#soft romo

[thevoidlord]

As an aroace, I love being in relationships with fellow aros/aces. QPRs? Gimme dat. Chef's kiss. Literal perfection. A gift from God and the heavens themselves. Soft romo? That's my limit; however, it's very pleasant, and bfyuowhbdjacbhdbchiud. Gimme.

I need to thank whoever invented these terms, because I love my queerplatonic partner and my soft romo partner sm, and I absolutely can't handle default society romance and relationships. Gimme dat aro-friendly one-on-one lifelong partnership, please. I've always wanted partnership growing up, but I never liked the idea of spicy things or romance (for the most part), since that's just the kind of aroace that I am and always have been. Makes me happy non-normative relationship types are a thing hehehehbheafheoabfvd Anyways Fictional romance is hot (because it ain't real)

[krasnymay]

So I have this story that's been microwaving in my brain for a decent amount of time now and 3/4 main characters are aspec. The main relationship is aspec for aspec and more soft romo than actually romantic. I didn't even know that soft romo is a thing.

How with all of the closeness I experienced to aspec identities I still thought I was 100% allo? No idea.

[demiro-allosexual-culture-is]

Demiro allosexual culture is being in a soft romo rlshp w ur aroace partner and having the best most positive rlshp defined on ur own terms

Also not being able to decide btwn aro grayro and demiro lol (but 100% bisexual 😎)

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[heartless-aro]

I used to not really understand concepts like QPRs and soft romo relationships, but now I think I get it: QPRs/soft romo are whatever the fuck Twilight/Loid and Yor Forger have going on.

No, seriously. Think about it:

Even if it started out as a marriage of convenience, Yor and Twilight are happily married and coparenting.

Over the course of the series, it becomes clear that although they started their relationship for the sake of maintaining their covers, they have both become genuinely invested in their relationship. They consider each other family and show genuine affection and devotion towards one another.

Many traditionally romantic acts are “off-limits” in their relationship. There are many scenes where it’s shown that they don’t kiss each other, and they sleep in separate beds, for example.

They seemingly don’t think of their relationship as a true romantic relationship. Although there is evidence that the two experience romantic feelings towards one another, it is implied that they don’t currently define their relationship as a “real” marriage. For example Twilight at one point asks Yor to be his “real wife,” which can be interpreted as him “asking her out,” i.e., asking to redefine their relationship into something that more closely resembles a romantic relationship rather than a marriage of convenience*.

* Note: One could also argue that asking to be in a “real” marriage could be read as asking to shift an existing romantic relationship into a more serious long term commitment as is traditionally the case in a proposal, but in my opinion, that doesn’t make much sense when you consider that being legally married and coparenting means that they are already in a serious and somewhat long term relationship.

I would like to reiterate that this isn’t to say that they don’t have romantic feelings for one another. I think there’s a lot of evidence that they do experience some level of romantic attraction towards each other. But the fact of the matter is that — regardless of the nature of their feelings — the nature of their relationship is not quite romantic in the traditional sense, despite being notably different from what one would typically label as platonic. Thus, their relationship status at this point in the story could be labeled as a QPR or a soft romo relationship.

[askanaroace]

hi, so, basically, figuring out labels rn, I'm sure I'm on the aro spectrum just not sure where, I do develop crushes a lot but they're all dim, weak, not quite there, and I am never a romantic person, but i still feel the need for a relationship, just one where I'm not pressured to act lovely dovey 24/7, one where we can just hang and that be enough, do you have a clue of what label approximates this?

Aromantic

Aro spectrum

Gray-aromantic

Cupioromantic

Cupioroflux

You may also be interested in the term "soft romo".

Remember, the best label for you is the label you like the best. It doesn't have to perfectly, 100% accurately describe your feelings. No label is going to encapsulate the entirety of your feelings. You're always going to have to expand further to the people it matters to you to know more. =)

[fairyfleshprison]

i feel this way pretty regularly, like almost exactly this.

i got really attached the the label of

~Soft Romo~ in terms of the type of partnership that id probably be into. just cause yea i would say im kind of a partnering aro in the sense that i dont mind the idea of having some sortve companion. but even if there is a person i could think of that i might wanna do that with i usually just end up feeling like id rather not. but if i did ~ a nice just sortve partnering, soft romo relationship would be chill i think

There's gotta be some sort of in-between when it comes to being partnering or nonpartnering as an aromantic cause like I personally don't really feel the need to have any sort of partner or go out of my way to find one but at the same time I don't mind it and actually like being in some kind of non-romantic partnership

So like... Semi-partnering??? That has a nice ring to it. There's always overlap between the two ends so this makes sense at least it makes sense to me. There's no way I'm the only one who feels like this

[torse]

the man in the original picture was so gorgeous, I feel like I've done the world a disservice by shittily drawing Artemy over him

[floretspell]

soft romo relationship - a flag for soft romo relationships.

symbol from photopea.

made by us. tagging @radiomogai & @daybreakflags.

[fangpunk]

so many types of relationships not enough time to experience them smh /silly /nm

[righteousruin]

❛ an eternity with you would never satisfy me. ❜

He hums in agreement, lying with her head on his chest, fingers in her hair, staring at the open sky above them. He’d been nervous about her coming to Santa Prisca, but the government and the people were fond of him now — no longer a renegade, but a prodigal son, thanks to his newfound sports career. And so he brought her, under the agreement that they were not to be apart so long as they were on the island. Luckily, with all the time they’d had to spend apart, being glued to one another hadn’t been a problem.

And so, she was here, with him, on the same beach he’d combed as a child under the same moon, commanding the same tide that had once brought him food for himself and his mother, while she lived. He never thought about eternity. He never thought about any of this. He thought he would be dead— long dead — by now. Bane never once considered one day he might feel this sand on his back without his blood beneath it. He never considered he might one day have another heartbeat to feel, and a happy one at that.

Eternity. With the ocean beside them and the sky above, he wondered if they were not there already. Maybe they’d died together and this was the reward for their patience. Maybe dawn would not come, and they could stay like this. That would be alright. Ideal, even.

“If we have eternity, perhaps I should introduce myself.” He says, finally. They’ve known each other for years now, under the legal name his father gave him. One he’d rejected and replaced with the nickname he’d earned. But she’s met his mother now; He’d taken her to the gravesite in the quiet hours of the morning. It was the second most trusting thing he’d ever offered. To allow someone to call by the name she gave him would be the first. “My name is Bembé. She called me Bembé.”

[esperhuntress]

Ozpin's hands trace patterns over his wife's back, following faded scars periodically. Finally though he leans down and kisses her shoulder, contently sighing against her skin. "Love you."

Glynda sighed, the tension diffusing from her shoulders almost immediately. Her eyes fluttered shut as she leaned into his touch, head turning to softly nip the corner of his jaw.

"I love you too." She whispered instead of questioning him. They rarely spoke the words allowed.

[baron-fromthebaronies]

Baron looks up at Riz.

I adore...you. Very much. :)

They look over to Sprak.

I...love you but...small. :)

-Baron

Riz is just staring at the mirror while eating some small little cracker sandwiches very slowly.

-Riz

Baron appears in the mirror in the same position Riz is in. They don't have any food but they are mimicking his movements.

They tilt their head.

-Baron

[heartless-aro]

Happy lesbian visibility week to aromantic lesbians! Y’all are cool as fuck.

Shoutout to allosexual aromantic lesbians! Your sexual attraction to women is beautiful and normal, and you aren’t bad or predatory for feeling that attraction, regardless of whether it’s accompanied by romantic attraction. Shoutout to aro lesbians who feel some romantic attraction! Your romantic attraction is just as lovely and as real as anyone else’s, even if you may experience yours differently or less often than an alloromantic person would. Shoutout to aroace lesbians. Whether your attraction to women is romantic, sexual, or something else that doesn’t fit neatly into either category, you are no less aroace for being a lesbian, and you are no less of a lesbian for being aroace.

Shoutout to aromantic lesbians who are relationship anarchists, aromantic lesbians who are nonpartnering or polyamorous, aromantic lesbians who are married, aromantic lesbians who have a zucchini/QPP or a foveo/FWB, and aromantic lesbians in soft romo relationships or waverships.

Y’all’re so wonderful, and I hope you have a splendid week!

[beanghostprincess]

Auntie Buggy anon, back again bc you are my soul twin (no romo) and you Get Me

Consider an AU where Buggy comes out relatively early on in life but only really PUBLICALLY transitions later on. She is happy and safe under Roger's wings and so she feels secure enough to ask Crocus questions and look around and talk to Roger, Rayleigh, Shanks - Shanks is the first to know anything. He goes from "wow he's so pretty" to "wow she's so pretty" with barely a hiccup.

The crew is aggressively supportive. Roger especially made damn sure NOBODY would be mean to his daughter ((both bc he's Protective and also bc AAAAAAA HE HAS A DAUGHTER)).

Hormones weren't safe or feasible for her at that age - she was young enough for puberty blockers maybe, but the notion (and supplies) were just Chemicals to her. She could think of far more interesting chemicals to play around with - explosive ones!

Add in her devil fruit and an instinct to split at a prick or slice, she wasn't really good for injections. And she was so wild that the idea of having a routine for medication was laughable. It didn't matter, bc her dad and her crew and her Shanks were there for her, even if some people (cough cough ROGER) got a little too excited when she came out.

(Though in his defense, she DOES look cute in a ballgown. She just didn't need him to buy out the entire boutique. No, really, Captain, stop-!)

When Roger realized the End was here, that he'd done what he Had Wanted To Do, he gave the kids gifts - things for them to carry on with them in lieu of himself. He considered them his children, and so he passed on what he could as smth of an heirloom.

To Shanks, his Hat - his Legacy. Not to be the next Pirate King, not at all, but to live freely, happily, and to embrace the Seas as a sentinel. Shanks was the sky, limitless and without shackles, and Roger would not tie him down to a set path or a pre-written journey. Smth Big was coming, after all, and Shank always loved a good adventure.

To Buggy, his Initial - she was less inclined to battles than Shanks, though by no means was she weak. No, Buggy would do better nurturing the next generation, putting her mind to use and plotting the course to her own treasures. She was the one who he could see as the driving force, the energy, the charisma, the catalyst to the New Beginning. She was a D. in all but blood (and maybe even then that can be argued - their blood types were compatible, and he had definitely donated some to her before.) Where Shanks was the sky, she was the sea - bold, unapologetic, merciful and cruel, dynamic and unflinching even as it carried so many currents, too many to count. But just as the waves calmed when held in hand, she too benefited from security. She would be safe, and she would be his, a last little claim for his baby bug.

((And maybe, Roger, knowing how much she FEELS everything, knew she would love with all she had. Buggy loves love, even if it scares her. He would never be able to clip on her veil or call her a beautiful bride or walk her down an aisle or make sure the man/woman/whoever (or more) she married would be good enough for her. He wouldn't BE there, but he could give her this, a piece of him, his past, his roots, to help her grow in the future, to connect them. It was the best he could do in that moment))

So Buggy comes out early on in her life.

After Roger's execution, the Marines and the press make assumptions when she makes waves, calling her a man; Shanks, Rayleigh, Crocus, anyone who KNEW, they are furious but won't out her, not without her permission - something impossible to get.

So when Buggy eventually DOES come out, even years upon years later, it is to knowing smiles, Seas apart and still so painfully fond.

((And if she ever gets married, Rayleigh may show up with a familiar sash, decades old but lovingly protected. It's worn, soft, and there are spits where the color has been bleached by the sun. Somehow it even still smells faintly of a familiar brand of rum, an old recipe no longer being made, sea salt and caramel and something almost like ozone, an imprint of Haki so familiar it brings tears to blue eyes. And Rayleigh smiles, nods to her silent question.

Roger left many things for his children, but some were for special occasions. Who better to trust with such things than his first mate?))

I have so many emotions about Buggy in GENERAL and the Rogers and trans Buggy and just aaaaaaaaaaaa too many feelingsssss

You are my soul twin too bestie <3 You get me !!

Using the same reasoning I use for transfem Sanji, fem Buggy makes sense because Roger has SO much girldad energy. He'd be so so supportive. Like, extremely. All the crew would, but he'd just be so proud of his girl and he has no idea how to talk to or treat women but he's excited anyway. And Shanks literally just changes pronouns in his head so damn easily lmfao he just sees Buggy as Buggy he doesn't care if she's a girl or not or whatever, what matters to him is that she's happy. And if she's a girl, to him she's the prettiest girl in the world and he's ready to fight whoever says otherwise.

You didn't need to make the initial thing so damn poetic, do you want me to start crying??? It's so-- Okay. Shut up. It's just too beautiful because people often portray Roger as this guy who ignored Buggy and preferred Shanks when he quite obviously loved both a lot and,, And I am sobbing. Roger not being able to see her getting married but Rayleigh showing up-- I am inside your walls. Stop- I- Okay. I don't want to make this about Shuggy but I am making it about Shuggy and saying that Shanks would be so damn emotional marrying Buggy. Like, he'd see her in a dress and he'd just start sobbing mid-wedding and Buggy would be so tired of him because he's pausing the whole thing only to cry. Fucking sap (she loves him a lot).

The Roger Pirates would be so protective of their girl because, well, that's basically their only girl, lmfao. If somebody dares to disrespect her, they're probably ending up dead or very very wounded. Good luck trying to make fun of her.

I also can't stop thinking about Buggy growing up surrounded by men and feeling a bit too much left out, but then Toki shows up (thanks Oden, we love you bestie), and that kind of changes Buggy's life completely? Trying to think about this before she comes out to the rest of the crew and she's just starting to think about gender and what it means to her. And Toki is right there, being all feminine and gorgeous but strong and extremely smart and Buggy admires her a lot. And she starts spending a lot of time around her and she helps her so much to understand herself,,, Sobbing.

[creatingblackcharacters]

hi! I have a character for CBC Saturday!

This is Lí:

[ID: a crayon drawing of a dark-skinned Black teenager. They have curly red hair with a purple streak, held back from their face with a blue headband. Most of their hair is loose, but there are three tiny fishtail braids and three tiny five-strand braids among their curls. They are wearing blue glasses and have brown eyes. They have some tumours on their skin, most noticeably on their left cheek and their right arm. They are using yellow forearm crutches. They are wearing a short-sleeved shirt, a slightly too small vest with abstract geometric patterns, and pants. /end ID] Lí is from my WIP Aros Against Fate, and I hope to submit other Black characters from AAF, including but not limited to Lí’s brother, cousin, best friend, and casual soft-romo boyfriend, on future Saturdays! This is my first time drawing a full-page portrait of any of my characters, and I feel like I’m getting closer to figuring out how to shade faces accurately. Lí and their best friend Daanah were the very first characters in what would become Aros Against Fate, so they absolutely deserved to be the first large-scale drawing and the first submission.

Nice! Congratulations on your first portrait! I will admit, I cannot see the face tumors 😭 but you are also the first person with a character that has face tumors that I've seen on here before!

[alex-the-bringer-of-chaos]

Piltovans - my Arcane hcs

Sheriff Caitlyn "Cait" Kiramman (she/her) - the Sheriff of Piltover.

Nonbinary girl, Lesbian (canon) greyaro and Monogamous.

Dating Vi. Had a foveo with Maddie.

Cassandra and Tobias' daughter. Powder/Jinx's sister-in-law. Vander's daughter-in-law.

Piltover's sheriff. Lost her eye after the explosion on Jayce's apartment, meeting Vi at the hospital in Piltover.

Professor Cecil B. Heimerdinger (he/him) - the Revered Inventor.

Cis man, Aego aroace and Callistic.

The founder of Piltover, was head of its council, but stepped out of his position to become a full-time professor, scientist, inventor and mechanic, as well as an entertainer in Zaun. Had Viktor as an assistant and Jayce as a pupil. Now has Ekko as his pupil, working alongside him and Powder/Jinx.

Grayson (she/her).

Cis woman, Straight orchidrose and Demiamorous.

In a simulship with Vander.

Stepped out of the Piltover's sheriff position. Trains officers and others interested in the appropriate usage of firearms, with Caitlyn being her best student. Close friends with the Kiramman family.

Jayce Talis (he/him) - the Defender of Tomorrow.

Cis man, Bi demiace and Biamorous.

In a polyamorous relationship with Mel and Viktor (dating Mel, delamour with Viktor).

Ximena's son. Ambessa's son-in-law. Scientist and inventor, works with Viktor to improve the health of the zaunites, creating new technologies as well, with Mel backing their research.

Lest (she/her).

Trans woman (confirmed by va), Sapphic and Mesoamorous.

In a soft romo relationship with Mel.

Works in the healthcare services, being a health psychologist helping people with chronic illnesses. Also work as a spy for Mel on her fellow councilors.

Loris (he/any).

Unlabeled and Singleish.

Friends with Vi. An enforcer in times of need is a substance use counselor, after recovering from his own addictions.

Councilor Salo (he/him)

Androgyne, Abrosexual and Gamyflux.

Felt attraction to Ambessa and Lest.

A member of Piltover's council, is in a wheelchair (you decide why).

Councilor Shoola (she/her).

Genderfae, Abrosexual and Sensualarian.

In a pqpr with Mel and Sevika.

A member of Piltover's council. Was near the bridge between Piltover and Zaun, getting hurt by an explosion.

Enforcer Steb (he/any).

Libramasculine, Toric and Mesoamorous.

One of Piltover's enforcerers.

Other hcs

Noxians

Zaunites