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lecinea · 1 year ago

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Listen, both Yu Ziyuan and Jiang Fengmian were shitty parents that fucked their kids (& wwx) up in various different ways. But I will forever be more sympathetic to a frustrated woman in a patriarchal society stuck in a toxic marriage than to the man who has power and authority to change something but refuses to do it because he doesn't like conflict and pretends like nothing is wrong.

#also i am convinced that yzy was pressured into marrying jfm by her family #because even before wwx was there she had people call her madam yu instead of madam jiang which is the title she is entitled to #and frequently went on nighthunts to get away from her life in lotus pier #yu ziyuan #jiang fengmian #mdzs #let me be very clear though yzy still took her valid frustrations out on a child which is fucked up and wrong #what she did was abuse #but i get why she was angry #i do not get why jfm was so crappy to his children and honestly incredibly unfair to wwx #i might eleborate further with textual evidence if someone's interested

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pynkhues · 1 month ago

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first of all, thank you so much for sharing your take on the rebecca/iwtv parallel. rebecca is one of my fave books growing up and the metas i've seen so far have always rubbed me the wrong way. and i totally agree that there's a strong tendency in the fandom to water down the loustat dynamic into a gender binary (as evidenced by that anon with the accusatory tone even tho they explicitly headlined their msg as a race issue lol). anyway, i mainly wanted to say that I love your take on the agency vs autonomy question, bc i've always thought that one of the biggest and perhaps most controversial adaptive changes in the show, lestat dropping louis in s1, was precisely hannah/rolin's attempt to address lestat's lack of autonomy in the books, which to me was a brilliant move. but it also led some of the lestat-critical (or straight-up hating tbh) part of the audience to accuse the s2 writing of 'defanging' him, aka having things happen to him and being powerless to fight back, which, as you perfectly summarized, is exactly what happened in the books. and i think it can easily be read as one of the weaknesses of anne's storytelling (i did when I first read the books years ago). and for me, the drop (and lestat's subsequent guilt) reinjected some autonomy into lestat's arc, and was also very onbrand of him to commit such a horrific act stemming from rage, heartbreak, (and fundamentally) love that will forever impact his dynamic with louis. so i'm very happy with how the writers have balanced this issue so far, and very excited to see what they'll do in s3, and of course would always love to hear more of your thoughts on it.

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You're very welcome, and thank you! Really interesting that you read Lestat dropping Louis as reinjecting some autonomy into Lestat's arc! I hadn't thought of it that way, but I think you could be right particularly now with the shifting context of their fight and the violence that preceded Lestat's act of brutality.

It's been interesting re-reading TVL lately and getting to the scene where Lestat badly beats Armand after getting triggered with memories of Magnus after Armand forcibly drinks from him. It made me wonder how much that scene informed the way Rolin and Hannah wrote the drop? It's of course not the same - Armand and Lestat have a very different power dynamic, especially at that point, to Lestat and Louis - but I wonder if it was also a way to both depict Lestat's very masculine and powerful temper, but also his knee jerk trigger point as a traumatised character? Both are so central to TVL and QOTD in particular, so to depict that in an intimate relationship early on in hte series' run is interesting to think about!

#i've been reading lundy bancroft's 'why does he do that? inside the minds of angry and controlling men' lately as research #both in trying to help my sister navigate the one in her life and for a few projects i'm working on #and one of the things i found suuuper interesting is that he says men who experienced family violence as children are often more likely #to be violent against other men than they are women #like through bar fights or sports fights etc #and i haven't gotten to his chapter yet on same sex couples but he's alluded to that as being a factor there for gay men #so i'm very curious to read that #not excusing lestat obviously or the drop #but digging into the complexity of all of that both on a narrative thematic level and on a real psychological level #is just - - yes #interesting to me #to use a work i am overusing at the moment hahaha #lestat asks #iwtv asks #people are complicated!#i love that the show embraces that even when it's ugly!

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solis-angelus · 9 months ago

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a poem I wrote after seeing this post and many others on here.

Her name was Sidra Hassouna, and she was killed among the thousands of other people in Palestine. Never forgive never forget.

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bunnihearted · 5 months ago

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#why have parents started treating the library as a playing ground....#like every single time i go to the library #there are tons of parents with their kids and they just allow their children to run around and play and scream #..... umm why cant u just go to a playground first and then go to the library so your kids are quiet????#and the parents never do anything... just bc they've pushed out smth and contributed to the overpopulation..#they think they're the fkn shit and that they get to do whatever they want....#parents are such disrespectful and inconsiderate people #other ppl exist????#and especially at a library... it is supposed to be quiet and calm in here #if u can respect that then dont fkn come here #if u cant** im so mad i cant even type broooo like what the fuck!!! theyre so disrespectful #like for real children run around and scream everyyyyyywhere #take your kids outside to scream #at least let libraries be quiet #it is so cruel that parents have decided to even ruin the ONLY place that have always been quiet #genuinely cant even think bc this dumb broad with like 4 kids are screaming constantly #it's like parents WANT to annoy everyone around them just to show how much power they have #bc if i go over there and politely ask them to keep it down #she will start whailing abt how awful i am and how children are naturally lou #loud****#gosh it makes me so angry bc the library is NEVER calm #bc there is always so many fucking kids running around screaming #GO TO A PLAYGROUND !!!! why are parents parents like they're such fkn worthless humanbeings istg

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sysig · 8 months ago

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The most cherubic little golden-haired baby boy (Patreon)

#Doodles #SCII #Helix #Max Vyer #I am already so weak to Max why do I do this to myself #He's so cute!! Ah!!#Tiny child who deserves the world <3 <3 I love him #He Must have been the absolute cutest kid spoiling him is just - it's the Correct Choice! What other choice is there!!#If he's androgynous as an adult he definitely would've been mistaken for a girl as a kid tho lol #I feel like he'd look a lot like baby!Liquid Snake and I've always loved how soft and fluffy he looks in Les Enfants hehe <3 <3 #Perfectly downy towhead what a delicate child! And then he opens his mouth lol #Loud and brash and impulsive and opinionated ♪#And definitely not me continuing to project I just look okay-#Maybe just a little lol #I have my own childhood hair-related experiences that if I happen to give them away it's fine lol #I love his vanity <3 #Stubbornly rooted in childhood indignation! I just think it's a charming idea haha #Unbiased of course ahem lol #Can you tell I like children of rich parents being talked down to and getting mad about it lol - this felt so Kaylie Ann while I was drawing #A bit younger and less manipulative but just as angry! Max a bit more honest hehe <3 #Maybe if he was dressed in more masculine kid's clothes lol that collar suits his adorability but ♪#Baby Max in a tiny tux ;; The cutest party clothes!#Plus the idea of Max and Dex wearing matching suits <3 <3 More clothes! More cuteness! Get it all in under the line hehehe

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goldkirk · 8 months ago

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#I am struggling so hard to pinpoint where the lines are in discussions of situations like the franke and hildebrandt behaviors #because like ok #people keep being so outraged and angry and baffled that they viewed the kids as #deliberately willful and disobedient #and then transitioned into believing them to be infected with evil and or influenced or possessed by demons or under satanic influence #and that’s where everyone is like HOW COULD THEY THINK THIS HOW COULD THEY TELL THEM THAT HOW COULD THEY ETC ETC #and that’s where everyone loses me #like yeah. of course it’s wrong. of course it’s damaging and shitty. but like. what in the world is everyone so shocked and upset by #about that concept (not the physical abuse it caused obviously)#how are you shocked. how are you shocked? it’s just the logical conclusion of believing children have disobedient evil wills #like if you assume evil you’re only going to escalate from there. OBVIOUSLY #I don’t understand how it’s different #where do things cross these lines? no one explains that to me #normal life as usual while tons of kids including me spend years or decades believing we’re evil and under stubborn satanic influence #but in one of the rare situations where it rises to public awareness suddenly everyone is shitting bricks over it #I want those kids drowned in love forever and I wish it never happened to them and their situation #was definitely so so so extreme and severe and I am so glad R was so brave and desperate and got them out #but like. how is everyone so shocked #this is standard. this is common. there’s a huge subculture of people doing and believing this shit #like why is it different just because this case is so visible #so like how is it so hard for people to grasp that this is a widespread issue #I don’t understand #of COURSE it’s wrong to do to someone but like #so many parents and adults do so many of the things these two did just less #fewer hours. less intensely. not in a desert. not with handcuffs and shit. etc.#where’s the line legally? where’s the line culturally?#like how am I supposed to grasp that it’s not a problem until it’s at some level that #I know it’s all Bad but I mean in terms of when the populace starts to mass-care

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xxxemilyg1996 · 2 months ago

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"Ah man, my dad's dead" me, just now remembering that my father is in fact, actually dead and has been for almost 3 years

#i was thinking about his family and talking to them about him and it just hit me that hes gone #that i don't get to talk to him ever again #that he won't get to watch my little brother get married next year. or even meet his fiancée #he won't meet my children that i want to have #he missed his first great nephew being born #he missed meeting my first boyfriend. and my first heartbreak when i found out he was married and lied to me the whole time #he's the reason i had a mental breakdown and can no longer leave my house without having a panic attack #his genetics are why i have such deep depressions and go days at a time without sleeping because I'm manic #from my height to my gray hair to the shape of my face are all his #the autism and the bipolar disorder and even the pcos and insulin resistance. all from him #that my siblings and i are closer than anyone else and would do anything for each other is because he taught us to be #that i never got my college degree and now live in abject poverty are also partially his fault #since he died I've been angry and bitter about him. but also full of grief and i want nothing more than to see him again #i still don't know how to live with him gone. my world shattered and fell apart the day he died. what am i supposed to do?#how to i go on without him? how do i deal with his sisters without him. how do i deal with my mother without him? how?#this got a lot sadder than i anticipated it was supposed to be a funny post and the grief overtook me #i started crying and im laying down so now there are tears in my ears and i can't hear #fuck #dead dad club

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bugwolfsstuff · 2 months ago

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See I would love to talk about my religious issues (still not sure if it's trauma) but i fear that if I say it out loud i'm gonna burst into tears

#Religious trauma #wolffox speaks #I'm pagan now and it's been 4? years since my classmate killed himself #It shouldnt hurt anymore I dont believe in that god anymore why am I so angry?#At least Ares protects his children.#He wouldn't ignore 12 year old me when i prayed and begged crying to save one of my classmates when they attempted #He wouldnt sacrifice his children and he doesnt claim to be a loving god either. He is what he said he is #personal vent #delete later #tw christianity

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hauntingblue · 3 months ago

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The episodes at the baratie are good if you ignore the big fucking elephant in the room that is sanji. Which is you know not a thing that can be easily ignored

#and everything is so in your face have we tried subtetly #those boots are ugly af zoro.... not a boot transition....#sanji made riceballs............ there is zosan even before they talk to each other.... it is real to me......#there is zosan everywhere for those with the eyes to see it #the waddy itchy monkey #luffy spirialing ajdhajshssjj my boy.....#their meeting is so ass.......the oregano callback....#they need to get okay with hitting children sometimes or we arent making it to wano #zeff lost his spice double belt in the storm :(((#you know they could have gotten away with it if sanji just witnessed zoros fight... like that is the whole point.... zosan moment missing #critical one even #luffy listening to a backstory OOC!!!!!!#koby telling garp luffy will always be a pirate.... where is his fist of love #nami saying she always ends up hurting the people close to her.... that is NOT it #sanji didnt need to take off his shirt for that....#no soft measures we will capture them. what was the plan before lmao #theyve got brunch at the baratie so modern #this was funny at least. I AM LEAVING WITH LUFFY. SURE YOU HAVE MY PERMISSION. and they are both still angry #well you know luffy abandonment issues in here are done early and big #also where is carne #talking tag #watching opla #like sanji leaves put of spite... is that it...#literally sanji and zeff watching zoro fight and making two comments would have fixed it.... bc sanji would understand there why zeff #wants him gone.... without zeff explaining it

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kenobster · 2 years ago

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I agree that Anakin is, at the very least, a little fucked up... but I do not agree that he feels no remorse. Dude murders an entire village but he can't even say "I slaughtered them like animals!!!!" without sobbing like a baby about it lmao

#just in case anyone worries that im using his quivering lip as justification for the murder of women and children #i should say that:#yes :) :) :) that is exactly what im doing #i am 100% unequivocably saying that crying makes it all A-Okay #anakin never did anything wrong in his entire life #:)#ty for coming to my ted talk #(for real though hate him or love him but please for the love of all that is good and holy #pleeease dont make him boring)#(i like reading fun obiwan fics in which maybe the villains and side characters dont feel like angry author notes being scribbled in)#god this brat is like a solid fourth place on the faves list why do i devote so much time and headspace to him #on a final note: please please please dont make me turn off comments or delete this later #maybe thats too much to hope for but i beg lol #pro anakin #kb post

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lith-myathar · 6 months ago

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#i joke about it and all but like. i cannot emphasize enough what an impact it had on me to be uhhhhhb #micro-institutionalized in the way that i was for the first 14 years if my life #and i am honestly going to count the time i soent in ''elementary'' school bc it wasn't a normal school. it was a charter school #that began as a parent organized alternative and swiftly devolved into an authoritarian nightmare #a bunch of people who were simply not ready to educate children let alone ''problem'' children #of which there were MANY because that school got all the kids who had been turned out of public school for behavioral issues #there were hardline rules about literally everything. normal childhood behavior was pathologized and punished and as a kid #you had no way to understand WHY #and so many of your peers were having problems because ofc those ''problem'' kids were typically severely traumatized #or were actively being abused #so even if it wasn't happening TO you you were being exposed to it in a hundred little ways every day #so i was confused and miserable all the time AND was struggling academically bc i had undiagnosed adhd #(or possibly just trauma?? i honestly neither know nor care which came first at this point)#so my mom pulled me and my brother out. him at 11 and me at 6 and said ''i'll just do it myself'' and #raised us in a way that wasn't religious but resembled evangelical or lds stuff #i couldn't watch commercial tv or listen to popular music bc my parents didn't want me exposed to what they considered inappropriate #and while i still had extracurriculars i was always the odd one out bc i had no exposure to pop culture or normal socialization #for my age group #it resulted in me always feeling alone and like i didn't belong. and since most of my social life was my parents and their friends #that was the perfect soup for adultification #i was fine with adults. put me with my peers and i was a mess #it made the transition to high school incredibly difficult but i DID make it #but that was only 4 years still in an institution. everything began to unravel once i tried to move into anything resembling ''real life''#and then my dad's suicide which was a major trauma in early adulthood which only made my mom's grip on us tighten #i did get to START life until 26. not really. and it's just been a game of catch up for the last 5 years #and im so *angry* at the unfairness of it all. at the time and experience and milestones that were taken from me. at how i blamed myself #for it for so many years and the problems i developed because of it all. dissociation and substance abuse and suicidality #the fear that still has a death grip on me #the courage required to just exist #it's *exhausting*

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fragglerockopinions · 6 months ago

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You're supposed to ask for help. If you don't ask for help you're never going to get help and you will be condemned for being useless and taking no actions to help yourself. If you ask for help. no one is going to help you. you are not allowed to wish that anyone help you or expect anyone to help you or you are a selfish piece of shit. you are not allowed to wish things were better. You're not allowed to ask for help actually because you are selfish and you didn't think about how others might feel being put in the vulnerable and intimate position of being asked for help. your friends did not consent to being asked for help or explained why you've been having problems and you should have thought about the way they felt before you forced them to read your texts asking them for help. I'm not even joking I should just kill myself because there is actually genuinely no such thing as getting better or getting help or being a good friend ?

#I swear to god I could text you assholes 'i just got stabbed can you please call an ambulance' and you would reply three days later ':/'#you fucking cunts. what is wrong with you #Didn't anyone ever teach your stupid ass how to be a good fucking friend #Stupid stupid stupid stupid #'you can't expect everyone to just drop everything and help you :/'#Look at me. look in my fucking eyes. what is wrong with you #I'm so upset I'm so desperate for any amount of anything please help me what's wrong with me #Why was I specifically built to crave what is apparently not even a thing ?? People aren't friends anymore ?? Like societally ????????#'It's so hard to wake up in the morning I wish someone could knock on my door to wake me up for finals so I don't miss them :('#'awww you want them to bring you food and do your test for you and drive you there and change your diaper too?'#i want to take a long swim in acid. why live. what is the fucking point.#I am nothing. I'm literally insane.#I think I actually genuinely have schizophrenia and none of this is real I've been engaging the delusions a lot because I have no one else #Have I for my entire life just invented friendships that didn't exist. are any of you real. am I even alive.#I'm so angry I just want to be talked to #At the bare minimum. you don't have to love me or like me or help me or care but just talk to me #I'm so angry I feel like a cuckoo chick. born a huge monster who takes and hurts and kills before it can even open its eyes #it didn't know it's a monster it just acts based on instincts.#it was not supposed to be here and it killed the innocent and actual good children in cold blood.#that's what my twin brother was in the womb. i killed him. i was a mistake and a disease and he wasn't strong enough to stop me.

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violetwolfraven · 10 months ago

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God I hate Pinterest and I really need to stop reading the comments on literally any post on there

I just saw someone straight up say they’re afraid that show fans who haven’t read the books are going to take over and dominate the fandom and they’re afraid that their memories of the books are going to get overridden by memories of the show because of new show fans, and that’s a good reason to gatekeep.

Like okay, just say you’re a party pooper and go home.

Yeah this is about Percy Jackson but I’m not gonna tag it as that cause I don’t wanna get hunted for sport

#i say this as someone who read the books repeatedly as a kid #like was full on autistic hyperfixated on these books and would read one book in 2 days #and when i finished blood of olympus i would start back over and read from the lightning thief #i’m not exaggerating when i say i think i read each book at least 12 times #these books were so very important to me and i would not be the person i am today without them #and i have zero sympathy for people who want to gatekeep the story from people who didn’t read the books #like sorry i have real problems #and what exactly do you think you’re accomplishing beyond making someone’s day a little worse?#acting like there’s some pure pristine way to experience the story? give me a break #you can love one version of this story and let other people love another version #it took me a while to see that because i was a teenager who liked being angry but that includes the movies too #do i like the movies? not really #but there are people who do and in the end i don’t gain anything by shaming them #god there are some people who treat popular book series like the fucking bible #like it’s some moral crusade they have to go on to defend them from heretics who like the wrong version of the story #grow up and let people enjoy things #*this rant is not aimed at the children saying shit like this #*y’all will grow up and hopefully be more mature about what hills are worth dying on #*this is for the grown ass adults who act like it’s their sacred duty to shit on any changes made from the books #*and if it offends you then you probably need to take a step back and look at why you feel so threatened by other people enjoying things

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queen0fm0nsterz · 2 years ago

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Incredibly tempted to write an analysis of each member of the Garuru Platoon both individually, in relation to each other, and in relation to their "counterpart" in the Keroro Platoon

#sgt frog #keroro gunso #over the years those guys have been the only ones which I have always loved consistently. it has been 10 literal years since I found out -#about their existance and I have loved them unconditionally ever since #as i got older my appreciation for them grew expontentially because I developed the ability to appreciate the fact that they are -#surprisingly complex characters in spite of their appearences on the show being so limited #even characters like say... tororo and taruru. which are the members of the platoon who are least used #and its a shame because they both are a delight #especially tororo. i am so angry that tororo never got his own episode... or an episode where he got to act solo #taruru had his little arc of going on earth by himself on a few occasions - zoruru has his whole thing with dororo ( don't get me wrong I -#still think he should have gotten more but considering his character arc it makes sense) - pururu had a whole huge arc on earth -#garuru had his random moments of dropping by casually/we have giroro to tell us about him every once in a while #all of them have these little moments. all except tororo. it makes me mad because tororo is the perfect example of how children on keron -#are exploited by the military at incredibly young ages and its very clear that this fucks them up in the long run. we have adult examples #like dororo. keroro. giroro. zoruru. list goes on. but tororo could have been a look into how a child (even one as smart as him) is -#affected by the whole thing #bc don't get me wrong tororo is a CHILD. he's not a tadpole in a tamama way where he's youthful in appearence but still implied to be a -#young adult. tororo is a straight up child. he can't be older than whatever the equivalent of fourteen is in keron years.#<- i have a reason behind why i say this but im tired rn LMAO #anyway yeah. live laugh love garuru platoon

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artemismatchalatte · 1 year ago

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So I'm signed up for this online 30's speed dating event for WLW and sapphics right?

Here's the thing: It looks like they aren't even bothering to regulate it at all because I see tons of people who aren't in their 30s and even some men are listed in the people who are signed up for the event.

What's even the point of a specific event for 30 something WLW if just anyone can join it? :/

#As a 30 year old I'm not interested in 18/19 year olds and yet a bunch of them are signed up for a event for women in their 30s???#any one who is in their 30s and wants to date teenagers is a total creep #I hope they realize that because I don't think they do #18 and 19 year olds look like children to me now #if you promise an event for women in their 30s please actually deliver it :(#If I'm using a site that's for women loving women- men shouldn't be allowed? I'm not looking for a man!#now I see why the lesbians and other sapphics get angry #I'm debating whether or not this is even worth my time because I'm not confident that it will be run well at all #so many people failed to understand the prompt or purposely don't care #they are either too young or the wrong gender- if you're not a woman in her 30s it's not for you?#If a woman is in her late 20s that's different but it was a bunch of people under 25 #dating is inherently exclusive- most people aren't attracted to everyone else???#A lot of people fail to realize you CAN be pro equality and still not want to date most other people- it IS possible #Now selfish people are going to ruin something that isn't even for them :/#I am the target audience for this event and they are making me not want to participate #I'm 30 and sapphic- questioning whether bi or lesbian but I belong there #Should I be surprised? I really don't know what to think honestly #I'm a little angry that they don't seem to care who attends because I paid for a ticket- not too much but still?#mychatter

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a-star-that-fell · 2 years ago

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love it when my brain goes “unloved! unloved! unloved!” over work stuff

#jules speaks #if you’re reading this #it’s not about you #my co gets to go home at 1:30 and im gonna be here until 6:30 AGAIN because i have 7 children’s worth of crap to haul to other rooms #work tag #it’s not even that serious why am i so angry

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