#Self-empowerment and resilience

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Rising Above Negativity: Embracing Your True Self Amidst Judgment

In this blog post, I want to share a personal journey of self-discovery and empowerment. It’s a reflection on the realisation that, despite our best efforts, we cannot control how others perceive us. Despite facing unwarranted negativity and unfounded judgments, we can rise above and stay true to ourselves. The Power of Being a Good Person: For the longest time, I used to worry about what others…

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How to win this month…

Speaking life into yourself daily, no more judging yourself because you didn’t go for a run, or wake up at 5am. Choosing to love yourself unconditionally. Choosing to write those affirmations and stick them on the bathroom mirror, choosing to infuse your mind with loving, kindness, gratitude and all that yummy stuff on an hourly basis.

Focus on move the needle tasks. You want to write that book, loose 100 lbs, compete in the Olympics - whatever is your PRIMARY goal in life (and choose the primary one only), focus 100% on that task. Creating momentum around this one thing each and every day. Your primary goal should be your only focus. Secondary goals, are irrelevant. Nothing comes above your PRIMARY GOAL, and doing small little tasks each day to support this is how you make progress.

Organised days. As much as the feminine loves, flow, ease, loose unstructured days this truly does not bag you the life of your dreams. Break your day into 4 hour blocks, setting tasks in each block from when you wake up to the evening. This allows organised, focused, and productive days.

Using your resources wisely, if you’re still recovering financially from xmas, or on some kind of budget, ensure you spend wisely. Choosing health over aesthetic, choosing the Pilates membership over the designer trainers. The intolerance test over the sculpting facial. Investing in the inside before the outside is a priority. Making smarter financial decisions from a place of inner love.

Main character energy. Putting yourself first on a whole new level. No more thinking about the guy who you’re not even dating, no more putting mental energy into anything other than becoming your very best self. Period. If it’s taking mental energy from your purpose , from those move the needle tasks, from your organised days, from spending wisely. RE-ALIGN, create space and re-centre and get back on the track. We're winning the race this year.

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How to avoid drama in your life. (School/Work/Family)

Hate to say this but i don't really think some people can just live their life without poking into other's business and causing unnecessary turmoil so, here's a guide to avoid all types of unnecessary drama in your life.

A full communication circle.

Communication is the main cause for most fights so, here's the thing. When there is something that needs to be done, inform all necessary people about it in advance. Here's a mistake most do, they just tell one person and ask them to put forward the message to the others but tell them directly. Literally, it is the safest option for you, like no one can blame you that you didn't tell them. No one can hold it against you. So tell them directly. And from time to time get repeated reminders so they remember.

Don't involve yourself in unnecessary talks

This is serious. If you are sitting and your friends are complaining about someone, you just listen to them. Don't add on to the things and hype up them. If you know that person isn't like that, defend them subtly. Involving in gossip is the worst. When someone says something about another person or even you then just reply with "I don't really care, they are/ I am free to do whatever they/I want." Or "I don't have the energy for this." Or "It's really none of my business/concern".

If you demand respect, you need to give respect.

Be nice to everyone, I am serious about this. Even if you're not friendly with the person or you don't like them, just be nice. It won't hurt you or them. Even if they do something to hurt you, just let it go with a "Meh it's fine but i would appreciate it if you won't do it again". This may even work people up a bit, handle yourself with care. Make it seem that their presence doesn't actually threaten you.

Calm composure.

Keep yourself calm and composed whenever you're faced with a difficult situation, do not react immediately, take a breath. I usually just frown but more than that, I won't react to anything. It takes some practice but eventually, this is useful. The reason for you to maintain a calm composure is because if the person who hurt you is looking for a dramatic reaction, don't give them the satisfaction.

Better articulation

Especially if it's important instructions! When someone accuses you of something, don't immediately raise your voice, think for a moment, let them wait and then reply with what had actually happened in your point of view.

Apologize. Even if it isn't your fault.

Sometimes, people are just shitty and they won't understand even if you explain it a hundred or a million times. In those case, just say the magic two letter word -> "I'm sorry" or "I apologise". Your worth doesn't come down just because you apologised, on the other hand, you just became a better person than the other one.

It's simply not your damn business.

When someone directly tells you about their life etc etc. You lend a compassionate ear to them. If it's a story going around the whole place, it's simply not your business. And you can say this directly to the person passing the gossip, if they argue then that means you now actualy are aware of another gossip machine.

Don't EVER share your opinions on important matters with a person higher than you! Especially not in front of other people!

I'm damn serious, you don't know who will have it against you so, be careful around who you're saying things to. Other important matters include opinions about the specific person, politics, nationality, culture etc etc. Be sensitive.

Break the chain

When you hear something bad is going around and it reaches you, keep it to your damn self. Don't go adding the fuel to the fire like the rest!

Do not assume!

Don't assume about a situation or a person. Clarify. Always clarify. You may not know what the other person was going through, you don't know everything. Just don't think something, clarify it. No body is going to get mad at you for clarifying.

Make excuses.

When you hear someone talking bad about someone else. Defend them. Make excuses. I don't mean lie to them, I mean saying things like, "It's alright. You don't know what they were going through." Or "Maybe something happened that you don't know about." Personally, I always use the second one because I feel like, sometimes, people aren't bad guys. Situations make them act like that. Povs differ. So be mindful.

Don't raise your voice. Improve your argument.

If there is an argument. Do the classic Harvey Specter thing. You improve arguments with a neutral tone. Don't sound mocking or cocky, sound like you're just explaining to them. This won't escalate the scenario. (The quote was actually given by Desmond Tutu)

Hope this helps! :)

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`*:;,．★ exploring resilience ☆・:.,;*

the powerful concept of resilience—the ability to bounce back from challenges, setbacks, and adversity stronger than before. life is full of ups and downs, but with the right mindset and skills, we can navigate even the toughest times with grace and courage.

cultivate a growth mindset: embrace challenges as opportunities for growth and learning. instead of viewing setbacks as failures, see them as valuable lessons that can help you become stronger and more resilient.

practice self-care: prioritize your physical, emotional, and mental well-being. engage in activities that nourish your soul, whether it's meditation, exercise, journaling, or spending time with loved ones. remember that self-care is not selfish—it's essential for building resilience.

build a strong support network: surround yourself with positive, supportive people who uplift and encourage you. lean on friends, family, mentors, or support groups during tough times, and don't hesitate to ask for help when you need it.

develop coping mechanisms: find healthy ways to cope with stress and adversity. this could include deep breathing exercises, mindfulness practices, creative outlets like art or music, or seeking professional help from a therapist or counselor.

practice gratitude: focus on the blessings in your life, no matter how small. cultivating an attitude of gratitude can help shift your perspective and build resilience in the face of challenges.

stay flexible and adaptable: life is unpredictable, and things don't always go according to plan. practice flexibility and adaptability, and be willing to adjust your goals and expectations as needed.

embrace failures as stepping stones: reframing failure as a natural part of the learning process can help build resilience. instead of dwelling on past mistakes, use them as stepping stones toward future success.

remember, resilience is not about never experiencing adversity—it's about how we respond to it.

-with love, pastel

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Discernment is a form of self love, self respect, self acceptance, and self awareness as you are listening within of what is true and aligned with your principles. When we compromise our principles we go against our integrity.

Elisabeth Babarci

[drachenengel]

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Are you comfortable and willing to be of service to others, but find it difficult to receive the same in return? Why are people so quick to resist receiving, even when they need the help? Your ability to receive not only opens the space for great things to enter your life, but it returns a gift of grace to the giver.

Susan C. Young

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Loving Life Designs

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Where Are You Headed?- Get There.: A Guide to Overcoming Self-doubt for Individuals Seeking Personal and Professional Growth https://a.co/d/fXjmVYV

"Where Are You Headed?- Get There: A Guide to Overcoming Self-doubt for Individuals Seeking Personal and Professional Growth" is your roadmap to self-discovery and empowerment. Through its pages, readers embark on a uniquely transformative journey aimed at conquering self-doubt. This comprehensive guide provides insights into recognizing the signs of self-doubt, overcoming limiting beliefs, and fostering self-confidence. With a focus on both personal and professional growth, this book offers practical strategies for setting and achieving meaningful goals, enhancing emotional intelligence, and cultivating resilience. Whether you're navigating career challenges or seeking personal fulfillment, this guide equips you with the tools and mindset needed to unlock your full potential and pursue your dreams with confidence.

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Me & You.

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Caring too much about what others think.

Caring too much about what others think of you can have negative effects on your well-being and self-esteem. Here are a few reasons why it's important to not overly concern yourself with others' thoughts about you:

Authenticity: When you constantly worry about others' opinions, you may feel pressured to conform or present a false image of yourself. It's essential to embrace your authentic self and live according to your values and beliefs.

Self-Validation: Relying on external validation can be unstable because people's opinions are subjective and can change. Instead, focus on self-validation and cultivating a strong sense of self-worth based on your own values, accomplishments, and personal growth.

Individuality: Everyone has unique perspectives, preferences, and interests. Embracing your individuality and accepting that not everyone will have the same thoughts about you can lead to a greater sense of freedom and self-acceptance.

Emotional Well-being: Constantly worrying about others' thoughts can be emotionally draining and lead to anxiety, stress, and self-doubt. Prioritizing your own emotional well-being and learning to detach from external judgments can contribute to a healthier mindset.

Personal Growth: When you're not preoccupied with others' opinions, you can focus more on your own goals, aspirations, and personal growth. Embracing constructive feedback and learning from experiences becomes easier when you're not overly concerned about external judgments.

Of course, it's still important to consider feedback and opinions from trusted individuals who have your best interests at heart. However, placing too much weight on the thoughts and judgments of others can hinder your personal development and overall happiness.

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Don't you ever think I need you, I put my peace and mental health above everything.

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.｡*ﾟ+.*.｡ stepping out of your comfort zone .｡*ﾟ+.*.｡

seek out new experiences: be curious, be adventurous, and be open to trying new things. whether it's learning a new skill, exploring a new hobby, or traveling to a new destination, embrace the unknown with enthusiasm and curiosity.

challenge yourself: don't be afraid to push beyond your comfort zone and stretch your limits. growth often happens outside of our comfort zones, so dare to take risks, embrace challenges, and believe in your ability to rise to the occasion.

cultivate resilience: setbacks and failures are a natural part of the learning process. instead of viewing them as roadblocks, see them as opportunities for growth and learning. cultivate resilience by bouncing back stronger and more determined than before.

stay curious: never stop asking questions, seeking answers, and expanding your horizons. curiosity is the fuel that drives lifelong learning and personal growth, so nurture it like the precious gift it is.

surround yourself with inspiration: seek out mentors, role models, and like-minded individuals who inspire you to be the best version of yourself. surround yourself with positivity, encouragement, and support as you embark on your journey of growth.

be gentle with yourself: remember that personal growth is a journey, not a destination. be patient, be kind, and be compassionate with yourself as you navigate the ups and downs of life. celebrate your progress, no matter how small, and remember that every step forward is a victory in itself.

- love, pastel

[elisabethbabarci]

Never allow anyone to state that your experience is not real, or undermine the severity of how it made you feel. Do not be pegged into the narrative of “you are playing the victim” or “victimization.” When you allow others to overtake your experience or story, they are disempowering how the events unfolded or made you feel. You, and you alone, know and recognize your reality, and even though the perpetrator will make you doubt your sanity, always know, a safe environment will always make you naturally feel safe, heard, loved, supported, seen, and it will be free of turmoil.

Elisabeth Babarci