#radically accepting

[snffgndr]

new pfp does not match the profile theme but. i fucks with it

[that-rq-menace]

Okay, something is really bothering me lately.

I've been seeing posts about acceptance and against executionism and discrimination and have exclusionists dni in their tags, yet if you read the rest of the tags and their DNI, they themselves are exclusionary.

Not just towards transIDs, RQs, and paraphiles but to pro shippers, endos, xenogenders, neopronouns, and other "unusual" or "nasty" IDs.

I can't believe I have to spell this out but

You cannot be against discrimination if you discriminate!

Just because you fight one type of discrimination doesn't mean you do not discriminate on other types!

You cannot call yourself a human rights activist and ignore the rights of children, teens, disabled people, elderly people, and those who cannot fight for themselves! You cannot call yourself a trans advocate and ignore transIDs! You cannot call yourself a sexuality minority advocate and ignore paras! You cannot call yourself an activist if you ignore RQs needs for activism! You cannot call yourself an activist if you do not advocate for ALL people to have equal rights!

I will die on the hill that even criminals should have equal rights! Doing something stupid should not cause you to completely lose everything! No one is beyond redemption and it is significantly more likely someone will be a repeat offender if their rights are taken away!

Why do I have to say these things? They should be common sense!

It should be common sense that fans of a certain media are not a monolith and putting them in your DNI is ridiculous. If you don't want to talk about certain media, just say that! Say "blogs that post about X dni" instead of "fans of X dni".

I could continue. If you want more on the topic, let me know!

[gamora-borealis]

need a spray bottle or something for every time dan says "i'm so sorry" to a phannie who tells him that his content has been significant in their life. like bitch cringe is dead and you made our lives better, just say thank you!!!

[aalexan]

women have been conditioned to believe our oppression is “over”. I have had friends tell me they had “forgot” that misogyny even still existed. misogyny is there, every single day in society. our society has been built upon the very foundations of misogyny, of hate and oppression of women. don’t let anyone tell you that women and men are equal now and there’s nothing to be fighting against. we are still fighting.

[sickofthis666]

How did periods even ended up as a joke? I know, I know it's MenTM and women always being the butt of the joke but indulge me.

I mean, rationally, even if all women were cranky on their periods, wouldn’t they have a very good reason to be? Why would you mock someone who's bleeding and in pain? In what other scenario would you ever mock someone bleeding and in pain? I can imagine mocking someone for a minor nosebleed, but even then, the reaction is usually concern.

It's one of those senseless things everyone accepts that makes me feel crazy, like body hair being dirty on women but not on men.

[jayrockin]

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sigh...

[wombywoo]

winter ❄️⛄

[ulteri0rm0tives]

Thinking about how Johnny and V have seen every and all sides of each other in such an unfathomable and impossible way unknown yet to humans.

Every side of them. The good and the bad, the ugly and the pretty, the fair and the unjust, the black and white and all shades of grey in between. And how all they can do is accept each other as they come and as they are in spite of, they literally have no choice to. And they still grow to care for each other despite that.

How Johnny wants to save V and how V would die for Johnny. How Johnny would die if it meant he could save V and how V would die if it meant Johnny could live. How Johnny, the Selfish Bastard of the Century, would give his life up for V and how V would give theirs up for Johnny.

Their souls are literally intrinsically tied, bonded for life, even after they split. There will always be a part of them they carry in each other. Whether that's V's face for Johnny when the body is given up for him, or the damage Johnny's engram had already caused in V.

There's always going to be a little of one leftover in the other. I'm not sure I believe in soulmates, but it is undeniable that these two have become the first proven and scientifically backed instance of them. (To me.)

[boybeater7]

friendly reminder that you’re not “supposed to be” bald anywhere. you’re a mammal, babe. the hair is there naturally for protection and thermoregulation. there’s absolutely nothing shameful about it, in any sort of sense. your biological reality is morally neutral.

[thebibliosphere]

Ma'am/Sir/Other

So much of your blog is "Yaya another thing in my body broke (kill me)"

I'm not judging at all, cause I'm also dealing with that somewhat but,

In the most polite manner possible;

How the fuck do you manage to function without killing everyone around you in a bodily pain induced rage.

Body hurts too much.

But in all seriousness, therapy and a whole lot of radical acceptance.

I don't approve or like what’s happening to me, but realistically, there is no way to avoid it, so I either have to accept it and make changes to my life or reject it and increase my suffering.

It might take me a while to process this change and there might be a few screaming breakdowns in the interim (”it's not fair, it's not fair, it's not fair!”) but after a long time of doing this type of therapy, I’ve gotten good at holding my own hand and holding myself through the despair.

It’s a bit like being my own gentle parent. Like “hey bud, I know this sucks and you’re feeling a lot of big emotions right now. And I’m not asking you to stop feeling them, but I do need you to eat and drink before you get sick, okay? Okay, you’ve had some water, do you want to try for a shower? No? Okay, let’s go back to bed for a bit. We’ll try later... Cry it out if you need to. I’ve got you.”

Probably sounds bonkers to some people but it's the only reason I’m still alive.

My support network is wonderful and they do so much to keep me going, but it wasn't until I allowed myself to feel my emotions and self soothe through them that things got better.

I can’t change what has been done to me. I can’t change the dynamic nature of my disabilities or the fact that parts of my body will continue to break down. But I can accept myself and say, this is the way things are: react accordingly for our continued survival.

Radical acceptance isn’t about approval or giving up. It's a stress tolerance skill that lets you look at some of the worst parts of your life and go “fuck this sucks. Okay, how do I make this suck less?” and then following through on it.

It's a skill that takes a long time to build. But it's well worth investing in.

[snffgndr]

i can’t wait to make a shrine for my new god yall

[guiltyidealist]

Latest hobby: radical self-acceptance codependency affirmations

I like to use over-the-top edgy imagery to invoke the ~emo~ sentiments we associate with edge, juxtaposing the aggressively self-loving text. accentuates the punk nature of radical acceptance

[lucy-stone]

something that was not meant to be is done, and this is the start of what was.

(lineart and close-up under the cut)

[thepeacefulgarden]

[lostwords-found]

"You do what you have to do. I'll enjoy the starlight," says a man who cannot see the starlight to the angry god about to torture him. I'm. augh. ow.

[softpink-candlelight]

I think Hades has gone to therapy