#Psychology

[lilith-vodkaaunt-of-demons]

This entire post kind of irks me, because it's both wrong and right.

Because of the watering down of psychological jargon and the idea that "Anything with a weird word attached to it." is bad, you have takes like this, from both OOPs, that are so frustratingly close to getting it. Mx. Stacked Librarian is correct! Reading is a common form of dissociation! Dissociation is a coping mechanism, and like most coping mechanisms (and most other things,) there is nothing wrong with dissociation in moderation. Getting lost in a book, diving into a TV show, being swept away by music are ALL forms of dissociation, everyone does it, and it's healthy when used properly!

Ms. Brandy Jensen is also right, though. Phrasing reading a lot as "dissociating" makes it sound like it's ALWAYS some form of protection against trauma when most of the time it's more about relieving everyday stress.

Now, I'm not saying that it can't be a coping mechanism in response to trauma, just that it doesn't HAVE to be. If your personal experience with Reading/TV/Music/etc was to escape from the trauma/traumatic things happening around you, that's 100% valid, I'm just specifically saying that labelling all "Kids who read a lot" as dissociating is unnecessary because, while it is technically correct, it does imply an unnecessary layer of pathology to the behavior that is wholly not needed. It would be like calling putting a bandaid on a scrape "treating a gaping flesh wound." Not exactly inaccurate, but still misleading.

[literaryvein-reblogs]

Writing Notes: Anxious Attachment Style

Common Anxious Thoughts, Emotions, and Reactions

THOUGHTS

Mind reading: "That’s it, I know s/he’s leaving me."

All-or-nothing thinking: "I’ve ruined everything, there’s nothing I can do to mend the situation."

"I’ll never find anyone else."

"I knew this was too good to last."

"I have to talk to or see him/her right now."

"S/he can’t treat me this way! I’ll show him/her!"

"S/he is so amazing, why would s/he want to be with me anyway?"

"I knew something would go wrong; nothing ever works out right for me."

"S/he’d better come crawling back to beg my forgiveness, otherwise s/he can forget about me forever."

"Maybe if I look drop-dead gorgeous or act seductive, things will work out."

Remembering all the good things your partner ever did and said after calming down from a fight.

Recalling only the bad things your partner has ever done when you’re fighting.

EMOTIONS

Sad ⚜ Angry ⚜ Fearful ⚜ Resentful ⚜ Frustrated

Hopeless ⚜ Despairing ⚜ Jealous ⚜ Hostile ⚜ Vengeful

Guilty ⚜ Self-loathing ⚜ Restless ⚜ Uneasy ⚜ Humiliated

Hate-filled ⚜ Uncertain ⚜ Agitated ⚜ Rejected ⚜ Depressed

Unloved ⚜ Lonely ⚜ Misunderstood ⚜ Unappreciated

ACTIONS

Act out. ⚜ Attempt to reestablish contact at any cost.

Pick a fight. ⚜ Threaten to leave.

Wait for them to make the first reconciliation move.

Act hostile—roll eyes, look disdainful.

Try to make him/her feel jealous.

Act busy or unapproachable. ⚜ Act manipulatively.

Withdraw—stop talking to their partner or turn away from him/her physically.

Attachment classifications come from watching babies’ behavior.

Below is a short description of how anxious attachment style is defined in children. Some of their responses can also be detected in adults who share the same attachment style.

This baby becomes extremely distressed when mommy leaves the room.

When her mother returns, she reacts ambivalently—she is happy to see her but angry at the same time.

She takes longer to calm down, and even when she does, it is only temporary.

A few seconds later, she’ll angrily push mommy away, wriggle down, and burst into tears again.

Where Do Attachments Styles Come From?

Initially it was assumed that adult attachment styles were primarily a product of your upbringing.

Thus, it was hypothesized that your current attachment style is determined by the way in which you were cared for as a baby:

If your parents were sensitive, available, and responsive, you should have a secure attachment style; if they were inconsistently responsive, you should develop an anxious attachment style; and if they were distant, rigid, and unresponsive, you should develop an avoidant attachment style.

Today, however, we know that attachment styles in adulthood are influenced by a variety of factors, one of which is the way our parents cared for us, but other factors also come into play, including our genes and life experiences.

Source ⚜ More: On Attachment ⚜ References ⚜ Avoidant Attachment

[panicattackresearch]

Can you help us with panic research?

We are researchers at the University of Oxford seeking UK-based participants who experience either:

- Panic attacks

- OCD

- or no current mental health difficulties

You do not need to live in Oxford to participate. They study consists of a 15-minute phone call followed by a 20-minute online questionnaire.

Through this research we hope to develop a better understanding of the relationship between fear of losing control and anxiety.

If you're interested, please contact Joel Lewin at joel.lewin@hmc.ox.ac.uk

You can also find more information on our website: www.bit.ly/losingcontrolinfo

[balioc]

During my first semester of college, I was very...isolated.

As in: On average, I probably had two non-class-discussion conversations per week with other humans. One with my parents over the phone, and one casual two-minutes-at-most chat with another student as we passed by one another. Apart from that, I didn't engage. I didn't talk to my roommates, I didn't talk to people in the dining halls, I didn't have anything to do with parties or student groups or whatever. I certainly didn't have friends. I went to my classes, and did my homework, and apart from that I read books or played single-player video games or surfed the internet.

It wasn't foisted upon me. I chose that lifestyle, or at least I gravitated to it instinctively. There were friendly people around, there were certainly all sorts of student groups eager to recruit anyone they could, I could have at least tried being sociable with my roommates if I'd wanted. But I was standoffish, and proud, and determined to be psychically self-sufficient.

(The story has a happy ending, for those who care. At the beginning of the next semester, I randomly found a social group to which I was very well-suited, literally by seeing them through a window on a snowy night like something out of a Dickens novel; that group provided the core of a circle of friends that has stayed with me to this day, including my wife of many years. But this is all besides the point.)

During the months of isolation, I was definitely a bit mad, and I knew it. My thoughts ran in strange grooves, as thoughts will when you chew on them endlessly in solitude, and I adapted my mind and my habits to a world in which other humans really existed only as environmental features rather than as agents-in-a-meaningful-sense.

Was I lonely?

I definitely wouldn't have said so, at the time. In part because I wouldn't have wanted to say it. It would have felt like a humiliation, to say (even to myself) that I wanted intimacy that I didn't have. But I think I actually wouldn't say even now that I was lonely, as such. I didn't ache for the connections I didn't have. That part of my psyche was, at worst, numb. I was peculiar, and if I'd continued down that path I would no doubt have become extremely and perhaps irreversibly peculiar (in a different way from all the ways in which I am currently peculiar), but - I didn't invest mental energy in wanting the situation to be otherwise.

I don't know whether other people find themselves feeling similarly about similar situations. It seems plausible, at least.

[terriblesoup]

Here’s the thing, closure (or the lack of it) is overrated. We always think about getting that perfect goodbye or the ultimate "ha!" moment where everything finally makes sense. But life doesn’t work like that, does it. Sometimes, people leave, endings are messy, and those "unsaid words" stay unsaid. And you know what? That’s okay.

Humans are funny creatures. We’ll spend hours replaying conversations in our heads, writing imaginary comebacks we’ll never use, or wondering, “What did I do wrong?” (The answer: probably nothing,or maybe everything. Who knows?) But closure isn’t about getting the last word or piecing together every broken shard. It’s about learning to live with a little chaos and moving on anyway.

Think of life like a TV series that got canceled mid-season (I have a list...). Sure, there’s no satisfying finale, and we’ll never know if the lead character ended up happy. But does that stop us from watching reruns and quoting the best moments? Not at all. Learning to enjoy the ride even if the ending doesn’t tie up all the loose ends, that's what makes you the main character of your own story.

Waiting for the perfect resolution or a text back from someone who ghosted you three years ago is not coming. Instead, you’ve got to find your own peace. Laugh about it, cry if you must, and then grab some ice cream because life’s too short to dwell on messy endings and people that didn't think it was important enough to explain why they left.

[elegantpersoncreation]

I'm just an ordinary woman:💋

I don't read any instructions. I press buttons until it works.

I don't need alcohol to embarrass myself. I can do it without alcohol.

I'm not spoiled, just "emotionally flexible"!

The most beautiful words in the world: "I'm going shopping"

I don't have any quirks! These are "special effects"!

Women should look like women, not wallpapered bones!

Forgive and forget? I'm neither Jesus nor do I have Alzheimer's!

We women are angels, and when our wings are clipped, we fly on - on a broom!

This is not fat! It's "erotic usable surface".

When God created man, he promised that the perfect man would be found on every corner. And then he made the earth round!

My gravestone should read: "What are you staring at? I'd rather be lying on a beach right now!"

😉❤️

[liberatingreality]

As a child I felt myself to be alone, and I am still, because I know things and must hint at things which others apparently know nothing of, and for the most part do not want to know.

Carl Gustav Jung, Memories, Dreams, Reflections

[distorted-digitality]

The method and wording used in a portrayals are indeed important.

framing is everything

[thegreymattergazette]

Brain and Behaviour: Living with a Neurological Disorder

Neurodivergent minds often navigate a world that wasn’t built for them, leading to unique challenges for mental health. Let’s create spaces where understanding, inclusion, and support thrive. 💙✨

For more information, check out: https://thegreymattergazette.blogspot.com/2024/11/brain-and-behaviour-living-with.html

[madd-madd]

Dating for love isn't working. Now I'm dating to conduct psychological experiments and collect data.

[my-sandwich-it-was-innocent]

Statistics is pure unadulterated bullshit. Most of the time its random data points that you cant even use unless you cherry pick what you want from that data so it fits a Normal curve.

You can easily adjust how its presented as well by manipulating values and how theyre represented. You can make half a coconut seem like it had the greatest effect on the economy.

And to put the cherry on this fudged sundae is the founder of Correlation in Statistics, Francis Galton, was also the founder of Eugenics and Nature vs Nuture.

Both of which have been discredited or had incomplete understandings. Such as his ideals being the base the Nazis used in their bullshit Ayrian blood being superior viewpoint. And that we have discovered its Nature AND Nuture where both play heavy roles in a persons life.

Which he used his statistics methods to "prove" his beliefs. Its the only mathematic language that allows one to lie

Most-used word in each US state.

[cosmic-vacuum]

the only failure to humankind is giving up on oneself

[gaywebcorenostalgia]

The Pink Practice, 1998

[xoxohannas-world]

me scrolling on tumblr is literally me revising for my psychology and mental health course

[salvrun]

That's not gaslighting. Gaslighting would be him saying it was different and her denying it. This is Pavlovian training.