#BAD PARENTS !!

[arrowheadedbitch]

Watching an old press video of the Drakes before Tim was Robin

Jason: Holy shit

Dick: How did they get you so well behaved?

Tim: The threat of never being loved for all eternity

Jason:...

Dick:...

Jason:...oh

Dick: Oh, buddy

[titleknown]

REBLOG IF YOU WISH YOU HAD EMOTIONALLY MATURE PARENTS!

[vampireink]

I will have a home one day. It will be warm, and it will be safe. It will have large windows so that it never feels like a prison. It will have comfort and light and colours, and there will be joy echoing off of each of the walls. There will be no shouting in my home. There will be no violence, no harsh words, no abuse ... it will be safe, and it will be my home.

[mottttttttt]

Че я высрала...

[vanx-97]

You make me so angry and you make me sad

You’re so concerned about a future you don’t have

Far from what you can achieve, close to a body bag

Some people love seeing life, you love to see it pass

So cloudy and no one can make it clear 

You don’t know what to do with your career

Family talks of fallback plans you don't wanna hear

School graduate drug addict kid who wants to disappear

The friends you had I thought they were great

The friends you hold onto are the ones that I hate

Everything you borrow, nothing you repay

You’d fuck up someone’s week to be high for 1 day

You don’t even try, you just give up on your goals

You dread the day success comes close

I really hope that you don’t overdose

The world didn’t watch you grow just to watch you go

Young adults are all confused, you are not alone

So many stars that collapse into black holes

Some of those people you used to know

I think you should take it slow before you implode

You can’t control everything, you weren’t meant to

I don’t think that the universe hates you

Be yourself and do what you love to do

Take it from someone who had to die to see that life is beautiful

You will struggle, things won’t always work

This dance with death will only make it worse

You want to change, believe in yourself first

Eventually you will find your place on this earth

[ineffectualdemon]

Lukewarm take: if you feel the need to prove that you are better or more powerful that anyone who is demonstratively weaker than you already, you're a fucking loser

[willdoanythingfortacos]

100% truth...

[memesnotdreams]

all you want is out but no one warned me how aimless adult life post authoritarian parents would feel. like what am i supposed to do?? take orders from myself?? the same idiot that let herself be bossed around?? you can't be serious

[thethirdtriplet]

Oh my god, I just realized why I relate to so many neglected fictional characters, who mostly have bad, unavailable or abusive parents/parental figures or mentors.

I WAS NEGLECTED.

Also, MY PARENTS SUCKED.

They’re ok now? BUT STILL.

[arrowheadedbitch]

Concept: Tim is in an extremely toxic relationship and he doesn't realize until his partner says something he remembers his parents saying to him as a kid

______

Partner: Are you really gonna eat all that?

Tim: Wh-

Tim:

Tim: Oh shit

[furiousgoldfish]

Hello, so I checked the checklist thing and I realized that the things I experienced aren’t normal but I also don’t think my parents do this intentionally. I think that this is just the only way they know how to do things, like they just don’t know anything else. Neither of them had particularly good parents so I just don’t think they realize that some of the things they do aren’t good. They try their best to be supportive and stuff but they do control some of my things and hit me when I do bad things, I’m a minor btw. I think that since they grew up with that they think it’s normal.

Yeah I get what you're saying! I felt these exact same things as a minor, and could see very well that from the perspective of my parents, they are doing what they think is correct, and it's how they've been taught, and of course there's no way for them to know they're doing damage or neglecting you because this is all they know.

However, from an adult standpoint, I know that parents are responsible for taking care of their children, and that neglect, ignoring issues, or particularly hateful and cruel behaviour is very obviously, not a mistake or just parents 'not knowing how to do any better'. They know how to treat other adults as human beings. They know to be polite and sensitive with their boss, with people they're trying to impress. They know to be kind to their guests and relatives they want to be in good graces of. They know how to take care of themselves and give themselves the attention and care they want, and even get other people to do it.

While it's impossible for children to know better than they've been taught, adults absolutely know better, and you know, even if nobody ever taught them directly, they could have, picked up a book on parenting! They could have shown interest in gentle parenting or looked it up, they could have researched all possible illnesses and signs of trauma and distress on their child - btw I did all of those things, even not planning to have children, I read those books, I researched those things, just for a mere chance that one day I end up caring for a child. It's not out of this world to expect parents to give a shit about learning how to parent! To just repeat whatever their parents did to them (which they often complain was so tough and cruel and hard on them) is an excuse to be willfully neglectful, willfully abusive.

When you're a kid, you're convinced that you're doing a perfect job of hiding just how alone, sad, scared, upset and traumatized you are, but to an adult it's pretty obvious, you're not really capable of hiding it that well. And it begs the question - why do kids even hide it, why do they conceal their fear and pain? The answer is, because they've been trained to, because they've been punished for expressing that same pain in the past, because they've been humiliated, hurt, ignored or attacked for it. So the mere fact that you are concealing how their parenting is affecting you, proves that they did something to compel you to hide, to not bother them with your needs and fears anymore, they don't want to be responsible for taking care of it, for being your parents.

I know I made a lot of assumptions here, and I'm sorry if this is all completely out of the mark! It's just that I could have written this ask myself as a minor, and I thought these exact things, and then later on it turned out I've been groomed to think like this, and to not see abuse or recognize it at any cost. If it feels dangerous or wrong to acknowledge the abuse, or to hold your parents accountable for it, you can just ignore this for now, and not think about it. It is sometimes, dangerous for minors to be aware, or to try to call it out, and if that's your case, I support you to just survive the best you can, believing in whatever brings you the most comfort. Because this is not your responsibility to fix, this is not your fault, this is not shameful for you, or a sign that something is wrong with you, you are fine, you're doing exactly what you're supposed to, you're surviving. Keep holding on.

[i-am-trans-gwender]

So i was in therapy (unfortunately its for depression and not hrt) and I was talking about gender dysphoria, my transphobic parents and the way society treats trans people. I had to stop talking because my therapist started crying. I just sat there quietly until she stopped crying because I what am I supposed to do in that situation?

[nolanel-corbeaux]

Not now.

All these voices in my head get loud I wish that I could shut them out I'm sorry that I let you down Let you down ♫

"Not now." She would say. If not now, when? "Not now." He would say. If not now, when?

When? Please, just say when...

Nolanel had quite the time baying for his parents attention, or even just a glance. A simple acknowledgement that their own child existed except for how he could be used for their ends.

He gets better, of course, but that is an investment that won't show any profits for many years to come. Just...not now.

[artofmissdemeanor]

Continuation of my fan cast for bad parents this time. Here is my concept though: Real Housewives edition. Why? A) I’m saving Jawbone for the Fantasy Teachers B) I love Izzy Rowland who is a known Housewives fan I would do anything to make her happy.

Hallariel Seacaster

Izzy of course! The drama, the shade, the wine she could bring to the role. How I believe that women Gilear so much, if she’d marry him he’d take her name and I don’t mean like her maiden name, mean Gilear is Mr. Hallariel SEACASTER now.

Sandra Lynn Faeth

Listen. Anjali Bhimani. It’s giving Fy’ra Mom Au. It’s giving Complicated Women Podcast. If there something that Anjali can do then it is a flawed and broken woman with a heart of hold.

Sklonda Gukgag

Laura Bailey my beloved. She has the range from little creatura to stone cold badass. She can do it all.

Wilma Thistlespring

If you want the bad parents polycule to be started you need the non-binary menace that isErika Ishii to do it.you need the one who made it a mission to fictionally kiss everyone on critical role. Also I’d believe she had so much fun in this role.

Gilear

Gilear is the housewife of Hallariel as is Brennan to Izzy.

But who is the Dm?

Aabria as DM

Just because I love her and she would go so extra with a Houswives Campaign… And I love her.

[amateuraspect]

Suddenly, you realize you’ll never have the good relationship you wanted, and as long as they were alive, even though you’d never admit it, part of you, the stupidest goddamn part of you, was still holding on to that chance. And you didn’t even realize it until that chance went away.

Bojack Horseman, S5:E6 - Free Churro

[moldynapkin]

Danny Phantom Vivisection AU

The only thing Danny can smell is lemons. Maddie always hated the smell of disinfectant, and since it’s necessary to be as clean as possible when performing tests on “live” subjects, she started hanging lemon-scented air fresheners all around the lab. It made working in the lab for long periods of time just a little more bearable.

When they went to visit Jack’s family over the summer, a familiar flower caught her eye. Apparently, his family had been growing them for generations, as a crop. Nearly every recipe they have calls for the use of Blood Blossoms, and they gladly gave her a few cuttings to cultivate. Previously she had only read about them in books since they were thought to be extinct, so growing them was definitely a learning curve.

She planted some at Amity Park, (with permission from the mayor), on every floor of Fenton Works, and even donated some to the GIW. (She figures they could use some help.) At Amity Park they sprouted but withered away after only a week. The only place other than the lab where they successfully grew was the 3rd floor of Fenton Works.

She had put a tray of the seed starters in the hallway window sill, right between Jazz and Danny’s room. It was quite strange because when she moved them away from that wall they would instantly start wilting. She needs to study it more with help from Jack, once he gets back from his “fishing trip”. Half of the time he forgets to even put bait on the end of the pole so she isn’t sure if it can even really be considered fishing.

Her working theory is that there are ectoplasm hotspots, or areas where the ectoplasm is above the background levels, maybe because of extra portal radiation or excessive ghost activity. She and Jack still haven’t quite figured out how exposure to the ghost zone will affect Fenton Works in comparison to the surrounding town. It might be like radiation exposure, but so far there hasn’t been any evidence to support that.

Danny’s room is the most ectoplasmic aside from the lab, and they aren’t sure why. It could be due to a lack of ventilation, or maybe just the devices malfunctioning due to long-term exposure to the lab. She has actually been waiting for the GIW to send her some of their specialty equipment, that way she can get to the bottom of this.

She reminds herself that she needs to focus while she is documenting her capture of Phantom. When she gives the journal to Lance Thunder and Harriet Chin she wants to make sure that it is thorough enough that they can’t mess up the broadcast. Disinformation will only further harm the already incredibly stigmatized job of being a ghost hunter. She does not want people to see her as a hoax.

Okay, back to writing. Jack was in the Specter Speeder, hot on the tail of the lunch lady, while Maddie followed on foot with the Fenton Bazooka. They were determined to catch a ghost and find something note-worthy enough to report to the news station. They needed the people to understand that all ghosts are monsters! Just because Phantom plays pretend as some sort of superhero, doesn’t mean that he is one. Where was he when she and Jack were building the portal and had to work daunting shifts every night to protect the town? It’s not like he is some kid who died recently, ghosts are bound in the town that they died in until they are old enough to have lost every shred of humanity they once had.

No one in town has a kid who died or went missing recently, so he must be around thousands of years old. If she's right about his age, then he doesn’t actually care about the town, he just got bored one day in the ghost realm and decided he wanted more attention, and he got it! Why can’t everyone else see him for who he really is? Alas, it is the life that she signed up for, after all.

As they were catching up to the Lunch Lady she spotted something down the alley, right beside the Nasty Burger. She motioned for Jack to keep pursuing the Lunch Lady while she went to check out what she saw. Even if it was just a blob ghost it might be helpful to their research. What she didn’t realize was that she had just struck gold!

As she approached the end of the alley, she saw Phantom. He seemed injured, more than usual at least. He always seemed to have scratches or open wounds, but not to this extent.

He had horrific gashes running all the way from his left shoulder to the bottom of his torso. He seemed very out of it like he didn’t even know there was someone standing in front of him. It was also strange because his gashes were leaking green and red, (very Christmassy for someone who ruined Christmas last year), she giggled to herself.

She shot him with the Fenton Bazooka for good measure, and he just collapsed. What a fantastic find! With him, she would be able to get so much more information about ghost anatomy than she normally could. She called Jack to the front of the Nasty Burger and chucked Phantom into the backseat. They strapped him in, just to be safe, and took him back to the lab.

A few days passed, and after immeasurable amounts of tests, they found that he had blood blossoms in his system. That must have weakened him. That's probably how he got the gashes, some other ghost took advantage of his state of health. She doesn’t know how he got a hold of blood blossoms and knows even less about why on earth he would ingest them, but either way, her research has its missing piece, a live subject!

She would squeal with delight if she weren't about to vivisect a ghost. Could it count as vivisection since they're already dead? She thinks it should since they’re semi-sentient, but will consider it more later.

Blood Blossoms also don’t grow naturally anywhere in town, so Phantom was either poisoned, or he intentionally stole them from Fenton Works, which is improbable. Could it have been on purpose? Maybe ghosts got depressed just like people, she writes herself a note to ask Phantom about it after the vivisection if he survives.

However, they weren’t missing any of the Blood Blossoms they had in the lab, so that theory probably won’t lead to anything.

All she and Jack use them for right now is cooking. They snuck them into the kids ’ breakfasts and lunches because, alongside their ability to ward off ghosts, they’re also surprisingly healthy. The only reason they didn’t tell the kids is because they can be so picky sometimes!

When she proposed the idea of using them as seasoning, because she just wants them to be safe from ghosts, they both looked disgusted and their only justification was that “they stink and look really unappetizing.”

Jazz is at her counseling session with Spike, and Sam texted her that Danny is staying at her place tonight to work on a class project. She honestly didn’t even know they had classes together.

When they come home she is going to bother them so much about the Blood Blossoms. They both ate their entire meal with no complaint, so they couldn’t have tasted that bad. They are just kids though, they’re allowed to be picky. She remembers what it was like when she was their age.