#this blog stands with the trans community

[wilwheaton]

Who are you? Wil wheaton is a straight actor married for 20 years to a woman. Is this just an avatar?

Get ready for me to blow your mind...

Straight actors married for 20 years to a woman can love and support and stand with entire communities of people who are ... wait for it ... different from him! He can be a cishet white dude and still show his love and support for people who don't benefit from his privilege and status!

CAN YOU BELIEVE IT? BOOM.

[boytransmission]

Touch me? Grab me? Fill me?

Top surgery fund! <3 Wishlist

[motherlove]

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A flag for transgender age regressors who are non-humans. This can be used by any regressor who identifies as trans in any way. Inclusive of all non-human identities.

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[northern-passage]

Genuine thought as a fellow trans dude, I’ve seen a lot of (obviously non-serious) questions on other blogs about characters’ genitals such as “how does it look like?” and similar, and I think we all know & understand that such questions are extremely inappropriate to ask and (I hope) no one would actually go around asking these questions irl. Idk, I think we should treat trans characters just like cis ones, without any special “precautions”, so to normalise them and not make cis people treat them like fragile boxes, a thing which happens to a lot of us irl. Hope this doesn’t come off as an attack or anything lol.

no worries, i didn't take this as an attack at all. i actually agree with you, that's why i mentioned feeling conflicted about it and also mentioned that i've changed my stance on how i felt about handling Noel and Clementine in game and in explicit intimate scenes.

however, for me the problem comes from the fact that people... don't ask these kinds of questions about cis characters? i suppose people do get cheeky "who is the biggest 🤪" asks but i would hardly compare the two. to be a bit crude, no one is going to be asking if a cis character has a dick or not, or "what does it look like". of course it's natural for people to be curious, and i honestly encourage the open discussion and am happy to see trans bodies being talked about more in a positive way, but not everyone is going to be comfortable with it due to the inescapable transphobia online and in the community. sending me that kind of ask is like sending out an invitation for a debate or a discussion that i don't necessarily want to have. i also just don't think people should default to asking a random IF author on tumblr dot com to describe what bottom growth looks like.

and with most of these asks typically coming from someone who is anonymous, i have no way of truly knowing what the tone is, what their intentions are or why this is being asked - is it another trans person? or maybe someone who is just genuinely curious? or, more likely in my experience, is it someone who is going to immediately follow up this message with something transphobic after i answer? do i want to roll the dice and find out?

so while i agree with what you're saying, it's important to consider the context and the reality we live in. the IF community is not kind to trans people or trans characters. and as a trans person, my first priority is protecting myself and my mental health. so what i mean when i say "precautions," is that those precautions are for me, because i've had to deal with transphobic harassment here for years now, and i try to mitigate it as much as i can. it's also for my personal comfort - again, to be blunt, i'm simply just not comfortable discussing a trans character's genitals with anonymous strangers on the internet. it makes me feel vulnerable.

also i do want to say i didn't mean for any of that to come across as a dig at other authors - if you're comfortable answering those kinds of questions, that's really only something you can decide for yourself. like i said, this is just coming from my own experiences in IF and for my own personal comfort - i have previously talked a lot about trans stuff and gender and sexuality here, when i'm feeling up to it, but it is something that is very draining for me and can also be very upsetting.

basically: i do agree that it's important not to other trans characters or treat them any differently than cis characters, but i also think there are ways to do it that don't require me answering invasive questions or questions that i don't feel comfortable with as a real life trans person, you know what i mean?

[steakout-05]

saw some really triggering and horrible shit in the absolutely rancid shithole that is radfem tumblr so here is a reminder that TERFs are not, never have been and never will be welcome on this blog. i will not tolerate any hate or bigotry for trans people (or any people, really) on this blog, and if i gotta see people spewing any sort of that shit on here, it's blocked on-sight. take your blind hatred somewhere else, preferably where no one else can see or hear it.

[grossbabygoblin]

The hate on my last post got me thinking…either someone let their whiny terf ass kids have un supervised internet access. OR some grown ass adult terfs w brains the size of a grain of rice are running rampant on here bc they got nothing better to do while living unemployed in their parent’s basement at 30 years old.

[tariah23]

Whoever keeps sending me asks about the anon post I deleted, it’s over.

[snekdood]

Quite honestly, i think people just dont like to acknowledge how many times i have been victimized bc it doesnt work for their narrative of the Scary Bad Trans Guy With No Regard For Others And Likes To Kick Puppies And Doesnt Know Real Pain Or Trauma

[majoringinsarcasm]

Still thinking about that one reply on that one post and I am in fact still pissed about it

Using intersectionality as a way to shut people up talking about their own issues on their own blog is really fucked by the way. Acting in defense of trans women by telling a trans man he’s oppressed for being Trasn but not a Man as if the two don’t go hand in hand is fucked actually. If you’re not Black and you use Black people and their oppression as an example of why trans men don’t have problems “big enough” to be talked about but your previous post implies Black men are oppressed for being Black and not Men as if those two things can be separated? just know that you’re kinda shit. I am Black and I am trans and I stand by trans women 100% but I will never use another’s racial or ethnic oppression to put down other trans people. I will never tell them to shut up and listen to someone else as if I don’t have room to support both. As if I don’t have room to talk about the systematic erasure and violence trans women face as well as the erasure and different type of violence trans men face. Mine is not a well that runs dry. I do not have to put one over the other because there are ways to support all trans people. And yes that includes listening to them. But all of them. YOU deciding who is Deserving of support and community while talking out your ass will never sit right with me.

Some people have never been humbled and it fucking shows.

[dinahthemighty]

Thank god I'm done with that application so I can concentrate on what my body apparently wants to do today: be horny

[wilwheaton]

Hi Will, I know you've been a supporter of trans rights such as being critical of Dave Chappelle and his recent special, but what is your thoughts on JK Rowling?

My first thought is fury. Rage and fury at the pain she gleefully heaps upon people who just want to exist in this world.

Then my thought it sadness for the millions of people (trans, especially) who love Harry Potter, who found comfort and fellowship in the books, movies, and fandom, who woke up one day to find out the woman who created it all is a hateful, ignorant, cruel, despicable person who is beyond redemption.

I've written extensively about separating the art from the artist, especially as it relates to projects that are the result of many hands. In this case, it's not that difficult to separate those wonderful books and everything they meant to my son, from the woman who wrote them.

It breaks my heart that she told this story about a world where someone who is unseen and bullied is actually extremely special, turned out to be this hateful piece of shit.

And I come to feeling so disappointed, which I imagine is nothing compared to the people who rightly feel betrayed.

Which brings me right back to fury. Shame on JK Rowling. I hope she is remembered as this virulent, hateful, cruel, selfish and ignorant bigot who also wrote some books that a generation loved in spite of her. And hopefully her estate makes some efforts to repair the harm she's caused, once she's gone from this world.

Trans people matter. Trans rights matter. I will never back down from this fight to ensure that every trans kid is protected. I will ALWAYS go with you.

[thehealingsystem]

Now I've seen this kind of argument before and I do know where you're coming from but I still don't feel that it's really that relevant to this discussion at all

Not a single person is entitled to dating a multigender/genderfluid person. That just applies to relationships in general. If you're gay/lesbian and don't want to date a multigender or genderfluid gay/lesbian, then that's fine. That's in your right, and it's wrong to force anyone to do that

But what IS a problem is being upset that multigender/genderfluid gays and lesbians exist in the first place. I think people have this idea that if woman-aligned gays and man-aligned lesbians exist, then they are gonna be forced to be attracted to a gender that they're not, or ruin what it means to be gay or lesbian. When that's simply...not true

I get it. "I'm a lesbian, I'm not attracted to men, if multigender lesbians who are man in some way are allowed here, then doesn't that invalidate me?" That's what it is. It's a completely understandable concern. But I just think it's projecting onto people that haven't done anything. There's people in the gay and lesbian communities who ARE willing to date or ARE dating someone who's identity falls into that. And that's great for those people. If someone else doesnt? Then that's great too. All I'm saying is to just let them exist

It's so wild to me that as a community we're still so hostile to multigender and genderfluid people existing in gay and lesbian spaces.

You...are aware that people who are both men and women are allowed to be gay, right? And lesbian? Their other genders doesn't cancel their connection to womanhood, or manhood, or whatever else they id with. They are allowed to be gay despite their fem-alignment, and they are allowed to be lesbian despite their masc-alignment.

It comes from these weird online spaces that the standard to be gay or lesbian is to be a "non-woman" or a "non-man," which is inherently transmultiphobic and...extremely ahistorical. And completely misunderstands nonbinary identity. So if you're both then you just don't belong anywhere I suppose.

[motherlove]

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[sinfvlwishs]

( so uhhh idk i've been thinkin abt opening anon asks on this blog cuz i think it'd be fun to answer anon questions esp if they're teasy about the boys but idk. thoughts from anyone? )

[unlimitedbutchworks]

sometimes i get so frustrated about how many transmisogynistic users get reblogged despite their reliable-to-the-point-of-predictability episodes of vitriolic hostility against transfems or absolute lack of care in spreading hearsay about us that i think of making a big blocklist or callout, but its a foolish idea because callouts are only for making a spectacle and Other of someone in order to reinforce norms in the in group. transmisogyny callouts never spread to a large audience for this reason; as a rhetorical tool, they are not for enacting justice.

and even if they could, i stop myself, because they're a stupid way of trying to stop bigotry in the first place. we should be striving to be able to recognize bigoted rhetoric and challenge it ourselves, to stand with the marginalized in our communities, rather than making the victims have to point out The Bad Ones over and over since you can't see. and clearly, you can't see! because i cant hardly scroll this website and see an acquaintance reblog a post without recognizing op as either an open transmisogynistic themself, or a useful idiot for transmisogynists and spreading their callouts. (many of which included private pictures and nudes for "evidence" towards their evil kinks; to make this clear, revenge porn with a coat of progressive paint.)

but time and time again, nobody sees the problem when it happens to trans women. its all a pretense to voice preconceptions of disgust to trans women. they dont really believe that making shitty posts is equivalent to actual sexual abuse, just like they dont actually believe that wearing thigh highs is pedophile-coded, its all just excuses to hate trans women like they want to. for them, its just finding excuses to put in the keywords that turn peoples brains off and play into their bias. oh, sure, i cyberstalked literal years into her private nsfw blog to dig up that nude and match it with a selfie from her main and i put both in the callout im spreading around, but why would that be bad? dont you know she calls her girlfriend mommy in private sometimes? look, i did mental gymnastics to equate this consensual roleplay to real world harm, its totally pedo-incest coded! look, i said shes into raceplay apropos of nothing just to get people pissed at her, but you're not gonna check, right? why would spreading that and her nudes- sorry i mean evidence of her crimes to more strangers and exposing her to transphobes be bad? how can it be sexual harassment when the woman person really really deserves it i promise?

[lycandrophile]

next time someone tries to tell me people don’t demonize and act violently toward trans men and transmascs, i’m just going to make them read this reply i got to a positivity post that was specifically about trans manhood and transmasculinity. this is basically just every negative thing people say no one says about us rolled into one message that’s aimed directly at us.

and as if this isn’t enough on its own, their whole blog is full of this disgusting shit. it seems to be dedicated to it, actually. (fair warning, don’t look at the next two screenshots if you don’t want to see even more genuinely awful transphobia.)

you can say what you want about how they’re probably just a troll or baiting or doing this for attention but the fact remains that, regardless of their true intentions, these are real things that a real person is saying about trans men&mascs, publicly and proudly and to our faces because they want it to do damage.

i’ve dealt with people like this before, on a much closer level. when i was a teenager, i had a grown woman come into my dms just to send me very graphic and detailed instructions on how to kill myself. literally entire paragraphs with all of the steps she wanted me to take. before i blocked her, i told her she was lucky she sent it to me and not someone more vulnerable, because otherwise she might have real blood on her hands. she just sent the whole thing again.

we can argue all day about infantilization versus demonization, erasure versus hypervisibility, what counts as violence, what words we use to talk about our oppression, and so on. but the reality is, whether you believe people want us dead or not, they clearly do, and a lot of them really aren’t making any effort to hide it. at this point, if you can’t see it, it’s because you don’t care about our lives enough to look at the reality that’s right in front of your face.

before you do anything else, block this person. don’t engage with them directly, don’t give them the satisfaction of the attention they might be fishing for, just block them. but don’t forget that they exist either, especially if you’re not a trans man or transmasc yourself. don’t just block them and move on and forget that there are real people out there who will say these things about us, who genuinely enjoy the thought that their actions might have deadly consequences.

because these are the people you empower to come out of hiding and start being blatant about their hatred when you insist that no one wants us dead, when you openly mock us and demonize us and try to cast us out from the community that we were supposed to share. when even our own people decide we’re an acceptable target, these bigots throw a fucking party because you’ve just told them they can get away with murder as long as it’s our blood on their hands. this particular blog was started recently, and i guarantee it’s not a coincidence that they started it in the midst of a rise in online anti-transmasculinity.

it really is telling, how much hate a positivity post has incited. y’all can’t stand when we talk about the bad things that happen to us, but you hate our happiness even more.