#very much people pleaser

[happi-dreams]

played a silly astronought game and eeeeee points the silly the thing the . worms?

and i made a silly oc for it cause why not under the lil cut (plus extra doodles!! wow!!)

[saccharind]

from Prokaryote Season by Leo Fox

[good-beanswrites]

Any toxic hcs for the milgram prisoners + es? pain bc we gotta know toxic things our favs do or say….

LMAO this made me laugh so much – we love when our faves suck ass 👏👏👏 I feel we’ve gotten a clear picture of how the prisoners react to people they don’t like and their reactions to negative emotions, so I tried to find toxic things they’d do when interacting with/arguing with people they actually do like lol. Some are based on specific canon details and some I’ll admit are just hcs/vibes I’ve always had about them >:3

When making friends, Haruka messes with their personal belongings. It’s never anything huge, but he’ll enter cells in secret to pocket possessions, hide things, and occasionally ruin things. He likes that the owner has to come find him to get it back, find it, or is forced to spend more time with him now that their other activity can’t be used. Even if he’s scolded for it, he takes that as a win and it doesn’t stop him from doing it again.

Yuno likes things her way, and is willing to go behind people’s backs to get it. She always gets what she wants at the end of the day. She’ll communicate well the first time, but if the answer isn’t satisfactory then she sneaks around to change the situation in secret. She employs bribery and blackmail, always giggling and saying it’s not that big of a deal so it’s difficult to accuse her seriously.

(One definition of toxic behavior is something that “creates an environment of stress, discomfort, and emotional turmoil” and that’s basically every confrontation that comes out of Fuuta’s mouth LMAO. So aside from the obvious,) he always assumes the worst of people no matter what a kind gesture it may be. He believes every compliment and favor is just an attempt at manipulating someone. He takes even the most well-intentioned statements as hidden attacks and insults, and reacts accordingly without telling the other.

Muu is very touchy, and doesn’t listen when people shy away from her. She’s constantly trying to fix people’s outfits and their hair by grabbing things, or guiding their hand to showing them the correct way to do something, or taking things she thinks people are offering to her right from their grasp. She gets really offended when people do the same to her, and explains it’s different because she knew what she was doing when she helped, and they don’t. 

Shidou always assumes he’s the smartest in the room. Though he’s not openly arrogant about it, he’ll politely ignore advice from others and steamroll conversations because he’s just so sure of his own plan. Even when apologizing or admitting to be wrong, it’s clear he thinks there was a very intelligent reason for being wrong rather than it being a messy emotional mistake. Whenever he argues, he stays calm and has this patronizing look, as if he’s talking to someone much younger and dumber than himself.

Mahiru is a busybody. She thinks she’s capable of solving other people’s problems that they 1. Don’t need her to fix, 2. Don’t want her to fix, 3. There isn’t actually a problem, she just misunderstood. She hears one person venting about another and she immediately goes to the other party to tell them and try to work things out. She believes people have unrequited feelings and goes to wild lengths to set them up together. She announces things that were confided to her in secret, thinking it will help to get it off people’s chest. 

Kazui can get into bouts of “learned helplessness” with his imagined age. He’ll assume he’s too old to get the joke/reference; it’s too much to explain to him, don’t trouble yourself; he can’t relate to your pain; you wouldn’t get his joke/reference/pain because it’s from a different time, etc. He acts like he’s doing a favor and saving people the trouble of talking to him, but it’s clear he’s just not putting in the work to relate to others and offer them a simple kind word. 

(I don’t know if a 12yo can be “toxic” per se, but) Amane is perfectly attuned to what others will respond to when she tries to argue. She may seem like she’s preaching in vain to people who won’t listen, but she definitely knows the right words/tone/framing to use to get the reaction she’s looking for while coming out of the situation looking innocent and well-behaved. Sometimes she says things knowing full well they won’t work, but if she stays calm and “oblivious” while the adult gets worked up, it’s difficult for people to blame her for any outburst.

Mikoto assumes others feel the same as him, and will charge ahead with uncomfortable plans and conversations. He doesn’t see personal questions as invasive or pushy because he assumes everyone else has a perfectly scripted normal-life response like him. He thinks everyone will eventually get used to being thrown into the social spotlight because he gets nervous sometimes but then enjoys it. He offers unsolicited advice, as well as unsolicited criticism, because he can’t imagine anyone wanting an “unstable” life like they’re living now. 

Kotoko feels above certain conversations and arguments, and will simply walk out instead of talking things out. Even when stuck in a tight room, she’ll just shut down and stay silent rather than have a tough conversation. She claims she won’t dignify the other with an answer, but it’s clear she just doesn’t want to face the discomfort of the topic. 

Es refuses to talk, in general – even neutral or good information is difficult for them to communicate. Sometimes they assume everyone else is observing the situation as closely as them (so they’re all on the same page), and sometimes they just think it’s not the others’ business (so it’s okay the other is left in the dark). They don’t talk to the prisoners about each other – even when serious issues are revealed in interrogations, Es doesn’t pass it along to get any help. They don’t speak a word when they’re making plans, so others end up doing things and making their own plans that conflict and make Es angry at their disruption. They don’t speak up about interpersonal situations – good or bad – and leave it up to the other party to bring up topics.

[therapeutic007]

🌟 The Savior Complex: When Helping Crosses the Line 🌟

Let’s talk about something many of us can relate to: the savior complex. It’s the instinct to swoop in, fix someone’s problems, and “save” them—whether they’ve asked for it or not. While helping others is a beautiful thing, there’s a fine line between support and overstepping.

What is the Savior Complex?

The savior complex isn’t about being kind—it’s about feeling a need to fix or rescue others. It can show up in relationships, friendships, or even at work. Here are some signs:

🌱 You feel responsible for someone else’s happiness or success.

🌱 You prioritize fixing others over taking care of yourself.

🌱 You feel validated or worthy when you “save the day.”

🌱 You struggle to let people solve their own problems.

Why It Happens

The savior complex often comes from a good place, like:

💛 Wanting to ease others’ pain because you care deeply.

💛 Finding purpose in being needed or helpful.

💛 Avoiding your own struggles by focusing on someone else’s.

But here’s the thing: over time, trying to “save” people can create unhealthy dynamics. It can:

Leave others feeling dependent or powerless.

Drain your energy and lead to burnout.

Prevent real, mutual connection based on equality.

What Healthy Support Looks Like

You can still support and uplift others without falling into the savior complex. Here’s how:

Listen without fixing: Sometimes, people just need a compassionate ear—not solutions.

Ask instead of assuming: ��How can I support you?” respects their autonomy.

Set boundaries: You’re not responsible for someone else’s choices or outcomes.

Focus on empowerment: Encourage others to find their own strength and solutions.

A Simple Reminder

Being a helper doesn’t mean being a savior. True connection comes from meeting people where they are—not carrying them where you think they should be. 💛

_____ Overcome Your Saviorism Now !

[sodapopcurtis-dx-asks]

This time, some disgruntled looking girl walks into the store, doesn’t even say anything and just reads the response, before scoffing right in his face and scribbling a response on some sticky note she had

Pepsi is like syrup! It’s thick and just…ugh. Bad. And you aren’t a cowboy for liking Pepsi, your a cowboy because of where you live. I’m shaming cowboys for being Pepsi lovers. Duh, get with the program.

She drops the note into the jar even though he’s right there, and before walking out again to go continue her day, she points a figure at him

And Sea Salt is good for you, maybe you should try seeing an ocean one time.

No matter how disgruntled she looked it was obvious she was amused by the whole thing.

Soda was in awe, he watches the girl walk out with an amazed look on his face. He picks up the note, glancing it over twice before looking out the window again just to watch her leave.

“Ha! Well, alrighty...” He swiveled himself in his stool, still in slight shock if anything.

Cowboy for where I live... noted. Hehehe.

Well pardon me, miss! I hadn't had a clue you'd be making your way into the station just to get your feathers ruffled over me likin' pepsi!

Ahhh, I'm just teasin'. ♡

[irenespring]

One of my (many) problems is that I've been trying to do some original writing so I have been cursed with the sudden power of Editing. So when I try to write fanfic I keep going "does the audience need more wallowing, is there too much stream of consciousness depression in this scene, should I cut it?" and in the end I have decided no, this is fanfic, I have a lot of character lore and stuff to write, and the audience will be subjected to more stream of consciousness backstory angst if I say so. The plot will come when I am done making the audience sufficiently very sad.

[vulturevanity]

I feel like SV girlies haven't seriously considered "codependent mutually obsessive JuliNemo" yet and that's a shame, really. I've seen a lot of wholesome ChampionRank (really cute but a rehash of every wholesome yuri I've ever seen, not much original content here and that's okay) and one-sided obsessive yandere!Nemona ChampionRank (REALLY do not like the villainization of Nemona's neurodivergence but eh, you can do whatever you want forever) but not as much "these two get on like a house on fire. and boy, it's dry season" ChampionRank.

Where is "battle-hungry socially starved trainwrecks who have no one but each other" JuliNemo. Where is "oh god these two exacerbate each others issues into the stratosphere and this can only end in disaster but I can't look away" JuliNemo. Where is "bringing out the worst in each other and scaring the hoes" JuliNemo. Where is "you two are perfect for each other. Never change, just never involve anyone else in any of this" JuliNemo. There's so much potential here. Toxic codependent yuri save me

[theha1rarch]

oh oh also wait can we please all take a second to be proud of my dad bc he went to his 40 year class reunion tonight & didn’t drink at all even though even around him was <3

[lookthetart]

Receiving a compliment from a man you're not attracted to while you're feeling kinda ugly must be the straw that breaks the camel's back

[dentist-brainsurgeon]

Long Vent under read more

TLDR: Tired, Lonely, unhappy with living situation

These past 2 and a half years, especially these past six months have really nailed in just how stifled and suffocated I feel, there was a point where living with my aunt and grandma felt good, I felt loved and comfortable for once, I've lived with them for 8 years of my adult life, but the older I get, the more I realized this is just another restrictive household where I have to walk on eggshells. I have to pretend to be Christian, I have to pretend to be cis and straight, have to pretend I don't have mental problems, and when I'm angry, its always chalked up to be my period, and they always treat me like a child, and its getting more and more obvious as the years go by. I don't get to go out much, in the past two years, the only times I was out of the house for days, was when I was in the hospital, and despite the pain I endured there, I felt sad to leave, and I cried when I was given the OK to go back to work, I hated going back to normal. And the other time, very recently, was when I got to hang out with my best friend for a few days, and it was great! I loved it!! But it was so short lived, it was the only time I was comfortable being myself in public. and I hated going back to normal again. I don't really get to partake in hobbies until maybe when my aunt and grandma fall asleep, and even then I'm too tired to do much of anything. My time is never considered, scheduled for my first PT session? Oh family is coming over and they're going to borrow the car, work? Oh we're going to go eat out with a friend at the Cheesecake Factory, final doctors appointment? Oh I'm getting my hair dyed, Hang out with my friend that was planned for months that I made sure they knew about? we're going on a cruise!!! and many such cases, doesn't matter if I tell them, and put it on the calendar. Sure the house they live in is pretty nice and its good to actually have AC, wifi and my own room for the first time in a long time but, I really only get to exist in my room, if I'm lucky, and they're out of town for a few days, I can finally exist in the living room and I actually don't mind cleaning and I'm able to cook! When my grandma and aunt can't criticize every little thing. I wouldn't mind living by myself, with friends, or even the small chance of having decent roommates, I want to be around people I actually like being around, I want to partake in hobbies at any hour of the day, I just want out, I want to be able to live my life

[grishaverse-chaos]

hot take because I'm in my anti canon!zoyalai era: obviously you're losing me is very kanej, BUT the bridge specifically is post-RoW zoyalai

[halloweend]

this blog is officially off hiatus as of today!!! happy spooky season everyone <3 now steve will still be main priority (esp w how much i owe there), but it’s the spooky babies season to shine! so i’ll be popping in here for sure & definitely aim to today - even if i only answer memes - i’m def gonna do some stuff! but yeah! spooky season time!!!

[applepies-and-starlight]

Ship chart: IshCliff

............before we begin I want everybody to put down their pitchforks. Especially so for my moots.

...

We good? ......ok.

This especially goes to my Ish moots please don't hunt me down-

[carlos-tk]

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[dubioushonour]

Thinking midnight thoughts.

Thinking I want to go back in time and punch both of my sisters in the face for telling me I was going to die alone at the age of 13 because I wasn't the kind of girl that boys liked.

[moonfromearth]

Apparently, Marissa feels like it's time to finally put some distance between her and Dani... Which means she needs a place to live for a while...

Well, Lou couldn't say no to that! They are good friends after all. Without Dani staying over this time there shouldn't be any arguing.

What could possibly go wrong?