#selfcare positive post

[l-in-the-light]

How would Law treat so with a depression & anxiety? Going through this shit at the moment 🥺

For starters I need to apologize, I really wanted to answer it sooner, but I felt like I would do it poorly if I don't prepare mentally first and read up a bit more about the topic, to arrange thoughts in my head.

Let's say someone on Law's crew is going through this, Bepo perhaps, or if Law is with Strawhats - Sanji (for some reason I feel like Sanji is the most likely candidate for depression&anxiety combo). Law isn't the type who would ask the question directly, he would observe instead, and since he is very good at observing people, he would notice the tiny things others wouldn't. If it was Sanji, Law could realize how he didn't do any special snack or drink for the girls on the crew in the afternoon and in the evening or how his meals are suddenly a bit simpler, less exquisite, and of course Law would notice because he was slightly impressed before (but also thought it's such a waste for a cook on a pirate crew to prepare food on the level of highest class restaurant). He could notice that something's wrong in the details, like less decorative dressings, less variety, sticking to 3 flavours instead of usual 10, stuff like that. Suddenly they get more meals that are faster to make than long hours of preparation Sanji usually dedicates to cooking. In other words, things Sanji enjoys the most would suddenly stop bringing him joy, so the first signs of depression would be that he prepares less fancy meals. He stops also picking up fights with Zoro (though that would be a pretty obvious sign that something's up). Seems Sanji can't also sleep at night, and ofc Law would know, because he is also having sleeping troubles - but that's normal for him, not so much for Sanji.

Of course to everyone Sanji seems like he behaves the same way as always, spending all his time in the kitchen, smiling to the girls, maybe just less enthusiasthic than usual, but everyone thinks it's just Sanji feeling under the weather. It probably wasn't the first time either, probably any time Sanji thinks of his family he spirals mentally down into depression. But everyone on the Strawhats crew is used to it, and the new guys (Jimbei, for example) wouldn't know what's his usual behaviour anyway. Law though, would notice those tiny changes and take it seriously. He would observe discreetly at first, then try to strike a conversation, probably on one of those long sleepless nights they will inevitably end up sharing. He would choose his words carefully, mostly checking in if Sanji wants someone to talk with and share, and if not, he would just offer his quiet company instead.

After this conversation Sanji would know that his suffering isn't unnoticed. Law isn't the type to push himself or his help on people, but he would try to show support in some smaller or bigger ways, with his actions (because that's where Law's support shines the most, not in his words). For example, he would offer to go grocery shopping for Sanji so Sanji won't have to do it and feel guilty for not fullfilling his duties properly as the cook of the crew. He would also help with cooking, even though Law's meals would be probably just on the edible level of cooking, nothing special, maybe slightly on the bad end, but tolerable. He would announce soon afterwards that it's the crew's time to take turns to cook, so Sanji can get some rest - he wouldn't tell the others why or he would think up some sort of excuse, he wouldn't share personal stuff like the true reason for the sudden arrangement, if Sanji isn't ready to share by himself. It would be Strawhats turn to pamper Sanji and they would probably suck a bit at that, but they would try their best anyway. Sanji probably isn't even mentally prepared to accept so much attention and care directed at him, so he would probably protest and later cry about it on his own. Maybe that would finally push him to talk with the rest about how he's feeling and what he's going through. Sanji is the type who needs a gentle indirect push, or at least so it seems like to me.

Of course Sanji would have no idea that Law already prepared Strawhats for this talk, warned them about things they shouldn't say or do, and offered them ideas on what they can tell him instead; how they should always be ready to listen, but don't push, but be persistent and consistent in how they express that Sanji can turn to them any time he needs to. Law would also not tell them what's it about, but would bribe them to sit through him yapping and he would make sure they repeat everything they learned back to him, so he knows they understood. He would take extra time with Luffy, but not because Luffy won't understand, but because Law worries Luffy might get particularly affected about it. Law takes extra time to explain to him that he can't just punch the right guy or distract Sanji to solve the problem, but there are things only Luffy can do for Sanji.

After the talk Chopper immediately proceeds to study more about depression and anxiety, and will educate Strawhats at every possible occassion (Law will make sure Sanji isn't in the vicinity when it happens, even if it means suddenly shambling people away and disorienting them). Zoro would get really whimsical, even in the middle of his training routine, which probably never happened before. His conclusion would be, probably, to be even more annoying than usual to Sanji, to make him feel like nothing changed, not from Zoro's side at least. Zoro might not look like it, but he probably went through depression as well after Kuina died, so he can sort of relate, even if he doesn't have a good idea how to help anyone, because it's not like he ever got any support. But he is always listening carefully to everything Chopper says and reccommends to do. Nami and Robin try to spend more time with Sanji, despite the fact it doesn't make him happy like it usually would, because now he has troubles actually feeling anything positive. But the girls would still just sit around in kitchen, doing their own things, keeping him company, because at least then Sanji won't sit there alone, isolated and stuck with his thoughts on his own.

Franky will cry over Sanji at random moments, because it's Franky, he can't control it. He also went through depression before, more than once, so he provides what he knows best: creating some devices for Sanji's kitchen. He also has a long heartwarming talk with him and encourages Sanji to try some craftwork as well, no matter what it would be, because that was what helped Franky himself to deal with things, so who knows, it might be worth trying. Sanji probably has no heart to tell him that he can't bring himself to do much at all, no matter how simple those things might be, but he thanks him, the advice might have not been the best but the talk actually helped him a lot. Brook will play some sad tunes and forbid happy music on the ship for a while to show his solidarity. He also gives Sanji his music dial he keeps for Laboon, just for keepseeking, because he claims that's the only thing that saved him when he was stranded on the Florian Triangle, so maybe it can help Sanji as well. Jimbei would be the guy who doesn't do much, but always makes sure to validate Sanji's feelings whenever he talks up or mentions anything, never judges or pushes him to do or try anything, just reminds him to tell himself to keep going, "even if only for one more minute, hour or day" and that it will eventually get better even if it's hard to believe it right now. He also reminds him it takes time and it's normal it feels so overwhelming. He always remembers to tell him he's not alone and that all of them care for him. He never, not even once, looks tired or disinterested when listening to Sanji either, always giving him his full attention.

Usopp probably is the one who has the most ideas how to help, but feels like nothing will work out (sometimes he tries anyway, sometimes he resigns before even trying any of his ideas), so he ends up feeling down as well, because we all know Usopp has actually chronic depression himself. Law warns Chopper to pay attention to him as well, already having predicted that Usopp will need extra support. This results in one night of Sanji and Usopp bonding over a really long, serious talk about their feelings, slowly working through them together. Finally Usopp declares he probably couldn't help at all and that's it's all his fault, he tells Sanji how great he actually is with how he deals with all of this, and ends up just taking care of Sanji by massaging his shoulders or giving him a foot massage as they drink chamomile tea that Chopper insists for them to always have at hand. It turns out Usopp is pretty good at making sure of that. And also to identify and erase any stressors or things that cause Sanji to feel anxious (anything even remotely swirly like Vinsmoke's eyebrows, for example), even if he sometimes overdoes that. He soon accompanies Law for grocery shopping as well, having realized that's also something he is able to help with.

Luffy struggles the most on how to show his support to Sanji, despite Law always sticking to his side and telling him he just needs to act like he always does. But Luffy thinks that's never enough, because no one was ever alright with Luffy just acting like Luffy, though he doesn't say that part outloud. Finally, Law teaches him some things he learned long time ago from medical books, like 333 or 555 rule for anxiety. And Luffy is overjoyed when he can teach that to Sanji, always accompanying him for the exercise, breathing deeply, withholding his breath and releasing it again, even synchronizing it together with Sanji. Now whenever Sanji has to do it, Luffy does it as well with him, even if he has to rocket himself from the other end of the ship. He also starts to love naming the things he can hear, touch or move; despite the fact he always found stuff like that boring before, but since he's doing it for Sanji he thinks it's awesome now. Luffy thinks Law was right and that there are things he can do, and Law ends up teaching him a few more.

They all form a support network for Sanji together. When Sanji is ready to get some therapy help, they're his anchor providing a safe environment for him to recover. The Strawhats also control each other, so that no one accidentally pushes Sanji to do something that makes him feel uncomfortable or to prevent someone from blabbling out something harmful (while thinking it's helpful). Since they're on a ship, soon Chopper needs to become a therapist for Sanji, and Law also educates himself more to act as a support when needed.

I guess Law would arrange the support circle, make sure the help others offer isn't misguided, and gives Sanji a gentle push. Then he would just observe and direct others to get the message across: that Sanji isn't alone, that everyone is understanding and available for him, and that whatever he's going through isn't his fault. That's exactly what Bepo, Penguin and Shachi did for him, and what they did for Bepo when he was having some of his depression episodes. Law might not be good at giving direct help, but arranging things to show support is something he can do and will definitely do. Finally the skills he gained from Doflamingo's training, one that was meant for taking advantage of people, exploiting their weaknesses and manipulating them, has ended up being actually useful, but not in ways Doflamingo would even think of. Now, when holding firmly in his palm all the knowledge and vulnerable things he learns about people, he knows how to use all of that to offer better help and save people, instead of harming them.

Sanji probably notices it was all his doing in the background, even if Law takes no credit for it, but that's a whole different tale.

I'm sorry you have to go through this, anon, I know it's not fair. I also have a friend who has depression so the topic isn't completely foreign to me, but I'm aware that at the end of the day it's only you who knows how it feels and how much you're going through. I hope you have someone you can get support from, be it family or friends, please never hesitate to reach out to anyone for help, even if it feels really overwhelming to do that. Please remember that it's okay to feel like this, your feelings matter and nothing of it is your fault. Take care of yourself ❤

[smilepilled]

new idea!!! give urself a pat in the back every time u notice youve dealt with something nicely. the pat in the back can be anything you want, really. a tasty treat, a lil something, a nice break... just acknowledging your W's, really! 🪲🤍

[lover-sy]

day one : sunday reset

🍮⋆ ࣪.☆ ˚⁎ ʚ 💭 ⁺˳ .

Sunday isn’t just a day. Sunday is THE day that decides of your whole week. If your Sunday isn’t spent well, i can say that your week will most likely be spent stressing and crying.

— Wake up at 9:30 am

— Take a shower

— Oil pulling ( fifteen minutes )

— Do your full skincare

— Ice treatment

— Morning yoga

— Face workout

— Write my weekly to-do list

— Finish the work you still have to do/relax if you’re done

— Deep clean your room

— Write down meals for the week and meal prep a bit

— Laundry

— Take an evening shower

— Exfoliate/dry brush your body

— Shave ( pluck eyebrows )

— Moisturize your body

— Oil your hair

— Full evening skincare ( with gua sha )

★ all the pictures are from pinterest so if anyone knows who the original creators are i would love to give credit to them!!

You are loved <33

[ 07.10.23 ]

[space-station-nursery]

🛰️⸝⸝Welcome to the Space Station Nursery 🪐

☆ ・Personal info ! ˖ ˒

🦊Little Dipper︰Hi! im Finn, also Finnegan, finny fox, fishy finn, and more to my closest friends and moots! Im 21 and my pronouns are They/Them! My timezone is CST. I like Bubby, jay, baking and cooking, playing games, reading (by myself and with bubby) making decor stuff and making custom things! Blues clues !!! if you see a blues clues ask from an anon, its probably me.

Dislikes︰I HATE Bugs, bugsbugsbugs. Being confronted(confrontation), purposely being misgendered, having my boundaries disrespected, bubby or jay being purposely misgendered, bugs and uh-…. i think thats it lol

🦌 Big Dipper︰Hi im FD, im 21 (22 in august) and my pronouns are He/Him. My timezone is MST. I LOVE BABI BEAR, our friends, gaming, cars, anything that has moving parts, reading and watching crime stuff, watching movies and playing games with babi and our friends, and really love the flash as well!

Dislikes︰I dont like icky people coming to talk to babi and i (i dont really like talking to people in general), People misgendering babi or my friends or being rude towards them, and i dont like when people disrespect my boundaries I also dont like the idea of sitters because so many people in the community that we have encountered have bad intentions, but there's nothing else i can think of rn

☆ ・Space station boundaries ! ˖ ˒

Combined︰We are engaged and not seeking romantic or platonic littles/cgs! Dms open for anyone +16 or -26. If interested, interact with our posts, as random messages can be uncomfortable. If you would like to be moots/friends, please at least interact with our posts first

🦊Little Dipper︰Please use tonetags when directing asks towards me. Please Ask before DM-ing me on my personal blog @babis-little-corner and i will let you know! If you notice I interact with something not SFW, please let me know! Do not use any nicknames in asks/dms unless we are close/moots. My CG doesn't appreciate people we are not close with trying to call me things like "little one" "cutie" etc, and quite Franky neither do I...

🦌 Big Dipper︰Please Do not ask me to be your cg, I’m Happily caring for Finn and only Finn, I don’t have all that many boundaries just don’t do anything that’s gonna upset Finn and you’re alright with me!

☆ ・Dark Matter DNI ! ˖ ˒

Whats a DNI? These are "Do not interact" boundaries, this means that if your blog meets any of these criteria you may be blocked\banned\removed from a persons socials. Below are my DNI's so make sure to read them!

・Are anti-agere/agedre(or petre/petdre), an NSFW blog/"SFW" kink blogs like Dd!g/abd!/md!b and other variants. Are an 18+ only blog, Terf, etc. Anything that you would not show a child does not belong here ・Bigoted individuals or peoples that believe in Anti-LGBTQIA+, Pro-ana, Pro-SH, Anti-recovery, MIKs or MAPs, Extreme left/right views, Pro-life, Pro-war, transmed, Pro-mia, Anti-Neos/Xenos. ・Over the age of 27. While you could be a regression blog, and completely SFW, individuals over the age of 27 can become a trigger due to my PTSD. Minors are always welcome, although we will most likely not follow back ・Are a blank blog. This means no banner, profile pictures, posts or names. Blogs like those tend to become a problem and we don't wish to deal with it.

We will block liberally

☆ ・Rover Regression info ! ˖ ˒

🦊 Little Dipper︰I am a flip-leaning regressor, regressing from 0-4. I am a sleepy but bubbly regressor, mostly using items like pacifiers. Despite my trauma, I can regress for small periods of time while assisted, but its a great start and hopefully when FD and I live together it'll boost my regression more!

🦌 Big Dipper︰I am Finns CG, and I love my babi bear! I do everything I can to make sure they feel safe and comfy here when regressing, as well as when they aren't

Sitter views︰We do not see sitters as something either of us would want to be apart of unless it was us sitting for/being sat by someone we know very well. My current sitter is @sleeplessjunkie Who generally just regresses with me when bubby is gone while we play games !!!! We will either talk a lot or not at all, and thats ok bc talk is hard! (we're both autistic)

☆ ・Solar System Sillies ! ˖ ˒

Posting schedule ish︰(Finn has a problem with keeping ideas up, so im going to try and reduce the amount of things being posted by me!)

✩⸜⸜ Affirmation Monday ✩⸜⸜ Text post Tuesday ✩⸜⸜ Worksheet Wednesday ✩⸜⸜ Reblog Thursday ✩⸜⸜ Funday Friday ✩⸜⸜ Refresh Saturday ✩⸜⸜ Shoutout Sunday

Our anon list!︰✨, (☀🐝), 🩷, 🍥, 🦭

Send us an ask to claim an emoji and show up here! <3

Linkies!︰

Pronouns Page ⸜⸜ Finns pronouns Instagram ⸜⸜ Alphabet Paci's Shop Agere twitch ⸜⸜ Alphabet Soup The Hundred Acre Woods (discord)⸜⸜ Discord.gg/hundredacrewoods Littlewavez (discord)⸜⸜ Discord.gg/Littlewavez

🛰️ ⸜ ⸜ Thank you for reading! - The space station team ! (tags below)

[callunavulgaris]

An old, experimental piece that I found in my drafts folder. 

[deadbeatprince-typography]

some positive art, i may like stars [alt text on images] [ps all my art is avaible as stickers, shirts and stuff on my teepublic and rebubble, link are on my pinned post!]

[amandab653]

Hello friends,

It has come to my attention that I am, in fact, unhinged and mentally ill and will be posting wildly psychotic shit mixed with love and light. Welcome to the shit show 😎✌️love you guys 😘

[thestrawberrygirly]

✧˖°🧸things to achieve to get a huge glow up 📎⋆ ˚｡⋆୨୧˚

࿔˚⋆ mindset like thewizardliz ⋆˚࿔

ʚ getting into thewizardliz's mindset is like unlocking a superpower! first of all surround yourself with positive vibes like watch her videos, soak up that good energy! then, practice gratitude daily, like writing down three things you're thankful for or complimenting about your beauty or any skill you got. next, whenever a negative thought pops up, kick it out by focusing on something awesome about yourself. And finally, keep that growth mindset strong by seeing challenges as opportunities to grow. You got this baby!!! ɞ

࿔˚⋆ admire yourself like jin⋆˚࿔

⋆｡‧˚ admiring yourself like jin? well then get ready to feel like a superstar! start by recognizing your unique qualities like think about what makes you shine. strike a pose in the mirror and give yourself a compliment, just like jin would! embrace your strengths, rock your style, and remember, you're the main character of your own K-drama. so, channel your inner Jin and let that confidence soar! ˚‧｡⋆

here is the post i made separately on Jin, you can give it a read <3

࿔˚⋆ selfcare like song jia ⋆˚࿔

—⁺˖°ʚ pamper yourself like song jia! start your day with a smile and some gentle stretches, followed by a skincare routine that leaves your skin glowing. nourish your body with healthy meals and take time for activities you love. whether it's painting, reading, or dancing, make sure to carve out some "me time." stay active and give your mind a break with meditation or journaling. finally, end your day with a good night's sleep, wrapping yourself in cozy blankets and drifting off to dreamland. self-care is all about showing yourself some love, just like song jia does! ɞ°⁺˖—

࿔˚ love yourself like wonyoung˚࿔

‧₊ ᵎᵎ don't you ever be afraid of accepting yourself. do you know how much beautiful and unique you are? love the skin your soul stays in, love your pretty eyes, love your gorgeous nose, love your unique pretty lips and love your every inch of your body <3 take care of yourself and don't let other people's thoughts disturb your positiveness towards your body. love how beautiful you are!!! you fucking slay girl!!!!! keep slaying darling. ⋅ ˚✮

[etherealkissed88]

I don't know if you've already made a post about this, but I wanted to ask: How can I be more positive about the protests, not being a privileged person? I'm not the prettiest, I'm not the smartest, I'm not rich (in fact I want to manifest better conditions), I feel mentally exhausted. I'm kind of just desperate to manifest a better life for myself and my family, but I feel so negative about it. I feel like I'm just going to become another one of the statistics about poor people; Sometimes I question the results of certain people, because I actually don't know if they are already privileged in a certain way, whether it's because she's pretty, smart or has money. Some people who talk about staying positive, manifest, selfcare, are privileged people, not rich people, but people with excellent financial and psychological conditions; I'm sad, because I really don't have money for self-care or therapy, I feel guilty, sad and insufficient because I don't have enough money:(

do not pretend these circumstances arent there. realize that you are self that chooses what to accept as true. yes, you have a choice. what you should do is become indifferent to what you experience. yes it is in the 3d but “it doesnt affect who i am and what version of myself i choose to be.”

i think the reason why u may be getting a mental burn out is because you are trying to persuade or force yourself to believe that what your human self is experiencing in the 3d, is not there. again - indifference. another important concept is the nuetral 3d. it never has original meaning. we give it meaning.

i know how you feel about being tired of life - and from my experience, i was so tired of living a life i didnt like that it motivated me to actually apply the law and use my power to get what i want. the law is always working for you so you are always in control, and when you live this “negative” life, it is you - the operant power, allowing yourself to stick in this “negative” life. you are choosing to be this version of you who lives like this. you are being the one who is living that.

know that it is not - the 3d shows me something -> then i become a version of me / i embody a version of me which matches the 3d. it will always be, i am a version of me -> the 3d follows that bc i am the 3d. signs follow, they do not precede.

you cannot let what you see influence who you become. bc who you become is why you are seeing what you see. who you are being is why you see what you see through that perspective, thro that state.

a lot of ppl have manifested great things and complete transformations without being privileged at first. stop focusing on other success stories and make yourself the success story. success story = changing self!

for the feelings of guilt and sadness, allow yourself to feel that bc emotions are human nature. what you shouldnt do is feel like those emotions are ruining anything, or try to suppress these emotions, or make imaginary and “negative” stories out of those emotions. they are always neutral!

when you are experiencing bad things, so what you need to do to make ends meet in the 3d such as getting a job to get that money you want. whatever you do shouldnt intertwine with the rich version of you that you are being. you can do whatever you want in the 3d while being/knowing you have what you want already. but you do not self-sabotage your human self because you think that doing stuff in the 3d will “ruin your manifestation”. example: you are broke in real life so you get a job while being the version of self who is already rich. it doesnt matter what you experience in the 3d bc all that matters is who self is being. if you didnt take that job but you are struggling financially, there is still the human self to take care of (you need money for food, shelter, etc) so again, nothing you do in the 3d matters as long as you are changing self.

to wrap up: it doesnt matter what you see in the 3d. clearly you claim: you arent the prettiest or smartest or richest. thats the issue. you are accepting those versions of you. you are being those versions of you.

& “how to be more positive?” : decide you are positive and happy. i can recommend visualizing yourself living the life you want and eventually you will fulfill yourself and be this new version of you.

skim this for other questions: 🧼

- cutie jani

[sextoyshowforherandforhim]

Rediscover your beauty and embrace your postpartum journey with confidence and grace. This video is dedicated to all the new moms navigating the changes in their bodies after childbirth. Learn how to give yourself the love and patience you deserve, celebrating the amazing feat your body has accomplished.

We'll discuss ergonomic and beautiful toys from Adam and Eve that can help you feel wonderful and reconnect with your body in this new chapter. Use the promo code SEXYMAMA at checkout to get 50% off one item, free shipping, and a special gift on purchases over a dollar.

Join us in this empowering discussion about body positivity and self-care post-baby, and discover ways to feel confident and beautiful in your postpartum body. Embrace motherhood with newfound confidence and love for yourself!

[l-in-the-light]

Hey 😊 I read your answer about Law wanting to help people because of his trauma. I know about his fear of touch but wouldn't it help him to overcome this when he realizes that his touch can bring other people immense pleasure (when he's giving oral or bringing his partner to orgasm while sex)? 🤔 Besides sex is very good for the health 😎.

Okay, I admit I didn't really know what to do with your ask at first. Are you serious when you're suggesting he can just overcome his PTSD because he wants to make someone happy or because sex should help him feel better and recover faster? Because if you do, we need to talk. Like, seriously talk about this.

First of all, yeah, sex can be good for you. Physical affection in many ways is neccessary for good well-being (that's why touch starvation and stuff like that became a popular discussed topic after pandemic's outbreak). But you know what else is healthy besides sex and physical affection? Good food. Taking a walk. Enjoying the sea breeze. And do you know what those things have all in common? They can't heal or cure anyone out of literally anything. The only thing they can do is to boost your mood and give you physical exercise, which is good for the body, but it's not a therapy and it's not a medicine. In other words, it will not cure you from PTSD, depression, anxiety or anything else besides a foul mood, perhaps. PTSD is not a matter of having a foul mood. Even if your mood is great, you will still have PTSD and you can still experience triggers no matter how happy you might have felt a moment ago. And also sometimes not every food you eat is gonna be good for you. Bread is tasty, right? But it's bad for celiacs. Sex is good, right? Unless it triggers you or you're sex-repulsed. Not everything is good for everyone, period. And you can live without bread and you can live without sex.

Secondly, Law has two triggers we know of: feeling helpless (for example: when he's pinned down or when people are dying and he can't do anything about it) and touch. He overcomes first one by saving lives, not by "helping people" in general. If you're referencing some post I wrote, I'm pretty certain by him swearing to help people I meant "saving their lives", not doing sexual favours for them ;) also saving lives has nothing to do with Law's fear of touch.

Third of all, please don't say stuff like this about PTSD. It's spreading misinformation. You can't recover from it just by wishing for it or pushing forcefully through. If you put Law in the scenario you just described, he would be terrified and then try to force the closeness (because if he truly wants someone to be happy he needs to ignore his own discomfort, right?) and in the end he will just escape, feeling pathetic and blaming himself. He would end up thinking that his love for people isn't strong enough to overcome his own trauma (and the sad part is: it will never be, that's why it's a trauma after all). In other words, putting a person with PTSD in this scenario you described, would do them more harm than good.

And yeah, Law is just a fictional character, you can imagine him in any scenario you want and write fics in which he never develops PTSD and is touchy-feely, and that's fine. But PTSD happens to be a very real condition, so please never say things like that to real people. It's giving a very harmful message - they can end up believing they are broken, because they can't spontanously or by sheer will overcome their own triggers to make someone else happy. Always be respectful towards people suffering from past traumas. No matter how well you mean it, don't tell them to just "get over it", saying it will be helpful for them if they just change their way of thinking about it and do it for someone else's sake. The best result you will achieve is them selfblaming themselves when they inevitably fail.

What you can do for them instead, to show your support, is to assure them they're fine no matter what, that they're good people even if there are things they can't handle, that every step in their healing process is important even if "the final goal" (never getting triggered again) will never get achieved. And always, always remember about their triggers and by all means avoid forcing a person with PTSD to face them head on. What you can do for someone who suffers from a trigger, is to make sure not to make it worse. Is the trigger a loud noise? Take them immediately to a quiet place instead. Is the trigger a touch? Definitely don't try to hug them to make it better, give them some space instead. After they manage to calm down, you can give them something they like that they find soothing and comforting (listen to a favourite song, offer a drink they like etc.) and ask if both of you should just go back home or do something else. This is something you can do for someone suffering from a PTSD. But it's only one possible, hypothetical example, there are other ways to show support and not leave the suffering person on their own.

There is a study proving that adults who were traumatized as children may be more likely to keep a greater physical distance between themselves and strangers, and may also find touch stimuli less comforting than people without a history of trauma. Apparently trauma alters the brain so it's possible the body also gives a traumatized person less gratification from physical affection. If you want to read more about how trauma alters the brain, I reccommend checking out this article: Traumatized Adults Might Find Touch Less Appealing. I didn't know about that before, but it makes sense, because trauma is just a natural response on it's most extreme. That's why I think Law's touch starvation is probably not such a big deal that people want it to be, in comparison to his PTSD. His brain would adapt, and he has Bepo for comfort, which is a safe, not triggering closeness and touch for him. Traumatized people might have bigger issues on their plate than your typical post-pandemic touch starvation, just saying.

Now let's talk more about triggers, because I feel like this needs to be elaborated on. A trigger is involuntary reaction (can be body reaction, can be emotional) you definitely can't control, that is caused by some outside source of stimuli. Those reactions alert us to perceived threats in our environment. Triggers can be anything that reminds someone of the traumatic event, it can be more obvious like revisiting the location where the trauma occurred, being alone, seeing the same breed of dog that bit you, or hearing loud voices, small touch, a grab, even a certain smell. For example, if the trauma is related to being stuck in a locked place, it doesn't matter what place it is or that it's different from the very first place you got accidentally locked in. Any place in which you're locked up will trigger you, like bathroom stalls in which the latch doesn't budge, broken elevators stuck between floors etc. Triggers are also often associated with (but not limited to) the time of day, season, holiday, or anniversary of the event.

When touch has been associated with fear, pain, or violation in the past, it can naturally become a trigger. Childhood trauma, especially sexual, physical or emotional abuse, can imprint deep-seated associations between touch and danger. The fear of being touched is so strong that it is often paralyzing. It can cause physical symptoms like hives, hyperventilation or even fainting. The fear of being touched becomes a phobia when symptoms develop nearly every time you are touched. It becomes a disorder when it lasts six months or longer.

To reduce the emotions caused by a trigger people can become avoidant (of anything even remotely reminding them of the trauma, for example: any touch in general), self-medication (like alcohol abuse, to numb yourself and not feel anything anymore), compulsive eating, self-injury. Sometimes people can even become aggressive or repeat the events of the trauma (for example, hypersexuality as the result of sexual assault, or becoming the violent oppressor themselves; they just repeat the traumatic event over and over again, it's not a healthy way of dealing with trauma).

Most important in recovery is learning to manage triggers, memories, and emotions without avoidance (avoidance is the initial response in PTSD). You can think of it as becoming desensitized to traumatic memories. There isn't really a “cure” for triggers. All we can do is identify when we're upset, try to understand why, and manage our emotional reactions. With practice and proper treatment, the reaction to your emotional triggers could dimnish and become manageable, but the triggers themselves might never go away. Thankfully, even the most intense trauma triggers can be managed.

At first a traumatic response can be hyperventilation to the point you almost suffocate, shivering that don't want to stop for hours and very high level emotional distress that makes you detached from the present and trapped in the past in your head. After therapy and learning how to manage your responses, you can instead apply breathing techniques to reduce hyperventilation, know what to do so that shivering doesn't go for hours but instead fades in the span of half an hour, and you ground yourself in the present (there are many methods for it, for example doing a soothing motion). So, after "getting healed" it doesn't mean the triggers magically don't happen anymore, you just manage them more effectively. And perhaps some of them can be reduced so much that instead of triggering one of the physical symptoms it only makes you very distressed. Who knows, it's a very individual thing, after all.

How to know if someone is suffering from PTSD? The DSM-5 (the official criteria for PTSD classification) identifies four symptom clusters for PTSD: presence of intrusion symptoms (like frequent, vivid flashbacks: sudden intrusive thoughts about the past events), persistent avoidance of stimuli (like avoiding closeness and touch), negative alterations in cognitions and mood (low self-esteem, self-blame etc.), and marked alterations in arousal and reactivity (like lashing out). Which is exactly what I wrote about in detail when answering to this ask.

Let's take a look at Law's trauma symptoms again: we see Law having tremors and quickened breath (sometimes to the point of wheezing), and freezing up when he's triggered (at least in the manga). Whenever someone is trying to touch him or comes really close, his response is to move away. He's also emotionally distant and avoidant. What are his triggers? We saw Doflamingo grabbing his wrist forcefully which caused a freezing reaction (Law couldn't even move to free himself). We saw him also freeze up when Mingo set up his birdcage. When Law was trapped with Luffy and Mingo's clone in the well, he was wheezing and shivering. There are few situations in which Luffy touches Law or Law touches Luffy, but even if those situations don't seem to overwhelm him, he still struggles in each and every single one of them. Which means they're kinda managable for Law, as long as he puts some time and effort into it (that's a sign that he is working through his trauma and knows quite a lot about managing his triggers already).

But how would he react if Luffy forcefully grabbed Law's wrist, for example, which is his confirmed trigger? Probably not too well. I can't imagine sex being comfortable in such conditions. Can you? Sex would feel very unnatural if Law had to brace himself to that extent every time he tries to touch someone and there's no guarantee that none of the touch he receives doesn't trigger him. And no, cuddling him won't help him get over it. If touch is triggering to you, more touch is not gonna solve the problem. Also hugging or other forms of physical affection aren't a magical solution to every emotional problem in the world.

There's also something called resilient responses to trauma, which are basically healthy ways of coping that some people naturally adapt. And I think Law slightly shows signs of it too. It can be things like:

increased time and bonding with family and friends (Law's commitment to his Hearts Pirates and also bonding with Penguin, Shachi and Bepo right after losing Cora-san; he spends time with them almost exclusively)

strong or increased sense of purpose and meaning (Law is always very goal-oriented)

commitment to a personal mission, revised priorities (Law trying to save people's lives no matter what)

charity work and volunteering to help other people (Law taking care of the Strawhats lol)

If anyone wants to know even more about PTSD, I reccommend this link, it really gives a good and detailed guide to all the basics and even includes notes about treatment.

Now I feel inclined to say this to everyone: sex is fine and can be good, but not having sex is also fine! Sex isn't the best thing in the world and no one is missing out if they're not having any, there are so many other nice things. And just because someone is attractive or handsome doesn't mean they absolutely have to have sex, like to prove that they're not wasting their body (whatever that would even mean) and not sharing with the world. It's your body and your choice, no one has any obligation to give sex to others, never ever, for any possible reason you can name. You don't have to have sex just to prove something to others, no matter what it would be (to be cool, to be accepted, to prove others you're a good person and a good lover or not a loser etc.). You're a worthy human being even if you don't have sex, no matter what's the reason for not having it. You're a good person even if you don't want to give someone else a sexual service, give them a blowjob or bring them to orgasm, or even touch them at all. You can show your love in different ways than by having sex. Not having sex with someone also doesn't mean you don't love them. Sex is just one part of life and it's optional. People can have good lives, have fun and be healthy without it. You can even have PTSD but choose not to have sex just because you don't like it.

Now, do I think Law will never have sex? I don't know, that depends on his healing process. For now, I'm not seeing it and he's also perfectly fine even if he will never have sex in his entire life. If one day he manages his triggers so well that he can even have sex, great for him! I still think he will be taking a risk at being triggered every single time he makes his decision to pursue partnered sexual adventures. Simply because touch can't be completely avoided when having sex. It can be worked around in quite a number of ways, but sex basically is about touching various body parts together, prove me wrong if that's not the case* ;) also we don't have to fear or try to erase the PTSD from the characters who can't deal well with touch as the result. That's kinda not exactly considerate or nice to them, won't you agree?

*disclaimer: yeah, I am aware there are other sexual actitivities that don't involve touch. Two people can just voyeuristically look at each other when they masturbate, for example :P why is this word so ugly btw. The stigma around sex-related words needs to finally die and we need more judgement-free words for sexual activities.

I hope this post helped you understand PTSD and triggers a bit better, anon!

[selfcare-with-senshi]

ദ്ദി ˉ͈̀꒳ˉ͈́ )✧ Welcome!

This is a blog meant to help younglings (and elders) who struggle with proper selfcare. A well maintained body, mind and environment are crucial to a good life, and I'll be happy to help!

This is not a fandom blog! But I will occasionally share positive Dunmeshi things too :)

Senshi ✧ he/him ✧ 21+ ✧ diagnosed w. AuDHD and PTSD

One of the greatest things in life is that you can start over whenever you want. Right now, you can choose to make the change you need. To be the change. In this very moment, you can choose recovery. Today could be the first day of the rest of your life. Even if nobody came to save you in the past, or nobody taught you what you need to know, you can learn to be there for yourself now - and you're stronger and more capable than you may feel.

Your experiences weren't for nothing. They shaped you into who you are. And once you can learn to get along with the person you are, you've won at life.

I steer away from discourse, fandom drama and the like. I don't engage in callout or cancel culture. I don't have a DNI, but I block people when I notice they support any hateful ideology (for example homophobia, transphobia, racism, bullying, callout culture, anti-recovery, etc...) Please keep in mind that I'm not a professional, but I'm some guy out there who cares and wants to see you succeed.

Look after yourself! 🍞

divider by @/saradika-graphics. last updated - 28th of July 2024.

Do you have a problem, a request, or are you looking for something? Please read below! 🙌

I'm happy to answer ♥ Life Questions (for example, how to unfuck a depression bedroom, how to cook eggs, how to make a vet appointment...) ♥ Questions about Autism, ADHD, PTSD, and mental health (with the help of therapy resources or my own experiences) ♥ Venting (please with warning beforehand, a quick "CW vent" is enough!) ♥ Personal Questions ♥ Dunmeshi related things

But please keep in mind

♥ Please keep it sfw ♥ What I post and answer is my opinion, my experience, and doesn't have to work 100% the same for you! ♥ I have my own life outside of this blog and it might take me a while to respond. ♥ I can't answer every question. ♥ I reserve my right to refuse answering things and sharing information I'm not comfortable with.

Taglist

#senshis recipe book -> posts related to a healthy diet, properly handling/cooking/storing food, and overcoming eating disorders. Potentially triggering if you struggle with EDs, please be careful! #selfcare with senshi -> posts and reminders related to the 5 fundaments of selfcare - eating, drinking, sleeping, resting and exercise. #senshis first aid kit -> therapy resources, tools and reminders related to mental health and coping with the monsters of daily life.

#senshis adventurers bible -> posts related to survival, in summary. How to make phone calls, how to make appointments, how to tie knots...

#senshis infodump -> posts that don't fit into any of the categories. #the advice box -> answered asks #senshi speaks -> personal posts #lower levels -> venting catch-all tag

If you need something tagged, please feel free to shoot me a message or an ask (`･ω･´)ゞ

[lover-sy]

🎀 day two : my skincare routine ( and how i layer it )

🕯️🫧🧖🏽‍♀️ <3

my morning routine :

— brush teeth

— tongue scraping

— oil pulling ( fifteen minutes while i do the rest )

— foam cleanser

— toner

— vitamin c serum

— eye care ( for dark circles )

— moisturizer

— acne scar treatment

— sunscreen

my evening routine :

— brush my teeth

— tongue scraping

— oil cleanser

— foam cleanser

— toner

— serum ( for gua sha )

— eye care

— moisturizer

— acne scar treatment

— lip mask

☆ all the pictures are from pinterest so if anyone knows who the original creators are i would love to give credit to them!!

You are loved <33

[ 09.10.23 ]

[space-station-nursery]

❄️⸝⸝ Welcome to Babi and bubby nursery!! ⸝⸝ 🌨️

☃️⸝⸝︰{About us!} ・ ⠂⠄⠄⠂⠁⠁⠂⠄⠄⠂⠁⠁⠂⠄⠄⠂ ⠂⠄⠄⠂☆

Babi's Name, age, pronouns┊・𓂃 Hi! im Finnegan, but prefer to go by Finn. Im 20 (21 on Jan 18th) and my pronouns are They/Them! Babi's timezone┊・𓂃 CST! (or central standard time) Bubby's Name, age, pronouns┊・𓂃 Hi im FD, im 21 and my pronouns are He/Him Bubby's timezone┊・𓂃 MST (or mountain standard time) Boundaries┊・𓂃 Please don't ask either of us to be your Little/cg, we are engaged and are not looking for romantic or platonic littles/cgs. Dms are open for anyone +16 or -26 (i had a bad past with older individuals on tumblr). Listen when we say "No!". If you would like to be moots/friends, please at least interact with our posts, its incredibly uncomfortable to have random txts from people asking to be friends that just followed 3 minutes before.

⠂⠄⠄⠂⠁⠁⠂⠄⠄⠂⠁⠁⠂⠄⠄⠂ ⠂⠄⠄⠂ ᶻ 𝗓 𐰁

🚂⸝⸝︰{Regression info} ・ ⠂⠄⠄⠂⠁⠁⠂⠄⠄⠂⠁⠁⠂⠄⠄⠂ ⠂⠄⠄⠂☆

About Babi┊・𓂃 I am a flip leaning regressor, and regress to about age 0-4. I am a sleepy, but bubby when regressed! Sometimes i go nonverbal, but i use a pacifier almost all the time. There is a ton of trauma surrounding my regression and it was very hard to regress. Now, with the help of bubby there is hope! I can only regress for small periods of time, and it needs to be assisted but its a great start and i hope that when we live together it'll boost my regression more! About Bubby┊・𓂃 I am Finns CG, and I love my babi bear! I do everything I can to make sure they feel safe and comfy here when regressing, as well as when they aren't Views on sitters┊・𓂃 We do not see sitters as something either of us would want to be apart of unless it was us sitting for/being sat by someone we know very well. My current sitter is @sleeplessjunkie Who generally just regresses with me when bubby is gone while we play games !!!! We will either talk a lot or not at all, and thats ok bc talk is hard! (we're also both autistic)

Likes/Dislikes, DNI and schedule under the cut! Please read ⠂⠄⠄⠂⠁⠁⠂⠄⠄⠂⠁⠁⠂⠄⠄⠂ ⠂⠄⠄⠂ ᶻ 𝗓 𐰁

🦌⸝⸝︰{Our DNI's} ・ ⠂⠄⠄⠂⠁⠁⠂⠄⠄⠂⠁⠁⠂⠄⠄⠂ ⠂⠄⠄⠂☆

What is a DNI? These are "Do not interact" boundaries, this means that if your blog meets any of these criteria you may be blocked\banned\removed from a persons socials. Below are my DNI's so make sure to read them!

・Are anti-agere/agedre(or petre/petdre), an NSFW blog/"SFW" kink blogs like Dd!g/abd!/md!b and other variants. Are an 18+ only blog, Terf, etc. Anything that you would not show a child does not belong here ・Bigoted individuals or peoples that believe in Anti-LGBTQIA+, Pro-ana, Pro-SH, Anti-recovery, MIKs or MAPs, Extreme left/right views, Pro-life, Pro-war, transmed, Pro-mia, Anti-Neos/Xenos. ・Over the age of 27. While you could be a regression blog, and completely SFW, individuals over the age of 27 can become a trigger due to my PTSD. Minors are always welcome, although we will most likely not follow back ・Are a blank blog. This means no banner, profile pictures, posts or names. Blogs like those tend to become a problem and we dont wish to deal with it

⠂⠄⠄⠂⠁⠁⠂⠄⠄⠂⠁⠁⠂⠄⠄⠂ ⠂⠄⠄⠂ ᶻ 𝗓 𐰁

🧣 ⸝⸝︰{Personal stuff} ・ ⠂⠄⠄⠂⠁⠁⠂⠄⠄⠂⠁⠁⠂⠄⠄⠂ ⠂⠄⠄⠂☆

Babi likes┊・𓂃 Bubby, jay, baking and cooking, playing games, reading (by myself and with bubby) making decor stuff and making custom things! Blues clues !!! if you see a blues clues ask from an anon, its probably me. Babi dislikes┊・𓂃 Bugs, bugsbugsbugs. Being confronted(confrontation), purposely being misgendered, having my boundaries disrespected, bubby or jay being purposely misgendered, uh-…. i think thats it lol Bubby likes┊・𓂃 BABI BEAR, our friends, gaming, cars, anything that has moving parts, reading and watching crime stuff, watching movies and playing games with babi and our friends, and really love the flash as well! Bubby dislikes┊・𓂃 I dont like icky people coming to talk to babi and i (i dont really like talking to people in general), People misgendering babi or my friends or being rude towards them, and i dont like when people disrespect my boundaries I also dont like the idea of sitters because so many people in the community that we have encountered have bad intentions, but there's nothing else i can think of rn

⠂⠄⠄⠂⠁⠁⠂⠄⠄⠂⠁⠁⠂⠄⠄⠂ ⠂⠄⠄⠂ ᶻ 𝗓 𐰁

🌲 ⸝⸝︰{Posting and more!} ・ ⠂⠄⠄⠂⠁⠁⠂⠄⠄⠂⠁⠁⠂⠄⠄⠂ ⠂⠄⠄⠂☆

┊Schedule・𓂃

✩⸜⸜ Mood/Stimboards ✩⸜⸜ Text post (tips, links, etc) hosted by babi or bubby! ✩⸜⸜ Wear or tear! (W.O.T) ✩⸜⸜ Worksheets ✩⸜⸜ Journal // QOTD hosted by bubby ! ✩⸜⸜ Pos quotes/affirmations

These have no specific Dates, they will be posted as we see fit! Each post will be sent between 12pm and 1pm (don't know when that is? find my timezone above)

┊Anons・𓂃

✨, (☀🐝), 🩷 Send us an ask to claim an emoji and show up here! <3

⠂⠄⠄⠂⠁⠁⠂⠄⠄⠂⠁⠁⠂⠄⠄⠂ ⠂⠄⠄⠂ ᶻ 𝗓 𐰁

❄️ ⸝⸝︰{Linkies} ・ ⠂⠄⠄⠂⠁⠁⠂⠄⠄⠂⠁⠁⠂⠄⠄⠂ ⠂⠄⠄⠂☆

Carrd:┊・𓂃 TBD

Pronouns page:┊・𓂃 finns page here!

Instagram:┊・𓂃 Agere insta!

Twitch:┊・𓂃 Finn's twitch! || Bubs twitch!

Snowflake Nursery Discord:┊・𓂃 Nursery!

Dino Lovers Discord:┊・𓂃 Dinos!

⠂⠄⠄⠂⠁⠁⠂⠄⠄⠂⠁⠁⠂⠄⠄⠂ ⠂⠄⠄⠂ ᶻ 𝗓 𐰁

[kinhelp-permitoffice]

Pfp by Jellyitchi !

Requests: kinfessions n sourcecalls only!

(For now)

Welcome to the permit office,

This is a kinhelp blog that also caters to IRL's and fictives of any source! There are a couple of rules, and sometimes I won't be able to respond right away, but I'll do my best to fulfil your requests! While you're here, you can refer to me as mod Grian, permit manager or mod G, thanks :)

This is my main account! I follow, like, reblog and ask via that blog!

On hold • carrd • about me

Estimated wait time: a couple of days, sorry :(

Things I can offer you include:

Sourcecalls

Selfcare kits

Positivity or just a small chat

Moodboards

Stimboards

Kinfessions

Kincord promo's

I'm looking into other things such as tarot, pendulum readings, flower assignments, and outfit kits, but those will probably come in later. This blog is also agere and petre friendly, so feel free to request those aswell! Sometimes I'll make one-off nonrequested posts with things that arent advertised, and sometimes I'll take certain things off of what I'll do (E.G tips/advice requests no longer exist) HOWEVER I may make posts out of nowhere for no reason. If I do end up removing something from availability and you've asked for it before then, I will still do it!

If you want your request tagged as something specific (kin, fictive, irl, copinglink, etc) id reccomend specifying in the ask! Otherwise I'll probably auto tag it as kin, but dont worry! Just send me an ask to retag it and I will! :)

Now we've covered what I can do, let's cover what I won't.

Proship, darkship or comship content/requests.

Factkin content/requests.

Character hate through kinfessions. Complicated feelings are fine, but hate or mockery (if its serious or genuine) is where I draw the line. Joking is fine.

This may be updated in the future, so keep an eye out!

Tags ★ ˎˊ˗

#kincussions - talking/chatting tag, block if you dont wanna be flooded with me being silly (sorryy)

Anon list ★ ˎˊ˗

❤️🪽 anon

⭐️ anon

🐰 anon

🐤💙 anon

🎪 anon

👾 anon

🖱❓️ anon

🍄🔥 anon

💙🏹🧡 anon

🐉 anon

[nkogneatho]

my dash is full ot all the selfcare and positive posts. almost like my phone knows i need healing and the universe is sending very specific psost lmfao