#inner safe space

[multiplicity-positivity]

All About Headspaces!

We thought it would be a good idea to write a post on headspaces (or inner worlds) as we understand them. This post will contain information that we’ve learned along with our personal experiences. No two headspaces work the same way, and no two systems will experience headspaces in a similar fashion, so don’t be alarmed if your system’s headspace functions differently from what we describe in this post!

What is a headspace?

A headspace (or inner world) is an imagined, fantasized place that exists within a person’s mind. Headspaces are not exclusive to systems - all sorts of people can build or create their own headspaces. Many created systems or paromancers may call their headspaces “wonderlands,” but they’re in essence the same thing. Any system member can start the process of visualizing a headspace, and as other members are included and collaborate together, their headspace can grow to involve the whole system and become a place of solace and rest.

The creation of mental “safe spaces” is often used in therapy for treatment of anxiety, PTSD, and other mental illnesses. When feeling overwhelmed, it can be immensely beneficial to have a gentle, peaceful place in your mind you can return to in order to calm down and relax. Headspaces are a skill taught in dialectical behavior therapy, and many therapists may incorporate building headspaces into their patients’ treatment plans.

Who can have a headspace?

Nearly everyone is capable of building and maintaining their own headspace! The one example we can think of for individuals who may struggle to create a headspace are folks with aphantasia. Since headspaces are visualization tools, those who are incapable of visualizing places within their mind might find themselves unable to create a headspace.

You don’t have to have DID in order to create a headspace, you don’t have to be a system, you don’t have to be traumatized or even struggle with mental illness! Headspaces are for everyone, regardless of ability or state of being.

Are headspaces the same as paracosms?

In our experience, if headspaces and paracosms are not the same, they are incredibly similar. Both are imagined worlds that exist within the minds of the people who create them. Our paracosm exists as a part of our headspace, and many other folks may find their paracosms are similarly connected to their headspaces!

Are headspaces physical places?

No, headspaces are imagined or fantasized places and only exist within the minds of those who create them. While experiences within the headspace may seem quite vivid or feel visceral and may even have physical consequences and effects on each individual, events that take place inside the headspace are not happening in a physical sense.

Some systems with particular spiritual beliefs may understand their headspaces as physical places which exist in alternate dimensions or somewhere else in the universe. While these individuals are deserving of having their experiences heard and taken seriously, most headspaces in fact do not function in this way.

How can I make my own headspace?

To start, try to find a calm, quiet environment where you can be by yourself for a while. Close your eyes, and try to imagine the first piece of your headspace. This can be an area like a beach or a meadow, or something simpler like a plant or a piece of furniture. As you imagine this space or item, ask yourself questions like:

- What does this place or object look like?

- What does it feel like? If I imagine myself touching the object, or the things in the place around me, what textures might I encounter?

- What does it smell like? What does it sound like? How does it make me feel?

Envision using all 5 of your senses to imagine this place or object. Once you have a pretty good idea of what it looks, feels, smells, and sounds like, spend a little time just sitting in your space or with your object. Then, take a break from visualizing. Later, come back to it and try to imagine everything exactly as you did before. By leaving and coming back to it regularly, you can help ensure your headspace can somewhat exist even when you’re not actively thinking about it!

If you need help finding inspiration for your headspace, you can turn to image sites like Pixabay, Unsplash, or Pinterest to help you discover what helps you feel calm and safe. If you have access to other members of your system, perhaps consult with them to see what they’d like to have in a headspace and what you could create that would help them feel safe and comfortable.

Once you are able to comfortably and reliably access the place or item you’ve created, feel free to repeat the process to add to your headspace! Our system created our headspace in this way, and by this point it is a vast world full of different areas for our alters to exist in when they’re not fronting. But it started with one room - a living room with quilts tossed over couches, rugs all over the floor, and big, bright windows with sunflower curtains. Gradually we added rooms, then an outside, turning it into a treehouse, and just kept expanding from there!

Wrapping up

We know this post doesn’t go into much detail, but we hope this is useful to folks as a bit of an introduction to headspaces, what they are, and how to go about making one! We’re including some links below to posts and articles about headspaces and inner worlds - hopefully they can help even more! Best of luck to y’all with your endeavors to create a headspace that fills you and your system with peace and comfort!

^ this link uses “tulpamancy” language - our system has switched to “paromancy” language, which is less racist and less culturally appropriative! the guides on tulpa websites are still quite useful, but we wanted to include a disclaimer on the terminology.

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[agere-guide]

How to regress (AGERE)?

🧸 1. Create a Safe Space

Find a private, quiet, and comfortable place.

Use soft lighting, cozy blankets, and items that feel safe.

If you have a caregiver (CG), let them know you're regressing. (If possible! some littles may be nonverbal <3)

🎨 2. Gather Comfort Items (Optional but Helpful)

Stuffies/plushies

Blankets or pacifiers

Sippy cups or bottles

Snacks (like applesauce, juice boxes, goldfish crackers)

Toys, coloring books, or sensory items

🎧 3. Choose Comforting Activities

Watch cartoons or kids’ movies

Color or play with toys

Listen to lullabies or soft music

Nap or cuddle with a stuffed animal

Use kids' apps or games

Talk in a childlike voice if it helps

🫧 4. Let Go of Adult Worries

Try to mentally "put away" responsibilities

Use affirmations like: "I am safe." "I don’t have to worry right now." "It’s okay to be small."

🛑 5. Set Limits

Set a timer if you have things to do later

Avoid regressing in unsafe or inappropriate environments

Practice self-care after regressing — drink water, reflect gently, and ease back into your usual mindset

Optional: Journaling or Memory Triggers

Some find it helpful to keep a regression journal or make a playlist of comforting songs, shows, or smells that help trigger the regressed mindset.

⚠️ Important Notes

Please keep an eye on yourself; keep safe when regressing.

Remind yourself: “It’s okay to need comfort.” There’s no shame in wanting to feel little or cared for.

You don’t have to “act like a child” — regression is about your internal experience, not outward behavior.

Everyone's regression looks different; there is no wrong or right way to regress.

[the-canid-crew]

Mindscape - The Firelight Woods

A deciduous wood that changes distinctly in each season. From pastels in spring with vibrant flowers, to a deep green in summer, to shades of yellows, oranges, reds and browns in fall, finally to dark tree trunks contrasted in frosty white snow. All throughout the year, fireflies can be seen dancing and weaving through the trees at night fall, creating a beautiful display.

This is the clearing where Theodore and I sit and watch said fireflies.

[crayola-critter]

child safe crafts, have fun everyone!! 🍀

[lilsag3]

i love cups

[cottoncandyhearts05]

𝑰 𝒍𝒐𝒗𝒆 𝑺𝒍𝒆𝒆𝒑𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝑩𝒆𝒂𝒖𝒕𝒚, 𝒃𝒐𝒕𝒉 𝒓𝒆𝒈𝒓𝒆𝒔𝒔𝒆𝒅 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒏𝒐𝒕, 𝒔𝒉𝒆'𝒔 𝒐𝒏𝒆 𝒐𝒇 𝒎𝒚 𝒇𝒂𝒗𝒐𝒖𝒓𝒊𝒕𝒆 𝑫𝒊𝒔𝒏𝒆𝒚 𝑷𝒓𝒊𝒏𝒄𝒆𝒔𝒔𝒆𝒔.

[recoveringprincess]

Nostalgia will be the death of me.

I want it to be 2013.

I don’t want to pretend I’m still a child.

I want to be a child.

I want to be a child with a loving family.

I want to be a child that’s genuinely happy.

I want to be a child that knows nothing about death.

I want it to be 2013 again but under different circumstances.

I want everything to be exactly as it was in 2013 except how I was treated by those who claimed to love me most.

I want the excitement on Christmas.

I want the excitement on my birthday.

I want my biggest worry to be what to wear on the first day of first grade, or what toys to take to the park.

I want everything surrounding me to be the same. The same toys, stores that have been redone since then haven’t been, my room never changed.

I want it to be 2013. I want to be 6/7.

Regression is a great coping mechanism. But there will never be a point where I wouldn’t prefer to actually relive my childhood as it happened, except with a happier home life. (And preferably without all the years of bullying but mainly the family thing).

[roboveeexe]

Bingo toast !! 🧡

today brekkie: Bingo Toast !! 🧡🍞🥜

10/10 supah yumms !!! 💕

[shhtickerbook]

goin down the slide!!!!

[cg-you-you]

naturecore mama wolf cg? preferably with an extra itty bitty boyreg pup :] or just the cg part is ok. thanks friend!!

Naturecore Mama Wolf caregiver theme!!!

🌲Nicknames for your little

little pup puppy Sprout Acorn buttonnose fawnling little baby sweetheart sweetpea mossy lovebug little bug snugglepup

🌲Games to play with your little

Use blankets, pillows, and fairy lights to make a "den" just like a wolf pack would Nature Scavenger Hunt; Find things like pinecones, feathers, green leaves, smooth rocks, etc. You’re the Mama Wolf, and your little is a baby animal in the forest learning how to howl, walk, hunt (play pretend), or cuddle. Read forest/fairy tales (like The Gruffalo or Winnie the Pooh) under a soft light or in your den. Use leaves, flowers, and glitter to make "magical potions" in jars (just for fun!). Do simple stretches with your little and howl together like a wolf pack howling to the moon!

🌲Clothing ideas for you!

Long flowy skirts or soft joggers Oversized knitted cardigans in forest tones Flannel Wolf or forest creature themed jewelry (bone necklace, moon earrings) Barefoot or cozy socks inside, sturdy boots outside A shawl or cloak-style hoodie for that mystical mama feel Braided hair, messy bun, or wild curls — natural is perfect!

🌲snacks and drinks for you!

Trail mix Honey oat granola bars Slices apples for you, and soft applesauce for you itty! Cheese and rustic crackers Warm banana bread with nuts Pumpkin seeds Herbal tea Warm spiced cider Wildflower lemonade Mushroom hot cocoa

[bealittlesblog]

《VENT》

Some people on here are genuinely weird when it comes to this cg stuff, back when I was on ageretwt people wanted littles like it was pokemon go or sum shit "gotta catch em all!" As they say 🙄

then I hear some stories on here where instead of communicating with your little one that you're not interested anymore, it's an automatic block or deactivated account?? Recently went through that today all because I said friendship first! and didnt want to rush into dynamics, do people not believe in trust building anymore? I take things like this serious esp when it comes to my inner child that I'm trying to heal..please do not waste my time in the dms. 😑

♡ Mooties ♡ - @stardewkiddo @sodaslittleplace @sweetsugarpuff @applecider03 @furyyroads @sunni-flutters @sparkle-song-kid @tearyeyedsealpup @punzie-nini @l1lprincessti @livvylittle @sleepybby00 @rosiestunicorn @pyjamadbananas @babygeekgoth @mx-owls-crew else!!!

[crayola-critter]

[recoveringprincess]

Incase anyone is interested I’ve been setting up some playlists on YouTube of kids movies/shows I’ve come across.

Random movies

Christmas movies

Halloween movies

[cryslittlelibrey]

🫧bathtimes⭐

i swear bathtimes are so truly magical.

it's the bubbles i think- the sparkling, dazzling bubbles catching spiraling, shining rays of the nights setting sun. it almost seems to encapsulate it, trap it amongst the millions of universes popping around you as if whispering stories, giggling them through each popped sphere so innocently.

if not for the bubbles perchance its the water. isn't it mesmerizing how beautifully clear it is? rolling and sliding over your tiny feet, clinging to each strand of hair running drips down your little nose. could it be for the water and its giddy glow?

if not for the bubbles, if not for the water, could it be for the sound, the smell? it's hard to describe but something about it is just so simply warm, steam tickling your face and wrapping around your shoulders goosebumps were chased away off; the warmth, the smell, the soapy scent and its waterlogged touch so wonderfully pure and sweet.

i wonder if it is not just one of thies, but all of them. is the sound not magical? their giggles and whispers telling you tales spun only for your ears. is the smell not perfect? so gentle and soft filling your head with the clouds sleep would settle upon. is the water not wonderful? in all of its glistening, splashing glory wrapping the room in its echoing droplets and rippling?

yes, bathtime is truly magical, for all the parts we hold so dearly.

sweet dreams little one, get some well deserved rest <33

-cry⭐

[roboveeexe]

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tinies scrolling through agere tiktok & come across a slideshow !! they choose their cute lil fits & pacis together to spend a day in the aquarium ! 🫧

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𐙚~ based on real events w Mimi ~𐙚

[purestpup]

i wuv mi paci an mi dino an mi blankie an my juiceys an mi cartoons!!!!