#they trans their genders good for them good for them!

[sombraglaze]

thanks for the tag!! ✨

I didn't know I was trans back when I made the username, my actual name made me uncomfortable (it was dysphoria obviously, but I didn't know anything about transness at all so I didn't put 2 and 2 together), I wanted a replacement for my deadname basically, because I wanted to make friends online and I wanted them to be able to use something other than my actual name at the time. That's why it's "Sombra Glaze" it's literally meant to look like "first-name last-name" lol

I picked Sombra because it seemed kind of gender neutral to me (in mlp:fim it's used for a male character, in Overwatch it's used for a woman) and having my gender be ambiguous made me feel good for some reason, I had never heard of gender euphoria before. Even after I figured out I'm a woman the name still works because Sombra is a feminine noun in Spanish so it feels somewhere between femme and neutral, which is perfect for me.

And I picked Glaze because one of my favorite brony songs back when I was an edgy kid was Awoken by H8 Seed and WoodenToaster, and it turns out that WoodenToaster also goes by Glaze, so I just.. stole that part of his username LMFAO because why not I guess, it didn't feel gendered to me so it didn't give me any dysphoria and I thought it was really cool, didn't even bother to look up what the word Glaze meant, I just yoinked it.

So yeah, the name basically comes from me being a brony and a huge egg (￣▽￣*)ゞ goofy ass name, I'm still kind of fond of it tho.

no pressure tags! @mpicabo @bliamapriori @wrendeavore @moth-of-many-names

Tag game🎉

Tag your moots and ask them where they got the idea for their tumblr accounts name!

For my name it was a nickname I was giving back in middleschool! One of our teacher had a system where we worked with 'wifi' eachtime we talked in class we lost a bar of the "wifi" (was a weird joke and we never held count on that) All the kids usually joked if they needed 'wifi' , they would borrow mine if they wanted to talk more. (I was incredibly shy in middle school, I only talked to like 3 people at school;^;)

They called me Ms. Wifi because of that. I just thought it would be funny if I put 'miss' instead of 'ms' because of my terrible actual wifi connection I have at home lol.

That's my story! Now moots, only if you guys want to, tell us your story.

Tags-> @slipping-lately @firequeenofficial @noagskryf @twinklstarrrr @halfbakedspuds @polterwasteist @rokushi-san @mygedagtes +anyone that sees this and wants to do this as well

[deadmanscity]

With Trump announcing that there are only two genders moving forward in America: I love the jokes, with the good baristas disappearing and whatnot. I really do find them funny.

The thing is, though, nonbinary people are in a way becoming illegal. As well as anyone in the transgender community. Not yet, really.

It may come to that if you are seen expressing yourself as the opposite sex from what you were born, or, in Trumps words, "conception," you will be arrested. Trump is stupid, I swear... (since everyone is proven to be female at conception).

He has also removed around 15,000 people from the military for being trans. That's 15,000 people willing to risk their LIVES for this country. It shouldn't matter if you find it confusing. It shouldn't matter if the only reason they're in the military is to raise money for gender affirming surgery. The only thing that should matter is that they are PEOPLE willing to serve their country.

The only thing confusing about people who identify as the opposite binary or out of them completely is the fact that you don't WANT to understand them.

(Edit: Someone corrected me on a few things, so here is an actual source to check out)

[dykewithbenefits]

Supportive mom of her trans lesbian daughter sucks her cock and lets her knock her up! To be a good ally!

Just a friendly reminder that my advice to cis girls on how to help out their transfem friends also applies to family members! A good cis sister goes naked around her trans sister so she doesn't have to feel gender envy for her feminine clothes. A good cis daughter sucks off her trans mother every time she pops a boner so it won't have to show through her skirt. A good cis mother becomes her trans daughter's free use breeding cow in the name of aiding her transition.

Ideally, all of them would do all of these things. That's just the proper way for a family member to show their support!

[autisticadaineabernant]

My Bad Kids (Plus Some Others) Pronouns Headcannons

Adaine Abernant - Any? She leans she/her but ultimately as a much longer living creature has a much different experience with gender than the usual and so doesn't super connect with the whole gender thing but also acknowledges that she was socialized as a woman

Aelwyn Abernant - She/Her to everyone but Adaine and then it's She/He but only sometimes and she doesn't feel comfortable with it at all because she can't let go of the shame that her parents imparted in her

Ayda Aguefort - They/She Phoenix and long living does make it impossible to be cisgender

Fabian Seacaster - He/Him (Trans Man but transitioned young. Bill Seacaster was a good father in that respect)

Fig Faeth - They/She Nonbinary and I think with the tiefling thing would also not feel entirely like a she/her woman and so that's why they lean they/she

Gorgug Thistlespring - He/They/She. Nonbinary favourite I love them and the many varied pronouns

Kristen Applebees - She/Her but it's loose. Every so often uses new pronouns to help encourage people to try new pronouns. Will unironically use neopronouns if she hears someone making fun of them

Ragh Barkrock - He/Him Cisgender but does learn as much as he can

Riz Gukgak - It/They/He - Also not connected to the human concept of gender. Would probably use the label agender if pressed but doesn't really think about it. Probably tries out some neos in university

[nyaccoon]

While i do support making your own words (it's what the great artists of old did so like coin as many terms as you need)

I understand you point there is no queer rep present in dnd besides the fact that the book says "gender, appearance, sex and sexuality have no impact on gameplay" like that is the closest to queer rep in the game that the company states that it really really doesn't matter

That is as gay as those games where everyone is straight until mc-chan comes along and flirts with them. Queerness is not a part of the game it is an option specifically meant to be missed if wanted and seen if wanted.

(I do like that in bg3 all the romancable characters are bi but also actively talk about their attraction to both men and women like that is good queerness in video games (and shadowhearts childhood best friend is a trans women))

People have objected to the comparison between D&D fans and gaylors in terms of imagined gayness but like. I'm sorry babes, but the gayness of D&D literally is imagined.

D&D has queer representation in its art and fiction, this is true. Does that representation actually matter for the sake of the themes of the game and its gameplay, as presented in the game? No. You can decide that your elf is gay, and hey, who wouldn't, but the game will just stare at you blankly and not do anything with that information. It's literally fluff in the same sense that your character having blue eyes or being left-handed is. As written the game has nowhere to go with from that information.

But even more so, the thing that inspired that post was people insisting that D&D's gameplay and fiction does somehow interface with queer experiences and is, actually, meaningfully about the experiences of a queer found family and sorry I'm not going to mince words here but that part you straight up did hallucinate.

[thaenad]

do u have any advice for building feedist community? esp a queer/trans one. i’ve been lurking for ages but i think it’d b really fulfilling to actually do something about it

I can share how I did it! before starting anything, I named the group (abundance), created a poster with a cute logo on it, and marketed it as a LGBTQ2IA+ and fat liberationist group. I mostly took to feabie, I posted the flyer, put it in my bio description, and then using the location search, I began following people in my area. feabie actually allows you to search by gender and sexual orientation, so I did seek out some queer people in the beginning. I regularly posted messages to the timeline advertising my group with a link to a screening application - a google form with screening questions asking potential members what they want to get out of the group, what would make them feel safest to take part in it, as well as some questions regarding privilege, fat liberation, and consent. this is just a precaution to make sure everyone joining has a mutual understanding of how to participate in a group setting with safety and respect, and consideration for our most vulnerable community members (bc goodness knows there are some creeps on feabie). once folks pass the screening, I email them with a link to our discord server in an initial welcome message describing my intentions for the group and why finding community and spreading fat liberation is so important to our lives. the discord server is where we all communicate and plan events. the first event I planned was a potluck in the park, which took place last may. I highly recommend starting events in the summer where folks can hang out in a safe public space for free. as the group was expanding, I did a lotta reblogging on tumblr, including sharing it to my @fatliberation blog which has way more traction. I also created a group on the queer app lex which brought in a few members as well! HOWEVER. I do live in chicago, where there is a high concentration of feedists. if you aren't near a big city this might be more difficult, but I would encourage starting an online group if that's the case! also, it may surprise you just how many feedists live in your area. I thought that I would be lucky if I got close to 15 people to sign up, but as of today, there have been 58. not only from chicago, but all over the midwest. out of those 58 applications, 45 joined the discord. out of those 45, only 20ish people are active, and out of those 20ish people, usually less than ten people show up to events. but that smaller core group has become an amazing group of close friends. It will take time. so many months of preparation and networking. I think it took close to 7-8 months to get enough interest for that first meeting in may, and since then it has taken almost another year to get into a groove and get to know each other. but after that initial potluck, the ball kept rolling so easily. feedist community is life-changing magic. I had a dream that someday I could have that, so I took a lot of risks to make it happen - all while alone, lost, anxious, unsure if any of it would come together or if I was going about things the right way, just flat-out raw dogging it and carving a path. and it was the best risk I've ever taken. I feel overwhelmingly supported by my peers. I sincerely wish you the best and hope with all my might that you find your community. let me know if I can answer any questions you have along the way.

[gooobraghhh]

hello. chill if nah but do you want to share some advice for teasing/flirting w people? I know this guy, trans, loses it every time I call him "good boy" or "handsome" but I'm running out of tricks!! But he's so fun to teaseeee I don't wanna run out

I mean it depends on the person but if he’s into that kind of thing I can tell you other stuff he might enjoy, leaning more praise because of the examples you gave me. Pretty boy, an actual pet name like puppy, doggy, pet, or something, or like a overly cute nickname based on his name are some options to incorporate. Something id suggest is kind of dropping something teasing on him very suddenly in conversation. Innocently asking him to do something and then being like “aww what a good boy, you’re so good at doing what you’re told” is an easy example/ way to set it up. It’s just super cute to watch them get all surprised and clearly turned on.

Another thing I enjoy for teasing is like a demeaning compliment. Situation dependent but something like “it’s a good thing you’re so handsome/ cute because you’re not the brightest, puppy” after he like doesn’t understand a thing or makes a little mistake. Maybe if you helped him with something random you could say like “what would a pet like you do if I wasn’t here to take care of you”. These are just examples in the nature of what you’re going for, you’re gonna need think of little comments based on what’s happening in your conversation and cater them to what the guy likes. Also think about whats gender affirming when you’re choosing what to compliment and insult. For trans men I usually like to insult their intelligence since being like a dumb blockhead is just kind of a guy thing and usually won’t actually hurt any feelings, I’d lift them up in like appearance (handsome, cute, pretty etc), usefulness/obedience, (good job, good boy, what a good listener,you take it so well etc), or any other trait you know that specific person would enjoy being complimented on.

I’d also suggest possessiveness if everyone’s comfortable. My puppy, My pet, My pretty boy. Be a good boy for me, touch yourself for me, cum for me ( obviosuly more risqué but just add for me to most commands). I find most people enjoy the security and feeling of being wanted that comes with possessive talk and it just makes the praise all the more addictive.

Another thing is if hes responding very positively start making him directly participate. Who’s good boy?, you’re really so desperate for me huh? Tell me how bad you want it?. Just prompt him to respond. Either he does it and it’s adorable and embarrassing or he sputters out because answering is too embarrassing for him and you get to watch him get all flustered. Works well for some degration to, “you’re really such a slut huh?” Or something similar so that he either agrees or pathetically tries to deny it while still actively getting turned on which you can make fun of him for. It’s kind of little conversational trap.

Also keep in mind tone for all of this, I think that kind of condescending, patronizing, overly sweet tone is my go to. It’s kind of like everything he is doing is so cute but in a way thats actively demeaning to him. You don’t have to do that though. A Genuine sounding sweet voice can be very fun if you incorporate a bit more degration. Like someone sounding 100% sincerely nice while they’re calling you degrading names and making fun of you is super hot. Just find what works for the both of you. If it’s flirting over text then there’s only so much you can do but writing out the occasional condescending “awww” or telling him how irl you’re giggling at him can kind of bridge that gap. But like say those things honestly, don’t make up how you’re reacting just share it with him if it’ll add to the dirty talk.

Anyway hope this all helps, break that guys mind for me <3

[argyleteatime]

Hey Tumblings,

Following up on my last post - as America attempts to become a hellscape I've been looking into where I can help monetarily. If you have the resources and want, the below charities all go to good stuff, and have an above 85% rating on Charity Advisor. (These are on top of the well-known names of ACLU, PP, HRC, NAACP, CRR, SPLC, etc.)

For anyone who needs something to remind them of hope and gives straight-forward action options, my sister (who exists in a more positive state of mind than I do) shared Chop Wood, Carry Water with me, and I've found it valuable in keeping my spirits up. If you don't have the funds or energy for either of these, just be kind to yourself.

Transgender Law Center - Trans Rights 

PEN - Freedom of Expression/Literature

CREW - An Ethics Watchdog in Washington

Asylum Access - International Refugee Support

UNRWA - Palestinian Aide

National Immigration Forum - Supporting Immigrant Rights in the US

Race Forward - Racial Justice Fund

NRDC - Natural Resources Fund/Planetary Aide

Elevated Access - Provides free flights to people seeking Gender-Affirming or Abortion Care that cannot access them locally

Americans United for Separation of Church and State - What it says, has been instrumental in access to Birth Control, blocking far-right religious based laws

Lambda Legal - legal aid for LGBTQIA+ communities

[rebellum]

I disagree here with the term misandry, but yeah if you actually talked to the marginalised men in your life and make sure they know they can open up to you about their feelings, you'll find out that "all men suck and all men are inherently bad and evil" actually DOES negatively effect them. It causes people to put off transitioning for YEARS because they don't want to add another man to the world. Many trans men find that when they started transitioning, or when they began to pass more as male, that their friends began to treat them poorly and justify it because they're "men and they deserve it."

Of course there is no systemic or institutionalised general misandry, but it doesn't have to be systemic for it to suck to be told that you who are makes you inherently worthless, or inherently a predator.

Its bad enough that men of colour have to deal with being told they're evil for being poc, adding on to that that they're dangerous BECAUSE they're eg black men so they must be violent rapists, Hispanic men so they must be infiltrating the states to kidnap white women, etc. It's bad enough to deal with the other homophobic stuff without being told that being a man who is attracted to men means you're a pedophile because men, especially queer men, are inherently rapist pedophiles. Its bad enough to deal with medical abuse, and social abuse for being gnc, without also being told that you are somehow both a bad evil man and a h*rmaphrodite freak for being an intersex man.

Of course marginalised men can be misogynist. Most people, regardless of gender, have some sort of misogyny-bias in their mind to deal with! But people being misogynistic is not an excuse for people to tell marginalised men that its good they feel bad about being men. No one should be made to feel bad for something they can't control. And it's grossly anti-feminist to act like there is some major difference between men and women, or "men and non-men", that makes men inherently bad, or inherently violent. By acting like that, you're also giving misogynistic men a pass - that of course they cant help being that way, they're part of the evil rapist class of people. Men can be better, and men DESERVE better than to be told its good they feel insecure and like they suck because of their gender identity.

i find this image rlly funny bc its so blatantly tells on itself like whoever made it thinks that marginalised men cannot be misogynists and has this thought so naturalised in their mind they typed out all these different kinds of men and never considered that they might also be misogynists

[coffinshaped]

Finally read Be Kind My Neighbor and it transed-my gender!!!!!! Jk that egg cracked long ago. IT WAS SOOOOOOO GOOD UGH IM OBSESSED!!!!!!!! I NEARLY CRIED AT THE END MAAAAAAAN!!!! Makes me love being trans tbh!! I need to draw....them...soon

[creator-chaos]

Shouma. My sweet summer child. My beautiful little monster boy. How did you get yourself into this situation? (Continued reflection on the divorce after my Hanto ramble. Thank you @necromanticzz!)

Well, the short answer is that Shouma is debilitating incapable of explaining himself, and it's probably because he thinks there isn't any explanation he can offer. Shouma thinks that he is a monster--a selfish monster.

One of the first things we see from him is agreeing that he's a monster, when the motw mocks him for the first little boy's mother's fear. Then Shouma justifies his presence with the fact that there are other monsters for him to stop.

We see a similar pattern after Shouma meets Dente, and then decides that he'll fight Stomach instead of running. Their selfishness is hurting humans, but Shouma can protect humans, so he has a justification to stay with them.

Shouma never approaches the human world as a place he belongs. We see from the flashback of his mother getting pressed that he'd been called a human by his siblings--that aside from his non-functional gavv, he was treated as basically a human. But he never calls himself human after leaving the granute world--once he can't be pressed, and he's around humans, he's a granute from that point forward.

Shouma is obviously a metaphor for multiracial human identity, feeling like he doesn't belong/qualify as any one thing by the standards of that culture. But how he's handled also reminds me of a trans/nonbinary narrative--specifically, the idea that trans people are treated by society as whichever gender would result in the most harm in the situation. Shouma very rarely even calls himself half-human/half-granute--he's just whatever doesn't belong where he is, neither instead of both.

Moving to his relationship with Hanto, the key factor in Shouma deciding that he doesn't have to keep his distance from everyone, and can go back to be with Sachika, is Hanto declaring that he (as a Kamen Rider) isn't a monster. God, it's amazing how Shouma is in the suit, but the acting still manages to portray that he is just bowled over by getting to be seen as a hero, not a monster. He fell in love with Hanto here.

Then, as Shouma spends time with Sachika and Hanto (especially after the Rider identity reveals), we see how afraid he is of them finding out he's a granute. For Sachika, it seems to be a fear of revealing anything that would upset her, would interrupt her happiness (that he decides is his responsibility). For Hanto, it seems to ultimately be a fear of him deciding that Shouma is a monster.

And Shouma does also feel guilty about hiding his identity--he worries about how it can possibly work out--but it never even crosses his mind that explaining himself could have a good outcome. The issue of trust is clearer on Hanto's end, but it's also there for Shouma--he has no trust that anyone would accept him for what he is. It's not even a consideration that he could. To him, it's a choice between, "Should I keep up the lie so we can be happy together? Or should I stop being with them?"

And when I tell you that when Shouma calls himself selfish for wanting to keep up the lie, it absolutely gutted me. That's what he said about Stomach Inc! About them literally eating people! But just wanting to be happy, wanting to not be alone, is selfish to him, because he doesn't think he has any right to it. *wails*

And finally, when Glotta drops the bomb, his only response is to freeze. Even when it's just Lakia asking if he's related to them, Shouma can't reply. (I wonder if he's going to continue to let Lakia think he's all granute?) But he completely shuts down when Hanto confronts him.

Like, if he had been able to respond to Hanto asking if he's a granute by saying "half," that would have changed the entire interaction! It immediately makes clear Shouma's complicated situation and makes space for explanations. But he couldn't--he doesn't see himself as having any claim to humanity where Hanto is concerned. He's a human to granute, and he's a granute to humans, and he has to earn his place anywhere by making others happy enough to justify his presence.

*deep breath* MY BOY IS SO FUCKING LONELY!!! 😭 HIS AND HANTO'S TRAUMAS ARE SO PERFECTLY POSITIONED TO TRIGGER EACH OTHER'S!!! I LOVE GAVV!!!

(Side note, part of why I have so many thoughts on this is that it parallels another obsession, Mairimashita! Iruma-kun, with the compelling approach to belonging and concealed social identities, and especially with the presumption of "predator" and "victim" roles as part of identities.)

[crazylittlejester]

Could you give us more about trans Time? (If that’s okay!)

Love that hc btw, it makes me really happy ^^

hell yes i can!! I love trans Time, trans that man's gender. oot link is like the vibes of transgenderism compressed into one single silly little guy (gender neutral). however people trans oot link's gender is always correct in my mind (i personally hc him to be ftm but i really do love seeing any version of him that's not cis)

im gonna apologize rn for any typos or oddly autocorrected words im dyslexic and my laptop works against me sometimes lmao

anyways not sure what exactly you wanted to know (and feel free to ask more questions!!) but i think this was in reference to my modern au post so!!:

Time was born in the late 70s (since the au takes place in present day and he is a good 25 years older than Twi), so growing up he didn't really see a whole lot of trans people who could've helped him realize he was trans sooner, especially because his childhood was mostly him having an awful time with his physical health and arguing with his father for the chance to go to public school and not be homeschooled like his siblings (he is the youngest of 6) because he didn't get along with all of them and wanted to meet new people

Looking back on it NOW he can recognize he realized he was trans when he was like, 12, but at the time he didn't really know what that was and just cut his hair short and didn't understand why he got so happy when people mistakenly called him a boy

There was a period of time where he was confused and thought he was a lesbian (he is bisexual) and he dated Ruto for like a year in high school but they kinda ended up becoming friends instead (they're STILL friends), and then he dated Sheik, who is a trans man, and the realization hit him like a bus

He graduated high school and then just kinda dipped off the map, he didn't realy have friends (besides Ruto, and MALON considered them friends but he didn't realize she liked him that much) so he didn't really keep in contact with people except for Sheik (he was also doing pretty bad physically at this point in time), but he started socially transitioning around 18 and was able to start medically transitioning around 20. Not all his siblings were super accepting, and he's completely cut contact with one of them, but his sister closest to him in age who was his best friend growing up was his biggest supporter

(this modern au takes place in a modernized Hyrule kingdom loosely based on where I live because obviously where I live is the best idea I have of how modern sociey works since I'm living in it, lmao, but Hyrule kingdom was a little more progressive in the late 90s and while gender affirming care wasn't SUPER easy to access, it WAS accessable. the main issue for Time was transphobia from his oldest brother and the people from his INCREDIBLY tightknit town, because outside of that people didn't know he was trans)

Malon was fully aware he was trans because she met him before HE realized that, so when those two got together he didn't have to worry about telling her or anything. And they WERE going to adopt kids at some point, but then Time's sister died and her husband had passed away too and she'd written in her will that she'd wanted Time to take care of her baby (Twi), because she wanted him to have a wonderful environment growing up and she trusted Time more than their other siblings even though they'd all already settled down and had their own kids and were experienced parents (also to be fair, she didn't expect to die and leave her 13 month old an orphan. it was just an IN the event of her death kinda thing, she very much would've rather been able to raise her kid herself)

Time doesn't really give two fucks about passing, not anymore, he wears what he wants, but most people DO assume he's a cis man because he's decently tall and has a deeper, monotoned voice. Transphobia does still exist in Hyrule Kingdom, though it's not as bad as it was when Time was a kid, and also the city where the boys' apartment in is incredibly LGBTQ+ friendly (not that that means homophobia and transphobia don't exist, it's just a much safer area to be out that other places in the kingdom) so he doesn't ever feel like he has to HIDE being trans. He goes to pride parades sometimes (when he knows he won't get overwhelmed) and he and Malon are definitely that older couple who give out free supportive parent hugs to people who really need it

Legend in this au is also a trans man, and I wouldn't call Wild cis but he's amab and uses he/him pronouns at the moment while he figures things out (he's also perfectly fine with they/them)

[vashti-lives]

One of my pet causes is children's rights because western culture is strongly built on the idea that children aren't really people and the United States has, to this day, embraced this. I'm sure this is not the first time you're seeing the concept that we as a society don't really consider children people but on the left people tend to assume this is a right wing only problem that they don't need to personally unpack or deal with.

"Just leave your red state" REALLY fucking brings home that the left ALSO has problems comprehending children as people. Even if we lived in a beautiful alternate reality where Mackenzie Scott would personally pay the moving and living costs of any marginalized or disenfranchised person who wanted to leave a republican run state "just leave" would still be a fucking untenable political position because you know who can't "just leave" FUCKING CHILDREN.

Kids do not choose where they're born or who their parents are. Kids have virtually no agency in their life. And they still deserve basic human rights!!! The sixteen year old trans boy I know fucking deserves access to puberty blockers and hormones! My seventeen year old intern deserves an abortion if she needs one! My boss's seven year old who's currently exploring gender possibilities deserves equal access to school opportunities no matter what they end up deciding.

And more than that every child deserves access to health care, fresh food, clean water, safe housing and good education. No matter who their parents voted for!!!! Anyone who's political policies involve abandoning some of THE most vulnerable people in our country because helping them would be hard can go fuck themselves. Every time I see a smug Californian or New Yorker say online that REALLY we should just leave the republicans to their fate I think about every kid we'd be abandoning with them and it makes me want to give them a goddamn swirly.

There is swiftly going to come a time when many marginalized people are going to have to make the fucking heart breaking choice to leave places they love because those places are too hostile to stay, but that's not something anyone can do lightly. In the meantime every time I see a more privileged person tell someone marginalized they should "just leave" their fucking home I want to ask-- are you going to take their place? Because right now in red states all over the country fucking nobody is working harder to make kids lives better than the marginalized adults around them and who the fuck is going to do it if we all have to leave?

How about instead of asking people in red states why they don't just leave, you ask yourself why you don't move here to come help us? No? Okay then, shut the fuck up.

[heyitsspaceace]

don't let their seemingly straight-passing tension fool you, they are still very gay and dysfunctional

[sualne]

have some trans swan lake barbies

[cr1zz0]

eh.. why not both.

multitrack drifting even..