#radically accepting

[bug-queer]

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[kittiegun]

i felt so much more happy with my body and my sexuality and my gender and my names and pronouns when i stopped caring about the judgement of conservative queer people.

it made me feel happy. it made me feel euphoric without having to be seen as a woman or nonbinary just to be lesbian. it made me feel happy that my masculinity was seen as something to be cherished and proud of instead of something to feel like i had to change or get rid of.

to be myself makes me feel alive. and if you feel like you have to stay in the closet, remember that you deserve to express yourself however you feel comfortable too. you matter. your identity as a queer person matters.

[insidemydiaries]

I cannot call insurance one more fuckin time about medication coverage.

I give up and am accepting that troubles with breathing and congestion are my life now ☠️

[wombywoo]

winter ❄️⛄

[thebibliosphere]

Ma'am/Sir/Other

So much of your blog is "Yaya another thing in my body broke (kill me)"

I'm not judging at all, cause I'm also dealing with that somewhat but,

In the most polite manner possible;

How the fuck do you manage to function without killing everyone around you in a bodily pain induced rage.

Body hurts too much.

But in all seriousness, therapy and a whole lot of radical acceptance.

I don't approve or like what’s happening to me, but realistically, there is no way to avoid it, so I either have to accept it and make changes to my life or reject it and increase my suffering.

It might take me a while to process this change and there might be a few screaming breakdowns in the interim (”it's not fair, it's not fair, it's not fair!”) but after a long time of doing this type of therapy, I’ve gotten good at holding my own hand and holding myself through the despair.

It’s a bit like being my own gentle parent. Like “hey bud, I know this sucks and you’re feeling a lot of big emotions right now. And I’m not asking you to stop feeling them, but I do need you to eat and drink before you get sick, okay? Okay, you’ve had some water, do you want to try for a shower? No? Okay, let’s go back to bed for a bit. We’ll try later... Cry it out if you need to. I’ve got you.”

Probably sounds bonkers to some people but it's the only reason I’m still alive.

My support network is wonderful and they do so much to keep me going, but it wasn't until I allowed myself to feel my emotions and self soothe through them that things got better.

I can’t change what has been done to me. I can’t change the dynamic nature of my disabilities or the fact that parts of my body will continue to break down. But I can accept myself and say, this is the way things are: react accordingly for our continued survival.

Radical acceptance isn’t about approval or giving up. It's a stress tolerance skill that lets you look at some of the worst parts of your life and go “fuck this sucks. Okay, how do I make this suck less?” and then following through on it.

It's a skill that takes a long time to build. But it's well worth investing in.

[marsivian]

I don't think we've talked enough about how we don't see any TIFs fighting for space in exclusive male-only spaces, sports, toilets, bars, gay men dating apps, or forcing them not to use terms that describe their bodies, let alone trying to stand up and fight with them, and we also don't see them fervently calling men slurs, swearing at gays for not wanting them, much less do we see them killing men or disrespecting them, but let's pretend we don't know what this whole thing is and who benefits from it

[softpink-candlelight]

I think Hades has gone to therapy

[guiltyidealist]

Latest hobby: radical self-acceptance codependency affirmations

I like to use over-the-top edgy imagery to invoke the ~emo~ sentiments we associate with edge, juxtaposing the aggressively self-loving text. accentuates the punk nature of radical acceptance

[decolonize-the-everything]

ahbeeolah

Posting this vid cuz I've noticed the behavior mentioned is rampant on Tumblr which prides itself as being full of progressives, allies, and being diverse. And Tumblr, especially white tumblr has a massive problem with tokenizing and censoring Black women and especially politically vocal Black women who refuse to be tone policed or quiet.

[bacchuschucklefuck]

2/3 of da way thru lots goin on with this guy also

[thepeacefulgarden]

[bleedingpomegranate]

i never loved me, baby, but you do

wintersong, s. jae-jones / orestes, euripides / bloodsport, yves olade / antigone, sophocles / mess is mine, vance joy / x / forever winter, taylor swift / x / x / x / aaron o'hanlon / the best day, taylor swift / the seven husbands of evelyn hugo, taylor jenkins reid / cat on a hot tin roof, tennessee williams / the song of achilles, madeline miller / dancing with our hands tied, taylor swift / h of h playbook, anne carson / mouthful of forevers, clementine von radics / caption: radiate, harbour

[agardenintheshire]

tolkien (a studied linguist) and me (has taken their fair share of linguistic classes) staring at each other after the narrator casually drops that the hobbits just 'forgot' their languages and simply adopted the common speech as if that is a normal thing that happens out of the blue and isn't connected to at best cultural assimilation and at worst colonialism, imperialism, and oppression

[sandflakedraws]

some contextless flickory & one hickory drawing that my partner said looked like he was posing for a perfume ad

[ariadne-mouse]

Yeza accepting Veth - Nott - for what she looks like as a goblin, even after the illusion is dropped, not letting her turn away from him, and there is not a dry eye in the goddamn house (either at the table or in my actual house where I am also tearing up). Goddamn Matthew Mercer you know how to make choices with your NPCs

"It's still you though, right?" "Yeah." "Then that's all that matters."

[aborderlineblog]

Today I accepted something small that was upsetting me and I could not change. I accepted it several times and noticed my irritation decrease each time I did it.

I said to myself, “I understand I cannot change this, I accept the fact that this is the way it is. I allow myself to have this feeling of irritation.”

I feel better now and I’m glad I did this exercise.