#adhd ramble

[blueberrythefrog]

The boop function is a ADHD trap, help I have nonstop been booping my partner, and she's been doing the same thing ;v; TUMBLR WHAT HAVE YOU DONE

[circusislife]

i have a bit of a personal question so feel free to ignore this ask

can i ask how you figured out you had adhd?(did i spell it right?) and do you have any tricks to making yourself get up and do whatever you got to do?

Wepl, get ready for a rant, because hyperfixations (past and present) are a surefire way to be blab for half an hour.

So, I don't remember 100% /how/ I got diagnosed, It was when I was about six and a half.

Mostly, my mother was Just this side of being an helicopter parent, and she noticed the signs pretty soon. There were many signals, I started to speak later than my sister did, then had problems with pronouncing letters like "r" "s" and "t" despite completely understanding the difference between the words they were used in, used to put my feet wrong which would cause me pain, had bad posture (which would also cause me pain), was extremely energetic in comparison to other kids, would zoon out in the middle of something and become almost completely detached from reality for minutes at a time, would start multiple somethings and leave them incomplete (way more than Is normal for the average kid), when I read out loud, if I misread a Word once, then rereading the exact same passage and helping I'd realize the mistake was a lost cause, my hand to eye coordination was in the negatives, I would bump into things, drop things and stuff like that. Also many more things that don't come ti mind right now.

Because of that I've been misdiagnosed/suspected of having autism (that one also because I have Always liked math, and I think the teachers were a bit too much into the cliché), epilepsy (theory busted with a three day long electroencephalogram), dyslexia, dyslalia and I think I'm forgetting something but want to finish this before tomorrow.

Long story short, each and every single one of those symptoms was because of adhd.

Wrong footing and posture? Distracted.

Same mistake at reading repeatedly? Distracted.

zooning out in maybe low key seizures? Hella distracted.

Couldn't stay still if I tried, no matter classes events or social expectations? Hyperactivity.

Mum noticed It all.

She asked doctors and brought me to visits (I remember a ton of them as a kid, probably why I've always been comfortable in hospitals).

At 6.5 years I had a first diagnosis, but was struggling like Hell at school and barely scraping by (yes in my freaking First year of school I spent more time studying than hanging out with friends with little results).

Lucky me, we live in range of the leading institute and one of the only three in Italy. So when a pediatric psychologist suggested a check up there It wasn't too problematic.

Did some tests. One of the ways to officially determinate if someone had adhd Is doing an IQ test. There are 4 areas analyzed. In regular people the scores are more or less even, but if you have adhd there should be a considerable difference between two areas and the other two. I scored pretty High (I Just Remember It being fun but whatever), but the difference was there. and here's the diagnosis. Also started taking the prescription (and suddenly I could actually follow the lessons without Major headhache) (that still came studying at home, but was better).

Ok, Just realized this went from rambling to oversharing, so back to the point.

As for the ways to trick executive dysfunction?

Mostly stuff I came up by mixing advice and adapting them to my personality.

Like, I find It extremely satisfying to start something at an even hour (like, I don't know, start to study at exactly 14:30?)

Also having someone in the room with me helps (mostly do this with my sister) (not the best in my opinion because I think that's just a way of using anxiety and fear of judgement, but It Is a way to use It go your advantage and if It works It works).

Also, having a set environment/routine for a set task Is good. Your brain Will associate the two and One Will eventually automatically follow the other. (Stuff like, sofa=relax desk=work no exceptions allowed, or cook-eat-clean as a single unit)

Also, starting a task from the easiest part of the One you like the most Is of help. Just like allowing yourself a short break before the task itself with something you reeeeeally enjoy (a fav song, or One of those heaven sent 15 minutes really well written chapters) (those are honestly perfection for a pre-start break, something short and enjoyable with a predetermined and firm stopping point).

Doing so will stimulates the brain to produce dopamine, the neurotransmitter whose underproduction Is the cause of adhd if I remember correctly (tell me if I'm wrong, I'm going on almost 14 years old Memories for some of this stuff). This way you Will have something ti pull you through the hardest part that Is getting started.

When I have to study when tired I have found that working with music Is sometimes an excellent way to trick my brain into believing I have stopped and blessedly chill out with the headhaches. (Other times I become downright murderous if I so much as hear someone breath, but when It works, It works)

You've probably already Heard about setting alarms and using a timer to help keep the tasks contained, or using a planner to make a schedule, but that would imply One actually remembers to use either, sooo... that One really depends on the person.

Ok, now that I've basically written an essay on the phone and probably set to give someone an aneurysm, I bid you goodnight, I'll add the tags tomorrow, now it's sleepy time!

Bye<3

[localsleepwalker]

vvv Potentially unpopular opinion about valentine's day vvv

I think I've figured out how to put into words why women care so much about valentine's day: it's because they see it as a FREE ridiculously easy opportunity for their partner to be romantic. And in a society where most straight guys are super unromantic and women grew up on soap operas and fanfiction and rom coms and hallmark channel, it's no wonder that in a lot of relationships women often feel like they lack something special, like their partner doesn't quite romance them as much as they'd hope they would. But the excuse a lot of guys give is that they weren't taught how to be romantic, or that it's not their nature or that it's not that big of a deal.

Valentine's day is about love. Not necessarily romantic love, but it's still widely understood to be the most romantic holiday. It makes it so EASY to be romantic, the formula is right there!

So when guys don't even bother to follow a relatively simple "formula", I think women, including myself, get upset. Yes, it's all corny and unoriginal, but there can still be a lot of care and love and thought put into it to MAKE it special. And that's what counts, not the expensive roses or fancy chocolate. It's the lack of care that bothers women. Not the fact that their partner is cheap.

So yes. Women want you to cheat and do things the "easy" way sometimes. It's the least they could do. In fact refusing to follow social norms in this case, without appropriate substitution or direct discussion about it with your partner, can feel very insulting because culturally partners expect to be appreciated and doted on for valentine's day, and giving excuses like "but it's dumb and it's mindless consumerism!" only makes your partner feel more unloved, like they're not important enough to you to even take the low hanging fruit.

Besides why would you NOT want an excuse to spoil your partner and treat them like royalty? When else you gonna do it? Lol

Also, if you're so fucking unoriginal and unromantic that you can't come up with an inexpensive way to make your partner feel special and loved on "Appreciate your loved ones" day then yea I think you deserve to be forced to spend a bunch of money on overpriced flowers n shit. I am not advocating for people to spend a bunch of money for the sake of consumerism, that's a problem, but would it really fucking kill you to do SOMETHING nice for your partner??? Do you care that little about them?? I get it, rough times, people are broke, but it's simply not an excuse to do nothing or act like it's dumb and unimportant. It IS important to some people, and that people may include your partner. Get the fuck over it or spend some time single until you're mature enough to learn to love someone in a way that makes them feel fulfilled. It was never about the money.

Thanks for coming to my Ted talk

Tldr; Don't be a piece of shit! Be nice to your partner for valentine's day! Unless they've explicitly told you not to worry about it for good reason.

[the-messy-artist]

Has this been done yet

[friendlycursedspaceotter]

Pro tip for my disabled and chronically ill friends in college: if you have to put a work order in and it is related any bit at all to your disability, write, very clearly in the "describe what needs to get done" section, "This issue is a health hazard," followed by a description of how the issue relates to your disability/chronic illness.

They are required to put it as a high-priority issue and fix it ASAP. Required BY LAW. Yes, I said it. They are legally required to fix these things, both under OSHA regulations and the ADA.

Play the disability card. I'm begging you. DISABLED IS NOT A BAD WORD. But don't abuse it. This is a fine line here.

Example: I'm heat and noise sensitive. My HVAC unit started breaking down and rattling loudly. That would be an example of a health hazard. A broken light could be a health hazard to someone with vision issues. I can only speak for myself here. But y'all have the right to speak up and advocate to yourself.

Neurodivergent people, this applies to you too. You're one of us (one of us! one of us! one of us!). Don't let the exclusionists gatekeep this information from you.

[kotnaur]

People with adhd be like "oh that reminds me"

[lazylittledragon]

what if i broke all the bones in your legs actually

[mellosdrawings]

So I wait.

[honestlydarkprincess]

feeling violent (i’m overstimulated)

[letsventstuff]

This feeling of nothingness is gnawing at my bones again.

[fictionalsownme]

smash???????? who said that?????????

engineer doesn't get enough love on this blog considering how much I cannot express my devotion to him, so I’m working to fix that :) this is similar to what I did for damien but it took foreverr!! iswm lighting is so so pretty which makes it impossible to get right ;;u;; the saturation is really high and there's multiple light sources so in terms of rendering it, its like it was personally designed to leave me dead on the floor :))))) either way,, I'm happy with how it turned out!! he’s very prettie :))

also bonus:

[opikiquu]

my life a movie (PSYCHOLOGICAL HORROR)

[writeitinsharpie]

Neal: I know a guy who can help us

Peter: you can just say Mozzie. We all know it's Mozzie.

[wade-fucking-wilson]

Hyperfixating not in a quirky way, but in more of an “I’m hyperfixated on old man yaoi and even thinking about them makes me wanna slam my head into a wall” way

[wanderingmind867]

I find that romance is hard to define, while sex is just sex. Sexual stuff is way easier to understand. It's easier to understand, which made it easier for me to come terms with my own sexuality. But with the romantic attraction scale... it's way harder to figure stuff out, because I don't even know what romance really is. I don't know how to define it, I don't know what it really is. That lack of knowledge is partially why I think I'm aromantic, since I never, ever feel romantic attraction in real life. But because I know so little about romance, it's not something I feel confident discussing. So it's all just confusing to me. I wish it was as simple as the sex revelation was. I hate complicated things like this. sigh...

[800db-cloud]

i’ve been wanting to do this since day one