#youareher

[drdeeknight]

The lie of healing slow is feeling stuck. Some days will feel like you’ve gone backwards and some will feel like you’ve barely survived at all, like you’ve clawed your way up for a breath that you choke on while sinking. You are not stuck. You are still healing. Brief fatigue is a part of the healing cycle, a reminder we all need rest. Having to heal again (and again) isn’t a failure. Celebrate your slow healing, your repeated healing. You are right on track. ✨ [image description: White writing on black background with orange floral edge that says: My healing is slow but proof that healing is possible. Honor your need for slow healing, repeated healing, and deep, lasting healing. End image description.] ✨ #healing #youarehealing #selfcompassion #slowhealing #traumarecovery #traumahealing #youdeservehealing #youareworthy #youareworthit #youdeserve #youareenough #thehealingcollective #thehealingcollectiveAL #therapistsofinstagram #wholeness #thriving #youarewhole #iamhealing #iamwhole #youreenough #selflovejourney #selfcompassionjourney #selfcarejourney #youdeserveit #gentleness #selfcare #selfkindness #healingincommunity #healingandwhole #selflove https://www.instagram.com/p/ClkHPKOJ8yL/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

[taiyejeremiah]

Part 1/2: Stop the noise🔥🔥🔥

#noise #negativevoice #negativevoices #stop #shut #shutdownthenoise #stopthenoise #devilsnoise #peoplenoise #familynoise #housenoise #householdnoise #Godsvoice #Godsword #Godspromises #youarehealed #youcandoit #followGodspurpose #Godsdream #preachthegospel #shareyourtestimonies #lookforit #happy #fulfilled #encouraged #peaceful #peace #HolySpirit #HolySpiritisourbestfriend #faith

[you-are-her-she-is-you]

2009 I got my Wish

He was supposed to be driving me home.  He was supposed to be my friend

He drove down a dirt road, to the middle of nowhere. He stopped the car and put his keys in his pocket. 

“Where are we? Why are we here?” I asked, very confused.  He simply smiled and pushed my head to his crotch.  I pulled away.  

“What are you doing?” I screamed.

“Come on girl, you know you want it.” I pushed away. “The faster you suck me off the quicker I will take you home.”

I weighed my options.  He’s faster than me.  He’s stronger than me.  I don't know where we are.  Giving in seemed like my smartest option.  

Being used for someone else’s pleasure did not feel like I thought it would.

[youarehe]

Remember those old challenges from years ago? Let’s start one of those up. I’ll go first. 6 pictures of yourself from the past year. I nominate @pizzazz-meeee21 @clonesome @jtownraindancer @peachflower @buttonupzebraa @kingsshade and @wrestlingtheangel I’m bored. Please tag me back so I can see your beautiful faces! (And if you don’t want to post yourself, how about pets? 😁)

[written-by-m]

Better Days

I’ve been looking at my memories for last year in my Facebook and Instagram accounts. I saw a post where I received a lot of blessings exactly this day last year. I have been healed from PCOS and I had accepted my current job now. 

That time, I didn’t expect those blessings because I’ve always been stressed because of that, I didn’t think it will happen faster than I had imagined. But then, if you put your trust in HIM and trust HIS timing everything will be okay. 

These days, I know that all of us here are having a bad day or having a stressful life because of what is happening to the world. Let’s just not forget to pray and trust HIS actions. 

If you are a Catholic like me you will understand me. But if you have other Religions, I encourage you to hold on to your beliefs even more, because better days are coming.  

[kpop-english]

new ost ^^ yehua bu yao

[youarehe]

I agree! As someone who requires medication to prevent panic attacks and SI, I’ve never been offended by the term crazy any more than I have been offended by the term bitch. And I would never try to control or limit another persons language because I find it offensive.

As the older sister to someone with cerebellar hypoplasia with spastic tendencies, I saw his hand motions mocked a lot by kids. That’s sucky stupid behavior. We learned not to try to control other people and what they do/say as long as they keep their hands off of us. We can only control our reactions. We have always used the word spazz as a synonym for energetic or silly. For example, when my dog is running around in circles around the yard we say she’s being a spazz. Never had I ever heard that it was related to people with disabilities, and never have we ever found it offensive or heard it used in that way. I also have a cousin who has mental retardation (she has severe cerebral palsy). Being called a retard is highly offensive right? I would never assume someone is a bad person or call their place of work because they say “that’s retarded” if something is fucked up. Now if you call someone a retard, I see it as about the same level or maybe slightly worse than “cunt/bitch/asshole.” It’s not nice! But people are rarely nice when they’re upset.

I have been called “ableist” and a bad person so many times in the past 48 hours for stating that I don’t believe spazz is offensive or should be banned. I know someone who was having a civil discussion to the same effect I am who was also called names and her place of work was called to try to get her fired. In my opinion, the PC police is the bad guy here. Let people express their opinions. We come from a variety of background and understanding. It’s ok not to just accept a new ruling that suddenly a word should be banned. It’s better imo to question things and reason through it. No one is a bad person for having a difference in opinion as long as they aren’t hurting you… calling someone’s place of employment and potentially costing them their primary source of income without knowing their life story is harmful. Them defending a word you don’t like doesn’t hurt you. You can always choose not to associate with them ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

As a nurse, I find people who use colorful language are often passionate, intelligent, caring people. Don’t take someone at face value because they use offensive language. You could be writing off a wonderful person who is underneath.

I really can’t comment on the n-word. I’ve never used it. It’s never been ok to use it for as long as I’ve been alive so I can’t imagine the changing of that. I know plenty of black people who use it, and some white people who use it playfully. They aren’t bad people, and they treat everyone equally. I know some black people who find it offensive, and some who don’t. (I’ve had some black friends tell me to say it-I think they’d find it funny but I felt like it was some sort of trap lol. I couldn’t say it.) It’s hard to lump everyone together into one homogenous group. I guess my philosophy is read the room, and if you offend someone you care about of course you should apologize. Everyone has times their emotions get the better of them, and all we can do is give each other a little more grace.

So I am of the opinion that not all slurs are created equal. What do I mean by this? People being called the N-word while being lynched (historically), shot, chased out of neighborhoods, etc. is not the same as being called "crazy." I won't comment on s* because that's not my place, but I am mentally disabled and think crazy is comparable, since it has been used against me quite a bit.

All I'm saying is that, as a black person, it hurts me more to be called the n word than being called crazy ever could. Are both technically slurs by the dictionary definition? Sure... But I honestly see one as a genuine slur associated with a history of oppression/violence/terror and the other as simply a way of mocking and being mean to someone.

I understand that, for some of us, the words our bullies used make that pain very real! But I also kind of begin to wonder if this is more needing to work on personal trauma rather than expecting others to never use words regardless of meaning/context? Some words will never not be an insult, but idk if this is the case here.

Does anyone else feel like weighing in on this? I'd love to read some (civil) opinions!

[mholquinn]

Reposted from @amandaskeathley I struggle with this still and I may for a long time to come. Acknowledging your partner was a narcissist, means you understand you never meant anything to them. That you were just used and discarded. So sometimes you pretend he wasn’t, so you can still have some value because It makes you feel worthless.. I think accepting it is a crucial step in healing and recovery though. It’s taking your power back. I’m almost a year out and I’m still processing everything and making sense of what happened. I’m triggered easily and I cry a lot. But that’s ok. Because I’m here fighting taking my power back one day at a time. ✊🏼 . A trauma bond can be broken. You will heal. It is not your fault. And keeping fighting. Ps you’re beautiful. ❤️❤️ . #survivor#narcissisticabuse #abusesurvivor #anxietyattack #anxietymeds#youarehealing#bekindtoyourself#domesticabuse #cptsd#ptsd#divorce https://www.instagram.com/p/CE8bb86gB0b/?igshid=1de75vt6m2k13

[drdeeknight]

I t’s late, but ooh, do I ever want you to know some things. The healing you’re hoping for is attainable. It’s a long road, hard-fought victories of setting new boundaries, hard-won peace as you peel away the layers of pretense you thought protected you. I applaud you. Keep going. It’s uncomfortable. Keep going. You’ll need to rest, so rest, and then…Keep going. ✨ [Image description white writing on black background with white floral edging that says: I want you to know, sometimes Healing is lonely. Growth hurts like hell. Saying no feels wrong. Setting boundaries feels bad. I want you to know this so you don’t betray yourself, so when the going gets tough, you’ll still choose you. End image description.] ✨ #keepgoing #youarehealing #youarewhole #iamhealing #iamwhole #healingtrauma #healingfromtrauma #childhoodtrauma #traumarecovery #youcanheal #youarenotalone #youareenough #youreenough #youareworthit #youareworthy #youaregoodenough #braveenough #strongenough #boundaries #setboundaries #chooseyou #growth #healing #thehealingcollective #healingcollective #thehealingcollectiveal #dontstop #restdontquit #youdeserveit #youdeserve https://www.instagram.com/p/CjZi7-fObJL/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

[whoisjongall]

During this time, many are going through a lot. I speak #Healing over you Physically, Mentally and Emotionally. #Amen #YouAreHealed #SpeakIt #WriteIt #BelieveIt #ISpeakLife #Affirmation #WhoIsJonGall https://www.instagram.com/p/B-cHhVQDcZl/?igshid=1ch1xd3n98bsy

[you-are-her-she-is-you]

2008 Alone in my Bedroom I first got the idea from a movie, Thirteen.  Everything about that movie described my life so perfectly, and the parts that didn't, were what I wished my life was like.  Cutting her wrists made her feel again, so maybe it could help me, right?

I’m not really sure why I started cutting, to be honest.  At the time it seemed like the only thing that would help.  I was just so sad.  So lonely.  And he was always just so, him.  By the time I was thirteen, their arguing had mostly stopped.  Now it was just silence.  When he was mad at me, instead of hitting or yelling, he would just give me the silent treatment.  He would go days without saying one word to me.  This was worse than him yelling.  I was non-existent.  

He wouldn’t ignore my sister though.  In his eyes, there was nothing that she could do wrong.  She was his angel, his pride and joy. And I was, well, an accident.  He only ever wanted one child, and after he got his perfect baby, he was done.  My mom knew she wanted one more so she didn't tell my father when she stopped taking birth control three years later.  And that is how they ended up with me.  He never wanted me.  I think, in a way, he resented me for this.  As if somehow it was my fault that I had been born.  Sometimes I wished I hadn’t. 

The first time I cut my wrists, I stole one of my dad’s exacto knife blades.  I pressed it deeply into my skin and dragged down hard.  I was so pleased with myself when little drops of blood began to ooze out.   I felt so alive!  The pain was invigorating.  From that night on, I was hooked.  Almost every night, I would retreat to my room and slice.  One cut per day I had to exist in his house.  I couldn’t wear short sleeves anymore my wrists were getting so beat up.  But I didn’t care, I liked having my little secret. 

The hardest part of keeping this secret was when I had to go to swim practice.  Once we were in the pool it was fine, but for that half an hour of dryland training in our bathing suits, I had to keep my wrists in close to my body at all times.  I did not succeed though.  One day, our assistant coach, Cassie saw them.  I let my wrists show for just a split second and she immediately gave me a disappointed look.  She pulled me aside and grabbed my wrists.  She shuddered at the bloody mess my wrists had become.  

“I know this seems like the only option right now, but I need you to stop cutting yourself immediately.  If I notice you don't stop, I will tell your parents, and Coach Dave.  And you know if he finds out he will kick you off the team.”

I could tell she was dead serious.  I couldn’t make eye contact with her, I was too ashamed.  I simply nodded and walked away.  She was crazy if she thought I was going to stop.  For the first time in years I actually felt alive.  I was not going to let some snooty college girl ruin that for me.  I also certainly wasn’t going to be kicked off the team that was one of my only outlets.  So, I simply switched to cutting my ankles from that day on. 

[youarehe]

Listen friends, if I post something that you don’t like and you know for sure it’s incorrect - please, send me the link to vetted info so I can learn and remove said post. Being rude to me for no reason really doesn’t make me want to listen to you. If I reblog something without properly looking into it it’s probably because based on my life experiences, it makes sense. But I fully acknowledge I’m not always right.

Just saying, because I saw someone responded to something I posted. I went to see the full reply and found they’d blocked me so I couldn’t even see the comment. I was curious and managed to find a reliable article on it. Lo and behold what I reblogged was based on a misinterpreted study. This happens, no matter what side you’re on. Post deleted.

Be nice to each other. Forcing your opinion down someone’s throat and calling them stupid if they don’t agree with it 100% alienates the other person. It doesn’t make you look good, and it doesn’t help your cause. No one feels good about it, and the other person is much more likely to dig their heels in than accept new information. It’s human nature.

And yes, I’ve been on both sides of the spectrum now and guilty of name calling myself. I’m just doing my best to be better everyday.

[teapartyforthewitches]

Reminder to all those in recovery, whatever you're recovering from.. #danaspeaks #recovery #youarenotalone #youarehealing

[theofficialradioguardian]

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[amourpropree]

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[drdeeknight]

REST. Y’all know I believe it and live this out. I believe in resting, not just in theory and not just for me. I want a world where there’s more equal access to rest, and care, and safety. We all deserve to heal and bloom. Always grateful for the soothing words of @jaiyajohn 💖 ✨ [Image description: white writing on black background with white floral edging says: every single thing in your life heals and blooms when you rest. Quote by Dr. Jaiya John in Freedom: Medicine Words for Your Brave Revolution. End Image description.] ✨ #selfcare #rest #prioritizerest #youarehealing #youarewhole #prioritizeyourself #giveyourselfpermission #prioritizeyou #selflove #selfcaretips #sayingno #healthyboundaries #thehealingcollective #healing #boundaries #thehealingcollectiveAL #setboundaries #therapistsofinstagram #psychologistsofinstagram #clinicalpsychology #clinicalpsychologist #wholeness #saynomore #worthiness #peace #healingandwhole #youareworthy #youreworthy #iamhealing #sayno https://www.instagram.com/p/CZZdlO4lx9o/?utm_medium=tumblr