#trigger tagging

[catgirl-catboy]

Okay, just imagine triggers and squicks like allergies.

There should always be a peanut free table (a place where you can avoid content that squicks you.) but if you expect a large group of people to make everything peanut free people will get annoyed with you quite fast.

If you have an allergy, its on you to be proactive about it. (assuming you are above the age of 5, which you should be to be involved in fandom.) Its on you to check food products for your allergy, and to carry an epi pen (good coping mechanisms) around with you if needed.

If you're hosting a party with friends (making a small discord server or group project) it is reasonable to request nothing with your allergy is brought. It is not reasonable to show up to a cooking competition (larger fandom space) with an expectation that nothing with your allergy will be there. It is reasonable to expect disclosure about what a food is before you try it, but on you to avoid stuff that might harm you.

[myfandomrealitea]

Just love it when assholes think they get to act like the least conscientious people whilst calling everyone else immoral and evil

Yes you also should have to tag for triggers even if you are complaining about a ship you don't like!

There's a constant contradiction between antis and following their own rules. The one thing that can be said about the proshipper side is we are ultimately more respectful of maintaining the safety of online spaces in regards to tagging, being overt about triggers, shutting down malicious or harmful behavior in private spaces, ect.

[sage-thee-herbmaster]

Moresever-

A term for those who have a disability or mental illness and wish their symptoms were less manageable, more noticeable or “more severe” mainly as a coping mechanism, other reasons can include: 

Not having one’s disability/mental illness being taken seriously due to stereotyping

Wishing one’s disability was more noticeable so you can get the support you need

Wishing one’s mental illness would get worse so you can get the, or feel like you “deserve” the help you need

Feeling as if one’s disability/mental illness is “not valid” due to having less symptoms or having more uncommon symptoms

Having CPTSD but wishing you had PTSD

Being a lower support autistic but wish you had higher support needs for whatever reason (e.g ableism, feeling invalid etc.)

Having suicidal/self harm urges that you never act on but wishing they were worse so you can feel like you “deserve” help

Lessever-

A term for those who have a disability or mental illness and wish their symptoms were more manageable or “less severe”, for whatever reason, some people who are Lesssever can and may work towards this. For example:

Someone who has an amputated leg going from using a wheelchair to using a prosthetic 

Someone with an amputated arm obtaining a prosthetic 

Someone with a speech impediment going to speech therapy

Someone working to get medication to manage their (ADHD, BPD, Bipolar, C/PTSD etc.) symptoms

Going to therapy to recover from one’s trauma

And much more!

These are reclaimed trans*bled terms so naturally if you’re trans*abled DO NOT FUCKING TOUCH

[cloud-ya]

outcast of the village

[arrimorr]

The Knight is a bit weird under his armor. I would say that's it's not even an armor but a chitinous shell

[hotvampireadjacent]

https://x.com/treborrhurbarb/status/1819855330232480252?s=46&t=kvJFP3BjKnMEl5NO2bJUMA

[soranker]

laios985

[tofixtheshadows]

I've been thinking a lot lately about how Kabru deprives himself.

Kabru as a character is intertwined with the idea that sometimes we have to sacrifice the needs of the few for the good of the many. He ultimately subverts this first by sabotaging the Canaries and then by letting Laios go, but in practice he's already been living a life of self-sacrifice.

Saving people, and learning the secrets of the dungeons to seal them, are what's important. Not his own comforts. Not his own desires. He forces them down until he doesn't know they're there, until one of them has to come spilling out during the confession in chapter 76.

Specifically, I think it's very significant, in a story about food and all that it entails, that Kabru is rarely shown eating. He's the deuteragonist of Dungeon Meshi, the cooking manga, but while meals are the anchoring points of Laios's journey, given loving focus, for Kabru, they're ... not.

I'm sure he eats during dungeon expeditions, in the routine way that adventurers must when they sit down to camp. But on the surface, you get the idea that Kabru spends most of his time doing his self-assigned dungeon-related tasks: meeting with people, studying them, putting together that evidence board, researching the dungeon, god knows what else. Feeding himself is secondary.

He's introduced during a meal, eating at a restaurant, just to set up the contrast between his party and Laios's. And it's the last normal meal we see him eating until the communal ending feast (if you consider Falin's dragon parts normal).

First, we get this:

Kabru's response here is such a non-answer, it strongly implies to me that he wasn't thinking about it until Rin brought it up. That he might not even be feeling the hunger signals that he logically knew he should.

They sit down to eat, but Kabru is never drawn reaching for food or eating it like the rest of his party. He only drinks.

It's possible this means nothing, that we can just assume he's putting food in his mouth off-panel, but again, this entire manga is about food. Cooking it, eating it, appreciating it, taking pleasure in it, grounding yourself in the necessary routine of it and affirming your right to live by consuming it. It's given such a huge focus.

We don't see him eat again until the harpy egg.

What a significant question for the protagonist to ask his foil in this story about eating! Aren't you hungry? Aren't you, Kabru?

He was revived only minutes ago after a violent encounter. And then he chokes down food that causes him further harm by triggering him, all because he's so determined to stay in Laios's good graces.

In his flashback, we see Milsiril trying to spoon-feed young Kabru cake that we know he doesn't like. He doesn't want to eat: he wants to be training.

Then with Mithrun, we see him eating the least-monstery monster food he can get his hands on, for the sake of survival- walking mushroom, barometz, an egg. The barometz is his first chance to make something like an a real meal, and he actually seems excited about it because he wants to replicate a lamb dish his mother used to make him!

...but he doesn't get to enjoy it like he wanted to.

Then, when all the Canaries are eating field rations ... Kabru still isn't shown eating. He's only shown giving food to Mithrun.

And of course the next time he eats is the bavarois, which for his sake is at least plant based ... but he still has to use a coping mechanism to get through it.

I don't think Kabru does this all on purpose. I think Kui does this all on purpose. Kabru's Post Traumatic Stress Disorder should be understood as informing his character just as much as Laios's autism informs his. It's another way that Kabru and Laios act as foils: where Laios takes pleasure in meals and approaches food with the excitement of discovery, Kabru's experiences with eating are tainted by his trauma. Laios indulges; Kabru denies himself. Laios is shown enjoying food, Kabru is shown struggling with it.

And I can very easily imagine a reason why Kabru might have a subconscious aversion towards eating.

Meals are the privilege of the living.

[dandelionbitch]

How am I supposed to format trigger tags?

I’ve seen people put “tw” or sometimes “cw” in front of whatever subject they’re trigger tagging, but is that what the people who filter out their triggers are doing? Won’t they have to filter out “x” “tw x” and “cw x” if they want to fully block out the subject? And therefore it doesn’t matter how they’re formatted? Or is there something I don’t know?

[catgirl-catboy]

Controversial take:

I think its batshit insane how the average tumblr/ao3 user is expected to be more accommodating of triggers than published authors/filmmakers.

This isn't saying that we should stop giving a shit about triggers. But why is it that a hobbyist writer expected to trigger tag most major themes in your fic, but movies can get away with "PG-13 for strong language."

The closest thing we have to an ao3 like tagging system for published works is doesthedogdie.com and even that is run by fans!

If I were in charge, I'd make it public knowledge what exactly will be in a book/movie/game before you purchase it.

But no, Hollywood would never recover financially for paying someone for the... 1 hour of work that would cost.

Meanwhile, there's this vibe that if you don't tag for certain things in fandom, you are a huge dick. and that its better to overtag than undertag.

The attitudes are night and day, make it make sense.

[crsinclair]

Guys. Seriously. Two times in only a few days. Please, please, please, tag your posts. Filters will not work without tags; it's actually a lot better to tag than posting something, possibly hurting someone, and someone coming to you and telling you that what you've posted hurt them because you didn't take a few moments to tag. And I'm not talking about reblogs - I'm talking about Original Posts. I ain't give two shits about reblog tags unless you're adding onto the OP's post with your reblog, in which case please tag. Other than that, feel free to just hit the little reblog button and be on your way. But really. Truly. Seriously. This is not about tagging for tagging's sake, this is literally about mental and physical health. Some people, like me, need others to tag so that those tags can get filtered and those posts can get blocked. I. Do. Not. Want. To. Go. Back. To. The. Hospital. After. I. Just. Left. It. Over. A. Tumblr. Post. I'm very tired now because I just had some sort of health episode over seeing an extremely triggering post that wasn't tagged at all - if you can reblog this, please do!

Gotta love it when people DON'T TAG THINGS.

Please tag triggers, content, and even SHIPS (for the Fandom side of tumblr). Otherwise people who use the filter function on this site ARE GOING TO BE SEEING POSTS THEY DON'T WANT TO SEE. LIKE I JUST DID.

Not a good start to a day for a person with a heart condition!

I know tagging seems like a waste of time sometimes but it HELPS others that have filters in place!

[sage-thee-herbmaster]

can you please tag anything to do with radqueers, including anti-radqueer stuff? seeing anything about them at all is really bad for our OCD and it makes it really hard to scroll for MOGAI terms. thank you

Oh of course I can do that ^w^ I can put the tag “tw radqueer” for you? You can also block my “trigger tagging” tag too if you like. Thank you for letting me know :3

[kensatou]

if nothing else can save america this zero-year-old fairy baby otter with no gender can. chiitan's platform is love. and chaos.

[professionallyunstable]

kinda tired fighting for a life i don’t even want

[sage-thee-herbmaster]

No because like, my main “kink”, which isn’t sexually arousing, but still very much brings me excitement, is derived from my lack of humanity.

I’m a cat therian who likes (nonsexual) pet play, being treated like a pet feels more “normal and natural” for me than “kinky and deviant”.

Not being treated like a human and getting enjoyment out of that is just a byproduct of my autistic brain and nonhuman identity.

i have seen ppl assert that *all* fetishes are derived from trauma but i definitely didn't witness a terrible accident at the pooltoy factory or nothin i think sometimes brains are just weird

[rassebers]

Best trait for a classmate to have?