#romance favorable aroace

[ace-sher-bi-john]

Just wanted to reaffirm to myself and the world that romance-favorable aros are valid. Greyromantics, demiromantics and any other aro-spec identities that experience occasional romantic attraction are valid. Aromantics who for whatever reason still desire and take part in romantic relationships are valid.

It's been a bit of a rough ride to get to where I know this to be true. When I first found out I was aroace, I felt broken for identifying as aroace and still wanting to get married someday. It felt like I was lying in some way, or that I was betraying the aromantic community by wanting what by definition of being aromantic, I should never want. I felt guilty knowing my future partners would feel things towards me that I would never be able to feel in return.

I know that most of the aromantic affirmations are themed around wanting to make sure that aromantics in general know they are valid in an amatonormative world. Most aromantics experience the exact opposite problem as me, not feeling valid in having zero desire for romantic relationships (which is of course valid, romance-indifferent, romance-averse and romance-repulsed aros are very much valid). But there is next to nothing on the internet that I've been able to find saying that it's okay to be aromantic and romance favorable. You're not betraying the community in some way. You're valid too.

So here's that post. If you are romance-favorable and aro-spec, you're valid too. Don't feel as though your identity forces you into a box. The label that fits you best isn't tailor made specifically for you and you can do whatever you want to make it your own.

[bewitched-bullet]

And done!

If you’d like to see more, check out my Patreon and my johnlock fic To Pull on the Spider’s Silk

[bolszaja-miedwedica]

welcome to my own wheel of shitshow

[asphyxiatedredherring]

Hey, just so you know, it's ok for your feelings to fluctuate. It's ok to be sex or romance repulsed one day and not the next. It's ok to be indifferent one day and favorable the next. It's ok it you think you're sex repulsed and then realize maybe you're sex adverse. It's ok to be romance indifferent one moment and adverse the next. It's ok. Your experiences are valid.

[cosmicredcadet]

I need you guys to realize that "Favorable Aspecs tend to get ostracized from parts of the aspec community because of their favorability towards romance and sex making people claim that they are not really aspec." and "Repulsed Aspecs tend to get ostracised from parts of the aspec community because they are often conflated with being romance/sex negative and tend to get thrown under the bus when fighting against aphobic talking points" can COEXIST. one does NOT cancel out the other. both Favorable and Repulsed aspecs have their own troubles in and out of the community.

saying "nooo Favorable people can't be hurting repulsed people because it's actually repulsed people hurting favorable people" is just very black and white thinking and pretty naive. We can talk about how some Repulsed people attack favorable people and how some Favorable people attack repulsed people. like it's allowed for them both to be talked about. one existing doesn't mean the other magically doesn't exist. situations are more complex than there being one good side and one bad side. it's usually a mix of good and bad people on both sides and we need to understand that if we want any progress to be made. if we ignore one sides pain then we fix nothing.

[michi-mystuff]

“I want to go on a date” and “I don’t want to date anyone” are two statements that can coexist

[trans-pussy-rights]

[yardsards]

(anyone who identifies themself as aromantic is allowed to answer this, regardless of sexual orientation or where exactly on the arospec you fall)

[lgbtqtext]

[popcornoncemore]

Say it with me Hazbin fandom:

Ace👏doesn't👏necessarily👏mean👏sex👏repulsed👏

Aro👏doesn't👏necessarily👏mean👏 romance👏repulsed👏

It's a spectrum and we need to include all versions of aroace identity, not just the kinds we're most familiar with

[rome-theeempire]

How can aromatics enjoy romance without having romantic attraction?

The same way you can enjoy a song without even relating to it. You may not connect with the song the way the intended audience does but you still listen to the song because you've made your own personal connection. And that's good enough.

For my swaggy Aros

beliebe in yourself🫶🏽

[rotten-queer]

Labels are like silly putty and I can do whatever I want with them

[bewitched-bullet]

In an AU where John was never injured and was actively working out, for sure!

And since my fan asked for it, ye shall receive!!

But for realz, y’all. To carry a 6ft+ tall man WITH a recent shoulder injury when you’re only 5’7”……this is what it would look like before getting dropped on your sorry butt lolololol (speaking from experience 😅)

And if anyone is interested, you can read my Ao3 fic: To Pull on the Spider’s Silk!

[aro-bird]

Liking or disliking sex and/or romance should never be the litmus test that determines someone's intellect, morality, and value. Liking or disliking sex and/or romance is simply a neutral thing and should not determine what your worth is as a person.

You are allowed to like or dislike sex and/or romance as long as you don't shame others who hold a different opinion and as long as you're not forcing these things on people who had not given you consent.

The ability to pursue any romantic and/or sexual activity and relationship is inseparable to the ability to create boundaries for your own safety and vice versa.

Your actions should not trample on the rights of others and that includes forcing romantic and sexual acts on someone as well as forcing romantic and sex negative resistance against another person.

[strangerlsdanger]

To the Aro-spec community

The first/top "Aro only (spec) and Romance-Repulsed" button is meant to say "Romance-Favourable" and or go to this poll

Romance-favorable: Interested romantic relations and or romantic interactions whether experiencing romantic attraction or not.

Romance-indifferent: Neutral feelings, neither repulsed nor in favor of romantic relations and or romantic interactions.

Romance-repulsed: Disliking to feeling repulsion towards romantic relations and or romantic interactions whether experiencing romantic attraction or not.

I may make more polls for ace-specs sex stances and aroace-specs romance and sex stances.

[cosmicredcadet]

I think more people should headcanon characters as repulsed, loveless, and non-partnering actually.