#post supportively abt trans people

[tchaikovsgay]

this might be a controversial opinion but i think we unnecessarily platform terfs way too much. people cant even make a fun harmless trans post without people jumping on to be like "yeah, fuck terfs!" and its like. severely not about that at all

tumblr terfs love attention. they feed off of it, ESPECIALLY negative attention which is what some of yall are constantly giving them. if you dont want them interacting with your blog or w/e, thats fine, of course you dont! but everyone quietly blocking them while focusing on trans positivity would be way more beneficial than making the focus entirely about giving them the attention that theyre frothing at the mouth for

and frankly the focus on terfs takes away from conversations about casual transphobia that exists outside of just radical feminism. not everyone hides their transphobia under the guise of being a super feminist, and saying "fuck terfs" makes people feel like theyre above ever perpetuating transphobia, which is DEFINITELY not true

[freakqueer]

anyone else annoyed by how this site is redoing the "women cant hurt anyone or be predators!!!" thing

[itsalwaysdark]

i might possibly be oversensitive to this sort of thing but anything where someone is like. Ooh im going to KISS this identity or whatever while arguing with ppl of that identity is so gross to me

[inclined--plane]

it's real interesting to me when self-proclaimed trans allies, or even other queer people, automatically and subconsciously refer to trans men and trans women as "they" in contexts where they don't to cis people

[llycaons]

I don't actually have a strong sense of the aro/ace inclusionist tumblr cultural climate rn except like 'guyyys we were so mean to them :( let's let them in now come on' or like....really agressive and condescending posts asserting their validity and ~obvious~ inclusion in the lgbt community without any genuine followthrough or explanation

[moodr1ng]

im well aware that its profoundly cringe to admit to this publicly, alright, but sometimes i just stop to think and realize.. literally my entire life would be radically different if i hadnt been into homestuck when i was 14. like, i would not have had some of the fundamentally important relationships that shaped the way my teen years and young adulthood went. and due to this i would not be living in this home. i would not have the same friends today. i would have been in very different social circles and mightve evolved very differently as a person. i literally might not be alive - i have had my life quite literally saved by friends who i met or bonded with through being into this shitty comic, and by literally i mean was physically prevented from dying last minute. like thats crazy?? and all over homestuck????

[rockandrolldisgrace]

a little vent

[teenagefeeling]

"you don't have to get it" is a good first step but i do wish we could ask people to like, try to get it because maybe it's not actually as hard to understand as they think it is

[gibbearish]

remember kids dont sub to r/mypartneristrans

[queer-spectre]

I'm 5 days Post-op from top surgery an my main takeaway is that maybe recovery is about the power of friendship, actually.

[unproduciblesmackdown]

saw ppl talking on twitter About It rather than directly what they were talking about when in recent months they were testifying to a Casual R Word Usage increase & i never saw it on twitter b/c yknow for as relatively few ppl as i Ever followed that activity has decreased a lot lately & i don't think i ever followed accounts where it would apply anyway & very rarely look at even Trends or anything else sitewide. but i feel like i'm seeing a bit of it on here more recently at least in recommended posts that are clearly just drawing from very general Humorous Posts genre like yeah that's just uh y2k style rword usage

[askewhammer]

whyyyyy the hell is it always on tumblr that when I see like a good post that aligns with my views and is like super coherrent I always go "hmm I like this take lets see if they go in depth about this on their blog" n then i go and then my eyes widen in shock and my jaw drops as I realize that their worldview is NOT as coherent as that take.

[binders-and-beanies]

Also as much as I appreciate people who identify as queer and can be normal about people not wanting to be called that. I also feel like there is a fundamental difference in worldview that cannot be explained or truly understood. Like it’s not just about one word, it’s an entirely different way of thinking about gender and sexuality and oppression.

Like sure you can respect my wishes regarding the word itself (after being reminded many times in enough different ways). But my problem is with the way you perceive me that led you to initially think of me as queer. That takes a lot more deeply layered unlearning than a simple change in vocabulary.

And it’s clear in the way that queer people talk about *why* they think I don’t like that word, that they don’t understand where I’m actually coming from. I can explain over and over in a million words what Not Queer means to me and why it’s important, and they’ll reflect back almost exactly the opposite.

Because we’re thinking from entirely different viewpoints and life experiences. Thus me not identifying w queerness in the first place. Bc we are so fundamentally not the same

[milkolya]

i am so deeply sad :) and it just wont go away

[alyimoss]

!!!!!!!!!!!

Biggest psych nerd pet peeve is when people use mental discorders inaccurately. For example people saying a character has DID without looking into it (ie. the only trauma they’d ever experienced was an adult, which is not grounds for being diagnosed with DID) instead of any of the other dissociative disorders that very well could fit this character. I mean what

[soullesscoyote]

Every now and again I am haunted by the fact I found the facebook of my 1st/2nd grade best friend. He moved away and I only found out when he didn't come back for another school year. We really loved Pokemon and when i checked his account despite everything we followed a similar path of interests. We probably could've stayed best friend had he not moved.

I wanna reach out but I also hesitate bc I dont wanna get overwhelmed with messages and ghost someone the moment i try to talk to them.