#beingjudged

[postikortti]

SCREAMING i need to cut my hair i need to get more piercings i need to get a tattoo and a new watch and shirt i actually like. also a new bra. 

[licobat]

intro post thingy

hi im licorice but licos fine :)

this is just my blog for my age regression / system little things !! im a fictive !!

if you recognize my art style please dont be mean :( ivebeen really anxiousabout how my brain does this andi am scared of beingjudged

nsfw / kink / proship / endos dni please :)

tag list !

lico talking- talk tag

lico answers- asks

lico draws- art :)

licos stims- my stimboards!!

licos favs- favorite posts !!

my otheralters will probably use the same but with their name instead of mine:)

[thecpdiary]

Being cruel

It is important we are open with ourselves about our experiences and vulnerabilities. When we work on acceptance, we avoid being cruel to others.

When we feel mentally or emotionally hurt, we will back off and may start to live a life in denial on the facts, which means running away from our truth. It is only through us being open and honest that our own emotional needs can be met and we can heal.

When we’re in denial of the facts, we will also fail to cope with those who remind us of it. Each experience we have, is etched in our psyche and unconscious, stored as a memory. If our experiences are good that’s fine, but if our experiences are attached to abuse, rejection or neglect, those memories can start to play out in a way others will regard as being cruel.

Instead, we must aim to understand a person’s reasoning, and ask ourselves why they would choose to behave in such a way. Once we understand another person’s reasoning and behaviour, we will make more informed choices on how we tackle what we know.

Regardless of our circumstances, or experiences, there is no excuse for being cruel. Without it, the world would look and feel different.

Source: https://www.theguardian.com

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[ijessflo]

Tired of the same old draining patterns #Procrastination #Selfdoubt #Feelingunworthy #Fear of #rejection #Feeling #unmotivated #Fear of #beingjudged #Selfsabotage #Fear of #failure #Stress / #Anxiety Curious to find out what’s stopping you from having the life you want? Not sure what to do to move forward? Get support, accountability and the right program for you #Selfcare is for you and no one else

[pmnspeciaality]

DON’T BE JUDGMENTAL 🍁 We love to judge others and invariably we do so without knowing much about the person who we are judging. We rejoice in it because it feeds on our prejudices. It shows a lack of intellect, it most certainly shows insecure, egoistic personality and puts a strain on relationship. Self awareness is the key to stop being judgemental The reality is , there is nothing either good or bad but thinking makes it so. And once you free yourself of this burden and accept people as they are ,it will make you a better person www.drpnagaraj.in #manam #beautifuldivineful #soulful #drpnagaraj #iarhglobal #beingjudged #egoistic #selflove #awareness (at Chennai, India) https://www.instagram.com/p/CUtZxs6IHmL01HKrZZDJcCmFdwDTT800_5YKEo0/?utm_medium=tumblr

[trotoartsmanufacture]

Senja, Just keep doing what you're doing, we're all being judged by someone who's not even close to having their shit together... Cause Once you carry your own water, you will learn the value of every drop.. #nighttalk #workovertime #beingjudged #selfreminder #balicoffee #nighttoremember (di Trotoarts Co) https://www.instagram.com/p/CGVTFqZAHj1/?igshid=1ruljki2hqfqu

[troubledontlast1]

Caring about what people think of you is useless. Most people don't even know what they think of themselves. #repost @chainachaithanyasai Not everyone will understand your journey. That's okay. You're here to live your life, not to make everyone understand. #judgers You can't let people scare you. You can't go your whole life trying to please everyone else. You can't go through life worried about what everyone else is going to think. Whether it's your hair, clothes, what you have to say, how you feel, what you believe and what you have. You can't let the judgment of others stop you from being you. Because if you do, you're no longer you. You're someone everyone else wants you to be. #judging Opinions aren't facts. Stop worrying about what people think about you. #haters People may hate you for being different and not living by societies standards, but deep down, they wish they had the courage to do the same. #critics When you worry about what other people think of you, you give up your power to enjoy you. Your opinion of yourself is the key to happiness. #criticism You can't change how people feel about you. So don't try. Just live your life and be happy. #judges Make every decision based on what you truly love, don't try to impress anyone except yourself. #criticizing When you come to a point where you have no need to impress anybody, your freedom, your life, will begin. #judgement People will judge you no matter what, so you might as well do what works best for you. #judgingothers Don't be distracted by criticism. Remember, the only taste of success some people have is when they take a bite of you. #criticizingothers Don't worry what people think, they don't do it very often. #beingcriticized Don't worry about other people's opinions of you. God never told you to impress people; only to love them. #beingjudged The hardest challenge is to be yourself in a world where everyone is trying to make you into somebody else. #judgmentofothers Your perception of me is a reflection of you. #peoplepleasing They hate you because their titles don't carry the same weight as your influence. #judgementalpeople Your life isn’t yours if you constantly care what others think. (at Mount Juliet, Tennessee) https://www.instagram.com/p/B0Todallqe7/?igshid=1opxrdi5kjs1v

[kandydolor-blog]

This IS my end goal and if you've read Abandoned Pregnant then you will know! I don't want single and pregnant ladies to go throughout their motherhood journey's feeling bitter, I want them to get better! However, I'm not going to ever stop addressing the negative feelings and thoughts that come with the whole experience! As an activist in this field I will continue to speak on it! 💯 Ignoring those things is why there have never been any much needed changes! You can move on while fighting for what's right! You can move on and reach back to help others out of the darkness and pull them into the light! You can escape a situation and return to rescue others from it! For some of us this was our callings. There is someone needed for everything... Shout out to those 'religious' people judging. #onlygodcanjudge #godsplan #iknowwhatimdoing #abandonedpregnant #postnataldepression #narcissisticabuse #emotionalabuse #beingjudged #god #pregnantandalone #singleandpregnant #singlemothers #motherhood #breakthecycle https://www.instagram.com/p/BwCHuR6lNlB/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=hvz6b39s8j4r

[mentalemotionalhealing]

When the masks you wear outside, become your misguided inner reality, you have to take them off and face your inner self. You have to fight of the fear of #beingjudged , being #hurt , being #unlovable and give yourself #unconditionallove . To work on yourself takes #courage , #honesty and #patience . #letyourselfshine #youreworthit #youregoodenough #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #counseling #therapy #silencetodo https://www.instagram.com/p/BsesAKDAx_Y/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1w5p1fmk9cb00

[jsydbrantley]

This is so very true. Having fear is healthy, but have fear of things that matter. I’ve never thought of it this way. I’m not necessarily afraid of being judged, but I do worry about it (replace the word “fear” with “worry” same idea). . . . It’s a good quote for a specific situation. Don’t be afraid to put yourself out there and show people what you’re made of. Don’t fear the opportunity to be an example. * * * #senseisays #quoteoftheday #healthyfears #beingjudged #getoutthere #justdoit #justice #favequote https://www.instagram.com/p/Bn4FeaWgEq2/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=p3czpby2ib7q

[wonderstruckfallingagain]

Real Talk: Food Anxiety

I like to touch on many different topics here, since this is who I am and nothing is always going to be as exciting as the Lover album. I for one, will be the first to admit that although I am well into my early adult years, my relationship with food has been anything but easy. I grew up kind of a chubby girl, just how I was built I guess. I did sports and lost some weight, but I remember being in middle school and high school and “hiding” my food essentially. I mean I should not be complaining here, I was luck to be able to have a lunch to bring every day. I just think sometimes I get in my head about what I’m eating and wondering if people are judging me for eating it, even just talking about food. And no, I’m not talking about those skinny perfect girls who always say “omg i love cake and pizza and i have CFA every day!!!” like no, girl you just haven’t had your metabolism catch up yet...not everyone can be as lucky as them... 

Going back to my point, I truly do currently have food anxiety. First it started out with working around people all the time and getting no privacy. That was then I knew my food was going to judged whether I liked it or not. Even when I was in college, I would wait until the latter hours of the night to cook myself or even find myself food, because I was really embarrassed about being judged for the food I was making/food I wanted to make. I have starved myself (before you judge me) at times because I was scared and waiting for people to leave so that I could cook on my own. I just have this huge thing where I can’t cook without feeling like someone like my mom is going to judge what I’m eating, and even at the times I eat. It just goes back the fat shaming I feel like I endure everyday it seems like. I just wish I could just feel confident about what I’m going to eat. I feel scared of food sometimes because I’m afraid about what it’ll do to my body, especially foods I am not familiar with or have very bad levels of nutrition. But my hunger levels seems to always catch back up to me. Sigh. If anyone knows ways to cope with food anxiety or even just feels the same way as me and such, please feel free to reach out. I feel like a crazy person explaining this to my parents and even therapist. 

[loraaaah]

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[runningjokelife-blog]

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[thecpdiary]

Why No One Really Knows

No one knows what it took for me to get up in the morning, to say hello to another day, and yet we assume we know and still we may go on to give those people a hard time. I never told a bean.

Ignoring other people’s success

We may also ignore the very things they have succeeded at because we can, because it suits us and because what they have achieved may irritate us, particularly if we haven’t met with success. Success is usually scorned upon.

My struggles (A Story)

I scraped through school, didn’t do well at college and came out with very little qualifications. When I initially started work, I was temporary, brought in by an agency and then made permanent, later learning it was because the partner’s secretary had walked.

As the weeks and months continued, it soon became obvious why the partner's secretary had walked. His secretary was his wing-man, a nightmare to work with. I was told I was middle class, and his employees had complained about me. By his own admission, his employees were working class, but I was just being me, there was no class, just me. His class issues were evident, horrible, horrible man.

I was treated differently

He treated me differently to all his other staff. He didn’t like me and he was a bully, but it was a permanent  job and I was told by my father that I wasn’t allowed to leave until I got another job. The nightmare job lasted for 18 months.

I sometimes worked on reception. The office was opposite a church with a crypt where the homeless would go to sleep for the night. The church would feed them also. When the weather was bad and if I was on reception, I had visitors from the crypt who would see me from the window and would come in to dry off, when ‘the horrible man was and wasn’t in’, sometimes he’d walk through reception and see us talking.

But eventually the horrible man, used them as ammunition to get back at me and lied, telling me they had complained and asked me to go. All I know is that I was kind, I made the homeless feel comfortable, made them cups of tea and we chatted about things.

What it took for me to get up

But he didn’t know what it took for me to get up in the morning, to come to work, already feeling bad about myself and hating the job I was in. I was struggling with a disability I didn’t know I had. I was angry, irritated, and unhappy. It would take me another 41 years to work ‘me’ out.

Trying to fit in

Trying to fit into my life has always been commonplace. Continually being judged and misunderstood was also commonplace, it still is today. Do you ever fit in with autism? I don’t think you do, but you live in hope that changes.

I still fail to fit in

Years on and I still try to fit it and fail most days. As I do, my blog The CP Diary is testament to the help I continue to give; through my books I continue to selflessly help others, with any royalties I get going to charity. By buying one of my books, you’re helping to give back.

I’ve had to work for everything I have achieved. Nothing was ever handed to me on a plate and yet I continued and continue to be judged. Success was never something I thought about let alone achieve, but it comes with judgment.

People should want to support

I’ve heard it said, we all have a right to be successful and although success isn’t a given, so long as you’re humbled by what you achieve, you’re still reaching out to help others and you are kind, others should be okay with that and should want to support you.

So you see and as my story shows, I have not had it easy. It is wrong to judge, it is right to support. In what is now a divisive and divided world, we should all want to offer support and do what’s right, because it is right.

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[prakashdaga-blog]

#love #trust #beingreal #beinghurt #beingjudged Life... (at Genpact Pocharam Hyderabad) https://www.instagram.com/p/BmvxZeHHx0e/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=vktnhr9jbv1v