#tw ableist term

[aspd-culture]

I’m confused by the “psychopath” thing. I see people say it’s no longer a valid thing but then I see others are tested for psychopathy and are professionally considered psychopaths (I do know it’s not a diagnosis by itself but that it’s like… some sort of add-on to the ASPD diagnosis????)

So I’m kinda confused by all that and where exactly psychopathy stands in aspd circles and medical opinion/circles as well

Hope this makes sense/isn’t rude

It's not rude, I can understand where confusion would come from.

Psychopathy is not real. It does not exist in the DSM. Any diagnostic tests labeled "psychopath tests" are using stigmatized language and, if they are actual diagnostic tests (which many are not), they just test for ASPD.

Professionals who use the term psychopath or sociopath are exactly like professionals who use the term narcissistic abuse - that is to say, they're ableist either by ignorance or by choice.

It is not a type or subtype of any disorder, nor is it it's own diagnosis. That word is essentially a media buzzword used to sell movie tickets and harm pwASPD.

I have heard that it used to be in the DSM, but I currently have not been able to find proof of it and no one ever mentions which edition so I can check that. Even if it was, it is still not there anymore for a good reason.

If I sound frustrated, it's at ableist professionals, not at you. /gen

[thatonegaybrit]

" haha that .. lowkey sounds like you're delusiona- "

; YOU HAVE JUST REVEALED TO ME YOU ARE !!! NOT NORMAL ABOUT !!!! PEOPLE WITH DELUSIONS 1!!! GET OUT OF HERE WITH THAT ABLEISM !!!!!

[steamedbuncollective]

// disordered eating TW

Can you coin a term/role for an alter who's job is to make sure the system eats/eats and it stays down? Specifically in a system with an ED? Either by doing the eating themselves, or staying in front to act as a stabilizer/encouragement? —🕰🖼 anon (claim? maybe? also no pressure to make this!)

ED SUPPRESSOR FLAG

An ED suppressor is an alter who makes sure the system is eating healthily, either by physically eating themselves or encouraging the other alters to do so.

The red, orange and yellow are all there as they stimulate the brains appetite. The lilac has a double meaning, both symbolizing ED awareness and it is placed at the bottom to show that the alter is suppressing the eating disorder.

The lilac ribbon is used as lilac ribbons are used for eating disorder awareness day.

(also, we have no issues with anons claiming sign offs! we hope you enjoy this anon.)

no credit needed to use this flag/term!

endos do not interact. make ur own flag/term.

[chaos-in-one]

Hey narcissistic abuse & sociopathic/psychopathic abuse crowds, out of curiosity if a narcissist and a sociopath are dating, whose the abuser? Or do you think it just like... cancels out or smth?

[anti-ao3]

i know fanfiction doesn't need to be completely accurate, but i think that if you decide to write about, say, a marginalized disorder like schizophrenia, and not bother to do any research about it (nor hear from actual schizophrenic ppl) is pretty shitty.

[angelfacemjj]

“Be delusional” Girlies, we can do better than that, seriously........

[kasumingo]

Not related to anything in particular, but:

suibaiting = someone baiting someone else to commit a suicide

suibaiting =/= someone expressing how much they want to kill themselves, even if you receive it/consider it manipulative

The more you know!

[likeburningcoal]

I work with older people who constantly make jokes about “being too ADD to have any distractions while working” and “oh I looked at my phone while working, I’m so ADD”. You know the kind.

Meanwhile, I, who am actively looking into diagnosis for ADHD because I’m 99% sure I have it, am listening to and singing along to FOB at 1.5x speed while writing paperwork because that is sometimes the only way to stimulate my brain enough to get it to focus on said paperwork.

[t4tdanvis]

The term delulu makes me want to bite people. I know the term delusional isn’t exclusive to just people having actual delusions with the way it’s used in (for a lack of a better word) everyday talk but like still don’t make a silly/cutesy term for it. Even when it’s not someone having actual delusions, you shouldn’t think it’s funny when like,, your friend’s boyfriend treats her like shit and is very obviously cheating and she just doesn’t want to believe that he is.

Might not be the best example but I’ve seen that specific scenario SO many times w the people using delulu.

Plus you shouldn't be mislabeling regular experiences as "delusions" because delusions are a specific thing that really harms the person experiencing them. Like that person said, "you are not "delusional" you are just in love". Watering down the word portrays delusions as some cutesy fun thing when it's 100% not. Sure, some delusions can be mostly harmless, but by definition they negatively impact the person's life. They shouldn't be treated like some silly quirky thing, and definitely shouldn't have a cutesy nickname like "delulu".

[themogaidragon]

I wanna collect every OCD gender there is, is there more OCD genders around?

OCDgenders Masterlist Part One

[TW abuse, sanism, obsessions, compulsions]

Xumgender: the state of never being satisfied with ones gender, no matter how well it fits, due to self-doubt or identity issues. This causes one to compulsively search and seek out something that fits even better though one will never because of one's neurotype and/or because words will never be able to describe one's gender and/or because one's gender is paradoxical. This inability to find a "one true gender" frequent causes anxiety and doubt and can even cause the label xumgender to feel imperfect to the individual. This term is exclusive to neurodivergent people. It was specifically coined with people with anxiety disorders, OCD, and OCPD in mind.

O-gender: a gender that is affected by one’s obsessions.

C-Gender: a neurogender heavily influenced or defined by one’s compulsions due to their OCD.

OC-gender: a gender that is affected by both one’s compulsions and obsessions.

OCDgender: a neurogender which can only be understood in the context of having OCD or when one's OCD greatly affects one's gender or how one experiences gender. It is not OCD as a gender, but is a gender that is so heavily influenced by OCD that one's OCD and one's experience of gender cannot be unlinked.

OCDniac: an identity that describes someone whose queer experience is affected by having Obsessive Compulsive Disorder.

Obsecompridix: a gender related to being proud of one’s ocd and that pride affecting how their gender feels.

Obsic: A gender related to one’s obsession.

Vexillobsic: A neurogender related to one’s obsession with vexillology.

OCDBiting: a gender influenced by ones OCD and biting an ableist.

FluttershyOCDic: a gender related to Fluttershy and having OCD.

PinkieOCDpieic: a gender related to Pinkie Pie and having OCD.

Categohoarder: a genderhoarder microlabel for people who feel like their genders MUST be in some sort of order whenever they show them off (carrd.co, pronouns.page, etc.), it could be their color scheme, themes, alphabetical order or more.

Pattordean: a gender related to putting things in order or in a pattern. This can be connected to ocd compulsions and be used as a neurogender, but it doesn't have to be.

Loudheadgender: a neurogender where the noise in your head prevents you from understanding your gender to some extent. Only to be used by people who experience brain noise/ loudness in the head. So like ADHD, racing thoughts, OCD, BPD, etc.

StarlightglimOCDic: a gender related to Starlight Glimmer and having OCD.

TrixielamoonOCDic: a gender related to Trixie Lulamoon and having OCD.

OCDcompuliac: a fluid neurogender influenced by OCD compulsions in which ones gender identity changes when they speak what gender identity they have due to an OCD compulsion, whether permanently or temporarily.

PrettyBoyObsessive: a gender relating to being a Pretty Boy with OCD and breaking the stigma surrounding OCD were ableists sees you as a (ableist) threat but you having psychological facts to ruin them and their social life is your threat and you're not afraid to stand up others with stimazed disorders like NPD, AvPD, ASPD, BPD, PPD, OCPD, [etc] for an example.

OCDLOVERBOY: a neurogender influenced by a man/boy's OCD, often see as an monster and beliefs he doesn't deserve love due to his OCD due to trauma, but has found love and feels less like a monster due to his boyfriend(s)/Partner(s) loving him regardless of his OCD, and very supportive of him and understands every subtype of OCD, even POCD and loves him anyway regardless of his OCD.

ObsessiveYandere: a term for PwOCD and being a Yandere.

Ocdvictim: A gender identity influence by having OCD and being a victim.

OBSEURiA: a gender that is the embodiment of one's obsessive compulsive disorder.

OCDfreak: a gender related to having OCD and being a freak.

OCDrage: a gender related to the anger/angry symptoms of OCD.

Utapulsix: a gender related to the compulsion/having the compulsion to find, compile, and organize information.

Utafpulsix: a gender related to the compulsion/having the compulsion to find, compile, and organize information, as well as the actions themselves.

BoyCreaturaticFreak: a gender that feels infected, misunderstood, falsely framed, often see as a creepy, worn out, tired, weak, hurt, dirty, and disgusting, freak of nature, emotionless, lack of emotional empathy, feels like needles sticked in your back and barbed wire around your throat, and held down to control the person, which is all influence by ones OCD and influenced by trauma of having ones OCD be used against them to hurt them, often seen as a freak due to their OCD and society views on OCD, which one turns into being a freak into a positive thing and embrace being different, embrace being a Freak, as an act of self-love and acceptance of one's self. Deep down this gender is kind, loving, sweet, wholesome, deserving of love and care. This gender is both masculine and agender/nothing at the same time. It is also althuman. The gender is also held together by safety pins, sawing needles, hello kitty bandaids and the gender, also carries a stuffed animal wolf or a stuffed animal black cat for comfort and someone to call a best friend.

Dianeticsobsic: a gender related to being obsessed with the belief system of Dianetics.

HidingTraumgender: a gender for when ones gender are a hiding from one’s abuser, stemming from the paranoia of ones abuser, watching the user constantly, believing one's abuser would emotionally harm the user again & again, a fearing a never ending loop of emotional and mental torture, viewing ones abuser as emotionally contaminated and is paranoid regardless of anyone due to user's trauma and the user's OCD being used a sick “justification” for the trauma the user want through.

OCDtoxic: a gender related to chemically toxic OCD, OCD disolving in toxic chemicals, and/or OCD mixing with toxic substances.

OCDBEiNG: A genderabeing subtype. A gender connected to having obsessive compulsive disorder and being that of a being ; An OCDbeing.

Unrealobsic: an O-Gender related to one's obessions being based in unreality. This could be things like obsessing over the idea that one is not real. Or that one is not perceiving reality in the way it really is.

NoempaOCDic: a gender related to having OCD and little to no empathy.

Fearobsic/Phobiaobsic: an O-Gender related to one's obsessions being based upon their fears/phobias. An example could be being thalassophobic and having obsessions about the ocean. Or fearing the dark and having obsessions about it

BoyPOCDic: a gender that is a boy dealing with P-OCD.

Countiobsic/Numeralobsic: an O-Gender related to one's compulsive counting, or number-based compulsions/obsessions.

InsomniOCDgendrix: a gender influenced by ones OCD, it feels like OCD is their whole identity and gender. It feels like all it is is controlled by one's OCD. This gender feels scary, terrifying, "wrong", anxiety inducing, exhausted, and like an insomniac.

Anxiobsic: an O-Gender related to the anxiety one's obsessions causes them.

IsolateOCDic: a gender related to having OCD and never fitting in with others, feeling left out, unwanted, and alone.

[aspd-culture]

What ASPD stereotypes do you think are the most ridiculous and untrue?

Ooooo, a fun one. In no particular order -

• That every pwASPD hates animals or is violent towards them. This is a super vicious stereotype that has made it's way all the way into the DSM. We are not super likely to hurt animals, at least no more than any other traumatized child. It does happen, yes, but many of us actually feel closest with animals because our lack of empathy and remorse and all that doesn't mean much to them. Depending on the animal, they either love you unconditionally anyway, or they tolerate you on the basis that you keep providing snacks. Plus, they don't require us to understand or care about social code. They also affect a different part of your brain than other humans your own age (more similar to how one bonds with a young child - instinct to protect and care for), so we are more likely to be capable of experiencing close bonds with them. Whilst not everyone with ASPD likes or gets along with animals, we also do not all attack them.

• That lacking remorse is what predisposes us to violence. These are entirely separate symptoms that have next to nothing to do with each other if you put them in that order. Sure, I don't feel remorse besides with Exceptions, but that's not what causes my violent urges. The people who say this are thinking from the perspective of making decisions in fear of feeling bad for things, which if you never experienced remorse in the first place, does not affect you. The people who say that without remorse we must go around violently hurting and k*lling people around us ("because what's stopping you??") are really just telling on themselves & admitting on main that they would st*b their loved ones given the chance. Super weird of them.

• (A classic) That they can pick us out in a crowd/we have a specific look in our eyes. Peak comedy is the many people who say "Don't worry, I'll let you know if you're dealing with a sociopath. They're easy to find if you know what you're looking for" directly to a pwASPD who hasn't told them. Literally my favorite thing ever that prosocials say.

• That a "true sociopath/psychopath" will never tell you they are one/that someone who is good at manipulation would never tell you they're manipulative. Well that's a funky lil trick you got there - you just gave me an easy in to abuse the crap out of you. Good thing I don't want to, but really? You don't see the flaw in saying that out loud to someone? It's also just false. Pretty funny again tho, except I hate the urge to manipulate or abuse people who say this just because I obviously easily could, so I try and steer clear or call them out for how fucking stupid that is.

Many, many more are untrue but these are the more lighthearted, ridiculous ones.

[imsosocold]

Guys if you disagree with my posts there’s no need to be ableist and use slurs, especially ones than vilify already demonized groups.

[gapbussy]

CW // DRUGS // addiction // traumatic injury discussion

I haven’t personally seen this discussion happen, but I’m sure I’m not the first person to think about it…

Wouldn’t have Johnny Joestar needed to use some kind of pain killer for his spinal injury?

Smokeable opiates were most definitely in use by then. The hypodermic needle was just recently invented as well, so medications like morphine and heroin would most likely also have been available to him.

Less of a question of “why wasn’t this in the manga??” and more of a “I respectfully wish this was a concept played around with more in fan works.”

Johnny would realistically still be suffering with some pain after healing to the point we meet him in SBR (obviously by the ending this is less relevant) so it would stand to reason he might have been looking for something to use for that.

Until Johnny met Gyro, but after his spinal trauma, where was he? What was he doing? All that time spent healing, trying to cope, trying to stay positive and hope to walk and ride horse again… only to be confined to a chair for the rest of his life.

In his deep despair, and levels of pain we simply can’t know unless we’ve personally experienced it… would Johnny have become addicted to pain killers? As was the fate of so many unfortunate victims of serious injury, as well as blue collar hard laborers in those days?

This lives rent free in my head and I need to write HCs for this but I just want to throw this out there for anybody to use as inspiration for a fic or w/e

I just want representation and validation for a chronic pain and addictive disease sufferin’ , disabled, historically accurate spoonie Johnny Joestar.

[rotshop]

can someone tell me why the new cool word to say is skitzo. can someone tell me why non schizophrenics suddenly love saying they're schizoposting. can someone tell me why there arent more bmws crashing into homes and exploding.

[anti-ao3]

i just wanted to know the definition of dog whistling and...

[ID: google search result that answers the question "What does it mean when a narcissist says dog whistling?". The following text says, "Have you heard of "dog whistling?". It's when a toxic partner sets you up in public to make you look hysterical by triggering you with a word or an issue that you both know is related to you. It seemingly is innocent and unrelated to anything, but you know that it's really actually a dig to you". It's dated from September 30th , 2022, and it's actually a TikTok. /End ID]

stuff like this makes me want to abolish tiktok /half serious

[delphientropy]

friendly reminder that narcissistic abuse isnt real, no matter what you think it means

abuse isnt categorized by mental illness or personality traits, its categorized by what type of damage it does (physical, emotional, sexual, etc.)

the term narcissistic abuse was coined by a misogynistic, ableist rape apologist who believed that all people with NPD were monsters and were inherently abusive.

stop. using. the term.

and good lord to that one system whos trying to justify it by saying that its their trauma and "part of being a system." its not called narcissistic abuse. please fucking listen to the people with the disorder.

edit: sam vaknin is the person who coined the term narcissistic abuse and apparently he created it to blame his abusive tendencies on his narcissism (which im honestly not sure he even has). below is a post that details more into who he is and all of the disgusting shit hes done and claimed, do please read into it