#very much people pleaser

[happi-dreams]

played a silly astronought game and eeeeee points the silly the thing the . worms?

and i made a silly oc for it cause why not under the lil cut (plus extra doodles!! wow!!)

[saccharind]

from Prokaryote Season by Leo Fox

[therapeutic007]

🌟 The Savior Complex: When Helping Crosses the Line 🌟

Let’s talk about something many of us can relate to: the savior complex. It’s the instinct to swoop in, fix someone’s problems, and “save” them—whether they’ve asked for it or not. While helping others is a beautiful thing, there’s a fine line between support and overstepping.

What is the Savior Complex?

The savior complex isn’t about being kind—it’s about feeling a need to fix or rescue others. It can show up in relationships, friendships, or even at work. Here are some signs:

🌱 You feel responsible for someone else’s happiness or success.

🌱 You prioritize fixing others over taking care of yourself.

🌱 You feel validated or worthy when you “save the day.”

🌱 You struggle to let people solve their own problems.

Why It Happens

The savior complex often comes from a good place, like:

💛 Wanting to ease others’ pain because you care deeply.

💛 Finding purpose in being needed or helpful.

💛 Avoiding your own struggles by focusing on someone else’s.

But here’s the thing: over time, trying to “save” people can create unhealthy dynamics. It can:

Leave others feeling dependent or powerless.

Drain your energy and lead to burnout.

Prevent real, mutual connection based on equality.

What Healthy Support Looks Like

You can still support and uplift others without falling into the savior complex. Here’s how:

Listen without fixing: Sometimes, people just need a compassionate ear—not solutions.

Ask instead of assuming: “How can I support you?” respects their autonomy.

Set boundaries: You’re not responsible for someone else’s choices or outcomes.

Focus on empowerment: Encourage others to find their own strength and solutions.

A Simple Reminder

Being a helper doesn’t mean being a savior. True connection comes from meeting people where they are—not carrying them where you think they should be. 💛

_____ Overcome Your Saviorism Now !

[irenespring]

One of my (many) problems is that I've been trying to do some original writing so I have been cursed with the sudden power of Editing. So when I try to write fanfic I keep going "does the audience need more wallowing, is there too much stream of consciousness depression in this scene, should I cut it?" and in the end I have decided no, this is fanfic, I have a lot of character lore and stuff to write, and the audience will be subjected to more stream of consciousness backstory angst if I say so. The plot will come when I am done making the audience sufficiently very sad.

[vulturevanity]

I feel like SV girlies haven't seriously considered "codependent mutually obsessive JuliNemo" yet and that's a shame, really. I've seen a lot of wholesome ChampionRank (really cute but a rehash of every wholesome yuri I've ever seen, not much original content here and that's okay) and one-sided obsessive yandere!Nemona ChampionRank (REALLY do not like the villainization of Nemona's neurodivergence but eh, you can do whatever you want forever) but not as much "these two get on like a house on fire. and boy, it's dry season" ChampionRank.

Where is "battle-hungry socially starved trainwrecks who have no one but each other" JuliNemo. Where is "oh god these two exacerbate each others issues into the stratosphere and this can only end in disaster but I can't look away" JuliNemo. Where is "bringing out the worst in each other and scaring the hoes" JuliNemo. Where is "you two are perfect for each other. Never change, just never involve anyone else in any of this" JuliNemo. There's so much potential here. Toxic codependent yuri save me

[suffarustuffaru]

ok but im getting emo over heinkel again so im gonna talk about him again because yeah hes yet another sad character in a sea of sad characters and i love rezero for that but like he is a character consistently characterized by one loss after the other. it's a rollercoaster and its going straight fucking down and he is so miserable and absolutely alone and its both his fault and not his fault at all. but the way it starts is - its all out of his control. the more you think about the trajectory of his life the sadder it gets.

imagine you are heinkel and your parents are the sword saint and the sword demon and you come from a long line of knights and sword saints so thats almost definitely where youre headed, right? thats whats expected of you. you are nineteen years old and youre a knight in the royal guard, which was expected of you, and you have a wife and a beautiful baby boy, which was also expected of you, but at least you have so much joy and love for the latter while the former is just another chain on the astrea family line of people who are stuck to knighthood whether they like it or not. but your family is also just another chain because youre nineteen and your mother is still the sword saint and youre playing with fate here because either youre going to be the sword saint or your son will be.

your wife, the only equal you have, falls asleep one day and never wakes up. you are twenty-one years old and a single parent and then you are twenty-three years old and your son's fate is so much bigger than youll ever be. having the worlds love means that your love pales in comparison, doesnt it? everyone knows about your comatose wife because you keep searching so much for a cure that its just another thing to gossip about. every year that passes by she just continues to look the same as she did when she was awake and alive and loved you. (you dont know it yet but your son is going to reach the same age as her, because you dont find a cure for another sixteen years and you know that she wont love you anymore because who does? theres no one left because your son doesnt count.)

and everyone knows about you because of your family. because yeah, youre a good swordsman, but youre not liked by anyone in the knights. youre not a friend and youre certainly not a sword saint or sword demon. your son mind controls someone because he loves you so much that he would do anything for you and looks up to you like youre some hero, but youre just a wreck whos scrambling to keep what little you have. youre twenty-four and you lose your mom because you were too scared to go on the mission you were assigned on, because youre a coward and youre in over your head and you know, because everyone knows, that you dont measure up. you could never be prepared for this. in a long line of people who have to carry the weight of the world, you crumble easily. your mom goes on that mission and dies and your son becomes the sword saint like this was always going to happen. this is what being loved by the world means. you just killed your mom because you just couldnt suck it up and die on that mission instead. on top of that, your dad says that your five-year-old god of a son killed your mom. its just you and your son and the two of you both killed your mom but youre the worlds biggest laughing stock and your son is the up and coming hero and monster. but you still love your son. you really do.

right?

[reiketsui]

fan of the era of refusing to always be the npc. same but with "don't expect 'trauma whump and ditch' backstory content for your muse." bc it do be tiring.

[theha1rarch]

oh oh also wait can we please all take a second to be proud of my dad bc he went to his 40 year class reunion tonight & didn’t drink at all even though even around him was <3

[lookthetart]

Receiving a compliment from a man you're not attracted to while you're feeling kinda ugly must be the straw that breaks the camel's back

[dentist-brainsurgeon]

Long Vent under read more

TLDR: Tired, Lonely, unhappy with living situation

These past 2 and a half years, especially these past six months have really nailed in just how stifled and suffocated I feel, there was a point where living with my aunt and grandma felt good, I felt loved and comfortable for once, I've lived with them for 8 years of my adult life, but the older I get, the more I realized this is just another restrictive household where I have to walk on eggshells. I have to pretend to be Christian, I have to pretend to be cis and straight, have to pretend I don't have mental problems, and when I'm angry, its always chalked up to be my period, and they always treat me like a child, and its getting more and more obvious as the years go by. I don't get to go out much, in the past two years, the only times I was out of the house for days, was when I was in the hospital, and despite the pain I endured there, I felt sad to leave, and I cried when I was given the OK to go back to work, I hated going back to normal. And the other time, very recently, was when I got to hang out with my best friend for a few days, and it was great! I loved it!! But it was so short lived, it was the only time I was comfortable being myself in public. and I hated going back to normal again. I don't really get to partake in hobbies until maybe when my aunt and grandma fall asleep, and even then I'm too tired to do much of anything. My time is never considered, scheduled for my first PT session? Oh family is coming over and they're going to borrow the car, work? Oh we're going to go eat out with a friend at the Cheesecake Factory, final doctors appointment? Oh I'm getting my hair dyed, Hang out with my friend that was planned for months that I made sure they knew about? we're going on a cruise!!! and many such cases, doesn't matter if I tell them, and put it on the calendar. Sure the house they live in is pretty nice and its good to actually have AC, wifi and my own room for the first time in a long time but, I really only get to exist in my room, if I'm lucky, and they're out of town for a few days, I can finally exist in the living room and I actually don't mind cleaning and I'm able to cook! When my grandma and aunt can't criticize every little thing. I wouldn't mind living by myself, with friends, or even the small chance of having decent roommates, I want to be around people I actually like being around, I want to partake in hobbies at any hour of the day, I just want out, I want to be able to live my life

[nerdsandqueens]

Fandom is in an uproar about Epler wanting to "punch Solas in the face". But Epler and Busche discuss it no differently than fandom saying they want to punch either an "irredeemable" character in the face, or a character they love to hate. Busche seems to have a softer approach to Solas, but even she seems to view Epler's comments in good fun.

For better or worse, both of them seem to know what fandom is like by being fans themselves. I honestly think they didn't think people would react negatively to it because this is a staple of fandom behavior.

Especially in the context that Solas is supposed to come off as way more villainous than tumblr fandom takes him for.

Solas is supposed to come off as a master manipulator who is irredeemably willing to kill his friends in cold blood, judging from Epler's comments, but I think in their attempts to make him nuanced, they ended up giving him too much tragedy that overshadows his culpability. Making his narrative ultimately confusing in its tone.

[grishaverse-chaos]

hot take because I'm in my anti canon!zoyalai era: obviously you're losing me is very kanej, BUT the bridge specifically is post-RoW zoyalai

[halloweend]

this blog is officially off hiatus as of today!!! happy spooky season everyone <3 now steve will still be main priority (esp w how much i owe there), but it’s the spooky babies season to shine! so i’ll be popping in here for sure & definitely aim to today - even if i only answer memes - i’m def gonna do some stuff! but yeah! spooky season time!!!

[applepies-and-starlight]

Ship chart: IshCliff

............before we begin I want everybody to put down their pitchforks. Especially so for my moots.

...

We good? ......ok.

This especially goes to my Ish moots please don't hunt me down-

[carlos-tk]

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[dubioushonour]

Thinking midnight thoughts.

Thinking I want to go back in time and punch both of my sisters in the face for telling me I was going to die alone at the age of 13 because I wasn't the kind of girl that boys liked.