#Been there

[s0akie]

Honestly? I really love how TMA handled Jon's asexuality.

Asexuality is complex and multi-layered. To understand it fully is to understand the many different types of attraction there is out there, and how to differentiate them from one another. Which is already a complicated enough task when you're ace/aro spec- But even more so when you're Allo, as most of those attractions seem to just morph together.

So, of course Melanie (and potentially Georgie) would phrase it as "He just doesn't."

While I would not have minded for asexuality to be name dropped, this is just as good- if not better. It feels in character, it feels realistic. It tells us something about the characters themselves and how they view and understand Jon's sexuality. That they see it in its most bare bone sense : not having sex.

Whether or not Jon is aware of his own sexuality is entirely up to interpretation as well. While I do have my own personal headcanons, it's perfectly reasonable to assume that he could have phrased it this way himself- Either because that is how he understands it, or just because it is the easiest way to explain it to someone who isn't ace.

All in all! In my opinion, this was really well handled, especially considering it is like, five lines of dialogue in a 200 episodes long Horror/Tragedy podcast.

[ionomycin]

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[gilliandersons]

i find it so amusing how kathryn and aubrey decided to avoid each other while exchanging music and poetry, essentially in a sort of long-distance relationship, prior to shooting to intensify the tension between agatha and rio. truly went all in for the lesbian experience.

[vintagecamping]

A man struggles to get himself out of his collapsed tent.

Sandtoft, England

1980

[user-needs-new-hyperfixation]

Wei Wuxian might actually be my favourite depiction of an adult interacting with unrelated kids that I’ve ever seen in fiction. He reminds me of the adults I look back on fondly from when I was growing up, and of the adult I want to be when interacting with teens through work etc.

He’s fun and silly and teases them, but knows when to step up as the adult in the situation and be responsible.

His degrees of closeness to them are appropriate; closer to the ones who are “his kids” (ie Jin Ling as his nephew and Sizhui eventually as his son), and friendly but not excessively so with the others.

He actively watches out for the kids and protects them from danger, but also gives them practical advice and opportunities to spread their own wings and exercise their own abilities.

He impresses upon them that they don’t need to achieve the things their fathers and uncles had by their age: he was there, he knows those tales of glory are rooted in blood and suffering, and he works to free the juniors from the pressure to hold themselves up to that shallow veneer of triumph as a standard.

He even occasionally drops good relationship advice even before he and Lan Wangji get their shit together: the bit in Yi City where he refuses to waste time on the whole “I won’t leave without you!” thing and instead tells the kids essentially, “No. I trust him, and I have to do what I need to do, and leave him to do what he needs to do,” really sticks with me.

Anyway...rambling, but yeah. I love him, and I love that he’s sometimes a disaster but he is so good at switching to Adulting Mode as needed. Also there’s definitely some very bittersweet thoughts to be had about the fact that, aside from his brief sweet memories of his parents, Yanli was definitely the one who taught him how to be a caretaker. And now, he gets to use what she taught him to watch over her son.

[kyxworld]

What i see common in all questions is how, most treat being aware as states. Let me elaborate, it’s very subtle some think the more they’re aware they’ll “see” it with their senses. there’s so much focus on the senses, experiencing it with the senses. this just implies you didn’t experience it, as soon as you became aware, so you created a separation by “waiting” for it appear in the illusion or seeing it with your senses. go deeper than that, don’t use senses as a validation, they’re illusory. your true nature as “ ” is far greater than that. There’s nothing wrong to experience what you want, by all means do so, but you’re so focused on “changing” “senses” “waiting for it change”.

[mmarggsstuff]

[autismcultureis]

Autism culture is feeling like a fake fan bc I don't know everything about this specific piece of media and people know more than me. I guess my hyperfixation isn't real then

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[borderline-culture-is]

bpd culture is avoiding drugs and substances not for any moral reason but because you know if you ever tried them you would just end up filling another criteria on the dsm-v

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[multiverseprincess]

obsessed w the bear and I think- Carmen is the happiest when he's creating, and syd is too, but she's got the executive energy, that patience, and that will to follow through.

his creative spirit needs her executive powress to see the bear through.

I feel like he doesn't know that yet, he knows he needs her, as an equal, but he can't place her correctly or let her take the wheel because he is not self aware.

w syd, the bear can be more sustainable and progressive. she cares because she knows she can do better and be better but Carmen has his own idealogies and mopes about within those limits and insecurities.

let syd take the wheel jesus

as someone who has been in her position, she's 🤏🏼 close to losing her shit, and she's tested heavily as we see in the S3 ending.

could be romantic too tbh, but this is my perspective, it's brutal out here for minorities and women

[hellcifrogs]

For anyone blissfully unaware it is officially summer over here and SO HOT! So for warm up I tried to cool down by giving the girls outfits to match my city's hell like weather :')

[redeemed-wren]

Tegan spending half an episode having a mental breakdown trying to figure out how the TARDIS works will forever be a mood

[rat-at-heart]

Bean there, done that -him

[beardedmrbean]

[chilledagridolce27]

no because why is elemental the literal embodiment of the absolute PRESSURE 1st & 2nd gen migrant kids face? the overwhelming reality of the unfathomable and tremendous sacrifice your parents made to give you the opportunities they never had...the weight of all that expectation to not only succeed but to succeed excellently because you are the culmination of generations of hopes and dreams, of blood, sweat and tears... The hopelessness of wondering how you could EVER pay back that kind of sacrifice and loss? the desperate need to be strong and do it anyway? The frantic desire to never disappoint, to never be the reason they regret it all... The constant internal struggle between your dreams and their legacy, your desires vs weight of their sacrifice, your future vs their past?? The burden of having to carry all of that and hating yourself for hating it because how could you spit in the face of all that sacrifice???! Why can't you just be grateful??!!

I'm a bad daughter