#//Queerplatonic! Attraction! Is! A! Thing!!!
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a beginners guide to… aromanticism.
so topic covered in this post will include:
what does it mean to be aromantic?
qpr vs romantic relationship
what is the aromantic-spectrum?
aro ≠ace
a/n + other recourses
1. what does it mean to be aromantic?
an individual that is aromantic experiences no romantic attraction. that means they feel no romantic attraction, but can feel other types of attraction such as — platonic, familial, sexual, queerplatonic, alterous, aesthetic, emotional, sensual, intellectual. (these are the types of attraction i know, for the full list and descriptions check out this wiki page!)
each aromantic person can have a certain stance on romance such as romance repulsed or favourable. if you want to learn more about this topic check out this wiki page.
some aromantic people may be in a committed romantic and/or sexual relationship or a so called qpr aka a queerplatonic relationship.
2. qpr vs romantic relationship.
so to start this off i will say that the only people defining their relationship can be the ones in said relationship.
a romantic relationship is usually considered a relationship where two individuals are romantically attracted to each other and engage with each other romantically, such as kissing, cuddling, being committed exclusively to one another.
however the actions mentioned are not exclusive to romantic relationships.
a queerplatonic relationship is a relationship out of the binary. not a romantic or a platonic one. a qpr is not a stepping stone in between a platonic relationship and a romantic one. it is not necessary in between the two, it’s simply existent on it’s own.
what exactly is a qpr is hard to define as it means different things to different people and the only ones that can define it are the people in their qpr. some people are in a qpr where they engage in romantic and/or sexual activities, but feel no romantic attraction to each other, a qpr can be a fully platonic relationship with a sexual aspect or it can be just platonic, but their relationship exceeds the “norm” such as living together temporarily or permanently, raising a child together aka co-parenting. those are just a few examples.
3. what is the aromantic-spectrum?
it’s basically a spectrum of all the aromantic identities. someone who is on the aro-spec can feel little to no romantic attraction, some people feel it under certain circumstances or their attraction fades under certain circumstances. some, but not all labels on the aro spec include: demiromantic, aegoromantic, greyromantic, apothiromantic.
if you wish to read about more labels under the aro-spec check out this page.
all the labels on the aromantic spectrum have their sexual counterparts (ex. demiromantic — demisexual).
4. aro ≠ace
so while aro and ace (short for asexual) communities are basically one big community (a-spec), it is important to note that aromantic individuals do not have to be asexual, some aros are asexual, some are just aro, some are aplatonic, so keep that in mind. one doesn’t equal the other. just cause someone is aro doesn’t make the asexual, however they can still be on the ace-spec. one can be aromantic and demisexual, many aro/aces use the split attraction model otherwise known as SAM.
SAM is there to basically help out to distinguish between romantic and/or sexual relationship, one is not tied to the other. some may be biromantic and asexual or homosexual and aromantic.
some aros choose not to use the SAM model and in this case they identify as a non-SAM aromantic. why they choose to use it can have many reasons, however they should also be respected as they can identify themselves however they want and truly own no one an explanation.
6. a/n + other recourses
i think this post catches the basics of aromanticism to the best of my ability. this is the basics and being aromantic is so much more complex than a couple definitions.
here’s a website you may find helpful! website
however i encourage you to do further research than just my post and that website. tumblr is a great place as well, there are plenty of aromantic blogs out there, like @our-arospec-experience @arospec-culture-is !
#aro#aromantic#aro spec#aro spectrum#aromantic spectrum#aromaticism#aromanticism#aromantic positivity#demiromantic#quoiromantic#lithromantic#aroflux#wtfromantic#frayromantic#orchidromantic#apothiromantic#heartless aro#loveless aro
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Even with his orientation, you can bet Kaveh would be down to hook up with and even marry Faruzan if she were down to as well
#hc; kaveh#//Queerplatonic! Attraction! Is! A! Thing!!!#//That aside; he is strongly attracted to her in an aesthetic and intellectual sense; with a more emotional one post-Championship#//In the same sense; if she were to want to hook up with him noncommittally; he would be ecstatic!#//He’d love to make her feel good and spend time with her!#//Obviously first making it clear about himself and his orientation so she’s aware and such#//But if she’s chill; he’s chill#//She’s really one of—if not outright currently THE—only gals he’d be willing to do this with; BC of his high regard of her#//He really likes and respects her lots#//Would even be down for a qpr with her if she wanted to#//And an open one so she is free to pursue who she wants as she sees fit; too#//He’d be so honored and happy#//Anywho; take this#//My 4am ramblings#//Or property-value lowering gunshots ig#//We’ll see how this goes lmao#//Idk if I phrased this how I wanted t or right enough; and I’m too tired to worry abt that rn#//That’s later me’s worry
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I WANT REAL THINGS
SOFT MOMENTS
FALLING ASLEEP ON VIDEO CALLS
SUNFLOWERS AND SMOOTH JAZZ
WAKING UP TO BREAKFAST IN THE MORNING
SOMEBODY TO HOLD ME
SOMEBODY TO HOLD
LAUNDRY
TAXES
COMFORT
WARMTH
SO MUCH LONGING AND YET
AND YET
AND YET
#(A poemish thing by me)#queer poetry#ace poetry#queer platonic relationship#alterous attraction#alterous yearning#alterous#yearning#queerplatonic yearning#black asexual#black and ace#black asexuality#im so lonely#jay's attempts at communicating
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just found out that non-aromantics actually have feelings towards the people they decide to have a crush on. Apparently it’s not like, “hmmm should I consider this person for dating? what are the pros and cons here?” Or like, “I want to be really close friends with that person” But it’s like an actual emotional response or something? An emotion that is different from the “I wanna be really close friends” emotion??
also I just figured out that I’m aromantic
#I’m also ace but I already knew that#Shout out to Jaiden Animations#Never would have figured this stuff out this quickly otherwise#asexual#aromantic#aroace#My first “crush” was Carmen San Diego#I was 18yrs old and that “crush” lasted 2 days#Turns out she wasn’t as pretty when she wasn’t wearing her signature outfit#I didn’t actually have a crush on her I just really liked her outfit#I think I just decided that “ya know I should’ve had a crush on someone by now kinda weird that it hasn’t happened yet”#And then I just picked the first pretty girl I saw#She’s animated so I guess that made it less weird than having a crush on a random stranger#But like there were no actual romantic emotions there#Didn’t know that there were supposed to be any but oh well#The whole “I wanna be really close friends with that person” thing really threw me off for a while#Cuz I thought that was what romantic attraction was#But apparently it’s not???#Too confusing we should just get rid of romance#Honestly my idea of the “ideal romantic/queerplatonic relationship” should have tipped me off sooner that I was aro#It was “a close friend who lives in the same house as me but we have separate bedrooms and sometimes we cuddle on the couch but not…#… always and we don’t hold hands or kiss or anything but we just act like really good but close friends because that’s what I think a…#… romantic relationship is two people who are really close friends”#might delete later I dunno just kinda rambling and I’m really tired
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romance repulsed (and indifferent) aro qpr culture is happily knowing you can have a close partnership without it being in anyway romantic
#qpr culture is#or maybe this is just me???#im a little more on the repulsed side of things but qprs provide a way for me to have a close relationship without the romance#so yk#qpr#queer platonic relationship#queerplatonic#queer platonic partner#queer platonic attraction#queer platonic love#qpr positivity
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Found out today (if you're not in the UK like me, because I can never finish these things before midnight for some reason) is QPR day, and as someone who experiences (probably) queerplatonic attraction and thinks queerplatonic relationships are a beautiful thing, I felt like drawing something for the occasion.
#Happy QPR Day!#queerplatonic#qpr#qpr positivity#queerplatonic attraction#Apparently this thing double posted for some reason so if you liked this post and it's gone it's because I deleted the double.
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Imagine:
an aro-centric friend-finding/qpr/dating/hookup/etc. app called "Cupid's Aro"
#I wish this was a real thing#just having a way to find other aro people who are looking for other aro people#want a queerplatonic relationship? cupid's aro#want more aro friends? cupid's aro#want to start or join a commune full of aros? cupid's aro#want to date without worrying too much about how your partner would feel about you being aro? cupid's aro#want to just have fun [wink wink nudge nudge] without worrying too much about it getting romantic? cupid's aro#want a dating app/adjacent app where you can highlight tertiary attractions? cupid's aro#want a dating app/adjacent app that caters to aromantic identities and experiences? cupid's aro#like. someone make this a thing#I just don't know how to make it real#aromanticism#aro-spec#arospec#aromantic spectrum#aromantic#aro#aromanticity
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the #aro tag is full of stuff about nonromantic love and the #platonic relationship tag is full of stuff about qprs
debated posting this on @platonic-culture-is but that's meant to be a chill space for alloplatonic/grayplatonics and bringing up why i made it seems like a bad idea :/
#politics#discourse#<- sorta but tagged for filtering#aqueerplatonic#crosstagging#anti crosstagging#meme#aro meme#meme vent#vent meme#aroblr#aroblr problems#platonic problems#not fucking tagging this queerplatonic or loveless#because im not queerplatonic or loveless#how hard is that?? /s#vent#not a reblog#yes i know this ultimately is stupid because arophobia is worse#but i just want ANY space for platonic attraction#platonic attraction#drowing kid meme#skeleton pool meme#kid drowning + skeleton pool meme#crosstagging problems#idk if “aroblr” is actually a thing#but calling it “the aro community” seems wrong#because this is a tumblr problem#so aroblr problem#tumblr problems
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Genuine question
For arospec people that have felt both romantic and alterous attraction at some point in their lives, or anyone who otherwise has personal experience with both of these things- What’s the difference?
Like I understand that they’re two different things but most of the answers are usually “you want to hang out in an emotionally intimate way but not kiss or be lovey dovey” or something but i’m bellusromantic so like that makes it way harder since i want to those those things
Also- if a qpr can be self-defined by its participants (you can have a qpr that is extremely similar to a romantic relationship but still call it a qpr), can the same thing go for alterous attraction? (feeling attraction very similar to romantic attraction but not calling it that due to romance repulsion and/or romantic attraction not fitting it that well)
#aromantic#aromantism#bellusromantic#alterous attraction#queerplatonic relationships#romance#romantic attraction#someone help plz#i keep switching between thinking i know the answer and having no idea what the answer is#I want to do things in an extremely romantic way but with an extremely aromantic context#aro struggles#o hey that’s a tag
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when you find yourself staring at his beautiful face and listening him talk about things you have absolutely no idea about… yes boy tell me everything. i love you.
#🌀#basically knowledge is so attractive omg#when he pulls up with his wikipedia level knowledge on some random thing#mlm#alterous#queerplatonic#alterous attraction#alterous yearning#queerplatonic relationship#achillean#alterous relationship#gay#auti4auti#t4t#sfw t4t#soft t4t#sfw mlm#mlm thoughts#trans mlm#gay mlm#mlm love#qpr relationship#my demolition lover <3
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five is gay and arospec thank you for coming to my ted talk
#lorien legacies#LL tag#LL number five#More to Follow in reblogs + tags because i do legitimately feel like there was Intent behind this coding#surprise the intent is fcking shitty lmao#but also it just. as much as boy is there some shit to unpack there#it absolutely kills me how strongly he feels for and about people in ways that are very queerplatonic#he isn't ~emotionless and cold and uncaring about connecting to anyone~#he wants to connect with people SO MUCH and they Mean Things to him#there's this uncomfortable trend i see in a lot of well-meaning aro rep where 'cares about their friends instead of romantic relationships'#becomes this weird kind of like.... public access/ownership thing where /everyone/ they might be friendly with gets equal priority#the aro person's life and heart and dedication and commitment just kind of get spread out equally to everyone#and no one particularly means anything to them more than anyone else because they're All Friends!#give me raw messy queerplatonic attraction and commitment and betrayal and love#let them choose their people like a thunderbolt; let them be confused and conflicted; let them hate and love in equal measure#'we were more than friends; we were partners' i just. /god/#five would honestly be great aro rep imo if he wasn't in fcking LL lmao#anyway five is just. deeply queer and i am being so very normal about it#add it to the list of reasons baby moogle glommed onto him so hard
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Ppl who get angry (so much that apparently some even threaten) at mspecs, especially mspec lesbians because they seem to be so commonly hated for no good reason, really need to sit and think for a second. There are so many valid reasons why people choose to use multiple labels in this way. Their happiness does not affect you, grow up.
#like if im queerplatonically/romantically lesbian/queer and also extremely asexual#you bet theres ppl out there who are romantically attracted to one gender identity and sexually attracted to another. for example.#and thats JUST the split attraction model#theres other valid reasons too.#stop being an ass bc u think a valid label is problematic bye#caps in tags#leaf says things
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Apparently my standards aren't that high I just can't find anyone attractive unless I'm emotionally attached to them like. I can see their faces are like. Objectively nice but my brain only goes heeheee hooohoo and gives the dopamine if I am emotionally attached. That explains why I usually only think actors are hot in costume.....
#im like. demi romactic but replace romance with a mix of aesthetic and queerplatonic attraction#woo figuring things outttt
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Autistic qpr is wanting to shower your best friend in affection and cuddle with them in a queer way while not being queer for them.
(Hope I did this right)
September,19,2023 3:25.
seems perfect fine to me /gen
(also I apologies for being so behind on the asks and submissions)
#qpr culture is#queer platonic love#queer platonic attraction#qpr positivity#queer platonic partner#queerplatonic#queer platonic relationship#qpr#autism#autistic things#autistic#queer
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pov delilah's skills of knowing when she likes somebun romantically vs knowing when xe likes somebun queerplatonically (both are incredibly bad but the all-seeing one's ability to know for queerplatonic attraction is like. nonexistent, basically. at least for romantic it can tell, even if it takes a moment..)
#âžł the fool speaks#like there's 3 entire pawssible things that are happening rn one is that shar is actually.. having queerplatonic attraction n may want to#have a qpp... but also like 2/3 things that are Nawt That bc the ethereally beautiful's life simply cannawt be easy. hmph.#n like. maryne could nawt pawssibly be happier rn being taken romantically and whether or nawt this IS queerplatonic attraction or nawt#holds nwo weight to her.... it's the confusion that's annoying!!! it needs to know everything!!!!! especially when it affects xer DIRECTLY!!
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hey guys what the fuhk? hey guys im actually dead now sorry no more posts? hey guys im literally kicking my feet and giggling? hey guys im madly in love? hey guys he THINKS IM COOL??? hey guys?
#im so sorry for anyone who follows me how do yall do it#(no more posts thing is a joke btw i will never stop for as long as i live)#u cant escape me that easily#mlm#alterous yearning#queerplatonic#alterous#alterous attraction#queerplatonic relationship#achillean#gay#alterous relationship#🌀#my demolition lover <3
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