#trans or cis I don’t care just sit the fuck down in there.

[newreputations]

Two women at my work have complained to me that someone came into their bathroom and pee’d standing up. I do not personally care whose in what bathroom but I’m just gonna lay it out there that if you are going into a designated women’s room, you need to get with the culture and sit down.

I wish I had the means to pee at the urinal , but men’s rooms are easier. You can get away with sitting in the stall and everyone will just assume you’re shitting. Tbh, in my experience, men don’t care who is in the bathroom with them. I think unless you’re a 10/10 smoke show woman they are not going to care. They certainly have never said anything about my average looking ass, even before I passed most of the time.

Women are too sensitive though. They don’t like sharing their spaces with anyone who doesn’t meet their standards. In the bathroom they are like horses, unfamiliar things spook them. Everything will go smoother if you sit down.

[spacerockfloater]

Being a female viewer and hating Criston Cole is deranged.

I have to get this off my chest. The blind hatred that Criston is receiving from women is insane and I’m going to explain why.

For context, I am talking about Show Criston, not Book Criston. Comparing two standalone versions of a story is silly.

I cannot wrap my head around the fact that so many women, who are the primary victims of utilitarian relationships, would ever come together and shit on Criston for enduring such a situation.

I’m sorry, but how many of you have been used by men? How many of you have been reduced to one night stands, situationships and placeholder wives? How many of you have been deemed “not good enough” to be an exclusive partner? I log into tiktok and I see NOTHING but stories of broken women who are just used for sex, money, care and whatnot by men, and then they are tossed away like worthless trash while said men continue their pursuit of the ideal woman. Being used by men just for sex and being denied the status of girlfriend, let alone wife, is probably one of the worst plagues women are experiencing in the western world because the MOMENT we were emancipated, men understood that they don’t owe us shit anymore and instead of treating us with respect, they decided to grab whatever they can and give nothing back. Do not tell me that there are women out there that are fine with this arrangement because the multiple “GWM while I tell you about the guy that was with me for 12 years and then married someone else” tell a different story, one of multiple women’s dignities being trampled by hungry men. My heart breaks for every woman (EVERY woman, cis, trans, EVERY woman) who has been called by a man she loves just for sex, for every woman whose man never wanted to be seen in public with her, for every woman who had to hear that her man is not ready for a relationship only to witness him getting engaged to another woman 2 weeks after. I hope you overcome this and become stronger and I am glad that we are finally supporting one another.

How can we then, the women who are helping other female victims rise up and speak out against this kind of abuse, push Criston down and tell him to suck it up and accept being Rhaenyra’s plaything? Have we no mercy? Are we so hungry for revenge against men that we’d want them to endure the same humiliation that we did, as if one fictional man’s suffering would bring us justice? Are we so jealous that Criston didn’t sit down and just take it like the rest of us, but instead spoke up and removed himself from that situation? Or are we so gullible that we accept what the screenwriters shove down our throats and unknowingly support the patriarchic view that if you’re being used by someone you should just accept it?

I can hear some of you arguing that “Oh, this is different because Rhaenyra is royalty!” as if being used and tossed by a powerful person somehow makes the situation any better? Would it be okay if a rich person wanted to constantly use you for sex while he keeps looking for a better woman to be by his side, just because he values his wealth and status more? Rhaenyra straight up sneered at the idea of a simple life with him. She straight up told him that HE is not worth as much as her crown. OUCH. Even though I can’t even begin to imagine the pain of being told you are not enough by your loved one, it was Rhaenyra’s right to choose what her priorities are, but WHY would he have to accept being her sidepiece? “These were different times”: does this make it any less devastating for the victim? And he was a victim because Rhaenyra still used Criston and misled him by constantly complaining about how she HATES her duties for YEARS and then luring him to break his oath. Do you think he would have still slept with her if he was aware that moments ago, Rhaenyra was begging on her knees to be fucked by Daemon and only turned to Criston because her first option was no longer available? Like, the man was contemplating having sex with her and resisted her for a good fucking while, so imagine how quickly he would have turned around and walked out that door if he had that information beforehand. You know why? Because he loved her. He loved her to the point that he broke his oath for her, the oath of a station he FOUGHT FOR IN A WAR. He shed blood and sweat and risked his life for the mere opportunity to gain that position. This was ALL he had, he came from NOTHING and he was still willing to toss it all away for Rhaenyra not once, but twice. It wasn’t just sex he wanted because we never see him have sex again after that. He became vulnerable and gave up everything that he was to be with Rhaenyra. He was willing to abandon his whole identity for her sake. Is this not what the ideal partner is? Ready to abandon everything for your shake? Everything he fought for, tooth and nail? Was he unreasonable in thinking that Rhaenyra was willing to do the same for him? Was he crazy to think that because he was ready to put everything he FOUGHT for aside for her shake, Rhaenyra would also put aside a duty she was handed and actively seem to hate for him too? Fuck no! After hearing her constant talk about how she hates her father, her duties, her refusal to wed other men, how she is trapped as a princess, how people have no idea how much it SUCKS being her, why would he not assume that she’d be willing to give it all up for him, as he’d do for her We never see Rhaenyra even TRY to be a ruler, just complain about it. Of course it would be a fucking shock to him hearing her say “Lol dude, I actually do kinda want this”.

Criston was actually the only person in the series that wanted Rhaenyra for her, not her money or crown. I’m not saying she had to follow him, it was her right to refuse him, but his willingness to lead a simple life with just her has got to mean something. And don’t give me that “he only wanted to redeem his honour by marrying her” crap, because first of all Criston nutted up and admitted everything to Alicent and was ready to face death without EVER blaming Rhaenyra for anything, and second of all, oh no, how dare a human being have ethical values and desire to live with dignity in society’s broad light rather than move in the shadows as the princess’s secret boytoy! Bad, bad Criston for feeling you have to atone for your sins. Maybe we as people have become so corrupt that we envy those who wish to walk a virtuous path in life. Or maybe y’all have become so fond of the unhinged unapologetic character trope because it feels “original” (even if it’s ridiculously overused nowadays) that you’ve actually forgotten what characters with good morals are. Like, picking your fave war criminal and rolling with them because you enjoy good drama, especially in a show that’s meant to provide entertainment, is one thing, but passionately stating that Criston had to submit to that humiliation is something else entirely.

Finally, let’s ditch the Criston being a misogynist bullshit because he had NO issue obeying Rhaenyra before their affair or Alicent. And he is ALWAYS true to himself and his values, because even after everything he endured, he did not use Alicent’s anger as an excuse to take revenge on Rhaenyra and harm her children. Criston never betrayed her, Rhaenyra used him and he walked away and he went towards the only person who seemed to spare him some sympathy and understand him and not condemn him for his crimes even if he hated himself, which is typical victim mentality. And don’t get me started on the Joffrey incident because y’all tore Cole to SHREDS for it. Joffrey had it fucking coming. You don’t go up to people’s faces, especially ones you don’t know, threaten them by telling them you know their secret, a secret that SHAMES them and burdens them to the point they’re ready to commit suicide, and all but directly call them a whore. What the fuck did he think was going to happen? They’d shake hands? Piss off. Let this be a lesson to anyone that doesn’t know how to keep their mouths shut and their noses out of other people’s business. Also, mocking his suicide attempt makes my stomach turn. Just take a moment to consider all the young women who just like him, reluctantly surrendered their virginities to men only to find out they were nothing but sex dolls in their eyes, all these girls whose trust led to their secret being spread and them getting ridiculed and slut shamed for it: how many girls have taken their own lives because they found living with such a burden unbearable?

For the love of everything you hold sacred, please wake up. The narrative that you can be used by someone powerful and you have to accept it because that’s the way things are is a man’s construct. Do not let them fool you.

[42spideys]

Hello :)

could you do a 42 miles x trans male reader please

I falling down the rabbit hole that is miles 42 and 1610 he’s just so cute

MY MAN — e-42 miles morales x ftm!reader

synopsis: you tell miles that’s you’re a trans man and his reaction isn’t what you expected.

pairings: earth 42 miles morales x ftm!reader, earth 42 miles morales x m!reader, earth 42 miles morales x black!reader

tags: ftm!reader, possessive miles, kinda suggestive nun to crazy, miles is ur number one fan!!

note: miles is the number one trans ally in new york!! also this is lowkey short mb

“miles…can we talk?”

miles immediately got nervous, he thought you found out something about his prowler identity, but after seeing your nervous and fidgety demeanor he was even more concerned. he was sitting at the edge of his bed, legs slightly parted, waiting for you to spit out whatever was making you so nervous.

you chewed your thumb while hugging your waist, you were rocking side to side to try and calm yourself down. he sat there quietly, he knew that you needed to think about this without any interruptions or you would get distracted.

“…so you know how i’ve been…reluctant about doing shit with you?” miles slowly nodded his head, still confused on what you were implying. “that’s because i’m not….cis…i’m trans. i’m sorry i didn’t tell you before we got together, that was so stupid and i-“ “that’s what you were panicking for?” you blinked at him confused, that wasn’t the reaction you were used to.

he stood up with an exaggerated sigh, wrapping his arms around your waist, his lips ghosting above your neck. “you really think i care about that?” he kissed your neck gently, making you pout. “i couldn’t care less if you have a dick or a pussy, all that matters is that it’s goin in my mouth-“ “miles morales.” you scolded him while tugging on one of his braids, making him bust out in laughter.

“you think you’re sooo funny, don’t you?” you crossed your arms in embarrassment, miles just smirked at you “ehh…i have my moments don’t you think, hermoso?” you rolled your eyes at the nickname, he was still attached to your waist, you wrapped your arms around his neck.

“before you ask, yes, i am serious about still loving you. trans or not, you’re mine, and i’ll fuck up any nigga that tries you. aight?” he pulled back to look at you, the seriousness in his eyes made you feel safe. “yeah yeah i get it, you’re so big and tough, what would i ever do without you.” he pretended to think for a moment. “probably die to be honest.” “we can tussle right the fuck now, miles” you joked before being thrown on the bed, he then jumped on you making you yell in surprise. “get off me miles!” he whined loudly into your stomach, “not gonna, you’re comfortable.” you gave up trying to move him, just deciding to accept the fate your boyfriend lovingly forced on you.

[wonderfulworldofmichaelford]

Psycho Analysis: Lois Einhorn/Ray Finkle

(WARNING! This analysis contains LETHAL LEVELS OF TRANSPHOBIA! Literally what the FUCK!)

I have wanted to review Ace Ventura for a long, long time. I mean, this was part of Jim Carrey’s break into the big time alongside Dumb & Dumber and The Mask, two films I wouldn’t hesitate to call comedy classics. But then there’s Ace Ventura, a film many would say sits alongside those… and to a degree, it does. The titular character may be one of the funniest and most awesome film protagonists ever made, and for the most part it is a genuinely funny comedic mystery.

But then comes the twist.

The villain of the film is revealed to be Lois Einhorn, a cop that Ace had been working with. But that’s not actually the real twist. No, the real twist is that Einhorn is disgraced football player Ray Finkle… and thus, a man. It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to see the problem here.

Finkle/Einhorn has long been considered one of the most transphobic characters in 90s media, and it is genuinely hard to disagree. But is there anything of value to them? Is this character really as bad as people say? Well, I’m going to tell you how I feel, though two things need to be kept in mind. First, I’m a cis guy. I am going to be upfront and say I agree this character is horribly problematic, but I definitely recommend seeking out what actual trans people have to say about Finkle as well (this video’s a good place to start). Second, I’m going to be using “They/Them” pronouns for Finkle. I’m doing this mainly because the movie is wildly unclear about how they view their own gender identity, and it’s actually unclear if they’re actually trans or just so insane they’ve gone to the biggest extremes to disguise themselves as a woman for their vengeance since, you know, the movie doesn’t particularly care about their gender identity beyond it being a vehicle for mockery.

Now, let’s go ahead and open this big ol’ can of worms...

Motivation/Goals: Finkle’s motivation is where they really shine, because it’s genuinely insane and amazing. They ended up being shunned by society and disgraced after a screw up that cost the Miami Dolphins the Super Bowl, and went completely insane from the derision. This led to them concocting an absurdly complicated plan that involved the kidnapping of the team’s mascot, rising through the ranks of the police department, and assuming the name of a dead hiker, all to kidnap and kill their former teammate Dan Marino for his role in their fumble. It’s so brilliantly batshit!

Oh, and they decide to unndergo a sex change as part of this scheme. It’s done as tastefully as you can imagine a 90s comedy would do.

Performance: Blade Runner’s Sean Young plays Finkle-as-Einhorn (and even portrays Finkle in a photograph back when they were a man). Whatever problems this character has, I don’t think it’s completely fair to blame them on Young; she does a relatively good job playing a comedic femme fatale villain when it comes right down to it. If the writing were better, this could easily be a career highlight for her. Alas, that’s not the world we live in.

Final Fate: They get arrested. I guess it’s better than them getting killed? They were in a room full of cops, it was the early 90s, and they are presenting as a woman while being assigned male at birth. It is genuinely a miracle that the worst thing that happened to them is that they were sexually harassed by Jim Carrey.

Evilness: This is the tricky one. On the one hand, Finkle has quite a list of genuine crimes under their belt: Murder, kidnapping, attempted murder, animal abuse… They might also be responsible for the death of the original Lois Einhorn, but it’s extremely ambiguous and I’m not going to hold it against them. On the other hand, Finkle’s downfall and subsequent shunning by their own hometown to the point their life was destroyed and they were driven insane is so over-the-top in how cruel it is that it’s kind of hard not to feel a little bit of sympathy for them. Like hell, I think I’d go batshit insane too ifI got treated like that for a mistake that was out of my hands! The narrative is trying to say they should score a 4 or even 5, but I think they’re more around a 3, a tragic villain who was driven to madness. It’s certainly a high three because it’s hard to excuse some of their worse actions, but I’m feeling a little more lenient towards them than the movie is.

Worst Scene: The big gender reveal at the end, of course.

Let’s ignore that dolphins have been observed having gay sex before. Let’s also ignore there is a non-zero chance that someone on the police force isn’t totally straight; there was a cop in the Village People for a reason, after all. Setting all that aside, this just isn’t fucking funny. It’s just a tasteless, bottom-of-the-barrel gag cranked up to eleven. I know the 90s weren’t the most enlightened years, but this is still excessive, especially since this is the gag the entire movie’s central mystery builds up to.

Final Thoughts & Score: There is so much to unpack here. Like, unbelievable amounts. This is a villain in a fucking detective comedy film, this really shouldn’t have to be so goddamn hard to talk about!

This character is just so stuffed full of offensive stereotypes that there is genuinely no charitable read for them. Looking at what the film is laying out for you, we have a man who has gone to insane lengths to disguise themselves as a woman for their revenge scheme, the sort of lengths that are usually reserved for people who are actually trans. So this isn’t even straightforward transphobia, it’s invoking the “trap” stereotype. For those of you blessed with ignorance, the “trap” is a nasty stereotype of trans woman that essentially believes they are a man disguised as a woman looking to rape unsuspecting men. It’s a pretty vile term that was and still is pretty popular among the coomer crowd, so yeah, not a good look when your character is what 4channers were calling Bridget Guilty Gear for years.

But hey, maybe the transphobia is just accidental! Even the director has said the intended joke with stuff like Ace barfing after discovering the truth is meant to be a dig at how fragile his masculinity really is if he falls to pieces over something like kissing a man! So instead of transphobia, the joke is… homophobia! Yay? This excuse doesn’t even hold water when the entire police force and the fucking dolphin barf at the big reveal too.

All of this is bad enough, but here’s the kicker: Aside from that massive, glaring flaw, Finkle is actually a genuinely good villain for a story like this. Their plan is insane and convoluted, perfectly fitting into a comedic narrative, but they’re also a genuinely threatening villain when they need to be. But this just makes it all the worse, because they took this good idea, wrapped it up in the sort of shit Joanne Rowling writes for her crappy detective novels, and then made it the punchline the whole movie builds up to.

If it weren’t for the exaggerated 90s bigotry the character is steeped in, I think they’d be a really solid bad guy who would likely deserve a score at least as high as Buffalo Bill got. But the existence of the novel that elaborates on Bill’s whole deal, the (admittedly minor) efforts of the movie to deny Bill is trans and is merely insane and delusional, and the fact he is played entirely seriously and is not the butt of jokes make him far more defensible than Finkle is.

I don’t think there’s ever been a twist villain that so thoroughly decimates the quality of the film they’re in. Bellwether didn’t ruin Zootopia, Hans didn’t ruin Frozen, and Roy Burns didn’t ruin Friday the 13th: A New Beginning. But Finkle? They fucking tank Ace Ventura, and it didn’t have to be this way. There are plenty of ways to have a character pretend to be a woman and have it be tasteful and funny; Bugs Bunny is a queer icon for a reason, and movies like Some Like It Hot and Mrs. Doubtfire, while obviously not perfect, manage to be a lot more tasteful in their jokes. But here, they just aim right for the bottom of the barrel.

With how times have changed, I think it’s genuinely easy to read them as a sympathetic character, provided you can look past the murder and homicidal revenge of course (something easy to do when you remember what caused them to snap). When the movie is doing all it can to demonize and humiliate them for not conforming to gender norms as opposed to ridiculing them for the sheer absurd lengths they’re going to for revenge or the fact they literally fucking killed someone, it’s hard not to take their side. The narrative is already against them for the stupidest reasons, so why dogpile them? You go, girl! You can have a little murder and kidnapping, as a treat.

I’ve gotta give them a 0.5/10. And that .5 is pretty much only because aside from the horrible twist, they’re honestly not a bad villain and there’s actually a lot of great foreshadowing that they’re behind the dolphin kidnapping. It really is just the gender reveal thing that not only completely ruins the character, but torpedoes the movie too. Ace Ventura is probably one of the best characters ever, and one of Carrey’s best performances alongside Truman and Robotnik, but he’s stuck debuting in a film where the big joke is “queers are fucking freaks lmao.” What a sick joke.

[marcy-magnolia]

okay so here’s the problem with being assigned little fish by casey plett in my feminist literature course- it’s a great book. however to write a term paper about it most of my citations would be “i know why wendy is doing x y and z because i literally live this life every day.” and my other citations would be transfeminism i’ve learned outside of this class. i feel as if i’m both too far ahead and too far behind. i’m not writing about stuff from the class anymore, right? i’ve passed the event horizon of taking a course that you’re a few years up on and now i’m fucked because all my knowledge comes from a few years up and not the stuff they want me to talk about. i have a strictly more informed analysis and yet now i have to balance the fine line of “does this prof actually care about trans women and will she appreciate my reading, or do i have to bend over backwards to pretend nobody’s ever written about trans women through a feminist lens except cis women?” and this is the problem with having the education of these students about trans women come from a tme person, when you have the topic of the class sitting right there excepted to be enlightened by the barely surface level look at trans women’s thoughts and ideas and everything about them. because i know the parts that are blatantly untrue, i know when you show me a cis woman’s thoughts of trans women that’s basically boiling down to “we should ALLOW them to FEEL however they want” that it’s a stupid opinion trying to appeal to the people in this class that don’t know much about trans women at all. yet now i have to lie to myself and to this professor that i agree with these opinions and play the nice little tranny who isn’t overstepping the boundaries that she’s been forcibly given lest her womanhood card reads invalid. i’m just playing the role i’ve played in ever institution that i’ve ever had to interact with, obviously this is an experience not unique to university. but when there are so many people in the room nodding along to the most fake information about trans women it’s just fucking surreal!!

[angel-girl-yuri]

i’m going to kill myselffff everything that I want to do if to try and pass is like ‘invest a hundred hours into this to pull this of’ whether it’s hair or voice or outfits or removing body hair and if it’s not time its effort that I don’t have the energy for and if it’s not that it’s money that I don’t have and meanwhile I just look like a stupid fucking tranny who doesn’t know how to pass to every single cis person who sees me and estrogen hasn’t done shit for me and it’s embarrassing as fuck and i’m stuck in this fucked town where I can’t form a single meaningful relationship and I don’t want to keep getting called sir every day at work and brushing it off because it makes people uncomfortable if I speak up and I don’t want to keep getting they/themmed by cis coworkers and I don’t want to earn pennies doing some job I don’t care about that drains all of my energy and I don’t have time to deal with my depression that keeps me from doing anything except all I have is fucking time to sit around and think about how I keep failing myself and how I’ll just keep getting called sir day in and day out no matter what and it makes!!! me want!!! to cry!!!! and this town is hell and this job is hell and all I want in life is to maybe date another trans girl and get to go out for drinks with her and pick out an outfit or go to the aquarium and get to spend my days off with her but there’s not a single fucking trans girl anywhere in this country because trying to transition is like shooting a gun that says to everyone ‘please kill me!!! please make my life hell!!!’ and all my sisters are either going to kill themselves or die never knowing what happiness feels like or get raped to death in a prison or get flat out shot and it just makes me want to kill myself because what is hell if not this. and in the meantime I have to get up and go to work and pretend not to hear how the customer in front of me called me sir to keep my job and pretend that a passing conversation with a coworker counts as meaningfully interacting with someone and pretend that i’m happy with this pretend that I’m satisfied pretend that this is the best I can do and then I go home and do something to kill time and then wake up and back to work it is!!! and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and when I’m on my break I think maybe I should’ve gone through with it I could hold my own head under the water and what a sweet release it would be the feeling of slowly losing the last grip on life and then my break timer rings and again and again and again and again and again and again and when I’m up at night and I clutch my sheets and I can still feel eyes on me and the weight of everyone I’ve ever been sitting on top me like they’re asking me why I still even try I choke something out about trying harder tomorrow and I tell them just a little longer and it will be worth it and maybe this time when we get up and face the day I’ll make someone laugh again and I stammer something about needing to live just one time before I can die and I can feel their hands close around my neck and then I wake up and the first thing I notice before I can go again is that I’m tired. bone tired soul tired heart tired. a husk of a girl that used to be that dressed up in a skirt and dreamed of what a life worth living would be like. a husk of a girl that sang to herself for fun. a husk of a girl that bounced back day after day after day after day that always refused to stay down and I think when did I get so weak. and in the mean time I work and I work and I work and my sisters keep dying and for the life of me I’m never feminine enough and there’s not a single person in my life who I can go to an aquarium with on my rare days off or cuddle with or who I can plan a future with. and I smile and say would you like a bag for that?

[llycaons]

Section Two: Part VI

Now try saying something true and beautiful: explicit works that make a point using sex or sex scenes

*end the rises and the falls* by eeriemedusa

summary: postcanon and married, a still-recovering wwx attempts to use bdsm unsafely as a coping mechanism for his residual trauma. one of the most nuanced portrayals of a character’s relationship with sex that I’ve ever read. compassionate and loving. novel canon, but it doesn’t matter too much wwx is triggered during sex - see notes work issues: none author issues: none

*talk about all the good things (and the bad things) by shipyrds

summary: you know how a ton of fics take the ‘every day means every day’ thing really seriously to the point where it’s creepy? what if wwx like. realized it wasn’t actually fun to have sex quite so much and that promise was unsustainable and maybe not meant literally anyway, so he decided to actually bring it up with lwj? this was a refreshingly honest discussion of that aspect of their married life. novel canon by design the second chapter is literally just porn and I don’t even think it’s that good and it adds nothing to the story so I’m only reccing the first chapter there are conversations about consent; check notes for more details work issues: none author issues: genderbends and sex pollen

Like a Blade on Bone by givemeunicorns

summary: during a postcanon bdsm scene, wwx is triggered. honestly this is a very lovely and gentle fic. it’s about taking care work issues: none author issues: xiyao, niyao, 3zun, xuexiao

The Thought of Then and Now by BlessedAreTheFandoms

summary: a short fic where lwj comes home stressed and really ready to go but wwx isn’t up for it and lwj sees that and refocuses and they have a really comforting talk instead. challenges some of the more harmful assumptions about wwx and lwj and their sex life, and emphasizes the importance of continuous consent and communication. very tender. technically either canon I’ve read another one with almost the exact same premise but wwx just tells him to go ahead anyway and use him for stress relief and lwj DOES it literally I was sitting there like 😨 lwj is just going to fuck him anyway??? this was such a palate-cleanser lol work issues: none author issues: none

if i see you every tuesday by eeriemedusa

summary: do you hate the sex god virgin lwj trope? so does this author, and they wrote this little fic about a realistic take on lwj’s past about it, ft. communication. a bit sad, but very warm and mature and satisfying. novel canon work issues: none author issues: none

Don’t let them get you down, you’re the best thing I’ve seen by fantasiavii

summary: modern au where cis wwx and trans lwj navigate their sex lives. not much of a plot, just a lot of communication and gender euphoria and joyful sex. made me smile. kind of a pwp but also not really since the sex IS the plot? I’m sticking it in here anyway work issues: none author issues: none

Content Warning: Romance by Ariaste

summary: you know how all those fics make lwj say something nice and have wwx go ‘oh lan zhan you can’t just say that without warning, my heart can’t take it!” and it can get really annoying? well here they delve into wwx’s mindset and explore how to compliment wwx in a way he’ll be able to accept and internalize it, and the answer is uhhh kinkily. the sex scenes were well-done and I thought the ending was very sweet and satisfying. I was proud of them both for making progress and it felt like good closure for that rather obnoxious fanfic phrase. work issues: none author issues: has written xiyao and jl/lsz

Any Softer And I’d Shatter by Voidflower    

summary: kind of hard to describe this one. another take on ‘therapy via sex’. so wx exclusively have really hardcore and rough sex, which wwx sometimes tries to use as something of a coping method to avoid unwelcome feelings. but when they have like, vanilla and gentle sex for once it’s extremely emotional and helps wwx confront all the tender feelings and insecurities he finds it really difficult to face otherwise. second chapter isn’t as good imo but it’s in a similar vein. tagged as both, but this feels more likely to be a novel verse work work issues: there’s kind of a teacher/student vibe to the second chapter but lwj WAS in charge of discipline for his peers so it’s not as weird as it could have been. cnc is mentioned as something they like but doesn’t happen in any of the sex scenes author issues: none besides above

 trust falls by spookykingdomstarlight                

summary: really lovely and tender character study for wwx, his hangups about being taken care of, and his desire to reciprocate what he perceives as lwj’s utter selflessness. being little more than a pwp, this just barely makes it on the list, but the underlying character commentary qualifies it I think. and I always like to see them switch it up NOTE: this fic is at squideworld archive, which appears to be an ao3 copy that requires users to be 18+. signup is pretty easy, and it looks and functions exactly the same as ao3 work issues: none author issues: a LOT of weird shit. sex slavery, cnc, dubcon, nhs/jgy, genderbends, xiyao, A/B/O, jgy/wwx (which like….???? ok)

oh, these are real things by typefortydeductions

summary: the first work of a modern AU where newly-together wwx and lwj deal with wwx’s depersonalization issues and negotiate having sex that ramps up in kinkiness. I really liked all the communication happening and I thought it was a neat translation of wwx’s issues to a non-magical setting I don’t like the rest of the series as much but here’s a rundown: it follows them as they continue managing their issues, adopt kids, and handle becoming parents. wwx is not cis in this one (undefined but akin to genderfluid) and they really lean into wwx’s breeding kink so they call him a wife and mom and it gets a little weird? however none of this shows up in the first work. the characterizations were…decent. I do like the maturity, realism, and emotional honesty in the rest of the series. the bdsm scenes can be really intense because they legit do hardcore sadism and masochism, but because they communicate so thoroughly about it, I didn’t dislike it in the way I dislike most bdsm in fic. but I still skimmed a lot of the sex scenes. and overall I don’t like it enough to rec work issues: for this first fic? really nothing for the rest of the series, lwj is a bit possessive, there’s some emphasis on wwx being skinny/lwj’s big hands, and 3zun is a background couple. xxc/sl/xy is also mentioned as a poly relationship. author issues: same author as above - cnc, dubcon, A/B/O, genderbends

Back to Start

[carry-a-world]

this is going under a read more because I need to vent real quick and therapy is not until Friday 🫡

The Reality TM of the election being next week hit me today and let me tell you, as the sole leftist (and queer to boot) in a conservative family this time sucks big ole balls. There is not a single mfing lifeline for me. My brothers (both younger) are more centrist, depending on the issue. Both, however, are content to hang me out on the line when it comes to my parents and extended family 9 out of 10 times.

Messaged our siblings chat today and was like hello please consider not voting for Trump and rattled off a couple reasons. Only for the younger one, who I am generally closer with, to go off about not wanting to hear about politics or talk about politics because it’s all he hears about and it’s taking over his life. That’s cute, bucko, but my rights to make decisions about my own body and my right to marry whoever I want are about to be legislated the fuck away.

(Said youngest also told me not to use “queer” to refer to myself and I told him to shove it up his ass)

As the Eldest Daughter TM I have always looked after their stupid asses. Who was doing their science fair tri fold the night before it was due? Doing all the chores so we didn’t get in trouble? Listening to mental health stuff because our dad doesn’t believe in it (sure Jan your ADHD ass is fine)? Playing anchor even from a distance when our parents almost got divorced when I was in undergrad? Helping with resumes and handling professors and writing papers? Mediating when the youngest was in Germany having a depressive spiral and my parents didn’t want to let him come home? All me baby.

The middle child is a recalcitrant little shit who at least is getting his depression (funny how heritable that and the ADHD are in my family) treated. But he doesn’t tell anyone jack shit and is more likely to lash out when asked (making comments at holidays that were vaguely threatening to out me before I finally came out to my parents this summer). And it’s just…. So unfucking fair.

My thoughts and opinions on the world and politics, on my queerness especially, to which they were the only family members I could say anything about to until 3 months ago, were and still are always shut down. I got the “I don’t care who you date, you’re still my sister” in the moment that felt great but has had near zero follow up support on. Like fuck you. Fuck you so much. And yet I desperately want them to have my back because otherwise holidays and family gatherings are just me getting dogpiled, or me sitting there just listening to people that I love and care about shit on other people that I love and care about for being queer, or especially for being trans. It would be so nice to talk to someone who has my shared childhood experiences AND shares my opinions and it’s just not happening.

Anyway. For my fellow queer darlings, or even just cis het women at this point, who have family voting for someone that is going to actively take away their rights… I feel you. It fucking blows and we deserve better.

[krpgossipgirl]

tbh there’s a reason behind all the problematic topics brought up on this blog. rping wasn’t born out of kpop. or real celebrity ppl in general. before then, it was anime characters or OCs without “face claims”. krp grew in the early 2010s when most of us were underage, desperate for romance and had a lot of confusing hormones/emotions. ppl didn’t see idols as humans, more like tv characters (another big rp type then too). I’m sure there’s still teens that get into 18+ krps for the same reason nowadays too but you can’t tell me y’all haven’t noticed most of those rps are filled with ppl almost 30 y/o and full time jobs. the same ppl that helped create what krp is today when they were minors/teens. it’s how a lot of ppl socialized growing up. obviously we all know now it’s weird to be rping real ppl, that’s also why most can’t stand nonau rps. but idk if any of you have tried to rp in other circles (anime, book characters, etc) but it’s a different world. there’s a curated culture in krp that a lot of us have grown up with. I’d love it if the whole community decided to stop using celebrity faces one day but it ain’t happenin. so just don’t fetish, simple. stop caring so much about faces ffs they’re just an aesthetic of a muse, focus on the character a person has created.

as for m/m fetishization… I know I’m not the only trans dude that realized they were trans as a teen by that same medium. but bffr the critique is for y’all writing muses that are basically your cisgender female brain in a male’s body. you’re cis and you like men. you like men that are in touch with their emotions and more feminine than the standard until it comes to smut. you and every other chronically online straight adjacent woman. problem is the same as above, kpop was centered around the idea that idols weren’t humans and the entire structure of it is riddled with gay shipping. krp started with ppl rping their favorite ships exclusively. some of you still are fetishizing two real life ppl that are just coworkers and want to fantasize about them being more for your own emotional/sexual pleasure. some of you might not fetishize ships anymore but still get off on the idea of two men fucking bc you’re insecure about your femininity as a woman in the eyes of men. and some of you are just extra anti women lol. a pussy will not harm you. your muse is not going to be loved any less, be any less creative, or leave you with interactions if they have don’t have a dick. you will not be ignored and given less attention for rping a girl. but you will be ignored for your muses bland personality and character design that you’ve hid behind by signaling to other m/m fetishizers and popular fcs over the years.

I’m all for y’all tackling your issues through rp (trauma, dysphoria, problematic thoughts/interests, etc) but at some point we gotta sit down and say hey y’all cis women have been writing this gay shit for over a decade now, when you gonna ask yourself why? it’s not like trauma rping (for example) is unproblematic, but bro there aren’t entire rps of ppl without trauma rping out trauma-coping muses. there have been more boys only smut rps where 99.9% of muns are all cis women in the past 10 years than there have been m/s krps. come onnnnnn. why are you defending it, I’m sincerely curious. what about writing a/b/o with a straight couple is so unattractive to you?

any way, hi everyone please analyze how you view rping. bc I’m really tired of finding out my rp partner is living vicariously thru their muse, or only built their muse’s character based on what would bring them attention, or doesn’t have a creative reason behind their muse’s fc and it’s just the idol they think is the most attractive. I promise if y’all see rping as just collaborative creative writing about 2 characters that have no real pictures, you’ll find the best rping partners.

[salsa-and-light]

“if people are writing laws to protect the rights of identities, it should be real identities that people actually have.”

Ideally laws should protect everyone. Most prejudices harm more than just their intended victims.

But in any case, this doesn’t make sense.

People shouldn’t ask to have their rights respected because they don’t exist?

What are you actually trying to say?

Because it sounds like you're endorsing a legal philosophy where discrimination is only invalid if it's a matter of identity.

Which isn't true and doesn't make any sense either.

“If a normie ever hears the word “femboy catgirl” they’re gonna turn right the fuck around and vote in the other direction. “

Maybe, heck- even probably.

But as much as I sympathize with that concern..

I think that we’re past the point where we should be worrying about the opinions of people whose bigotry is only held back by three strings of dental floss.

Think about the practical applications of this idea,

To a bigot, the most chaste kiss is going to be too much. Any deviation, any act of Queerness is going to be too far.

So, pragmatically.. if there's no benefit to restricting ourselves then we might as well do what we want anyways.

And on a social level you can't compromise with people who are fundamentally unwilling to compromise.

But you can force them to adjust their perspective.

If someone is too hot in a room and they refuse to agree to any compromise, then the solution is to make it hotter.

If someone doesn't like a room temperature that's above 68°, maybe you can't make them like that, but if you force them to be in a room that's 80° they'll probably shut up about the rooms that are in the seventies and things that are only a degree or two off probably won't even register by comparison.

So if we are to change our personal habits for the furtherment of Queer liberation then what we should be doing is "turning up the heat", as it were.

Because who is going to give a damn about a woman with a pixie cut when there's a tattooed bald woman next door.

Who's going to freak out about a man with painted nails and a sissy walk when there there's drag queens on the television

Who's going to care about binary trans people when their are nonbinary genderfucks.

Obviously, these contextual comparisons don't solve bigotry and abuse, but if you're not in a safe enough position to be however you want, it's vastly preferable to be a little fruity then it is to be the most radically Queer person that someone has ever seen.

And you can't have that, if the most radical expression of Queerness are cis gender-conforming gay people who dress like Mormons.(No shade to them of course, it's just not pushing any boundaries).

Visibility has its downsides, absolutely, but it's a bit late to do anything about most of those, so we might as well go ham to get the benefits.

"Gays, Lesbians, Bisexuals and Trans People can all be explained in a concise logical matter and can convey a sense of normalcy to the average person."

This entirely irrelevant to me.

Really, the fact that you consider explainability to be a relevant factor is entirely mind-boggling to me.

Because everything I've said already about the effect of context on bigotry, but also because I seem to have a different philosophical axis here.

I do not want to live in a world where people have full human and rights and dignity, so long as they live in a way that everyone can understand.

I want to live in a world where people have full rights and dignity regardless of the understanding of their neighbors.

The freedom to be weird and incomprehensible is what separates us from Salem.

And just for the record, there's still a lot of people who don't even understand gay people and even for those who do there are still plenty of cis gay people who have other things going on that will befuddle "The Straights™".

"There is no way you could say the words “femboy catgirl” without a sit down and a three hour explanation to someone who wasnt terminally online."

A Femboy-catgirl is a boy who enjoys dressing like a girl and like a cat, probably at the same time, for sexual or nonsexual reasons.

Easy-peasy, thirty seconds maximum.

I don't think it should be relevant, but it's also not that hard.

If you need three hours, go off, but the problem is not that it's too complicated, the problem is that people refuse to learn or engage with Queerness.

I can't tell you how many people who still think that drag queens and transwomen are the same thing.

And that's a pretty basic distinction.

You say that it's hard to explain to anyone who's not "terminally online", but these people definitely have internet access.

They aren't just conveniently-mysteriously out of the loop; to live in the English-speaking world today, you have to be constantly and actively avoiding Queer people and Queer topics if you want to remain ignorant about them.

"Making these weirdo identities known to the general public will, unironically make them go “eh, maybe these people dont really need these rights"

Yeah, I'm going to repeat myself and say that we shouldn't be worried about the opinions of people who are one step away from being unapologetic bigots; because their "tolerance" isn't worth anything. It would be easier and more effective to force them to be nice than to try to appease them. I don't think that we should force them to be nice to be clear, but politeness at gunpoint is far more reliable than politeness in exchange for compliance

Saying that our rights are dependent on the good will of our betters is a blatant admission that we do not have rights, because rights essentially exist to stop the people who say that we shouldn't have them.

A mouse living in walls does not have equal right rights to the tenants, it simply hasn't been intrusive enough to inspire lethal force.

That is a clear and obvious difference.

People who see you as a pest are not going to grant you equality out of the goodness of their hearts, that is something you have to enforce, by hook, by crook or by legally concealed firearm.

Visibility may be a double edge sword, but it's vastly preferable to living in the walls and waiting hoping that the shoe doesn't drop onto you.

Note the assumption that all LGBT people automatically support each other.

Even though many TERFs/“Gender-critical feminists” are lesbians.

Also, many people specifically say that their issue is not with LGBT people, it’s with “degenerates” hiding behind a minority label.

Including some LGBT people who don’t want to get dragged down with the pervs.

Most of the people who talk about “degeneracy” will apply that label to straight, non-trans people too.

[tableperson]

Love having “discourse-neutral, anti-endo leaning” twats respond to my posts. They come in, spout dumb shit then expect me to sit there and read any of it when they call themselves anti-endo. Like, you’re in our DNI. Fuck off. I don’t care what you think. I don’t care if you misinterpret the concept of demedicalisation. I don’t care if you think you’re right or that you make sense. Because- and listen closely here- I don’t want to hear you. I shouldn’t have to break down every single fucking thing to ensure you bastards can’t twist it in some ridiculous fashion.

Here’s a reminder:

We are are NonBinary. Very few members of the system are Cis. Shut up trying to tell us what we should find transphobic. Sysmed isn’t transphobic.

Gender dysphoria is still a mental health issue, it’s diagnosable and recognisable as symptoms that make life hard for those who experience it. Being trans isn’t a mental health issue- it’s still considered to be one by transphobes who say “being trans necessitates dysphoria” and thus believe that being trans in any way is an illness due to the link they think needs to exist. (this mentality also includes bio-essentialism and the denial of anything outside of the binary genders existing)

Based on the above, I compare Endogenic systems to NonBinary genders because

there can be medical and mental health aspects to both being a system and being trans

Both plural and trans communities are marginalised and misunderstood by wider society

Endogenic systems get denied and fakeclaimed by other systems, much like NB-phobic trans people attack NonBinary Individuals

Being NonBinary is less commonly associated with dysphoria or medical transition. Being Endogenic is less commonly associated with trauma and is not disordered. (Note the ‘less commonly associated’ bit, it’s not a set in stone rule. Duh)

Therefore, Sysmeds, by trying to claim the only way to be plural is to have heavy childhood trauma and be disordered because of it, you are reducing the concept of plurality to be purely medical. You are medicalising plurality. You believe that non-disordered Endogenic systems can’t exist. Your stance is system-medical. That’s just the facts.

How it’s not transphobic and actually, uno reverse card, by saying it’s transphobic you’re kinda a transphobe: listen to yourself. You are claiming that we are the ones making trans-ness medical by comparing it to systemhood, which you believe can only be medical. When in truth, you’re the only one here who thinks that way. You talk over NonBinary and trans people to say that we’re transphobic because we dare to say that neither systemhood or transness is inherently medical and that people who do think it’s purely medical are wrong. Seriously. Listen to yourselves. You’re reaching so far your arguments are becoming a health condition for your back.

Additionally, we also know that disassociative disorders as a whole aren’t all plurality. Never said they were. Never brought ones that weren’t relevant up.

I think that’s everything I can be bothered to note. Bye.

To add: “non sysmeds can criticise the term for being shitty” ok then did you give actual criticism? Point out any real flaw? No? Just gunna spam buzzwords at me and tell me to delete my post? Fuck off, if you’re sysmed or not I don’t care- I explained the reasoning why the term works and it’s comparable. If you’re going to take issue with it, then be constructive. No, “delete this” isn’t constructive.

[daisychainsandbowties]

your nonbinary beatrice post, i’m mentally jumping up and down on a bed ala s1 ava

nonbinary avatrice is so damn underrated imo, especially since they both read very trans and/or nd, (beatrice especially ((unrelated but lilith also has autistic vibes for similar reasons to beatrice)

ava is a bit complicated because on one hand it’s very likely she doesn’t care much or at all, and you have that whole queer af conversation between her and chanel about not knowing who you are because you never got a chance to explore or something that’s even queerer knowing that chanel’s actor is trans, and how often being queer and disabled goes hand in hand because of how man & woman is usually defined so much as a cishet white, thin, well off, pro status quo abled man/woman, but also on the other hand, that could also be the very same reason why a disabled person might firmly id as cis and/or with their agab, because of how they’re systematically denied manhood/womanhood because of their disability

and then with beatrice, like aside from the way she dresses, and i refuse to believe the combat habits didn’t make a few nuns realize that they aren’t so cis after all, you have the “people have tried to make me something i’m not. to make me normal. or at least, acceptable*.” and many people will “accept” gay people but only as long as they’re don’t display any gender queerness/gncness and/or transness

(*and obv that line is very easily also or as well interpretable as autistic beatrice, esp w how she displays a few behaviors that could be read as her being autistic, but that’s off topic)

<- first of all i am just yes yes yes about the intersectionality of disability/queerness & how it adds huge good layers to any conversation about nb avatrice. i rlly like the idea of Ava claiming her gender, b/c so often the systems and the institutions and ablism try to infantilise disabled ppl, & that extends to participating in gender, linking right to dehumanising tactics.

& i fucking LOVE Ava really doing gender and doing it her own way and grabbing it and running with it. Ava coming from a place where the ppl who 'cared' for her didn't give a damn about her girlhood. she's been confronted with her girlhood only in terms of pejoratives - 'you're a very x girl'

i am Thinking about the s1 line where we see sister fuck looming over Ava after she gets her period & saying to her 'you're a woman now' & how that is framed for us. just specifically what the entire event of menstruation feels when you are not cis.

ppl telling you that you're a woman (now, suddenly. like, fuck, when did i agree to this. who asked my permission?) and how you can feel your body being reframed and relegated in a certain way by the world and the anguish of that, often the blunt and speechless agony of it because the language that could latch onto what is wrong about the way that woman sits on your skin is unavailable to you

nonbinary avatrice is very mood to me because i think they in general have an extremely gnc thing going on. look no further than the outfits in s2. it is BOTH of them, also. Ava reads very boyish to me (hilariously in a very 'that kid with the band-aid on his nose & the blue shorts from pokemon who runs around on the beach going '!!! my footsteps keep disappearing'. ava silva-core).

there really is something in Ava that resists conventional femininity & i think it is very AVA the way she does it. she's giving the middle finger to it, she's shrugging at it. she's kissing gender on the mouth & girlbossing & also just being a little guy with her baseball cap turned around like ash ketchum. Ava silva 'gotta catch em' all' Silva but with the genders.

& yeah the fact that when beatrice is not in her habit she is wearing very masc clothing, putting her hands deep in her pockets, shirt collar sticking up out of her sweater. the outfit she wears to kick crimson in the face. the outfit from guttural scream fight night. her armour with its bandoleer of knives & her cute little throwing stars you use to hit soft tissues with pinpoint accuracy. the softness and the violence of her.

& you are so right. 'ppl tried to make me something i'm not' - you can imagine beatrice in the catholic school uniform with the pleated skirts and the soft v-neck jumper & the blazer & every teacher saying 'now girls' and 'please, girls' all the damn time. how electric it must feel to her to hear the word boy on her skin.

(& yeah. my first fic which is s1 beatrice POV i literally have a tag that's like beatrice is autistic & that's how i write her in everything. ligaments, star wars au bea they r all autistic. a part of it is... i am autistic so it ends up maybe being a situation where especially in second person it's hard not to write autistically but shrug emoji, i also just think bea reads very autistic to me. i have a whole bunch of my own feelings & opinions on what autism looks like w/ beatrice specifically but that's not for this post)

tldr: yes you are very smart and very right

[iwannawritelots]

Obey Me! Babes with MC Binding Unhealthily

Originally written June 2022

My brain is just so fucking full help. I can’t sit down and actually write well because I’m too upset from family shit so I’m making this headcanon just in case I can’t get anything done. (Also part of why I’ve been publishing so much old stuff that isn’t on here recently lmao.) Whenever I write headcanons there is a chance I’ll make them into fics so lol

Written for AFAB trans MC who binds! (I know some cis women bind too but MC is pretty trans coded here)

Please take care of yourself when you bind!

TW/CW: gender dysphoria, unhealthy binding

Lucifer💙

will lose his fucking mind if you bind too long or in a dangerous manner

Like what are you thinking!?

This is assuming he’s even aware, considering demons have different rules and he’s always working so he may not even notice.

he scolds you out of habit, but then feels a bit guilty after remembering that binding just helps you feel better about yourself

It takes a while for him to swallow his damn pride and apologize for how he addressed it, and reminds you it’s only because he cares that he got upset

If you are one to wear your partner’s/partners’ clothes, he’ll find something of his for you to wear if it’ll help comfort you when you need to stop binding

tries to be nicer when he addresses your unhealthy binding from now on

Mammon💛

He’s one of the ones I usually headcanon as transmasc so I imagine he can understand it lmao

tries to explain that he’s worried but also he’s a fuckin’ tsundere and doesn’t know how to properly express his concern

“It’s not like I care but ya shouldn’t bind so long! You’re a human and your body can’t handle that much bindin’!”

If you have a smaller build than him, he’ll let you borrow any of his clothes that are baggy on you

will definitely buy you whatever you need no matter what though. He will go bankrupt for you (please don’t encourage this)

You will not hear the end of it if he finds out you exercised in a binder (without sizing up)

Leviathan🧡

Another one I usually headcanon as transmasc lmao

he has so many hoodies, just take them when your binding time for the day is up. He will not understand why you’d want his hoodie though, he’s a yucky otaku! Another grim in the “self-deprecating comment” jar

He’s a bit too afraid to confront you about it because he doesn’t want it to somehow sound like he doesn’t like you binding in general??? He’s so anxious please

Ends up stammering about how he doesn’t want you to break your ribs by binding too long or accidentally falling asleep in it

He just cares a lot

Satan💚

I headcanon him as transmasc non-binary/demiboy so um

like Lucifer, he scolds you out of concern

reminds you that it will make complications in your health if you bind too long or without breaks!

reminds you to cough after binding to loosen any built up liquid in your lungs

he will offer any of his sweaters if you want to wear them for comfort/to mask your chest shape

Asmodeus💘

he really tries to be nice but your health is super important! Might get a little agitated if you repeatedly do unhealthy binding

assures you that you’re still very masculine when you need to stop binding for the day and he doesn’t see you as anything but the gender you are

will help you find the best sports bras and baggy clothes to help you feel better about things

(Also probably makes sure you have more than one binder because of all the sweat/grime buildup that will happen if you don’t wash them enough)

Frequently reminds you to take breaks and always makes sure you coughed after taking it off

don’t even think about unhealthy binding habits with Asmo around!

Beelzebub❤️

probably doesn’t even notice until the others mention it to him

Then he makes sure to watch out for it a lot more

he’ll notice without being tipped off if you exercise with him because??? Why are you struggling to breathe so much??

he’s very gentle about it

If you’re smaller than Beel, he definitely won’t mind you using his clothes that are baggy on you

Makes sure you take breaks and reminds you to cough after binding

Belphegor💜

He’s kind of indifferent about it until he finds out how much it can actually hurt you

if you’re getting ready to nap together he always makes sure your binder is off

will help you bundle up in a hoodie, sometimes even with a bunch of big blankets too if you want

Lord Diavolo❣️

he’s so clueless lol

probably has to be told by one of the brothers that you have a habit of binding unhealthily

he does his own research on how to properly ensure you’re careful, but most of the time he just asks how long you’ve been binding for since he doesn’t want to be mean

once he’s more comfortable he’ll be a bit more strict about you taking breaks and not exerting yourself while you’re binding

Barbatos🖤

like Asmo, just don’t even try

you’re a minute over the eight hour limit? here’s a sports bra, go change

you haven’t taken a break yet? Go take one

Did you remember to cough after taking your binder off? No? Cough right now. He wants to see you do it.

You’re sick and have a binder on!? Go take it off right now!

he’s strict about it but as soon as you ask if he has any clothes you could borrow he’s all pink in the face and muttering about “why would you want my clothes? I’m not all that interesting. If you insist.” You make him put a Grimm in his “self-deprecating comment” jar.

Simeon🤍

he just wants you to not break your ribs or hurt yourself somehow but he also doesn’t want to hurt your feelings

comes prepared with a hoodie before he tells you to change

will bury you in blankets if you want

if you’re particularly upset for whatever reason that day he’ll do his frickin best to help you mask your chest shape

reminds you to cough when you take it off

often asks about how your chest is feeling in case you need to take it off

Solomon🤎

yet another I headcanon as transmasc

he is a bit more lenient since he’s a human himself but he won’t let you get away with too much

reminds you to cough when taking it off, to take breaks, when your time will be up

he’s nice about it but if you fight him he will get a bit frustrated

He knows it’s only ‘cause you want to be comfortable with yourself a bit longer, so he manages to not be upset with you lol

[qsphyxias]

heyy could I request some trans shuichi x trans reader general fluff hcs? I don’t see a lot of reader insert stuff with shuichi beings trans as well and I need to change that >:)c maybe like mutual dysphoria comfort and stuff like that :0 have a good day! thank you in advance

if you fetishize t4t relationships, get the fuck out of here!

synopsis ; hcs with trans! shuichi and trans! reader, feats. dysphoria comfort, some small little short drabbles in between.

warnings ; trans reader (no specific gender, just not cis), trans women are allowed to read this just because i don't really see a lot of content for trans people in general, not just dudes, dysphoria, not proof-read, not entirely sure where this is set in, established relationship.

note ; !!! god t4t relationships... i want to be in one so bad this request is perfect!!

words ; 0.9k +

◊ shuichi knows what it feels like to not be seen as a boy by his closest peers, or at least at one point.

◊ so instead of just using your correct pronouns, he would view you as your identity, and use your pronouns with your identity in mind, instead of just using your pronouns because it's the right thing to do.

it's a happy and safe t4t relationship, you both feel very safe and comfortable with each other.

◊ so many benefits, so many oh my god

◊ since you both are trans, you are both able to understand each other better, you are both able to help each other out in a way you know helps.

◊ shuichi's go-to method to calm his dysphoria is honestly just crying for hours on end, he would lock himself in his apartment for a week (max), because he wouldn't be able to see other people during that period, too convinced that he looked like a girl to everybody. it's definitely not the best method — um, at all — and he would not recommend it to anyone.

◊ the thing about this though, is that after meeting you, and finding out that you're trans, he is able to let you into that close bubble he was never able to let anyone into — not even his closest friends. He was finally able to talk to someone about it, lay his head in your lap, and beg you to tell him everything was going to be okay.

��� a way shuichi would help you out with your dysphoria would be reading you books, watching movies, and physical touch. he can't take care of himself very well, so he wouldn't be able to cook you food other than instant noodles, although he would most definitely buy you the finest ben and jerry's around.

— shuichi gently shook you awake, a gentle smile on his face accompanying his gentle voice, "Hey baby... so i made you, um," shuichi paused, unsure how to make 'instant noodles' sound more appetizing than it actually was. "u- uh, this was a staple in uh, you know, my trainee days when i was a detective. i never really learned how to cook, and there wasn't much time to because of work... a- anyway!" he laughed nervously, putting down the paper bowl of instant ramen on the table next to you.

"um, i hope you like it? god, why am i so sweaty-" shuichi wiped his hands on his pyjama pants before sitting across from you, resting his hands on the table as he watched you carefully as if he was a training masterchef, and you were gordon ramsay sitting before him about to judge his food.

if gordon ramsey was wrapped in a blanket burrito and had dried tears on his face.

he watched you blow on the noodles and soup with a nervous but anticipating expression. "w- well?"

you slightly glared at him, your croaky voice breaking the weirdly stiff air. "jesus, shuichi, you're making me nervous now, too!"

you sighed, before slurping up the noodles, and holy god was it amazing.

... i'm just kidding, it just tasted like normal instant noodles, but you weren't about to crush puppy boy's dreams.

"w- wow! this is literally the best instant ramen i've ever had!" he looked at your bright expression with happy eyes. "r- really? thank g- god!"

"what the- shuichi why are you so sweaty-"

◊ a thing i could imagine him doing is rolling you up into a burrito with him, and having his head resting snugly on your shoulder. maybe even playing his personal dysphoria playlist made just for this occasion on repeat until you both memorize all the lyrics of all 11,037 songs.

◊ over and over again, he'd bring your body closer to his when he feels as if his grip is getting loose from fatigue — hell, if he had the worst cramp in the world, he would rather lose feeling in his muscles rather than let go of you when you need him most.

◊ and, with a soft, empathetic tone of voice, he'd speak now and then about how even though this hurts, even though it might feel like something is tearing out your heart piece by piece, things will change. it's not over yet.

◊ and even though sometimes you may not see exactly yourself when you look in the mirror, shuichi will always look at you and think, "that's... my partner. how did i manage to score someone like that? i don't get it."

◊ although if shuichi had been going through it with you, he wouldn't be a ton of help. he'd definitely stay attached to you at the hip though, he would hold you as close as he possibly could just so he could feel you. this man would rather feel like garbage with you, rather than be the one to let you suffer alone. he wants to do everything, with you.

◊ but if you need someone strong, if you need him to be a pillar, he will be. he may be a little weak-minded but nothing is more important to him than the people he loves and what they need first.

— "i love you so, so much," his voice above a sad whisper, "and i know, that you will get through this. because- because i'm here, and even though that may not seem like enough, i'll try harde-"

you cut him off, with no intention but to guess, because eventually, that little speech of his had gotten too long. "burrito?"

"... s- s/o, i'm trying to be serious! t- this was my declaration of love!" he stammered, struggling to look you in the eye now. it was the perfect moment for him to realize that he had really been burning up as he had spoken his speech earlier.

you simply... smiled.

"i know; i love you too."

⊱───── ❝ 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝗻𝗸 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝗿𝗲𝗾𝘂𝗲𝘀𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴! ❞ ─────⊰

[ficsex]

Writing Trans Smut - Part 3.

Last part, we're almost done! Here we get language, dysphoria, further considerations, resources, and thanks.

6) Language

So, in the previous sections, I used sex-specific language to talk about genitals, but that's not necessarily what your characters will do. They might! But they might not. It is helpful for accuracy in this post, but that doesn't mean you should use this language in your fanfiction.

If your character isn't comfortable with sex-specific language, you have options. Words that trans masculine people might use to refer to their genitals:

cock, dick, penis, t-dick

front hole and back hole, manhole, bussy - "boy pussy" (this is a little less common for younger trans masc people, but still existent)

cunt / pussy / clit / vulva (some trans masc folks like or don't mind this language!)

Words that trans feminine people might use to refer to their genitals:

clit, big clit, girl dick, strapless

tits, breasts, boobs

vagina / vulva / vag / cunt / pussy (for both folks who have or who have not had a vaginoplasty)

dick / cock (some trans femme folks like or don't mind this language!)

Some trans folks don't want their genitals to have language connected to them at all - they can be interacted with, but not spoken about (~~ooh, mysterious and powerful~~).

As a fanfiction author, you're also writing the narration, not just the dialog! I advise you to stick with consistent language use - if your character wouldn't want a word spoken, don't include it in the descriptions. Some authors have in the notes a list of the language that will be used for trans characters' genitals - I love seeing this!!

Language used for Martin's genitals are slit, hole, cock, mound, and chest. Language used for Jon's genitals are hole, cunt, cock, and tits.

Language can also tie heavily into...

7) Dysphoria

Not all trans people have dysphoria - many do not! Having dysphoria is not a prerequisite for being trans, and isn't necessary to highlight when you're writing about trans characters.

That said, many do, and you have to decide if your characters experience dysphoria before you write them having sex.

Dysphoria can hugely affect the sex that trans people want to have. They may not want to acknowledge specific body parts, or feel triggered or miserable to have them touched or perceived. Even more distressingly, they may want specific body parts to be touched for sexual pleasure, even if they make them dysphoric.

A trans masculine person may not want their genitals or breasts touched. They may keep their underwear on and wear a strap-on dick for penetration. They might wear a shirt or even binder during sexual encounters. They might want to be fucked, but only in the ass, or between the thighs. They might stay entirely dressed and give pleasure to their partner.

But also, they may love being penetrated or fingered or gone down on! They may get off on any enjoy nipple stimulation!

A trans feminine person might not want their genitals touched at all. They may hate the idea of penetrating someone with their genitals. They might want larger breasts, or feel awful about body hair or their voice and not want to be looked at. They may only want to fuck someone with artificial dicks. They may want to be penetrated. But also, they may love using their genitals to penetrate their partners! It varies so wildly!

8) Further Considerations

Be careful writing smut with trans folks.

You could do an incredible job and make everybody happy. You could do a terrible job and hurt people. You could make some people really happy and upset other people.

If you have trans friends that are also into fanfiction, see if they'll do a sensitivity read for you (and then offer to buy them coffee or something, as thanks).

But also, don't panic! Trans bodies are human bodies, and trans people are human people, and have sex and relationships and desires just like cis people. Be careful and be respectful, but also enjoy the writing process!

9) More Resources

Even this doozy of a three-parter may not have been enough information for folks who want to write about trans sex, so here are some extra resources for you:

Brazen - Trans Women's Safer Sex Guide

Primed - A Sex Guide for Trans Men Into Men

A trans man's perspective on sex

Here's how to have sex with trans women

Sex Without Involving Genitals

Why One Trans Woman Wants to Discuss Sex After Surgery

How to Navigate Gender Dysphoria During Sex (yeah Teen Vogue!!)

16 Things I Learned From Having Sex With Trans Men (this is a cis gay man's perspective; possibly valuable to get into the head space of your cis character who is having sex with a trans man, but note that this is not info from a trans person)

Fucking Trans Woman - an incredible zine (I think the first of its kind) with incredible images and very detailed information.

Girl Sex 101 (not specifically about trans women, but gorgeous and thorough, and inclusive of trans women)

Thank you

for sitting through this hugely long guide for writing fanfiction smut with trans characters. If you have any feedback, feel free to DM or message me. I have done my best, and also I imagine I may have missed the mark in some ways.

If you want to add anything on to any of these guides, please feel explicitly invited to reblog it and add commentary.

If you'd like to toss me a few dollars for the almost twenty hours now time that I spent creating this guide, here is my ko-fi.

(If you missed them, here are part 1 and part 2.)

[spookypotato]

Leo - Just Leo 2

Characters by @lumosinlove

Thank you to elisa my beta <3

And thank you everyone for being invested! I did not expect people to care that much, but I'm happy you did :))

part 1

TW: coming out, anxiety, stess

He started sobbing. This is ridiculous. Everything was alright. Nothing had gone wrong. He could cry if they rejected him. He could cry, if everything he feared for became reality. He should not do it now. He had no reason to. 

Finn’s hand on his back and Logan’s on his knees, drawing small circles with his thumbs, grounded him a bit. He tried to focus on his breathing. Leo knew the process. He counted things in his head, took a few more deep breaths and the tears pretty much stopped again. He could feel a hand on his cheek. 

Finn wiped away the wetness there and Leo had to actively hold back the new ones that were threatening to roll down. He inhaled deeply. 

“There you go.”,  came in Finns voice from next to him. “Are you alright, baby?” 

Leo only nodded. He didn’t trust himself with words just yet. He should take a few minutes to calm himself down and then tell them. Bursting into tears in between his words wouldn’t be good for any of them. 

Finn’s hand stopped on his back, feeling the muscles underneath it relax. He slowly got up and went to the kitchen. 

“He’ll just get you some water. Can I do anything else for you, Nutty?”, Logan asked as he also got up to move next to Leo, his hand replacing Finns. 

Leo shook his head. He could feel his throat getting less tight and letting more air through. Maybe even enough to start the conversation, the one he wanted to have for quite a while now. 

He hadn’t practiced. He still had no clue what to say, but he had his boys next to him and his determination had returned. 

Leo downed the glass Finn had brought him. It helped, he was positive, he would get out more than a sentence without crying again. He could do this. 

“So”, he croaked out the same fucking opener he wanted to use less. Now was not the time to try to change his habits. 

“So”, he tried again. Fuck it. “I have something I wanted to talk about with you.” 

Both of his boys looked at him. He felt less nervous now that he had started and was still feeling their hands on his back and knees. He turned a bit to face them both more fully. 

Just start in some way. 

“I don’t want you to call me your boyfriend anymore.” 

And damn. He could have said anything else and it would have been less stupid. He needed to fix this. Logan’s hand was no longer on his back and Finns had simply fallen to the ground next to his feet. He looked over to Logan, who’s eyes were beginning to become shiner than usual. He looked hurt. 

Of course he looked hurt dumbass, you basically told them you want to break up with them. He hit himself mentally for his poor choice of words. 

“Leo, do you not want to be in a relationship with us anymore?”, Finn asked softly, his bottom lip worried between his teeth. 

Seeing both of them this distressed at once seemed to snap him out of his paralysis. 

“No! No, no, no, no, no. I really, really don’t. I would never. You two are the best thing that ever happened to me. I love you so much I meant it differently. I’m sorry.”, Leo had forgotten to take a breath in between. He needed to correct his mistake. He needed them to know how much they meant to him. 

Finn’s expression turned into a more relaxed one, which quickly became confused. “I love you, too. Why don’t you want to be called our boyfriend anymore though?” 

Finn left the question open ended. He provided no potential answers. He didn’t try to guess what was going on, he just asked and Leo was grateful for it. 

He started again. “If I’m going to say this, I need to say it all at once. So until I’m done with the main part, please don’t interrupt me, yeah? I don’t know where this bravery is coming from, but it’s bound to leave at some point. Can you do that?” 

He looked at Finn, who nodded. They both looked over at their boyfriend. Logan was clearly still not over the fact that, Leo almost told them he wanted to end their relationship. A few tears had rolled down his cheeks and Leo moved his hand to wipe them away, tilting his head up so green eyes met blue. 

“Can you listen to me, sweetheart?” 

Another tear rolled down Logan’s face and Leo wiped that one away too. He saw the brunet nodding. 

Okay, here goes ... everything, he thought to himself.

“I’d like you to use they/them pronouns for me, please.”, Leo saw things click behind Finns eyes, but they both knew Leo wasn’t done, so the boys listened as they continued. “I’ve thought about this for a good amount of time and I’m not completely sure how I feel, but I don’t feel like I’m a cis man. I know I’m trans. I figured that out, but I don’t know what label would fit me best yet. I do however know, I’m not a man and I’m not a woman. That’s why I’d like to try out they/them pronouns.”, their stare was fixed on the ground. Leo couldn’t bear to look their boys in the eye. They couldn’t bear a rejection. Curiosity got the better of them though, and dragged their blue eyes slowly off the ground and into brown and green ones.

Leo knew, their eyes must look stressed, nervous or even desperate, but they needed some kind of reaction. 

“If I call you Leo, are you fine with that?”, Logan’s voice came from beside him. Not disgusted or distant, just as loving and considerate as it always was. Hope bloomed in Leo’s chest. 

“Yes.”, they answered the question. “Leo is perfect. It’s gender-neutral and I like it. It makes me feel comfortable. Thank you for asking.” 

This didn’t feel real. Neither Logan nor Finn had moved a muscle in an effort to get up or scream at them or push them away. They were both simply sitting on the couch next to them, listening. 

Finn must have seen the distressed expression on Leo’s face and moved closer, his thigh touching the blonds. At least Leo now knew he couldn’t be that disgusted with them, that he couldn’t even bear to touch them. That wasn’t a lot, but it was a piece of hope Leo didn’t want to let go. 

“Peanut, baby. We love you.”, Logan moved closer to them as well, putting his hand back on Leo’s back, “We love you for you. That will never change. I don’t care what your gender is, the thing I care about is that you are you. That you’re comfortable in your own skin and feel understood and accepted and loved. Unconditionally.” 

Leo was so close to tears again and when one slipped down their cheek, they couldn’t help but let the rest stream down as well. They weren’t sad, but the pure relief they felt was enough to coat their cheeks with tears. 

Logan and Finn knew. Both of them just moved closer and hugged Leo. It was grounding and it actually slowed the sobs down that had started escaping their lips again. Just as Finn pulled back and kissed them on the cheek, Logan whispered in his ear, “Sweetheart, we love you for you, not for your gender. Nothing can change that.”

~~~

The following Monday, there was luckily no practice, so they all slept in. The doorbell was what woke them up at about 9 am. 

Finn grumbled something an got up, kissing them both, Leo on the shoulder and Logan on his cheek, maybe whispering something, but Leo was still to sleepy to care. 

What they did however care about, was Logan getting up as well, leaving them alone in their bed, cold and with no body heat to snuggle into. 

After a few minutes of rolling around, trying to get comfortable again and failing, they reluctantly got up as well. 

“Leo!”, he heard a shout from the main room. 

Answered by Finn in an almost scolding tone. “Let them sleep, Logan. They had a few stressful days.” 

It warmed Leo’s heart to hear them use their pronouns correctly, even after only a day. 

Their boys were in the living room, grinning at them like they knew something Leo didn’t. They probably did. 

Leo was almost in front of them as they pulled out, what had been behind their backs.

Light blue, pink and white was staring back at them. Logan and Finn had bought them a trans pride flag. 

Both of them were beaming and Leo couldn’t help themselves from covering their faces in kisses. They really were loved. 

“We can get another one, if you decide on a label, you like more, but we got you this. You also don’t have to keep it, we just thought you might like it.”, Finn told them.

“And it’s a part of you and as we in this household love all things Leo Knut related, we wanted to have a symbol for that. For you figuring out your feelings.”, Logan added. He got a bit quieter at the end, like he was questioning if they had done the wrong thing. 

Leo’s eyes, their fucking eyes, just didn’t want to give them a break. Tears were starting to form again and they had no way of stopping them. Logan and Finn accepted them. Not only that, they embraced Leo’s gender identity. And they had shown them, just like Eloise and Wyatt had. 

“Thank you.”, Leo got out through their tears, “I love you both so, so much.”