#and don’t use this an excuse to be transphobic I am trans and I will block your ass

[ladyddanger]

This right here is why a lot of non white trans people don’t like or trust y’all. In case any white trans people are wondering

As if y’all don’t spend half the time you could be helping trans people of color screaming at them for being the wrong kind of trans on Twitter. As if you didn’t harass the trans person who leaked the no fly list for loving woman the wrong way. As if anyone besides trans people of color gives a single shit when a black trans person dies. As if trans people from “oppressed minorities” don’t fucking exist. THEY DO. You just ignore them and call them slurs when they “step out of line.”

This isn’t even about one bad take. This about how white trans people constantly use us as props with no regard for our actual personhood.

[listenheresweaty]

Reminder that Stirringjuice/Ven themself has said that TMC is not fetish content. Kister’s works are NOT an extension of what was described in the allegations document. If you don’t want to consume TMC content anymore, fine (best you don’t— not in a way that gives Kister money anyway), but don’t spread misinformation.

EDIT: after rereading Ven’s callout document and finally being able to access ALL the screenshots he attached, I have decided that I will no longer support him. I will not go back to supporting Alex Kister yet, but I cannot support a blatant ableist transphobe either. link to annotation doc: (not mine) https://docs.google.com/document/d/e/2PACX-1vReErDatnpQ_h3W-WlqrmzmPN26-UyDwLVwBKmHV09WhVZtdZQM44HRxvoV0ZTz8Ho-NaBVKYxjNuha/pub

Things I will be addressing:

Why I do not support Ven (separate from other victims)

Stuff that Alex Kister DID do wrong, even if the allegations were exaggerated/faked/done out of malice

The allegations and victims themselves.

WHY I DONT SUPPORT VEN

First of all, this ⬇️ (scroll down its below the blue highlighted ss. Formatting issues sorry.). This is a ss of Ven’s (now deleted, now archived post) response to how many people are calling him transphobic for his transmisogynistic comments in his document, and how he had basically outed Alex. Instead of saying something like “it wasn’t transphobic — I had to out Alex— it was necessary for the victims/proof/whatever”, Ven just says that if Alex didn’t want to be outed or subjected to transphobia, he shouldn’t have been a “groomer” (Ven later says that he had misused the word “groomer”. Everyone that Alex had interacted with in a sexual or romantic manner had been an adult, and had fully explicitly VERBALLY consented.)

However. Even if your opponent is a bad person, you do NOT have the right to be transphobic. EVER. criticize them on whatever they’ve done wrong, hold them accountable in a balanced and civilized manner— etc. Being protected from bigotry/ not getting misgendered, privacy, legal counsel— these are all examples of RIGHTS.

When you start denying something based on whether someone deserves it or not, that “something” has become a privilege. By stating that his transphobia was excused because Alex is a supposedly bad person, Ven has stated that not being subjected to transphobia is a privilege. here’s the link: (takes forever to load the keep reading portion but it works for me) https://web.archive.org/web/20240317125855/https://www.tumblr.com/stirringjuicee/745117180204548096/alex-kister-and-actively-using-being-trans-to-lure

Screenshot of the post below, along with something from the callout doc (annotated by a tumblr user. The non-highlighted color text is the annotated bit.

—— ss from ven response (click. It IS An image it just looks like text)

—- now onto some more details.

Ven, or StirringJuice, made the first allegations document against Alex Kister. He had stated himself that he does not consider himself a victim, just a friend of the victims who wanted to spread the word. Ven starts the document off by describing his past relationship with Alex Kister. He also includes screenshots of text messages from Alex— which often contradict or have no relation with what he’s saying. This is why it’s important to look at the screenshots, guys! Most of the toxicity in Ven’s relationship with Alex stemmed from Ven’s refusal to honestly his boundaries or feelings. He told Alex that he was comfortable with the sexual comments, he told Alex that he was comfortable being just Friends with Benefits, and he told Alex that they were welcome to vent to him any time <- all of this is corroborated by the text screenshots that Ven himself posted.

In Ven’s text messages, we can see him suggesting that Alex gets a therapist. Great! Nothing wrong there. And then you actually look at the ss:

(Ven is the blue. These ss are linked in the callout document.)

First of all. You cannot force ANYONE to get mental help, regardless of whether you think it’s for their own well-being. If their behavior is harming you, leave. But even the worst people on earth deserve autonomy for these kinds of things. Ven literally states that he had FORCED Alex to get a therapist, and you can see him admit it in the messages above as well.

after these ss links (labeled part 9 in the doc), Ven hits us with this absolute banger:

“[Alex] then decided to go off his meds.”

Someone had already said this, but: YOU HAVE NO RIGHT TO SAY THAT TO OR ABOUT A MENTALLY ILL PERSON. EVER. REGARDLESS OF WHO YOU ARE, OR WHO THEY ARE. it’s an insult to every mental health community.

^ also, Alex gives a pretty good reason for going off his medication. Not that they needed to.

^highlighted text is Ven’s callout post. Purple text is a fellow tumblr user’s annotations. They have a whole post with these annotations. I’ll credit them when I’m done writing out my post. [clarification: the annotator uses “she/her” pronouns for Alex, Ven uses he/him. I use they/them because Alex was never publicly OUT as she/her before they were outed, so I’m not sure what to do]

Also: please go on the callout doc and see the “pt. 11” screenshots yourself. There’s a lot of them and I don’t want to add them here, but please go see them.

^Ven hears that Alex wants to start a new chapter with them (yknow, like redeem the toxic relationship they’ve had) and immediately assumes it’s in the romantic sense.

^Alex admits that they are not ready for a committed relationship, a good first step for smoothing over any toxicity.

^nothing else to add. Annotator did great.

^ text ss as listed under the “pt. 14” link

These are 3 out of 10 ss under the Pt. 15 link. Look at the text indicated to with the red arrow (drawn by me). Ven literally tells Alex that they “don’t understand anything ever.” They also tell Alex in a later ss (plz find it yourselves because I’m not posting all 10 photos) that they “don’t understand [their] own emotions.”

Maybe Alex was making an unhealthy decision by continuing to reach out to someone they clearly had an unhealthy relationship with. But these responses are borderline abusive, especially when aimed at someone who suffers from paranoia.

A huge chunk of the entire callout doc is Ven venting about his relationship with Alex. This relationship is not abusive, it is toxic on both sides. The fact that Ven put this much focus on these barely relevant details— even when the topic was the victims, not Ven himself— suggests that he did this out of petty vindictiveness. If the allegations are true, the victims deserved a BETTER PERSON and a BETTER FRIEND to share their story. Not someone who did it purely because it was en excuse to get revenge. If it wasn’t revenge, why add all these details?? (funny thing— the whole doc. Would be more believable if Ven hadn’t added all this stuff. He destroyed his credibility before even getting to the allegations).

the one below has more transphobia and general assholery than ableism.

^apparently once you are out of the closet, you are not allowed to go back or feel ashamed. Else you are lying and manipulative. Thanks, Ven.

I am done posting screenshots from the annotation document. Please, PLEASE read it in full. I will tag it in the comments. There are so so so many good points.

STUFF THAT ALEX HAS DEFINITELY DONE WRONG, REGARDLESS OF WHETHER THE ALLEGATIONS ARE TRUE OR FALSE:

(Orange text is annotator, black is original doc).

Venting to/ Relying on a minor fan for mental health support (I think it was Mitchie). That’s not good.

making allusions to suicide during their relationship with Ven. Joke or not, that’s unhealthy.

ALLEGATIONS/VICTIMS:

wont say much here because I’m getting tired. some people on Reddit have been pointing out that some discord ss (not the ones I’ve shown you, those were imessage ss) look faked because there is use of military time, which is not an option on discord apparently. Other screenshots seem to use different fonts as well, further indicating forged evidence. I have fact-checked none of this and can’t verify it (not that you should be relying on my word alone, anyway).

I do not support Mitchie, since they’ve been telling people to self-harm and/or commit suicide when they point out flaws in the callout doc. I don’t care what you’ve been through. There is no excuse for that.

As for the other victims.. I find their statements fishy. However, I will not disbelieve them until more has been cleared up.

[sea-lanterns]

Hello, I recently sent you an ask about Ningguang lately, only to find out that you blocked me. Why is that ? Did I say something wrong ? My username was sneepywhoopy

TW: Mentions of transphobia, serious post

Saying this now, I was not obligated to respond to this, but I feel as if you deserve to know why I blocked you for your posts. I usually just block people and keep them blocked while ignoring them, but if you are willing to hear out why I blocked you for your posts, here’s why:

Honestly, your preference to not sleep with trans women is fine. Thats your personal preference as long as you don’t be rude about it, I understand that much.

But I quickly sifted through your recent posts and saw you reblogged stuff like how lesbians can’t be attracted to trans women and that they had to be bi if they were attracted to trans women. First of all, that’s invalidating trans women even though you claim yourself to be an ally. Reducing them to just the sex they were assigned to is not what being a trans ally is, and it honestly made me super uncomfortable to see someone on my blog who thinks that way, when this blog is a sapphic community for all women!

You can be a part of the LGBTQ+ community and transphobic at the same time, being lesbian, gay, bi, etc. does not give you a free pass to exclude trans people in the community. You don’t want to sleep with/are not attracted to trans women? Fine. That’s your personal preference. But to reblog stuff that say all lesbians are not attracted to trans women is invalidating not only trans women, but the identity of lesbians themselves.

Lesbians can be attracted to trans women because they are women. Simple as that. Straight men can also be attracted to trans women because they are women. Simple as that. I’m sorry if you don’t agree with my opinions, especially since I am not a lesbian myself (I am pan). But honestly? A trans woman is just a woman to me and I see no difference when I find myself attracted to them.

I’m sorry that you don’t feel the same way but this is how I feel concerning the situation. I don’t want someone in my aquarium who invalidates the gender of my fishies via the excuse of same sex attraction, because I honestly think it’s stupid to reduce someone to just their sex when the whole point of being attracted to someone is liking them for who they are, not for who they used to be.

If you like women only and are attracted to trans women, that is 100% valid. Who am I to tell you what your sexuality is? Your sexuality is yours to confirm.

This is why I blocked you. Those posts you reblogged made me super uncomfortable and irritated me, so I hope you understand why I don’t tolerate this kind of mindset in my aquarium.

[lottiessidehoe]

PSA: I do not speak for him this is all my opinion xoxo.

Ok let’s start with this. I’ve been seeing a lot of stuff about the Deerlottie situation. I felt it wasn’t my place to speak because me and him were not close by any means. But he was my mutual for a bit after I started this page. He was a big inspiration and was a nice source of representation for the transgender community in the yj community. It hurts to see people still trying to make up excuses for everything so i’m speaking up now.

He did not deserve any of the transphobia he experienced nor does anyone ever. I make it publicly known that I am a trans man on my page, and will not tolerate any of that shit on my account. If you have or ever have thought doing transphobic bs or think harassing ppl is ok, block me. Simple as that.

Now onto people trying to excuse the actions of the people involved.

It doesn’t matter if you didn’t like his content. It does not matter if you thought what he posted was weird or something you PERSONALLY don’t like. You do not have to like every single thing a person writes, I am not familiar with all of his works but am I aware of the controversial ones he’s made in the past due to the recent events. I don’t excuse them nor agree with each one but still I feel a natural response is to scroll or unfollow and move on with your day. For your personal wellbeing as well as everyone else’s. I did not personally like everything he’s posted but a good portion of his work I did, and that’s OK.

Using transphobia just because you don’t like or agree with someone is just as transphobic as yelling slurs at a stranger end of story.

and for the ppl who r saying “he’s an adult he’ll get over it” y’all are WEIRDOS. Everyone has fucking feelings no matter your age. Josh’s account was 18+ and that was very clear. Most of the people i’ve seen using that excuse are 16-17… Any one that went on his account underage or not and are excusing the hate because he’s in college and should “get over it”…. block me.

My page is not 18+ but I DO have warnings for a reason. Please read them, think about them, and if you don’t like them scroll and have a lovely day.

(I did not proofread this shit so sorry for the mistakes)

[am-i-the-asshole-official]

AITA for “yes and”ing sexual harassment?

I (19 ?) am very visibly queer. I’ve been perceived as pretty much every gender under the sun, and I like to be as confusing as physically possible. even if I’m dressed down I don’t ever “pass” as anything. I really like this for the most part but it also means I get a lot of weird looks no matter what bathroom I use. usually I just use the women’s because it’s what I’ve used my entire life and also it’s cleaner. no matter which one I’m in people usually only react to me with weird looks. occasionally they’ll go “sorry!” and turn to walk out of the bathroom directly to the other one (this has happened in both the men’s and women’s) and I’ll have to frantically apologize before they can, but that’s the worst it gets normally

anyway, a couple months ago I was in this mostly empty women’s room (me, these two ladies, and the woman who’s about to sexually harass me). I was dressed up for an event so I probably looked pretty strange to most people. this woman (30s?40s? F) approaches me and tells me I’ve got the wrong bathroom. I take it as an honest mistake and say something like “thanks, but it’s ok, I meant to use this one.” I notice this sort of simmering rage on her face after I say this and that’s when it clicks that she: 1. thinks I’m a trans woman (she’s not totally wrong but it’s complicated), and 2. thinks that means I’m posing a Direct Threat To The Sanctity Of The Women’s Restroom. she compels me to leave Again. I give a firmer no, and turn to get in a stall

at this point she goes off the deep end and starts calling me a creep, accusing me of being a man, etc (ftr I’m intersex, was assigned female at birth. but obviously this wouldn’t matter to her and even if it did it wouldn’t excuse the shit she’s saying about trans women). I stay quiet. then she starts loudly speculating about the penis that I apparently have now (keep in mind we are NOT the only two in this restroom either, there’s at least two other women who look very uncomfortable with this whole situation). I kind of snap and say something along the lines of “if you’re really so worried about what parts I have, you can come watch me pee.” she looks totally horrified at this idea and shuts up. I pee alone, thank god

the way I see it, this didn’t cross any line she hadn’t already crossed — she was openly harassing me about my genitals in a public space, I answered in the best way I could think of in the moment that would call her bluff instead of insulting her and making it into a shouting match, which would just be even shitter for everyone involved. “ask stupid questions get stupid answers” and all that (it did occur to me the moment I left that bathroom that she could’ve attacked me. I got really lucky she didn’t call the cops or something)

I still don’t feel bad at all for how I responded, and I wouldn’t even be asking this if we were the only two there, but I’m on AITA because there were two other women in the bathroom I feel like ass for even tangentially involving. they both seemed really uncomfortable with what this lady was saying about trans people, and I know she probably still would’ve harassed me no matter what I did, but I wonder if I could’ve somehow prevented the situation altogether by not responding to her at all or even just straight up leaving the bathroom like she asked. it’s kind of useless to speculate about now, I guess, but since this is apparently a thing that happens to me now I should think about how I might respond better to harassment like that in the future

so. AITA for maliciously complying with a transphobe in a public space

What are these acronyms?

[honklord420]

Hello Hello !!! I figured that maybe I should do a little introduction post since there's actually a chance I may post stuff on here lol

My name is Olliver and I'm a 16yo trans man who is bisexual with a preference for masc leaning folks :3c

My interests tend to bounce around a lot however here are a few specific ones: Shameless, Class of ‘09, Moral Orel, Bojack horseman, Creepypasta, Sally face, red dead redemption 2, Homestuck, Salad fingers, stardew valley, and any and all things that include CLOWNS !!!! I've also been in and out of the furry fandom for at least a few yrs by now and I'm super super into music !!! (Some of my top music artists include: Harley Poe, get scared, say anything, brokencyde, insane clown posse, Ozzy Osbourne, Dadaroma, JILUKA, pierce the veil, my chemical romance, weird al yankovic, colter wall, and Dolly Parton :DDD)

I have undiagnosed autism and it’s pretty much 100% confirmed that I have adhd too (I also have depression and an anxiety disorder but we don't talk about that lmao)

Fun facts about me: I have six siblings (four of which I didn't know existed until early 2024), I used to be in chorus for like half a year in fourth grade (even tho Ive always sucked at singing), my favorite color varies a lot however my two main ones r pink and like a dark forest green, and lastly my special interest for the past 11yrs has been horses !!!

I consider myself to be an anarcho-communist and I FIRMLY believe in acab along with blm, trans lives matter, and free Palestine. I have also recently gotten into Hellenic polytheism and am researching witchcraft :3

DNI: republicans, homophobes, transphobes, zoophiles, racists, sexists, anyone anti acab, anti blm, anti Palestine, anti therian, anti furry, anti agere, anti petre, dsmp fans, hazbin hotel fans, helluva boss fans, anyone who actively supports/gives money to problematic creators (I'm completely fine with watching/listening to stuff indirectly but if ur actively supporting the creator themself then plz leave!!), and anyone that uses religion as an excuse to spread hate !!!!

I've never made a post anything like this before and I've never rlly posted anything at all until recently so I hope everything is organized enough and isn't complete shit 😭😭😭 (things on this list will most definitely be changed and updated overtime so don’t be afraid to check in now and then :3c)

[drake-atello]

Can’t believe I got tumblr beef with a transphobe this is WILD.

Let’s break down some things here so I can finally be done with this.

This is a rant/vent. I will be throwing insults like rocks and swearing like there’s no tomorrow.

TLDR: PLEASE, just shut up and read your thing over again. You sound incredibly transphobic and ableist and that’s not okay at ALL.

Main points I’m pointing out are highlighted in the images below. The original replies can be found under the first comment. I screen recorded my proof just in case they get any ideas. I will reblog this post once I figure out how to share videos on tumblr. /gen /srs

rant under the cut, no need to open it if you’re not comfortable with the topics I bring up: blatant transphobia, ableism

Alright. Listen.

I get sharing your opinion.

That’s normal. Everyone has opinions.

What I don’t get is being a fucking bitch about it.

Your post was so toxic and blatantly rude that you got Jael herself to come and yell at you. Jael is trying to take a fucking mental health break and you can’t seem to understand she needs a SAFE SPACE to unwind and calm down.

“OOOOH JUST STAY OFF THE INTERNET OOOOOOOOONSDCDHBJHSDBCS”

shut the fuck up. The internet is nearly essential these days with how much we use it and with how much of our information is stored on it.

I don’t get why you have to scream and sob about well done representation when you aren’t even in the trans community in the first place.

I’m not African American or dark skinned, so I can’t comment on their portrayals in media.

I’m not gay, so I can’t say a gay character is badly written or wildly rude without substantial evidence and research and peer review.

I am autistic, however, so I can comment on the portrayals of autistic characters in media and say “THIS IS ASS” when I see something ass.

I have transgender friends, so while my opinion can’t advance beyond “this seems really fucking rude, what the hell, bro?” I can ask my friends for their opinions. And my friends agree that said post was very transphobic and just fucking rude. You are doing nothing but giving yourself and the trans community a bad name.

I admitted I was wrong being a bitch to you, I apologized for my behavior. I said you didn’t deserve to be attacked for sharing your opinion. No one under that post should’ve said more than “Dude, that seems really mean and transphobic, can you explain yourself please?” And gone on with their day.

You had every opportunity to fix the situation and repair your reputation, but all you’re doing is digging yourself a grave.

You call us all dumbasses and idiots who need to go back to kindergarten, you act like you’re better than all of us and refuse to see that your post hurt a lot of people.

I politely try to explain my view to you days after the issue, and all you do is throw another hissy fit and screech at me that I’m stupid and dumb and that I’m the problem. That it’s my fault cross is being seen this way and that it’s my fucking fault I’m tarnishing the reputation of transgender people.

I may have come off as rude in those comments, I admit that possibility. I tried to make it clearer with tone tags, but either you don’t understand them or you just don’t give a shit.

No, it’s not your problem that I’m autistic. You don’t know me beyond my profile picture. But what IS your problem is making sure that your opinions and words are understood.

You had a chance to make your opinion clearer to me when I informed you that I couldn’t understand your words because of my autism. Instead, you take the chance, curb stomp it, and say I’m stupid for not understanding you. Which, I’m gonna be honest, is kinda ableist. I can’t fucking control what my autism understands, I wouldn’t be using it to explain myself if I could.

Is my autism an excuse for me being an asshole? HELL NO! NO FUCKING WAY! autism or not, I was still an asshole and that’s not okay. I’m in control of how I react to situations, but I’m not in control of how I perceive them. It’s up to me to ask for clarification, but it’s up to you to give me that clarification.

You either don’t seem to understand anything beyond the surface level of my words (which is likely why you’re so adamant about there being no deeper meaning with cross) or you just don’t give a shit.

Anyway yeah no you are absolutely transphobic (thank you Kaz for explaining who mizuki is im gonna draw her and cross together later because i think they should beat up transphobes together)

Like, Jesus girl. I’m autistic and I know damn well no one makes that face when they’re gendered correctly. Thats a shocked face. That’s an upset face. Not happy. Not neutral. That is a very upset woman.

But no, seriously, dude, what the hell.

How are you transphobic in the undertale community, where the fuck do you think you are?

Please, for fucks sake, grow up or shut up. I’m done dealing with your ableist, transphobic bigoted ass. Fuck you.

[amberofember]

controversial opinions: lgbtq edition

you cannot be friends with extremely homophobic/transphobic people and then call yourself an ally. you’re lucky that you have the privilege to not be affected by their comments/beliefs but your queer friends sure as hell don’t.

we need to better acknowledge how much queer culture (slang terms, fashion, etc…) is appropriated from black culture.

on that note, i am not a person of color, so please please correct me if i’m getting anything wrong, but the media representation of the queer experience is so white and western-centric. every race and culture has queer people, and we need to represent that. the experience of being queer is extremely different across all cultures.

religion is the actually dumbest excuse for queerphobia. just because you interpret your religion to say something doesn’t mean you have to push it on others. you don’t want to live that way, fine, but you have no business telling others how to interpret/follow your own personal beliefs, and neither do you have the right to openly hate people who do.

the erasure of asexual people in the queer community is actually insane.

people (usually specifically straight white women) who use the “gay best friend” stereotype as an excuse to treat gay people as an accessory instead of real people are disgusting

this is already talked about a lot, but the wlw vs mlm representation in media is so incredibly disproportionate.

saying this as a queer woman, queer women shouldn’t be allowed to sexualize women the way men do on the basis that “we’re not men so it’s ok”. it’s not.

cis white gay men are some of the most privileged people in the entire queer community and yet some seem to think they can speak for the experiences of every queer person ever.

queer people who don’t support trans people are so confusing to me. it’s obviously nowhere near the same experience but you know how it feels to be oppressed because of something you can’t control and often feel like you have to hide.

coming back to my first point, jokes at the expense of lgbtq people are never funny. again, you have the privilege to laugh at it but many don’t

[bohemian-nights]

Fuck Rhaenyra, fuck the writers with this sapphic plotline they invented, it's simply pathetic, and fuck Emma D'Arcy who is the cause of that. Im sorry but why trans/LGBTQ agenda should be included, but then they don't care about racism? Cause Laena has bee treated awfully, next is Nettles, reduced to Daemon's new distraction/whim to cheat on Nyra and shows how bad husband he is, or even cut out to redeem him (?) This Show sucks. Fuck white privilegies. Fuck HBO and all the people who's supporting this trash. To all the people who kiss Emma D'Arcy's ugly ass, am i transphobic cause i hate what they did to Rhaenyra and to the story? Ok, and you're racist for using Laena as an excuse of made up ship (Laenyra) to shit on Daemon X Laena in order to praise your incest ship and for not wanting Nettles in the series cause could ruin it. Whatever happens it seems is always the black characters who gets sacrificed for the sake of white characters. I said what i said.

Um, this has the energy of this:

Oh God you really let it all out there. Minus calling Emma ugly(again guys can we please not call the actors/actresses ugly), I don’t think you are wrong and I get your frustrations.

It’s pretty clear this show has an agenda, is biased towards one character in particular at the expense of basically everyone else, and has a misogynoir problem.

Now to be clear, even though Emma is going along with what is being pushed, I think it’s inaccurate to blame any of the actors or actresses on this show for what is happening. Because at the end of the day it’s the show runners and the execs at HBO who are calling the shots. Emma is just a mascot for their agenda(take that as you will).

They more than likely purposely picked Emma because they wanted to make Rhaenyra into some feminist warrior queen who has a rainbow coalition of supporters against the conservative greens.

It’s corny, but with another character like say Rhaena the Black Bride(who’s already a lesbian) or even Visenya(who’s a warrior queen) it could work.

However the problem with choosing to make Rhaenyra into a revolutionary type figure/girl boss/feminist is that she’s the complete opposite of that.

Rhaenyra in canon is a racist to the point where she’s willing to use it to explain away murder, she mocks Laenor for being gay(says her half-brothers who are children are his type), looks down on and underestimates the small folk, and doesn’t even bother to help advance other women(Stokeworth and Rosby) in her class much less women like Nettles.

Her and Alicent have a completely different relationship dynamic in the books than in the show.

She’s selfish and self-focused. She’s malicious bordering on sadistic. She even puts her own children in danger for her own wants.

And before her followers go moaning she’s done too many things to claim that she’s been wrongly framed by the narrative. No sane person is chopping off heads and feeding it to dragons or trying to murder innocent women in their sleep. That’s not maester propaganda. She’s objectively awful.

She may be a woman, but she’s no better than her brother. Women can be just as awful as men(for Christ’s sakes look at real life not everyone is wrongly accused because of sexism). Rhaenyra shows that. Even at the last moments of her life she pretty much has zero remorse IMO.

For those reasons, I absolutely hate that the show is trying to redeem her. I hate how they cast Black actors to use them as human shields to make her look progressive, to lessen her atrocities, and even to make her something like her death look less atrocious.

Fans see Black people(the characters) supporting her vs. the mostly white greens they go that’s the progressive team(that ideology is so f*cked up). They even have Black fans supporting Rhaenyra because of all the Black secondary characters.

Never mind that these characters(who are race-bent) are being screwed over by the narrative, haven’t been presented in the best light, and have had their stories be rewritten to better serve Rhaenyra and make her look sympathetic/noble/just. The best who are treated way worse than their white book counterparts.

They added Ser Vaemond calling Rhaenyra a whore to justify Daemon killing him when in the books he rightfully calls her out and gets unjustly beheaded and feed to a dragon as a result on Rhaenyra’s orders. Then his sons and cousins get reprimanded by with some getting their tongues cut out, but that’s all been cut out.

Instead of showing that was loved or at least cared for by Daemon like in the books show Laena has been regulated to sorta second best(third best if you factor in the Viserys situation). She’s unloved and unwanted. Her suicide is made into a girlboss/empowering moment instead of being criticized for what it is away to make Rhaenyra’s death look better. Laena’s character is a walking stereotype(disposable Black girlfriend, look it up).

The audience eats it up of course and instead of calling out making her into a stereotype they are upset that the show did not make the non-canon throuple situation happen so they could get more brownie points for their I love Black people, I'm not a racist, I just don't want that Black person who isn't a plot device on the show act.

(I’m calling it non-canon cause you can’t only use the word fond to support a relationship, especially when you claim that word means nothing when it comes to Dettles which has more evidence than a single word).

Even Laenor has been made into a deadbeat dad. Corlys looks stupid. The girls have been given nothing to do. Addam’s whole purpose is to scarifice himself for Rhaenyra which is why they are highlighting him so much.

It’s absolutely disgusting.

I have no idea what they are going to do with Nettles, a character who doesn’t need to be race-bent cause she’s already Black, but based on their track record it could be terrible(I’m holding out hope though). She shouldn’t be treated like she’s just some whore or Daemon's mistress. She has her own plot, she’s loved by, and she’s one of the few survivors of the dance(and one of two dragonriders).

If the show was decent at all they’d do the right thing and show her as the multifaceted character she is and not regulate her into another stereotype(I guess they’d go the Jezebel route).

I totally get where you are coming from on the racism aspect. This is obviously lost by most though. Hell, most in the fandom are racist themselves, but skirt by because they like this show using the Black characters as human shields. It's a circus.

And no one is going to take this rant seriously since you went a little too far. All they are going to focus on is you calling Emma ugly, which again was uncalled for, but I get the essence of it.

[im-tired1124]

I know I’m probably gonna get called, “too sensitive,” or a, “wokescold,” for this, but I feel the need to get this off my chest and just reassure everyone of this idea because I’ve noticed it a lot, and it really bugs me.

No, you cannot disrespect a trans person pronoun or identity because they did something wrong or you simply don’t like them, then go on to say that it isn’t transphobic.

Let me explain.

Recently, it was brought to my attention by my friend group that, behind my back, one member of our chat was intentionally not using my pronouns, claiming that I was insensitive, had a superiority complex, implied that I faked my issues with peer bullying and social isolation (all of which are untrue), and henceforth had no respect for me and referred to me exclusively with she/her pronouns. Mind you, though my preferred pronouns are they/them, I’m relatively indifferent to being referred to with she/her or he/him despite feeling that they don’t fit well with my identity. However, after finding out that he’s done this to more than one person, including our mutual friend, I feel like this is a decent Segway into what I want to say.

I am an undeniably flawed person, truthfully everyone is, but this is not intrinsically make me or anyone else for that matter, a bad person for that reason alone. Good people do bad things, bad people do things. And for that matter, no person does bad things, or becomes a bad person, due to their age, ethnicity, wealth, background, mental condition, disability, sexuality, gender identity, or anything else they likely don’t have control over. While yes, whatever oppression, or lack there of, may influence their personality, perspective and behavior, most assholes are assholes because they choose to be assholes. Not only that, But someone’s negative actions, no matter their moral standing, does not give you an excuse to invalidate their identity. Not liking someone, due to misconceptions or genuine wrongdoing doesn’t give you free pass to go, “Skibbity Salad, your pronouns are no longer valid.” If this is your response to a trans or otherwise genderqueer person doing something you deem wrong, why aren’t you doing the same same to cis people? If this is your philosophy, then when a cis man, for example, does something wrong, your immediate reaction isn’t, “Well I don’t like that guy, so I’m gonna refer to her as a she now,” but it is when that person isn’t cis? Please don’t misinterpret me as saying, “ we should misgender cis people when they do something wrong,” I’m saying we should misgender people, period. Besides, why are you more focused on invalidating someone’s identity than you are focusing on their wrongdoings, questioning why they did that, and giving comfort to the people who that person hurt, while also, if possible, helping that person down a path of redemption, and giving them an understanding of what they did wrong. This isn’t to say that there are some people out there who are truly irredeemable, but focusing on invalidating their identity instead of addressing the problem that they caused won’t get anyone anywhere. That’s my ADHD rant for today. Thank you.

[molsno]

Hi, I’ve read your recent answer to the ask and the within linked post about transphobia and misogyny and I absolutely agree with the points made.

I moreso have a question about further nuances in that conversation since for me personally , perhaps by misunderstanding it very often feels like the trans mascs imagined in those statements are of one specific type: masc and passing.

Please excuse me if that’s a genuine misread, while I have been reading up on it all I’ve only been doing it for a month or so. Basically I wonder about the position of extremely feminine trans men and bigender/genderqueer/genderfluid in this. I myself am a very feminine looking trans masc and also bigenderqueer. And while it pains me so much that people without me constantly having to explain myself will never see me as a man and treat me as masc when I am I don’t want to change how I look because I love myself this way.

Not that long hair, boobs and dresses are inherently female but I do possess them and to the average cis hetero person that just immediately reads like woman. Because I don’t want to change this aspect of myself I also always sadly aware that even In my masc moments I will never be free of misogyny, and especially not when I feel like a woman. Not to even the mention of trouble this brings with most parts of the lgbtq community and their judgement. This still doesn’t mean that like I experience the interception of both but it just feels a lot closer to me. Especially in the regard that I don’t really know what spaces I should belong in. Trans mascs going into woman spaces (because they barely have their own and don’t feel safe with cis men [and even among cis women ngl]) and them not being accessible to trans woman is definitely an issue and we have to advocate for you all definitely. But I know male spaces won’t take me or be safe for me and I feel wrong and intrusive even in my female moments in woman spaces. I know that I still hold tme and kinda cis woman privilege (although my question there would be: if trans women never had male privilege how come trans masc ever have cis woman privilege). But I just feel like most conversations shutting off these nuances in fear of rightfully hated transandrophobia truthers just does no one and good.

TLDR: how should non passing feminine, closeted even, trans men address the misogyny and the nuance of „being percieved like a woman“ and the dangers that come with it without being seen as trans masc special oppression truthers (Because obviously misogyny comes from being seen as a woman or treated as such it’s not like because I’m masc but please do tell if you want to if something like this is also happening to trans fems)

on the contrary a lot of transandrophobia truthers have this mindset of "I'll never pass, so I don't experience male privilege" which demonstrates a fundamental misunderstanding of what oppression is. it isn't just something that comes from strangers (nor is it strictly interpersonal but I won't get into that rn). even people who know beyond a shadow of a doubt what your gender is can be some of the most viciously transphobic people in your life, and I think you're aware of that, so I'll spare you the details.

that being said, I get where you're coming from. I'm pretty well off as a trans woman considering I pass well enough to not really get clocked when I'm out in public, but I totally understand feeling like you don't really belong anywhere. I felt that a lot in the past, and I still do in a lot of circumstances. no matter who you are, it's hard being trans! the world really was not built for us, and that needs to change.

I will say that in the same way that I don't believe trans women held male privilege before coming out, I don't believe for a second that trans men held "cis woman privilege" before coming out, especially because that's not a thing that even exists. cis privilege is undeniably real, but trans people don't possess it. when we talk about the phenomenon of transmascs playing up their victim status on the basis of having been afab, I believe what is actually happening is that they're weaponizing white privilege - because let's be honest, transmascs of color are not seen as helpless victims the way that white transmascs are.

as for your main question, I believe that trans men SHOULD be discussing misogyny and how to combat it. it's imperative for them, even - ending misogyny would make it far easier for them to transition, for example, just by virtue of the fact that bodily autonomy would be guaranteed to everyone regardless of gender if misogyny didn't exist. the problem comes when they act like they're experts who understand misogyny better than women, especially trans women. I do think that a lot of trans men have a better, more nuanced understanding of misogyny than cis men do, and that can serve as a helpful foundation for discussing it, but talking over (trans) women to shut down our own discussions of misogyny is textbook mansplaining. and worse, trans men weaponizing their understanding of misogyny against trans women really plays into the "female socialization" terf rhetoric, which I've already critiqued at length here.

[la-principessa-nuova]

so i was watching a youtube video on my old phone while my phone charged and i forgot that it was logged into my old google account bc both have access to the channel that i watch from

and then i basically found out in the worst way

normally i don’t see any ads bc i do everything i can to not see them (for so many reasons including privacy and the principle of it but probably mostly that i find them distracting and overstimulating and pda amplifies all of those feelings to the point where ads straight up make me mad)

but on this old phone on this old account, an ad played

according to the “why did you show me this ad” thing, it was picked based on my gender. As in the gender I listed when i created my old google account, 11 years ago

and so i click on this video and the first thing that opens up, way louder than the video, is a man in a gruff voice shouting, “You’re not a kid, you’re a man!”

and all of it was so unexpected bc i was clicking on a video by a fairly soft-spoken woman who is usually very trans-friendly and disability-friendly, and all of the sudden I am having a horrible transphobic thing shouted in my face by just about the most opposite person I was expecting in the most opposite tone, and for a second I have no idea what’s even happening and i’m just completely disoriented suddenly.

so i changed the gender on my old account (and switched accounts on that phone).

but like the “you’re a man!” is bad enough, but the “you’re not a kid” makes it so much worse for me in particular (although i’m sure many trans women and many autistic people have the same experience), because that is just one of those big points of contention where anything fun or playful or “lazy” or just not exactly what my dad expected me to be was always me acting like a kid and needing to grow up, and he especially used that (and still does) against my sister, the scapegoat of the family.

And it’s being used by my whole family to invalidate her being trans, and it’s the excuse to portray my attempts at expressing femininity as artificial both from my family and in the negative voices in my own head judging myself.

And I think the worst part about it that makes me mad that it even exists is that it’s not like it’s a silly coincidence that the words happened to be the worst thing to say to me. The ad is literally trying to feed into that same toxic masculinity to put people down to sell them clothes. It’s literally trying to convince men who have clothes that aren’t like theirs to feel like they’re not man enough unless they purchase the product, and shamelessly feeding into toxic masculinity, and all the forms of misogyny it promotes, for profit.

[rosethreeart]

Hey so I’ve been made aware that a user known as doodlin-moons / irl-Romano has been spreading rumors about me. And I would like to clearing that they are absolutely NOT true.

So I’m just gonna quickly debunk them under the cut cause this might get long:

First off Moons is acting as if this was a recent post that I made and that I am currently vaguing them. It’s a post I made from literally fucking September, which means they’ve been holding onto that screenshot for just as long. I also only made this post in response to them coming onto MY post about my dislike for spamano asking what was wrong with it, and when I called them out for knowing damn well why it was wrong (cause they used excuses for why they shipped it after I politely explained) and blocked me for it (which started this whole fucking thing they’ve been holding this grudge since September) . So in reality they’re getting mad at MY response for something they antagonizing me over.

Second: Moons is trying to spread the lie that I’m transphobic even to go as far as lie about who this anon is. I would also like to clearing that I do not support anon or their belief and that I do find transphobia to be vile and I speak up about it when I see it.

Also anyone who’s ever blocked an anon knows that tumblr just gives you an error sometimes when you do that. I would also like to note that if that person WAS me I would not have been able to even take this screenshot.

I would also like to clarify that I have not and will not harass people online. I don’t understand why it’s so hard for people to understand that me complaining and expressing my discomfort with a user on my own blog, untagged mind you, isn’t harassment. But this shit sure fucking is :). I also literally only reported Neon once. So idk where they’re getting this “spam report” idea from especially cause I know tumblr doesn’t give a fuck if you do spam report and if anything I think it makes them less likely to hear you out.

Also you complain about having a stalking problem but tell me why you liked one of my posts from all the way back in September :)

Also I would like to state that I understand that trans people CAN be transphobic however this user also expressed transphobic views stating their dislike for trans people and accusing random people (including myself and a mutual of mine) of being terfs, without any actual evidence. I would like it to be known that this mutual is a very vocal supporter of the trans community she’s just a “free the tits” type of radical feminist(like what the term used to mean).

[prsrott]

PRSROTT - SEMI-CANON DIVERGENT, PRIV, NATHAN PRESCOTT FROM LIFE IS STRANGE / framed by shadow — follows from @/vortexclu8 & 18+ only. triggering content ahead. rules, verses & info below ꩜

RULES / INFO :

i’m shadow, and i go by he/it/zombie pronouns. trans man, 19 and gmt. i’m typically most active mid week and at night!

18+ only! due to nathan’s nature, attitude and language no minors will be interacting with this blog. if you do, or you don’t list your age, you will be blocked. i am 19 — turning 20 soon and don’t want kids interacting with him because of the dark topics discussed. 18+ being said, i will not write smut under any circumstance.

general dni criteria applies : homo/transphobic, sexist/racist etc. if you ship anything fucking weird or gross ( p-do/inc-est/non-con etc ). zionists fuck off. also non-rp blogs please don’t interact thank ya.

this blog will deal with heavy subjects and insensitive language, nathan can be crude and may throw cruel terms around, some of the content warnings will be : mentions of kidnappings, drug use, overdoses, suicidal ideation, references to self harm, manipulation, murder, general violence & trauma. all of these will be tagged.

my nathan iteration is somewhat alternate from lis canon. he’s transgender, however this is not disclosed in blackwell — but it is important for some of his character studies and internal monologue. he deals with internalised trans/homophobia and craves any kind of male validation, hence his preppy, misogynistic shell, learnt from his family. he deals with issues of suicidality, drug/alcohol dependency, anger issues and self harm. this will not be discussed in too much detail unless discussed beforehand and tagged. he did not kill rachel amber. jefferson did with drugs nathan supplied, nathan saw, and was coerced into joining his dark room through his mental break, he’s manipulated into believing he did kill her. however, he often tends to forget rachel is dead in the first place due to the trauma being blocked out. he is still responsible for working with jefferson, but he is only used for drugs and transportation, nathan has never actually killed before. this is disputed canon, but it’s what i go with in my writing. this is not to excuse or say nathan is innocent either — just that it’s more nuanced.

I’M EXTREMELY PRO AU AND OCS ! i love interacting with ocs and making new aus, and although i may not be the most active in conversations, please feel free to infodump and talk about them, especially during plotting so i can get a good grasp on your character(s) !

i will use icons but i am always writing on my phone. i cannot see my format in desktop so i do apologise if anything looks funky.

i’m not the most talkative, but i’m genuinely always open for plotting, just be patient with me ! my replies can take a day to a week or so during high activity.

i am OKAY with shipping but it’ll need to be developed healthily overtime once our characters click. it won’t be straight away at all due to nathan being a hard muse to get to know and easy to anger, distrust and instability.

VERSES :

main verse : a puppeted protégé — during life is strange. nathan is working with jefferson and his typical self. can be set any time along the timeline, before rachel, during rachel’s death, during the game with max. age 18. HIGH ACTIVITY.

secondary verse : the stains won’t leave my hands — alternate life is strange au — nathan manages to get out of jefferson’s manipulation early and gets him arrested. nathan is getting psychiatric help and is recovering. still guarded and sharp. age 19-upwards. HIGH ACTIVITY.

triad verse : bound to your namesake — original game premise au where sean prescott is involved/aware of the storm and knows about jefferson. the prescott family is involved in darker, more cryptic behaviour. the town of arcadia bay is destroyed by the storm with only those having the prescott bunkers surviving, leaving sean to become a kind of cult leader to the town — more supernatural and horror-orientated. age 18-upwards. SELECTIVE / MED ACTIVITY.

quad verse : time seems to end — set during the alternate universe in ep 3, where max is the ring leader and nathan is a friend of hers. wears blue. his ‘healthy’, kinder version where jefferson doesn’t get to him. cut connection with his dad and lives with his sister. both the most unusual and nicest verse. however he’s… stuck with another issue… age 18-upwards. SELECTIVE / MED ACTVITY.

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general info overview tba !!

[otabekisautistic]

truly at my limit with the transphobic roommate. i know i keep posting about it but idk how much longer i can do this. and i can’t call her out on it because she’s trans and if i call her out as i have done previously she will just weaponize her transness while invalidating mine. she can’t be transphobic to me because she’s trans. she can’t be transphobic to me because im not Really Trans, im just a woman with weird pronouns to her. i can’t do this. my dysphoria is so so so bad lately because of her that i feel sick. i don’t want to go to skating practice because all my athletic clothes are Girl Clothes which doesn’t normally bother me but i don’t want to put them on. i don’t want to go hang out with my roller skating group because i know ill get accidentally misgendered there and im too fragile for that right now. i don’t trust that my irl friends see me for who i am because sometimes they mess up my pronouns and that makes me doubt if they actually see me as nonbinary or just have my pronouns memorized. i don’t want to leave my room i don’t even want to leave bed. i can’t eat dinner because she’s downstairs rn and i can’t be around her even if i assert boundaries because she ignores every boundary i establish.

(btw if you use my shitty roommate as an excuse to be transmisogynistic on my posts you’re getting blocked)

[religion-is-a-mental-illness]

My name is Jaimee Michell. I am a lesbian woman and the founder and president of Gays Against Groomers. We are a nonprofit organization of gay people who seek to end the sexualization, indoctrination, sterilization and mutilation of children happening under the guise of “LGBTQIA+".

Gay people are not a monolith. I am here to tell you that not all of us are on board with this new modern rainbow movement we are seeing now. In fact, it is the majority of us who are not. That is why I started this organization. I could no longer sit by and watch this toxic ideology be foisted upon children in our name — in my name… I knew I wasn’t alone.

There was just no united front to voice our public dissent to what is being done. So I decided to create one. And now in just a little over a year, we have 17 chapters across the United States, over 100 members, and more than 700,000 followers on social media.

We have also been banned from 11 platforms in that short time, most notably being PayPal and Venmo. They’re clearly terrified of us speaking out from inside the community, and to be completely honest, they should be. They don’t know how to handle us, because they can’t dismiss us as homophobic, transphobic bigots like they do all of you, although they certainly try.

Protecting and safeguarding youth should not be controversial. It should be something everyone can agree on, but clearly that isn’t the case anymore.

The truth is, we never consented to pornographic filth being given to children in schools. We never consented to woke doctors sterilizing and mutilating children in our name. We never consented to radical trans activists taking over and speaking on our behalf.

These people, as well as every major institution in this country are actively manipulating the public and trying to use the rights that we fought for as an excuse for their grotesque behavior and the lies that they tell. Yet these are the same people who preach about how they promote love and acceptance. We beg to differ.

So called “gender affirming care” on minors has been banned in countries across western Europe and has been appropriately labeled the biggest medical scandal since the lobotomy craze. Doctors and scientists in these countries have recognized that gender ideology and the medical practices that go with it are catastrophic for developing children. It is also deeply homophobic at its core.

Without medical intervention, more than half of the children who express feelings of gender discomfort would otherwise grow up to simply be gay adults, according to many scientific studies. There is no wrong way to be a boy or a girl, and telling them otherwise is evil. It’s abundantly clear and cannot be denied that medically transitioning children is the new conversion therapy, only 1000x worse.

These children are being treated like lab rats. And we at Gays Against Groomers have helped pass over a dozen laws and policies across the nation to ban this barbaric practice. We plan on making child sexual mutilation illegal in all 50 states, whether these monsters like it or not.

This ideology is toxic, hateful, violates boundaries, and LIES. It lies to parents, to children, to us… to everyone.

It takes advantage of the most impressionable and vulnerable. Children cannot consent to these interventions. No child can make permanent decisions about ANYTHING, let alone becoming sterile and chopping off body parts. And NO CHILD is born in the wrong body.

Not only is this agenda hurting children, but us as well. The radicals who have hijacked our community are setting us back decades with their assault on children. The acceptance we as gays and lesbians fought to achieve in this country is now being erased seemingly overnight, and it’s devastating for us to watch happen.

We are deeply grateful for Moms For Liberty who are willing to listen and work together. We sincerely believe that the most effective way to end the war on children is by uniting together. Despite our differences, we all share the common goal of saving these kids.

No matter how many times they try to censor us, the truth WILL prevail. They can try to shut us up, but we will never keep quiet. We will not make peace with an ideology that seeks to sexualize, indoctrinate and amputate the healthy body parts of children. We will not let them continue this abuse in our name.

We have a mission and we're not going anywhere. We hit the ground running in our first year. And together, we will restore common sense and reality, and eradicate the social contagion that is poisoning the minds of our youth.

If you would like to learn more about our movement or make donation to help us end the war on children, please visit gaysagainstgroomers.com to learn more.

Thank you.