#like you only have yourselves to blame for that shit. for why i hate online queer spaces now.

[snekdood]

Quite honestly, i think people just dont like to acknowledge how many times i have been victimized bc it doesnt work for their narrative of the Scary Bad Trans Guy With No Regard For Others And Likes To Kick Puppies And Doesnt Know Real Pain Or Trauma

[yangxiaoshorter]

I think people thinking that Charlie Morningstar is harmfully naive who needs to learn how world works and that her well intentioned efforts only makes things worse is so insane. Not in universe. It makes sense there, and I'll explain why. But seeing real people online talk about it drives me nuts.

Charlie is not naive or stupid. She is idealistic and most importantly, she has hope. Something most people lost in that world long ago. Because everyone in some ways there is victim of oppression and abuse. And after so long, that state became normal to them. When Charlie decides to actually change things and the unfair system, try to improve everything, heaven reacts by making things worse. So the world, people Charlie was trying to save, blame her. This is a very classic oppressor tactic. Turn people against those who speak up. Tell them "We love you guys but that person or group acted out so now we have to hurt you more. Blame them". When Charlie talks to Adam, he retaliates by saying now exterminations will be every 6 months and not just every 12. Making her seemingly the reason things got worse.

And this all makes sense in universe. But how do viewers, who have more context, fall for this? First of all, we see literally next scene that the change in exterminations is due to their fear that Hell killed one of their own. Charlie was just an excuse. Also, what part of yearly exterminations was good exactly? "If only Charlie was smarter and didn't pick a fight-" then they'd all die slightly slower? Are you hearing yourselves?

Same with EP 4 and Angel. A lot of people blame Charlie for making Angel's situation worse. But like... His situation was already as bad as it can get. She tried to help. She didn't succeed, mostly because Angel shut that door (which is in no way his fault, again abuse victim, very hard to act against your abuser and he later does manage with her and everyone's support). You guys saying it was Charlie's fault is, one, absolving the actual abuser Valentino of blame, and also acting like the situation was in any way okay until she came along. This is something people do to women in abusive marriages. "If only you shut up, and never talked back, and did everything you are told at all times, then he wouldn't harm you". This ends up being the mindset. Valentino was already a horrible person, and abusive, and things couldn't stay the same.

In the penultimate episode, after negotiations with heaven seemingly fail, Charlie is depressed and you see Husk, Angel and others bitterly blame it on Charlie. Husk saying "Why is it that whenever Charlie talks to heaven, we end up in deeper shit?" Again, in universe it makes sense. They are used to how horrible everything is. So it only bothers them that it gets worse. But again I have to question the people with context who agree with this statement. Heaven is pushing back, because Charlie pushed hard enough to make them flinch. They are now retaliating because they are scared their control is slipping. And it ends up being true. Charlie wins the fight. Saves Hell, at least for now. And also, proves one thing no one but her and people who believed in her believed. She proves that someone in hell can still be redeemed and go to heaven.

So all that rant to just say... Charlie is not naive. At least not the way some people make her out ot be. Having hope, wanting to protect people and standing up for what you believe in is not naivety. She has positive outlook on people until proven otherwise (which I do wanna say, she doesn't naively love everyone, once people like Adam or Valentino prove they are scum, she does hate them). She is not a naive little girl in for a rude awakening when she realizes she is fighting a fruitless battle, she is a hero who is doing her best, and clearly succeeding slowly but surely in saving people, inspiring them and fixing a broken system. Being a good person is not equivalent of being uninformed or stupid.

[lavendulaconminatio]

This won’t reach the people who really need to hear it, but Many women like myself have supported trans rights from the first time we learned of the issues. We didn’t suddenly turn into transphobic bigots because some terfs brainwashed us. I used to proudly proclaim “no terfs”! Until I started to realize with a sickening certainty that there are aspects of trans rhetoric that Hates women. Hates it when we talk about female issues. Hates it when we rely on one another in solidarity. Hates it when we name our oppression as females and males as our oppressors.

I’m not going to lie, the crusade to make terf a thing was hugely successful. And now it’s used to shut women up for any transgression online and offline. They could be outright transphobic (which is not an excuse to be sexist) or they could be like me, trans supporter and feminist recognizing the rotten smell of sexism in too many trans activist demands. Our feminist spaces have been eroded. A rape crisis shelter was shut down because it recognized that females fleeing male violence must be allowed space away from any and all males.

But male privilege, it runs deep. Too many of you think you can identify out of male socialization. Too many of you think women are the true evil, not the men who actually kill most trans women of color. White trans people are not nearly in as much danger, and as a whole trans women are not in as much danger of being raped and murdered the way girls and women have been for centuries. Myths about death statistics have skewed perspectives on what trans oppression actually looks like.

I sympathize with the trans plight, but don’t piss on me and call it rain. You want to know why so many women feel compelled to speak out against TRAs? It’s not because you face the worst oppression ever, it’s because you perpetuate sexism and claim being trans means you can’t possibly be sexist. It’s fucked up, and many women are starting to see through the bullshit. Especially since that bullsht smells exactly like MRA bullshit. I mean, demanding lesbians have sex with trans women to make them feel valid is the MRA equivalent of thinking women owe men sex because they were taught from birth women are their playthings.

I have literally no problem with trans existence. I have every problem with female oppression. If it wasn’t for the fact that society is buying this shit and creating real and devastating consequences for women, I wouldn’t be doing this. This blog wouldn’t exist.

I have been personally attacked for not following the groupthink, something I have never and would never do to anyone online. This is real for me, not some online game. No one should be “called out” and attacked for reblogging people you don’t like. Why can’t any of you see how epically entitled that is and practically fascist?

Do I think feminism is perfect? No. Does it have its own issues? Of course. But arguments within feminism doesn’t put rapists in women prisons. It doesn’t remove female bathrooms to create unisex ones and leave men’s ones alone. It doesn’t systematically try to destroy every female space to validate the feelings of a few. For the most part it aims to bring equality to women of all backgrounds and challenge the privilege of men, not make itself feel valid by attacking another minority. Trans rights activists have a laser focus on hating women and some of you think it’s transphobic to respond? Fuck that. And despite my fury at what TRA’s have done to feminism, I don’t hold it against all trans people.

I wish I could look away and not have to focus on trans activism. You all did this when you couldn’t let women be. Now more and more women are seeing through this bullsht and those of you that hate terfs so much, you truly only have yourselves to blame.

[sizzlingpatrolfox]

Wow. I just went back on Twitter since the first few pics/vids at Hobi's party dropped. The amount of nonsense and bashing because of two real photos and one edited photo is unreal.

I always go back and try to make sense of why Jimin gets so much hate. How could one intelligent, sweet, funny, talented, beautiful, caring individual spark so much hate in thousands of people. Is it truly tied to the shipping groups?

The name calling and completely inappropriate commentary on how Jimin is in BTS...

I listen to other kpop music but don't have an invested interest in the fandom and content other than their music. Are you aware of any other kpop member who's received the same amount of hivemind shit that Jimin gets?

I know others have mentioned it, but if all BTS members showed these vile tweets, called out the people writing them, and said this is not what we're about, we don't need your "support" aka go fuck yourselves or even better talk about the current research into cyber bullying, cases of young individuals committing or attempting to commit suicide, etc. I know all the members have received hate and have ugly nicknames.

It's not up to the individual members to change their behaviors to suit the fans or to come out or define their relationships with each other (again) and I wouldn't ask it of them. But surely some good could come out of acknowledging and condemning some of the online behavior and rapid attacks.

Or I'm completely naive and bonkers.

I don't really know why it's like that. A lot of it yes, it's tied to shipping. To jikook especifically, who are we kidding. Jimin doesn't get hate for being part of any other ship.

In my opinion there's another part of it that has to do with competition, because the great majority of that hate comes exclusively from JK and TH stans and there's a lot of competition between maknae line stans. But then again, a lot of those stans are taekookers anyways. So in the end it all blends together.

Then there's a part that to me is probably the most annoying because it comes from people I would call trolls. It comes from people that are constantly throwing racist, homophobic, transphobic and violently sexual hate. Just because they can. A lot of those people are nonwhite/queer themselves but internet has provided them with the possibility to be be hateful just because, so that's what they do.

I also listen to other groups and even tho I don't keep up with them on a moree "personal level", as far as I know, no, I haven't see people go at another so idol so bad like they do with Jimin. Which is a lot to say, because idols get hate all the time, unfortunately. I guess it has to do with the BTS fandom being so big. Maybe if it was a smaller group of people it wouldn't be so bad and it would go mostly unnoticed, like hate in general goes.

I don't think you're naive, I feel the same way. I'm not sure BTS speaking up would do much of difference, but at this point things are so insane that it makes me think they have to try, you know?? Like, what else is there to do to stop it, or at least some of it? We should try everything that we thing could do some good. And BTS speaking up is one of those things.

But then again, I'm realistic and the truth is that it would not stop it. I think that it could prompt armys to show a firmer hand on the people doing the hate. Prompt them to point fingers at the actual problem and not blame it all on "oh you're a solo" because that's just ignoring the actual issue at hand, which is the hate; not being a stan of only one member. Just as an example, you know how if one pjm say Jimin doesn't want to be in BTS, armys are so quick to throw the members' words at them saying things like "but jimin said he's not a soloist you hate him", and then they just turn a blind eye to the actual hate. So, if armys take BTS words so seriously, maybe if BTS said something, armys would get annoyed at the hate too because you know.. it goes against what BTS stands for. But that's the most "good" I think it would do.

[psychicnymph]

what happened to aphroditedolan?

hi everyone. i’m here to address the questions that i know many of you will ask. my sudden departure from the dolan twins fandom was not an entirely impulsive decision, so i’m here to explain.

first and foremost, i deactivated because of the sheer amount of blatant, cruel, and unacceptable disrespect i endured while writing for fun and for free. i would spend hours, upon days, upon weeks, upon months working on projects and i still got this disrespect. people were critical of my appearance, my strong-willed and passionate nature, the way i presented myself online -- but, amazingly, never of my writing. see, truth be told, arrogance in tote, my writing is phenomenal. it was rare that you’d catch a spelling or grammatical error (which is a direct result of my educational privilege, i recognize), each plot was well thought-out, each descriptor would bring the scenery, the characters, the erotic scenes to life; you name it, i took the time to near-perfect it. i wrote, edited, sometimes went as far as rewriting -- my point is, i was dedicated. 

a few weeks ago, i even took the time to completely reorganize my blog; i gathered and linked all the small concepts & blurbs i wrote and put them into a masterlist, on top of updating my fic masterlist to be more aesthetically pleasing, cleaner, and editing pictures myself to put them on both masterlists. i did this because i was excited to continue the two short series which i had started: Let Me Get That For You and A Girl is a Gun. additionally, i had ideas, WIPs, and other projects i was planning and writing for that i couldn’t wait to embark on -- and then, it was like something changed in the fandom.

well, i suppose i can’t say changed. let’s say more like... got exponentially worse.

from the very beginning, there were two types of people who i noticed in the twins’ tumblr fandom: there were those who earned their numbers, and there were those who preached ideas of entitlement. there was also a hierarchy: big blogs, and small blogs. it was like a caste system of its own kind. i’d like to discuss this for a brief moment.

when i first started writing, i was absolutely nobody in the fandom. i wasn’t on other platforms, i hadn’t been a stan for very long, i didn’t know anybody -- the tumblr fandom was where i wanted to start and, for the most part, ended up staying. i mention this because at the time of aphroditedolan’s deletion, i was considered a “big blog.” how did i go from small to big, then? if it’s a caste system, how could i have transitioned?

the answer is simple. the system you all created doesn’t exist. in this fandom, you are either entitled or you are talented, and that’s about it.

i never sat around begging people to like, reblog, or read my work, and i never pleaded for followers. i got them because i put out good, consistent, beautiful writing. i interacted with people, i wrote for prompts, i reached out and cultivated friendships, i did what i went to tumblr to do: write and be part of a community that loved the dolan twins. that’s it. the numbers came through hard work, dedication, and most of all, earning every one of them. 

no one on this earth or any other is entitled to likes, reads, reblogs, comments, kind words, attention, followers, or anything of the sort. yes, everyone deserves those things; no, you shouldn’t just get them. you should strive to earn these things. and honestly, while i think everyone is deserving of a chance, not everyone is cut out to be a writer. not everyone is made or meant for this art. because it’s an art. it’s a skill that needs to be developed and practiced. you can’t just sit down and bang out some writing. you absolutely must be dedicated and passionate about it if you ever want a taste of being successful. and that’s just it; some of you are doing this for the wrong reasons. you do it for the numbers. numbers do not fucking matter. they aren’t even real. it’s just a count of people who have physically interacted with your post, or people who actually decided to follow you.

everyone deserves to have their craft appreciated, but when you just start writing for the attention you think it’ll get you, that’s not a craft. that’s you doing the things you see others doing because you see the attention they get and you want a piece of that for yourself. it’s a shitty, horrible motive. and then, when it’s obvious that writing isn’t your strongest talent or even a genuine passion of yours, you whine about some system that isn’t fair, you create something to blame for your lack of success -- of course, it must be the bigger blogs.

i’m proof that that just isn’t true and y’all are lying to yourselves. in less than a year, i ended up with 4k followers and extremely successful pieces. again, because i earned it. through time, effort, and dedication, i earned it.

another thing that came with the culture of entitlement in the fandom was people being self-pitying in order to evoke guilt in their audience, so that people would go and tell them, no, your writing is so good, keep it up. they did it as a means of getting the attention they hadn’t earned. people got into the habit of trying to use me for more attention. they would feign friendliness, interest in my blog, etc., all to say, hey, can you check out my writing and reblog it?

i don’t fuck with that shit. it’s a huge part of why i had to turn my submissions off and my messages off from people i didn’t follow. i don’t like people who only care about numbers and want to use me for more numbers. it was beyond disrespectful that people thought i couldn’t see what they were trying to do; honey, manipulation is a skill just like any other, and i’m better at it than you are. don’t try it on me.

besides the overly-entitled, suffocating people who would shit on, criticize, and blame others for their low numbers which resulted from their sheer lack of effort and self-awareness (and by this i mean actually stopping to question 1. what is your motive here and 2. is what you’re producing actually good or is it slapped together messily?), there was also the culture of feedback to the writer from the audience. 

it was rare that i’d get any other response on my writing besides “part 2?” “more?” “part 2 plzzzz” “you need to update this” and etc.

how many times is the writing community gonna have to say that those comments aren’t helpful, kind, supportive, constructive, or ANYTHING besides annoying? they’re demanding. they push the idea that they just want more of the same ol’ shit. even after i made it blatantly clear on more than one occasion that i don’t take requests and would not be adding a part 2 to something unless it was upon my own discretion, there were still constant, never-ending, tireless requests for more, or requests in general. it was frustrating and infuriating. i was so tired of repeating myself. and when i stopped repeating myself and started linking people to asks or my FAQ where i had already answered that question, people wanted to act like i had an attitude. people gave me endless grief that i was a bitch, aggressive, had a shitty attitude; no, babe. i just wasn’t tolerant of poor treatment. you should try to start adopting this attitude for yourself. respect yourself and know your worth. it’s really as simple as that.

when the biphobic comments rolled around, i’d had enough. it’s when i decided to take my break, truly because i was furious (as i had every right to be) and because that whole situation made me not want to write at all. all my passion and motivation to finish projects i’d been so excited to do for you guys went out the window. it’s sad that y’all pushed me over the edge this way. i gave it time, i let the wounds heal, i let the anger fade, and i started an official hiatus to do this. i’m also in school again, which meant i’d be less active anyway, and it felt like a good idea to just put some distance between myself and the tumblr fandom. but the distance has only solidified the feeling that i’m just not appreciated as much as i deserve to be. and i don’t mean in numbers. i mean for the amount of effort i put in to get constant backlash on things that don’t even have to do with my writing, to work so hard only to be pissed the fuck off, to dedicate so much time and energy to a group of people only for y’all to erase my identity, send me hate, try to act big and tough and like you’re the shit behind anonymous... i’m good luv, enjoy.

there are also other factors; truths about some of the people in the fandom that are idolized, the constant plagiarism of my work, the overwhelming sense of responsibility that came with keeping up with my blog like it was a job, among other things that i don’t care to elaborate on.

so that’s it. i got tired of the same old shit and i know i deserve better. below, i’ll answer some questions that i think some people may be left with:

are you and luna still dating?

yes. for the last time, yes. we are dating. we are a couple. we love each other. we are in a long distance relationship and we are actually dating. not like two besties pretending to date because it’s quirky -- we are actually. fucking. dating. and no, nothing happened between us to make me make this decision. we are doing great.

are you gonna write ever again?

in my life? yes. for the twins, in this fandom, or on this platform? fuck no.

are you still a fan of the twins?

yes! oh my god, probably always. no matter where they go or what they pursue, i’m there with them. they have made my life better, and i have a lot to thank them for. i’ll just be enjoying their content from alllllllllll the way over here.

are you gonna be blogging about the twins?

not at all. in fact, i don’t even follow rockstardolan because i’m keeping my dash away from all of that. i’m not following any dt related blogs. i’m gonna do my thing over here, and love the twins in private, on my own terms. 

why did you delete all your writing?

in truth, after everything, i don’t even want it to remain there. i essentially wanted to erase my contribution and my footprint on this fandom. plus, having my writing just out and about, having already been plagiarized so i’m sure you can find some things in various illegal wattpad compilations, makes me worry about more people doing that. i wanted to keep that damage to a minimum. so yeah, they’re gone forever. 

what about your friends, people you interacted with, etc?

the people who matter will stay in touch. there are some people i’ve cut out from my life for good because they’re toxic and quite frankly i just don’t like them. i’m done subjecting myself to people i don’t even fucking like for the sake of keeping others happy. but, the good friends who respected me, treated me well, etc, they’ll reach out when they can. i’d say i encourage it, but i have a lot on my plate as is and have a hard enough time keeping up with things in the real world, let alone things online. there’s still love there, i’m just keeping a safe, healthy distance and doing what’s best for me. 

if you have other questions, you can feel free to ask, but i’m really not in the market for new friendships. it’s not that time in my life. i literally cannot handle more than what i’ve got on my plate, and i’m keeping my priorities in order. i don’t care if you think i’m rude, if you think i’m a bitch, if you think i’ve got a bad attitude, if you think i’m a piece of shit, if you’re angry, if you’re sad, even if you’re gonna miss me -- this is for me. i’m letting this out as a big, fat fuck you to the things and people that ruined my experience on aphroditedolan, and as an explanation for the few people who deserve it.

take care of yourselves. do the things that make you happy. don’t tolerate things that don’t make you happy. do no harm, take no shit, and most importantly,

stan the FUCKING dolan twins.

signed,

daniella/dani/aphroditedolan, however you have known me. 

[hollowhollowheart]

1/4 I think a lot of the people who were made very angry by your post is because there is a very loud and very “mainstream” trans lobby so to speak that advocate that homosexuality IS wrong and these people have large gsm media on their side. There are normal trans people who aren’t like this, but the momentum of things such as the cotton ceiling(pls look this up) means lesbians are getting stomped on and are sensitive

2/4 When there are quiet, normal trans women who respect homosexuality and understand that 99.9999% of lesbians are fundamentally incapable of finding them attractive, there’s no issue. When lesbians are being pressured by the Mainstream! community with conversion therapy tactics? When biology is being lauded as fake? There is absolutely an issue.

3/4 Instead of taking this interaction as “all radfems are rude transphobic harpies”, I implore you to look a little deeper into what is causing this strife. Look at the prominent leaders of trans organizations and the homophonic sentiment and sexual abuse they spit out. There are reasons for the anger here.

4/4 Lots of radfems or gender criticals are just women who were tired of being stepped on by identity politics and the rampant misogyny within it or are lesbians who were tired of being harassed. This is a complicated, painful issue that can’t be contained to one posts discourse. If you actually want to talk, ask me to pm you.

5/4 I’m sending these anon because I don’t want hate if my url gets out and I’m on the “wrong side of the discourse”. Please respect that. 👋

I completely understand the anger shown. I do not blame them for all the shit that they’re going through. I never said I don’t understand, I never said I wanted them to angrily defend their position on my post, which only wanted to start a conversation to create understanding. 

I never said “all radfems are rude transphobic harpies.” I don’t know where you got that from. I did say radfems are mean. If you look through the notes, all you see are people calling me homophobic, people calling me a dirty trans person, people thinking that I’m a rape apologist, or whatever. 

I looked through my innocent post one day, and saw people slandering me for whatever bullshit they thought I said. I’m apparently a dumb transgender person who thinks my opinion is right.

Almost no one took me seriously, when I asked for a discussion. I’m trying to understand. I don’t do well with yelling. But that’s what everyone did. They called me clueless, called me this, and that, and told me I knew nothing about the community.

Yeah! You’re right. I don’t know much. I just left my parents, just started to realize who I am. I’m trying to learn. But all I heard was hate.

Newsflash. Opinions are opinions. Here’s the truth: I’m currently questioning my sexuality after being convinced for years by my religious parents that I was straight. I know what homophobia feels like. I’m trying to understand the community that I suddenly realized I was a part of not even a year ago. I’m not transgender. I’m a questioning woman of color who suddenly realized that I’m not as straight as I had thought.

I want to understand. I think we all want to understand. I don’t mind you getting mad at people who are being mean to you. I don’t mind that at all. Believe in what you want to believe.

But getting mad doesn’t solve issues. It breaks down the community. Why are you calling people homophobes online as if it’s the only thing you’re doing? Why aren’t we focusing on real issues that affect people? Like gay people being murdered in not just other countries, but even in places like the United States. Trans people of color are being murdered almost constantly. Gay people are being oppressed in nations like Russia. There are real issues in the world here, not who’s going to sleep with someone else.

I’m not saying your issue isn’t real. I’m just saying that this inter-community issue seems to put all of us in Discomfort Central. We should be able to discuss our issues instead of yelling and calling everyone slurs. We should be able to respect trans people, especially their gender. Misgendering trans people incites violence, incites anger, makes it all worse. We should be able to respect radical beliefs, even if you think it’s a bit too radical. Calling them rude names, throwing around the d-slur, or whatever... that, too, incites anger, violence, makes everyone worse than it already is.

This is no longer discussion and trying to create an understanding. This is just mindless yelling that separates us even farther. Plus, people are yelling to “drop the T” or “take out the L” and all the yelling makes everyone tired, angry, upset...

I understand how these lesbians feel attacked. I understand. I also understand from trans friends that they’ve also encountered people who are both interested and not interested in them. It’s alright. It’s okay. But some people feel entitled. Okay. Cool. Figure that out between yourselves. There are some people that are on the other side of radfems that are extreme too. People that call everyone transphobes if they don’t understand. People that tell lesbians and gay people that their sexuality has to be this or else. Both sides are at fault here. Do not mistake this as a call to hate on radfems. 

But don’t you think talking calmly and bringing up points and trying to be nice... don’t you think that makes people a bit more empathetic, more able to reason with, and more understanding? I know some people have been disrespected due to these arguments. So will you battle fire with fire? Will you burn down the entire community? Put down your swords, your guns, your anger for a moment and realize that we’re all human beings.

We all deserve love and respect, whether you’re transgender or whether you’re a gay person who isn’t interested in trans people.  We all deserve respect, whether you’re a radfem or a libfem. All of us, we’re human beings. I love everyone in this world. My love has only one limit: those who spread hate and injustice.

Will you spread hate through a community that’s already been hated from outside of the community? What will you do when gay rights are challenged across the globe? What will you do? Continue to battle it out amongst yourselves, calling for trans rights, calling for lesbian rights, calling for whatever? There are no winners here. No one wins here. You are deluding yourselves if that’s what you think. 

I know people are still yelling at my post. In fact, I’m glad this is a sideblog so that I don’t have to see it on my main. People are saying stuff, but I don’t bother anymore. I understand. You feel attacked by my thoughts, as if I’m trying to convince you to sleep with trans people. Sure. Go ahead. I’m not paying attention anymore. But... maybe there’s a better way.

My motto was always to preach love and respect, even to those who you don’t understand, those who you don’t agree with. And I’ll continue that, with or without this blog. And I’m choosing without.

If you ever see this, no matter what you believe, know that I wish the best for you. Have a nice day.

[saitouh]

i still remember all those times when my friend got nasty anon messages telling her off because she shipped unconventional pairings (something like takatsukki - i won’t say the exact pairing because i don’t want the bitches to start hounding her again) and simply was just trying to enjoy her pairings by herself in her little corner. 

Along came a self-appointed fandom police who, among other things, sent her messages like,

“if you have to ship XXXXX, why don’t you ship YYYY”

wow! and accused her of things she would never ever do, just because she didn't reblog the pairing YOU like??? then why didn't you just unfollow her? lmao.

the bullying left her, a very shy person, devastated, traumatised, and she took a leave from tumblr. you all have the audacity to act like kind, welcoming people now but in fact you're all bitches in sheep's clothing. the usual shit you spewed out of your mouths on fictional characters thoroughly betray yourselves as how you would act towards real people.

and now you all have the bold audacity to tell us that people (YOU) can ENJOY anything? Specifically, HinoTsuki????

What about the incident a few months ago, when a gintsuki artist who got a message saying tsukuyo brings down gintoki? This anon boldly told the gintsuki artist that gintae is the power couple!! “otae is better than tsukuyo!!!” Oh, so artists not even allowed to draw what they want????? LMAO and you gintaes have the gall to claim that ONLY ONE PERSON HATES TSUKUYO AND CLAIMS SHE IS UNPOPULAR

Pls

every time any tsukuyo fan makes any celebratory posts in the past few years expressing their love for her character and the ship they like, YOU and YOUR cronies just had to come out and cry, “why would people ship this? gintsuki is a terrible ship! tsukuyo is a terribly unpopular character! (untrue claim)” 

Oh but now you want to say you can enjoy anything! Like HinoTsuki!!! And if someone tells you HinoTsuki is like Ginkag (which you ALL are openly against), it’s called ‘instigating drama’. Anything that people do back to you the things you’ve done to others, you call it ‘instigating drama. ‘ Learn the meaning of ‘instigate’, you dmbbch.

With you bitches, people like us can’t enjoy what we like, we have to put up with YOUR criticisms in tsukuyo’s tag, but YOU are entitled to ship ANYTHING and ANYONE with her just because YOU say so. 

Park your ass down and shut the fck up, you vile harlot. When people defend Tsukuyo from being called a rapist by you people, you fcking lie about us mocking rape victims. I will never let this go. This lie is so fcking heinous and is only used for the sake of present yourself as a blameless victim (which you fcking aren't).

"GinTsu and Tsukuyo fans don't even like her" 

This is what you said on your blog when you allowed an anon to call LATS a whore and laughed at her, aero. And now you and your cronies are using the same claim on me. I'm telling you straight-up. I don't give a shit if people don't like me. Your bullying tactics are disgusting. 

You think i'm doing this because i want to be "popular" lmfao who the hell does what i do now to be popular? What the fck. Online popularity, on top of that, lmfao what the fck.

i repeat. i log on, i see shit, i will blast your fcking heads. because this has been going on for years. all my previous posts in previous years on my blog reflect this. i gave up trying to be cordial the moment you bitches use a rape experience to win an argument. AND THEN LIE THAT I MOCKED YOU. this shit is not forgivable. you have no idea what me or other women went through when you used it just to attack a fictional female character, when she was actually the one who was "raped" by gintoki. blaming the female for what you "see" on the surface. typical misogyny.

the screencaps you posted of me back in march last year trying to chase me out of fandom was also laughable. in which one of the caps did i actually mock rape victims? all of the caps you posted and took out of context are still up on my twitter. go and re-read them. go on.

Go ahead and send more vile anon asks, go ahead and repeat more of your behaviour and I will repeat the same vile things you bitches have done to me and my friends.

"you're spreading lies!!" hasaji whined when i brought this all to light.

Lol what lies? The caps are out there for everyone to see. Even when I didn't post all the caps, other people have seen them. People know. Just bc they kept quiet doesn't mean they aren't aware.

You all bitched about me "lying", but when i explicitly gave proof, you go, "You don't know anything about us!"

I know you like to obsess over Tsukuyo, her arcs, her breasts, and then pretend none of those things matter. You like to make a mockery of the moments she had with Gintoki, downplay all the lines he had said to her instead of celebrating your own pairing without mentioning other characters. Why you so preoccupied with what we have? Why you so jelly and so anxious to belittle what we have? Hmmm? And when called out, you then angrily spat out your saliva claiming you didn't want the Love Incense arc for gintae anyway. Have you heard of the fable of the fox and the grapes? Lol. you guys are acting exactly like that fox.

or when called out explicitly, you go, "I-I'm just talking about fictional people! This pathetic saitouh bitch cant differentiate between reality and fiction!"

LMAO. Fictional people? When u called late night love's cosplay ugly? She's fictional? 😂😂😂 When you mocked “oriental” fans? ~ORIENTAL~ lmao. When u called Hijikata's actor short and ugly? Yagira is fictional? 😂😂😂 I mean. Please. You even admitted your assholery has no limit. oh wait, that wasn't what you said. Your limit was somewhere up your ass? I don't remember. it was somewhere really high and deep. Maybe it was a poetic place?

Bitches like you who have no qualms about insulting fictional characters are likely to have no boundaries in insulting real people.

That's a fact.

"We weren't insulting tsukuyo when we make the gif of her being one of the insignificant, ordinary girls gin was hitting on! Sacchan and kyuubei were mentioned in the metas too!!!"

Erm? Thanks for acknowledging your stupidity and algae-in-anus attitude that you threw every other girl beneath the one you ship with the loser male hero? You don't even see where the problem lies, and you have the audacity to reblog things such as, "we love and support girls" LMAO BULLSHIT you women are fcking disgusting

But i'm the bitch, right? You lie about people mocking rape victims, you called people in fandom whores (go back and look at the caps i posted, you stupid fck), you mocked characters who are sold into prostitution, you mocked their feminine values, i can go on? Spite shipping kontsuki lmao "We really love them!" YOU LOVE THEM??? LOOOOL. You mocked them separately as characters and you claim to love them???? You made a comment "kontsuuu <3" on KONTAE artist's twitter who happened to draw an interaction between tsukuyo and kondou (who was looking at otae from a rooftop) and you call that behaviour acceptable?????? I won't hesitate to surmise that your constant pestering of random artists who have NOTHING to do with you is what drove them away.

"Shipping zensachi is character deny (sic), sacchan loves gin! It's terrible and sick"

LMAO but shipping kontsu is not "character deny" ????? Pls. PLS LUNOSA. Gintaes. TsukiHinowas.

Why are you stalking me, exactly? Because i post all your shit out there? Why, though? What i'm showing already exists for all to see. I don't have many followers at all. Why are you scared, when you were so brave to talk shit before? Why are you following me just to get the latest updates on my posts? You're really sick women.

[stellatex]

Nine Questions I Need Teresa Giudice to Answer: Updated

Originally published February 15, 2016 I actually gave up Bravo for Lent, but I've already floundered on day one by continuing to watch, think about, and write about this bullshit. Sunk costs and all that.

So, here is my updated scorecard on the nine questions I needed Teresa to answer if she expected the viewing public to continue watching and supporting her.

1. You said in your statement to the judge during sentencing that you “fully take responsibility” for your actions. You said, “It’s time for me to wake up… I will make this right no matter what it takes.” Why, immediately afterward, in your interview on Watch What Happens Live, did you backtrack and try to deflect blame to your husband while insisting things were just put before you to sign?

In my opinion, she's doing this because she's being coached, either by her lawyer or a new PR team, or both, probably because they mistakenly believe that painting Teresa as some kind of innocent bedazzled Madonna will allow her to keep the Bravo Sunday gravy train chugging along. It's also possible that Teresa's advisors, friends, and various hangers-on, whoever they may be, are telling her how faaaaabulous she is--that's it's obvious she's the wronged party, and that she's so very strong and inspiring, etc., etc.--because they know who butters their bread, and, if history is any guide, Teresa has a habit of cutting out anyone who questions her lies and self deception (as we've seen both on the show and in the news reports about how she fired her publicist, her lawyers, and her co-writer). It's obvious that there are still a few small-time Jersey famewhores buzzing around Teresa in the mistaken belief that she is a queen bee. Typical celebrity yes-men and con-men. We've seen this over and over with celebrities, and it never turns out well, though a lot of people may make a lot of money in the short-term, and get some of that reflected spotlight that they so obviously crave. Regardless, like I said in my original post, if Teresa thinks she can just skate out of federal prison as a sinewy, chilled-out felon and continue to stonewall and deny and refuse to acknowledge any criminal culpability whatsoever, she has severely misjudged the nature of her dubious fame. But more on that in a moment.

Regardless, all of the interviewers asked her a fairly direct version of the question above; shockingly, Andy Cohen pushed it the hardest, asking point-blank, "What did you do? Can you tell us what you did?" And still she played dumb, owning up to merely "signing some papers." Girlfriend, we can all read the indictment. If you're so innocent, why didn't you take your case to trial? You admitted in the process of accepting a plea deal that you were guilty. Accepting a plea deal necessitates that you not only agree to pleading guilty, but that you are fully cognizant of what you are pleading to and that you understand the consequences. We all know what you did, Teresa.

2. You claim to be “business savvy,” telling your husband on an episode of RHONJ, “Like, you know, that’s what I do now. I’m a businesswoman, so I’m thinking business.” You’ve touted your online businesses, your Fabellini drink line, your Milania hair care line, your success as a “New York Time [sic] best-selling author.” So how is it that you are also simultaneously claiming to be a clueless housewife who knows nothing of her own finances, including the assets from said businesses that you tried to hide during both your fraudulent bankruptcy and your sentencing?

See above. This is bullshit.

3. If you are blaming your husband Joe for your ten-plus-years of financial fraud and the year you spent unjustly incarcerated in a federal prison, why are you still with him?

"Because I know he would never do anything to hurt me. He didn't mean to."

Uh, okay. That is also bullshit. Just transparently, obviously, self evidently, undeniably, total bullshit.

4. What would you say to the creditors, banks, and, most importantly, small business owners of New Jersey whom you and your husband fleeced to the tune of millions of dollars? Do you feel any obligation to repay these debts?

Still waiting on someone, anyone, to ask her this obvious follow-up question.

Furthermore, Teresa: I don't want to hear anything else about how this is all Joe's fault, or your brother Joe Gorga's fault, or your sister-in-law Melissa's fault, or your cousin Kathy's fault, or your accountants' fault, or your bankers' fault, or your attorneys' fault. It's not. It's 100% your fault. You're the one who committed the crimes. You're the one who went on national television flaunting thousands of dollars of cash purchases despite the fact that neither you nor your uneducated, clueless husband could possibly ever earn that much money legitimately. And, most importantly, you're the one who cravenly filed for bankruptcy to the tune of $13+ million dollars when you could no longer prop up your charade of nouveau riche consumerism for America's most satanic cable network. You're the one who stole from banks and fleeced businesses. You're a thief, a liar, and, now, a felon.

5. Explain this.

Everybody asked her about this, but instead of answering, she just blamed Joe, who leased it for her (another obvious lie; how did the bankrupt, apparently unemployed felon, who currently has a lien on his house to the tune of half a million dollars, get a lease?). She even blamed Lexus for putting a big red bow on top--which she claims they did because they knew it would be good publicity for Lexus! Uh, okay. I'm sure Lexus wants their brand to be associated with tacky low-life Jersey felons. Sure. Yep. Nobody asked her, "Why not a cheaper car, though?"

6. Why are you and your husband suing your bankruptcy attorney? Furthermore, do you not realize that, in doing so, you will be giving up your attorney-client privilege and opening yourselves up to a new investigation of your finances during the discovery process?

Nobody has asked her this. I am sure she's just say she can't talk about it. But I wonder if these questions have even occurred to her tiny, pisello brain.

7. What are you going to do when Joe is deported?

She demurs on this one, too, probably because--as Vicki Hyman points out--she doesn't want to jeopardize the incredibly small chance Joe has of not being deported per federal guidelines by admitting that she would move to Italy with him.

8. You talk constantly about your love, love, love for your four beautiful dorters. Why did you put them in this position?

I don't think anyone has really asked her this recently, but she is still selling the story that none of the dorters but Gia know what's going on. Which is obviously ridiculous.

And remember how she previously whined on-camera about how haaaaard all of this financial mess (i.e. her multiple felonies) has been on her four beautiful dorters, who don't even have a college fund!

So, you were busy stealing $13+ million dollars, and earning tens of thousands per episode appearing on Bravo, and earning more selling tabloid stories and writing multiple "New York Time bestseller [sic]" books, and buying all those designer clothes and bags and luxury cars, and creating that hideous redone home, and yet you didn't put any of the money aside for your kids? Honey, that's not on anyone but you. And you've made it abundantly clear from your actions that you do not give a single shit about the well-being of your girls. So shut the fuck up with the martyred mother pity party. America ain't buying it.

9. Why should viewers overlook your felonious criminal past and continue to support you by watching RHONJ or buying your books or products?

??????

This is the question.

I, for one, am not.It was clear from five minutes into Teresa's comeback tour that she hasn't changed one whit.

As a fan of the show from the first notes of the opening credits of the first episode, I was shocked when Teresa was sentenced. I had followed the news all day, waiting... waiting... waiting... for the verdicts to come down. And, much like her famewhore family members who allowed their reaction to be filmed (or recreated...) for RHONJ, I was utterly gobsmacked. This zany, silly, thoroughly unserious woman, whom we had all watched for years, was in fact "going away" to prison--and for a not-insignificant amount of time. In that moment, everything changed. This was really real. And I couldn't help thinking about the shock Teresa herself must've felt. She was clearly still in shock when she and Joe sat down for a WWHL special with Andy less than 24 hours after their sentencing.

But it was also kind of cathartic. It was obvious to everyone that the Giudices were Up To Something--from the first episode with the wads of cash and carefree spending. Having followed the case closely and read the indictments, I was not surprised--not really. Even as someone who had a love/hate relationship with the Bravo character called "Tre," it was an awful thing to witness--but it seemed just. And there was a sliver of hope there... that maybe Teresa would, finally, be forced to her own personal reckoning. Maybe, just maybe, all that time away from her children and the onyx manse and the cameras might give Teresa's limited mind the space it needed to feel a small glimmer of shame. That maybe the dawning light of that shame would lead to some actual introspection. She even used the vanity vehicle of "Teresa Checks In" (which I maintain should've been called "Teresa Goes Away") to brag about how much praying she was doing in there. I think many of us more savvy viewers were really hoping she was experiencing genuine remorse.

But nope.

The truly staggering thing to me about all of this is that even eleven months in federal prison wasn't enough to lead to any moral progress at all for this self-obsessed, brain-dead, glitter-bombed Portrait of Dorian Gray.

She will never change.

She is irredeemable.

Her story is over.

There is nothing new to see here. Watching the continuing cautionary tale that is Teresa Giudice is not only a waste of time and potentially personally morally corrosive, but--even worse--it's boring.

And the cherry top? Her blithe, casual endorsement of the candidacy of Donald Trump. I wasn't expecting that--though I probably should've--and it is so much more perfect than either of them could ever realize.

Both of them think they're famous; but, in reality, they're only infamous.

[wuh2k]

Lmao, that's...the exact opposite of the message in this post. I love the "the logic and reason behind MGTOW makes me angry" bit followed immediately by "because they are right and I hate that WE are" just accidentally outing yourself as a MGTOW.

Like this whole bullshit narrative that all women only want men who are rich, with a car, house, retirement plan .etc .etc is so much the complete fabrication of guys, you precious MGTOWs especially. It's a deflection tactic to distract from the fact that you've nothing interesting to bring to the table and the personality of a soggy napkin. It's why so many guys advertise "I have a house, job and a car" on their online dating profiles when no one gives a shit.

What's even funnier is that MGTOWs, InCels, whatever simultaneously hold the opinion that women ignore them when they do have a car and a job and a house to get with unemployed felons.

I never had my life together til after I met my now wife. Never had an issue with women romantically or sexually. Certainly didn't have an issue meeting her. Why do all you frustrated virgins make up these ridiculous, illogical fantasies about why women don't want you instead of just looking in the mirror and saying "Hmmmm...maybe it's simply because I'm utterly unappealing and uninteresting" then go work on yourselves and grow a motherfucking personality instead of crying about it and expecting a woman to drop into your lap for no other reason that you want one?

Become a better non-bitter person who doesn't blame everyone else for their shortcomings, or just fecking go your own way already and stop crying about it 🙄

Some women are willing to grow with a man, if that man is worth it.

[drarryislifebetch]

STORY TIME!

I've just been wanting to get this out because it's been stuck in my head for a while now and I don't think I can hold it in (+_+)

( Tw: abuse, self harm )

So anyways, back in around August/September 2018 I was added to this one group chat by a mutual friend and already felt out of place. I spoke to ONE person and that was about it. We bonded over questionable things for people who barely know each other things like casual flirting, kinks and what not. In the beginning it was all she wanted to talk about (we both are girls) and it would always end in me asking sorry for whatever reason and her acting up and just making me feel like shit in general.

She's around 2-3 years younger than me and she was 14 when we first spoke. Yeah I didn't know she was that young until much later. And we'd be talking random shit, we got pretty close but she never once showed me her face. Understandable tho, I wouldn't advise you to go sending pics of you to someone you've been talking to for just a month. We shared our stories, gossiped, bitched about ppl we hated and what not. But we tried to talk as much as possible despite the time zones.

She had this one friend. She's 14 ig? Prolly 15 now idek. So one day, my mutual told me she was hanging out with her best friend (Lee) and she kept sending me pics and videos of the girl. I just thought, hey friends doing weird shit together, nothing much. I replied that Lee was cute. A 14 year old child, I didn't think any other way. She just kept on sending me pics and videos and I told her to stop, it wasn't good. She did.

Lee texted me not even a few minutes later. She's like Hey, heard you been calling me cute sup. And I'm like yea you are a cute girl. She took the compliment tho, she said she wanted to get to know me better. And this is where I made a mistake. I thought probably we'd just get along and talk, the three of us. but she had other plans.

We talked a lot, she got to know I was Bi from my mutual, I told her I was, and asked her why. she just let it be. Then after we started talking for a while, my mutual (let's just call her Ri), To texts me she needed my help and that Lee liked someone. I was down to help. They kept me waiting and I eventually found out they were talking about me.

Lee liked me.

This is the first time someone, let alone another girl, has told me they liked me and I was just blank. She told me I made her Bi. And she really wants to be more than friends with me. I didn't know how to respond and I just told her I needed to think about it. She just replied okay, and Ri was worried about Lee, that I'd done something wrong to upset her or smth. I was already going through a tough time mentally due to issues in school and so I didn't want to deal with anything else.

First things first, she's a child. Say what you want but 14 year olds have much more important things to worry about than a virtual love life over fan accounts across seas. I know distance isnt an issue when you truly love someone but is 14 the age to decide?

I also had my Assignments during that time so I couldn't really go online but when I did get back, I had a lot to hear from Ri. She was MAD at me like FURIOUS mad.

I'm like dude, what do you want me to do. She's like idk just make her happy again and then I texted Lee, she asked me the same question and I replied I don't really think I'm ready for this right now. I didn't know what to say. She was a sweet girl and the things that ri told me Lee was doing to herself was just upsetting me too much.

Apparently she hadn't been eating, she had shit out people because I wasn't responding to their texts and she had been burning her fingers. Like lit matchsticks to her hands. I was overwhelmed. I didn't know what to do what to say ANYTHING.

So I just let her be and she thought I'd agreed on our "relationship" if there was ever one. Like she used to text me if she could call me papi because I called everyone bub. I was like go ahead I guess idek what that means. It went too far and she started sending me too many confession texts and it only made me feel guilty.

So I told ri I couldn't do it anymore and she blames me. I don't know if she's right or wrong and she never listened to what I had to say anyways so I told Lee I didn't want to do this because of a certain incident prior to this and I opened up to her about a story of how I was inappropriately stalked and touched by someone I trusted. So I told her I don't want anything to do with online relationships and so I'd appreciate if she understood and if we could go back to being friends. She just replied, "I know you like Ri. I'm sorry, I won't bother you anymore" and I was like WHAT.

she took a look at mine and ri's previous texts and she thought I liked her because all ri talked about was getting laid and her trying to dominate me. I told her a hundred times to change her behaviour, and not speak that way but, as I told, she could care less about what I had to say.

This shit took another turn when Ri came back online. She was like you ruined our friendship and whatever whatever and she wanted nothing to do with me. I was like as long as I can get out of this mess, I'll take anything I can.

We didn't speak much at all after that, and one day she'd posted a question poll and I thought I didn't want to lose a friend so I just chimed in and typed in 'tbh?' and she replied. Now I wish she hadn't.

Quoting her exact words, 'tbh when it was good it was good. But you turned out to be a lying piece of shit who goes around hurting people just because you couldn't hold your shit together.' and Idek. You guessed it.

that hit my weak spot, my self esteem went underground and beyond and I was a wreck, damn. Then I spoke to my irl friend, only about the last part didn't really feel like saying everything and all she told me was this- 'if you aren't on good terms with them now, there's a reason. Don't beat yourself up on what they think about you. I know you, and please open your eyes and see yourself. Don't let them tell you what you should feel about yourself.'

And I felt better. Although I cried during that break. It felt better to just let it all out.

Why am I telling all this shit now?

I guy I know is probably into me, according to my friends, and he just called me. And I remembered all of this when I heard his voice.

So yea just thought I'd share it with you.

One thing tho, if you want to care for someone, do so. In a pure way. She think I was probably a lusting horny 16 year old and now that we've blocked each other on every social media handle, I can't check on them even if I want to. Before you speak think twice of the consequences, take it however you want, you might be "leading on" a child or you may ruin someone's entire perspective of love, or crush their self esteem that they've been struggling with.

So yea, take care of yourselves, love yourself first, make yourself your first priority, relationships can come later. Thanks for listening to this shit here's a puppy