#and they had every right to be upset

[societyslostone]

Hoo boy, rejection sensitivity is a real bitch on the mental health ain’t it?

[notebookpapers]

“Jayce and Mel genuinely care for each other” and “Jayce would have chosen Viktor in every timeline” are opinions that can and should co-exist

[naamahdarling]

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[angelle-is-tired]

Something that still kind of annoys me is when D'Jok and Sinedd are like competing against each other at the tryouts and it's supposed to show how good they both are especially D'Jok but like this was the speed of D'Jok and Sinedd's balls

And this was Mei's

Like she's clearly better than both of them and it's never acknowledged

[were-wolverine]

let me just say some things about dick & tim, and tim becoming robin

yes, tim shouldn’t have had to become robin in the first place BUT it is not dick’s fault. dick did not owe bruce anything. bruce fired dick from robin and replaced him, of course dick wouldn’t want to go back to living under bruce’s thumb.

while it’s true that dick didn’t want to go back to being robin for obvious reasons to him, tim did not know these things. he just went to the first person he thought could help. and i don’t blame dick for not going back, nor do i blame tim for going to dick in the first place!

that all being said, tim CHOSE to become robin. he thought batman needed a robin, so he did it himself. no one forced him to. dick did NOT tell tim to become robin, it was tim’s own idea.

yes, dick supported him in becoming robin (which tbh i think is extremely out of character for him especially after jason just died AS ROBIN but fuck me i guess) but it was tim’s choice to become robin in the first place.

anyway, yall can’t just expect dick to go back to bruce after everything that went down between them, especially to go TAKE CARE of him?? that’s not his job, he’s bruce’s SON. if it’s anyone’s job to take care of bruce, it’s alfred. not to mention, dick was leading the titans and had an entire city just as crime-ridden as gotham to protect. he didn’t exactly have time to babysit bruce.

tl;dr - stop blaming dick for tim taking on the robin mantle

[puke-ur-gutz]

i will cashapp $10 to the first person who can name 3 real life harmful things bob bryar did without accusing him of thought crime

[trash-can-sam]

What happens when your coworker kills your other coworker but both of you are in a relationship (kind of) with the same ethereal woman who had an admiration for said dead coworker.

+bonus Evandrey because it’s funny to me (I’m sorry Eva.)

[gxlden-angels]

Bro I hate fundamentalists and culturally-fundie parents they'll say shit like "spare the rod spoil the child am I right haha yea my parents used to have to beat my ass with a switch almost everyday but I sure did learn my lesson" but like??? no you didn't??? you were hit multiple times for something you very obviously did not, in fact, learn

Like studies about how harmful even lightly spanking children is aside, you're literally contradicting yourself?? Some even admitted they got worse as they got older cause they wanted to see how far they could push their parents before they got punished

And studies not aside, you're gonna get child raising advice from the same book that tells you to stone your wife if her hymen doesn't break on your wedding night instead of the decades of research we have now?? Just say you're a bad parent and move on my guy. Skill issue

[inkkwormm]

i hate hate hate when chainshipping fics demonise alison. SHE DID NOTHING WRONG!!!!!! she was a good mother who was being cheated on and ignored by her arsehole husband who was then kidnapped with her 8 year old daughter all because larry couldnt keep it in his pants, she was NOT a judgemental homophobic bitch who was mad at sweetheart Lawrence who can do no wrong for no reason.

[hooked-on-elvis]

"Charro!"

National General, 1969.

Jess Wade taming a wild horse.

[elevenenthusiast]

I HATE how much people do to defend noah on here and on twitter like why are you all forgetting he’s a zionist?

[nerdy-hyperfixations]

It's hard being someone who does genuinely get infuriated with Ford's actions and acknowledges a lot of his flaws and the people he hurt, while also liking (and relating) to his character enough that I would like him to have nice things sometimes and don't believe he's satan

[littlest-bugz]

Relapsing is a part of healing

[one systems perspective on relapsing during Resolution/late stage DID recovery.]

This post has been cooking in my drafts for a while, but since I'm back in a headspace where I would consider myself back in Resolution, I'm comfortable talking about this. I'm airing out my dirty laundry quite a bit in this post, but the reason I'm making this post is because of the fact I don't see many late stage recovery systems talk about relapsing back into dissociation and other CDD symptoms. I'm here to say it's totally okay and a part of healing. I don't know who needs to hear that, but I definitely did. I didn't hear it until i was in therapy.

A couple of months ago [when I was initially writing this post], I went through a series of traumatic events, including little over 3 weeks of reoccurring flashbacks due to a re-traumatizing situation. I have lovingly dubbed it 'the three weeks of hell'. There was more than just that, including 2 explosive breakdowns, where I just couldn't handle all the input I was getting with what all was going on. I was a whole wreck for a moment there, that's for sure. THANKFULLY, we only split off a one new alter after everything, which is healing progress, but it meant an increase in blackout amnesia in our day to day life, let alone the dissociation it was causing the system as a whole, nearly putting us back at step one of recovery.

The moment I noticed the blackout amnesia and increase in DID symptoms, I started thinking I had ruined any progress I could've possibly made. It felt like I had taken ten steps forward and then tumbled down the stairs. I never got to process the trauma as it just began to pile on, and eventually I popped in probably the worst explosive breakdown I've EVER had- my fight or flight kicked in and for gods know what reason, my brain chose fight. But that breakdown had solidified that 'fuck, I'm getting worse again' mentality I had going on. Everyone I knew seemed to 'keep it together' during rough times, so why couldn't I?

So that brought me to this post.

I wondered why I don't see talk of relapse in Late Stage Recovery spaces, let alone general CDD spaces. I figure, in my mind, that it's because it just isn't talked about. At least, not frequently. In the space I have curated for myself, I see a lot of fellow late stage recovery systems and finally fused systems, but everyone seems to not have relapsed at any point. Granted, this is the internet, and people show what they want others to see, but I felt ashamed for a good while that I had relapsed back into the amnesiac aspects of my dissociation. I didn't feel like I could call the stage of healing I am in 'late stage recovery'. But that's just. not true. I still am. My healing is ongoing, and I was able to resolve it.

In recovery for many disorders, relapses are, inherently, a part of the process of healing. Symptoms resurfacing is, to some extent, part of healing. Everyone is bound to have slip ups and rough times, and if your go to coping mechanism is dissociation [in CDDs cases], it's possible that you might slip back into those maladaptive mechanisms due to the stress of life happenings, but that's okay. What is needed is to learn the proper coping skills to deal with that stress, but it can be extremely hard to unlearn maladaptive coping skills and make turning towards healthy ones a default. Relapsing gives you the time to reinforce and build up what skills you do have.

When the three weeks of hell was occurring, I didn't exactly have the coping skills necessary to keep on with life, and any I did have, they were not 'automatic' enough. On top of that, my therapist was conveniently out of office for those three weeks. It did give me the time to make my skills stronger. Of course, I felt terrible about it but Relapsing is okay. As long as you learn how to deal with the stress and trauma, that's what matters. I'm still learning how to properly cope with everything that happened during those weeks, to be blunt, but I have gained a grasp on Resolution pretty quickly afterwards. I don't think it would've been possible to recover so easily had I not been in late stage recovery, and like I said before, it helped reinforce my coping skill box, making them stronger and much easier to recall. I definitely would say that relapsing was a part of my healing. Didn't feel good, but it became a huge factor in how we cope day to day.

TLDR; Relapsing during Resolution [Functional Multiplicity/Final fusion] is a part of recovery itself.

[beesmygod]

its probably not literally true, but it is spiritually true, that @octavio-world is why they changed the box art of gorilla munch

[moeblob]

Deacon really just wants to learn about all the deities and so he really would be interested in meeting more deities but also he's not convinced Ohiwe and Ohime would ever suggest this for his own benefit. He's a bit scared which is fair.

[imminent-danger-came]

I really am so sad I don't like isat. The themeing was very good