#Albert Ellis

[canesenzafissadimora]

L'arte di amare è per gran parte arte della persistenza.

[teanicolae]

#pureo compulsion example as identified by Robert Bray, MD:

dissecting a past situation seen as unfavourable to catch patterns from multiple angles in order to ensure it won’t happen again. *to be differentiated from learning from past happenings in retrospect. a compulsion distinguishes itself through over-fixation as well as rooted core-fear.

my experience with this:

i dissected a particular mess i got myself into from hundreds of angles almost daily after i got myself out of it. i thought that if i dissected it hard enough, i could catch all of the giveaway signs and would ensure that i would never, ever put myself in that dynamic again – and protect myself. not only was it stressful to follow this thread, but it only stuck me into dead ends and loops of thinking which morphed into other loops of thinking.

breaking down the compulsion:

what is the rooted core-fear? that i will be in pain again.

what is the irrational belief behind this compulsion? that there can ever be a certainty.

disputing through REBT: there is no certainty that any situation would repeat itself with the same patterns and giveaway signs. life is too complex. yes, i might get hurt again. yes, i might end up in that dynamic again. yes, i might have to pull myself out of that dynamic again. it might not be pleasant.

i accept the uncertainty of that and the possibility (probability) of pain.

[shewrites-posts]

Let it go & namaste 🧘‍♀️

[postersbykeith]

[famousborntoday]

Albert Ellis was an American psychologist and psychotherapist who founded rational emotive behavior therapy (REBT). He held MA and PhD degrees in clinical psych...

Link: Albert Ellis

[vasilinaorlova]

I was compelled to record a video about Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), founded by Albert Ellis, a theoretical therapeutic modality that strikes me as a no-nonsense modality. More narrowly, I am talking about extreme radical beliefs and ideas that we might have about the world, others, and ourselves. The radical beliefs have a capacity to determine our experiences and the ways in which we feel about our experiences. Some of these radical ideas Albert Ellis formulated were sudden to me when I first read them because there is nothing particularly unreasonable about those beliefs, it could appear. For example, "the world should treat me fairly"—why is this a radical belief? Of course, as a society, we want to treat each other, and everybody, fairly. Nevertheless, if we have a collection of irrational "shoulds" and "musts," and the world does not live up to these "shoulds" and "musts," we are going to suffer and be distressed.

We hold extreme radical ideas not only about the world but about ourselves as well. For example, "I am not good at something (public speaking/math/relationships) is a radical idea about your own identity derived from a set of experiences, whereas a more modest belief built on the same experiences could be, "with enough preparation, I could prepare and deliver a reasonably compelling presentation." We will have trouble if we are going to tell ourselves the story "I am a great public speaker" when experiences do not support this idea, but we can certainly believe a story about ourselves that is less radical and extreme than "I am not good at public speaking."

It could be a challenge to identify the limiting beliefs and the stories about selves and the world that we are telling to ourselves. One way to identify extreme beliefs is journaling and analyzing what is written from the point of view of identifying these radical and extreme ideas. Once the beliefs are identified, they can be modified through disputing and confronting evidence. Almost any radical belief about the world and self could be modified and changed into something more palatable, which will bring more comfort to self and serve to the purpose of enjoying a greater harmony with the world and others.

P.S. Albert Ellis also said "if it ain't broke, don't fix it." I read this principle in a way that we should not assume that we need to change at all. "You are perfect the way you are, my little flower," as a tiger in a children's book was saying to a flower. Modifying profound beliefs about self and the world in one's life is not a one-occasion bolt-of-lightning occurrence. Probably more often than not, modifying extreme ideas occurs as a result of an incremental change.

[poisonedprose]

hip holding > waist holding two gentle hands placed on your hips, fingertips digging ever so slightly into the fat that they could squish for hours if you'd let them. your hips are their favorite part of your body, littering them with bruises and love bites at any given moment. on their knees, looking up at you, two hands firmly griping each hip, placing a soft kiss to the bone with a smile.

leon kennedy, john price, ellie williams, arisu ryohei, jill valentine, carlos oliveira, kyle garrick, könig

waist holding > hip holding their hands fit perfectly in the curve of your waist, almost like your waist was made for them to grab and use to their advantage. they pull you close by your waist, fingers showing no signs of letting go any time soon. using their strength to manhandle you in any way they possibly could, squeezing your waist to show you who's boss with a look that's sure to kill.

joel miller, simon riley, ada wong, niragi suguru, chishiya shuntaro, john mctavish, albert wesker, last boss

[teanicolae]

the formula of REBT, coined by Dr. Albert Ellis in the 1950s, is based on the work of ancient philosophers such as Marcus Aurelius. (sidenote, i'm just getting into Marcus Aurelius, and, ah, his words are gems!). i discovered it through the recommendation of OCD expert Robert Bray. out of all techniques of rewiring cognitive patterns i've used, it has proved most efficient in deconstructing pure o so far!

known as the A-B-C-D-E-F model, its premise is: most of the distress we experience is unnecessary suffering which arises from holding onto irrational beliefs. (i think this differentiates REBT from other action-orientated techniques of therapy, as it doesn't promise to end suffering, but to instead dilute unnecessary suffering). it provides you this model to identify the irrational belief, dispute it, replace it & process.

let's take an example in which i applied REBT!

situation: i want to have an experience by attending a specific event.

adversity: a thought arises; i want it, but what if i am not good enough for it?

belief: if i have this thought, there must be some truth to it. perhaps * i * should not go for it and protect myself from the possibility of rejection.

consequence: my chest contracts, i experience distress & there is the possibility of not going for what i want.

disputation: both the thought of not being good enough and the judgment of the thought as particularly meaningful are irrational beliefs. being "good enough" is a volatile concept which only exists in an even more volatile & subjective scale of comparison that cannot be quantified in reality. a thought is a cognitive process which arises from conditioning and from what we consume and have consumed on a daily basis over years with a degree of randomness; a thought is not a fact which has any inherent meaning other than that which i assign to it. if i have to label or judge my thoughts, per Ellis, it would be more rational to judge them as "effective" or "ineffective" (to one's goal - more on this later).

effective new belief: thoughts and doubt have arisen and i can choose to remain undisturbed by either.

new feelings: relief. self-assurance. there is nothing wrong.

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TBR TAKEDOWN: Week 16 (September 15)

TLDR: I have too many unread books, and I’m asking tumblr to help me downsize. Pick one or none - it doesn't have to be something you've read, just the one you think sounds the worst! Comments and reblogs welcome, book descriptions below the cut. See my pinned post for more info.

AND - we've hit the "my library has this on audiobook" section of the tbr shelf, so you'll need to try extra hard to convince me on things now!

Axiom's End by Lindsay Ellis

Truth is a human right.

It's fall 2007. A well-timed leak has revealed that the US government might have engaged in first contact. Cora Sabino is doing everything she can to avoid the whole mess, since the force driving the controversy is her whistleblower father. Even though Cora hasn't spoken to him in years, his celebrity has caught the attention of the press, the Internet, the paparazzi, and the government--and with him in hiding, that attention is on her. She neither knows nor cares whether her father's leaks are a hoax, and wants nothing to do with him--until she learns just how deeply entrenched her family is in the cover-up, and that an extraterrestrial presence has been on Earth for decades.

Realizing the extent to which both she and the public have been lied to, she sets out to gather as much information as she can, and finds that the best way for her to uncover the truth is not as a whistleblower, but as an intermediary. The alien presence has been completely uncommunicative until she convinces one of them that she can act as their interpreter, becoming the first and only human vessel of communication. Their otherworldly connection will change everything she thought she knew about being human--and could unleash a force more sinister than she ever imagined.

Leah on the Offbeat by Becky Albertalli

When it comes to drumming, Leah Burke is usually on beat--but real life isn't always so rhythmic.

She's an anomaly in her friend group: the only child of a young, single mom, and her life is decidedly less privileged. She loves to draw but is too self-conscious to show it. And even though her mom knows she's bisexual, she hasn't mustered the courage to tell her friends--not even her openly gay BFF, Simon.

So Leah really doesn't know what to do when her rock-solid friend group starts to fracture in unexpected ways. With prom and college on the horizon, tensions are running high.

It's hard for Leah to strike the right note while the people she loves are fighting--especially when she realizes she might love one of them more than she ever intended.

Needlework by Julia Watts

In rural Kentucky, a sixteen-year-old boy with a love of quilting, cooking and Dolly Parton helps his grandma care for his opioid-addicted mother, until the discovery of a family secret upends everything he has ever believed.

While other sixteen-year-old boys in Morgan, Kentucky, love hunting and football, Kody prefers to spend his time quilting with his grandmother (“Nanny”), watching Golden Girls reruns, and listening to old Dolly Parton albums. Nanny is Kody’s main caregiver, but it takes both Nanny and Kody to take care of Kody’s mother, whose drug problem is spinning out of control. Between looking after Mommy and trying to survive in a place that doesn’t look kindly on feminine boys, Kody already has a hard time making sense of his life. But then he uncovers a family secret that will change everything in his life.

[superwingsfan22]

You guys do get the point,right?It's a pity that such interesting characters were not shown enough

[azaziel-kun]

ABC Fanart for study purpose

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𝕺𝕮 𝕳𝖆𝖑𝖑𝖔𝖜𝖊𝖊𝖓 𝕮𝖍𝖆𝖑𝖑𝖊𝖓𝖌𝖊 • 𝔇𝔞𝔶 2: 𝔐𝔶𝔰𝔱𝔦𝔠𝔞𝔩 ℭ𝔬𝔪𝔪𝔲𝔫𝔦𝔠𝔞𝔱𝔦𝔬𝔫

⤷ There are tons of ways we think we can communicate with those beyond our realm such as Tarot Cards, Oujia Boards, Prayer, EMFs, or even through other people with otherworldly powers. Which method would your oc use? Or maybe they are the communication tool?

In which the next generation of team legends find a haunted oujia board and accidentally wreak havoc on the Waverider… because of course they do.

[stitched-mouth]

Slasher/Horror Masterlist

Notes: This is my slasher and demons masterlist. I write for a lot of horror but I generally don’t always write for the slasher or antagonist in said movie. Which is when I do, they are very special to me and I think they deserve their own list. So here they are.

This is really just links to the fandom’s masterlist but idc. More will definitely be added to this list.

Ellie Bixler

Valak / The Nun

Art the Clown

Albert Shaw / The Grabber

Carol