#relationship things

[long-distance-love]

Being called "my love" will always be superior to just "love", I will not elaborate.

[yours-trudy]

(ogre unionist voice): He couldn't understand Korean.

[pharissofthemall374]

Things that my hypersexual partner has said to me, an asexual:

Them: *slides their hands in the legs of my pants, holding my ankles* LOOK!! I’m in your paaaaannts

[the-siren-in-your-fridge]

Amatonormativity has done irreparable damage to the minds of the youth

[disneyprincessdxminatrix]

*shows boyfriend a video of two stones lying next to each other in a river bed being bathed in ice cold water streaming down from the nearby mountains* this could be us but you playin

[bitchycunt]

"You're so hard to please"

Hugs? Kisses? Late night conversations? Assurance? Commitment? Random calls and face times? Healthy bond and communication? Spending holidays at home while cuddling? Words and actions matching? Promises? Loving each other unconditionally? Soft core intimacy?

[abcd-adventures]

It never ceases to annoy me that no matter how much time has passed, my brain can still default to old fears when I am stressed or perceive that something is wrong. My husband has been quiet/a bit distant the last two days and despite wracking my brain and coming up with absolutely nothing that I have done to be the cause of this, my brain still tells me, "THIS IS YOUR FAULT!!!" And, then, there is the litany of things that in my looong-ago relationship would have caused my partner to be angry with me (utterly ridiculous shit usually related to my appearance or NORMAL interactions with others); those come up and all the old insecurities become front-and-center despite the years I've spent confronting them. Cool, Brain. Cool.

It has been almost TWENTY YEARS since I was with my ex-husband. (Holy shit...time is crazy and passes so fast.) It very much pisses me off that there are still threads of that relationship in my healthy, loving, 18-year relationship with my current husband. Obviously, I know--intellectually--that this is normal and that everyone carries their baggage...aaaaand it's even kind of my job to help people deal with that...but it still pisses me off when it's an issue for me! Lol And, knowing something intellectually doesn't magically make it easy to deal with. If only.

I know myself and my husband well enough to know the timing of when to bring something up. So, last night, after a mental reality check for myself and when B was in bed and we were both done with chores, I told my husband totally frankly that I knew something was going on with him and while I respect his need for space and to process it and that he could tell me or not tell me in his own time, I needed him to let me know if I had done anything to upset him and I reminded him why I needed to know (he is familiar with the details of my previous relationship). It led to the best conversation, and I was reminded for the millionth time how grateful I am to have my husband. As crazy as my brain is, it is still--at baseline--solidly aware that my husband is a source of stability. He is here to stay and he loves me. I KNOW that. My brain still goes crazy, but because I truly know that about my husband, I can systematically go through all the crazy thoughts and dismiss them. I feel so. fucking. lucky to have that, and I know how rare it is.

[ynnuf-ekaf]

[onceuponaweirdo]

One of the most horribly dreadful things about being an ace person in a relationship with an allo person is the impeding "I don't feel desired by you" talk. Man, I feel so worthless, so powerless that it doesn't matter what I do, how much I give of myself it all comes down to not having enough sex factor because that's the "connection" factor to them...

[justaproshipwatermelonnerd]

Love it when my boyfriend gets into my current hyperfixation just so I can overshare to him about it at the speed of light.

[isnt-she-lovelee]

Got back from staying with my bf for a week today, and while I'm sad that it's over, there were lots of little moments that made me so happy so I thought I'd tell you a few.

Walking back from being out all day and he just starts poking me in the ribs and making tickly gestures at me

Chilling in his room and I made a cheesy joke, and his response was to pin me down and tickle me until I took it back... I lasted about two minutes 😭

He held my arms above my head and because I was being the brat that I am, he had to use both hands, so he proceeded to use his nose to tickle me (it worked more than you'd expect)

He was being absolutely merciless with me and just kept giving me this look that absolutely melted me... Like really smiling like he was enjoying it and looking all mischievous... MY GOD 🫠

[dramsstuff]

Your boring lifestyle has kept you safe from many potential risks and unpleasant experiences.

[krasna-strelka]

Say to someone that you're proud of them

[pinkpastels113]

literally touch starved

[wenumsmol]

My partner is so cute like omg. He has a gray compression shirt and gray sweat shorts on and his little backpack. I said, "Where you going, honey?"

HE'S GOING TO THE ZOO TO SEE PENGUINS. I'd go with him but it's like 90 degrees today and I don't wanna be in direct sun for that let alone inside my own skin. But he is just so cute going to do innocent things with his hoe clothes on lmfao. He's biking all the way there (I can't.)

#billdipperly

[judas-not-that-one]

i’m not exactly sure where the boundaries of this lie. or the comfort level. so i don’t want to ask for things to happen bc i’ve been the uncomfortable one in that situation and it was not fun. and i don’t want to make her uncomfortable? and i don’t want to embarrass myself by asking. or cross the boundary that’s been drawn. wherever that actually lies

basically i’m just along for the ride right now until it becomes clearer i guess? idk

perfectly content as everything is, i’m just curious. just considering. and also don’t want to accidentally do something or ask for something that’s uncomfortable or crosses the line i guess