#the art of etiquette ask

[ahgasegotarmy116]

(Author) Aghhh the way I fell head over heels for your page and your writing at such a bad time 😩 ( I have exams:,) but I just wanted to let you know how amazing and well written your work is from start to end. Thank you so much and please keep doing what you do.

Idk how this works but I wanted to ask mr Jeon a question.

Hi, I wanted to find out what do you do if you bump into any of your old students after you were done tutoring them and if you would do the same thing you do to those students with oc. Hope you have a lovely day.

Awww I'm sorry I'm a bit of a distraction now but I'm glad you're here! Be sure to take time to study tho okay! We don't want namjoon shaving anyone's eyebrows off haha. But good luck on your exams! I know you'll do great!

Thank you love that really means so much to me 🥺 I'm so so happy you're enjoying my fics and I hope you'll enjoy what I have in store in the future hehe

I really enjoy writing so I'll do my best to stay consistent 🫡 (although I have started to fall in love with reading again so that's taken up some of my time that's for sure but I'm hoping it'll make me a better writer in the long run 🙏🏼)

(Have any of you guy's read A Court of Thorns and Roses? 👀)

Haha no worries girly you're doing just fine. I know which story you're talking about but maybe try to include the acronym of the full name of the story to make it a bit more clear hehe other than that you did great!

This is to The Art of Etiquette (taoe) Jungkook so let's see what he has to say...

Why hello love,

It's been a while since someone's sought me out so I'm surprised and delighted you dropped by.

I've never taken an interest in my students beyond what I was hired to do so I've always kept things strictly professional with them. However some of my students felt differently and definitely tried to pursue me but it was something I had no interest in.

She really is the only one that's caught my eye, and one of those reasons is that she was so different. She wasn't throwing herself at me. She wasn't acting like a spoiled brat (stubborn yes but not spoiled). And she was still putting effort into her lessons.

She kind of surprised me and so that got me paying closer attention to her and what her adorable reactions are to the smallest things I would do to her. Which turned into a fascination and now...well now theres something more to this but I haven't really figured it out yet.

I'm sorry love I got sidetracked but in terms of bumping into another student we keep things short but pleasant while I pretend to care about their lives and achievements as if they weren't the bane of my existence while I was their tutor.

There are a select few that I would be proud to call my students but I don't see them often.

Thanks for the question love,

Feel free to stop by again if you'd fancy another chat, I did rather enjoy this one.

[originalartblog]

Apparently much-needed reminder that reposting artists' art (by saving the images or screenshotting them and reuploading them yourself) on other platforms without the artists' expressed permission and without credit is theft and an insult to their passion and craft. You are profiting (in views, in attention, in feedback) from someone else's work and ideas, who do not get that feedback for sharing their creation.

If you are an art reposter, you are a thief and I have no respect for you.

[froganni]

I drew over a page from Ryoko Kui's Dungeon Meshi for this bit. (Disclaimer: this is not my original art.)

I just felt like this has been Joel's vibes recently. 😂

[hyakunana]

✨💕 The winner of the DGP is———! 💕✨

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[beescake]

Sorry for the spam (^o^;) I just really like your blog

no need to apologize ayy!

in this corner we welcome all forms of enjoyment, regardless of whether you're a

happy to have yall here w me,

headin into homestuck 2024 :^)

[lesbianherald]

you leaving twitter 🤝 jayce getting out of that noxus contract

at first i was confused and then I remembered my own work and then I honked like a goose

[shroudedmoon]

Fanart for Left Behind, Left for Dead by @salparadiselost bc it's honestly a great fic, and it made me realize i can actually sorta draw horses??

You'll probably see a few non dc horse posts after this lmao

[s68l]

the crossover literally nobody (besides me) asked for + doodles

[tinyfantasminha]

I think Tumblr and other social medias have aged to become more like a community where everybody assumes they are friends with everyone (unless they disagree with them). Like as social media gets introduced to younger and younger kids every year, the sense and need of privacy is no longer there.

Now for people, someone showing their art might be akin to a friend showing their drawing to you, it becomes expected so the less detailed compliments they give.

The solution could be to make your page more professional so people dont get the idea they are your friends, since you do post things that would be considered talk between friends (like simping for jack). But i get the feeling you'd hate that since it would essentially turn your page into more of a statistics rather than a warm environment.

Im not good at wording myself so im sorry if this gives off an offending message, im trying to be objective but im not sure how it comes across.

DW, I get what you're trying to say 😔 It's annoying that more and more people in fandom nowadays seem to know little to none of fandom etiquette... and it's not just the teens, it's a worryingly amount of adults too

Creators want validation, nice comments and asks but they also want respect... one parasocial interaction which is especially common with artists and writers are the ''can you teach me how to draw/write/how to create ocs'' or by seeking validation for their own personal stuff (sending their art or pictures unsolicited so YOU specifically can feedback it, or asking you to opinion on their ocs) like..... I can see these actions may come from a genuine place, but it should be common sense that these are weird ways to start a conversation with a creator you supposedly admire. It feels intrusive and demanding.

And sometimes the intention is not even bad, it's just phrased in a demanding way that makes creators feel pressured. Rephrasing ''can you teach me how to draw/write'' with ''hello! I love your art/writing! if you don't mind me asking, could you share your creative process or maybe tips?'' makes a WHOLE difference! it's more polite and acknowledges the creator’s boundaries, making the request feel more like a compliment than a demand.

Ugh, the thing is... making the blog more ''professional'' takes away the whole point of it. Tumblr is one of the few spaces left where you can scream into the void about your interests, gush over things you love, and just exist as a person, not a content machine. Unlike algorithm-driven platforms like tiktok or twitter, in here it lets you control your space; your blog is yours to curate, to fill with weirdness, passion, and whimsy. Here, creators feel like real people, not just faceless usernames churning out "content" for engagement. I do not feel comfortable being as much personal on twitter for example, where any nosy person can QRT you being unnecessarily mean because the platform's culture prioritizes performative snark and clout over genuine creativity or connection. Tumblr was always a place for the weirdos, the cringe and the freaks, no one is here to make a brand out of themselves, it's about being authentic and having fun.

Creators should absolutely be allowed to be loose, weird, and fun here while still being respected 😔

[sleepsart]

tim drake mayhaps? with 7?

7. Treehouse - Alex G

[elllteo]

gonna be real seeing you boil down someone else's concerns abt making light of a rapist in media as fandom drama really hurts as someone who's experienced that kind of violence first hand. the character is fictional and obviously doesnt exist. but rape victims do exist and we see when people sexualize or joke about predators. idk. i don't intend to tell you what to do, but i hope this helps maybe explain why someone else could've been startled or upset to see that on your blog. its your space you can do what you want with it. i think some media doesn't need to be fandomized or treated as yaoi fodder. maybe it can just be taken seriously and discussed with respect. i think its pretty reasonable for victims of particular types of violence to express discomfort or concern when people joke about or make light of those who perpetrate it.

I genuinely get where you are coming from, I do. But what that ask was getting at did not convey to me what you seem to have taken from it.

There's a difference between making light of/mocking/making jokes about sexual assault/rape vs drawing a character who does those things in a narrative in an unserious way. Likewise, I feel that boiling down the narrative to just be about that One Act in many, many ways does a disservice to the narrative and characters as a whole.

I'm also not understanding where exactly this is coming from, to be entirely honest.

A person can be fully capable of breaking down and analyzing Jimmy in a way that is entirely respectful while still, also, making light of other aspects or enjoying him removed from that context. Drawing a character in a goofy way doesn't mean the person is making light of Anya's SA, or even excusing it. You can ship two characters while still finding the canon actions of one absolutely despicable. These things are not mutually exclusive!

Just as you're not telling me what to do, I'm not saying you, or that other anon, or anyone else has to put up with seeing that character or engaging with media that portrays him that way, to be clear. I'm not trying to tell you that your feelings or hurt or experiences aren't valid, they clearly and very much are.

But it's not my job, or even obligation, to protect you from it. Or any other trigger, for that matter. I do what I can with tags, but that's a courtesy I try to apply when and where I can.

That's what I'm getting at here. I tagged for him and that ship so others could avoid it if they found it upsetting. The anon did not do that, so I explained my stance.

People will engage with media in ways that are upsetting to you, or ways that even disgust you. I can't stop them, I make no plans to, and if my opinions or behaviors around this are upsetting or disappointing to you, if I endanger you or anyone by behaving this way, it is in your best interest to block me and have a safer and less stressful experience online. Those tools are readily available for that very reason.

I know far too many others who have also experienced that kind of violence, family included. I know the frustration and hurt of making light of that kind of thing, and how it can and does impact others.

But this is not that.

If, however, you feel it is, that's your right! I can't tell you how to engage with anything, nor do I intend to. I cannot change my space to fit your needs, and I'm genuinely sorry if that makes you feel unsafe or upset. I'm not trying to make light SA or the victims thereof.

I'm trying to, as best as I can, explain that policing how others engage with a fandom and its characters simply does not and cannot work. That isn't "fandom drama" - it's the psychology of humans and the media they connect with. Humans are complicated creatures, and our needs and interests vary wildly.

There is no monolithic way to demand others engage with a source material, and attempting to do so does more harm to you than that effort is worth. I hope you and that other anon can have a less upsetting day/night/etc - again, I'm sorry if this is frustrating to hear, but I fear this is an impasse we simply won't agree on in this way.

[ahgasegotarmy116]

pls don’t forget about us the art of etiquette readers 🤧🤧🥹

I’m sorry my love 💜 I��ll make sure to get that one out next 🤞🏼

I’m already about half way done with the next chapter I just need to figure out what I want to do with the other half 😅

Here’s a random paragraph from the next chapter as an apology 💜

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"I-" "You were so concerned with the thought of me harming you that you didn't even notice the clear purpose of me wanting to bring you here" he say, cutting off whatever nonsense I was about to let tumble out of my mouth. I sigh in response, not bothering to ruin this moment of peace with nonsensical bickering since he's clearly done this with me in mind.

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Hope you’re excited 🤭

[valyrfia]

i respect u sm for using the anti tags, like that's so polite of u <3 more people should do it tbh

old fandom etiquette runs deep in me i'm afraid. i try to tag all my stuff as best as i can because i know a lot of people follow me for a lot of different reasons and i encourage everyone to do the same! end of the day we all share this same space and it's a nice way to be respectful to those we share it with.

[allaboutalf]

That art work is on here by the incredibly talented Grey, or @yeagrave and their art deserves ALL the love. They've noted it's been clocked as Buddie and I think just rolled their eyes about it, but I think you're wonderful for standing up for them. 💜💜💜

Thanks for letting me know - I’m happy they posted it here! I’ll go reblog.

They handled it all so well and with such positivity, even in response to the particularly obnoxious buddie shippers. Too bad some people couldn’t act as respectfully in return.

Fandom etiquette has almost disappeared these days so it was worth a reminder about acting decently in fandom spaces 💜

[thenegoteator]

for the obscure characters sketch prompts game: areum lee from night of shadows!

i really like this webtoon but unfortunately it's one of the daily pass ones <//3 i've been slowly making my way through day by day on my reread because she's worth it. to me. and as for situations...well she has fucked up prophetic dreams in canon, so maybe her having a nice dream for once? or going to an aquarium or something. or just her as the "pondering my orb" wizard sldjgkhjkljfeww

omg you're a trooper for persisting 🫡🫡🫡 she seems so fun!! I love her vibe, I hope she can catch a break, but in the mean time she's pondering her orb

[fishing-lesbian-catgirl]

Being a normally lighthearted and silly blogger but also having a conscience is making this strange. I see shitposts and art and I want to reblog that but then I also see news about Palestine and I want to reblog that. But then both going to the same place feels almost wrong and disrespectful. But making a side blog for it would defeat the purpose, which is to make my moderate following aware of things