#and dni if you exist :)

[brionysea]

I think that Klaus is one of Five's favourites. I also think that they've all been conditioned to never take Klaus seriously (like the conditioning to never include Viktor - we all saw how well that turned out). As a result, their interactions in season one swing wildly between being surprisingly sweet and startlingly dismissive.

My favourite example is the scene in episode 5, which starts with Five being concerned by the blood on the floor, expressing that concern and getting Klaus to open up to him by calling on a shared experience, only to lose his temper when he finds out that Klaus destroyed the briefcase. Klaus walks out of his own room rather than stick around and be snapped at after a severely traumatising experience, and Five seems honestly confused and disappointed to be left alone in his apocalypse mission, despite their last interaction being Five telling Klaus to get out of the van.

It's difficult to separate out. I'm sure some of it is just pride and a failure of communication, like Five refusing to admit he wants Klaus around (Klaus doesn't have the same problem, getting one of the few "I love you"s of the season and directing it at Five), despite seeking him out repeatedly for their little side quests and being Personally Offended (along with Diego) when Klaus doesn't want to go to Harold Jenkins's house with them. But some of it is just the ghost of your father worming its way into your head and poisoning your thoughts, like Grace still having Reginald programmed into her head. Luther was the biggest example, but you can see it in all of them if you look, because being manipulated by your abuser is not a moral failing.

[stilljuststardust]

Stop searching. Your "key" is inside you not in other people.

[junotter]

All the jokes about Ken and horses are good but I just wanna say it's such a good parallel to how actual young men get swept into misogyny and the patriarchy.

Like they're told to believe it means men get to be cool and manly and have this power but with that comes extremely rigid commands of what they can be as a man and a cycle of self hatred for never matching those gender roles perfectly. Patriarchy tells men that if they just do exactly what is expected of them, then they get all the "cool stuff" that comes with. That doesn't work though when there's only a small group that actually gets that power, but men will keep trying to fit into those roles in hopes that they can.

In the end there are no horses or the myth men are told, it's just endless cycles of self hatred and ingroup fighting.

[anti-endo-safe-space]

So, we're making this post because we've found out we've had a few "NPD abuse is truth!!" people who have interacted. I'll be blunt. We don't want you here.

NPD is not abusive. Narcissistic traits are not abusive. If we see one more person trying to use malignant narcissism as it being abusive then we're going to lose our shit. Stop making an already stigmatized disorder WORSE.

I'm not invalidating anyone's trauma. I hear you and I believe you, but the one thing I will do is correct. It is not NPD abuse is or narc abuse (using narc abuse as we do have NPD, if your not a pwNPD then please do not), or even malignant narcissism abuse, it's verbal/mental/emotional/physical whatever type it is abuse. Narc abuse is NOT a real thing.

Yes, there are abusive pwNPD. They aren't abusive because they have have NPD. They're just abusive. This whole belief on it is trying to divide us into "good narcissists" and "bad narcissists" where the good ones shut up and let people talk about how NPD is abusive and keep mouths closed and pretend to have empathy. The "bad" ones speak out against people's blatant ableism (which idgaf if you have a mental disorder as well, that does NOT stop you from being ableist), don't care about pretending empathy and are just themselves. What happened to not trying to divide a community already under attack all the fucking time?

To sum up a long ass message, if you believe in any form of narcissist abuse then do not interact here. Your not welcome, we don't want you, we don't even want to think of you here. Because in this situation, if any of us would be abusive, it'd be you who push that narrative in your strive to "educate" and instead ruin people for something out of their fucking control.

[scarycranegame]

guys. guys listen.

if you wanna write and/or post a fanfic but are worried that no one will like it.

do not be worried. at all.

because even if no one else is interested, YOU are. you enjoy this idea. you're passionate about this concept. you should write for YOU, not for potential critics.

and even besides that, i guarantee you that there's at least 1 other person out there who would also enjoy your fic. it's essentially statistically impossible for you to be the only person on the planet who thinks the way you do, and enjoys the themes and ideas and characters and settings that you do.

write it. post it. take pride in the fact that you created something that you value. your fic exists, and that in of itself is amazing.

antis dni, this isn't about you or the graphic threats of harm you send to real people whom you dislike. get a real hobby.

proship/comship/profiction/etc. safe!

[only-man-in-the-sky]

[vegitoswife-archive]

more selfshippers should start ignoring canon, actually. or even rewrite it altogether. either or is a pretty neat and fun thing to do.

[spaghettiposts]

How do you feel about men writing for Jenna Ortega?

I feel like I don’t care. In short. I don’t care what your gender is, you’re writing amazing products and I’m eating them up. That’s what matters to me. I don’t like the idea of gatekeeping, and in the words of Chef Gusteau; anyone can cook. And believe me, the men are cooking 🔥🔥🔥

You can’t stop writing, it’s an art, why would you want to? It just brings us back into their full circle of problematic hate. Repressing someone for creating beautiful content isn’t valid whatsoever. Hating on someone without a reason besides “they just ruin everything.” Isn’t a valid reason. If you’re gonna hate on someone, you better have a good reason for it and not generalize the selected target for your hate.

I see this problem where women complain in the fan fiction committee that men over sexualize characters and the hypocrisy could not be more insane. I, a woman, constantly see characters such as the aforementioned Jenna, Wanda Maximoff and Natasha Romanoff being oversexualized CONSISTENTLY by my own community of women. Therefore I don’t see it as a valid reason when every time I look at the x reader tags I see the kinkest shit ever, written by a woman.

Your brain is built to understand when a problem is a real problem. Men wanting to read fanfiction or write it, is not a problem. If you can’t understand that, it’s just a skill issue atp 🤷‍♀️

[sukibenders]

Aegon, Aemond, Helaena, and Daeron looking at Alicent after she washes her hands of a war, that she (and Otto) dragged them into, and the throne, that she (and Otto) forced them to grasp/fight over even though they obviously didn't want it, and goes off to live her best life while they are all still stuck in a cycle forced on to them without their input (obviously this is about the s2 final):

[peantisdeliriouts]

Also for the millionth time, your DNI isn't a fucking boundary so how about you block people instead of being entitled and expecting everyone to read your little list that you yourself can't even follow.

[vaporwavedoggie]

Well shit on my tits and call me spiffy

[elizabethjenningz]

I didn't want to add to the discourse, and this is not about policing others on what they can or can't feel offended about, but I saw people on Twitter saying Misha made up the fact that the crew used to refer to him as the ''retarded angel'', and I don't get the disbelief because of, among other things, this thing my mind immediately went to:

[steakout-05]

i might get some hate for this depending on where this post goes but i think lesboys are so valid and the discourse about them is so ridiculous. like you guys shouldn't have to deal with all that and it frustrates me that people throw hissy fits over an identity that literally does not affect them at all.

"but men cant be lesbians-" wrong. butch lesbians and trans men have a really closely connected history with each other that practically intersects and you should really do some research on that before you make blanket statements, not to mention that gender and sexuality is weird and wobbly and fluid and a very personal experience. it means a different thing to each person. being a man can be something completely different and saying stuff like this ignores people like demiboys, demigirls, genderfluid and genderflux people etc. these people will really preach "demolish the gender binary!! love is love!!" until someone's relationship with gender and sexuality is a little too freaky for them to handle and be challenged by lmaoo

"ohhh but what about the cishet men who say they're lesbians to prey on women-" YEAH WHAT ABOUT THEM????? THIS AIN'T ABOUT THEM BRO!!!!! this argument also REEKS of terfy "trans women are just predatory men!!!111!!1" rhetoric and it grosses me out. yeah some men are gross and do try to pull this but that does not negate someone's entire identity completely just because of a few bad actors, you know that right? actual black and white behaviour.

queer discourse is silly and i don't know why it's a thing. just let people exist. it isn't that hard. we have worse things to worry about than whether someone calls themselves a lesboy or not. i think we need to unplug our ears and yank our heads out of the sand and remember that the queer community is what it is because of our unique and amazing diversity. arguing over labels like school children isn't gonna help that. damn.

[xsapphic-celestialx]

guys I ended up on the wrong side of swiftie tumblr please help get me back to the normal side where people don’t think that Taylor swift is secretly a lesbian who is singing to k*rlie kl*ss 😭😭 like istg she could marry Travis tomorrow and have 8 kids with him and they’d all be like “omg performance art” like you really think queen kylie kelce would involve her family in this if it was fake? The same kylie who is NOTORIOUS for not taking any bullshit? You think she’s involving her kids in this? Not a chance (side note Kylie kelce please adopt me I love you)

also if she was gay it makes more sense from a pr perspective for her to be single for a while rather than for her to have a “beard” she’s constantly slut shamed for having boyfriends and it’s not like those men get away Scot free either…. like she was fresh out of a 6 year relationship she could very easily have gone the “taking some time to work on myself before I get into another relationship” route if she didn’t want to date men anymore but instead she went straight to matty Healy of all people (which I genuinely think is one of the worst decisions she’s made in the past 5 years but then again she’s a grown adult who can do what she likes it’s none of my business and that is an opinion for another day)

“she’s being so loud in her songs only gaylors would understand” so close! Believing that a celebrity is sending you secret messages is actually a sign of schizophrenia! She’s not your friend she doesn’t know you and you should probably seek help xx

p.s. if you read this and felt offended I suggest you get a job I’ve heard they’re really good at filling all that free time you use to try and tear apart a stranger’s relationship

[scarycranegame]

like how everyone else on this site is like "omg the feeling of seeing your f/o for the very first time!!!" and meanwhile when i saw them for the first time i was like "oh, cool guy you got there, canon" and then 3 weeks later my brain goes "hye guess what :D"

[ilviloebseie]

I find it funny that if you call out people for being lesbophobic who are usually mostly immature minors, and that mspec "lesbians" don't exist they'll literally prove how lesbophobic they are, and will talk about how so and so existed in history, as if there wasn't several problematic flags/terms, that were used in history and called out later, this is literally one of the dumbest excuses Lesbophobes use. There was a time with other problematic things existed but couldn't be focused on because the had other problems, but now as we have involved we can call out these problems that's literally how you grow over decades it doesn't matter if you think it's small it's not to a person who's whole identity is being talked over by a person who's not even lesbian. I'm not lesbian so I don't have a place to talk over lesbians or have a say on lesbianism but I can: listen to their voices because I know just from this app alone how isolated you all make them feel, because they're the only sexuality that doesn't like men, and you villainize and seem to only talk over lesbians and gay men, not only that some of you stereotype them as any other type of queer phobia to other communities, when they speak on their issues respectfully and when really any queer phobia comes from every community and it's just as lesbophobic to them. You can easily call out any type of queer phobia to EVERY community, without targeting a one whole community.

Lesbian: a person who's NOT a man attracted to anyone who's NOT a man (zero attraction to men, sexually or romantically it's not possible, there's a thing called bi-romantic homosexual, because that's an umbrella term, lesbian is not an umbrella term.) Please for the love of god learn the difference between sapphic and lesbian.

But I'm not gonna argue with minors or immature adults, who like to pretend they aren't lesbophobic and tbh they just don't like when they're not involved, and when it doesn't affect them, and They know they're wrong too when they turn off the comments or when they have a petty reply "lmao" "womp womp" how original. You are proving the point, even Tiktok is not as bad as this.