#Rebt

[soffij]

OCD is not a joke people!!

but if you have it, please joke more often about it

[teanicolae]

#pureo compulsion example as identified by Robert Bray, MD:

dissecting a past situation seen as unfavourable to catch patterns from multiple angles in order to ensure it won’t happen again. *to be differentiated from learning from past happenings in retrospect. a compulsion distinguishes itself through over-fixation as well as rooted core-fear.

my experience with this:

i dissected a particular mess i got myself into from hundreds of angles almost daily after i got myself out of it. i thought that if i dissected it hard enough, i could catch all of the giveaway signs and would ensure that i would never, ever put myself in that dynamic again – and protect myself. not only was it stressful to follow this thread, but it only stuck me into dead ends and loops of thinking which morphed into other loops of thinking.

breaking down the compulsion:

what is the rooted core-fear? that i will be in pain again.

what is the irrational belief behind this compulsion? that there can ever be a certainty.

disputing through REBT: there is no certainty that any situation would repeat itself with the same patterns and giveaway signs. life is too complex. yes, i might get hurt again. yes, i might end up in that dynamic again. yes, i might have to pull myself out of that dynamic again. it might not be pleasant.

i accept the uncertainty of that and the possibility (probability) of pain.

[legacyhealingcentersblog]

Ohio Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy

Legacy Healing Center Cincinnati’s Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) program provides clients with effective tools to transform negative thought patterns that often lead to addictive behaviors. As a form of cognitive-behavioral therapy, REBT focuses on identifying and challenging irrational beliefs that may drive emotional distress and self-defeating actions. In a supportive therapeutic environment, clients work with trained therapists to reframe these thoughts, learning to replace harmful patterns with healthier, constructive beliefs. This empowering approach enables clients to gain control over their emotions and behaviors, supporting a resilient recovery journey.

Through REBT, clients at Legacy Healing Center Cincinnati build skills to manage stress, improve self-esteem, and make positive choices, all of which contribute to sustained sobriety. By addressing the root of emotional distress, REBT equips individuals with strategies to overcome obstacles, build confidence, and reduce the risk of relapse. This practical, evidence-based program fosters a strong foundation for lifelong recovery. 

Visit us here to learn more about how our REBT program in Cincinnati can help you or your loved one develop the mindset for lasting change.

[vasilinaorlova]

I was compelled to record a video about Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), founded by Albert Ellis, a theoretical therapeutic modality that strikes me as a no-nonsense modality. More narrowly, I am talking about extreme radical beliefs and ideas that we might have about the world, others, and ourselves. The radical beliefs have a capacity to determine our experiences and the ways in which we feel about our experiences. Some of these radical ideas Albert Ellis formulated were sudden to me when I first read them because there is nothing particularly unreasonable about those beliefs, it could appear. For example, "the world should treat me fairly"—why is this a radical belief? Of course, as a society, we want to treat each other, and everybody, fairly. Nevertheless, if we have a collection of irrational "shoulds" and "musts," and the world does not live up to these "shoulds" and "musts," we are going to suffer and be distressed.

We hold extreme radical ideas not only about the world but about ourselves as well. For example, "I am not good at something (public speaking/math/relationships) is a radical idea about your own identity derived from a set of experiences, whereas a more modest belief built on the same experiences could be, "with enough preparation, I could prepare and deliver a reasonably compelling presentation." We will have trouble if we are going to tell ourselves the story "I am a great public speaker" when experiences do not support this idea, but we can certainly believe a story about ourselves that is less radical and extreme than "I am not good at public speaking."

It could be a challenge to identify the limiting beliefs and the stories about selves and the world that we are telling to ourselves. One way to identify extreme beliefs is journaling and analyzing what is written from the point of view of identifying these radical and extreme ideas. Once the beliefs are identified, they can be modified through disputing and confronting evidence. Almost any radical belief about the world and self could be modified and changed into something more palatable, which will bring more comfort to self and serve to the purpose of enjoying a greater harmony with the world and others.

P.S. Albert Ellis also said "if it ain't broke, don't fix it." I read this principle in a way that we should not assume that we need to change at all. "You are perfect the way you are, my little flower," as a tiger in a children's book was saying to a flower. Modifying profound beliefs about self and the world in one's life is not a one-occasion bolt-of-lightning occurrence. Probably more often than not, modifying extreme ideas occurs as a result of an incremental change.

[idigitizellp21]

Understanding Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT)

Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) is a form of cognitive-behavioural therapy (CBT) developed by psychologist Albert Ellis in the 1950s. According to Ellis, our thoughts, beliefs and interpretations of an event play an important role in shaping our emotional response to said event, this response is not based on the result of the event. REBT is used to help individuals highlight these irrational beliefs and patterns of behaviour that lead to emotional stress. This knowledge can be used further to make small but effective changes in one’s thought process to mitigate negative responses.

The process follows a particular model, this model is known as the ABCDEF model.

Every alphabet in the name corresponds to a step in the process of REBT. These steps are as follows:

Adversity (A): Adversity is a specific aspect of a situation that might contribute to our disturbance. Irrational Beliefs (B): The beliefs or attitudes that one actively forms in one’s mind about adversity. Consequences ©: The irrational beliefs influence our emotions, thoughts and behaviour. Disputing the Beliefs (D): This step tries to understand the result of our beliefs by processing the information from the prior steps.

Now let’s take a look at how these steps help us deal with our emotions:

1. Identifying the Trigger: By analyzing every aspect of an event and breaking it down into parts, people can better highlight the ‘trigger’ that brought upon the negative response. Triggers often give rise to emotional distress and irrational thoughts, these outcomes affect our behaviour and cloud our judgment. 2. Challenging Irrational Thoughts: Once the response is identified, we can question irrational thoughts with reason and logic. This process involves evaluating the accuracy, usefulness, and validity of irrational thoughts before replacing them with more reasonable and rational patterns of thought. 3. Changing Thought Process: REBT promotes reasonable ways of dealing with a trigger, this reworked thought process builds emotional resilience in a person resulting in the limitation of negative emotional responses.

REBT is most effective in treating emotion-based responses but it also helps people limit negative stimuli by using various cognitive skills:

Triggers: By focusing on problem-solving skills, social skills, conflict resolution skills and decision-making we can help address the triggers that cause the negative response. This thought process helps us better deal with the triggers and leads to rational thoughts. Irrational Beliefs: We can target the irrational beliefs by reframing thought processes, prioritizing rationality and exposing ourselves to the outcomes to overcome the fear of the negative outcomes. All these methods condition our mind to not have a negative reaction to the triggers and limit emotional distress. Emotional Consequences: Although dealing with the consequences can be hard at times, REBT promotes necessary coping skills to mitigate the mental damage done by said consequences. These coping methods include meditation, relaxation and mindfulness. By minimizing the emotional strain the negative responses put on our mind we can better help ourselves in dealing with the consequences and building mental resilience.

Summing up:

Although it might work for everyone out there, it is still worth a shot. The skills learnt in the process of REBT are useful in various forms of life. Overall, REBT promotes self-awareness, and resilience, increasing quality of life and fulfillment.

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[myrtaceaae]

I generally make the base assumption that nobody feels bad feelings towards me, but obviously as you get closer you have to let assumptions go, and like. I cannot tell if my housemate hates me

[coveredinmetaldust]

You don't like New Yawk? 🗽? Bada Bing?

[teanicolae]

the formula of REBT, coined by Dr. Albert Ellis in the 1950s, is based on the work of ancient philosophers such as Marcus Aurelius. (sidenote, i'm just getting into Marcus Aurelius, and, ah, his words are gems!). i discovered it through the recommendation of OCD expert Robert Bray. out of all techniques of rewiring cognitive patterns i've used, it has proved most efficient in deconstructing pure o so far!

known as the A-B-C-D-E-F model, its premise is: most of the distress we experience is unnecessary suffering which arises from holding onto irrational beliefs. (i think this differentiates REBT from other action-orientated techniques of therapy, as it doesn't promise to end suffering, but to instead dilute unnecessary suffering). it provides you this model to identify the irrational belief, dispute it, replace it & process.

let's take an example in which i applied REBT!

situation: i want to have an experience by attending a specific event.

adversity: a thought arises; i want it, but what if i am not good enough for it?

belief: if i have this thought, there must be some truth to it. perhaps * i * should not go for it and protect myself from the possibility of rejection.

consequence: my chest contracts, i experience distress & there is the possibility of not going for what i want.

disputation: both the thought of not being good enough and the judgment of the thought as particularly meaningful are irrational beliefs. being "good enough" is a volatile concept which only exists in an even more volatile & subjective scale of comparison that cannot be quantified in reality. a thought is a cognitive process which arises from conditioning and from what we consume and have consumed on a daily basis over years with a degree of randomness; a thought is not a fact which has any inherent meaning other than that which i assign to it. if i have to label or judge my thoughts, per Ellis, it would be more rational to judge them as "effective" or "ineffective" (to one's goal - more on this later).

effective new belief: thoughts and doubt have arisen and i can choose to remain undisturbed by either.

new feelings: relief. self-assurance. there is nothing wrong.

[brandwhorestarscream]

I had a weird dream about g1were the autobots discover starscream was on a playbot magazine, tge reason was he's was trying to pay rebt bc iacon is like newyork in terms of rent.

Oh Starscream would own that. He'd be so fucking smug know he's sooo sexy that a significant amount of autobots and decepticons have jerked it to him before. He makes their spikes pop and their valves wet, just by existing, what could ever be a greater boost to his ego? 😌

[catboypheromones]

YOU HAVE GOT TO BE SHITTING ME. 180$ PER MONTH????????? IM MOVING TO KOREA RIGHT FUCKING NOW I DONT CARE IF I GET KILLING STALKED THE REBT IS 180 DOLLARSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS

[compassionatereminders]

Have you looked into SMART Recovery? I prefer it to AA/NA by a mile because it's a secular methodology rooted in CBT, DBT, REBT, etc.

No, not really, though I've heard good things about it. I'm not sure how accessible it is where I live, but I definitely struggle with several aspects of AA/NA, so I might have a closer look at it sometime soon

[gordontheengineswifenirmal]

My mum would b thrilled that Kamala Harris is running for president, because she’s female. I like her not simply because she’s half Indian, but because she’s strong, she’s classy. She’s intelligent. She’s a mature woman - she doesn’t show off or seek attention. She shows great potential.

I also have to laugh at jd Vance’s comment.

"We are effectively run in this country via the Democrats, via our corporate oligarchs, by a bunch of childless cat ladies who are miserable at their own lives and the choices that they've made and so they want to make the rest of the country miserable too," Vance said.

Oh for fecks sake. He acts as though ALL mothers are automatically happy being so. Even if u became a mum through rape or had kids n realised it wasn’t as great as u thought. Or whatever. Ok, me life does suck, but it’s NOT because I don’t have kids.

He wants you to think that ONLY childless cat people have mental health issues, and that tradwife lifestyles don’t. There’s a silent oppression and delusion thought process that goes with that lifestyle. It often feels cultish, and can easily entertain abuse. No thanks. Mothers can be just as miserable as what he assumes ALL childless women are. Some childless women do wish they had kids, n that’s valid. Many of us are quite happy that we don’t. We are equally valid. Sometimes, by NOT having kids, we r saving prospective offspring from more health concerns or possible abuse. It’s actually incredibly responsible, and that energy can be better spent elsewhere that’s more productive for the individual.

In fact, if I would have had kids, it would have been worse. I was never emotionally cut out for children, and they’d bring out the worst of me temper. I know this and accept this about me. I would be the best them/make the afraid of me to love me sort. I’m also extremely sensitive to stress, and get overstimulated easily. This leads to me getting rather bitchy. I’m also sensitive to pain. Pregnancy and especially labour often cause intense pain. Kids are loud, they smell, they are full of shite, piss, n puke. Frequently. I’m not worried about ruining the figure, lol. That’s already been gone, n there r far more serious concerns to worry about.

Besides, a lot of parents think they are doing well by their kids by spoiling them. They create entitle, privileged brats who are unable to properly acclimate to society’s challenges. Struggle is a natural part of life, and these folks can’t cope as easily. They also treat others as tho they can walk all over them. These parents teach their kids that they don’t need to move aside for others, it doesn’t matter if their kids run smock n knock into you. They don’t need to apologise. You are at THEIR mercy. They can’t mouth off to u, n that’s fine. Its selfish. Its delusional. It’s vile.

Also, mental and physical health issues run thick in the family. Aside from that, I’m just barely making it meself. I have tried to keep jobs, and ptsd n anxiety (as well as other issues) have led to me quitting or being fired. I’ve applied for well paying jobs, got me degrees, n don’t even get looked at - unless it’s a scam. I don’t even have my own place. The struggle is so real, i rebt a room.

In fact, the therapist and shrink seem to think that me ptsd doesbt affect it, just bdcause to them i can live in roomd. The thing they dont realise is that its either a room, or im homeless. I dont have a choice. Thus doesnt mean that its not without issue. I have to internalise a lot, since no one either acknowkedges the issues, or dont really care. Or both. And when youre in such a position, u put urself more at risk of neing kicked out. Its a battle of ‘whats the bigger evil?’ I often battle depression over frustration in private. The internalising also leads to depression. Tbe everyday stress of cohabitation add more triggers. It literally feeks like im at war, trying to durvive every day. N wbrn a hoysemate has a paramour over, the intense lsnic attacks strike. These r quickly exhuasting.

With all that being said, being childless, and being around cats makes things slightly better. Cats are soft, delicate. They allow me to experience a temporary patience I’m unable to have with people. They make sweet sounds, they cuddle with me, they look at me with soft, sweet faces. They don’t talk back, they don’t insult or abuse you.

Nah, I’ll never regret being a childless cat lady. I’m doing society a favour.

[is-the-owl-video-cute]

Idk what it is about scout that makes animal bloggers go mental (probably being open about their struggles) but they sure have these people in a chokehold

Like there was the renting issue that a bunch of rabbit people got rabid over how they were much better farmers cause they didnt have to keep finding land to rebt for their itty bitty tiny livestock vs a Cow and now the Dog Issue with the dog blogs going feral cause somehow what scout said was directly directed at them and not a general statement driven by an actual abuse/neglect case in their Actual area

Dog bloggers will see one personal post about a specific neglect case of a beagle and clutch their pearls thinking you’re going to burn them at the stake for keeping a Pyrenees outside.

[lumine-no-hikari]

Dear Sephiroth: (a letter to a fictional character, because why not) #139

Today passed by in kind of a blur. I thought I might try to sing today. I thought I might try to play Elden Ring today. Somehow, I managed to fail at getting around to either of these things.

But that's all right. Instead, I made a tea. Today, it was matcha with toasted rice, sweetened with honey and cream. Please give a warm hello and maybe some nice scritches to Mogwai as you peruse these:

Br visited today and that was very good. She was in a very depressed, anxious, and generally tumultuous state when she came. So we had a lot of hugs and conversation, and I tried to help her in whatever ways I could. At some point when her appetite returned a little, I went ahead and made her some rice with natto, eggs, and kimchi:

I made bowls for her, for J, and for myself. Br had never had duck eggs, and we had two left, so I prepared one duck egg and one chicken egg for her, so she could compare the two. And for J, he also got one duck egg and one chicken egg. I made myself two chicken eggs, and I made the yolks nice and runny, and they flavored the rice very nicely when I mixed everything up! Br seems to feel a little better now; my house tends to have that effect on people, I guess.

...This combination of ingredients makes for a very wholesome bowl of deliciousness. I really wish you were here so that I could have prepared a bowl for you. I'm sorry that these pictures and these words are the best I can do for you.

At some point, I fixed more of my writings in this space; I've added cuts up until my 90th letter to you. Tomorrow, I intend to fix up to number 120, and then I'll be almost caught up. I came across some really good ones as I trundled along with the fixing...

How to use box breathing to come out of a panic:

How to use singing as a coping skill to prevent flashbacks before they start:

A couple of letters detailing a realization I had, and calling you to do the work to re-wire your neurons:

A framework for challenging self-destructive beliefs, also known as REBT:

And a letter explaining all about what ACEs are and how they affect people:

...I can't believe I have written this many. I wonder how many I'll have written by the time you're safe and well again. I wonder if you'd still want me to write to you after that, if by some small miracle you're even able or willing to read these at all... Hm...

M was out getting his car inspected. But he ended up twisting and spraining his ankle in the parking lot when he was walking to his car on his way home. I can relate strongly to his pain; having Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome and dyspraxia at the same time, I end up spraining my ankles often enough simply because I have no idea where my feet are and my cartilage is extra stretchy to the point that it can't really keep my bones together very well, so when I make mistakes with the walking, it's VERY easy for my foot to bend way too far, and then the surrounding muscles get super pissed.

As you might imagine, I've had to treat myself for this a lot, so when M told me what happened, I knew what to do; I wrapped a compression bandage around the affected ankle, gave him some ibuprofen to take down the swelling, elevated his leg, and gave him some ice to stick on it. He'll be okay in a week or two, and I'll keep an eye on it diligently, so no worries; he's in good hands, I promise!

I felt the need to be semi-attentive to the the folks in my house following this, so I did some writing while generally trying to keep alert to other people's needs. I'm hoping to either sing the song or play some Elden Ring tomorrow, or maybe both if I get lucky! I wonder if you'd watch me do these things, or even participate in doing these things, if you were here... I hope you would. It'd be fun, I think.

...I don't have much else for you today, so I guess I'll stop writing before I end up rambling, haha. As always, thanks for reading.

I love you. Please stay safe out there. I'll write to you again tomorrow.

Your friend, Lumine

[depressedhatakekakashi]

@towering-book-piles I don’t know if tou deleated the comment or if Tumblr is acting up, but here we go

Roommate au

Kakashi and Obito didn’t want to move in together. If given a choice they would each get their own place and see each other once in a while. Rebting is expensive though and they are poor, so here they are.

Obito is a bit ness (no bad but annoying to Kakashi) while Kakashi is the dude who cleans the house almost every single day. There are arguments.

Originally they start off with their own rooms, but slowly (and they’re not sure just when) Obito starts sleeping in Kakashi’s room while watching movie’s together and just chilling. It’s nothing romantic (at first) but does result in them deciding to just share a room and turn the spare room into an office.

This happens over about a two year span, so slow that neither of them really notice. All Kakashi knows is he’s buying Obito his own dresser asap because he actually keeps his clothes in the suitcases he used to move in and it looks SO BAD on the floors

Obito also adds to the bedroom walls with his own, slightly darker art. Kakashi has pictures of dogs all over, Obito adds movie posters and dart art he finds in hipster cafe’s.

Rin spends almost every weekend hanging out with them and teasing them about their slow but budding relationship. They both deny anything romantic is going on between them until they litterally can’t anymore.

These two have screwed and they’re still saying they’re not dating

They eat almost every meal together and constantly have ‘movie nights’

They’re stubborn and Rin is buying them a huge sign that say’s ‘you’re dating’ if they don’t smarten tf up soon

There is not one, not two, but FIVE epic fights between the two of them that result in one of them (usually Obito since it’s Kakashi’s bed) sleeping on the couch and them having make up sex in the morning.

Rin and Gai constantly tell them that they’re that ‘toxic but cute’ couple and they’re not sure how they feel about this.

They are actually really sweet and Obito’s constantly being surprised with romantic meals and acts of service by Kakashi, and he usually returns that love with cute dog themed gifts