#abandonedpregnant

[kandydolor-blog]

I'm glad to see such an outpour of people realizing there is indeed a raging war against women... By disgusting, controlling and clearly narcissistic men. They want to make this a man's world when they can't even carry a human for nine months or give birth. This is an act of jealousy by insecure men who I feel wish they were able to carry the gift of life for themselves. If they really cared about life, they would make sure men who get women pregnant were unable to abandon them and their children! This is the bottom line towards the solution as far as I'm concerned- it's called taking responsibility for your actions on both parts! All that will happen with this new law is women being abandoned pregnant more and more. Just wow... This world we are living in is full of evil. Please sign my petition! Change.org for those in the USA and Uk Government & Parliament for the UK. Sign my petition today! I am pro choice, every woman should have the right to decide if she wants to continue her pregnancy or not! Her life, her body, her choice! Nobody else's business! @realdonaldtrump I highly recommend you read my book. Men need to understand what happens when women are abandoned pregnant, this new law is going to create more problems, cause much depression and so many other mental health issues for women. The heartbeat bill is abuse. #kandydolor #heartbeatbill #abandonedpregnant #abortion #pregnancy #law #petition #abortion#prochoice #media #usnews #government #petition #news#singlemums #singlemoms #singlemothers #moms #momlife #pregnancylife #pregnancyjourney #mybodymychoice #thehandmaidstale #mentalhealth #abuse #thisiswar #abandonment #pregnancy #bookpublishing #press #publicrelations #mentalhealth #depression #support https://www.instagram.com/p/Bxjg2JOph0a/?igshid=qthsyypuu8di

[kandydolor-blog]

If you are a single and pregnant woman or a single mother... How will your story end? This could be you! It all depends on what you choose to give your attention and focus to! #kandydolor #kandycares #abandonedpregnant #singleandpregnant #singlemothers #singlemoms #singlemums #moms #mothers #pregnancylife #pregnantwomen #whatsyourstory #storytime #reallife #singleparent #absentfathers #deadbeatdads #stepdads #relationships #thiscouldbeyou #life #nevergiveup #stayfocused #motivation #prenatal #maternity #swipeleft https://www.instagram.com/p/BzO7V1UpAkp/?igshid=18vy73j8kis8y

[kandydolor-blog]

Thank you for agreeing to me responding to you on my page! First of all congratulations on the beginning of letting go! Secondly, I'm so glad you're feeling strong and that the list of truths I wrote for you helped. When you begin to realize how badly someone treats you they start to look differently to you too, that's what's happening with you now and you're simply beginning to restore your self-esteem with thoughts such as 'I let him do that to me?!' There is nothing to feel bad about falling out of love with a man who doesn't love you, he sure doesn't feel bad about it or the fact he abandoned you pregnant. I don't think you feel bad, I think it feels strange to you because you've spent so much time focusing on him that and now you're not. Then there's the connection of knowing you're having his baby. I know you feel like you're over him and I think you're doing perfectly, but this really is just the beginning which is why you are still feeling things and those feelings will keep changing, you're going to go through more emotions after you have the baby. You'd be surprised! Don't feel like you need to rush getting over him, I know you really want to but you can't force yourself. Stay true to your feelings! I wish you all the best, reach out to me again if you need to! 💕#abandonedpregnant #singleandpregnant #preggoproblems #dilemmas #womenproblems #agonyaunt #singlemother #unresolved #breakup #advice #feelings

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I'm sorry for your loss🙏🏽 💕The priority here is your health and I think that you need to know where things stand with your health instead before you try to figure out where things stand between you and your bf, if he wanted to know what was going on with you he would reach out to you or unblock you as a way for you to initiate contact and to be honest, with him not wanting the baby in the first place, then finding out that there are two babies, then blocking you-shows that he will not be there for you in any other way at the moment. Besides if you did manage to make contact with him, what would you say? It isn't his right to know anything and he is showing that he isn't interested so you need to leave things as they are with him and look after yourself. If he comes back around at some point asking about the situation then you can tell him about it, but don't go out of your way when you've been blocked on everything to try speaking to someone who has already proved how unsupportive they are! This is not your fault at all, he obviously does not respond or communicate like a mature adult to situations he finds stressful but I am very much feeling that you are desperate to make contact with this guy and you need to think about why you'd want support from someone who has left you at a time when you need him most and has also stopped you from having contact with him! Why would you feel horrible if he didn't know what was going on when he has done it to himself and has made it clear to you that he doesn't want to know... That's why he has blocked you! Please, please focus on your health and on yourself, find out what is going on with your pregnancy first, stop worrying about him! I know it sounds horrible but he isn't worrying about you! So save your peace of mind! I pray you will find the strength you need to get through whatever happens, I wish you all the best! Thank you for reaching out.��� #abandonedpregnant #abandonment #agonyaunt #dilemma #life #problems #preggoproblems #preggoproblems #pregnancyblog #havingababy #miscarriage #cancer

[kandydolor-blog]

Hey there, based on the way your ex is behaving; no it's not wrong for you to cut contact with him during your pregnancy. You don't need the stress he is bringing to you during this time, especially with him adding a new girlfriend to the situation. Urgh! I'm disgusted that he is using her as an excuse for missed scan appointments. I don't know where you got the information that his girlfriend was preventing him having contact with you, but if it came from him it's most likely to be a lie. You don't know what he's told her about you either, but you can be sure there will be more lies involved. However, if by some small chance it is true that his girlfriend is dictating or controlling his contact with you it still comes down to him, it's his choice to listen to her and to stay away from you if that is what's happening, although I very much doubt it. By his actions he isn't doing anything that he doesn't want to do, he actually doesn't seem to know what he is doing (leaving you then wanting to come back when he knew he had a new girlfriend) or care about how it affects you or his relationship with his baby. He's out for himself and sounds like a confused lying coward. Yes girl! You make sure you stay focused on your last semester in college! Don't let your ex or his new girlfriend get in the way of you moving forward and making progress with your life! As time goes by they will matter less and less but your education won't! I wish you all the best of luck.💕Chapter five in my book 'Abandoned Pregnant' covers dealing with rejection which you will find useful. DM me for further answers or encouragement anytime! #abandonedpregnant #pregnantandalone #singleandpregnant #pregnantandalone #teenmom #teenpregnancy #teenmumuk #mentor #advicecolumn #advice #pregnancyproblems #preggoproblems #relationships #doulas #midwives #breakups #lifecoach #motivationalspeaker #writerofinstagram #freelancewriter

[kandydolor-blog]

Guess how much time you can waste talking about an absent father and all the unnecessary things about him? YEARS!!! This can go on from your pregnancy or the time of the birth of your baby- potentially until their adult years if you don't take control of it. None of the gossip is worth it (no decent human cares what a deadbeat dad is wearing) and the chatter only results in stress- because whatever he is wearing or is not doing for your child -you physically don't have the power to change it. So don't entertain anything about him and don't allow your kids to miss out on quality time with you because you're gossiping about someone who doesn't care about them! Stay positive and block out the negative! #kandydolor #abandonedpregnant #singleandpregnant #singlemothers #singlemoms #teenmum #teemom #women #moveon #gossip #singlemum #advice #drama #peace #deadbeatdads #absentfathers #grownwomen #chatter #petty #forgetthem #liveyourlife #parenting #parentingadvice https://www.instagram.com/p/BzPDktHpGNd/?igshid=1cmdd2v96hvy0

[kandydolor-blog]

Hey hun❤️ This sounds like the actions of a man who was afraid of being a father, not a man who had no plans of becoming one or in the two and a half years you were intimate surely he would have said something about it... I think when he realized you were actually going to have his baby he got even more scared of his child growing up without knowing him. I can understand your confusion and maybe even anger towards him as he wanted you to go through an abortion, but I'm glad you were strong enough not to make your decision off his past fearful reasons. My advice to you is to allow him to be the father he wasn't planning to be, he will probably end up loving that child more than he has ever loved anybody! You don't have to get back with him and I wouldn't advise that based on how you're feeling as there needs to be healing, but your ex is choosing to be involved in his child's life and that's the main thing. Don't put any pressure on yourself and allow things to happen naturally as you prepare to give birth and of course be sure to protect your heart! I wish you both all the best in moving forwards as new parents! ❤️#abandonedpregnant #singleandpregnant #abortion #singlemothers #singlemom #comment4comment #singlemum #mothers #pregnancylife #pregnancyproblems #advice #relationships #relationshipproblems #relationshipadvice #fathers #dads #singleparents #lifecoach #lifecoachforwomen #mentor #motivationalspeaker https://www.instagram.com/p/BxU47fJJFsj/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1irer0gkvld1k

[kandydolor-blog]

Ladies, create positive energy! Listening to music during pregnancy can be double therapy for both mother and baby! Play music that helps your emotions to feel de-stressed- that doesn't mean you have to listen to music you might find boring such as for example instrumental classics, you may prefer to listen to something more up-beat with an attitude that makes you feel like you can handle anything! There are different genres of music you can listen to for inspiration or motivation and you never know- if you try listening to something new your baby might enjoy it! #therapythursday #pregnancy #pregnancytherapy #abandonedpregnant #singleandpregnant #support #pregnancycare #advice #positivity https://www.instagram.com/p/BxPS1gQJchg/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=eqvr5m6cbco7

[kandydolor-blog]

I had an amazing conversation with @rodneyamueller last week who is a business advisor and a life coach for men who are going through difficulties due to past issues of abandonment and growing up without fathers. Rodney Mueller also focuses on healing and I can't wait to bring our conversation onto the Abandoned Pregnant Podcast! Rodney has his own unique story... He has even shared it on Oprah with Iyanla Vanzant on tv. Rodney has opened my eyes to quite a few things from a man's perspective, particularly things that had me curious and I know there's stuff my ladies need to hear coming from open and honest men who have had certain experiences and Rodney is certainly one of them! Make sure you look out for the next podcast post this week on Wednesday and listen in! Many of your questions to do with men and abandonment will be answered, along with hearing Rodney's story, our conversation and plenty of knowledgeable information! #abandonedpregnant #abandonedpregnantpodcast #absentfatherspodcast #podcast #singlemothers #kids #singleparents #conversation #realtalk #absentfather #singlemothers #singlemom #singlemums #deadbeatdads #absentfathers #family #media #lifecoach #author #mentor https://www.instagram.com/p/BxHOJi_JTYQ/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1jmwpwsf5nd2r

[kandydolor-blog]

If you're a single lady having a baby in difficult emotional circumstances you never expected such as abandonment during pregnancy, then you should sign up for coaching with Kandy. I will have you holding your head up during a time when you thought you wanted to hide away, as no single and pregnant woman who has been abandoned by the father of her baby should feel ashamed or care about what people say. Struggling to get over your ex who left you pregnant? Can't understanding why you still care for a man who treated you so bad? Are you feeling conflicted within yourself and want some help to overcome such overwhelment? Learn how to control your environment for your mental well-being and have complete trust in yourself to begin healing, never ignore your intuition about men, bad friends or anyone else who means your life no good ever again! No longer ignore what feels wrong and feel no more fear in getting rid of them, stop holding on to the wrong things or the wrong people for bad reasons! Make the chances of your good heart getting hurt again much less by protecting it, quickly learn how to control your emotions using logic.Get guidance from someone who has been in a similar situation and is still learning lessons and researching facts in abandonment issues over the years, learn things you won't be taught about elsewhere. Finally feel free from the side effects of fakes and mistakes, including other bad choices and begin to peacefully and courageously indulge in your own realness of happiness that you deserve to experience. Learn how to ultimately live for yourself, because it's your life not theirs... Be brave enough to do what's best... FOR YOU! And your baby too! Let me help you to unistall all self-doubt & instill self-belief... Email: kandycaresbooks@gmail.com or send me a dm to enquire about booking your coaching sessions. #motivationmonday #abandonedpregnant #singleandpregnant #coachingforwomen #lifecoach #mentor #pregnantwomen #pregnantanddepressed #pregnancyproblems #pregnancycare #momtobe #singlemoms #wellbeing #babydaddyproblems #lifecoach #women #support #momtobe #pregnantandalone #relationships #singlemothers https://www.instagram.com/p/Bw0-SYCJtCl/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=b6ijqz3nnyop

[kandydolor-blog]

My wish for all single mothers is for them to prosper further in life than deadbeat dads and absent fathers- including all the women they get with who accept this bs! May single mothers who need to hear this- that have been left alone to raise children on their own- find themselves in ways that these types of rubbish fathers and their women will never be able to discover about themselves! May you grow from the horrible experiences they have left you to deal with and outgrow them all during the process! May none of them be able to hold you back from progression! May all your frustrations and suffering turn into your greatest lessons, where wisdom blossoms! May any anger you feel motivate you to move to much higher levels! I am wishing this for all of you today! May each and every one of you single mothers who were abandoned, triumph over deadbeat dads and everyone who supports them! May you all find the courage to leave them behind in every aspect of your lives! Sending positive vibes your way today ladies! Believe in yourselves and you can win- even in the most difficult situations your children's fathers left you to lose in! You can do it! Keep the faith, take action in going forwards and pray for good over evil everyday! ©KandyDolor #pray #win #faith #begreat #singleparents #abandonedpregnant #singleandpregnant #pregnantandalone #singlemoms #singlemothers #singlemums #mothers #motherhood #deadbeatdads #absentfathers #pregnantwomen #wellwishing #goodwomen #preaching https://www.instagram.com/p/BvytDPXlMCV/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=118e0p6aub785

[kandydolor-blog]

Good Morning Ladies! Some of you are already involved in this exciting project! I spoke to a few of you before hand in private about it. However, I wanted to give a few more of my long term followers or women I have helped with dilemmas a chance to have their stories entered. If you DM me a brief description of your situation I will get back to you with more information. Thank you❤️ I am going to get our voices heard! This book is not about revenge, there can be no names of any men mentioned, it's about sharing your stories to help other women get through this emotional experience and to create awareness of what women go through when they have been abandoned pregnant, as well as admitting their own mistakes over anything they might have allowed to happen. Most importantly, it's about opening up about what has happened to them and how they have changed since then. #growthmindset #abandonedpregnant #singleandpregnant #pregnantandalone #singlemothers #singlemums #singlemoms #singlemomlife #singlemomstrong #motherhood #publishing #women #metoo #selfhelp #activist #authors #talentagents #motivationalspeaker #powerfulwomen #womensempowerment #revolution#powerful #movement #bookpublishers #media #news #kandycares #kandydolor https://www.instagram.com/p/Bv3X6bzlSL0/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1ave0bwobav44

[kandydolor-blog]

This IS my end goal and if you've read Abandoned Pregnant then you will know! I don't want single and pregnant ladies to go throughout their motherhood journey's feeling bitter, I want them to get better! However, I'm not going to ever stop addressing the negative feelings and thoughts that come with the whole experience! As an activist in this field I will continue to speak on it! 💯 Ignoring those things is why there have never been any much needed changes! You can move on while fighting for what's right! You can move on and reach back to help others out of the darkness and pull them into the light! You can escape a situation and return to rescue others from it! For some of us this was our callings. There is someone needed for everything... Shout out to those 'religious' people judging. #onlygodcanjudge #godsplan #iknowwhatimdoing #abandonedpregnant #postnataldepression #narcissisticabuse #emotionalabuse #beingjudged #god #pregnantandalone #singleandpregnant #singlemothers #motherhood #breakthecycle https://www.instagram.com/p/BwCHuR6lNlB/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=hvz6b39s8j4r

[kandydolor-blog]

This morning let's create more awareness! I think there are a few ignorant people who need to understand why some single mothers are so angry with deadbeat dads and why as more time goes by silenced frustrations stored up over the years tend to come to light. There are so many frustrations single mothers face alone when the fathers of their children aren't around to give a hand and don't give a damn. This post isn't for single mothers putting on a front, acting like their kids fathers absences or lack or support never has bothered them and still doesn't (yeah right) 🙄 I'd like to hear from those mothers who aren't afraid of commenting in regards to their true experiences and feelings. Ladies, list your frustrations, I'm listening! #singlemothers #singlemoms #singleparents #mothers #singlemoms #singlemomstrong #singlemomlife #mentor #womenslifecoach #abandonedpregnant #singleandpregnant #mums #moms #deadbeatdads #absentfathers #babydaddydrama #babydaddyproblems #frustrations #discussion #comment4comment https://www.instagram.com/p/BwUB_V_p4ak/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1s441yp67dfqz

[kandydolor-blog]

When it comes to the birth don't expect a man who didn't want his baby to show up or you will end up hurt! So many ladies who have been abandoned by an ex during their pregnancies ask me "Should I call him when I go into labour, Kandy?" NO! NO! NO! Don't! You will only end up feeling anxious before the birth, wondering and worrying about if your babies father will show up or not, even though deep down you already know he won't but that doesn't stop you from thinking wishfully which could cause complications, giving birth is serious and needs to be done in a stress free environment. It's not a good idea to have a man there who didn't support you during your pregnancy. If you do inform your babies father when you are in labour and he does not show up to the birth, after the birth you won't be feeling as happy as you could have and your emotions will be mixed with hurt, looking at your sweet, beautiful innocent baby makes it feel even worse. Ladies who have been abandoned during pregnancy; just remember that when it comes to the birth don't expect a man who is reluctant to be a father to turn up or you will get hurt! #abandonedpregnant #singleandpregnant #pregnantandalone #singlemoms #singlemother #pregnancyhelp #teenmom #teenmum #youngmum #youngmom #teenpregnancy #motherhood #pregnantwomen #absentfathers #deadbeatdads #abandonment #pregnancyproblems #pregnantwomen #pregnancy #labour #birth #midwives #nurses #kandycares #kandydolor #author #speaker #coachforwomen #specialist #activist https://www.instagram.com/p/BtYzXUiF6Kf/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1omzhmeafjwlr

[kandydolor-blog]

Sometimes these men see the struggle from the women they love then go on to do it to others, repeating the invisible pattern of absence they saw from their own absent fathers. These things can run in the family (men and women) and comes out in different ways when a father has been missing in their children's lives or when their relationships have been next to non existent. Families can then become conflicted, some members turn into hypocrites, and some (due to their morals) are left isolated; all because of a long line of men who didn't take care of their kids! That's the bottom line in this scenario I've presented when it comes down to it. Not that I'm giving deadbeats excuses... Just keeping it real with the cause and effect side of it! ©KandyCares™ 2019 #abandonedpregnant #specialist #facts #researcher #writer #speaker #singleandpregnant #absentfathers #deadbeatdads #babydaddyproblems #sons #brothers #babydadydrama #family #singlemama #singlemothers #singlemomstrong #singleparents #motherhood #pattern #cycle #repeatoffender #sadsituation #kandycares #kandydolor https://www.instagram.com/p/BtZUkbUll5n/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1nq4ikbvsnv9g