#tw misoginy

[seonghwasblr-moved]

PSA to all of the reaction video watchers! Stop giving @/TeddyGreyOnStuff on youtube a platform!

He refered to XG as a "group of vaginas" and called XG and (G)-idle "tramps" for not catering to a male audience. He is a misogynist, and refers to women as "females" (as seen in the linked twitter video)

Idk what video this is about, as I haven't watched his videos for a loooooong time, but this is not the way to go.

He is a big Stray Kids and ATEEZ fan, and compares other groups to them all the time, and uses them to put down other groups as well.

He also made Hitler jokes

This was his response to the backlash on the XG "reaction"

Don't click on any of his videos, but please go report his youtube channel!

Stop giving this man a platform. If you've only watched his reactions to your favourite boygroups, you probably didn't know about this, so I don't blame you. Now you know, so please stop supporting him. (I haven't watched the XG video, but this is what I saw on twitter!)

Also this post isn't for people to hate on reaction video watchers, skz fans or atz fans

TLDR: this man is a piece of shit

[wuwubean]

And in today’s episode of ‘I hate my communication class’ we’re doing speeches on things we’re passionate about. The girl behind me decided to do hers on makeup, a relatively normal thing to be passionate about. However, the professor went up to her and told her to change it because, and I quote, ‘it wouldn’t be relevant to the boys in the class.’ Like what??? Even ignoring the fact she was writing about how makeup was originally made for men anyways (which is how she convinced the professor to let her do it) that’s such a terrible statement I can’t wrap my head around it.

I think the real kicker is she didn’t say anything about my speech, which is about mechanical keyboards. Like, I’m 99% sure that a speech about makeup is relevant to more people than me talking about how much I hate Cherry MX Browns for five minutes.

[bunniefckhole]

pointing a gun at my head and telling me you’re tired of doing all the work to rape me so this time i should just rape myself on your cock this time i’m gonna sit on it and do the work because i’ve been an ungrateful bitch and i better milk the cum out of you or you’ll be forced to use that gun

[911nmg]

Spain.

Jonathan de Jesús, now Lorena Robaina, is a male inmate incarcerated with females. His crime?

He raped and murdered his cousin, by caving her skull in with a hammer.

[mylifeisfruk4ever]

Cassandra had not been cursed by Apollo.

Here, this is a version that hardly anyone knew: the common opinion was that Apollo, falling in love with her, offered her the gift of prophecy, and offended by her refusal, he cursed her never to be believed.

In reality, Cassandra was born with the gift of the foresight, as was her twin Helenus.

But while her brother, with a much weaker gift, was held in high esteem, she had to keep quiet. Because she was a woman, and women were never listened to.

Cassandra knew since she was five that no one would listen to her because she was missing a piece, and that they would blame a god to justify it.

Perhaps it was true that Apollo had cursed her, perhaps not. But if a person decided not to listen to someone just because of the genre, it wasn't the fault of a god, but of the human being that had chosen based on their prejudices.

[beatriceportinari]

from itachi explaining his plan to hypnotize and control sasuke to serve konoha, interesting that the same stylized naked imagery he did for those similar moments of control with orochimaru is used

[friendsofmedusa]

TRAs having a normal one in Laetitia Ky's DMs as usual.

These people are insane.

[nicholasbaudelaire]

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Okay, heartbroken or not, Nicholas was not blind to a pretty face. Still, he was a little taken aback by just how magnetic the woman's smile was. Damn Nick swore internally, and his thick brows knitted together quickly as he surveyed the woman before him. The werewolf senses Nick had spent years relying on, were lost to him now that he was back within the borders of the town, and so he had know way of smelling the species of the woman he had decided to chat to that evening. As the tall, curly haired wolf grinned at Rose, he couldn't help but miss the times when he could have easily avoided vampires by sniffing in their general direction. Now, he felt as blind, vulnerable in a way he found disconcerting. He felt.. well, he felt human.

"Ah something tells me you have an eye for pretty things" Nick assured cheekily, withdrawing his large hand from the bar before them and offering it to her. "Nice to meet you, I'm Nick. And my excuse is that I, like most men, drink beer in public to assert my fragile masculinity I suppose. We keep the little umbrellas and daiquiris safely hidden behind closed doors" He was joking of course, Nick was a big fan of beer, used to drinking it by the keg actually - another perk of being a supernatural - but it was no secret amongst friends and family that Nicholas was a closeted amateur mixologist.

The wolf lifted the beer to his lips once more, then held the bottle slightly aloft so he could flex muscles in his biceps and forearms.

"See now, I feel big and strong, it's all very basic misogynistic really" The smile on Nick's face "Really you should let me redeem myself by buying you a cocktail you might like".

There was a confidence and a swagger to Nicholas that some could definitely interpret as cockiness or arrogance. He knew he could come across as a little two dimensional in that sense. But there was so much more to the wolf, he was also a comic book geek, a total science bitch as a doctor, and an expert in putting his foot in his mouth. If you looked a little further still, Nick was also very serious about his responsibilities as a sibling, advisor to his pack, and doctor. He was often a prat, and quite often a gossip, but all in all there wasn't a bad bone in the man's body.

"Please?" Nicholas added, his bright blue eyes sweeping the beauty's face, his gaze lingering on hers.

Rose turned her head in the direction of the blond addressing her with a magnetic grin and let out a chuckle after learning what her first mistake in town was.

"To be fair, I am a horrible person when it comes to alcoholic beverages! Most of the time, I order whatever cocktail goes with my outfit or looks pretty." She admitted the truth rather playfully as she shrugged her shoulders. While alcohol maintained its inebriating influence on her, since she did not have a strong sense of taste for anything that was not blood, she mostly drank either to get comfortably tipsy, or in order to socialize with people.

Sweeping away the portion of the curtain bangs that framed her face, Rose turned in her stool to face the muscular man sitting next to him. "But I will keep it in mind. It feels like a waste to get anything else when you can try Hex on the beach! But what's your excuse?" Rose inquired, pointing at the beer he was holding and after chuckling amiably, she added, "I'm Rose, by the way."

[blogitalianissimo]

Sdoganare la figura dello psicologo è giustissimo, può aiutare a gestire il rifiuto o la rabbia. . Moltissimi colpevoli di femminicidio non sono affetti da problemi o malattie psicologiche - psichiatriche, sono lucidissimi. Un'altra cosa da non fare sarebbe quella di cercare attenuanti, giustificazioni. Giulia è morta pare la sera stessa, accoltellata. Tutti normalmente giriamo con un coltello e sacchi neri in auto.

Il delitto di onore è stato abolito negli anni 80, prendo sempre questa data ad esempio per ricordarmi quanto poco tempo è passato e quanto c'è da fare. Temo che le nostre figlie e figli non vivranno in una società cambiata dove le donne non hanno paura. Non che il fidanzato o marito sia un assassino (non che un femminicida giri con un segnale luminoso ad indicare che lo è) ma di camminare sole la sera, di uno che sembri ci guardi strano, delle micro aggressioni come la mano morta in bus o i fischi per strada.

Sono d'accordo su ogni parola che hai scritto. Posso aggiungere che molte testate giornalistiche hanno provato a sottolineare come l'assass1no fosse presumibilmente depresso e "triste", come se fosse appunto una giustificazione, ma così non è, vattene dallo psicologo e cerca di farti aiutare a superare la depressione, ma non ti permettere di fare del male ad un'altra persona e pensare che questa sia un'attenuante.

E per carità, non ho nessuna competenza per parlare, ma più vengono fuori dettagli, più sembrano le azioni di una persona che ha premeditato tutto, anche se probabilmente tenteranno di negare la premeditazione rigirando la frittata, accade sempre così, il film è lo stesso ogni volta.

Io personalmente credo che andando avanti le cose miglioreranno progressivamente, però immaginare un futuro dove una donna può sentirsi al sicuro uscendo da sola la sera è appunto veramente utopico, e di passi avanti bisogna ancora farne molti.

[depvotee]

A closer look to Transandrophobia

TL;DR: I think that it is GOOD as trans mascs to talk about our specific struggles that we face when taking, choosing and talking about masculinity and transness BUT I think there should be more nuance and careful as to how we approach the topic as not to fall into misogynistic patterns and other pitfalls. 

On one hand I understand the grievances inherited with begin a trans masculine person and having a cis woman try to enact transphobic abuse against you, especially if done behind the veil of femininity (seen as submissive) and you begin a masculine person (seen as inherently violent): Most of the transphobia I faced was exactly like that, try to use femininity as an excuse to abuse me, sometimes even as something to try and control me with, a monstrous masculine "other-me" that could only be tamed if I could try to be more, well, woman-y. I was just begin openly me: which is masculine. 

It's also important to point out that a lot of the blogs to first coined the term we're POC trans men, that was no coincidence, a lot of femininity, a white one to be more specific was used against MOC, it was a way to keep control over them as an insidiously evolved form of racism, that pointed at gender roles, instead of race. That’s why trans men of color we’re the first to point out the problem on certain spaces, we already knew the tactic, in this case a form of transphobia that was camouflaged to pass around more progressive circles but especially targeted trans men. 

Although I understand the issue transandrophia tries to point out (Which is transphobia but just directed at trans mascs specifically.) I also cannot get 100% behind the term because yes, we talk a lot about cis women doing the harm, again, due to deeply ingrained gender roles that even the oppressed now feels the need to correct to another oppressed group. I've also seen the glaring empty spot for cis men in the discussion, we already take them for granted to be transphobic, almost as if the abuse we get from women is worst due to already having it taken for granted that they we're going to ally with us. In a way its giving cis men more of a leeway, perpetuating the cycle of patriarchal control into the micro cosmos that is progressive spaces. We should hold other men accountable, god, we should, we all bark but no bite.

There is an inherent danger on this discussion which is again to fall into the same patterns of old; as masculine people thinking we are owed something from our feminine contra parts, companions, friends, family, etc. And the resentment begin solely that a debt not paid, instead of the actual harm which is transphobia.

The danger is attracting actual misogynist trans mascs to use the term as not a way to describe a particular instance of transphobia but to use it as leverage towards fems and not any fems, trans women would be the first affected by this, instead of the cis women (and by this I mean a group of them, not cis women as a whole, god no.) that want to perpetuate gender roles for their own gain. Younger trans mascs, trans men in particular, could fall into these bad faith actors, we already seen it with transmedicalism and of things created by POC that then are coined by white people for wildly different means. 

My conclusion is: The point is to break these cycles of abuse, we should talk about our issues, of course! But we also we should be on the lookout as not to recent our fem counterparts, cis, trans, in the middle, damn even more feminine leaning trans mascs. Just because of a few decided to use their gender as a way to enact harm towards you, that doesn’t mean it’s a rule of thumb: It might surprise you how trans positive some people turn out to be but also how misogynistic some trans mascs turn out to be.

It’s all about looking into ourselves and confront our own bias, to heal our own traumas, as much as that means a bruised ego to keep in check as not to grieve for a subconscious privilege that was promised but loosed from the patriarchy but for the actual harm that is done: Abuse, transphobia and denial of our basic right of begin ourselves. 

[heartshaped-lou]

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[woadge]

Transfem Rant p.1/???

It is unimaginably irritating that whenever a trans-feminine person is attempting to talk about a very specifically trans-fem experience or feeling, the conversation gets recentered onto men and masc people.

Without fail, almost every single time.

If a trans woman is talking about her experience with misogyny or transmisogyny, or her frustration with how her voice doesn't change because of her hormone regiment, or her anger that her changes won't be as noticeable because she's transfem and transitioning as an adult, she is not saying "You, specifically, the man / masc person reading this, are the problem and I hate you". If you are not a part of the problem she is describing, then don't talk over her and center the conversation on yourself and move along. If you are part of the problem, then internalize what she's saying and learn from it possibly, so that you stop being part of the problem.

Don't try to lecture me on this, I don't really care what you have to say about this topic. Trans women are treated like shit on the internet and their issues are recentered onto men as often as it happens to cis women and being queer/being trans/being an ally to trans women does not preclude you from behavior that contributes to this impression.

If you really want to preclude yourself from the problem, then examine your own behavior and the way you talk to trans women.

Do you find yourself getting far more aggressively angry with a trans woman that you disagree with than you do other groups? Do you read trans women's posts and takes with bad faith, or assume they are talking down to you? Do you jump to conclusions about the transfems you're talking to?

You might be engaging with Misogyny/Transmisogyny without even consciously realizing it. And you can improve yourself if you internalize that fact.

[asmodeis-littleplaything]

reddit is a hellsite 🤢🤮

TW/CW fatphobia, misogyny

found on r/moreplatesmoredates...it's a rabbit hole I really didn't want to go down.

What's worse is apparently this poor girl was already at the gym constantly and wore extremely loose fitting clothes to the first date with this asshole. I hope she dumps his sorry ass, she's too good for him.

[blogitalianissimo]

La questione non è dire che bisogna avere paura di tutti gli uomini, che tutti fanno schifo e tutte queste altre cagate qui, la questione è che ogni anno ci sono sempre vittime di abusi, razzismo, omofobia di tutto e di più, quindi certi commenti che non si possono minimamente biasimare non portano comunque a nessun risultato, onestamente me ne sbatto il cazzo se i soliti italiani medi dopo una tragedia fanno i moralisti mettendo il post dove si sentono schifati e buttano merda solo perché si che tanto poi tra un mese nessuno ne parlerà più e ci si rivede alla prossima tragedia, servono soluzioni e cosa più importante e metterle in pratica, servono interventi, serve un impegno collettivo per migliorare il tutto perché non si può continuare così, non si può sentire che tra qualche giorno si arrivi ad altre tragedie, un omicidio rimane un omicidio e solo per questo ci voglio condanne più dure

Bisogna prima di tutto educare al rispetto delle persone e alla vita, bisogna far crescere le persone con dei valori ad oggi inesistenti, non bisogna alimentare odio

Come l'Italia ci ha insegnato i maggiori dibattiti sono su chi semplicemente dice ma non tutti sono così, è sbagliato, bisogna fare modo di prendere una posizione vera che possa fare in modo che in futuro queste cose non accadano più

Ma del omicido (perché si, è omicido e non lo chiamerò con un'altro nome) in singola sede non me ne faccio nulla, non bisogna pensare solo a quello, ma anche a tutte le altre forme di cui non si parla e che sono prima di ammazzare, quando si parla di educazione si parla e non mi stancherò di dirlo è educarli al rispetto delle persone e della vita, quindi se le persone voglio postare frasi solo per rabbia e tra quelle cose ci sono scritte cose stupide allora non stupitevi se ci saranno persone a rispondere in modo stupido ma sappiate che non state concludendo nulla a spargere odio, e non lo dico tanto per dire perché è sempre stato così e come risultato siamo ancora qui a dire le stesse cose.

Scusami se vado subito alla fine, ma permettimi di spiegarti perché chiamiamo casi come questo femminicidi e non omicidi.

Una donna muore perché un ladro è entrato in casa sua e ha premuto il grilletto, questo è un omicidio.

Una donna muore perché l'ex fidanzato è entrato in casa sua e ha premuto il grilletto, questo è un femminicidio.

Qual è la differenza? La vittima è sempre una donna e il carnefice sempre un uomo, non è la stessa cosa? No, non lo è, quando l'uomo cova dentro di sé una mascolinità tossica che lo induce a paragonarti ad un oggetto di sua proprietà e a decidere di violarti o addirittura toglierti la vita, lì ti sta facendo una violenza di genere, ti sta assoggettando in quanto donna inferiore a lui.

E sia chiaro, questo vale anche per le altre minoranze, la matrice razzista, la matrice transfobica, omofobica ecc e mi preme specificare che varrebbe anche al contrario la violenza di genere se una donna decidesse di uccidere o violare un uomo in quanto uomo.

Ora torno all'inizio dell'ask e ti rispondo in ordine

Io non faccio parte di quelle persone che ieri hanno incoraggiato le donne ad aver paura degli uomini a prescindere e odiarli, o in generale di quelle che ci stanno sciacallando, perché non nascondo che a me stanno altamente sulle palle quei post tipo "VISTO VE LO AVEVAMO DETTO, LO SAPEVAMO T U T T E", come se si stesse aspettando la conferma per dire "gnegne avevo ragione io", cioè quello è un comportamento che trovo imbarazzante come trovo altrettanto imbarazzanti tutti i cazzo di "NOT ALL MEN" che ho letto. Ieri qualsiasi social è stato un cumulo di melma, forse l'unico salvo è proprio tumblr perché gli italiani non hanno poi così tanto spazio qua sopra.

Precisando questo, devi però essere consapevole che una donna avrà sempre paura di uscire di sera da sola, e avrà sempre un po' di timore a trovarsi da sola con un uomo, anche se quell'uomo 99,9% è una persona a posto e manco l'avrà notata quella donna, ma quel piccolo dubbio ti rimane. Ed è uno schifo, non dovremmo sentirci così, ma ti giuro che buona parte delle donne possono raccontare di aver avuto almeno una volta nella vita quel timore per colpa di uno sconosciuto e/o non.

Poi ovvio, manco a puntare il dito contro ogni uomo a casissimo, sono d'accordo su questo, ma diciamo che, almeno per come la vedo io, di fronte a queste tragedie bisognerebbe solo far silenzio, sono generalizzazioni, sbagliate sì, ma non è la giusta tempistica per dire "non siamo tutti così", anche se è vero, ma per una volta si chiede d'ingoiare il rospo e mostrare un po' di delicatezza, perché comunque questa roba viene detta solo su twitter, ma altrove dubito che una qualsiasi ragazza chiami "assass1no" ogni uomo che incontra, mentre al contrario la misoginia è all'ordine del giorno e le donne convivono con le generalizzazioni.

E sì assolutamente, sono a favore dell'educare al rispetto delle persone, ci mancherebbe altro, ma ovviamente tra dire e fare eh. Io purtroppo non ho poteri magici e da ignorante posso solo proporre soluzioni che già in mille hanno suggerito e pensato, come partire dal contesto familiare, proseguire a scuola, sdoganare la figura dello psicologo (e sia chiaro, con questo non voglio dire che ogni persona che commette atti atroci sia affetta da disturbi e malesseri, molti purtroppo sono lucidissimi).

Detto questo, a parte il commentare l'irritante "not all men", e mi dispiace ma dovete finirla, rimango impassibile su questo, non ho generalizzato sugli uomini né qui né altrove. Per il resto sono apertissima al dibattito, e che tu ci creda o no, ho apprezzato questo ask.

[medusas-daughter]

Sometimes I remember that one time in high-school when we were doing a group assignment in physics class, and I was doing everything as per usual, the shirt I was wearing was a v-cut maybe a bit low idk (big boobs tend to give me cleavage with most clothes so idk and I don't think it matters I was paying more attention to what I was doing than the shirt I was wearing silly me), and this guy in my group randomly reaches over plunges his hand into my cleavage and violently yanks on the seam of my shirt and and I freak out because one minute I'm solving equations and the next a stranger's hand is touching my boobs so I tell him to fuck off. And he goes "I don't want to look at your boobs" and I say "if they bother you so much don't look at them" and he goes "if I sit here with my dick out you'll obviously look at it" and I assure him that I absolutely do not wish to look at his dick, so this guy unzips and pulls his dick out. As soon as I heard his zipper go down, I looked back down on my equations and kept my eyes on my fucking equations because seeing a bully's dick was absolutely not on my to-do list. After a 10 minute of uncomfortable silence and being close to a panic attack, I finally hear him zip himself back up. Then he punches the table, says "go fuck yourself you little slut" and leaves the classroom. That guy went on to have an A on this project based of the work I did while he was exposing his dick.

Reason number 166283839 I'm so fucking glad I'm not in high school anymore.

Also, shit like this is like the tip of the iceberg of what women and afab people deal with on the daily. And it starts so early. And it's so exhausting.

[gnometa233]

Everytime I make a post talking about lesbaphobia in the LGBTQ community (as a bisexual mind you) it gets labeled as "petty infighting". I LITERALLY had people tell me that me saying that non lesbians shouldn't say the d slur is a "bad take" BY PEOPLE WHO WEREN'T EVEN LESBIAN!!???

It's just fucking irritating and tiring honestly

I've reblogged so many posts and made so many comments about this but it's 100% misoginy. A lot of people don't see bigotry against women as real bigotry, and many in the lgbtq+ community already see themselves as oppressed, so they dont feel like they need to overcome oppression.

I always say: people hate lesbians so much, but want to steal the lesbian label and stretch it so it includes them. Interesting.