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doublel27 · 22 days ago

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#because I see we’re already starting from the stills #this week (and all foreseeable weeks as 911 abc airs)#911 abc #but you know the rest of you could use this sign as well #stop making ship wars and start making throuples I beg of you #let them be large messy queer polycule #as the queer ancestors always meant for us to be #mlm fandom shit #stop telling people to hurt themselves #y’all aren’t cute #basic fucking fandom etiquette my guys and gals and ungendered pals #your ship is not my ship and that’s okay

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introspectivememories · 22 days ago

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can i be honest? i dont think tim and bear have a really grand proposal. i think it happens at their apartment that they got bc bear finally put his foot down and went "baby you're immunocompromised. you cannot live on a murderboat on the gotham river" and tim reluctantly gives in but not without finding some random apartment complex that's still near the marina so he can go down and get his ass beat at poker by pie. and so it happens late at night, when tim is in nightwing sleep shorts and bear's old band tee on and bear is in some horrendous anime sweats and no shirt because their home is the only place he's ever felt comfortable leaving his scars out. and the lamplight gives a soft hazy glow to bear's tattoos and tim reaches under the shirt to scratch and in the movement bear can see the bear tim got tattooed onto his hip and he can't help grin softly. and they're both sitting on the couch as some lame ass procedural drama goes on in the background and they're eating batburger. tim's got the nightwing special and bear has the sword robin combo. and the ringbox is burning a hole through bear's thigh and tim makes some stupid comment about how lame meredith sounds begging some guy to love her and all bear can think is how much he loves this boy. so he gets up to get some water and he positions his phone so that he can get the best video bc tim is a sucker for home video and he plops down on the sofa hard enough that tim turns around to complain except bear is holding the ringbox open with a soft "marry me?" and tim goes "what?" and bear says "baby i have loved you since you walked through the gates of our high school and i loved you when you left and i loved you when you came back. i love the way you talk to yourself and i love the way dance when i put music on. and i even love the fact that you shove your ice cold feet in my shins every night. and i don't know exactly what to say except that i want to do this everyday until you get dentures and i get a hip replacement. and i want to be horny in the old age home and-" and tim cuts him off sob-laughing and says "can i say yes now?" and bear who is also crying says "wait, let me finish love. -and i want to do this in as many lives as we get together. so all this to says, timothy jackson drake, will you marry me?" and tim launches himself bear and shouts "yes, yes, yes! a thousand times over, yes" and they're sobbing as they slip the rings on each other.

#and then they fuck like rabbits all night #and then they tell the marina and that ends up being a multiple day celebration #and then they keep their engagement to themselves for like a year before bear gets hurt at work one day and tim says he his husband #to get access to bear and everyone is like HUSBAND???? and tim is mortified bc they've gotten so used to calling each other that #at home and now it's slipped out in public and anyway bruce and dick go full dad/bro-zilla #just absolutely insane over the wedding details and tim and bear dont know how to break it to them that they were never planning on #having a huge wedding and that they were just gonna go down to the courts and sign their name #and then they do that anyway during the wedding planning process and they get the marina together and they have a partyyy #an pie is fucking sobbing by the way #and mrs gupta from the houseboat all the way at the end is a little miffed bc 'why didnt you tell me u were taken bernard?'#and tim has to stop himself from launching at the woman bc he did tell her!!! and she kept trying to set bear up with her son who #works at the hospital!!!!!#and miss bongkamtree from next door just wants to know if it means they'll stop having super loud sex #and bear smirks and goes 'sorry next 5 years are booked for super loud sex'#anyway they get married ontop of their apartment on the rooftop garden and lemme tell you it's packed up there #and the reception is in the marina ofc!!!#those are their people!!!!#bernard dowd #tim drake #timbern #timber

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puppyeared · 10 months ago

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i wrote this as a joke because I wanted to strangle a guy watching tiktoks without headphones on the bus, but im genuinely disturbed that we've gotten to a point where convenience comes first. and it depresses me even more that its used to justify and monetize greed

#like we have so many ways of doing things that could help us in the long run but because we're told it requires more work we just cant #its too resource intensive. or maybe its too much to maintain. we have to overlook benefits so money can go into more important things #we teach each other to do things a certain way so it works for everyone but who was it convenient for first? what abt who it might hurt?#i have to wonder if the rules our current system uses is worth listening to or following if it doesnt have our best interests in mind. u an #me and the ppl around us.. would we be better off if i ate my meals knowing the person who grew it wanted to feed others the way they could #feed themselves? and that isnt to say we're going to be happy doing it but i guess satisfied that its helping someone instead of quietly #accepting that itll eventually go in the dumpster behind a grocery store because it stopped looking appetizing or it wasnt on sale anymore #what about building homes so we can shelter each other? what if we were satisfied with what we did because we knew it would be paid back #with kindness? isnt that what we evolved to do?? heal each others bones and tell stories and help each other??#why dont houses come with solar panels or generators unless we find a way to make people pay to use the sun? why is our pooled money used #to fund genocides instead of education and hospitals? whose interests and convenience came first when we started this??#i wont pretend to know the answer because i dont. but we all know we're miserable and im sorry to say that i cant see myself fighting #for a world that wont fight for me too. why do we work if we cant live from it?? why did they stop us from plucking more teeth from our #bosses until they could build more walls around themselves and then go back to underpaying us??#im so tired. i cant even imagine making it to age 70 #yapping #vent

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rainbow-crane · 3 months ago

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so my sister is getting me to watch Cobra Kai while I'm visiting home, right

and look. She warned me about the love square. The old man rivalry. All that good stuff. What she did not warn me of, or rather, was not equipped to warn me of(she's never played DR), was the fact that Mondo Owada is a main fucking character

#desperately hoping Hawk does not go the Mondo way and like. die or something #I'm mid-season 3 btw so no spoilers plz :)#but anyway yeah! I'm liking it so far #I think Johnny is my fav rn. Johnny is developing so well he's such a broken man of a protag it's delightful #I can see this 'toxic masculinity to fill the insecurities' thing they've got going with Hawk and. *chef's kiss*#crane-talk #also um. Hawk and Demetri are ex-boyfriend coded #“you're actually gonna hurt me?” “Eli stop it's me!" stop fucking stop it #they were each other's first kiss at one of their sleepovers #ALSO HI WHERE TF DID AISHA GO #she was one of my favs and she just fucking dissipated #yes ik 'she moved away' shut up and let your only black woman be a main character do not get lazy and toss her out when you can't think of #anything for her to do. She has been here since day 1 you're seriously gonna tell me they couldn't keep her in at all? Bullshit #surely they could've had her take a central stance between the increasing aggression of Cobra Kai and Miyagi Do's attempts to stand up for #themselves. And used that to demonstrate that the people within Cobra Kai aren't just doomed to become monsters #like Sam (and Hawk) seem to believe right now #really hoping she's coming back later and that this is being done with a purpose

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petrenocka · 10 months ago

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"X is just a guy" is a popular phrase to throw around these parts when talking about blorbos, but I swear, and I am 100% stone faced serious when I say this, not a single character has ever done it quite like Geralt from The Witcher books.

#sure your guy is maybe just a normal man in an unfair supernatural circumstance #but is acknowledgent of his guyhood a conclusion of a gut wrenching character study about trauma personal and generational #about the lies we tell ourselves so we can ignore the hurt we feel #did your guy spend the entire story desperately dehumanizing himself clinging to his alledged non-personhood #did he insist at every opportunity and despite an overwhelming mountain of evidence to the contrary that his torturers were successful #that they did make him into a monster without feelings without morals without future #are the people who did this to him the only family he ever had and the only people who would ever accept him now that he's this?#did they also go through the exact same process themselves do they genuinely love him on top of that?#does your guy reference his acquired infertility every time the topic of sex comes up #only to end up raising a daughter with the equall infertile love of his life?#does he defy his non human credo all the time by being unable to stop being kind an empathetic #and never acknowledges it because he can't bear thinking of himself as anything but ''a witcher''?#is he just a guy?#geralt of rivia #the witcher #the witcher books

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windor-truffle · 5 months ago

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*chants in increasing volume* ghost AU ghost AU GHOST AU GHOST AU

#dolphin noises #wips #I love me a good ghost AU 😭💜🎉😁#Timeline-wise I'm thinking maybe Cedric succeeding in his coup and Asbel arriving at the catacombs too late #Asbel passing right by ghost!Richard like a reversal of that iconic richass shot in the opening~#initially only Sophie can see his spirit due to her own enhanced capabilities #and Asbel can see him when they're all 3 holding hands a la Friendship Pact 💙💜💛#but ghost AUs are pretty much inherently tragic since someone's already dead #and if you play this one right you don't even need Lambda. One malevolent spirit is plenty 🙃#Asbel feels guilty for being unable to protect Richard in time but gets a chance to redeem himself this way #by helping Richard with his unfinished business that keeps him from moving on #Initially it's to ensure that his kingdom is not left in Cedric's hands (and maybe get a little revenge)#but Richard's own resentment twists him into wanting to take back EVERYTHING he's lost including things he simply can't get back #Richard's nature turns vampiric as he needs more and more eleth to sustain his continued half existence eventually targeting the valkines #And Asbel who had been so ready to give anything to help Richard realizes his beloved friend is crossing a line. people are getting hurt.#Thus the theme of the story shifts from 'protecting the will to live' to 'learning when to let go'#Poor Asbel having to learn this lesson first. That the best thing he can do for Richard is stop indulging his tainted wishes #and instead grieve together w him over what could have been then move on. It wasnt fair it wasnt kind but neither is what Richard's doing #it's basically the canon story except instead of saving richard and bringing him back it's saving richard and letting him go #it's angsty and bittersweet AF which is how you can tell it's PEAK dolphin AU 😅 themes of grief and loss and loneliness #helping someone who's lost themselves to obsessive love #'cause that's where Richard's anger comes from. the loss hurts so much because he cared so much. he wanted to fix the world then LIVE in it #dammit this is a half-baked idea and im already weeping 😭

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leieryx · 8 months ago

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god I am so TIRED of being a model minority sometimes

#sorry for being serious on main but like #I really am tired of having to deal with all this in a calm and professional manner #block and move on.#leave the room.#laugh awkwardly.#do their jobs for them. because they’re determined to hurt people who can’t help themselves #don’t you dare stop smiling.#that’s Fighting.#They can say R***rded.#They can talk loudly about how they want you gone.#They can tell you they want you to see them naked #They can call you a bitch #They can get reported over and over and over again. and nothing changes #but god forbid you don’t sound nice anymore #god forbid you only say ‘ok’#that’s fucking Fighting.#disagreeing makes you a bitch who ‘needs to defend themselves’ and therefore isn’t Right and doesn’t matter #and saying nothing means ‘yes’#‘secretly you are right all along’#go to hell.#vent post #I need to take more pride in the conservatives who are scared of me fuck them #ok I’m normal again. very

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crystalkleure · 1 year ago

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What they do not tell you about harassment is that if the people trying to get a rise out of you are not succeeding by prodding you directly, they will change tactics and try to get a rise out of you by harassing your friends

Even somebody who isn't particularly affected by verbal abuse being directed towards themself is likely to be very upset by their friends getting dragged into it and getting hurt

#Good afternoon Tumblr I am angry #''Ignore them and they'll go away'' no they won't. I can confirm they won't! I have seen this exact thing happen so many times!#Enthusiastic assholes very much do not just ''go away'' if you ignore them. They do get increasingly desperate for your attention though!#''I'm going to hurt your friends and it's your fault for ignoring me'' is a shockingly common fucking thing #They will also tell your friends ''Oh? Oh is this upsetting you? Stop being friends with them and I'll leave you alone then <3''#Combination upsetting target by harming loved ones + trying to make target feel guilt + trying to socially ostracize target #.It speaks #There's a reason this behaviour -- to this extreme degree particularly -- is as common as it is #A lot of people these days are angry and frustrated #And they cannot express this anger and frustration towards the actual CAUSE[S] of it [job; school; parents; etc.]#So they are desperate for an acceptable other target to take it out on #This incentivizes them to make up and/or perpetuate horrible lies about people so they are then seen as a hero instead of --#-- an asshole for attacking those people #They're building themselves some no-consequences punching bags

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thekidsare-not-alright · 8 months ago

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#no one wants to hear this but.#You should really remove 'go kill yourself' and similar phrases from your vocab.#Especially over fucking fandom discourse.#Yes even rpf. No one deserves to DIE because they did something inappropriate. You are not a justice system. Stop acting like it #You have no idea what that person is going through (no matter how much 'evidence' you have because this is the fucking internet) so don't.#This does NOT mean you have to be “nice” to them. It means don't be a shit human. Compassion for those who are wrong.#Sorry to burst your bubble but even people who hurt others deserve to stay alive.#So.#STOP TELLING PEOPLE TO KILL THEMSELVES OVER A GODDAMN BAND HOLY SHIT

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local-limebug · 10 months ago

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what the fuck is up with the rise in trans hate how are people this sensitive about what someone else wants to do with their own body

#limebug.txt #literally its my life and i can live it however i want #and if the people around me try to stop me i WILL cut them off idc who they are i'm sorry #just fucking. let people live. god #if i let my hate win the way bigots let theirs win i'd be fucking lynched by religious mobs #insult my identity and i have to deal with it cause its your freedom of speech but i insult yours and i'm gonna go to a fake bad place??#god i hate religious people sometimes #so many transphobes either call it a mental illness or hate it because god said so and both of those are such STUPID takes #religion. well thats self explanatory #but mental illness??#that tells me everything i need to know about what they think of actual mentally ill people too #you wanna stop ppl from transitioning because its mental illness?? gonna take away bodily autonomy from other mentally ill ppl too now??#and ik they do with institutionalization and shit but that's such bs too #people deserve help but they only need to be locked up if they are hurting someone else #that's my controversial opinion for the day: people who only harm themselves dont deserve to have their autonomy taken away #even if they are hurting themselves. you can try to help but if someone doesnt want help then leave them tf alone #and what really differentiaties piercings and tattoos from 'self mutilation' anyway #'god made you one way you cant change' fucking cry about it. humans have made the technology and i am going to utilize it #i will desecrate the face of god without hesitation.#i will mutilate myself gladly. i should have the legally protected right to mutilate myself because it falls under bodily autonomy.#transphobes are not the brightest

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the-gayest-sky-kid · 1 year ago

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my brother keeps being a bitch on purpose and it's really not helping

#my therapist says hes probably doing to feel better about himself and it's like. fuckin hell dude #because like. look im not saying i dont poke fun at him either right #but i like go think i dont go below the belt in terms of shit???#like i love him im not going to call him genuinely stupid or ugly or anything.#hes good at math and pretty capable. even if he incinerated mac n cheese once and we had to get a new microwave #but he keeps going up to me like (aether) whats a×b? oh how do you not know that instantly? are you stupid?#its because (extremely personal issue) LOL (deep cutting personal issue again)#and its like look ive never been good at mental math stop being a fucking jerk over me not knowing fuckin 9×7 off the top of my head #and i keep telling him to drop it and shut up but its just spurs him on more because its funny to him #and he keeps bringing up other shit like being queer or being trans specifically because he knows its upsetting and its just fucking funny #he loves to say people with weird pronouns and think there's more than two genders should kill themselves because he knows it makes me angr #with him. and he knows im fucking queer. he knows our grandmothers queer. and he still pulls this shit #and i cant say anything because when i do i get a whole lecture about how hes my flesh and blood and i should treat him like such #and im the asshole for suggesting he act like it for once #i love my brother and im proud of his achievements but i cant keep fucking doing this #and i know its my fault because hes a stupid kid and going through typical middle school boy bullshit #and seriously getting hurt by whatever a middle schooler says is downright pathetic #but it fucking hurts to hear someone you held as a baby and defended say people like you should kill themselves #and it hurts to have them fucking push a topic that upsets you for their own amusement #swearing cw #aethers rants #cw vent #personal posts and stuff idk

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navramanan · 1 year ago

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sorry but i'm so delighted over how diaspora arabs have been realizing that turkey is very hostile towards them which is why many of them thought twice about going on vacation there and decided not to. take this as a lesson to NOT idealize a country to absurd amounts like the muslim diaspora loves doing with turkey

#we been telling yall how racist these people can be and yeah it's gotten worse enough for diaspora to know about it #but theyve BEEN hostile towards arabs even before that. these people have insane european complex #see themselves as european and therefore better than middle easterners #the soft power turkey has has had muslims everywhere in a choke hollllllld with the tv shows and what not #when you notice youve turned into a borderline fanatic for a country/culture maybe stop and think wtf am i doing #trust if a country possesses a significant amount of soft power ESPECIALLY over a certain demographic #theyre just trying to gain sympathy for vile shit theyre doing #it's a powerful tool to turn people silent over crimes ur committing #after all how can someone accept that their fav culture exporter does bad things?#it's always easier to turn the other way and not deal with your own position #i guess it only goes so far until it hurts you personally :) bc people have forgotten what empathy is #nesi rants

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captain-lovelace · 2 years ago

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This may just be my brainrot at work but that part of Trigun where Vash says that the pain he's caused in the past haunts him and the only way he can find to relieve his own pain and suffering is to try to help other people with theirs... Eiffelesque, in a way. To me.

#eiffel and vash are like. I rotate them in my brain together #they're very different characters in a lot of ways #e.g. eiffel is a lot more of a silly-at-heart kind of guy than vash is #and vash's life is just. on a really different scale to eiffel's in general #because eiffel is just some guy and vash is very much not #but #they're both people who caused a lot of pain #and who really fucking hate themselves #and the only way they can seem to find to deal with the pain is by trying to offer somebody else the chance for redemption #the chance to stop hurting others #there's another bit where someone talking to vash is like #'we've caused so much harm... hurt so many people...' and vash responds by telling them 'well STOP! stop hurting people! stop doing that!#it's not too late to stop!'#and that's also. eiffelesque to me #it sounds like a thing he would say to someone else while not believing for himself.#just. very different characters who nonetheless remind me of each other.

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orcelito · 2 years ago

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thought about the fact tht getting mental health help means talking about my #Problems again

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#speculation nation #negative/#like i dont have trouble talking about this stuff in an informal setting bc im like. not self conscious about it exactly #assuming i'm talking to ppl who r understanding #but even then i curate it. i always curate it. i never tell anyone just how ugly my thoughts can get #though if youve read my writing you probably have a Pretty good idea (akechi pov) the kinds of ways i think about things #i dont share that for common life stuff bc it's just. it always makes people uncomfortable. and i dont want them to worry about me #when people worry about me it makes Me uncomfortable. like there's something wrong with me.#like the very makeup of my brain is worthy of making people worried #bc that's the thing. this is intrinsic. it's never going to stop completely. there are parts to it that i dont even Want to stop #but people will always be worried. sooo scared for me and the sanctity of my shitty flesh prison #therapy shit is that but worse. because they Will pry about it #every time i see that lil questionnaire with 'have you had thoughts about suicide' and 'have you harmed yourself' im just like #might as well lock me up Boys cause this one's goin on my record! again. and again and again and again #im not even going for this shit. i dont have depression im depressed cause my life sucks & im stressed all the time #but they always see the bad and assume it's because of the Chemical Imbalances bc no Whole Person would EVER want to hurt themselves!#i can be perfectly happy and content with my life and still have these urges. it's not a depression thing. it's just a me thing.#i want help for my constant fatigue. my probable adhd that's been kicking my ass my entire academic career #im not fucking anxious. i'm not fucking depressed. i'm stressed and struggling to do fucking Anything because everything is always Too Much #but i just know they'll focus on those lil markers by the self harm/suicide shit because they Always Fucking Do #i'm not a suicide risk. ive long passed that stage. thoughts may float by sometimes but i'm never going to act on them #not unless things in my life go very Very wrong. aka there's no longer anyone who cares about me level of wrong.#so long as there's at least one person who cares about me then I'm going to keep on living. i'm not a suicide risk.#... anyways i looked into the mental health shit at my school again and im gonna have to call to set up an appointment i guess. ugh.#aka that's not happening tonight. not with the way i'm feeling rn.#suicide ment/#self harm ment/#lolololol sorry for being so blatant on main today but i'm having a Shit day

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snekdood · 6 months ago

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#fave #videos #thank yoooooooou #you get it #characters arent people and people arent characters #people irl deserve redemption. characters dont need to have redemption and sometimes its hurtful to the story if they do #i COULD make a redemption arc for zero-- but it would be stupidly complicated within my characters relationships given whats hes done in #the past. plenty of my ocs still would never want to be in the same room with him. it just adds unnecessary coffee au drama thats just not #the focus of my story at all. and hes not even a real person. hes an idea- an amalgamation of bad experiences I and others have had #manifested into one being that seeks to inflict these pains #likely his redemption arc would come from no longer being a vampire. but idk where he would go. and i really dont care to write it tbh #i have other minor antagonists I think would be better suited for a redemption arc than him. hes just done too much shit.#just in the same way a lot of azula stans would say ozai is irredeemable thats how I feel about zero.#and its how I feel about azula too tbh. yeah her story is sad and its possible to sympathize with but shes like a machine at this point #her humanity has been stripped away by her abusive father- and I dont think it would serve the narrative to have her suddenly appear #in a therapists office and crying about her trauma or whatever.#in this video he mentions how some ppl think its more 'realistic' to have her redeemed but... i really dont think it is bud #clearly you have not dealt with an azula in your real life. they're impossible to get along with and MOST people stop interacting w them.#they do end up isolated and alone bc of their actiosn. even if those actions are informed by a complex abuse system.#its sad but its also an important story to tell so people can at least maybe see themselves going down that route and stop themselves #characters help give examples to people of what would've happened if they made this or that choice. and thats the purpose azulas narrative #shows. irl people deserve a second chance and thats why we make these stories so they can know to try to avoid acting a certain way that #will only in the end harm their chance at a second chance.#not that its impossible- just that less people will be willing to go along w you on it than there would've been before you fell down hard

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kavehater · 7 months ago

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I honestly wish people cared more about depression and other issues rather than saying they care but scrutinise a person so horribly when they show symptoms associated with said condition 🧎‍♀️

#everyone’s so horrible about it #if you don’t know what something means you research #I research when my friend says they have an illness or a particular sexuality I may not know about #or just to understand and help out because that’s what friends do right ?#so research if someone tells you they have a condition and learn the symptoms #don’t like it ? leave.#but don’t stick around if you’re not in the slightest tolerant to any speck of symptom they may exhibit #whoever does this is a horrible person #because you signed up for this so you deal with it. it’s so mean to punish someone for something they can’t control #because ppl aren’t nearly as kind to people who are normal as they are to mentally ill people #aren’t nearly as mean to normal ppl*#yeah sure they still have to control themselves etc but you never say this to normal people #you’re never so harsh to normal people if anything those with mental illness need more kindness and understanding and everyone blows it #how are you gonna sit there with full conviction saying I have depression and anxiety ( I have way more than that but okay )#yet blame me when I can’t commit to my work or blame me for being “lazy” I think as a perfectionist and star student I beat myself up over #that already so why would you hurt me more #alternatively this applies to ppl who get mad at others asking reassurance #im gonna rip my hair out for that why literally why would you have a problem #it’s always communicate this communicate that but in fact everyone’s allergic to communication and they’re not traumatised by it #ZERO EXCUSES BUT SOMEHOW all the excuses for normal people but none for mentally ill ppl #everyone’s sick. this is what I mean when. I say it’s so aggravating seeing people because they’re so hopelessly stupid #in the sense they don’t have an ounce of compassion and are disgustingly selfish thinking of themselves 24/7 and their feelings when not to #compare but ppl have it worse than your dumb ass paper cut - esque issues 😇#oh but all the sympathy to you and none to the “crazy people” who actually need more compassion than you be so Fr #and if you cope well with your own issues then good 4 u ! but you’re not the standard of the DSM 🤗 you also aren’t any better #everyone copes differently and expresses things differently dependent on their unique exposures circumstances and view of the world #let’s stop pretending that one view is the right view #this doesn’t mean let yourself get abused btw it means using that thing in your head to be reasonable #dora daily

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