#transgender help

[im-archangel-fucking-gabriel]

Uhhh ok genuine question, how does one look perfessional in a field when they are a 5’1” punk trans guy (on testosterone)? I want to look professional but everything is so gendered and anything that looks nice ends up looking weird on me because of weird body proportions! I am expected to dress business casual for every class, which would be fine if I knew how to dress that way for my body AND for my gender.

[theboysfromaustin]

I'm gonna need some help.

I'm a trans man who was just in a wreck that totaled my vehicle and broke my glasses. I'm going to have to pay off insurance and probably get new glasses unless I can find an old pair. I did not go to the ER and I am in a lot of pain.

I also need a replacement vehicle. I plan on buying used to save money.

Anything helps!

[pyr0man1c]

Is it normal to start hating your new name as a trans person?

I’ve been known as Alex to all my friends for about 3 years now but I’m starting to hate it for some reason.

I don’t wanna suddenly change it to Scott (the name I really like) it just feels wrong to and I feel like it would be too difficult on other people.

I’m probably overthinking it but it’s really stressing me out and I really want some sort of reassurance or another trans person too explain it.

[addamsjuice]

hello tumblr would you be so kind as to suggest me trans friendly places to live i am currently in the united states but not opposed to moving out of country..

[can1s-lupus-lupus]

lowkey wanna start a name and pronoun hoard since i dont share my real name online and i like to experiment a bit with it but idk where to start cus I'm picky about what feels good, like I've had vos and rook locked in since i started this account, which i quite like both of them, although they feel slightly impersonal but i chose thistle for using on @tippy-tappy-paws which i do really like, and I'm thinking about using oscar on here (I'd have to retag everything but i think i could work it out pretty easily)

anyway does anyone have any tips for starting a name/pronoun hoard or finding names and pronouns that suit?

[ineffableive]

what are some excuses for buying trans tape? i’m trying to buy 2 rolls but i know my parents will be like why tf did you buy that so i need excuses please thank you

[skookus]

Booked a meeting with my GP this friday to try and approach transitioning. I have no idea what the fuck to say to get it started but hey I gotta start with something. (please help me)

[azuremist]

TME and TMA as intersexist terms: as written by an intersex transfem

I’ve had a few different people in my inbox asking me why I view these terms the way I do. In particular, why I claim it’s intersexist. So, I thought I’d lay out a few examples, so everyone can understand where I’m coming from.

Imagine an intersex woman. She was assigned female at birth by her doctors, and was able to go about her childhood as a woman with no inclination that anything was amiss. Sure, she didn’t experience certain parts of puberty, but puberty was different for everyone, right?

But, later in life, she learns she has Turner syndrome. This is an intersex condition where a woman has only one X chromosome, rather than the usual two.

Soon after she learns this, she finds that laws are being made to attempt to keep trans women out of women’s spaces (often specifically sports) which use chromosomes as a defining factor of womanhood.

Would this intersex person be considered “transmisogyny affected”? She has been raised as a cisgender woman with no problems regarding being ‘clocked’, but she is also a direct target of transmisogynistic laws. She lies in a gray area.

Now, let’s go to another intersex person. Imagine an intersex man with PAIS. AIS is an intersex condition where babies are born with testes and XY chromosomes, but their body is immune to or can’t respond to androgens (which includes testosterone). Intersex people with partial AIS (PAIS) often develop a vulva and clitoris during puberty.

This intersex person identifies as a man, and he was assigned male at birth. However, his body does not produce testosterone, and he went through a feminizing puberty. To the average eye, he appears to be a woman now because of this.

Would this intersex person be considered “transmisogyny affected?” He was assigned male at birth, and now appears to be a woman, much like many transfems. However, if many saw how he looks now, stating that he is a male, they would probably clock him as transmasc. He was raised as a boy until puberty, and then faced astrozcization from his peers when he began a puberty that feminized him. What he was facing was a form of intersexism where transmisogyny was playing a huge part. Does his childhood matter? Can one become TME over time, when they were TMA as a child? Again, he lies in a gray area, where the answer is not quite so simple.

What about the “opposite”, per se — an intersex woman who had a masculinizing puberty? She has aromatase deficiency, which means that many ‘male’ hormones (which would usually be converted to ‘female’ hormones) would remain unconverted. She identifies as a woman, and was identified as a female at birth and was raised, until puberty, as a female. But now, she would be clocked as a trans woman upon looking at her. What does that make her? Is it different from the previous example? How and why? This intersex person also lies in a gray area. How she should be described with these terms is not clear.

And keep in mind, these are all relatively simple examples. All of the examples I listed self-identify as cisgender. But there are intersex people who are trans in any direction you can imagine.

If that last example identified as a trans woman, because she is now clocked as one, would you be able to say she’s wrong for that? What about if she identified as transmasculine, because of her experience with puberty? What if she’s multigender, bigender or genderfluid, and says she’s both transmasc and transfem because of her complicated experiences? Would that make her a TMA transmasculine person? But I thought that transmascs were all TME? That’s how it’s so often framed, anyway.

The reason why these questions are so difficult to answer is because these terms were not made with intersex people in mind. Very real intersex transfems were pushed to the wayside in favor of centering the perisex view of transgenderism. Intersex people are nothing but an inconvenient little afterthought, annoying perisex people with their demand for “inclusion” and “consideration”. (As per usual.)

You cannot simply make a new gender binary and say, “No, really, this time everyone fits into these two categories! Forcing people to confine themselves to these two rigid labels which are shown as opposites, and as never interacting, will definitely include everyone this time!!” No matter what the contents of the new binary is, it’s not going to work, because sex and gender alike are too complicated for that. There will always be people in the gray area.

This isn’t even getting into the fact that these terms, for all intents and purposes, seem to have been popularized by and associated with the Baeddelism movement around 2017, which was essentially “Radical Feminism 2: We’re Trans Women, So It’s Fine!” This movement is known for chronic villainization of trans men and non-binary people who aren’t transfem. (They act like this with cis people too, but noticeably less so than they do with non-transfem trans people. How curious.) Think along the lines of how regular radfems treat all men (and who they deem to be men) as inherently morally disgusting scum who deserve to be attacked.

Methinks that maybe these terms aren’t the neutral, fact-based descriptors of oppression that many people nowadays tout them to be, considering that.

So, yeah. “Transmisogyny exempt” and “transmisogyny affected” as terms: not even once. Listen to intersex people, stop trying to make sex and gender into binaries, and for the love of God, stop drinking the queer seperationist koolaid!

[loamington]

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[welldrawnfish]

Sorry for the absence! I've been depressed. Trans kids look out for each other! Check out Tiff and Eve here! Its a wonderful comic all about a trans woman living with her roomate! Read it now here! https://webtoons.com/en/canvas/tiff-eve/list?title_no=866028&webtoon-platform-redirect=true And direct Gofundme here! https://gofund.me/082524f0

Also I forced her to make a Tumblr so like.. go RUIN her give her unconditional love and support SMOTHER HER IN IT this is an order from your queenfish.

[feelingemotjons]

a black trans women is in need of help

@miracleon63rdstreet is a black trans women who has gone through absolute hell and back. She is currently in a lot of debt and she and her cousin don’t have enough money to feed her cats and her cousin’s kids. She is living with her cousin and her cousin’s electricity bill is due on the 10th

if anyone could give her money on her cashapp, venmo, paypal, chime, or gofundme it would be greatly appreciated

[ed-recoverry]

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Take pride in it all. Your culture, your identity, it’s all so beautiful. Celebrate where you are from and who you are. It makes you you, and that is something to be proud of.

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[an-absolute-trainwreck]

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[pjb0y]

trans ppl of ohio does anyone have any resources about informed consent for hrt? like how do I get it and do I need both parents to sign?

[thund3randrain]

"I respect you and won't stop you from being who you are" and "I'm not ready to call you by a new name and pronouns because it hurts me" can not co-exist when the speaker is your parent who has a huge amount of control over your life.

[pinkhairswagtourney]

my friend harmony is a disabled trans lesbian who has been homeless for almost two months now , relying solely on the kindness of strangers to make ends meet . after all this time , she’s finally caught a break – her cousin has extended an invitation to live with her and has offered to help her get a job at her place of work . this is absolutely fantastic news and i’m so so excited for harmony to get back on her feet !! 

the only issue is that her cousin lives roughly 2000 miles across the country . harmony is ready to go whenever , she just needs a little more help: she’s disabled and cannot drive for super long periods of time , so she will need to stop and stay at a hotel a few times along the way ( ~$200 ) . she also needs gas to fill up her tank ( ~$250 ) and food to eat ( ~$50 ) .

all together , she only needs about $500 to make this trip . if you can spare anything at all , please send a few dollars her way ! i know we’re all struggling , so if you can’t afford to help monetarily , please boost this post !! harmony is so so close to finally being in a stable situation again . thank you for reading !!!

p-yp-l ( her only way of accepting money )