#relationship things

[long-distance-love]

Being called "my love" will always be superior to just "love", I will not elaborate.

[dramsstuff]

if they wanna talk to you, they would. if they wanna be with you, they would. if they wanna make things work, they would. don’t ever let things be one sided, it’s not healthy nor fair for you.

[hopelesslywanderingone]

what if you didn’t have to dull yourself with them? any of yourself, even the bad things.

what then?

[yours-trudy]

(ogre unionist voice): He couldn't understand Korean.

[pharissofthemall374]

Things that my hypersexual partner has said to me, an asexual:

Them: *slides their hands in the legs of my pants, holding my ankles* LOOK!! I’m in your paaaaannts

[disneyprincessdxminatrix]

*shows boyfriend a video of two stones lying next to each other in a river bed being bathed in ice cold water streaming down from the nearby mountains* this could be us but you playin

[bitchycunt]

"You're so hard to please"

Hugs? Kisses? Late night conversations? Assurance? Commitment? Random calls and face times? Healthy bond and communication? Spending holidays at home while cuddling? Words and actions matching? Promises? Loving each other unconditionally? Soft core intimacy?

[abcd-adventures]

It never ceases to annoy me that no matter how much time has passed, my brain can still default to old fears when I am stressed or perceive that something is wrong. My husband has been quiet/a bit distant the last two days and despite wracking my brain and coming up with absolutely nothing that I have done to be the cause of this, my brain still tells me, "THIS IS YOUR FAULT!!!" And, then, there is the litany of things that in my looong-ago relationship would have caused my partner to be angry with me (utterly ridiculous shit usually related to my appearance or NORMAL interactions with others); those come up and all the old insecurities become front-and-center despite the years I've spent confronting them. Cool, Brain. Cool.

It has been almost TWENTY YEARS since I was with my ex-husband. (Holy shit...time is crazy and passes so fast.) It very much pisses me off that there are still threads of that relationship in my healthy, loving, 18-year relationship with my current husband. Obviously, I know--intellectually--that this is normal and that everyone carries their baggage...aaaaand it's even kind of my job to help people deal with that...but it still pisses me off when it's an issue for me! Lol And, knowing something intellectually doesn't magically make it easy to deal with. If only.

I know myself and my husband well enough to know the timing of when to bring something up. So, last night, after a mental reality check for myself and when B was in bed and we were both done with chores, I told my husband totally frankly that I knew something was going on with him and while I respect his need for space and to process it and that he could tell me or not tell me in his own time, I needed him to let me know if I had done anything to upset him and I reminded him why I needed to know (he is familiar with the details of my previous relationship). It led to the best conversation, and I was reminded for the millionth time how grateful I am to have my husband. As crazy as my brain is, it is still--at baseline--solidly aware that my husband is a source of stability. He is here to stay and he loves me. I KNOW that. My brain still goes crazy, but because I truly know that about my husband, I can systematically go through all the crazy thoughts and dismiss them. I feel so. fucking. lucky to have that, and I know how rare it is.

[reddsl1mer]

that one mf who just repeats everything in relationships. like they copy and paste everything. feelings, dates, ect. this girl goes “we went on a date at ____ today” hoe didnt you JUST do that with the last one?? and the one before that? and before that? and before that??? im sorry but oh my god. BE ORIGINAL. LIKE AT LEAST TRY. also that just feels so fucked, like everyone you date is just a little repeat of the last, if i were knowingly in a relationship with someone like that id feel so useless and like i dont matter in the slightest. and its not even bc she has attachment issues shes just too lazy to commit to doing anything different. GIRL JUST STOP DATING AT THIS POIINNTTTT

[onceuponaweirdo]

One of the most horribly dreadful things about being an ace person in a relationship with an allo person is the impeding "I don't feel desired by you" talk. Man, I feel so worthless, so powerless that it doesn't matter what I do, how much I give of myself it all comes down to not having enough sex factor because that's the "connection" factor to them...

[dramsstuff]

The journey of personal growth begins with self-awareness, recognizing your potential, and taking the initial steps towards it. Only you can transform your life; no one else can do it for you.

[fcku-justletmelook]

well it's over now ig

this sucks so fuckin much

[justaproshipwatermelonnerd]

Love it when my boyfriend gets into my current hyperfixation just so I can overshare to him about it at the speed of light.

[gravestone-sys]

ogher people have like dirty fantasies about their partner.

i have.

i drove with my sister and picked you up from the airport and then I introduced you to my family and all my cats and dogs and then we hung out in my room and talked and laughed and then we went to the creek and kissed like twice.

[lalaland-e]

he asked me if I trusted him and I said I was trying and he said that was all he could ask for and oh my god why are men so dramatic yeah bro I get it you're the main character now let me eat my pudding in peace

[bitchycunt]

Everyone deserves a person in their life who won't give up on them and would tell them "it'll be okay, I got you."