#safe space questions

[drhelenwong]

So, there's a version of you on this site.

There is a you where I'm from, she is the only human from my dimension I ever speak to, the only one that actually says things that are worth listening to.

I wonder, are you worth listening to as well?

- @h-a-t-r-e-d

Thank you for telling me that you think highly of me, even if it's in a different reality (for lack of a better term).

As for your question, I am a professional talk-therapy specialist, and my job is based entirely on my ability to guide people through their lives. I like to think that along with my profession, my friends and coworkers like talking to me.

Was there something in detail you'd like to speak about? Or just general conversation? I'm happy to help and point you to the right directions for help if that's necessary.

[puppetmaster13u]

Prompt 266

Back on my Danny & Ras frienemies/rivals/maybe-lovers-nobody-can-tell-their-signals-are-very-mixed train. 

See, Danny has gone through time a lot. Often. It comes with being Clockwork’s charge-son-thing and honestly he finds it fun. And several times he’s used this time travelling to get some training in. Enter Ras, stage left, also a teen at the time and also learning swordsmanship from the same person. 

And they… utterly despise each other. They would kill the other for an apple slice, if the other one would die! But also, only they can kill the other, as it is obviously their right! 

And well, they keep running into each other. It has been a hundred years, surely the other would die by now? But of course their rival would live through utter spite. Probably to spite them specifically. 

The amount of times they have ended up sparring- trying to kill each other or not- the moment they see the other is actually ridiculous. But time is also passing. And… Danny understands, not having another to talk about things people are forgetting, or have already forgotten. 

How they ended up actually talking without a murder attempt was a long story that included a demon, a dragon, a pair of fae, some bandits, and a lot of alcohol, but it happened. And then it happens again. And again, and now it’s just kind of normal to share a drink after their spars, talking about things that no longer exist, and things they miss. 

Sure Danny can go back in time again, but he knows better than to do it willy nilly. He’s matured, he’s been an adult for a hundred years now, he knows there’s consequences for messing with time, even with Clockwork’s blessings. 

The first time they got married was technically for an undercover assassination. Well, Ras was there to assassinate someone, Danny was there to grab an artifact that should Not be in the realm of the living. And they got divorced after, it was fine. 

They just, also got married again when they met a few years later, for another job. And… okay, so maybe they have gotten married over a dozen times now and only divorced like half of those times. Half of those were for the bit or while drunk! 

And even if technically they’re married or shared a bed, it’s not like they're exclusive! As Ras’ daughters’ existences attest to (adopted in one case or not). They don’t exactly have a label for their relationship, despite others asking for one or trying to put a name to it themselves. 

Now Danny knows Ras isn’t exactly a good dude, or at least on the side of ‘good’ as he’s a literal assassin. But he also knows that good? Bad? Rather relative. He had gotten labeled as a villain when he was just trying to help all that time ago after all, and really who was he to tell someone else how to live their life? 

Which brings him to now, where he’s run into his old frienemy-rival and his youngest daughter. Who has a braindead teenager and a small toddler. Which is fine, really- but also, Talia dear, why are you using a brain dead teenager to guard your three year old son? 

…

Okay, Talia dear, Ras (Derogatory), why are you using your brain dead son and grandson to guard your younger son and grandson? Do you not have the Pits, which you were soo proud about Ras? Yes, he will spar with you, but for Realms’ sake, heal, what’s his name? Ah yes, go heal Jason and he’ll actually stick around for a few years, deal? Good. 

[likeadevils]

i have a question, is this a safe space to ask...who is mary in mary’s song?

an old neighbor of taylor’s! i’ll try to track down the quote in a second, but when taylor first moved to nashville mary and her husband came over for dinner one night to welcome the swifts to the neighborhood, and taylor was inspired by their story

[in-kyblogs]

This interview has the obligatory “so you made it gay” question but with the twist that here is Rolin that goes “it’s in the fucking books, we can read so” and I think it’s iconic

[kaidee-koo]

Angel regressor flag

a flag for regressors who feel a connection, and/or regress to concept of angels or angelic themes. Angel regressors may enjoy being called “Angel” or “Angel face” and enjoy listening to gentle lullabies. They may also enjoy the concept on clouds, dove wings, halos, golden tones, and etc. Some regressors may also enjoy the idea of angels being mystical beings (not necessarily in a religious senses

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[tiny-tk]

hi friends !! i finally finished making this :D i tried to come up with inclusive agere questions that rly make u think and aren’t specific to any brands, countries, media, etc. hopefully i did a good job at that ^^

feel free to use or repost this image as long as the credit stays in tact !!

. :+* made with a free canva template by So Swell Edu

. :+* plain text version under the cut !!

20 AGERE QUESTIONS

1. how did you first find out about agere in general?

2. how did u first find out that you were a regressor?

3. what nicknames or pet names do you like to be called when you’re little?

4. does your music taste change when you’re regressed? if so, how?

5. which fictional characters do you most relate to (or kin) when you’re little? do you still relate to them when you’re not regressed?

6. do you usually regress voluntarily or involuntarily (or a mix of both)?

7. what most often makes you regress?

8. if you don’t have a cg, would you want one? if you do have a cg, how’d you meet them?

9. if you have other marginalised identities (lgbtq+, neurodivergent, poc, etc), how do they figure into your regression? (intersectionality is so cool)

10. are you open about your age regression irl? how about online outside of tumblr?

11. what physical places do you associate with your regression? (school, parks, shops, people’s houses, etc)

12. what’s something typically associated with agere (pacis, babbling, bluey, etc) that you don’t do?

13. how does your current regressed personality differ from your personality when you were physically that age?

14. do you use different pronouns or preferred names when you’re regressed? if so, what are they?

15. what platforms do you usually go to for agere content? (tumblr, pinterest, instagram, etc)

16. what’s a niche or unpopular interest you associate with your regression?

17. what’s ur favorite color + something you love that’s that color?

18. which (if any) fictional characters do you think would be littles?

19. which (if any) fictional characters do you think would be caregivers?

20. what’s something you wish you knew about agere when you first found out about it?

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tumblr tag: #20 agere questions

[shroom-grotto-system]

System tips! (Anti-Endos DNI)

How do I tell if I’m a system?

Okay, so! It can help to find out more about how different systems work, Pluralpedia on fandom wiki (I know, I know…) is a really great resource and it can really help to look at different system consciousness types, different levels of blurriness, etc. There are also absolutely some system symptoms, here are just a few I don’t really see many people mentioning:

- Making different accounts on social medias, chat apps, etc which interact with your friends and one another, especially if they have distinct mannerisms

- Being able to get into conversations with yourself

- Having conflicting ideas, pet peeves, etc

One really great tip is to just… try out the label and treat yourself like a system for a bit. This is what helped us figure it out! Another tip is to sort of talk to yourself internally for a bit. No, seriously! Like, ask a question in your head, for example; “What’s your name?” “What pronouns do you use?” et cetera! You hear a response, you’re probably a system! There’s more tips about this online that you can find, I’m not too experienced with this. Lol

I think I’m a system, now what?

The first thing you’ll probably want to do is to get the basics down. Get a count of how many headmates/alters you have. Have everyone write down basic info about themselves, name, pronouns, etc. You can do this on paper, but there’s also a really helpful mobile app called Simply Plural, it’s an organization tool.

Stay away from anti endo spaces, very important! It’s best to keep to the spaces that are explicitly pro endo and to stay away from the spaces that don’t give any disclosure as to where they stand.

Whatever you want to do! If you’d like, you could just relax for a bit with your new(ish) internal friends.

How do I communicate with nonverbal alters/headmates?

I’m adding this here because this was a question we had back in the day that we couldn’t find an answer to. Nonverbal peeps have all sorts of different ways of communicating, just like nonverbal singlets! Sometimes they can beam emotions at others, sometimes it’s physical sensations. They can probably write if you can bring them into front, so that’s also an option!

[birdmomblogs]

approximately 15% of gay marriages end in divorce (source: Pride Legal, 2021)

[ID 1: digital art of linked maze Wild and linked maze Sky leaning into each other and holding a rainbow pride flag above their heads together. they are both blushing and looking at each other. "Happy Pride!" is written above them in black handwriting. the background is a collage of faded rainbow hearts. end ID.]

[ID 2: same art as above except "Happy Pride!" is recoloured. "Happy" has been recoloured to use the Questioning pride flag colours (orange, yellow, green, blue and white). this flag represents Wild's sexuality. "Pride!" has been recoloured to the Bisexual pride flag colours (pink, purple and blue). this is to represent Sky's sexuality. end ID.]

[ID 3: same art as image one except faded into the background. bright red text is written over it to say, "Can't have LGBT rights without gay divorce." end ID.]

happy pride month, @linked-maze fandom. here’s your treat,,, divorce duo!!!

[scentofpines]

have you ever considered...that identifying out of woman/girlhood because you don't relate to the societal implications, expectations, etc... contributes to making womanhood (feel) even more restrictive? maybe you feel better when thinking of yourself as anything but a girl/woman because you do not feel like a woman (what does that even mean?) but in my opinion you just added another brick into the prisonwall that is gender.

[crimsonservbot]

gonna be honest, its incredibly demoralizing for going through transitioning if you can't even be Transgender on the Transgender Website

[gummi-ships]

Kingdom Hearts Birth by Sleep - The Land of Departure

[drhelenwong]

Hey, Dr. Wong. Any ideas on what to do about a mostly estranged son?

Hi, Beth, lovely to see you back in my office again.

As for your son, if you're looking to get back into contact, what I recommend doing is reaching out without force. If you were an Earthbound family, I would suggest phone numbers or Facebook, but I'm unsure of what you use out there.

Make your presence known and show that you're willing to connect and waiting if the opportunity ever presents itself, but it's important to allow him to make the choice. Your actions should only be based on your control, and you are doing your part by making yourself clear.

[multiplicity-positivity]

All About Headspaces!

We thought it would be a good idea to write a post on headspaces (or inner worlds) as we understand them. This post will contain information that we’ve learned along with our personal experiences. No two headspaces work the same way, and no two systems will experience headspaces in a similar fashion, so don’t be alarmed if your system’s headspace functions differently from what we describe in this post!

What is a headspace?

A headspace (or inner world) is an imagined, fantasized place that exists within a person’s mind. Headspaces are not exclusive to systems - all sorts of people can build or create their own headspaces. Many created systems or paromancers may call their headspaces “wonderlands,” but they’re in essence the same thing. Any system member can start the process of visualizing a headspace, and as other members are included and collaborate together, their headspace can grow to involve the whole system and become a place of solace and rest.

The creation of mental “safe spaces” is often used in therapy for treatment of anxiety, PTSD, and other mental illnesses. When feeling overwhelmed, it can be immensely beneficial to have a gentle, peaceful place in your mind you can return to in order to calm down and relax. Headspaces are a skill taught in dialectical behavior therapy, and many therapists may incorporate building headspaces into their patients’ treatment plans.

Who can have a headspace?

Nearly everyone is capable of building and maintaining their own headspace! The one example we can think of for individuals who may struggle to create a headspace are folks with aphantasia. Since headspaces are visualization tools, those who are incapable of visualizing places within their mind might find themselves unable to create a headspace.

You don’t have to have DID in order to create a headspace, you don’t have to be a system, you don’t have to be traumatized or even struggle with mental illness! Headspaces are for everyone, regardless of ability or state of being.

Are headspaces the same as paracosms?

In our experience, if headspaces and paracosms are not the same, they are incredibly similar. Both are imagined worlds that exist within the minds of the people who create them. Our paracosm exists as a part of our headspace, and many other folks may find their paracosms are similarly connected to their headspaces!

Are headspaces physical places?

No, headspaces are imagined or fantasized places and only exist within the minds of those who create them. While experiences within the headspace may seem quite vivid or feel visceral and may even have physical consequences and effects on each individual, events that take place inside the headspace are not happening in a physical sense.

Some systems with particular spiritual beliefs may understand their headspaces as physical places which exist in alternate dimensions or somewhere else in the universe. While these individuals are deserving of having their experiences heard and taken seriously, most headspaces in fact do not function in this way.

How can I make my own headspace?

To start, try to find a calm, quiet environment where you can be by yourself for a while. Close your eyes, and try to imagine the first piece of your headspace. This can be an area like a beach or a meadow, or something simpler like a plant or a piece of furniture. As you imagine this space or item, ask yourself questions like:

- What does this place or object look like?

- What does it feel like? If I imagine myself touching the object, or the things in the place around me, what textures might I encounter?

- What does it smell like? What does it sound like? How does it make me feel?

Envision using all 5 of your senses to imagine this place or object. Once you have a pretty good idea of what it looks, feels, smells, and sounds like, spend a little time just sitting in your space or with your object. Then, take a break from visualizing. Later, come back to it and try to imagine everything exactly as you did before. By leaving and coming back to it regularly, you can help ensure your headspace can somewhat exist even when you’re not actively thinking about it!

If you need help finding inspiration for your headspace, you can turn to image sites like Pixabay, Unsplash, or Pinterest to help you discover what helps you feel calm and safe. If you have access to other members of your system, perhaps consult with them to see what they’d like to have in a headspace and what you could create that would help them feel safe and comfortable.

Once you are able to comfortably and reliably access the place or item you’ve created, feel free to repeat the process to add to your headspace! Our system created our headspace in this way, and by this point it is a vast world full of different areas for our alters to exist in when they’re not fronting. But it started with one room - a living room with quilts tossed over couches, rugs all over the floor, and big, bright windows with sunflower curtains. Gradually we added rooms, then an outside, turning it into a treehouse, and just kept expanding from there!

Wrapping up

We know this post doesn’t go into much detail, but we hope this is useful to folks as a bit of an introduction to headspaces, what they are, and how to go about making one! We’re including some links below to posts and articles about headspaces and inner worlds - hopefully they can help even more! Best of luck to y’all with your endeavors to create a headspace that fills you and your system with peace and comfort!

^ this link uses “tulpamancy” language - our system has switched to “paromancy” language, which is less racist and less culturally appropriative! the guides on tulpa websites are still quite useful, but we wanted to include a disclaimer on the terminology.

(Image ID:) A pale orange userbox with a cluster of multicolored flowers for the userbox image. The border and text are both dark orange, and the text reads “all plurals can interact with this post!” (End ID.)

[unetherian]

Ask me questions!

If you have any questions about alter/nonhumanity, feel free to ask me! I often see people hesitating to ask bloggers questions, and ultimately not doing so because they are afraid of disturbing them...

I want to tell you that you won't bother me at all! On the contrary, I love answering questions (and so do many bloggers)!

On the other paw, I am not very educated on the subject of physical alter/nonhumans and plural systems (I at least know the definitions and some other stuff), although I support them. I don't want to spread misinformation about these two great communities.

Anyway, I look forward to your questions :3

𖡼𖤣𖥧𖡼𓋼𖤣𖥧𓋼𓍊𖡼𖤣𖥧𖡼𓋼𖤣𖥧𓋼𓍊𖡼𖤣𖥧𖡼𓋼𖤣𖥧𓋼𓍊𖡼𖤣𖥧𖡼𓋼𖤣𖥧𓋼

[kaidee-koo]

Len/Yellow themed stim board! 💛🎵🎤

TW: mentions of mental health struggles

Recently, Ive been struggling with my mental health and havent had the motivation nor the energy to regress and cope or post anything on my blog. Im doing much better now and have been able to cope and focus on my own happiness:3

☁️🌤️☁️🌤️☁️🌤️☁️🌤️☁️🌤️☁️🌤️☁️🌤️☁️🌤️

I will be posting much more often ive been hyper fixated on many horror games so ill be making agere safe stim boards based on them! (These boards will not contain yucky stuff and will be based on specific characters)

Remember to say one good thing about yourself💛🌤️!