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I'm going to preface this by saying that I have really complex feelings about this, and much of it is inspired by my personal experiences and a bit of learning about what other trans people experience. If I come across as messy, it is because of these reasons.
There's this unshakable feeling I have that when allies and even other trans people talk about trans people, transition and motivation for transition, and anything related to such, that there's only certain things that x type of trans person can (and should) experience and talk about.
Like, when people talk about FtMs/trans men/transmasc people, a common idea is that we're motivated to transition to game the system, to manipulate people into treating us better because we're now seen as men. A huge reason I never even bought into that idea is because, since transition (especially medical), I have been treated worse than I ever have been. Since transitioning and being on testosterone, I've been catcalled, had people insist I hand my number over, and I have to emphasize that I've never experienced these things until a couple of years ago (to clarify, this was in my real, corporeal life). I honestly can say that, while transition has saved my life and soul, I am treated worse by others than I ever had been pre-transition. However, because the idea of transmascs is that "they were victims of misogyny and they only want to escape it through transition" is popular even among some trans people, I feel like it's almost... taking something away by acknowledging that. Add to this that I'm white and that TPoC have so many experiences that intertwine with race, and that race absolutely goes into how trans people are treated.
I am not saying that my experience is the only valid or true one. I am very aware that I'm probably an outlier. However, I just notice that, time and time again, people hear what they want to hear about transness, and if people have even slightly different points of view from their experiences, it doesn't matter, or worse, those people are duplicitous and conniving.
#trans#transgender#lgbt#lgbtq#ftm#nonbinary#transphobia#transphobia tw#misogyny tw#i just feel like there are very few spaces i feel safe even talking about my experiences with#because it's either ending up in transphobia ('see? you'll NEVER escape!!!') or downplaying or denying my experiences (men don't face that)#i just wish you could talk about the good and the bad without people picking at your carcass like vultures y'know?#because that's how it feels. it feels like i've been laid out on the ground to be *picked* apart and torn#making this after being harassed once again. catcallers get the boot.#it's just amazing to me how pre-transition i was almost... immune to that shit#the worst treatment i faced was being an undiagnosed autistic kid in school (which was ableism and not applicable to the conversation)
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aro culture is getting really annoyed with the relationships unit in your sociology class because the whole thing is just 100% amatonormativity.
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if think your teacher, professor, and/or TAs might be interested in discussing the concept, I have some idea of bringing up the topic?
I'd personally say something like, "Hi, During our section in sociology around relationships, I couldn't help but think it would be interesting to discuss how a sociological theory called "amatonormativity" might relate to these lessons. I gathered a few sources from the professor who coined it, a thesis written on it, and a law review written about the connection between it and laws in the USA. There's some connections between its use in feminist thought and in queer theories, and I'd love to know your thoughts about it. I personally was thinking of when [specific statement] was said, and how I would apply this theory. I hope it's as interesting to you as it is to me."
Coiner's current webpage: https://elizabethbrake.com/amatonormativity/
Thesis: https://vc.bridgew.edu/honors_proj/330/ (click download in upper right hand corner for the PDF, depending on the individual it may be worth downloading and sending that rather than a link)
Law Review: https://uclawreview.org/2022/06/09/amatonormativity-in-the-law-an-introduction/
#aro culture is#aro#aromantic#actually aro#actually aromantic#ask#mod leo#the general thing is: if you approach a teacher/professor/TA i promise you most of them are THRILLED to see a student engage with the topic#even if it's critical! but you HAVE to watch your tone. i'm not tone policing - you're so allowed to feel and talk about how harmful it is!#- but when you start from excitement or neutral 'how do you feel?' it creates dialogue#and people learn from each other when there's back and forth. practice your 'i statements' like 'i like this theory because i feel...'#not 'your lessons are shitty and promote topics that hurt me and my community'#cause like. no one wants to engage with someone who starts off the bat with that#talking shit about it within community and already supportive folks >>> talking shit about it with someone who's likely unaware at best#and will probably assume it's a weird passive aggressive way to say you don't like them and want them gone#y'know? all about communication skills#<- took a seminar on intrapersonal communication in queer communities in college and suggested how many materials assumed romo/sexual#relationships when discussing boundaries and such and how in queer spaces it's especially important to talk about ALL types of relationship#because we are likely to need that guidance in everyday microaggressions too! and the outside therapist helping with the course was SO#into that and SO excited to bring that energy to the class
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In 2025, firmly into the Heroic Age, three of these superheroes become beacons to the newer generation now taking hold of their destinies.
Wonder Woman, once ascended to godhood as the Goddess of Truth as reward for her years of services to the Earth, left Mt. Olympus to return to the people. She reaches her hand out to those who need it, fostering belief in oneself and in others, showing the truth of human potential.
Batman has fostered friendships and maintains a vast network of allies all throughout Gotham City and beyond, a shining example of what human connection can do for not only one person, but many. His unwavering moral compass and sharp analytical mind make him a symbol for justice across the world.
Superman, a shining beacon of hope, the original superhero and the one to truly guide the Heroic Age. Like his contemporaries, he encourages and mentors new heroes stepping out into the sun where he is needed. The father of heroes, patriarch of the families El and Kent, his hope is one shared by all who join this extended family of superheroics.
The hope for a better tomorrow.
#my art#dc comics#dc trinity#batman#wonder woman#superman#bruce wayne#diana prince#clark kent#earth-101#lil blurb under the cut!!#blurb is mostly off the dome and small details might change but the gist is essentially like#making each of them represent A Thing in the wider world of the dc universe#bc people always talk about dc characters being gods who are human or whatever so i'm like. okay. gods have domains and shit.#so lets run with that a lil bit - so to sum up its like#batman - god of justice and human connections#wonder woman - goddess of truth and human potential#superman - god of hope and humanity's future#but obvs they're not Actual Gods (except diana who was for a couple years) y'know what i mean#idk im yappin anyway. have these freaking guys dude i love how they came out
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Day 278 | id in alt
At least one of the students is a horrid menace to both curses and curse users. I was beginning to lose hope.
#dailykugisaki#jjk#kugisaki nobara#i imagine she straight up sometimes seeks out random curse users to throw hands with#she's probably still pissed about letting her guard down that one time#now its everyones issue that Kugisaki is ticked the fuck off#cant point fingers if you just think a curse got to em because of how horrifying one user can mutilate sumn#Kugisaki Nobara im fucking looking at you girl#yeah theres also mahito so it just kinda y'know but all curses have the capability to make something look heinous#people really dont like remember that normal ass people can die easily to random curses#they'd rather yap about yaoi and or gojo and its honestly irritating now#ALSO like special grade idiot with the curse let out an entire stampede of curses from kenjaku's corpse out so like THANKS#theres other shit happening other than the damn fight and im actually low-key tired of people not noticing it like#what happened with the soldiers#the even more rampant curses uhhh#the fact theres like a large handful of civiliants or whatever yknow whatever whatever#gege show me the shit you bumbling fool
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Okay Here Is The Problem: everything costs money and yet money is something that i just literally never have. solution? kill the idea of money so that nothing costs anything Please. i'm so tired
#despite making more money w/ my commissions than ever before this year#i am still. not able to save up literally even one (1) single penny of it bc of bills#i have to make like 600 every month just to break even at like 5 dollars in my acct#please i am so fucking tired#i want to get myself things and do shit#i want to buy things for archie and jack's dog and for the house so that things are better for all of us#i want to be able to afford snacks more than once every three months like if i maybe want a bag of chips#instead of saving up for three months and going 'yeah okay 5 dollars for a normal sized bag of chips is finally worth it' ?????????????????#why the fuck are chips so expensive that is potatoes and spices and like all of it is automated hello?? what are we fucking paying for?????#ANYWAYS.#i am just fucking. Tired#due to recent events I was like#'okay how much are dog treadmills.... oh. i see. i will never be able to afford that even after three years saving. got it'#there are five hundred fundraisers on my dash (BARELY hyperbole) every single day and everybody needs help#so i COMPLETELY get people not having a ton of disposable funds this isn't me complaining about that i'm just.#i wish that i sometimes had money so that i could MAYBE save anything up or y'know. have ANYTHING to show for it#bc right now i am working full time at this job (commission/freelance artist and adopt maker etc) and making like maybe 4 dollars an hour#which is great bc when i started i was only getting about $0.11 an hour but like. that's still not. Good. For all the time i put into it#but due to circumstances and situations this is about all i'm physically and mentally able to do here and i LIKE doing commission but it's#not really. getting me anywhere and i just want to afford things finally.#i'm 27 and everything i own fits in one room and almost all of it was gifted to me for free bc i couldn't afford to get it on my own#delete later i'm just so tired man
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too many fics about human saliva being mildly corrosive to Irkens and not nearly enough about human blood being mildly corrosive to Irkens
not that I'm inherently opposed to the former, though I am generally inclined to think that most human bodily fluids would lack the pollutants that are so caustic to Irkens in the first place. however, given how Irken skin reacts to at least some types of meat, blood seems like one of the marginally more likely contenders, and more to the point, an unstoppable death machine burning itself alive in pursuit of the kill is an extremely sexy mental image and I believe in indulging the id
#invader zim#iz posting#natterings#normal kinks for normal people#something about the exact balance between brutal massacre and personal suffering... yes#note I don't want it to be DEBILITATINGLY caustic#this is an important distinction because elsewise how are they supposed to effortlessly reduce crowds to so much fleshy pulp#the fact that their skin is ever so slightly smoking really only adds to the intimidation factor#anyway Zim particularly would hate having human blood on him regardless#squeamish germaphobe that he is#that shits DIRTY you don't know where it's BEEN#I tend to think that both Irkens in general and Zim especially trend towards removed forms of violence#lasers guns giant mechs and the like#and failing all else that can still kill at a decent range with their pak legs#so it can be a very fun point of characterization to depict situations in which Zim DOES willingly get his hands dirty#whether that's committing uncharacteristically animalistic murder or caring enough to keep someone from bleeding out#or y'know being put in a situation so desperate he really has no other choice#thats also enjoyable
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I am no longer consumed by bloodlust!
#miss galen speaks#i wish i was joking. that shit was painful and scary as fuck#homicidal ideation is no fucking joke huh#and y'know what the recommended solution for it is????#institutionalization or calling the police! great! 🙃🙃🙃🙃🙃#cause that's gonna be SO fucking helpful to an abuse victim whose psychosis/ptsd has been triggered#anyways you lot are welcome to reblog this and be silly about it on one condition:#you need to understand how absolutely fucked it is that our only solutions available were institutionalization and law enforcement#you need to understand that that is the last thing we needed when we were struggling#you need to come away from this with the realization that fear is weaponized against all sorts of marginalized people#and it is leveraged to justify oppression and human rights violations#and all someone has to do to point the finger at you is to shake a little bit and say they are afraid of you#and then the cage will come down on you too no matter how respectable you think you are#no matter how sane you think you are#no matter how harmless you think you are#the accusations of your potential for harm will be held as truths and used against you#and until we create a society in which we give 'scary' people the same rights as everybody else#nobody is safe from this happening to them#and if any of you clown on this post i WILL turn reblogs off
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Weisshaupt mission definitively proving that da is at its sexiest when it's wardens and yet here I am feeling an unbearable amount of salt because we walk through a FUCKING WARDEN LIBRARY and they could've put in a fucking NOTE about the HERO OF FUCKING FERELDEN IN THERE. SO GLAD THE FUCKING JOINING CHALICE WAS RECOVERED FROM FUCKING OSTAGAR THOUGH.
#tbd#fae plays datv#datv spoilers#i just#this is everything treviso vs minrathous should've been#bc fuck me that shit was over so fast lmao#enjoying the fuck out of this rn? yes I am#but i refuse to stop being prickly because those little nods to your world state DO contribute#replayed da2 before this game came out it genuinely lovely to have chars talk about how my couscous married anora#or the architect being around getting acknowledged#and there are so many tiny tiny opportunities in this fucking game#where chars will mention someone like leliana#and just one extra fucking line if she's divine now -- like harding saying so when she talks about her#or cassandra 'this lady who did some stuff' getting a different description depending#a note in minrathous about how the chantry's divine is a fucking mage#i'm gonna be honest a world state where even just a handful of variables were acknowledged is all we needed#and it would've made a difference imo#and i hate these writers for bringing back chars like morrigan and isabela and not doing that#like you make the world smaller in so many lorefucking ways but you don't want to add a thing or two that adds to the experience of people#who did play and love all three games before this one lol#john epler: we don't want to add one sentences is but two sentence fragments of the most generic thing we could do is fine#the fucking joining chalice!!!#you know what should've been here a fucking book with wardens who have slain archdemons#since you're on your way to fucking kill an archdemon#but that's too much work#davrin talking about how he wants his portrait up there and i'm like oh so they do acknowledge wardens who kill archdemons just not#y'know the one you played that did
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jjk is about a lot of things but most of all with regard to Shoko Satoru and Suguru it's about how if you don't interact with people who aren't in your weird fucked up school with like 10 ppl total on a regular basis you WILL become an incredibly interesting adult in a way that makes people pity you
#JJK#Jujutsu Kaisen#Like obv the post is jokey but genuinely I feel like ppl don't talk about the intense isolation that goes on#Shoko Nanami Suguru and Satoru like regularly interact w 4 ppl (the others + Haibara) and like... Man. When you lose 25% of your social lif#And you can barely. Talk to the other 75% because they're equally but differently affected. Shits going to do some Interesting Things to u#Also it might be part of ''op grew up with very little social interaction not for any one specific reason but in general#Doesn't naturally form friendships/bonds even when surrounded by ppl'' but only having like 1 or two close friends#(and like. Satoru calls Suguru his only friend. He definitely likes Shoko and Nanami but obviously there's a distance there)#Will do some Very Interesting Things To You. Anyway Satoru and Suguru were both pretty heavily implied to be very socially isolated#As children (bc of being ''the strongest''/able to see curses but also autism. They're autistic) and then ended up having a wildly#Codependent relationship that ended up ruining them both bc they didn't know how to start fixing things#Because they were the only ppl they really knew so. I'm going to be honest I think at some points they straight up loathed each other#Suguru bc Satoru ''left him behind'' Satoru bc Suguru ''didnt catch up'' and like. They had fucking no one to talk to#like 1. Shoko and Nanami are Also Kids and Know Both Of Them Well so trying to go to them would be. Wild#2. The adults in their life... There's only so much Yaga can do as one man. And I also think he's Struggling#3. They straight up don't know how to talk to people. They just don't.#Anyways they hated each other because they loved each other and I'm not saying talking to other ppl would've fixed this but#I think it could've changed A Lot y'know. Eh maybe my point would be stronger if Yuuji Megumi n Nobara#Like. Had better fleshed out social lives (showing why they're less fucking. Deranged) bc there's clearly Elements but not really much#Concrete stuff to point to. Yuuji kinda just forgets his old classmates. Sad! Megumi had His Sister and that was........ And Nobara didn't#Get her shit resolved. So. Yaaaay
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okay i think enough time has passed that i can joke about it
Jason: Your methods are ineffective. If you don't permanently stop criminals they will just continue to hurt people. Bruce: *finds a permanent way to stop people from being violent and uses it on Jason, a dangerous criminal* Jason:
#does dc think the no kill rule is solely about killing and not tied to the ideal of rehibilitation?#like he could have wallowed away but he chose to protect people#because he believes his city can get better#he believes clayface and harvey and selena and harley can get better#he gave dick and jason direction as robin because he saw their talent and potential#he sees what gotham could be and he fights for it#why even bother keeping arkham around if you're just gonna steal away a person chance to get better#espically a person like jason#someone who grew up in a bad home and on the streets and as robin and withe the League#that man's been fighting his whole life because the only other option was to die#you're not just declawing a cat you're not just stealing a person's antonmy you're stealing the defenses of a person with C-PTSD#not to mention that he's using the tools of his most distrubing villians#ivy and pyg and scarecrow and joker alter your brain and chemistry to make you act in the ways they want#and how is that any different from what you've done? how can you be sanctimonious now?#“oh but its evil did” that's ablest nonsense and i don't give a shit#im not asking for wfa fluff i just want consistancy y'know?#leo says shit#jason todd#batman#gotham war#bones' bitching hours
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atp i will straight up block people who villainize trapper for leaving like way to show how little you understand what the show is about
#THE WHOLE POINT IS HOW BAD THEY ALL DON'T WANT TO BE THERE#the note thing gets overblown but at least that's a Reason to be mad#but the number of people i've seen who straight up seem to believe the problem is that he left at all#as if there wasn't A WHOLE FUCKING EPISODE ABOUT HOW THRILLED HAWKEYE WAS WHEN HE THOUGHT TRAPPER WOULD GET TO GO HOME#also. put your doylist hats on for a moment please wayne left the show between seasons there was only so much they could do with him#it's so obvious that these people are primarily b//jhawk shippers that don't actually give a shit about the first three seasons#and to them trapper only exists so bj can swoop in to replace him#sorry i give more weight to the way he's actually characterized while he's. y'know. on screen#obligatory there's no Wrong Way to enjoy a show you don't have to love him or the early seasons#but 'fuck trapper for going home' is a SHOCKINGLY common take and it drives me batty#at least hate him for the right reasons#i think this sort of goes hand in hand with the woobification of hawkeye but that's a whole other can of worms#mash#my posts
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The obsession with "natural = good" isn't truly rooted in what is "natural" but is rooted in complex politics based on what is deemed "natural" by others - those in power. The whole "natural is pure, is right, is morally just" has not historically applied to the marginalized because of our supposed proximity to the "unnatural." Our bodies, our behaviour, our lives and souls will continuously be defined as "unnatural" so long as "natural" remains seen as pure and godly, so long as "natural" is equal to power.
#politics#genuinely don't know what to tag this as lol#definitely have talked about this before but. shit like this continues to affect me and others y'know?#and this especially affects me on a trans scale - where trans can never be defined as 'natural' so long as natural means cis (and het too)#natural/human nature politics also has strong roots in christianity too but i don't think that aspect is *necessary*#but it does affect how people are defined if they are in a culture which values christianity i've noticed#shit that's part of the reason my medical transition was delayed and threatened because it was 'unnatural' and a 'privilege' i must 'earn'
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Sorry ur dads a loser asshole :(
Parents treat your children with human decency challenge.
Fucking literally. He makes it hard to love him. He wonders why I don't like hanging out with him alone but he can flip so fucking quickly from being okay to be an ass so I never know what to fucking expect from him
My mom literally told me he was in a good mood today but nope. That must have been short lived, and when he's in a bad mood he makes it everyone's problem 🙄
#king answers#cuz like#OBVIOUSLY he's allowed to be in a bad mood#it happens to everyone. people have feelings and yadda yadda#but it's the fact that he CAN'T BE FUCKING NICE TO PEOPLE#he's always an ass to everyone (in the family) when he's in a pissy mood#and I can't fucking deal with it#not to mention even when he's in a ''good'' mood he can still get angry and scream and swear and then be back to ''normal''#and then he also has a fucking habit of ''borrowing'' money#y'know. ''borrowing'' as in taking without asking and then saying he'll pay it back later#which he DOES but it's still the fucking lack of respect of GOING THROUGH MY SHIT AND TAKING MY DAMN MONEY#god I could fucking rant about my dad all day#I really REALLY want to love him cuz he's not an asshole all the time#but it's just so fucking hard to#if I could get the fuck away from him then I don't know how often I would keep contact if I'm being honest#but whatever#hey if you got this far in my tags then we got two kittens today#so today is supposed to be a good day#but nah he likes being an asshole#and then pretending it never happened
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new blood • proper wee reference for pepper !! work clothes/makeup + casual chilling out look ᓚᘏᗢ
#they're full of so much spite and anger I love them#oc: pepper saviano#vtm#vampire the masquerade#tremere#guy who was turned at 19 and gets irate with people who wince at their age like bestie I think we're past morality we're dead#they're a former hunter who's now a lil bit of a tremere pet project :] how well can we brainwash someone who used to hate vampires#amyways big part of the heavy makeup with their work outfit is to make em look a little older put people more at ease y'know#like ''man I was abducted and held captive for a year before my turning can you shut the fuck up about how I'm So Young.''#''that shit would have been Mega illegal even if I was old enough to drink. you're so annoying''#a former inquisitive creed hunter does make a pretty good tremere thoughh :3
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Watching Mavis contemplate the idea of herself possibly being on the path to becoming an alcoholic is strangely cathartic after how she treated me for being an alcoholic. I'd say I wouldn't wish the shit I've gone through on my worst enemy, and that's mostly true. I wouldn't wish the shit I've gone through in full on my worst enemy.
So I hope her recovery goes quick. But I also hope it sucks. I hope she gets withdrawals that she recovers from, but I hope she suffers the fevers and the chills and the cramps and the cravings and the agony. I hope she learns a lesson in how she enables and encourages the way society treats the struggling, the less fortunate, the downtrodden, the traumatised, the addicted.
I hope she learns something from this and never speculates or utters another fucking word about anyone else's coping habits or addictions. I hope she learns to stay in her fucking lane and not judge people for the methods they use to cope.
I hope she comes away with the knowledge of what her own medicine tastes like, and I hope it's bitter.
#mavisposting#tacking on that you wouldn't be having cravings for alcohol after only one drink the day before so she's defo lying for sympathy points#so y'know. as always. manipulative#i do genuinely hope she gets better if she is falling into addiction tho (which she's not because she's a liar)#but i also hope it sucks the whole fucking time she's getting better (which she won't because she's a liar)#i hope her withdrawals are short but also the worst thing that's ever happened to her#even if it's just one day of withdrawals. i hope she gets all the shit i coped with for weeks when i went cold turkey#i hope she learns how fucking hard it is and she never says another cruel word to or about addicts of any sort#i don't care if i sound cruel atp. it's 12am. i'm sleepy. i'm tired of the world's cruelty#and i'm especially tired of her woe-is-me manipulative lying bullshit#the utter fucking audacity she has to lie about this shit after everything she said about my alcoholism and drug use#she can get fucked royally actually. fuck her. i don't care. genuinely one of the worst people i've ever met and that's saying something
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My brother pisses me the fuck off
#see it sucks because he's a nice kid#like he's a genuinely cool dude#but I don't think he realizes he's god's fucking specialest little boy#like the thing is that he's just fucking SHOWERED in opportunity all the time everywhere he goes#like there have been several times where we're just out on a walk and people have literally just WALKED UP to him and offered him a job#even a store that I'd applied to not even a full week before when we went in the owner asked him if he wanted to work there#this boy found a band and was playing gigs within a month of first picking up an instrument#I don't know how the fuck he does it#especially since I spent three years scouring the town for other musicians to play with and never once found enough#but the thing that sucks shit is that I don't think he understands that he's some weird supernatural anomaly#and like#the world doesn't fucking just shower everybody in career opportunities and money like it does for him#so every time he talks about us he's got this tone of condescension#like he thinks we're all lazy and incompetent#since we didn't take the job some random fucking guy on the street must have offered us sometime#and I have no idea how to explain to him that he's fucking blessed by the gods of capitalism#that he's Mr. Monopoly's fucking mary sue oc#that life doesn't fucking work like that for normal people#and he's also as mentioned prior really chill and nice so it's even harder#Boy's got capybara energy I don't want to fuck his day up#y'know?#pun's text posts
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