me so long to be able to recover from accepting being aroace - it threw my entire world off kilter and made me question everything about my place in the world.

but my insistence on aro joy and positivity is because ultimately i do believe that building is at the core essence of it all. that ultimately discussions and the purpose of community should be about construction, not destruction. and this is both a personal and a political stance. talking about how much you hate yourself and cultivating online discussions/spaces where negativity about aspec identity is the main and only theme is destructive - if that’s where we let the conversation end. these thoughts can and should be used as a vehicle to look for a path forward!

joy and positivity create a space where the focus can become on forging a path forward, on construction, on community building instead of tearing ourselves and others down with negative thoughts. it’s not productive or healthy when it stops at a place of negativity - it becomes actively destructive to the essence of community.

and i do think that this is especially poignant considering the fact that being any kind of queer, but especially aromantic (and/or asexual) means forging a path for yourself and making your own happiness where there is no obvious way forward. our communities exist mostly online (right now, anyway), there is little recognition of our existence in the real world, the effects of amatonormativity are both pervasive and actively dehumanising, and there are legal, economic and social structures in place actively making our lives more difficult. yes that all sucks! it’s good to acknowledge that. we need to in order to change it. but more importantly, that’s not the end. we are still here and our happiness, our future is for us to determine. even if we can’t change the laws or society, loving yourself and understanding aromanticism as a political identity (as well as personal), as a radical worldview, and as a protest against amatonormativity is essential for both community and personal well being. the personal is political.

tldr. i guess my point is that as a community, we should focus on building, improving, and nurturing ourselves and each other (construction) as opposed to destruction. we should recognise aromanticism and asexuality as political identities as well as personal ones and rely on community and self-love in the absence of anything else as a form of protest and political power. destruction (the recognition of everything that is wrong) is essential as a starting point - but where do we go from there? we rebuild.

[mintjeru]

companionship and understanding happy pride from my beloveds!!

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[knifearo]

everybody! quick! tell me what aro joy means to you <2

[whereserpentswalk]

Every time you hug a queer person, every time you're nice to a queer person, every time you bring a queer person joy, you take away power from the chrsitian god and his followers and strike fear in their hearts, and I think that's amazing. Just by making the people in your life happy you're making an evil god weep, you are very powerful.

[infiniteorangethethird]

[gently holding the hands of those who mourn the loss of their dream futures after they realized they are aro] you're still allowed to do all those things you wanted. You can still find yourself a lifelong partner, you can still dedicate yourself to another person, you can still share your life with someone you deeply care about. You're allowed to date and you're allowed to be in relationships with people and you can still form those deep bonds without romantic attraction. You don't need romantic attraction to do all those fun couple-y things alloro people do. You're allowed to parttake in that fun if that's what you want to do.

You can still have your dream future. You just need someone who's willing to have it with you.

[neverquiteeden]

My Aro Friend-Grief post is doing the rounds again, so I want to change the tone a bit. This is a Positivity Post(TM).

Reblog with at least one experience you've had with your friends or being aro/aro-spec that has brought you genuine joy! Let's get some hope passed around here!

[thevoidlord]

As an aroace, I love being in relationships with fellow aros/aces. QPRs? Gimme dat. Chef's kiss. Literal perfection. A gift from God and the heavens themselves. Soft romo? That's my limit; however, it's very pleasant, and bfyuowhbdjacbhdbchiud. Gimme.

I need to thank whoever invented these terms, because I love my queerplatonic partner and my soft romo partner sm, and I absolutely can't handle default society romance and relationships. Gimme dat aro-friendly one-on-one lifelong partnership, please. I've always wanted partnership growing up, but I never liked the idea of spicy things or romance (for the most part), since that's just the kind of aroace that I am and always have been. Makes me happy non-normative relationship types are a thing hehehehbheafheoabfvd Anyways Fictional romance is hot (because it ain't real)

[angelellipsis-devilofdots]

happy pride month to:

poc queer people. you guys deserve just as much representation as white queer people and you're beautiful as hell. ❤️

white queer people. remember to be allies to poc and let them into the spotlight as well, it's our mission to listen to and support them. 🧡

fat queer people. you're gorgeous and deserve so much love. your bodies are so wonderful, never apologize for being you. 💛

skinny queer people. you're beautiful and i see you. remember to help lift up fat queer people this pride month. 💚

cis queer people. be a trans ally always, and speak up for your transgender and transsexual siblings. 🩵

trans queer people. you are so powerful, you're all lovely and such fighters in this world. 💙

nonbinary queer people. no matter how you choose to present, you are valid and never let anyone tell you who you should be. 💜

straight queer people. you are just as valid as the rest of us. never let anyone exclude you from your community. ❤️

arospec queer people. your love is beautiful, even if it's not what society considers to be standard or status quo. 🧡

acespec queer people. whether sex-repulsed, sex-favorable, or anywhere between, you belong on this spectrum. 💛

allo queer people. remember to be a representative of your aspec and arospec fellow queers and be an ally to them always. 💚

closeted queer people. we welcome you no matter your situation, thank you for being so brave. 🩵

out queer people. being out and proud is inspiring. let's all show support for the closet queers. 💙

young queer people. we are the future and we can make a real difference in the world for future generations. 💜

old queer people. thank you for building us safe spaces and paving the way for us, we have so much to thank you for. ❤️

disabled queer people. even if you can't celebrate pride the way you want, i love you and i see you. 🧡

able-bodied queer people. let's work together to create safe, accessible spaces for our disabled queer siblings. 💛

neurodivergent queer people. we'll fight to create sensory-friendly pride spaces, you'll all wonderful. 💚

neurotypical queer people. help us work to create our safe spaces as well, i appreciate all support you can give to us. 🩵

religious queer people. you are seen and loved by any deity or deities that you believe in. 💙

atheistic/agnostic queer people. never let anyone make you believe that you're invalid for not following or believing in a religion. 💜

and literally any brand of queer people i forgot. pride is for you. i love every single one of you 💞

[de-lyc-ful]

It’s pride!!! I’m queer!!!!! Yay!!!!!!

Specifically I’m aromantic and oriented asexual (love me a nice woman) and I think those are two pretty cool identities to be.

I’m also weird on the gender spectrum. I don’t feel connected to any gender but that’s probably because of the autism so I just use any pronouns :>

Werewolves are so cool as a metaphor for the queer experience. We must be perfect because there is no room for flaws when the world only sees a monster. I think Wednesday (2022) was so close to getting the queer werewolf allegory right but then they fucked up by not making Enid queer.

I feel like as an aroace person especially, that werewolves strike a chord with me. Yes, I can pretend to be “human” (allo) by acting like I understand attraction, but once people realize that I will never truly be like them, all they see is a beast because “love is what makes us human” or some bull like that. Even among the queer community, we are oddities, and that can be a very isolating experience.

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Anyways now I’m going to talk about the art.

I tried out a new brush in FireAlpaca (the Pencil (Sketchbook) brush) because I finally updated my program after like 5 years. I really enjoyed it! I think it captures my traditional style which I’ve always wanted to translate into my digital art. A big thing I enjoy in my art is not hiding mistakes or sketches when I don’t have to, it makes my art feel more “real” if that makes any sense.

Plus I’m really proud of those hands!!! Like, holy shit!!!! Am I an artist who can draw hands now???? I think I am!!!!!!

[our-aroace-experience]

as a sex-repulsed aro I've just found out one of my favorite bands has literally called their music Aromantic, but yet I somehow missed the vibes simply because their stuff leans more aroallo (which is cool!! Aroallos deserve so so much more then they tend to get in aspec spaces, so I'm glad they can have a whole ass band!) so I just didn't think about the very aro lyrics because of all the innuendos lol

on the plus I now have so so many more songs for my aroace playlist!! and very quickly learning why my favourite songs are my favourite as well lol

that’s so cool! i’m always happy to find out about more aspec music

if anyone knows the band they mean, feel free to share, i’d love to give their music a listen!

[caramelfantic]

Seeing queer people being happy just makes my heart go mad I love queer joy and i will never get sick of seeing it

[zeroends]

Was reminded of the beautiful joy of falling in love with a friend but platonically. Where you start to enjoy every part of them and chase their constant attention. You wish not for romance but just for their warmth. Does this make sense? It's like your pre-existing platonic love for them just deepens hardcore and yeah. Yeah!!!!

[knifearo]

MODS ARE ASLEEP POST AROMANTIC JOY ‼️

[passuraplatonica]

Auxiliary attraction flag stimboard

Auxilium

auxiliary, auxiliaric, auxiliarily

A form of attraction that is based in an unspoken, almost automatic drive to assist, protect, and provide for a mate, especially in fulfilling the roles required for their mutual survival and success as related to their species. This attraction is separate from platonic, romantic, sensual and sexual attraction, although someone may feel auxiliary attraction as well as another form of attraction. This form of attraction is most commonly, but not inherently, expressed monogamously, and is its own umbrella term, as well as being a standalone relationship descriptor.

“I am in an auxiliary relationship. They are my auxilium. I feel auxiliarily towards them.”

[top-scar-maverick]

LoveJoy will have a lyric like

"I'm Autistic, She's Leonard Nimoy!"

And people will be like "it's about being aro/ace"

And their completly right