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[viviennemaeve]

The Inside-Out Glow-Up

How to Stop Playing Small & Start Moving Like a Winner

There’s a difference between people who are just seen and people who are felt. The latter don’t beg for attention, they just walk into a room and shift the atmosphere. That’s the glow-up no one talks about—the kind that starts inside and radiates outward.

I thought a glow-up was about changing my hair, my wardrobe, my face. But what actually changed my life? My energy.

Here’s how I stopped playing small and started moving like the winner I was always meant to be.

Step 1: The Identity Shift – Becoming "That Person"

If you’re waiting for something external to confirm you’re important (money, attention, approval), you’ll always feel like something is missing. The glow-up happens when you wake up one day and decide:

I am interesting, valuable, magnetic—before anyone else says it.

I deserve to take up space and be seen.

I no longer play down my personality to make others comfortable.

Ask yourself: If I were already the most powerful, glowing version of me—how would I think? How would I move? What would I tolerate?

Then start acting like that.

Immediately.

Step 2: Unlearning Self-Sabotage & Small Energy

A lot of us were conditioned to be “humble,” to be “likable,” to dim ourselves down. But let’s be real—playing small has never helped anyone win.

Speaking softly so you don’t sound “too much”? Stop it.

Sitting back when you know you have something to say? Stop it.

Not going after what you want because “what if I fail”? Stop it.

Winners aren’t afraid to be seen trying. And trust me, people can feel when you doubt yourself. The second you start believing you belong in the spotlight, the world will reflect it back to you.

Step 3: The Energy Glow-Up – Embodying Unapologetic Presence

Confidence isn’t just posture or outfits (though, yes, those help). It’s the subtle way you exist that makes people remember you.

Speak slower. Move with certainty. Rushed energy screams insecurity.

Make eye contact. Like you expect people to listen when you talk.

Stop over-explaining. Say what you mean, then stop talking.

Carry yourself like you have somewhere important to be. Even if it’s just a coffee run.

People should feel something different when they’re around you. Like they just met someone important. Because they did.

Step 4: Raising Your Standards in Every Area

Here’s the truth: when you glow up internally, you’ll stop tolerating things that don’t align with your highest self.

Low-effort friendships? No, thanks.

Situationships with people who don’t see your worth? Not my vibe.

Doubting yourself before you even try? That’s embarrassing.

Once you start seeing yourself as the prize, the whole world starts treating you that way too.

Step 5: Moving Like a Winner (Before the World Recognizes It)

You don’t become magnetic, successful, iconic by waiting for permission. You do it by deciding:

“I’m already her.”

“I already have what it takes.”

“It’s just a matter of time before the world catches up.”

And then you start walking, talking, living like that’s the truth. Because it is.

The glow-up isn’t about becoming someone new. It’s about uncovering who you were always meant to be.

So stop playing

[ffcrazy15]

There's this way of doing female-ness in Christianity that I call "pastel flower journal Christianity." I've got nothing against pastel flower journals per se, but for some reason people believe it's the end all and be all of female spirituality, and I think it's a real disservice towards young Christian women.

One of these days I'd like to start a prayer-and-reading group or something for young women, but there would be no floral themes or over-focus on how "God thinks you're beautiful even if the world doesn't" (a true statement, but it's wayyyyy too often the focus in women's spiritual reading). Instead we would be reading:

Seneca's Letters from a Stoic

Frankl's Man's Search for Meaning

Sheed's A Map of Life

Portions of Pieper's book on leisure

Kreeft's Three Philosophies of Life

Guardini's The Lord (or something similar)

Therese's Story of a Soul

and some select portions of the Nicomachean Ethics.

(Also they're all getting the porn talk. I don't know why we give the porn talk to young men but not young women. There's this idea that women don't use porn and they only need the talk about "guarding their heart." Bullshit. There's porn on the YA shelves of Barnes and Nobles and before that there were bodice rippers. Young women need the porn talk too.)

Every young woman needs to be getting a basic grounding in virtue ethics, logic, natural law, scholastic philosophy and Biblical hermeneutics if they're going to get by in today's spiritual landscape. Enough faffery and emotionalism in young women's spiritual education! Give them real food to chew on, not pasty sentimentalism!

[cissa-calls]

Lilia said, “I loved being a witch” with the same conviction and passion as if to say: I loved being alive. I loved who I am and who I was and who I will be, despite all the time I spent trying to deny it and force away my visions and powers. I loved being a part of something, a community, our small dysfunctional coven. I have loved this messy, scary, wonderful thing called existence and the heartbreak and power that comes with it - I have loved it all along.

[dracoroma]

The problem with the narrative that the gods don't allow mortal freedom is that we have not, in any part of CR, seen any evidence of this until campaign 3.

Vox Machina had to seek out the gods they dealt with to defeat Vecna.

Mighty Nein had an amazing representation of a faithful character with Caduceus.

The god stuff in EXU was with relics and places as conduits.

And while Calamity showed us the betrayers waiting to destroy mortals, they are literally the evil gods whose role it is to hate mortals

The fact that this narrative is being told to us over and over again, by Ludanis, the unseelie, Ashton, The archheart. But we're never shown it.

So, in the end, this concept feels abstract, and like lipservice to say that this story is nuanced. We're never given a reason to believe these claims are true

[backjustforberena]

Rhaenys + her slight smirk Steve Toussaint: What she does [...] there's always a slight smile playing on [Rhaenys's] face in scenes that I always find interesting. Like a sense of being amused at the situation. If you go back and look at Season One, it's quite a consistent thing.

[hadesoftheladies]

it's bleak how most of the things people think will assuage and temper men are the things that embolden them. "prostitutes exist so men don't rape us" the human trafficking industry that is prostitution is an ever-growing industry that produces propaganda that enables men in society to rape MORE not less. by objectifying women and children, it puts all our heads on the chopping block. "he just needs to settle down and get married" most femicide, rape and domestic violence are committed by husbands/boyfriends. "if men just had daughters/sisters they'd see women as human" as a daughter and sister, i can confirm that we're extra caretakers of said men, and that our kindness is taken as proof that "good women" are subservient and domestic helpers.

if you want to de-radicalize men, you have to actually just stop tolerating misogyny in any form no matter what woman it's done against. stop trying to dialogue with men and start socioeconomically punishing them. people want to act like "separatism doesn't solve anything" when governments and companies only started paying attention when they saw birth and marriage rates drop. it is not women's job to save men from themselves and some feminists still don't get that. pandering to men always results in LESS rights for us. we have to become radically INTOLERANT.

[opshizt]

crying at how lera responded to the overwhelming love and support from one piece fans to her after being officially introduced as miss all sunday 🥺🥹 OUR NICO ROBIN IS IN GOOD HANDS Y'ALL

[boyfriendsmalec]

Many Milkvan fans don't actually like Mike. In fact, a good majority of them seem to get annoyed at Mike for how he treats and acts toward El, yet they still want Milkvan to be endgame. Why is that?

I think it's because they see Mike as being the only 'option' for El to have a romantic relationship within the remainder of the show. And they won't be satisfied without a romance line for El, because of course the female lead has to end up with someone 🙄 I think that's why they want Milkvan to last, in spite of their complaints about Milkvan's lack of development and despite their relationship steadily falling apart since S3.

If there was another option for El, I think they'd take it. But considering Lucas and Dustin are in relationships, and Will is her brother (and gay) Mike is the only possible option they can see for El.

I think they're actually quite worried about Byler happening, despite the front they put on. They worry if Byler happens that El will be alone, and they can't process an El who's single as being "happy" or fulfilling to her.

They conflate El being single = sad ending. And likewise El being with Mike (despite all their relationship issues) = happy ending. They claim to love El but can't see that her whole arc has been about her achieving independence and no longer being influenced by men in her life (Dr Brenner, Hopper, Mike) and defining who she is according to her own terms.

[divorceblogger]

love how lestat is consciously and constantly delineating himself in relation to his mother. the castle and his father’s lands constitute his entire world and in this insular environment his models of ideal physicality and intellectual prowess are formed in relation to the only person in the world who shows him any sympathy, the person that he admires begrudgingly despite her complicity in denying him personhood. he admires and resents her in equal measure, desiring to be her with a pathological obsession that almost equals his mother’s desire to be him - and he’s developed such an intense psychological investment in comparing his flaws to the material advantages she holds over him that he also describes himself as a cruder, less well-formed reincarnation of his mother, even as he admits that she’s wasting away from illness.

[nataliekalen]

"I locked you in a room like an animal, Mark. As an unserved man, I'll carry that knowledge the rest of my life." vs. "I'm tightening the leash."

[verysmallcyborg]

Roevember Day 27: Soul

Blessed shadow Turning, wending, always night follows day The sun will shine again Walk on, never look back Through you, we live Tales of loss and fire and faith

We are shards of the same Azem, you and I, love. We know this tale of ours from our adventure, that our souls are so deeply intertwined; we are a union of hearts. I'll be with you - as your shadow - every step of the way, for you are the sun that is guiding, lighting the way.

Forge ahead till the end, I pray.

roevember prompt list ryssrael is @oneiroy's

[marquisecubey]

[greenqueenhightower]

Just imagine how many times this has happened--how many sleepless nights had she had thinking that "he might call me to his bed any minute now" and being unable to do anything about it. She couldn’t outrightly tell him “no” because he was the king, and she needed to have heirs because this is what Viserys married her for. Can you imagine the anxiety?! knowing that you’d be r!ped any minute now, and having NO ONE to talk to about it (bc I’m sure Otto didn’t care). But this is not just anxiety; this is abuse, this is feeling powerless, this is disgust, this is emotional turmoil, this is on a whole other level and this was Alicent’s everyday reality.

my poor girl </3

[viviennemaeve]

✨Mind and Body Alchemy ✨

You ever feel like your mind and body are in a toxic situationship? Like, your body is clearly giving signs it needs rest, water, and maybe a vegetable, and your mind is like, nah, let’s stay up overthinking until 3 AM.

Or maybe your mind is screaming at you to get your life together, but your body is just lying there like a dead iPhone with no charger in sight.

So, let’s talk about how to get these two to stop ghosting each other and start working together.

1. Stop Betraying Your Own Energy

Some days, you wake up feeling like a main character. Other days, your brain is buffering and your body is lagging. Listen to that. Pushing through exhaustion isn’t “hustle culture,” it’s self-sabotage.

✔ If your body feels sluggish, give it movement, not punishment. A walk, a stretch, some music to get the energy flowing.

✔ If your mind feels foggy, declutter it. Journal, meditate, talk it out—even if it’s just yelling at yourself in the mirror.

Your energy isn’t a fixed state. Ride the waves instead of fighting the tide.

2. Romanticize the Bare Minimum

No, you don’t need a 20-step morning routine with moon water and imported matcha to have your life together. Romanticizing the bare minimum makes consistency feel ✨aesthetic✨ instead of a chore.

✔ Drinking water? Put it in a fancy glass, pretend it’s a potion of vitality.

✔ Eating a meal? Light a candle, play some background music, and call it a “self-care date.”

✔ Sleeping on time? Tell yourself it’s “beauty rest” and you’re waking up to be that girl/guy/person.

Make the basics feel luxurious. Because let’s be real—if taking care of yourself feels like a punishment, you won’t do it.

3. Your Body is Your Ride-or-Die

You can leave a toxic ex. You can quit a bad job. But your body? You’re stuck together. Forever. It carries you through life even when you don’t treat it right. Maybe it’s time to return the favor.

✔ Move it, fuel it, rest it. Not because you “have to,” but because it deserves it.

✔ Stop speaking about it like an enemy. Would you tell your best friend they look bad today? No? Then why do it to yourself?

✔ Listen to the warning signs. That gut feeling? That burnout creeping in? That’s your body trying to help you, not sabotage you.

Your body isn’t just the shell carrying your mind—it’s part of you. Treat it accordingly.

4. Mind & Body = Power Couple

The moment your mind and body start working with each other instead of against each other, you unlock main character energy.

✔ Prioritize both: Mental health days matter as much as gym days.

✔ Tune in: A healthy mind makes it easier to have a healthy body, and vice versa.

✔ Find balance: Chase goals, but rest too. Hustle, but enjoy the moment. Be delulu, but also self-aware.

Your mind and body are in this together. Might as well make them a power couple.

Take Care of Yourself, Babe.

Self-care isn’t just bubble baths and spa days—it’s listening to yourself. You deserve to feel good. You deserve to rest. You deserve to thrive.

Now go drink some water, stretch a little, and romanticize the hell out of your life.

[wh00pwh00p]

shes here, shes pink and shes definitely trustworthy :3

(to anyone whos about to ask where i got the background i made it using a brush from the firealpaca brush store where there is no artist listed)

[jugacolours]