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Relationships Advice for Women from Men
Be Supportive: Men appreciate women who are supportive of their goals and aspirations. Showing genuine interest and encouragement in their endeavors can strengthen the bond between partners.
Express Appreciation: Men enjoy feeling appreciated and valued in relationships. Simple gestures such as expressing gratitude or complimenting their efforts can go a long way in building mutual respect and affection. Relationships Advice for Women from Men: Insights You Need to Know (relationshipsgoal.com)
#Relationship advice for women#Relationship advice from men#Insights for women in relationships#Men's perspective on relationships#Healthy relationship tips for women#Relationship advice for better communication#Building trust in relationships#Maintaining individuality in relationships#Tips for handling conflicts in relationships#Keeping romance alive in relationships.
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hi beautiful ppl on tumblr dot com do u have any advice about navigating life after college when u are soso scared
#im gonna be a lot better off in my post grad life than most. i have a place to live thats awesome and walking distance from a lot of friends#i have hobbies goals a community a happy relationship a job etc etc#but im panicking abt like. idk i hate transitions. ive been a student for like 20 years and now thats ending#i wanna learn stuff still.... with other ppl....#also im not starting a 9 to 5 im still doing food service so a lot of the generic post grad advice kinda doesnt feel applicable
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“Omg my SO didn’t know we were dating for like a whole month!” That means you weren’t together. Just so we’re clear
Individual opinions on what constitutes as dating or relationship milestones vary so wildly between people (even people of the same culture) that until you guys are both on the same page as to what’s going on, you shouldn’t assume anything. If you’re thinking “okay so we’re doing typical partner things, this probably means we’re together,” you should probably check in with the person you’re thinking that about because they might view half of that stuff as friend stuff and the other half as undefined-but-leaning-towards-partners so it’s better to talk about it and be sure
I see so many people online complain that “we’re clearly together but they didn’t know that and they were seeing other people!” Solution is to talk about it. “They called me their partner but we haven’t had that conversation yet!” Have it now! Talk about it! Easy peasy broski
I know some people hate the “what are we” convo or think relationships are intuitive or obvious, but most of this stuff is arbitrary so it’s always better to ask. Be an adult and have the adult conversation lol I believe in you
#half the people I see complaining about this stuff need to just have the damn talk#it’s pretty easy after that#communicate or break up fr#sometimes even after you talk there can still be misunderstandings but that’s just life#better to be clear from the get go#relationship things#relationship advice#dating
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The Struggle In Marriage 😝
- My Husband Playing Rocket League w/ his headset on
- Me saying something important to him as loud as I can
- My husband only hearing half of what I said and making me frustrated
- Me repeating myself all frustrated at him
- Him getting defensive asking why I’m upset and yelling at him 🙄 and him not understanding he only heard half of what I originally said! Then I’m even more frustrated he won’t pause his game for 2 seconds to talk
Moral of the story: Instead of yelling and getting frustrated at each other, work with each other and make sure you’re both being heard and saying exactly what you mean! If he won’t pause his game, either wait till he’s done playing to talk to him or work to express to him how not pausing his game upsets you. Ultimately you can’t change or force people to do everything you want them to! Treat your spouse how you also want them to treat you♥️
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Your Partner Need for a Better Sex Life | 10 Sex Goals for a Better Relationship
Your Partner Need for a Better Sex Life | 10 Sex Goals for a Better Relationship A fulfilling and satisfying sex life is an essential component of a healthy and happy relationship. It is important for couples to establish sex goals that can enhance their intimacy, connection, and overall satisfaction. By setting these goals together, partners can actively work towards creating a better sex life…
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Daniel giving Yasmine and Moon car discounts
i have no idea what this means but my dad is the only valid ally
#probably in later seasons when he (presumably) likes them a little better XD#I like to think Yasmine walks into his dealership after totaling yet another car#(she's such a bad driver god bless)#and Daniel's like 'ah yes! Sam's lesbian besties!'#'$4000 dollar discount keep representing the LGBT community and giving my daughter good relationship advice'#yasmoon#yasmine x moon#moon x yasmine#yasmine cobra kai#moon cobra kai#daniel larusso
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The Surprising Benefits of Sleeping Apart: A Fresh Start for Your Relationship
Many couples face a common challenge: one partner snores loudly, making it difficult for the other to sleep. If this sounds familiar, you might have considered sleeping in separate rooms. While it can feel like a sign of trouble in your relationship, experts suggest it could actually be a new beginning. Russell Foster, a professor of circadian neuroscience at Oxford University, believes that…
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Good news : Communicating with people is actually very important and does actually help and make you feel better
Bad news : It will take every ounce of courage you have to be able to muster up the energy to communicate about the thing that's bothering you
#advice#relationships#friendship#online friendships#communication#trav talks#good luck#i procrastinated for two months#and wanted to scream when i finally decided to go for it#and was literally panicking when it started#then it got better#and yeah#slowly i just calmed down#and it made things seem better#it didn't really fix or change anything#it wasn't the type of thing you could fix or change#but it was good to have it out in the open at least
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#tag talk#why are people so bad at communicating like bro respect my fucking time please#if you tell me half an hour don't make me wait an hour and a half istg I'll fucking kill you with my bare hands#you can't disappear for an hour right after committing to hang out and then be like “oh sorry I got busy” BITCH LET ME KNOW THEN#I literally won't mind if something comes up but you have to fucking tell me you can't just disappear for an hour and then be like sorry#and then you fucking do it again. like. cool I try to be a nice person but if you can't do basic communication then I'm leaving#I would genuinely rather be alone then put up with someone I dislike. I will pick isolation over a shitty person every time#I'm not so desperate that I need you. I'm not so desperate that you can put me on hold whenever you want.#ugh ugh ugh like. basic consideration for others hello? like. if I'm sitting with my phone in my hands waiting for you to message me#that's my time your wasting. that's my evening your sitting on. I could be talking to friends. watching a movie. playing video games.#instead I'm spending it getting ghosted because your communication skills fucking suck ass and you don't give a shit about my schedule#I'm genuinely so pissed. I don't give a shit how sorry you are. don't be sorry be better. act differently if you really realize you need to#best advice I can give. don't forgive anyone. if they change. accept that they've changed.#but forgiveness gets taught as something to be given regardless of whether they've changed or not. they say sorry and you say I forgive you#bullshit- they say sorry and you say “prove it. become a better person. learn from your mistakes. don't repeat the hurt you've caused”#you don't need my forgiveness. it only justifies your actions. I won't forgive. I'll accept the change you show me your capable of.#no one deserves your forgiveness. no one deserves your love. no one is entitled to you just because they perform the emotions correctly#relationship is earned. trust is proven. time is given. if your motives and actions do not match up then you can go get fucked.#ugh I'm still burnt out from visiting family I'm so fucking tired and angry at everyone and everything I hate being emotionally unstable#fun fact I even get clumsy when I'm like this. being emotionally unstable fucks me up physically too. I have to hold things with both hands#and I lose my balance a lot more. I'm just so physically exhausted. I hate being this way I hate being this way I hate being this way#so glad I backed out of the family reunion though. that would have genuinely put me in such a bad place.#only two more days of work and I'm free though. then we're moving which is gonna be more stress but better than family stress#work was getting boring and annoying and I'm glad to be done with it. maybe one day I'll be able to hold down a job for more than six month#excuse me while I go listen to Maretu at high volumes to vent my rage
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Relationships Advice for Women from Men
Communication is Key: Men emphasize the importance of open and honest communication in relationships. They appreciate when women express their thoughts and feelings directly, allowing for better understanding and connection.
Respect Boundaries: Men value their personal space and independence in relationships. Women should respect their partner's boundaries and avoid Relationships Advice for Women from Men: Insights You Need to Know (relationshipsgoal.com)
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COZY GAMES ARE MEANT TO BE A LITTLE DARK
I keep getting videos on YouTube that talk about how cozy games are secretly not cozy because they have dark elements to them like the war in Stardew.
Apparently this is somehow meant to ruin the coziness? I hate to break it to you but THATS THE POINT.
These games do not exist in a cozy vacuum where nothing bad happens ever. That would frankly be a terrible game and an even worse story. Cozy games are not cozy in SPITE of their dark elements they are cozy BECAUSE of them.
In Stardew yes there's a war, and people have dysfunctional relationships and that's the point! you're in a shitty town living on a shitty farm but you're there to help. you make friendships, and you fix your farm, and you leave the town a little better than when you found it.
In Palia you're living under an oppressive government and everyone has lots of problems. Some people are just struggling to be a single parent, others are on the run from a cartel. It's not light and cheery! but you get to help these people as you work to find your place in the world. I could go on for hours about other games but I think these examples are enough to drive home what I'm going to say next. COZY GAMES ARE ABOUT COMMUNITY, LOVE, AND FRIENDSHIP.
You don't expect your real life friends and communities to be conflict free. Bonds are built on the back of hardship. Lifting each other up. Loving each other and being kind when things are hard.
villagers in both games give me advice on how to do what I need to so I can fix up my property and start life in their town, They send me gifts they think will help with my projects. And in turn I give them a relationship they need. I'm an understanding friend for Linus, or an open ear for Najuma.
WE SUPPORT EACHOTHER IN HARD TIMES.
#screaming from the rooftops#please please please#let narratives have depth and conflict#cozy games#cozy gaming community#stardew valley#palia#palia game#cozycore#cozy aesthetic#Oddling Opinions
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Astrology observations - Part 4 (use whole signs)
🌟 Moon in 4th is one of my favourite placements. These people usually have a good career, like an emotionally fulfilling one. They won't stay in a job that doesn't make them happy. Their mom can help them choose a career or give them interview tips.
🏮Mars in 2nd house people are so lucky when it comes to earning money, it's like, they get a new money making opportunity just when they're on their last penny. They're also not afraid to get their hands dirty and are willing to do almost anything, very hard working people. They're also the ones managing all the money in their family.
🌟 Mercury in 8th house people are the ones with a "sexy brain" like the WAY their mind works, are so good at analysing arguments and coming up with the best possible solution. Good debating skills. These people have great manifestation skills, I have a list of 100 + incidents, it's honestly a little scary. Can also develop clairvoyant abilities if they work on it.
🏮I haven't met a single non religious, Sun in 9th house person in my life. Even if they're not that religious in their younger years, they will be when they get older. Always willing to help others even when they themselves are suffering, my mom has this, and.....it pisses me off so bad. The "put your own oxygen mask on first" advice is for you all. Stop helping people, be selfish, it's not your duty to make everyone else's life better. My mom doesn't listen, but maybe you all will.
🌟 Venus in 11th house is a placement that's really good from a business perspective. They're great at negotiations so that's helpful. They won't like doing a regular 9 to 5 job as it will suppress their freedom and creativity. They will open their own business pretty early on in life, in like late 20's or early 30's. Great architects and interior designers. I remember when I made the architecture and astrology post, a lot of people had this.
🏮I haven't seen anyone talk about this, but moon in 6th house people can be really good leaders, they're very helpful and kind and their ability to understand emotions makes them extremely likable. They have more of a people oriented leadership style. They focus on building strong relationship with their group members or employees. Also, why are you all always sick 😭? Prone to anxiety and stress and this leads to body pain and digestive issues. Please put your health first.
🌟 It's really funny how ALL my friends, every single one, has Venus in 1st. I would say that rather than us being pretty, we're just very likable. Even if they're introvert or shy, they have a communication style that makes other people want to talk to them. It's just an aura thing, tbh. Also, they're huge people pleasers and will do their best not to offend anyone, like even if a person is being annoying, they won't say anything. (Mars in 1st can change this)
🏮 Jupiter in 2nd house is not good for marriage but great for career and friendships. I know people with this who are still in contact with their pre school friends. Their friends will help them in their career as well. They're intelligent but they think they're not, and this makes them lose a lot of opportunities. Need to have a little bit of courage to succeed in life.
🌟 Sun in 12th house people probably had a painful childhood (more so than others), if mercury is with sun in 12th, then they write poems to express this pain. They're good writers, and can be lyricists, authors, script/play writers, etc. these people are physically weak. Might also not know who they are, as in, not aware of their own personality traits.
🏮Saturn in 12th house people lack confidence when they're young, but become more confident as they get older and learn to get out of their comfort zone. These people have better luck outside of their homeland. This is a good placement if you want to become a psychologist as it gives you the ability to properly analyse those with mental disorders. They also look aloof most of the time. This is another placement that is good in terms of writing skills, many famous authors have this (those who write sad stuff)
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PAC/ Intuitive messages IV 🔮
Hi my loves and welcome to this new PAC! This time we have the fourth edition of intuitive messages. As always, take a moment to check what pile calls you the most, you could have messages in more than one too. Take only what resonates and leave the rest 🩷
* Don't make life decitions based on a general reading online, use your discernment. Minors dni 🔞
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Pile 1/pile 2/pile 3
Pile 1:
🫧 You need to focus on your career and long term goals, things are changing and you need to be ready
🫧 There's a blonde woman around your age you must be careful of, she could be in your same work enviroment or friend group
🫧 An unexpected amount of money is going to land in your lap as a work of magic, buy yourself something you enjoy as a sing of gratitude
🫧 You have a lot of sexual energy, keep it healthy and for singles, use it wisely to manifest your true love
🫧 There's a secret admirer that is planning to approach you with a nice surprise, be open to receive
🫧 Don't worry about those who don't wish you well, you are protected and they are being watched by karma
🫧 A commitment is about to happen, it could be in love or in career, so take it as resonates but I feel it's more related to love and romance
🫧 You'll be more in tune with your spiritual nature, you'll understand better the signs from your guides in your daily life
🫧 Some complications could appear, keep grounded and trust that you are being guided, you'll overcome every obstacle with grace and divine protection
🫧 Your guides will communicate through numbers 1222 or 1212 to tell you that everything is going in your favor, foxes and the scent of flowers will be signs too. Angelic beings are very present in your life, you'll see references to them very often, especially cherubims
Pile 2
🎀 Mercury retrograde will be an amazing time for you, it will bring you unexpected good luck. Check your Mercury's natal placement to know what areas will be impacted positively
🎀 I see a trip or vacations of some kind, maybe it's just having more free time to relax and invest in yourself. It could also mean that something special will happen during the holidays
🎀 Money will be entering your life, if you were scared of not being able to pay debts just know that you'll receive the money you need
🎀 You'll get invited to a night out with friends or a celebration, accept that offer because you'll have an amazing time
🎀 A massive change is about to happen in your life, I think you can sense it too. Rest as much as you can and do things that keep you grounded
🎀 Good things will be happening as a Dharma for something good you did in the past, it's a reward from Universe
🎀 You could loose an important object but it will be a sign that you have overcome a major challenge and the worst is left behind
🎀 You'll receive a major piece of advice from an older woman, for some I see a passed loved one communicating through dreams
🎀 Change your daily routines, there's something about it that no longer works for you and needs to be reorganized. Also, rest more often, your health needs it
🎀 Your guides are showing me grapes, it could be a sign to eat them more often or a sign of material abundance. Dolphins will be signs of upcoming luck and sharks a sign of divine protection. For some I'm hearing to develop your connection with the sea or the water element
Pile 3:
💖 Love is in the air for you my dear! Get ready because you are about to enter into the relationship of your dreams
💖 All your problems are going to get solved, don't stress that much. Your guides announce a triumph over troubles so there's no need to worry
��� You are on the right path, stop doubting yourself honey, you really need to work on self sabotage or negative thinking
💖 You are about to get invited to a very romantic date, someone is really in love with you and wants to show it 🤭
💖 You'll be getting extra money, your guides are telling you to don't hold too tight to it and simply use it with gratitude. You could have some messages in pile 1 too
💖 There's an spiritual lesson you'll be learning that will feel like a hug to your soul, something you've experienced is going to make sense after receiving this info
💖 Someone with prominent Sagittarius placement will be a benevolent force in your life. I'm also hearing something about the house sagitarius is in your natal chart too, it could be an area of luck
💖 Don't resist change, simply embrace it and remember that it is happening for you to achieve your greatest outcome
💖 Do things your own way, don't force yourself to fit into a label you don't resonate with. Also, doing things different doesnt mean being making them wrong, you are on your own path
💖 Your guides really want you to focus on your confidence and inner power because you have more than you what to acknowledge. Lions and elephants are your animals, 777 your sign that your manifestations are becoming real and you'll see rainbows as a sign of joy and love
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GB Patch Games: Response About Sensitivity Reader
[Some of you might not have heard of this happening, but I wanted to address it across the board]
Hey everyone,
I want to make a post about the screenshots of comments from one of our sensitivity readers. The situation is that neither me or Rose want people to feel uncomfortable with Our Life: Now & Forever, but Rose hasn’t done anything terribly wrong and isn’t going to be punished.
The comment about OL MCs wasn’t meant to be genuine hatred towards all male players/MCs of OL. Rose wrote a reply about it-
"Hi everyone! This is Rose, I want to address the male MC comment since it was taken wildly out of context and without the lengthy discussion that was after it. I don't hate male MCs, in fact far from it, male MCs are integral to the story in OL:NF as female and trans MCs are. I think the relationship they could potentially have with Qiu could be a great asset in my opinion as they figure out their gender alongside the MC. The discussion itself was about how I noticed players were sticking to heteronormative norms by shipping Tamarack with a man purely out of societal norms than it was genuine thought into the characters and how I personally wished there was more sapphic relationships with Tamarack or just Tamarack with trans characters as a sapphic trans person myself. I didn't mean to offend anyone by it as no one but my friends who understood what I legitimately meant behind my message and it definitely wasn't meant to be seen seriously. I am sorry regardless to anyone I have offended and I love your male MCs regardless."
And most of the comments were about me. I’ve seen screenshots of the full conversations and they’re not as harsh as the cropped snippets made them out to be. It was longer discussions about not including Derek in any base game Moments for no good reason and not having any plus-sized love interests in OL1 because I was afraid players wouldn’t accept it. That’s not a lie, it’s what I decided for the game I created, and it is ridiculous of me. I’m the one who should be feeling embarrassed over how OL1 will forever be that way, not the people who remember that I did that. I’m not perfect and Rose actually cares more about the players than making me feel like I am flawless.
I also don’t want to tone police an employee venting about their boss in private, on their own time. Both the OL games deal with personal, important topics. This is sensitive work, and it can bring up frustrations. Sometimes people do use harsh words among friends, but they wouldn’t ever say it to a person seriously and directly.
I understand if you wouldn’t want to see anyone speak badly of a dev you like, but I promise it’s not a point of contention between me and Rose. I don’t feel mistreated in anyway. Rose genuinely cares about the Our Life series, and that’s why they get fed up with me over certain parts of the game.
Rose has never been unkind or unreasonable to me when working on the project, and their advice is detailed and well-explained. They do care about the game and want it to avoid having content that upsets people because of my own ignorance/shortcomings.
This being shared publicly from a private server is targeting Rose and seems to be a continuation of things that have happened before this. I don’t want this to continue happening. If you do still have concerns over the one comment about the community, you can let me know. But again, I don’t want people being mistrustful of Rose on my behalf for comments about me in conversations with missing context.
Do not send angry messages to Rose about any of this. We’ll do our best so that OL2 will be better than I was before. Thank you to everyone who reads this and participates in the community!
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House Stellium • Harmonising your energy
Advices for those with prominent House Stellium
This is relevant for Natal Chart, Progression Chart, Solar Return Chart, and Lunar Return Chart.
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1st House Stellium - maintain humility & an open mindset
be open to others' opinions and not be too arrogant
listen to your inner voice, trust your intuition and inner feelings - learn to listen to others' perspectives
gain different angles of thinking and experiences
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2nd House Stellium - hard work and savings
avoiding get-rich-quick schemes, seeking luck, or engaging in illegal ways
through diligence and frugality, steadily accumulate wealth and achieve your goals
✧ 3rd House Stellium - talents and interests
leverage your expressive and communication abilities to excel in the field of culture and the arts
showcase your uniqueness in the arts and cultural domains
enhance your expressive and communication skills to engage with others and share your thoughts and creativity
✧ 4th House Stellium - explore unknown territories
explore the world outside and not stay too isolated at home.
actively participate in social activities - step out of your comfort zone
broaden your horizons, enrich your life experiences - interact with different groups of people
✧ 5th House Stellium - the importance of financial knowledge
study investment theories - can better manage and grow our financial assets
engage in moderate entertainment and relaxation outside of work - maintaining a balance
✧ 6th House Stellium - physical health
be attentive, and diligent but overworking
maintain a balance between work and life
Sustaining good physical health - enhance work efficiency and life quality
schedule work and rest time properly
✧ 7th House Stellium - choice of partner
be cautious in choosing partners, whether in relationships or business ventures
Good partnerships - shared success
unsuitable partners - unnecessary troubles and difficulties
✧ 8th House Stellium - unexpected circumstances
leave room for alternatives when dealing with matters - reduce anxiety and stress
have backup plans and maintain being calm / let go
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9th House Stellium - knowledge and wisdom
read more books, explore the world
understand different cultures and perspectives, and expand our thinking and cognitive range
Reading - transport us into a colorful world, stimulating our imagination and creativity.
✧ 10th House Stellium - quality of life
excel in work or entrepreneurship while also giving yourselves some space for personal life
pursue professional success while paying attention to our quality of life
need time to rest, engage in leisure activities
spend time with family and friends
✧ 11th House Stellium - self-acceptance
strong interpersonal skills
avoid relying too much on others' approval
maintain authenticity and independence
not excessively conforming to others' expectations or seeking validation for satisfaction
believe in our value and capabilities
maintain confidence and self-esteem
✧ 12th House Stellium - kindness and empathy
qualities of tolerance and inclusiveness
sympathize with others' experiences
avoid procrastination
take proactive actions and avoid delaying problem-solving or pursuing our goals
forgiveness towards others and yourselves - release inner tolerance and goodwill
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Dear 12th House Stellium
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My dear lgbt+ kids,
Someone requested some advice on whether to openly tell people you are mentally ill/neurodivergent/invisibly disabled or not.
There's some research that suggests that, for example, autistic people are more likely to identify as lgbt+ than their non-autistic peers - so this is absolutely a topic that belongs on a lgbt+ blog and I'm sure there are a lot of you who had to make that decision (and probably keep having to make it as coming-outs of any sort are rarely one-and-done!).
In fact, I had/have to make that decision myself! As an autistic person with depression and anxiety, I could tell you now why I personally decided to be open about all those diagnoses - but the right decision for me isn't necessarily the right decision for you as my life isn't yours.
So, what I'll do instead is to write down a general list with (potential) pros and cons, and I encourage you to nitpick it. Personalize it, take some time to decide how much, if at all, each point weighs in your own decision. There's no right or wrong answer here. It's all about your highly individual situation, about your safety and comfort.
Reasons not to be open about it:
It may put you at risk for various sorts of hate, discrimination, negative stigma and bad treatment
It may put a burden on you to educate others and discuss any misconceptions or myths they believe in, including potentially hurtful or disstressing ones (maybe even fruitlessly so which may cause frustrations or fights)
It may change the way people treat you, even in well-meant ways (babying you, pitying you, trying to "help" against your wishes etc.)
It may feel like a loss of privacy, make you feel "naked" or emotionally vulnerable, make you worry more about the way others perceive you etc.
Reasons to be open about it:
It may help others understand you or your behavior better, which may have positive effects on your relationships
It may allow you to ask for support and help more easily (either from friends and loved ones or in the workplace, school etc.)
It may make you feel empowered and help you accept/love yourself as a disabled person more
It may contribute to making your specific diagnosis more visible in society (which may also make you feel pride in breaking down stereotypes and supporting your community)
It may discourage people from assigning wrong or hurtful labels to you (either armchair-diagnosing you or labeling you as weird, crazy, lazy, gross etc.)
It's important to keep in mind that some people do not have the option to make this decision for themselves, for example because they have highly visible symptoms or they are in a position where their caretakers make the decision for them. This adds another layer to why we can't judge one decision as better or worse than the other - it's not always their own decision.
With all my love,
Your Tumblr Dad
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