#still pursuing a bpd diagnosis

[madame-mongoose]

I wish mental health services were more easily accessible and certain mental illnesses weren't still demonized in the field

[canonically47]

As a way of saying goodbye to DC, what are your headcanons for where everyone ends up after All Stars?--review anon

ooooo such a cute question!!!!!! tysm for this

yul ends up being cancelled on his socials and he has to start working a regular job, he becomes miserable being yelled at and harassed by customers like he deserves yippee!

riya is also cancelled following the events of DCAS - seriously she CANNOT gain a following after this and she cannot find roles, realistically speaking - but she manages to sustain herself with her prize money for now. however, she does begin job hunting. it goes horrible for her, her digital footprint is too massive to ignore.

ashley continues living her quiet life on the farm with will, occasionally meeting up with lill & nick, as well as with jake, ally, lake and other contestants of DCAS! she even eventually reaches out to season 1 contestants left out, and organizes a get-together for the season 1 cast with everyone :)

ally, hunter & tess all eventually get together after a lot of denial and pining, and co-manage their channels. they become more and more popular, regularly attend cons, & overall just lead the awesome lives they deserve. tess also becomes popular for her art!

lake eventually gets into a qpr & goes to university to study psychology. she keeps in contact with aiden, james and friends she's made on DCAS. she goes on to live with rosa-maria after university, and the two will organize, years later down the line, a meet-up for the cast of season 2, even being kind enough as to invite yul and riya, although neither show up.

miriam gets to enjoy retirement by travelling around the world, sometimes even tagging along with friends, even with the group of james, aiden, lake and rosa-maria. why not :3

james & aiden continue travelling the world together, growing their following on social media, and eventually aiden pursues a career in theatre and earns a lot of success! i mean have you HEARD his VA sing. my god, can he sing.

ellie & gabby lead a happy life with ellie as an artist and gabby carries them with her income by becoming an environmental scientist !!

fiore moves in with alec, alec adopts fiore, and the two unlearn their bad habits together; alec, his bad parenting, and fiore, being this evil gremlin child. she still has her outbursts, but alec stops feeding into this idea that she is a monster or a mistake and pushes her to grow. the two also meet up with some other contestants, and eventually befriend rosa-maria, so she helps a lot with parenting tips :)

grett becomes a gym trainer & fitness influencer and uses her social media platform to encourage and lift up others. my queen

jake and tom begin dating and they talk a lottttttt of things out... and eventually tomjajakeden becomes a thing & they all move in together and it's awesome. tom and aiden aren't dating but the rest of them all are and it's kinda funny actually. tom also realizes he's aroflux and that explains a lot about how his identity has impacted his love life. they're unstoppable

also tom quits his job as a cop and becomes a firefighter instead. and gets an autism diagnosis. also jake gets a BPD diagnosis. and aiden gets a shit ton of piercings. and tom gets fatter. and james also gets a shit ton of piercings. and they're all happy together and they have movie nights and game nights and they love each other a lot

the cast generally meets a lot, the casts even merge at one point despite some of them never having been on DCAS. it's so funny how some of these guys meet. deadass alec and fiore go camping one night only to find they've come at the same camping site as kai and maggy. another time gabellie runs into dan at a bookstore. and so forth. they eventually get a super large groupchat and it's hilarious. they all meet sometimes and they have to book a huge venue it's so funny

also gabgrellie becomes real too why not. i love gabgrellie. grett moves in with them and they're all super cool and awesome and in love

maybe i should write some of these hmmm

[theinfernalcollective]

Alright. Here is some advice for people questioning whether they have DID or OSDD. Now, from me and my parts views, I will class myself as pro self diagnosing. As traits commonly associated with DID and OSDD will never be 100% conformation that you have it. This, is why extensive research on DID and OSDD are needed, plus research on other similar disorders is also needed.

BIG FAT DISCLAIMER: I am labeling myself as pro self diagnosing. This is purely intended for people questioning whether they have a dissociative disorder like DID and OSDD without conformation but also without denial. With this being said if you want to say that I am fakeclaiming people or systems. Leave my blog please.

AMNESIA AND FORGETTING

This is something that all systems experience. Experiencing amnesia does not mean you have DID or OSDD or even a disorder! However this can easily be explained by other similar surounding disorders like ADHD, ASD, depression, and dissociative amnesia. It can even simply just be the human brain blocking things as non systems still experience amnesia.

CHILDHOOD TRAUMA

This is a requirement for DID and OSDD but having childhood trauma does not mean you have DID and OSDD. Many others who are non systems still experience childhood trauma. Many other disorders are also caused by trauma, such as PTSD, BPD and NPD. Also to add. The brain will make non systems forget their trauma. That is not a DID/OSDD exclusive thing!

DISSOCIATION

Anyone can dissociate and everyone does dissociate to a normal level. A bunch of disorders like PTSD, depression, schizophrenia and psychosis have dissociation as one of the symptoms. Dissociation is a coping technique that the brain does to escape something it does not want to deal with. And in many cases, that's trauma.

It is also important to look at the diagnostic criteria and not just the symptoms. The criteria determines whether a diagnosis will be pursued or not.

[xxkitty-carnagexx]

INTR0!!!🎸

Hiiii!!! I'm kitty, but you can also call me Jason!!

I'm 18 years old!! I'm bi and solo poly!! I'm dating my swag bf of 2 years!! I've been interested in the emo/scene subcultures since I was in elementary school and I recently decided to actually pursue becoming a part of the community!!

I'm working on getting a diagnosis for whatever's wrong with my body rn. I have chronic pain and fatigue, so I used a couple mobility aids!! I just got my first wheelchair, I also use a rollator walker and a cane!!

I also suffer from a lot of mental health issues! I am diagnosed with depression, general anxiety, social anxiety, PTSD, autism and ADHD. I am 110% sure I have bpd, I have all of the symptoms at the highest severity. I also may have bipolar or something else that causes mania. I also have a terrible relationship with food and most likely have an eating disorder.

I grew up poor and still am, most of my stuff is either diy or from the goodwill bins.

I used to go to a lot of local shows but I haven't been able to since my health began declining.

I'm interested in a lot of subcultures and fashion styles, some that I like are emo, scene, crunkcore, gyaru/gyaruo, jirai kei, new wave/new romantic, crust punk, goblincore, mcbling, trad goth and more. I usually don't get dressed up tho, I'm severely depressed.

My fave bands/artists!! ⬇️

(All Genres)

My Chemical Romance, Dot Dot Curve, The Medic Droid, Brokencyde, Millionaires, Alexisonfire, Signal The Escape, Blinded Black, Pierce The Veil, Black Veil Brides, Sleeping With Sirens, Secrets Kept in Suicide, Fall Out Boy, Before Today, Deadbeat Nightlife, Vampires Everywhere!, Snow White's Poison Bite, 3OH!3, Cobra Starship, Call The Cops, Ohemgee, I Set My Friends On Fire, HappyHappy, Mitski, Shell Shock, Dystopia, Dog Park Dissidents, Pansy Division, Against Me!, The Used, She Wants Revenge, Hole, Babes In Toyland, L7, 45 Grave, Rosegarden Funeral Party, Kimya Dawson, Mal Blum, Car Seat Headrest, Ayesha Erotica, Nine Inch Nails, PUP, FIDLAR, Destroy Boys, Breathe Carolina, Kittie, The Front Bottoms, Dazey and the Scouts, Veruca Salt, Slutever, 7 Year Bitch, Mom Jeans. And More!!!

Will add more later!!

[genericpuff]

Hey, idk if you’ve ever answered this before, but will Minthe have bpd in Lore Rekindled? Or are you doing other things with her

Ima be honest, I'm still trying to buff out Minthe's story in the drafts for Rekindled, so I'm not 100% sure yet if her story's going to involve her having BPD. On the one hand, I'd like to honor her original character design who was canonically written with BPD, but on the other, it's difficult to try and do justice by a character who shouldn't have even been written with BPD in the first place (not to say she couldn't be BPD, but it's clear Rachel didn't know what she was signing up for at all when she decided to just "give her" BPD especially with the plot arc she was given; it seemed to only serve the purpose of villainizing her).

I want to make sure that if I do pursue the BPD plotline route that I do my research properly and give Minthe the chance for redemption and empathy she wasn't given in the original comic. While I don't have BPD specifically, I do fall under other mental illness umbrellas that share elements with BPD and I know would want to be treated with the same respect that Minthe should have been treated with in the first place.

Ultimately, I'm going to go with whatever suits the plot and Minthe best, but I won't know that until I do my due diligence and go through the rounds on the chalkboard a few times. So apologies there that I don't have a straight answer at this time! Unlike removing the SA plot, it's just not as simple of a question to answer, because while I would like to take a crack at writing Minthe with her original characterization, I also want to make sure I'm not stepping way out of my own league.

Of course, I'm always open to hearing y'alls opinions as well, especially those of you who live with BPD. You don't have to outright share your own backstories or diagnosis experiences, but if you have your own preferred sources or personal input on writing characters with BPD that you think would help, please feel free to DM me !!

[werebutch]

Disregard this if it’s too personal, but how did you figure out you had bpd? I suspect I may have it but my symptoms are a bit atypical from how it’s usually presented so idk how to go about getting diagnosed or getting therapy

I have no idea, to be honest I just read articles and take tests online and talk with people who are professionally diagnosed but I take all that with a grain of salt. I’m not absolutely sure that I have it, and I’ll never be unless a professional diagnoses me. Personally I don’t like to self dx myself. My rejection sensitivity is very high but that could also just be something else. Back when I had a fp, I was very sure I had bpd or bipolar because my symptoms were so crazy. Seriously crazy. But since I don’t have a fp anymore (although I still have an unusual amount of bitterness and curiousity towards her, at least imo. Not sure if it’s related) obviously a lot of those are pretty minuscule now. Minuscule as in I’m not having full sobbing breakdowns multiple times a week over someone, having very dramatic ups and downs, not AS much black and white thinking, etc. I’ve often gone back and forth between thinking it’s bipolar and borderline, but at this point it doesn’t really matter much to me because I’m so familiar with my symptoms, triggers, coping mechanisms, etc etc. to be honest, all that really matters to me is that I very much relate to what I see and hear about bpd. I don’t think I’ll ever pursue a professional diagnosis just because it’s not going to do much for me... It’s not like they have medication for it lol.

But that’s just me. I would say do all the research you can, but don’t fall prey to this new kind of content telling you you have every disorder under the sun because you think a certain way. You know what I mean? Talk to people actually diagnosed too. That’s pretty much it :> if you really want to know, you could probably call a psych office and ask about personality disorder tests or something. Idk! Good luck though ♥️♥️

If anyone professionally diagnosed wants to weigh in in the notes go right ahead ^__^

[0rb0t]

I am a fucking hypocrite (affectionate) (positive)

I am right, I am proven wrong, I change my mind, I amend, I move forward

I am able to accept when I'm wrong, but I'm also able to fight for what I think is right.

I go back against things I used to say, I'll walk back on a lot. I'm a hypocrite. I do the things I condemned not that long ago.

This is my 2023 arc.

in 2017 i openly feared and hated BPD.

in 2023, i am pursuing a BPD diagnosis for myself.

I'm learning more about it, for my own sake, from a place of acceptance and love.

I'm not afraid of what I'll find... well. I am afraid of what I'll find. but I'm okay with whatever will be there. even the Toxic Version of myself is still myself. I'm going to take It by the hand, pull It to my chest

and hug It. it's alright it's okay

[mentalhealthdocumented]

Things get easier. Life is not fair. Good people sometimes suffer. I think as a person the best you can do it just learn and try to apply these lessons to the future. You can’t change the past but you have control over your own future. Not everyone is capable of healing. In the past I felt a lot of guilt about things, rightfully so but the reality is a lot of the mistakes I’ve made, I was taken advantage of too or I had no choice.

I feel guilty sometimes about limiting contact with my older sister but she is extremely aggressive and dominating, worse than me. I still love her but cutting off contact has also helped me reflect on my own behaviours which were normalized after being modelled after her.

I feel bad about ignoring my uncle but he has a little crush on me and that makes me feel very bad because I used to see him as a father figure.

I feel bad about trying to steal a man from a girl and calling her mean names. I have tried to help by proving mental health resources and he exploited me. He was sane, I was sick, he knew that I was threatening to hurt others and myself. I was the one who eventually left so I am not responsible. My last contact was the end of August 2022. It have been more than two years and he never had sex with me, he has never even seen me naked. I feel a lot of guilt because it was wrong how I basically stepped on that girl but he let me and he still doesn’t like her. I feel guilt and I feel bad even for writing that but I’m released from my guilt and responsibility. I have tried to help her more than him, I have done what I can but my life is getting busier and it’s been two years, it’s time for me to finally close this chapter.

People are allowed to watch me if they want but I’m busy, the last few days I’ve been stressed. Right now in school we are wrapping up the first semesters and so lots of exams, tests. I think im beginning to enter a stress induced paranoia thing and so I need to just really cut off toxic people and experiences. I understand these are not bad people, everyone is sick in their own way and everyone has their own traumas but I need to take care of myself.

Cutting off toxic people and situations, even their is a guy I’m talking too now which maybe I should distance myself from. I feel a lot of guilt for things but this is called empathy, feeling guilt is not bad and has actually helped me to like pursue a formal diagnosis and like fix myself to some extent, without empathy and guilt I’d probably be like in jail so that’s actually what’s keeping me on a better path. But I don’t need to feel guilty for everything, especially when I’m dealing with the complexity of my own traumas.

My mom would drink a lot growing up and so I remember one memory in particular she drank too much on new years and I had to clean up her vomit with her boyfriend who was kinda like that step dad for me that was trying to fuck me. And I remember she vomited on the passengers side and so for like the rest of the year even though it was clean you could still smell some of the vomit every time I’d sit there.

My sister is more dominant than me and so growing up I felt very in debt to her for a lot. I always felt like I had to impress her or make her happy, even now I feel bad for cutting her off but she’s a lot more insane than me and it’s hard to handle. I want to be there for my niece and nephew and so I’ll have to talk to her again, not just when I babysit but i need a relationship with her to really be there for them.

I have many uh complex mental health issues, my formal diagnosis originally in 2018 was autism. Now it was autism and bpd because I told them things I had been hiding, even things I never shared back in 2018. I actually don’t think I’m autistic I think I have bpd with cptsd (complex trauma) but that’s not a formal diagnosis right now in the dsm. So I’ll check again in a few years another assessment.

Aside from this I have low self esteem, codependency, anxiety. A lot of what im sharing now relates to low self esteem and codependency. Guilt is not a bad thing but sometimes it’s okay to give up, now I feel almost like responsible for helping some of these people which is codependency. But I’m not a therapist, I am not their therapist. I feel like if I don’t help them they will get hurt without me but that’s not true, they have friends, they have family (other than me).

My feelings come in waves, sometimes I feel kinda upset because like why can’t you fix your life but it depends. This is probably the bpd with mood swings right. I am a very complicated person which I think allows others to pick and choose which’s parts of me they want to believe.

I can’t help people who don’t want to be helped. Avoiding people who are toxic or situations that are too polluted is actually good especially since I’ve done everything I can do. I have tried helping people, my sister can’t take criticism. When I try to help she yells, not everyone yells but people get aggressive mean, I’m a very fragile person emotionally and I need to be in a safe space without people struggling with their own traumas. I’ve apologized a few times already to the universe like I’ve posted helpful playlists and whatever, I’ve tried to post maybe unflattering photos at times to make people feel better but it’s not my responsibility to heal anyone that doesn���t want to heal or cut myself short to make others feel better. I need to work on myself and take care of myself, I need to be the best version of myself and I shouldn’t feel guilty from moving away from toxic situations, I’m sorry to anyone that I’ve hurt but I need to heal myself. My intention is not to kill anyone’s confidence or make them feel bad, my VSCO for example really is to thirst trap. Please stay off my social media if you are struggling with mental health challenges yourself. I have a lot of mental issues and social media actually does help, an example is I have a video coming of like a music playlist actually. It’s sounds silly but it makes me happy. I like to stream my iPad call of duty. I think it’s cool. I have an online presence, I recognize that others may see it sometimes, focus on yourself.

If you are here you want something from me, ask yourself what is that? What do you want from me and why do you want it? Is it just entertainment, are you lonley, are you feeling insecure, are you loooking for advice, are you looking to laugh at me to feel better about yourself? I’ll be whatever you want but just know I’m still me. I am a complex person, I have complex moods, I have literal moments of psychosis. It’s not a one size fits all type of thing right. Anything you are getting from me you can get better from within yourself. So like if you look at me to laugh, like why are you laughing at a person having a mental breakdown? What does that say about you, you are insecure and maybe a little sadistic. This can be fixed. I am not the one to fix that, I mean at some point I’m probably going to be an actual therapist and so even though people ignore me a lot of what I’m saying is actually something that people would pay for so, you can either choose to learn and grow or avoid your problems. That’s your choice but I’m not a villain in your story, I am a victim too but now I consider myself more of a survivor. I’m moving on and trying to heal, right now like the next few days I think I’m actually experiencing like stress induced paranoia, I’m aware now and so I’m being careful but I have this feeling like someone is going to hurt me and that I’m going to die. I understand now this will pass and it’s actually not based in reality but posting and venting I think helps. It helps right now but I need to find a better coping skill. Posting on youtube helps more than nothing but I need to grow from this too, I gotta keep looking for resources and find other ways to vent. I think another reason I do this is I’m like trying to help people as a way to temporarily forget about my own issues. Like when I log off then I’m stuck with the stress and paranoia. Putting all of this into other areas is a temporary solution.

People are complicated frl, like this is a mental breakdown being documented. Not everyone is interested in psychology and whatever but it’s actually kinda interesting and creative. I just need to find a better way, I think I should do tumblr again because I keep deleted playlists, YouTube should be more for music and gaming. A lot of what I’m writing might be helpful for reference, I always say I’m going to keep it but then I don’t. It’s because I feel shame after but I’m literally crazy, having a record of my struggles is not bad. I feel a lot of shame, but what can I do like I’m freaking out. My emotions are there, I’m happy to at least not be keying any cars like YouTube is better than that.

[chaotic-queer-disaster]

#ok but#i took a screening for Alexithymia and scored kinda high#so ive been doing research to try and figure myself out more#still wondering if im autistic even tho ive scored high on those online screenings to#getting a diagnosis is going to be expensive 😩#autism#actuallyautistic#?#what do i do next

@30shadesofmanilla first i'd lie to clarify alexithymia can appear outside of autism, as it's a subclinical personality trait (im not sure if you were saying it does or doesn't, i just wanted to make sure since sometimes understanding what people mean is hard for me).

second, if "what do i do next" was a real question:

look at the DSM-5 Diagnostic Criteria for Autism Spectrum Disorder

look into diagnoses that are often comorbid with, or may present similarly to, autism, like OCD (involves rituals, routines, anxieties), ADHD (fidgeting, difficulty in school, seeming disconnected from peers with daydreaming/distraction), STPD (lack of close friends, social awkwardness, social anxiety, odd mannerisms), BPD (difficulty in relationships, black and white thinking, poor emotional regulation), And More. PTSD, anxiety, intellectual disability (though that's very unlikely to have gone unnoticed), anixety, etc.

(the things i said in brackets are reasons it may look similar to/appear alongside/be confused with autism btw, as an autisitc person may have or seem to have those symptoms as well.)

track your symptoms, and what you remember of your symptoms going back as far as you can (since autism is from birth). Get the input of people who know you who are knowledgeable on autism (especially autistic people), online and/or offline. look into the experiences of as many autistics as you can, across masking levels and support need levels and presentations and ages of diagnosis. these can be found on blogs, sites, and social media, though don't take anything said on social media at complete face value (insert "you really think people would to that? go on the internet and lie?" here). read papers, too, and any books by autistics you can find (i'd give examples but this is already So Long).

be honest with urself about what does and doesn't line up when pursuing self dx (e.g. i used to think i had ADHD, but i.... do not. i actually have dissociative problems! from PTSD! which i confused for inattentive ADHD! which are helped very differently!)--it's ok to be confused or wrong or unsure. and once you've done a lot of research and tracked things and really looked inside urself, if you're comfortable with it, self diagnose. if you can it's great to look into prof dx, especially for disability accommodation reasons, but i know with the price and medical bias such as misogyny, racism, clasism and ableism that can be hard.

i wish u luck in your autism journey !

me: ok how am i feeling. i'm going to look into my brain and figure out how i'm fe--

alexithymia brain: static

me: what?

alexithymia brain: you feel the way radio static sounds

me: well that's extremely fucking unhelpful

alexithymia brain: it's the best i can give you

[buckthefutcher]

oh ALSO when i had my last therapy session (it was MBT so mostly focused on realtionships with other ppl) I was like....... so do i have anything diagnosable then? is that something i should pursue? and she was like '..........nah i think a lot has just happened to you' which wasn't clear whether no i dont have a diagnosis or no its not worth getting diagnosed. i know labels are not ideal as its more complex than that but im still just living under this umbrella of suspected BPD and thats really fun too

[unstablemotions]

personal rant lol

so now my therapist doesn't think we're bipolar lol soooo that's interesting. she talked about borderline, but then she was like "but you're not having extreme enough emotions since you can stop yourself from acting out". she's said cptsd and also "having different personality states" or however she worded it. but she also told me that even if i dont fit a specific label it doesn't mean that i dont experience it but like... i'd like to have at least some kind of "you have something that's somewhere close to this and this" so that it's easier for me to understand and work with. but at least the vague shit is helpful to a degree still. realising that i'm dissociating all the time and that i have to work together with my states of self to heal and function better has been extremely healing. maybe i find out that i don't have did, cptsd, bpd, adhd, or bipolar, but the labels have been helpful so far at least and so have some of the meds lol

it is extremely confusing to have so many opinions and tests from like a dozen or more doctors, psychologists, nurses, and therapists throughout your life and them having different conclusions and the tests coming out with a "you definitely have something going on but you don't exactly live up to this diagnosis enough that i'll give it to you"

a diagnosis is just a box. we exist on a spectrum and where the cut off line is isn't exactly black/white. you don't just magically not have a disorder just because you fall short on some symptoms. like you still have problems with some of the same things as the criteria for that disorder says. sometimes there's a "unspecified" or "other specified" category that you can be put into when you clearly need help with this thing lol. we have an unspecified bipolar disorder still (they aren't gonna remove it or change it rn but maybe i will pursue that in the future)

also some countries don't even recognise certain disorders in an official manner yet. we don't use the icd-11 yet (the have pushed it to 2026-27 but might be longer), but our therapist still mentioned cptsd about us, which is an icd-11 exclusive diagnosis so far, although it has been recognised for decades afaik

so yeah, rn we call ourselves traumatized, neurodivergent and mentally ill. we recognise our symptoms that align with certain disorders and maybe it turns out that we don't have that, but using coping tactics that are helpful for people with did, cptsd, adhd, bipolar has been and still are super fucking useful for us

[tempesttragedya]

friendly reminder that I am Not Neurotypical, and that I'm trying to run my blog in a way more conducive to my mental health as well. ❤️

[rubberduckyrye]

To respect your fic and the spoilers, I will also put this under a readmore :D

Oooooh, I had a feeling it was ASPD or BPD. I know those disorders are often demonized to hell and back and I know a little bit about BPD due to osmosis and my own studying for when I was looking up to see if I had BPD and/or for my Kokichi's backstory with Kenzo, where he gets Kokichi diagnosed very early on as a child with BPD to further gaslight and control the people around Kokichi into believing he's acting out and all when he doesn't even HAVE actual BPD. I've heard horror stories of Autistic people being misdiagnosed with BPD and having the worst time with medical professionals because of it. I was even advised by MY OWN THERAPIST not to pursue the diagnosis because the treatment for BPD is CBT and having BPD on my profile would ruin my ability to get anything done.

I digress though!

I had no idea that ASPD involved chronic boredom like that--then again it seems like a lot of problematic behavioral symptoms of several mental disorders stem from boredom (Lord knows how Boredom from my ADHD has me going crazy--there's a reason why ADHDers are also known for being adrenaline junkies, I've heard stories of kids throwing things at their siblings just because they were so bored) really I'm starting to understand Junko more and mroe the more I realize how crippling boredom is as a feeling and I'm Scared of that xD

And I know how boredom can quickly lead to suicidal thoughts too.

My own boredom stints lead to self hatred and those horrible thoughts, and tbh my only reliable way to get rid of those feelings is to take a fucking Nap. Sometimes I need to take my anxiety meds to help me shut off my brain tbh like I have insanely rapid thoughts.

That's really valid of you not to respect the DSM tbh--I'm also frustrated with how people treat ADHD in how it disrupts others lives rather than how it affects the individual. As an OSDD system myself, I'm also not soo sure how I feel about cutting out the seperation of OSDD 1-a and OSDD 1-b because I actually find the differences to be helpful! I have OSDD 1-b, AKA I have distinguished Alters who are Not Me but I don't have huge blackouts. I actually often give Kokichi OSDD 1-a, him having multiple alters that are versions of himself but with blackouts. Yay for projecting your mental bullshit onto your faves! Still I'm Rambling I am Sorry

I honestly want to do more research on ASPD in general, but since it's one of the harshly stigmatized disorders, I'm going to guess there's a LOT of garbage on the internet about it. Mind telling me and my followers more, since you know way more about it than I suspect the random internet page I find via research will know?

Feel free to take the time to infodump about it here! I'm sure me and my followers would be happy to learn the full scope of the disorder from a lens that doesn't demonize it--ah, unless it's emotionally taxing to do so? I just noticed your tags nasjdjkdnask If it's too much to ask then feel free to just say as such, but I would love some reading material if you know any good ones.

@kindlyre

Okay I'm VERY curious as to what mental illness you're writing Rantaro to have because it seems to be one of those stigmatized ones and I'm v curious???

[askaborderline]

hi! i find myself relating to a lot of borderline traits + symptoms, and i have for a while. as more time passes i’m noticing more things about myself lining up, particularly my thought processes, emotional dysregulation, paranoia, and obsession. however i internalize a Lot of my symptoms and on a technical level i’m functioning: i have a steady job, i avoid substances and i have like, 1.5 friends . (this is despite my mood swings causing me to hit myself or sob over the smallest perceived slight or an angry level of intrusive thoughts). i definitely WANT help but.. i’m worried that i won’t be taken seriously because im “functioning” and hide a lot of symptoms. do you have any advice on pursuing treatment??? should i go to my primary care first?? i don’t have a therapist: do i get one first, and then how can i be sure i’m receiving treatment helpful for me if i am undiagnosed??? i feel a little lost. thank you!

Hey anon,

First of all, there are multiple subtypes of BPD and everyone presents them in different ways. Not everyone's quite like, say, me, where they deal with all their pain by drinking and driving cars way too fast and never holding jobs :P

Second of all, if you want to get professional help, I want to say now that you need to be very aware of self-advocating for yourself - BPD has a certain stigma in the medical field that still hasn't gone away, and a lot of people tend to be treated as the problem or disregarded as "untreatable" as a result. I'm not telling you to avoid professional help, but I wanted to warn you of some of the dangers that come with that.

I would definitely get a therapist as a first priority - BPD is not really "curable" or treatable with medication or anything like that - meds can help with co-morbid disorders or specific symptoms and such, but it's pretty much impossible to deal with it without therapy. I recommend getting a therapist, watching how they treat you for some time (at least a few months), and only if they're really working well with you and seem open to working with personality disorders, bring up the possibility of getting an official diagnosis. I would also recommend seeking out DBT, it is a form of therapy that was made by a person with BPD and it tends to help a lot of us out.

I hope this all goes well for you, I really do :)

[pattytacuri]

10/1/22

Sometimes its hard to be here and by here, I mean this place of calm and peace. It gets boring and I want excitement. It comes with the BPD diagnosis I guess or maybe it's just my nature. I don't know what can top a trip to my homeland tbh. It's been a goal of mine to go back since I graduated from college and now that I've achieved it, it's time to move on to other goals. I still have many to continue pursuing. But it goes without saying, sometimes this road to self-improvement gets lonely 🙁 🥺 . And I know I said , "I'm going on a year long sabbatical from men and sex" and I haven't met anyone in person but if someone hits me up in my DMs, if they're interesting enough I'll talk to them for a bit. 2 dudes hits me up on my DMs the past 2 weeks and both of them I've blocked already. 🤣🤣🤣 IDK, I was telling my friend, "I think my standards are just to high with how I want to be treated because the minute I feel disrespected, disregarded or boundaries crossed, I tell them , "wish you the best" and block them. 🤣🤣 my friend tells me, "or they're just trash". Idk 🤷‍♀️ and I don't have the energy to find out. Maybe I'll just stick to concentrating solely on my goals and kids. October will be my fifth month of abstinence and it gets easier every month I guess. It's a really strange feeling for someone like me to go this long without any "Joe" in her life. It's kind of like how driving felt so strange and different and now it's part of my routine. I do have something in the works that will give me anxiety and an adrenaline rush for next year: starting the paperwork and filing for divorce on my own. My goal is that right after my birthday , my divorce will be final and I won't be legally tied to my starter husband. He's still a part of my family and I'll probably still live with him for a bit but that whole husband/ wife business will finally be put to rest and it will be another chapter closed. Maybe with that chapter closed, I'll authentically feel like a single and solitary woman and really embrace that identity. 🤔 Maybe once the divorced papers are finalized, I'll finally be able to leave behind one of the most painful chapters in my life.

[traumasurvivorshelpingsurvivors]

tw animal death (brief)

Hey, I'd like some advice and possibly some reassurance. To be brief, I've struggled with what I've recently realized is severe antisocial behaviour throughout most of my life. Lying for self benefit, callous cold way of speaking to the point adults and kids alike always hated me, impulsiveness, poor relationships, dangerous/risky behaviour, not thinking about consequences, failing to work or do tasks, even down to hurting an animal when I was very very young. My question is: Do you mods think it's even worth it to pursue such a stigmatized diagnosis? I'm already medicated for some of these symptoms since I'm diagnosed with psychosis and (I believe misdiagnosed) with BPD. I feel invalid in even thinking about being a kleptomaniac and someone who used to hurt animals, it just makes me feel like I will always be a horrible person, but that thought only gives me a detached and distant pain. I feel like I should feel more, more guilt, more... something, about this discovery and these unlocked memories, but I just feel distant from it. What do you recommend I do from here?

Hey anon,

You are not a horrible person. Please try to remind yourself of that. Recognize that you are doing the best you can and coping how you know how.

To work on your lying, I think you've already done the first step, which is to recognize that you're using this coping mechanism. Remember that lying takes a lot of energy and work; telling the truth is more simple.

Try to figure out what triggers you to engage in these behaviors. Take a deep breath and try to calm down before acting. Think about alternative ways to respond to things. It won't be easy to choose these alternatives right away, but you can do it. One exercise to do would be, when you're feeling calm and regulated, imagine a scenario in which you would normally lie, act impulsively, or otherwise behave antisocially. Then, imagine a different way of reacting to the situation that does not include lying, impulsivity, etc.

I think it is worth seeking mental health treatment for your issues. Whether you get a diagnosis or not, it can still help to treat your symptoms. Talking openly and frankly with a therapist may help you get a grasp on how to work on these issues at your own pace. Your issues could be caused by a variety of things, such as Bipolar, ADHD, substance use, antisocial personality disorder, or something else.

It's possible that you' not ready to fully acknowledge that you feel pain and guilt. It may be hard to feel emotions and connect to your sensations. There is an image on this page that is a wheel of emotions. Familiarizing yourself with more words to describe your feelings could be helpful, especially when identifying your emotions.

Try putting yourself in others' shoes. Everyone has a complicated mind and different issues in their life, just like you. Recognize that other people have their own thoughts and feelings. Try to find similarities between yourself and others. Ask them questions about their interests and try to find a point of connection.

Wishing you well.

- Misa