#the complexity of relationships

[4sh-n4]

I think we need to start putting more emphasis on platonic relationships in media. As a fandom, especially one with a lot of fan made content (edits / fics / headcanons etc), we can do so much more with the characters than we do right now.

If the media has only a few characters that it focuses on then there's so much potential to explore the deep bonds that would be formed. If it has an entire ensemble of characters, then you have so so much to work with oh my god. It actually kills me when I see people only talking about the romantic possibilities of characters and not all the other relationships they could form.

This isn't me saying we shouldn't talk about romance, or we shouldn't ship characters. I love doing it, I love seeing romantic relationships. But it's not the only kind of relationship that a person can form.

Let's start talking about shared experiences and how it would form a bond. About learning about each other, about learning to care for each other. About friends, and siblings, and mentors, and mentees. About not liking someone but helping them anyway. About solidarity. About queerplatonic relationships, about platonic soulmates. About strangers in friend groups who slowly get along. About working together. About resentment and growth and redemption. About discovering yourself. About hurting and healing. About the different facets of a person's personality and showing different parts of themselves to different people.

Forced proximity where two characters who dislike each other are forced to work together and bond. Two characters who both care for a third and bond over their love for them. Two characters who hate each other but have the same values. Two characters who love each other but have different values.

There's so much more in a relationship to focus on other than just romance and I just wish we dove into it a little bit more.

[000bun]

[hannatheangel]

i love men with a god complex. yes daddy, you are my god, you are my world, and i want you to control every aspect of my life. yes daddy, i’ll let you do anything you want to me.

[inkskinned]

we were sitting on the floor and i was cutting out tiny pictures to make a collage for a friend's birthday. you were on your phone and you laughed about something, and i was still in love with you then, so i asked what had you giggling.

"sorry. i was just..." you took a moment and went back to texting. "i was telling someone about how you're afraid of the dark."

i'm afraid of the dark because something bad happened. "oh." i felt a little slinky of shame crawl down my throat.

you glanced up, and maybe it showed on my face, because you rolled your eyes and held the phone to the side casually so i could see the group chat. "what? was it a secret?"

i looked down to the scissors in my hand. "i just..." no, it's not a secret. it just felt like something private, something serious. saying why would you tell someone that just feels like an accusation. it's unfair. i honestly am not even ashamed of it, it's just a fact about my person that i don't usually share.

what a strange experience. is this a human thing or a generational thing? for our grandparents: did they need to worry about how quickly someone can just... share your personal information? again, i didn't even really have a true objection. what could i say? i want any person in my life to feel they can be honest with their friends. it's not like i said don't tell anyone this.

i cut out another letter to complete the rainbow happy birthday, started hunting for the exclamation mark. i heard you sigh dramatically.

"don't make a big deal about this," you said.

this entire conversation was a pattern for us, and this was when we got to my least favorite part of the pattern. i would get my feelings hurt in some oblique not-technically-terrible way, and then it would be making a big deal about something. you'd get frustrated for me for being soft, but i was born soft. you knew i was soft when you pierced me. it's one of the things that made controlling me so easy.

"i'm not," i felt my voice crack. the question came without my wanting. "why are you guys talking about me?" and why are you saying that thing? why not like - i'm telling them how you're generous and kind and pretty.

you let out this low, tragic groan. "oh my god." you tossed the phone away from your body. "there, see? i just won't talk to them if you don't like it."

the rest of the hour went the way it always went, between us: i said i don't actually mind if you talk to your friends but -, you found a way to call my minor expression of discomfort "being dramatic." you got upset that i had been offended. i ended up apologizing, even though i hadn't actually done anything.

afterwards, you picked up the phone again. after texting for a little bit, you snorted. "okay," you said, "but it is kind of funny you're afraid of the dark. i mean, when you think about it."

[beesleeps]

"kabru doesn't even like laios"

meanwhile, kabru:

[dyleeart]

How s4ep11 should have ended

[biggest-gaudiest-patronuses]

i vote that next year instead of reading Dracula we do a Jeeves & Wooster Book Club. those two never got the rabid tumblr shipping fandom they deserved (disqualified for the sheer technicality of being published a century too soon). we must correct this injustice

[tornado1992]

He’s the best friend, brother, mom, dad, and picket fence!

[cy-lindric]

Hi! So, while scroling through Pinterest, i came across this art:

which was credited to you. i cannot find the complet artwork in your profile, so i wanted to ask if youre the artist responsible for this piece.

(btw, your renditions of medieval clothing are beautiful!)

Hello ! I did make this a long time ago and the reason you didn't find it is probably because it's almost a decade old (and also very badly tagged). You can find the original post here. I think back then I had no idea what actual medieval clothing might look like, lol. How far we've come.

[youwillleaveme]

i can’t and shouldn’t have relationships, ever

[poorly-drawn-mdzs]

Have you seen my little lad?

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[homkamiro]

Dedicated to my dear friend Lenny

[saccharind]

from Prokaryote Season by Leo Fox

[katyagraveyard]

no lips? solution: bite :)

[frogs-in3-hills]

can i be real with yall i kind of hate fandom assigned siblingisms because often it’s just used as a signifier of closeness rather than an exploration of any of the things that make siblings narratively interesting imo. and i think a lot of that comes down to the fact that people enjoy the fantasy of relationships that are “naturally” eternal, ie, intimacy without having to do The Work. and i will never shame anyone for indulging a fantasy through fiction, this is just not something that really works for me. where siblings become compelling, imo, is within that unique “eternity” (whether societally imposed or genuinely forged in childhood and blood) and its power to trap and hurt. where the people involved don’t do The Work, or The Work they do isn’t enough. they’re tied together but some wounds take a long time to heal—if they ever do. wounds that they share, or wounds that they inflict on each other

[lostmf]